Cutting off or going no contact with a toxic friend | The Narcissists' Code Ep 643

One of the toughest things to do is to cut off a toxic friend. Narcissistic friends do exist and can ruin people's lives and reputations.
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  • @avatarzang2674
    @avatarzang2674 Жыл бұрын

    Normalize ghosting them by saying nothing at all to them and slowly phase them out. Sometimes you don’t even owe them any words

  • @chihirokomiya255

    @chihirokomiya255

    8 ай бұрын

    100%

  • @Andy1119

    @Andy1119

    6 ай бұрын

    nah tell them what you think of them and how they'll never amount to anything.

  • @sarahcomps7553

    @sarahcomps7553

    6 ай бұрын

    this one

  • @binna_xo

    @binna_xo

    4 ай бұрын

    this!!

  • @sapphira5323
    @sapphira5323 Жыл бұрын

    Yes narc friends need to be spoken about more because for 30 years I ignored the red flags because she had her good friend moments..it started to get out of hand when she'd ditch me at parties if I got any attention. She couldn't hide how jealous and competitive she was once I finally realized what I was dealing with

  • @sapphira5323

    @sapphira5323

    9 ай бұрын

    @@silentmoon123 we always had an on/off friendship, was always toxic, but she'd start love bombing me back in..I finally set boundaries and never take her calls, just boring texts.(always busy)Not giving any info, emotion or supply. They get bored and move on when you are indifferent towards them. Not worth letting them know what they've done, they'll just deny and gaslight to pull you back in. I haven't blocked but this way has worked with her

  • @sooticablue1664

    @sooticablue1664

    5 ай бұрын

    @@silentmoon123 I’m in the same boat. The repercussions of trying to get away from this friend because of the tests prior where west are ex everything ‘they gathered information’ it’s terrifying. I don’t know how to get away safely and I don’t hate anyone but I can hardly look at them anymore and I just want to get away without it costing me my job, my relationship, my life… because it’ll never end! Good luck X

  • @robertgarrawaychosen144k

    @robertgarrawaychosen144k

    4 ай бұрын

    Same with me smh

  • @graceb3934
    @graceb3934 Жыл бұрын

    Narcissistic friendships can be just as, if not more, damaging than romantic or familial narc relationships. It is often harder to spot as you don't have as much one-on-one time as with a partner, but the dynamic is exactly the same (love-bombing, gaslighting, devaluation, disparaging you behind your back etc etc etc). It may be a slower burn, but their end-goal is the same. Watch out for the signs of narc abuse in EVERY relationship!

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    💯💯💯

  • @seancasey6793
    @seancasey67938 ай бұрын

    Energy vampires! Set boundaries, say no, and tell the truth. This is like you having your crucifix, garlic, and holy water to protect yourself.

  • @chihirokomiya255
    @chihirokomiya2558 ай бұрын

    Ghosting is tbh sometimes the only solution. At some point you don’t owe them anything. In fact they owe you so much. I just dealt with this. I had a friendship for 4 years. Built on trust I thought. Then they started becoming rude, selfish and shallow. Getting angry if I wasn’t always on their side even if they were in the wrong. But tbh I don’t believe in sides. But anyways. It got to the point where you could tell them when they did something bad and not okay, and they would gaslight and make you feel bad. Not just me but mutual friends as well. They only wanted to speak to me if they needed something, and when i needed some support, they would just be like “oh ok that sucks”. And meanwhile they would scroll through Tiktok. So not only would they not be helpful, but not even be active in conversations. Tbh I was always there for them, and they took my kindness for granted. What’s worse is I found out so many lies they made up. About being poor when they have the money to travel to another country just to party, about situations where they did someone wrong and my trust for them believed them, the list goes on, but I’m so drained from that friendship that I don’t care anymore. Something I won’t make the mistake of doing again is letting people use me as a therapist and ignore red flags. Sometimes you gotta put your foot down and just ghost em. Why ghost? Because then there’s no more stress about it. When I tell you the peace I got after ghosting them, the sigh of relief. I was way too deep into that toxic friendship. Anyways I want y’all to use this as an example of what to watch out for. Walking away is the best thing you can do when it comes to a narcissist and lier. But in the end, do what’s good for you, even if it’s hard. It’s not like i randomly thought “oh I’ll ghost them.” I dealt with these emotions for a long time. And tbh looking back at the vast amount of bs, I should I have walked away sooner. But my big dumb heart thought they could change. Just know. You can’t change someone, they have to decide to change for themself. ❤️

  • @candicerichardson4697

    @candicerichardson4697

    6 ай бұрын

    Waw your story is my story just ghost and blocked my friend too ,j was so tired of her drama and showing off ,she said she had no money but miss thing was traveling and buying clothes all the time, im relieved she's gone ,should have done it sooner ❤ take care

  • @heartandmindovercome3214

    @heartandmindovercome3214

    3 ай бұрын

    Dude, same exact thing for me holy crap! They keep texting though. How long does it take the to stop with the emotional baiting and attempted guilt trips?

  • @paulad.4578
    @paulad.4578 Жыл бұрын

    Having been in a one-up/one-down relationship with a former friend and roommate, where I was the one-down, I learned that life is WAY too short for these types of relationships.

  • @GreeneChakra

    @GreeneChakra

    Жыл бұрын

    Im putting this on my Bedroom Wall!

  • @antoniapana7131
    @antoniapana7131 Жыл бұрын

    So accurate, it's scary. Over the last 25 years, 5 of my closest friends turned out to be narcissists. I am a truly damaged empathic person 😆🤪, but I am so over this nonsense today. It's all over for good. It's true that narcissist friends are the best friends - you vibe together, travel well together, share good time and similar interests, they are cool and not boring, but...in the end you will see it was all about the competition in their head. The moment they feel they are not the winners, you have to lose. The rage and invalidation will start immediately. Run for the hills and don't come back! You will find out soon they lied to you about everything! Even where they went on vacation and how much that item costs, just so they feel superior to you. The good friendship was all in your head and from their side was use and abuse situation (money, reputation, loneliness, boredom, shared interests, same uni or job). Narcissistic friends tend to eliminate other narcissistic competitors for supply, so bringing them together will show their true colors. If you are an empath, keep your friends separately and also your family and partner/spouse away from friends. The chance to have narcissists in your life is so high. Mostly the covert ones are not easy to detect. Sometimes it takes more than 10 years the rage to blow up. They keep tabs on you even when you cut them off. 🙄

  • @dm-jf5uu

    @dm-jf5uu

    Жыл бұрын

    This is what happened to me as well.

  • @racebannon96

    @racebannon96

    6 ай бұрын

    Impressive

  • @aqualove2054
    @aqualove2054 Жыл бұрын

    My neighbor seem to want to be friends, but she breaks my boundaries, like coming in my backyard without my permission and she whispers negative things about other neighbors. She gives me bad vibes, I believe she is a nac. Where are the good people?

  • @GreeneChakra

    @GreeneChakra

    Жыл бұрын

    The Good People are on Lees Page learning how to stay away from Narcs ❤- Im a Good Person!

  • @GreeneChakra

    @GreeneChakra

    Жыл бұрын

    @Patient Growth “Agreed”

  • @hannahsinnerhealingforum6395

    @hannahsinnerhealingforum6395

    7 ай бұрын

    I experienced such a neighbour no boundaries etc i had to CUT them off!

  • @kathleensmith8365
    @kathleensmith8365 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks to people like Lee, the word is out. Narcissists will no longer be able to hide. Get help or get lost. There was none of this when I was married to a monster. I finally divorced after 13 yrs but only with careful timing and support.

  • @32dramaqueen

    @32dramaqueen

    Жыл бұрын

    "get help or get lost" i love it!!

  • @HereticHer
    @HereticHer Жыл бұрын

    Snakes in the grass and who needs a “friend” like that!?! Expect slander via the smear campaign from these dishonest unaware, unaccountable people. Frankly i’m weary and my patience is thin with the shenanigans. Seems simple to not be a jerk but it is always someone else’s fault.

  • @trinity5842
    @trinity5842 Жыл бұрын

    My husband has a narcissistic friend and after I have cut out my narcissistic family members and enablers I haven't got the time, energy to be around this man. Yesterday was the last time I willingly put myself in the firing line because he's been taking shots at me and grey rock isn't going to help with this individual. Like you said about doing the work he's working his way up to be a Guru and is bragging about how many people he is enlightening........ I can't y'all I can't do it or be around him anymore.

  • @timorthelame1
    @timorthelame110 ай бұрын

    My long time "friend" of decades let his mask slip yesterday and showed me who he really is. He's done so before yesterday but this time was so blatant that I wont ever be able to forget it. I know it's actually a blessing to now know who he really was to me, but it still hurts really bad to lose someone that I considered to be one of my very best friends for so long. I've known for some time that he can be pretty narcissistic but I never knew how bad it really was until he saw fit to punish me for something minor, on a day that I was most vulnerable and really in need of some empathy. On a day when I was hurting the most, he didn't just see fit to ignore my pain; he saw fit to make it much worse. I'll never be able to forget that and nor should I. Yesterday wasn't the first time that he made sure to punish me on a day when I was especially in pain but it will be the last. This wasn't the first time that I was extremely vulnerable and he saw fit to punish me when he should have made a point of being understanding, but this time was by far the worst, given what else I'm dealing with. Overall my former "friend" is a good man, but that doesn't mean anything when that same man kicked me so hard when I was already feeling my very worst. My former "friend" is a hypocritical, disrespectful, selfish, insecure, self righteous narcissist who thinks that he is somehow beyond reproach. However his good points actually outweigh his bad ones but he has managed to cross a line with me that should never be crossed and done so before when it hurt the most. He's a good enough person to forgive, but I wont be able to forget that when I've needed a friend the most, he has acted as anything but on more than one occasion. I'll say again, my former "friend" is a good man overall and because of that I was able overlook that I was serving the purpose of being one of his whipping boys, most especially when he had a third person present to serve as an audience to his subtle but consistent abuse of me and another. That much I always knew and was always able to cope with it, by talking and giving it right back to him. But deep down it hurt hearing his "jokes" (insults) and making the same kind of jokes back to him as a defense mechanism. I know most all friends make each other the butt of jokes but this guy crosses certain boundaries and makes it very personal. He wants it to hurt and then pretend it's just a "joke". Looking back, there were other phenomenons that would play out that were toxic to me but the respect I have for the man made it easy enough to deal with and would have continued being easy enough, if not for him once again kicking me when I was already down and in need of some understanding. Being his whipping boy wasn't so bad but his lack of empathy is. I can now see how toxic he was whenever his fragile ego got bruised. I can now also see how I put the man on a pedestal and my opinion of him had more to do with his treatment of others, than his treatment of myself. I guess I still wish him all the best but I don't want to fix something that was never as good as I had convinced myself of. As for our argument yesterday, I freely admit that it was me that started it. I was out of line and saw fit to sincerely apologize for it. I was having the worst day and snapped at him, but for him to punish me for it to the extent that he did was cruel. I already forgive him and hope that he can forgive me, but I don't want any further contact with him or anyone else who would see fit to punish me so severely for something so small on a day when I was already feeling so low. The truth be told, he was being an ass pretty steady to me especially over the last few days before I finally snapped at him for all of 30 seconds. -Good riddance but it still hurts like hell.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    10 ай бұрын

    🥺

  • @elizabethloiselle5991
    @elizabethloiselle5991 Жыл бұрын

    100%, Textbook with a 20 year friendship. We hit a fork in the road to loose weight I did it my friend did not. I notice anger burst hear and there tried to just shake it off for friendship sake, then came bullying and gaslighting on Facebook. I ended up working for her as a caregiver only to have her blow up on text and fire me with her not answering my call in attempt to find out what happened. 10 days later I received a 4 page letter telling me how I am terrible. The smear campaign started with my sister and her friends (didn’t work because they know both of our personalities) . The former friend started sending my family Christmas cards and birthday cards she had never done before. She gave a non apology to me via text and will send messages in messenger and text even though most go unanswered. If I was so terrible she should have nothing to do with me .

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    Oh my goodness

  • @elizabethloiselle5991

    @elizabethloiselle5991

    Жыл бұрын

    @Mama Bush very true

  • @MCharlerySmith

    @MCharlerySmith

    Жыл бұрын

    Sorry to hear that but you've cut out the toxins from your life. What did these non-apology texts look like?

  • @elizabethloiselle5991

    @elizabethloiselle5991

    Жыл бұрын

    @@MCharlerySmith at first it was more of her anger and rage. I ignored her for a couple months then when I wrote back standing up for myself it started all over again with her anger. It’s been a couple years now and the text are Happy Birthday, Happy Easter, let’s go out for coffee sometime. I just am at the realization that now no matter what I say she will not change or see my point of view.

  • @MCharlerySmith
    @MCharlerySmith Жыл бұрын

    Good topic Lee. Many narcs learn their deceptive ways in friendships then modify them for romantic relationships so more of this needs to be explored. In my experience, friends with narc traits are a hazard to your emotional and psychological wellbeing. They thrive in playing games of manipulation to control situations such as trianguation and miscommunication between you and others to cause insecurity and uncertainty. Even when they're not doing it deliberately they haven't applied enough humility to make friendships a clear stream instead of a mudslide. No need to block everyone who makes you feel uncomfortable. Just gradually withdraw and guard your heart better. If you need to confront them do so without expecting they'll change. I keep them in prayers; maybe if they saw the devil using them like he used Cain they'd wake up!

  • @matthewrodgers740
    @matthewrodgers740 Жыл бұрын

    I just ended my 34 year friendship with my best friend that I’ve known since kindergarten because he’s a narcissist and he is the one who let the cat out of the bag by telling me and from studying videos and listening to you people that I’ve gone through this I’ve learned a lot. Thank you.

  • @universal3024

    @universal3024

    Жыл бұрын

    How’d you do it? What was his reaction?

  • @jeanmm6823

    @jeanmm6823

    4 ай бұрын

    😞 🫂💐

  • @Anne-go9ol
    @Anne-go9ol Жыл бұрын

    How can you cut them off without a smear campaign? I've had this happen to me and got smeared for saying no. You got punished for just asking normal things. Lesson learned. Never say no. Work your way out passive aggressively maybe

  • @joelharris7808
    @joelharris7808 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent video exposing that energy vampire ruining your life. I love this guy. Nothing is worth being used, devalued, mocked, betrayed and humiliated by the bro who never had your back from the very beginning.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    🙌🏾

  • @one_ice_cold_chiq
    @one_ice_cold_chiq Жыл бұрын

    I had a friend in high school who thought she was better looking than me and that's why she kicked it with me. How do I know this? She got drunk and told me. She was cool with me as long as men paid her all the attention. The minute started checking for me she flipped out. This year is our 20 year reunion too...

  • @sweetoneloves6811
    @sweetoneloves6811 Жыл бұрын

    YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT FRIENEMIES FRIEND + ENEMIES = FRIENEMIES 😁😁😁😁😁😁 None of these so call friends came to my Graduation. I cut them ALL loose. I don't do FRIENEMIES EITHER

  • @sondralee8539
    @sondralee8539 Жыл бұрын

    Not worth having Narcissistic persons in your life. They Are like a Jekyll and Hyde. The way they act is so strange and when they have a family, the way they act towards them is so odd. Insecure CON Troll Freaks. They Never apologise and Never Change. The best thing you will do is get Egotistical Narcissists out of your life as soon as possible then Never let another one into your life ever again.

  • @amy-mw4gp
    @amy-mw4gp Жыл бұрын

    Hi, No you're not wrong. There is very little out there in the way of advice/support for toxic friendships. Everything seems to be aimed at narc partners/parents and I do see why, they can be the most destructive as you live with this person and have no breathing space. But toxic IS toxic and these friendships can also be damaging and just as hard to get over. And just so you know you hit the nail on the head again. Amazing, exceptional, best buddy material in the beginning and came on very strong. But it was always to her benefit, in fact I didn't benefit at all! It was almost like to her, your reward is ME. The more you validate me, give me sympathy, be useful to me, be wowed-out over my next big to do list and that ever get done and definitely ignore all the red flags that I lie, manipulate, use, blame shift and that my actions don't match my words, you get the grand prize of hearing more about my ultra secret and private life, you get to help me out more and you get the bonus feature of me showing up on your door step to cry on your shoulder about an argument I'll be over in 2 days. But if you question me, call me out or do anything you're cut out. Blocked on everything. Cut. You no longer exist to me but I'll still spy on you as much as possible. She just didn't operate in the real world. She punished me once with silent treatment and not showing up/showing up hours late to arrangements just because she knocked on my door wanting something and I was out with someone else. I was being punished for being unreliable, she said. I didn't even know she'd been to my house. It's different from just having a friend who is self-aborbed, or bitchy or two faced. She played some crazy ass mind games. Thanks for your video and for the validation

  • @donnadaniels5095
    @donnadaniels5095 Жыл бұрын

    Narcissistic women are not your friend there straight jealous don't waste your time..

  • @courtneysikes2952
    @courtneysikes2952 Жыл бұрын

    What happens if they try to Hoover you back through a family member, fake number, missed call etc and you stop all of their attempts? It’s been a year and I have not heard from my ex-friend. But I feel as though she still watches my social media or she will try to communicate again. A lot happened and I was the one who ended the friendship because she tried to ruin my career and my soul. She never apologized and has been silent all year. Has she moved on or is she waiting for the right moment? We never got to discuss what happened and we were super close friends.

  • @MissPrettyNPink
    @MissPrettyNPink Жыл бұрын

    I have a childhood friend who is definitely a narcissist. She plays alot of games and I have cut her off completely at times but it gets hard

  • @freedommiller9900
    @freedommiller9900 Жыл бұрын

    The person met my mom through a church Facebook group and my mom passed away this is a older man. He payed for my mother funeral and helped a lot financially and started to try to date me and smearing my name texting perverted messages and just a pure narcissist

  • @mandyavalos1416
    @mandyavalos1416 Жыл бұрын

    I put up a boundary in my car. He would vape and blow it towards my windshield. I told him to roll the window down and blow outside. He consistently ignored my boundary and blew that sh!@ in my face. Pissed me off so much

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    🥺

  • @mandyavalos1416

    @mandyavalos1416

    Жыл бұрын

    @@MentalHealness 6 months no contact💪

  • @hamed2928
    @hamed292811 ай бұрын

    We've been friends for a long time Yea, i definitely started to grow as a person and mature and I wasn't looking to like think of myself as better than that person. She started cutting me off. She was would talk for 5 minutes or so and then I started to comment on the particular subject and then she said oh I don't talk about that subject. .It was just so bizarre.She just kept cutting me off and wouldn't let me talk. . She kept asking me why I was continuing to talk when she told me she didn't want to talk about that subject which she had just been talking about. It's like she could talk about anything she wanted, but when she decided I said something that she didn't like, then she would say she didn't talk about that subject.

  • @francescamiller4340
    @francescamiller4340 Жыл бұрын

    Yes, Absolutely u have to be weary of so called friends.If all of a sudden they just don't want to be friends anymore that's a. Big Red Flag!

  • @danovangrinnell4479
    @danovangrinnell4479 Жыл бұрын

    I just had to cut 2 one time 46yrs all the symptoms n signs were there for years.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    Stay strong

  • @ulysses8785

    @ulysses8785

    Жыл бұрын

    Me too

  • @sweetoneloves6811

    @sweetoneloves6811

    Жыл бұрын

    hahaha Danovan we call them Frienamies Friends + Enemy = Frienamies they know your likes and your don't likes.

  • @moondust1979
    @moondust197925 күн бұрын

    I agree.. at the beginning they are a great friend, but I believe it is their mask that slips and they can’t hide their evil side anymore . But yes I see what you mean… it seems like jealousy gets to them. They stop being nice stop smiling at you and just make you feel like you’re a stranger to them.

  • @panny3987
    @panny39879 ай бұрын

    Thank you for your content and your honesty. This has helped.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    9 ай бұрын

    you’re welcome

  • @eagles79
    @eagles79 Жыл бұрын

    Wow this is what I been waiting for. Just what I need

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    you got it

  • @soulsistah5738
    @soulsistah5738 Жыл бұрын

    Yes just like with relationships what they like at first they dislike later on. A friend glorified that I leave toxic men alone real quick then later on jealous if that because I helped her leave a dmv relationship she had more hate towards then she had towards the man

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    🙌🏽

  • @WonderfulTrouble.
    @WonderfulTrouble.4 күн бұрын

    Thank you for the helpful advice. Im dealing with a cheap, lieing, narrasitic friend rn that im gradually cutting all communications off with.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    4 күн бұрын

    stay strong

  • @hnewman2907
    @hnewman29078 ай бұрын

    I’ve been questioning my friendship for awhile now, he seems to have narcissistic tendencies but have always thought what kind of repercussions would occur if I just cut them off one day. I don’t think they’ll be good so what I’ve been doing is slowly distancing myself, working more, just telling them I’m busy when they text me they want to hang out, etc. it’s like he isn’t self aware and just continues. Being around them is so draining, Al lithely do is talk and talk about themselves and say their options as if they are facts. If you present another view or opinion they instantly try to find some sort of counter to it like what they say is almost a fact. Thinking about it facing the repercussions might just be better than all that insecurity and gross weirdo behavior. I know I’m not the first to think such a thing of them.

  • @user-bn6ie4rq4f
    @user-bn6ie4rq4fАй бұрын

    No contact with my cousin does not matter she still has a way to get info to hurt me ..i ve been looking for answers or a reason for thie way she is NOW.. thanks for the video

  • @prettync23
    @prettync232 ай бұрын

    Some need you to always reach out to them to feel like they are still liked or needed by you. Weird af. Or they just act like they don’t know why you stopped being their friend minus the smear campaign because that might expose them for what they did

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    2 ай бұрын

    🤨

  • @prettync23

    @prettync23

    2 ай бұрын

    @@MentalHealness I have one that avoids bad mouthing people if she was wrong in the situation and just acts nonchalant when you ask about what happened. Then when I talk to the person they tell me the WHOLE story 🤣

  • @SpongeBobPants1980
    @SpongeBobPants19804 ай бұрын

    When I went no contact with a narcissistic “friend” recently, this dude sent his whole cavalry of flying monkeys in my direction. I’ve been getting random texts and calls from folks in our circle who’ve never personally reached out before. It’s quite bizarre what happens when you block them. Their entire landscape changes and they will literally self sabotage to try and bring you down with them. I’m witnessing this in real life as I post this comment.

  • @Gina_sw
    @Gina_sw8 ай бұрын

    Cutting off the narc cousin. She’s a full blown overt narc. Everyone sees her for what she is but the family makes excuses for how she was raised but I no longer give a damn. I cut her off. She’s worse than my ex narc. Every event the family has she finds ways to ruin it and make it about herself. Things that have absolutely nothing to do with her, she finds ways to make it about her. She judges ppl constantly for the smallest things when she does the worse. You’re judging someone for not leaving their boyfriend or husband but you’re sleeping with married men…🤔🤔she will sleep with just about any guy. I don’t need that type of toxicity in my life. I haven’t even said all of the horrible things she’s done to me personally.

  • @crystalnyla
    @crystalnyla Жыл бұрын

    Cheek clapping 👏 I miss this line 🤣 it’s my favvvvvorite!!!!!!

  • @mjsteward5508
    @mjsteward550828 күн бұрын

    I learn to cut off toxic friends out of my life because they made their lifestyle about me. I had to cut it off.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    27 күн бұрын

    💯‼️

  • @TheHydred
    @TheHydred Жыл бұрын

    This was exactly what I was looking for! Congrats on your book!

  • @blkfuturesucess89
    @blkfuturesucess89 Жыл бұрын

    I just asked a content creator to cover this topic yesterday that’s so crazy I’ve been looking for this this is exactly what happened to me it took me years to figure out it wasn’t just them being mean or a poor judgment call it was actually narcissism the most hurtful thing for me I had a narc/ borderline female friend when she chased her partners away she would go out of her way to hurt any friend she had contact with

  • @eagles79
    @eagles79 Жыл бұрын

    What about that friend that doesn't want a relationship but she's giving hints or that she wants a relationship. Letting you touch her,feel her in romantically ways but when thing's get too close they ot comfortable she pulls away and act like you offended them

  • @racebannon96

    @racebannon96

    6 ай бұрын

    Run

  • @denisepushee9897
    @denisepushee98972 ай бұрын

    I told my shady narcissistic friend off after she was exposing herself in strange ways around my boyfriend. I told her about herself she never texted back...good riddens..once you cant trust someone you cant be friends with them.

  • @kaykaymcgee
    @kaykaymcgee8 ай бұрын

    Holy wow, when you explained how they’ll try and snake you , you mentioned so many that I’m shocked

  • @stacygreen9861
    @stacygreen9861 Жыл бұрын

    This is so true

  • @majorsolutionsllc
    @majorsolutionsllc Жыл бұрын

    Excellent analogies and commentary Lee!🔥🔥🔥

  • @retarteddwarf2182
    @retarteddwarf2182 Жыл бұрын

    Thx for the knowledge drop friend.

  • @carolineswan1224
    @carolineswan1224 Жыл бұрын

    Can you do a video of why they disrespect you, and constantly do it. When he gets real mad he cusses at me saying real bad names. Most of the time hes creating fights then cusses at me bad. I try to stay respectful so we dont fight but either way going out to dinner or any where leads to a fight. Something always trigures him and it leads to a worst dinner. Yells at me in public for everyone to see. Even if we are alone having a good day, he will be nice then switch later and find something offensive and then cuss at me and disrespects me. Everything is offensive. I will walk away and tell him he needs to respect me, he always says he will try but hes not going to stop until i change. Which is a lie because im always good he just gets offensive over everything making little things into big things that shouldnt even be a fight

  • @carolineswan1224

    @carolineswan1224

    Жыл бұрын

    This is about a boyfriend, not friend.

  • @eagles79
    @eagles79 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    you’re welcome

  • @bigsexy412
    @bigsexy412 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for helping Me in a big Way 🙏

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    Жыл бұрын

    You got it

  • @beautifulmonster4u
    @beautifulmonster4u8 ай бұрын

    lmao... the narcicistic brother example.. sooo damn true. Thank you for these videos. Thank you for the transparency.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    8 ай бұрын

    you’re welcome

  • @spadionkle1003
    @spadionkle1003 Жыл бұрын

    I love your whole channel and all your posts and you are making huge waves in narcissism awarenessss ❤️ 💙 💜 keep being you!

  • @tiffanymartelli
    @tiffanymartelli Жыл бұрын

    Cheers to you for acknowledging your issues and healing. And thanks for sharing from experience 🙏💜

  • @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
    @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much lie for this video that you made for me and for everybody else that we have self issues trust issues and everything else yes I'm learning and I got a lot of people out my life and I would like to keep it that way permanently thank you again

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    5 ай бұрын

    you’re welcome

  • @janiceparker67
    @janiceparker67 Жыл бұрын

    Best video ever, but so true, can u pls do a follow up video, more in-depth 😊🔥🔥🔥

  • @lifeofbreananmoss7079
    @lifeofbreananmoss7079 Жыл бұрын

    Yep this happened after 20 something year so call narcissist ex friend just tried go behind my back in boxing one of my make friends and he call me telling me he out here in her place told her he doesn't rock like that cause I'm someone special to him I really wanted tell her Abt herself she always been jealous of me this not first time she done that but I'm no longer friends with her cut ? off

  • @dm-jf5uu
    @dm-jf5uu Жыл бұрын

    Very true they want you to be below.after I became different they became nasty and started to gossip about me

  • @musicalmaycie
    @musicalmaycie5 ай бұрын

    Hi, thank you for posting this. In July of 2022, I ended a nine year friendship with a person who I now know is narcissistic. She was a compulsive liar, manipulated me, harassed me after I cut her off, and, when I started speaking up about everything she'd done that caused me to end the friendship in the first place, she tried bullying me into staying quiet. I actually had to shut down my email account, because unfortunately, email providers haven't figured out a way to block an email address so that someone can't actually send you an email.

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    5 ай бұрын

    i think you would have to send it to spam

  • @stefaniemiyabayashirocha8132
    @stefaniemiyabayashirocha813210 ай бұрын

    And if the person is a Christian? Could it be possible that this person feel like that, but hides everything?

  • @dreamydesignsbyalia
    @dreamydesignsbyalia4 ай бұрын

    I can’t deal with the insecurities. Dealing with this now and the narcissist is a coworker which makes it difficult for me to cut this person off 100%

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    4 ай бұрын

    💯💯

  • @TripleR6000
    @TripleR600010 ай бұрын

    2:18 facts i seen a friend get everything i wanted i started to be resentful towards them

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    10 ай бұрын

    😞

  • @ciarawalker389
    @ciarawalker3893 ай бұрын

    Habitual boundary stepper is the ☝🏾

  • @MentalHealness

    @MentalHealness

    3 ай бұрын

    🙏🏽

  • @breanajackson7542
    @breanajackson75425 ай бұрын

    What do you do if your toxic/narcissistic friend is your next door neighbor? How do you set firm boundaries and go no contact in that situation? I went no contact for 4 months before she hoovered me back in and now she's up to her old ways again. She really tried provoking me, smearing my name, stealing my packages and she would open her door and yell out obscenities when I was outside. When I allowed her to Hoover me back in and brought up her behavior she totally denied it. I am so tired of the crap and allowing her to guilt trip me. Can someone please give me some advice on how to handle this ongoing situation?

  • @mixedlove1234
    @mixedlove1234 Жыл бұрын

    Doing this now. Smh

  • @oesmartha7341
    @oesmartha7341 Жыл бұрын

    Can you please help me. I was with a narcissistic person for five years while he was in prison. When he got out he fell in love with his cousin put it pictures on Facebook to hurt me. He would bread crumb me barley call me when he did it was from another woman phone it say private call. Time after time he said sorry and I forgave him. I recently found out that the women house he was staying at someone came to the house and shot and killed him. I feel so sad should I feel sad . I don't know how to deal with this can you please give me some advice thanks.

  • @clairelane3642

    @clairelane3642

    Жыл бұрын

    Be grateful this person will never harm you in the future. You dodged a bullet, literally.

  • @oesmartha7341

    @oesmartha7341

    Жыл бұрын

    @Claire Lane thanks for the advice I appreciate it

  • @crystalnyla
    @crystalnyla Жыл бұрын

    #narcsurvior 👑💫❤️‍🩹 #keepgoing

  • @user-wu9oy1tp8p
    @user-wu9oy1tp8pАй бұрын

    💯

  • @Nidhi_Maheshwari
    @Nidhi_Maheshwari Жыл бұрын

    Try to steal your time & peace near important deadlines & tests.🙆🌄

  • @ct6852

    @ct6852

    5 ай бұрын

    I thought I was imagining that when it happened. But this is indeed REAL.

  • @Nidhi_Maheshwari

    @Nidhi_Maheshwari

    5 ай бұрын

    @@ct6852 You got this. HNY 💛💛