It seems these days no one is your friend. Your classmates aren’t your friends, your coworkers aren’t your friends, no one is your friend. What a sad world we live in these days.

@s0515033

10 ай бұрын

Even family will throw you under the bus. Reality is dog eat dog

@rickortega80

10 ай бұрын

Completely true! Humanity deserves what's to come!!

@shobhnakapoor1399

10 ай бұрын

Narcissists seem to be everywhere.

@dragonviper83

10 ай бұрын

This is the real truth

@deannamarie3746

10 ай бұрын

Nothing new under the sun really, though its only after one gets a little older that one can differentiate who is a friend, a familiar aquaintance, or someone who is just bad for your overall well-being

I had a coworker, my first impression with her was "do not trust this lady". Eventually she won me over, I dropped my guard, and she stabbed me in the back. No one at work is your friend.

@daniellee1722

10 ай бұрын

Am I crazy or was it not this bad years ago? Covid, a bad economy and a desire for social currency brings out the worst in people.

@chefboiardeeznutz9881

10 ай бұрын

That was also one person and you're making that decision to not be friends with coworkers over one person. Think about that.

@vicz8899

10 ай бұрын

@@chefboiardeeznutz9881 Co-workers are not friends, but I can still be friendly with them.

@chefboiardeeznutz9881

10 ай бұрын

@@vicz8899 they can be. I have a few.

@andrews127

10 ай бұрын

Initial impressions are usually the most accurate.

You're not wrong... its a reality.. sometimes, a close colleague at work can throw another under the bus! just do the work , go home and enjoy your own life!

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

Being chucked under a bus always sucks. It sucks extra when it's a friend who threw you there.

@newtonmoon

11 ай бұрын

Some seem so friendly, it's easy to fall for it and share some personal info.

@RubyJay_

11 ай бұрын

Experienced this 😒jealousy is evil.

@harrisonsharkey6117

11 ай бұрын

my coworkers want me to go bowling with them today but i dont think its a good idea. w video +

@BrVi_7

10 ай бұрын

I have always had this mentality on the advice of my grandmother, who knew my trusting personality.

"Work friendships are situational" this summarize everything 👍. Actually, if we look at most of our friendships throughout life, they are simply situationships.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

Not every friendship is supposed to last a lifetime. And that's ok.

@mokiebar22

11 ай бұрын

Yes! So true!

@niggaflies

11 ай бұрын

@@JenniferBrickThat’s exactly what I was going to say. Friendships last for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Most people are seasonal at best.

@germanlopez9448

11 ай бұрын

"situationships" is a great way to describe most "friendships", nice.

@alexandru5369

11 ай бұрын

Very true lifetime friendships are incredibly rare and even rarer too keep. Sometimes it's through no one's fault people just naturally drift away

If there’s one mistake I’ve made it’s opening up too much too soon to coworkers. You can be friendly and have some fun at work without revealing too much. Openness at work can be seen as a weakness and used against you.

@DeeJ0000

11 ай бұрын

You're very right about this. I recommend talking about surface level topics but nothing that could make you look bad if everyone at work found out about it.

@ntmn8444

10 ай бұрын

Openness in general will get you hurt. Because most people don’t know how to be good friends.

@saragabriel4224

10 ай бұрын

So, so true. 💯

@12012channel

10 ай бұрын

Yeah but it is hard. Sometimes you want to get stuff of your chest and just tell anyone. I told some homeless dude I just met about work drama once in L.A.

@spectershore4482

6 ай бұрын

People in the work place are fucked up ! As simple as that... They're 1 or 2 broken by the system who've decided to retreat. But even them, if they don't come to you assume everyone is a threat !

If you quit, they'll even forget all about you that day! Blows my mind how fickle "work family" really can be! Clock in collect the check, and go home.

@Swingman30

4 ай бұрын

Yup

@alyssajones4368

4 ай бұрын

Boom!

@user-qo6hv7zv2h

3 ай бұрын

This is happened to me. I`ve had to mates in the work we was good friends. When my boss fired me She called me into the office at the end of the day. I did`nt even had a chance to say goodbye to my 2 "friends". I called them no answer, I texted them no answer. I was so sad but now I know they was fckers. No regret since that. Now I am self elmployed and I don`t have any double faced co-workers.

@stevo6891

2 ай бұрын

You can say that again!! I made the mistake getting close to this one work friend after I left never heard from that person again.. I reached out but got left on read.. Now I just go put my time in collect my check and go home..

Jealousy is strong in a workplace! Coworkers do not fit the definition of friendship. It’s always the ones that pretend to be your friends will end up being your worst enemies.

@haroldfridkis9235

3 ай бұрын

Yes I agree

Coworkers complain about the pettiest things , not only that but they also make up a lie with the complaint to make you look awful.

@Nicole-gb3vl

11 ай бұрын

Right

@fittomakeup9890

10 ай бұрын

I am currently going through this (the first part)🙄🙄. They are extremely petty.

@Singleuntilmarried

10 ай бұрын

@@fittomakeup9890 they have nothing to gain or lose by complaining so I don’t know why they try to waste their own time

@guilhermehx7159

10 ай бұрын

You're also a coworker for someone

@slapshotjack9806

10 ай бұрын

Thats just how the workplace is the problem is that people are afraid to lose their jobs so they’ll go out of their way to blame you for situations that was created by a customer or someone else aside from you or your friend I hate modern workplace culture because all it’s designed to do is throw the employees under the buss while the boss man gets to sit on his ass all day and find out who’s gonna get fired next while taking home 200k a year this is mainly in retail and fast food restaurants

You can never truly be yourself around the people who you work with and who report to your same boss.

@stestar09

7 ай бұрын

Yea you can , there are still some straightforward people out there , you just gotta sift the guddens out

I'm very private about my personal life and I don't go out and share with my coworkers. I don't consider them friends. I go to work to do my job, not to socialise. When a coworker told me she considers me her friend, I acknowledged it, but I do not feel the same way. I keep work and life very separate.

@antwanwilson7228

10 ай бұрын

💯💯💯

@antwanwilson7228

10 ай бұрын

I use to think friendly coworkers wanted to be my friend but it's really about the work🎯

@shaunsteele6926

10 ай бұрын

when I began my career I was single, childless and friendless having moved to a new city to start my job. I had no social life outside of work, which made it hard to NOT try to strike up friendships with coworkers. I quickly learned that the workplace isn't the best place to meet new people.

@theab332

3 ай бұрын

I need serious training on this 😢

@joankelly1277

Ай бұрын

Smart

I would never add coworkers to my personal social media ever again.

@lifedeather

8 ай бұрын

yeah just took an L cuz of this

@annettewalker812

7 ай бұрын

A wise precaution.

Do your job, Focus on your own, leave. Make your money and forget others. 💯 💰

@adu1991

5 ай бұрын

Yup, and hopefully you have friends outside of work... If not, then it'll be really hard. I'm in my 30s now and most of my "friends"/acquaintances are married and spend time with their kids, or are focused on their careers. It IS more difficult to make new friendships as you get older, If someone is single and doesn't have a wife, husband, kids, but they have a stable job...they may be better off just being a hermit for the rest of their life. Pets and A.I.(to an extent) are better companions than humans anyway.

@stanislavbalvas3230

2 ай бұрын

Amen

I’m 48 yrs old. I NEVER considered a co- worker as a Friend. I always keep to myself, WORK & mind my business. Co workers don’t get it. I don’t bother explaining myself. I ignore them and TALK abt work only and keep the convo short

Co workers are usually two faced, self serving backstabbers who "befriend" you but anything you tell them in secret seems to be all over the place in days. I learned the hard way they are not friends. Also many never followed through on promises to keep in touch. Also I hear through the grapevine that some colleagues have said bad things about me since I left a certain workplace, or some who I once had a grievance with but got talking again, has said nasty things about me since we parted ways.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

I don't think people intend to be jerks, I think when there is power at play, priorities shift from others to self.

@EpicDreamer_

11 ай бұрын

@@JenniferBrick A human has that power of free will, to choose moral values or amorality and be a jerk toward others. It’s not always a question of priority… We are not animals even though we live in a cruel materialistic world. It’s just my opinion ☘️😊

@ForgottenKnight1

11 ай бұрын

@@JenniferBrick And how do we call people who abuse power and have no ethics ? Power or any other benefit is not an excuse to be an asshole.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

​@@EpicDreamer_ we have free will - but don't assume people are acting with awareness and intention. Human nature is intrinsically self-protective.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

@@ForgottenKnight1 how other people choose to conduct themselves is not your business. You will not change them. You won't win against someone who has more power if you don't acquire more power.

Ironically they can only really be your friend once one of you leaves the company. That removes the competituon for the next promotion and also the awkwardness if either becomes the boss.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

The friends I have made in work because close friends when one of us left.

This is why 2 of the guys I graduated trade school with many years ago, started their own small business one year after graduation in 1984, one started a plumbing business the other an electrical business, both in residential repairs, nothing will ever be better than being your own boss, and in charge of your own destiny, last year both of them made approximately 140k each, no employees just themselves

As an introvert, I already dont hang out with people from work outside of work, so I'm good.

Sounds rude but this is why I just go to work do my job and go home. I only talk to a coworker if it’s something to do with the job. They may think actually I know they think I’m being mean or introverted but I learned the hard way before no one has your back in the workforce everyone’s out for themselves because no one wants to get fired. You’ll be surprised how quick someone you thought was your pal at work will throw you under the buss.

@winendesertrose

10 ай бұрын

Yup. They only friends I made it worked were one that I deemed stable and friendly enough to give me a reference when I left the co. I can only a few out of the 40 years Ive worked.

@JessicaGarcia-xf9wr

7 ай бұрын

True. I learned the hard way and now just have the mindset of going in doing my job and go home. Nothing more nothing less.

@TheDisneylover17

Ай бұрын

yup. I learned the hard way at my last job. Even someone you were friends with prior and started working with each other can change real quick.

I've met many cases where a co-worker tries to be friendly so they can gather any sort of info they can use against the other person to gain leverage. While it's not impossible to gain new friends at work, it should never be a main focus. Sometimes the snake is coiled near you and you won't notice until the moment it bites. The less they know about you at work, the better. For the sake of your own integrity and mental health, keep your distance and set as many boundaries as possible with other people at work. Some will use you as a step to climb on the career ladder whenever they get a chance.

I wish my friendliness at work would stop being mistaken as friendship.

@JessicaGarcia-xf9wr

7 ай бұрын

My politeness and sweet personality gets mistaken for tryna to make friends when in reality that’s how I am. Just do my job and go home is what I do

@laquintonpiggee5855

2 ай бұрын

I feel ya! I keep a mug on my face!

Life is situational. I had great friends in college. We created lasting memories over those years, but college ended. We went our separate ways. I stayed in touch, but as time went by, marriage family, work, etc. of course those friendships fell away. We exchange messages once in a while, but still I wouldn't go back in time and not be close to them because the friendship faded over time. You can make friends at work. I've made lifelong friends at work. But it's tricky. You pick and choose carefully that's all.

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855

10 ай бұрын

Like Billy Joel said in one of his songs, "Life is serious of hellos and goodbyes. We said hello and now it's time to say goodbye."

I got promoted from within and learned the hard way just how competitive other coworkers were. People that I had worked alongside and shed all manner of tears and sweat with, suddenly were watching my every move, waiting for me to mess up so they could "cancel" me. And as much as they complained about how "bad" the work environment was, I came to realize they were actually just frustrated because they felt entitled to a promotion, not because they were actually being wronged and needed me or anyone else to "save" them. Learning the difference between a genuinely underappreciated peer or subordinate, and somebody who is just pissesd that they don't have enough power, really was a game changer in helping me deal with work and life better.

Another thing from experience is that the boss or someone with higher position should never be befriended

@biggreen9845

3 ай бұрын

That depends. I’m friends with someone with a higher position but that’s because we were friends when we were peers(on the same level). In front of others, I treat them as someone I directly report too and they treat me as someone they manage. But behind closed doors, we still teasingly give each other sh*t, send stupid memes and they still sometimes bring me lunch(sneakily now) that they or their family cooked cause apparently I would die if it weren’t for Uber Eats.

Pretty sure that the people at one of the last jobs I had, conspired against me to get me fired. Every time I leave the room and come back, they get quiet as if they were just talking about something they didn’t want me to hear. Yeah that place was like being in one of those reality tv shows like “Big Brother” where contestants vote each other out and are rewarded for how sneaky they are. Was definitely blindsided.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

So awkward 😬

@HeartNDagger18

10 ай бұрын

I thought the people who did best in big brother were the ones who just kept themselves low key, got on with everybody in some sort of way. Not loud personality, just floating through and staying agreeable.

This video is timely af. I thought I had a work friend turn into a real life friend with our long conversations and once we started hanging out on the weekends together. Then one day recently I asked to follow her on IG and found myself blocked by her right after that. So... yeah. Not even going to bother talking to her anymore unless it's work related.

I worked in an Orwellian call center. I can can confirm all the rumours including cliques, favourites, manipulation, backstabbing and smiling assassin's. Also if you are naturally a private person that keeps to yourself and doesn't want politics conflict etc and doesn't want gossip (be involved with it or be the centre of it). I certainly learned that work colleagues are not your friends, I learned they have no loyalty to you, more importantly the company has no loyalty to you. A friend is a friend until something "better" comes along be it money, status, etc. They will betray you. I learned these lessons the hard way but the best lessons are the ones you learn yourself the hard way. Have a good day reader.

This is why I love working for myself in my own home business 😂 I do not miss being around people or coworkers at all. From my experience most people are fake, jealous and negative I don’t care to be around them.

Coworkers are too competitive. They play games and are jealous.

Jennifer girl learned my lesson the hard way

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

Too many of us do 🥺

@wendellkirton3694

10 ай бұрын

@@JenniferBrick Sad but truth

My close coworker of 20 years sabotaged my last day of work/retirement and said "I dont have to be nice to you anymore since youre leaving" 😂

@growing367

Ай бұрын

Damn cold.

@Blueeyesinthesky

Ай бұрын

No way

I made the mistake once of thinking a coworker was a friend. I thought I could trust her and it turned out she was relaying things I was saying to the boss. Rookie mistake, lesson learned.

I remember becoming more at peace in my job, when I acknowledged that I love the mechanics of my job, and that the people I worked with were my least favorite aspect of it.

I've had a few friends growing up, some friends in the USMC. After that, not a single real friend from multiple co-workers & neighbors. We live in a fake country. The more people that I meet. The more that I love my dog.

@adu1991

6 ай бұрын

Sad but true. The loneliness epidemic will continue as a result

@herkload

15 күн бұрын

Same here. I had some friends in the airforce but now that I’m out I don’t really have many.

I was called "difficult" and "toxic" when i told my co-workers straight, on thier faces that i am NOT thier friend. 😭

@Freshsink950

9 ай бұрын

Well, it is difficult and toxic if they didn't deserve it. I mean if they're not difficult and toxic themselves, they don't deserve DESPITE not being your friend.

@TheDisneylover17

Ай бұрын

me too! At my previous job, I didn't want to talk about my personal life and just work, and they said that I have a "wall up" don't let anyone in. I'm there to work, not make friends.

Friendships are what you make of them. You can't go in assuming people are your friends because you solve problems together in the workplace and go out for cocktails. A non toxic work place is intrinsically friendly and good workplace culture dictated that you support your colleagues. From my experience if you show people respect and try to be a kind human being you will maintain friendships wherever you go, I switched jobs two years ago and re trained and moved cities. I would often meet with my former colleagues for lunches and sometimes drinks. I've moved back home after being away for two years and my friends I made 4 hours away message me weekly, I popped in for a visit a month ago and I had three of my friends come down and stay at my new house. You cannot expect coworkers to be your friends, but if you let things happen organically you are very likely to make and maintain long-standing friendships.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

I like your approach, and that is grounded in kindness and respect. That's the foundation of lasting friendship IMHO

@chaotic2insanity

11 ай бұрын

Exactly, friends come and go. That is the way I see it anyways. Some are meant to be part of your life to the very end and others are just there to teach you lessons. Most of the friends you make from your childhood up to college don’t stick around. If one those friends do stick around from those days then that’s awesome. The same goes for workmates both current and former. Things should happen organically as you mentioned and never forced. Everyone just needs to go to work with the mindset that work is a place of business and not social hour. That business makes money and people need money to live. Money motivates people in good and bad ways. It’s human nature to protect themselves (job security) and play the game of business ( 💵). I say always be ready to play the game of business or be thrown into the fire because at the end of the day business is business. No hard feelings should ever come about when your so called “friend” gets you sacked. It just means you, your ❤️, and 🧠 weren’t there to get 💵.

@matttran7161

11 ай бұрын

Yeah I think this was a warning about not setting boundaries and came out muddle and against work friendships. I genuinely like the folks I work with but also understand how situational it all is. And through that recognition is how I can make the conscious choice of "look, I'm already here eight hours a day, I can make it pleasant by being pleasant or it's gonna be long and lonely". It's that whole two wolves meme.

@BodaciousWickerman

11 ай бұрын

'Organically' being the operative word. Good to hear you made genuine friendships and still spend time with work friends from previous jobs.

@JayNohh

10 ай бұрын

Good words!

I do not go to team lunches and I do not go to parties after work. Those times are my times. I also put my phone on "do not disturb" for two hours after work and two hours before work. This stops coworkers or the boss trying to get me to either work extra or run errands off the clock. I have a group of phone numbers I allow to get through my do not disturb time. This gives me peace of mind. The boss may call going to lunch, etc. as team building. I call it invasion of privacy.

ALL friendships are situational and temporary. Friends are just temporary blips. Friendships serve a purpose, and when that purpose is exhausted so is the friendship.

@ntmn8444

10 ай бұрын

This is true.

@ForeverMG

10 ай бұрын

I have multiple 10 year plus friendships. Can't agree with that....

@thebob-eexperience1762

10 ай бұрын

I partially agree, there are a few that can last a lifetime while many others come and go.

It might be different in healthcare. I have made lifelong friends from work in clinic settings and nursing homes. We’ve been traumatized and burned out together and have bonded through this trauma.

@ntmn8444

10 ай бұрын

Yeah, might be. My experience is totally different.

@Iridescence7770

10 ай бұрын

Noticed the same about teachers as well

@janicemacintosh5804

10 ай бұрын

Trauma bonding in health care situations but the back stabbing is still front and centre behaviour

@elcee8

10 ай бұрын

@@janicemacintosh5804 I feel blessed to not have experienced that personally. I work with colleagues who are extremely hard working, who bend over backwards to make sure their patients are safe and advocate for them. No place is perfect but I’m just in awe and inspired by a lot of my coworkers. One of my mentors is this family practice doctor who has the heart of an angel and to this day I don’t think I’ve met anyone as caring as him. He comes from a family of Mayo Clinic doctors, but when I met him he was working in a small community health clinic and very much likely getting paid peanuts compared to other doctors. We used to go running together and stuff. Maybe i just focus on the positive people in my life and try to attract the positive people. There are definitely a couple of bullies I’ve seen in my career but so far I have found a way to avoid them and they get what they deserve in the end and end up getting investigated or end up leaving

I can work friendly with coworkers, but they aren't my friends 😁

This makes so much sense! I put in my two weeks notice earlier this week and people were "shocked", even though they know how toxic the work environment is and how I've been treated. Says it all really. A lot of cognitive dissonance!

TRUST NO ONE.

Jennifer, this is one of your best videos yet. I started a new job 2.5 years ago (Feb 2021) and started watching your videos to help me with my career. I stayed at my last job for 17 years, and everything in your video rings true. I had to learn the hard way. The relationships are situational and 100% based on power and politics. It is hard when some of the top people make the place so "fun:" happy hours, bowling, horseback riding, holiday events, wine tasting, dinners, mini golf, concerts, and more. Of course they did this because there were not a lot of promotional opportunities. I gave that place my heart and soul, and my identity was based on the program. Many people actually lost their marriages because everyone hung out so much--too much. The beginning of the video showing the one team member leaving and slowly fading from the group was a reality check for me. I want to travel in a time machine and make my younger self watch this video.

I know my coworkers are friends to a point. They don’t want to train me in everything because they are afraid to be replaced because I’m willing to go above and beyond what they do. They hate I am willing to work so much.

This is true. Ran into some toxic people after the last three jobs it made me into a mean person. Now I have clear boundaries and I’m highly guarded.

@Liz-wz8dh

6 ай бұрын

Same. With every job, my boundaries get stiffer and I am more guarded because even if the job starts off good, changes in management structure or goals always ruins it. The lesson I've learned over and over again is that the managers are almost always are being manipulative, even if they seem genuine. I just never go in trusting them or even thinking when changes towards seeming transparency happen, that I can let my guard down. I have turned out to be right every single time, but it's still hard to go to work accepting that you're there for like 8 hours and you have to be guarded and basically not yourself. It sucks. I don't do any parties while at work. I don't participate in most conversations.

In all of the jobs I ever had, I never considered any of my coworkers as friends. I always made an effort to be polite, respectful, and got along pretty well with everyone. However, I only ever interacted with them during business hours. We never hung out on evenings or weekends. It would probably be a bit strange if we did. Guess I always just assumed that was the way the world worked.

I learnt this the hard way! It took multiple lousy situations to get it through my head. You can be friendly, but friends, probably not.

For the few people who said they have made great friends at work, that's the exception rather than the rule. In most cases, it's not a good idea to be close personal friends because most work places are competitive. Even if you're not in sales, promotions and pay raises are things people compete for.

@Uksoapfan

11 ай бұрын

I think they are a bit naive to think they have made friends at work with the few they think they have. They will learn the hard way at some point.

@seanmc7128

10 ай бұрын

​@@Uksoapfanhardly.

@GenerationX1984

10 ай бұрын

I think it's a joke how everyone at a silly job is competing for the dreggs while the CEO laughs all the way to the bank. I usually don't share my borderline nihilistic view of the workplace because it offends my coworkers and bosses. That's why I vent on the internet. 😂

@Psychooncrack8

10 ай бұрын

​@@GenerationX1984This is me, right here lol. It's hard to find someone at work who feels like this too. As anti-capitalist as I am, I still need money to live so I just keep my mouth shut and do my job and clock out afterwards.

90% of my friends are either current co-worker or previous co-worker. A good way to tell if you work at a toxic place or not is how close knit everyone is. I have work at some places that I never made any friends and other that I made life long friends. It all depends on the wiring environment.

@jmwoods190

10 ай бұрын

Also make sure the close-knitted nature doesn't translate to cliques either- that will be another kind of toxicity

Almost all my jobs I don’t make friends there for a lot of reasons. I just do my job and not worry about them. Cheers 😎😎😎🔥🔥🔥

You are so right! I learned it the hard way last year when I realised people I called my friends were not always that well intented. It was devastating at first but it served me to realise I needed to invest in my life outside of work asap.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

Building a life and relationships outside of work is crucial!

@saragabriel4224

10 ай бұрын

​@@JenniferBrickSo, so true. 💯

@lessonsfromscenes9533

5 ай бұрын

People try to make their work life a social one , this is one of the biggest mistake you can make in the workplace ,keep both life's separate

I made the huge mistake of befriending my supervisor. For 6 plus years, all I've been doing is giving him ammunition to use against me. Found out some stuff back in December. I felt/feel .. betrayed.

Whenever I applied for a new job and they always told us during orientation, "we are like a family here" I never fell for that phony shit.

@pennydreadful5217

2 ай бұрын

Yeah me too I hate that expression

@alyssajones4368

2 ай бұрын

@@pennydreadful5217 Same

I did an internship and I got thrown under the bus by the person that was training me! My supervisor said that they had to let me go and that I had to find another place to do my internship. it was a mess I had to get one of my professors to fix the situation( the internship was in conjunction with my University) After that meeting things were smooth but it taught me a lesson to not trust my co-workers and the importance of communication!!

Amazing how this video comes HOURS after I was torn down by my manager who pretends to be friendly with his "team"

I'm in a workplace where everyone is buddy buddy but I'm the odd one out because I refuse to be friends with my colleagues.

Well said. Separate work life from private life. Always.

@haroldfridkis9235

3 ай бұрын

Agreed 👍

I'm baffled by the concept of not making true friends at work. Some of my closest friends 20+ years were my coworkers. We had a bookclub, would go out to movies and dinner. I found this to be true in different industries and places of work. I'm not friends with everyone, but you spend so much time with these people, you need to make the best of it.

@jmwoods190

10 ай бұрын

I guess it all comes down to choosing wisely- In some jobs you'll find true friends who will always have your back, others you'll find none, and of course those you'll find to be pirate ships full of backstabbers. It's down to each of us to tell them apart, and choose accordingly

@guilhermehx7159

10 ай бұрын

I agree. I hate people here from The comments

@jesseleeward2359

10 ай бұрын

This video is propaganda. It is divide and conquer. Of course you have to be friends with your coworkers. Humans are social creatures.

That's one of the reasons I don't like to go to work because I don't like people, and I am forced to interact with people because I have to make money

Work is a jungle. There are no friends only backstabbers, liars, and trouble makers. Every job is like that.

I have a friend for years not work related, he gets jealous whenever i have anything better than him. So i would say a true friend is hard to find!

I have friendships that started at work and remained friends for years later. However....this is the exception. I sure as hell don't trust my colleagues at my current job

I like the intro because if you think coworkers are your friends you just haven’t learned yet lol.

Co workers are not your friends and gym people are not your friends in both areas get in and out and keep in moving. Backstabbing, drama, gossip, gaslighting, insecure woman, power plays etc is all I have every experienced with these people. I keep it polite and professional but will never go beyond that in addition great point on not creating your identity around work because when they pull the rug out from under you, you are left scratching your head wondering who the heck you are

@Darkcontentnl

9 ай бұрын

Gym people can be your friends.

@JessicaGarcia-xf9wr

5 ай бұрын

That’s new for me about the gym people. I didn’t know people could make friends from the gym.

you really find out about people when something good happens to you, or better yet, when something goes wrong. the backstabbing when things go wrong is incredible. furthermore, i would never recommend ever dating someone at your workplace. don't sh!t where you eat. there is absolutely nothing to gain, and the fallout can be ugly when there is a breakup. cheers 🍻 from southern ontario, canada 🍁

@Uksoapfan

11 ай бұрын

A colleague got annoyed when I got a temporary promotion when a team leader was away, as he felt he should have got it. He was un co operative.

@carparthero

11 ай бұрын

@@Uksoapfan conflicts always reveal people's true colors. i work in a unionized environment and you'd think the "union brothers" would stick together. in reality i call most of my backstabbing co-worker's, the devil's disciples lol.

@JenniferBrick

11 ай бұрын

Nothing drives work friends away faster than when you are out of favor with the boss or higher leadership.

@Uksoapfan

11 ай бұрын

@@JenniferBrick He hated it, and sulked all week, before that he was fine to me and we had a bit of a laugh together.

@carparthero

11 ай бұрын

​@@JenniferBrickwell said. also, if you fall out of favor with the work-social clique, as well.

There's a group of managers at work who are literally on holiday with each other right now. Just as the company just laid off a bunch of people. Some of the people on holiday were at risk too! It's actual insanity

Finally got the position I wanted and the best part is I have no coworkers ! I left a company where the company was literally family and it was very cliquey!

All work now is doing a job and how bosses can exploit you into doing far more than you are ever capable of.

don’t add them on any of your social media as well because they will tell your coworkers what you were doing on your off time. Even though they force you to add them just say no respectfully…

Jennifer, you are so on point with this! I was devastated. I mean, absolutely devastated for an entire year after leaving a job that was all i knew for five years after losing two of my loved ones. The lesson learned was a hard one. Now, I start a new job tomorrow! Im very nervous as it’s for a very well known 4-star hotel. I want to go into my new career with rational perspective on the professional relationships I will be building at the hotel. Sometimes, we gotta go through pain from the previous round, to grow stronger roots within ourselves so we are not disappointed by other antics and motives! As long as I stay strong with my goals and keep listening to “My Career Bestie” I think I’ll be better at protecting myself this next round! 🥊

@saltandpeppers8788

11 ай бұрын

I love this. So much positivity.

I have changed jobs more than I imagine. When you work in physical jobs like warehouses or garages that you get dirty no one is going to make friends because all they think is what time they go home and get paid. On the corporate side you work in a happy environment with AC and not getting dirty and you make friends, that is how I always saw it.

I used to work with a guy who was a really nice, friendly guy and we were good friends. I went on vacation, and when I came back I found out this guy broke his neck in an accident, and was crippled for life ending his career there. Did his other coworkers care? No. I kept going to them and saying how is "Jim" doing? I thought about seeing him, and felt really bad that since no one else cared and so I didn't go to see him. This really bothers me to this day.

I follow 3 simple rules at work: Do your job. Get paid. Go home.

@annettewalker812

7 ай бұрын

Works for me.

@adu1991

6 ай бұрын

Yup. Good point. It's no coincidence that it's contributing to the growing amount of loneliness though.

I left a job and then was rehired two months later. Didn’t hear a word from my former coworkers but after coming back two months later it’s like I never left and all my so called work friends were my besties again. Lol. But I have to admit I really didn’t think about them much either during those two months. Definitely situational. Great video!!

Absolutely agree with you! Between all the people I ve met at work, none has sticked around nor I Ve felt like I really wanted them In my life after that job. It might very rarely happen to find someone you can really connect with when you are in you 20s and that friendship can last even after one of the two leaves the job, but later in life it's more about being friendly, not friends

The only FRIENDS I know is the TV show. So far that concept helped me a lot as an adult.

I used to be this person. My current work situation is the longest I have been at any job in years because I went into as they are not my friends, only when it benefits the company or my coworkers. Old me- I left what I thought was a horrible job but great coworkers/bad boss situation. Found out several women who I had at my house, babysat their kids, went out for drinks and family events- were ALL backstabbing me to my horrible boss. Yep. I wish them all karma. The corporate retreats were one big sex fest between upper management and the team building caused a physical altercation between 2 people. Man I love corporate! LOL Not! I do not get overly friendly with people now but I also worked hard to get to a job that I don't deal with coworkers too often. I have lied about my life and what I do, my relationships, just to see who talks and how it comes back to me. I will say don't go into management, that released a lot of stress for me. I also act dumb, smart enough to do my job, dumb enough not to get stuff piled on me and guess what? I'm thriving. Imagine that.

@solidcatink

7 ай бұрын

Well done ! lol sad world, innit.

I dont understand why ppl come to work to make friends ?? U can be friendly but I never understood why they hang out and party together , it’s so bizarre …

@se2664

11 ай бұрын

Because working 40+ hour per week is already draining to where you may not have energy to go out and socialize with people outside from work 🤷🏾‍♀️

@nicoleharrington9086

10 ай бұрын

It's creepy too

@la6136

10 ай бұрын

Because it is where you spend 1/3 of your life

At my old job, a toxic teamlead asked where was I going the month before when I had a green dress on during an off day. I was confused. He told me our supervisor saw me out and told him. She never approached me. I didn't see her that day. Why didnt she just say hi instead of running to tell him? Did she secretly take a pic of me? Why did he remember what color dress I had on the month before when he wasnt even the one that saw me? He asked me this in front of other coworkers who looked more concerned with me being outside on my day off then with these ppl watching me in secret without saying anything. It was so weird. Im glad I left that place. I was there going on about 8 yrs at the time.

@zacharymathews199

11 ай бұрын

Holy crap, you dodged a bullet when u quit. People are so weird!

@chioma5633

11 ай бұрын

What losers! So weird when they obsess over your life

Aren't all friendships situational? Are you still friends with all your friends from high school? Unlikely. But that doesnt mean you have to lose touch with everyone. If you really want to, you can maintain friendships even when you move apart, but like every relationship in life, it takes work.

Loved this video, I am so glad my identity as a human being isn't based on my job ❤

Exactly! We don't go to work with the intention of making friends with our coworkers, no! We're there to do a job and earn our paycheck and our classmates from school, usually aren't our friends in real life either.

I never make/keep friends at work. Too many betrayals, gossip, cheaters, etc. When you try to make a friend, either they quit and you drift apart because now that they have a new job, they work evenings and you still work days, so you no longer see each other anymore. OR they say they are your friend but they are also Manager Sally's friend too, and manager Sally hates you, and so, when having to pick between you, your "friend" picks Manager Sally. I'm friendly, but at the end of the day, I do my work and go home. I keep all work relationships to friendly neighbor/just a stranger. Friends and family are the ones who get the real/whole me.

I have never socialized with any co-workers. I see enough of them during the work days, I leave work at the door when I leave and socializing with co-workers defeats that purpose. Besides which, I have never liked co-workers.

That’s true about most adult friendships. They are based around shared activities. Remove that shared activity, and the friendship’s foundation is removed. It collapses. You’re defining friendship in a way that-if you’re lucky--only a few people will ever rise to meet that standard. Cherish those who do. You may find that person at work. You just need to recognize that rare person when you find one.

Currently working in an extremely toxic workplace in an ad agency. No respect for boundaries. No defined roles and responsibilities. Tons of undermining. Tons of stealing other peoples ideas. Tons of backstabbing and throwing under the bus. “Leaders” that are bullies. It’s terrible, toxic and very demoralizing. I’m 8 months in and I am actively looking for a new job. Appreciate their checks that pay my bills, but definitely not a long term investment.

I've been employed by a Fortune 500 corporation for nearly 30 years. Everything mentioned in this video is spot on true. There are rare exceptions to some friendships that endure past employment, but they are just that; rare. It's very important that everyone have a social circle outside of their workplace. Without it, your social life will come to a crashing halt if you have to leave your job. I'm nearing retirement, so I totally get this. It's been on my mind a lot lately.

I trust blue collar people. I was on the elevator with an old cleaning lady once and she called the CEO a f** for making her work late. Mind you, she doesn't know me lol. Homophobia aside, I found her honesty so refreshing.

💯. Couldn't agree more . I used to work at a very toxic place. I quit that job and moved to another city. At first, it seemed that the people in my new company were nice until time showed their true colors, and the back stabbings began. So, I went back to university for a master degree. Once I got my degree, I applied for another job. The vicious cycle began again 😢. I just found out that there is always a serpent in every paradise. I'm not young anymore. Should I quit my present job and find another one ? 😢.

@ct6852

10 ай бұрын

Just saw a clip from an older guy who leans liberal in a very conservative district...I think he's retired now. His advice was: if your work environment is truly toxic, you should leave. Yesterday. Said you'll never regret it.

I was at work in a daycare and my “boss” who i thought 💭 was my friend turned out she gossiped about me. Long story short 3 weeks later I quit. So I understand that your co-workers are NOT your friend. I am working at a job that I’ve been at for almost 2 months. I get along with the lady that I work with, our kids go to school 🏫 together, but we’re acquaintances.

I watched this video before going to an assessment day which I was thankfully rejected from and I take your advice that work isn't the place to make friends. I am super grateful for the advice because it worked out for me! :D

Your 100% correct separate your work life from your personal life.

Never mix business with pleasure

In the last 2 years I`ve lost 4 job because of backstabbing co-workers. They are (as most people today) are very double faced and nosy. If you successful they are jealous at you. If you on the floor and your life is in trouble they feel good because someone has a worst life then they have. They are laughing on you calling a loser behind your back. I`ve reached the point when I said enough. Now I am self employed I have no co-workers, no arrogant boss no any negative people around me. The best decision I`ve ever made.

3:30 "There are no such thing as friends or family.. only temporary interests & situationships."

Currently working place where EVERYONE is enmeshed. Many of them graduated high school together and/ or spouses work here together. I started 6 months ago and, after being here 2 months, I got called into the general managers office (married to the lead HR woman). He asked me if I was making friends with the other women in the office... are you kidding? Uh, not here to make friends, weirdo, I'm friendly with everyone and I do my job. That's why I'm here. There are three 40-something YO women who have referred to each other as BFFs. When we have team building meetings, they all sit together. If one gets up and leaves the table, the other 2 say "we love you". Friggin weird.

The root issue here is that somebody decides whether or not we get our basic necessities.

I made the mistake of thinking that just because you are friends before you work with someone and then work with them, they are your friend. This girl, who i thought was my friend was gathering information from me and reporting me to the boss and spreading lies. Never trust a co-worker ever.

Thank you for the reminder ❤ the older I get, the more that I realise this video is spot on. Love your honesty x

Yeah this goes right up there like people who date coworkers. Personally, I keep in touch AFTER I no longer work as said work place but even that is folly cause you realize the relationships are purely out of situational conditions. (Kinda like high school or college friendships)

Jennifer you are THE most single helpful channel on KZread out there!