Blame the parents, they give the daughters the right to treat those brothers this way. I’m glad you stood up and spoke up for yourself and your brother. You two don’t deserve that type of treatment from your sisters.

It's true! As a nyab, I see these kinds of muam all the time...

I would like to say it’s partially the parent’s fault for taking the girls side and not telling them to respect one another. You have kids must love equally and unconditionally so they will love and respect unconditionally.

Yeej tsis tuaj cov nus tos ib qhov hlo li os. Cov nus ces yeej txiavtxim tsis ncajncees rau cov muam kawg li nawb. Txhob ntshaw ntshaw muaj nus vim nus thiab nyab yeej tsis txawj hlub cov muam ib qho hlo li os. Muaj tej co niam thiab txiv ces pheej hlub cov tub es tseg cov ntxhais rau sab nrau. Cov muam thiaj pheej muaj kev tu siab rau cov nus kawg li nawb. Nkaujmuam nraugnus sib txiav tu qab tu qua nyiag mus ua nyiag neej tsis sib nug hmoo tau ntau lub xyoos lawm yeej tsis muaj hnub yuav tig rov los sib hlub li qub lawm os. Dej txiag pauv siab lawm ces tsis sib nug hmoo ntxiv lawm. Txhob muaj nus zoo dua muaj vivncaus nawb. Vim tias vivncaus tseem txawj sib zamtxim tau dua tej tub nyab uas pheej tsimtxom cov muam nkaus xwb nawb.

Wow koj 2 tus muam no phem thiab tsab ntse tiag2.

Lolololol!! My hubby is completely different from your yawm yij's. I talk a lot of crap about my siblings, but he's the one telling me to be a better sister/person and to be patient with them. He treats them better than I do! 😂

Speak up and stand up for yourself when others disrespect you. If you stay quiet, you're allowing them to continue with this behavior towards you. I rather argue with my siblings rather than have them step on me and disrespect me. Yog lawv yuav tu siab los tu. Lawv tsis txawj xav es txiav yus los txiav! I would rather lose them than lose my self-respect.

Don't worry, son! One of these days, when her husband dont want her no more, she'll come crawlin and bawlin! 😂😂😂😂😂 She better hope that that "one day" doesn't EVER come!!!

Nrog koj tu siab kawg li thiab os, cov muam zoo li koj ob tug ntawd ces nws twb tsis muaj rab teev luj nws tus kheej li es nws ua rau luag los nws thiaj li tsis paub tias tsam txawj mob luag li thiab es nws thiaj li coj li ntawd os mog,tus neeg sawm zoo yuav tau ua zoo, tus neeg tsis sawm zoo ces yuav tau ua kom phem phim nws thiab thiaj li haum os mog.

Txhob tusiab mog tus brother cov muam siab phem li koj 2 tug no ces xam tias nkawv tuag ntev lawm koj yeej tsis muaj muam no es koj thiaj kajsiab cov niam txiv ua coj li koj niam nkawv ces hnub twg koj niam nkawv tuag Kom nws 2 niag ntxhais Liam siab phem ntawv tuaj Pam nkawv mas thiaj yog nawb

Ua nus muag ib zaug yog tias tug dag tug nyiaj noj ma tu siab tshaj.

This is all so wrong! I would be mad at them & never borrow money ever again no matter what my mama says! 😢❤😮

Your sisters are your mom’s favorite children. She wants you two brothers to do everything to support your sisters but doesn’t want your sisters to do much for you. Only give back what they give to you. Don’t go above and beyond for ungrateful people like your sisters. They have no respect and love for you as their brothers. Love yourself, your wife, and children. Don’t pay attention to narcissist sisters.

Tsi tau pom dua ib cov muam zoo li nej cov ko li os.

Your mother raise them that way so they will never grow out of that shelter unless someone higher put them in their place. Smh. You son should have left to college and let your parents deal with those horrible heartless daughters. They and their children are not your problems! Smh.

yog kawg li os niam neej vam yus ntsib yus thiaj li paub

Sorry your older sisters are evil to you two younger brothers. Thank you for sharing your story.

Tus brother 'aw cov tib neeg es khav theeb li koj niag muam no mas...Yuav mus tsi txog qhov twg kiag li...Nej yuav tsum ntse thiab khuv xim yus lub dag zog nawb mog.

Wow xas kom peb cov nus hlub peb lis nej xwb os. Peb ces, yus hlub lawv xwb, yus yeej tsis tau kev hlub los ntawm yus cov nus thiab nyab lis os. Tu siab kawg

Kuv li mas kuv hlub hlub kuv ob tus brothers kawg li nawb vim tsi muaj zoo neej tsa luag yeej tsi hlub yus mog...ob niag muam dev no muaj ib hnub yuav paub xwb mog...Ntsib lawm tiag vim kev thav theeb ne.

To the man in the story… your sisters are that way because of your parents. They taught you to honor your sisters with your love. They didn’t teach your sisters to love you and your brother. Your parents were the ones that allowed them to bring their kids. If your parents said no, they wouldn’t have brought them. As an older man now, forgive your sisters and move on. You can love them without letting them take advantage of you. Know when to say no will prevent you from being hurt. It is okay to say no. We don’t have to work for free. Back then, you did because of your parents. Now, stay away from people who will hurt you. Not all family are taught to love one another. Be strong. You are a wise man.

Phooj ywg, cov muam yawm yij coj li kj ob tug no ces tso tseg xwb es cias seb lub neej yuav xaus li cas mas nawb.

How evil. As the oldest and a sister, I gave my sibs $100 each after I got my first job at 14. Love them so much.

I’m not surprise because I have a sister in law like your sister too.😂😂

I ❤ my nyabs & brothers, they are my favorite people to travel with. I believe respecting your siblings starts with your parents teaching you as a child 1st.

That’s sad I love my brothers I’d go to the moon for my brothers ❤❤❤❤

Kuv hais rau koj tus ua kwv paub tias kuv muaj ob muam ces coj kiag li koj Ob tug thiab ntag

The problem here is your mom. She enabled your sisters to become who they are.

Opposite of this situation. Ob niag nus los kuj siab phem limhiam tshaj plaws li os. Nej tsis tau mag nej tsis paub li nawb. Ob niag nus ces khuj niam khuj txiv nyiaj ntau kawg nkaus li nawb. Tos cov muam thiaj pheej hais kom cov niag nus dev txhob pheej niamtxiv tej nyiaj txiag uas nkawv khwv khwv twb tsis tau siv rau nkawv tus kheej li os. Niamtxiv yug tej pab tub pab ntxhais coob kawg li tiamsis tub muaj nyab ces tub nyab hajyam tsis hlub npaum cov ntxhais uas mus ua qhua lawm nawb. Vim li cas…cov ntxhais yeej tsis txeeb niamtxiv li nyiaj ua lawv tus hlo li. Tiamsis cov tub mas pheej xamkhib tsis xav pub ib xees lab rau cov muam hlo li os. Xyaum muaj ntxhais coob muaj tub nawb. Tub yeej tsis txawj hlub niam hlub txiv hlo li nawb. Txhob cia cia siab rau tej tub kiag li nawb. Yog tias yug tau tub ces muab adopt rau lwmtus xwb. Yog tau ntxhais ces khaws yuav los hlub nej rau yav laus vim ntxhais paub txog lub neej ua ib tus pojniam mas tseem nyuajsiab tshaj cov tub. Ntxhais paub kev txomnyem ntawm ib leej niam txojkev lwjsiab nyav npaum li cas tiag. Cov tub mas tsua yog paub mus ua tej yam haujlwm nyav xwb tiamsis twb tsis paub tswj tsevneeg kom nyob tau sib haumxeeb hlo li os. Tub ces pheej tuaj tuaj pojniam/nyab tos tawmtsam niam thiab txiv kawg li nawb. In my opinion…rather give birth to girls than boys. Boys are sick’s to the stomach. Ntshai tsam tub muaj nyab ces nyab yuav cob tub ua dab los tsimtxom tsevneeg xwb os.

Whenever they want to borrow money, I would just tell them to head to the bank as I'm not a bank.

Yog koj muaj siab muaj ntshws no ces koj rau rau siab mus khwv kom yus tsis txhob tos luag hlub yus na luag tsis hlub yus los yus thiaj tsis txhuam luag nqi os mog

Being an older sister myself, the daughters of this family needs to go take care of their mother in laws & let their brothers & future sil handle their mom/dad. All they can do is be friends/respect their future sil so they will take good fare of the parents. They need to understand they are no longer in the family. Also haven't these sisters heard of daycare for their kids? Or work different shifts. Its not their family responsibility to take care of their kids. These sisters act like their husbands going to love them forever. Lol. Gurls you still need your family to back u up when your husband cheat or beat u. Respect urself & your family thats a problem when u dont.

I think we all have a sibling like this. They think they are better than others. The narcissistic behavior will ruin their life. Karma has its way.

Peb hmoob feem ntau cov nus phem neej nyab nus dab laug tsis hlub cov muam Cov nus tsua hlub cov muam thaum ua lub neej zoo xwb Yog muam txom nyem cov nyab nus tsis K tsis hlub tsis pab?

It’s your fault for allowing your sisters to take advantage of you. You knew your sisters don’t care about you yet you kept letting them push you around. You should’ve put your own priorities and needs first.

Kawm ntawv siab npaum cas, muaj nyiaj npaum cas, nyob lub tsev zoo npaum cas, lub neej zoo npaum cas los ib hnub tom ntej yeej yuav tuag mus nkag ib lub same size qhov av xwb os

Yog kuv cais tsis ntsia ob nyuag muam mua hlob no li

Yog koj muab siab zoo dhau lawm ces lwm tus yuav saib yus tsis muaj nqis. Kev pab yuav tsum ntsuas seb puas tsim nyog. If you help them with no limit then they don’t appreciate. No one to blame but yourself.

Tus muam zoo li kos tsis tas hlub li os tej tug muam tsab ntse dhau hwv lawm tas pab li os.

It seems the parents are to blame for enabling your sisters behavior. Not saying your sisters are not at fault too bc as adult, they dont know their boundaries. They think they can tell you brothers what to do as if you guys are children. That clearly shows they dont respect you. As much as they like to talk, they can't do much for anyone. Sad

Tsis txhob mloog tej niag muam dev no cov lus li os

Tej zaum tiam tag los nej thsuav neb ob tug muam nuj nqi os....

Your sisters are all talk, no action. Your parents are not being fair..

Cas kuv niag niam pog hle hlo kuv niag thaub txoj hluas kub 1 npaj nws yeej coj qub tag coj mus pauv 2 txwg qhws ntsej rau nws 2 tug ntxhais nws nyob qab tswj hwm ntawm nws Tus nuam hlob xwb nws twb tsis txawj tu siab as

One last thing, your sisters are like that bc of your parents. Koj niam nkawv muab tsa cov ntxhais tws ntxiab dhau lawm ne! I treat ALL my kids equally. I praise them all equally, leaving no one out. I teach them to love and respect each other. Though I hate some of the hmong customs, i teach my daughters to treat their brothers "right." That they will need their brothers one day. My kids are all grown adults now, but they all (except for 1. She's married and has a life of her own) still live with me and their father. They are siblings, but they act nothing like siblings. Instead, they act like BFFS!! Kuv li mas, kuv NTXUB cov niag hmoob uas khav khaaaaavvvv theeb thiab nim ua thaj loj loj!! I like those who are down to earth and humble. Cov neeg khav theeb thiab ua thaj loj loj li ntawv ces kuv twb tsis tig ntsias os!!!

Your family are enablers and you guys allow them to act like that.

Cov niag muam lim hiam li no ces yus do by your own do not wait for them

Aubyau neb ob niag sisters ko ces muab tso khib nyawb xwb mas 😅😅😅peb yeej tsis coj li li ko rau peb cov nus hos peb cov muam los yeej tsis coj li ko thiab 😅

Tsis txhob pab cia kom nws Pom kiag tias ua phem ces tau phem xwb

Cov muam no tuag mas just nyob Deb Deb pos qhov ntswg kiag xwb nawb

Hmoob mekas cov ntxhais yeej liam liam thiab lim hiam tsi paub cais kiag li, loj tuaj kiag ces niaj hmos mus nrwb qau mus nrog hluas nraug pw cuag niam txiv, ib qhos dej num yeej tsi kam ua, thaum mus yuav kiag txiv lawm ces ho tig loos tuaj khoos tej nyab tej nus kom ua li ub li no, cas kuv yuav dhuav peb cov hmoob mekas tas npauv li os lawv, cov ntxhais no heev dhaus qau lo yees loj, cuav lo cuav zos noj tom niam tais xwb, siab lo phem thiab nyaum heev tsi muaj muam lo txhob ntshaws kiag!

Ua ca cov muam dev no thiab niam txiv los phem ib yam nkau lis tsis tas yuav hlub niam thiab txiv lis cia ob niag muam dev ntawm hlub xwb los mas muam siab phem tiag2 lis kuv lis tub ntxhai los kuv yeej hlub ib yam hos cov muam kawm ntawv siab kawm tau master degree lawv twb tsis khav theeb lis lawv ua hauj lwm yeej tau nyiaj siab thiab los lawv yeej saib cov nus txim txiaj rau nqi tia lawv yog nus muag no lawv yeej sib2 hlub sib2 pab kawg lis

Yog ua cas es neb ob kwv tij twb paub tias ob niag muam ntawm twb tsis hlub neb puag thaum ntxov es neb pheej yuav mus tos luag kev pab ua dab tsi luag tsis hlub tsis pab yus ces yus txawm yuav tu siab yuav muab luag tuaj hais Lin mas you wróg you are not right so you can do your own don’t ever wait for someone help you

Your sister are divas. Don't help them after today. Tell them you have a life and other things to do.

Muab mloog mas koj twb Pom tias koj tus yuam Yij thiab tus muam nkawm khwv npaum li cas lub neej thiaj muaj es koj twb tsis rau siab kom yus muaj noj muaj haus es luag tej thiaj saib taus yus pob yus twb tias yus niag muam yeej ib txwm tsis hlub yus puag thaum me me tuaj lawm es koj tseem cia siab rau tus neeg uas ib txwm tsis hlub yus

Cov sister zoo li xwb ces kuv tsis yuav ua muam kiag li lawm os. Siab phem tiag tiag.

Neb Ob tug muam no yuav khwv kaus neb thiab noj neb niam thiab txiv nkawm noj xwb

Yeej yog li ib niag muam no hais lawm tej lus no neb Ob tug uas yog nus neb muab lawv cov lus no ua kawm ces neb yeej rau siab pib neb lub neej tsis mus tos Ob niag muam dev no lawm vim nkawm twb tsis hlub neb puag thaum tseem me me los lawm

Cas yuav khav theeb ua luaj li os tej niag poj hmoob ntse aw....tej niag muam dab tsi es cas yuav tsis paub txaj muag thiab tsis paub cai ua luaj li os....kawv ntawv siab2 es coj li koj 2 niag muam ko xwb ces quav dev.

As adults, you can only be a victim if you ALLOW yourself to be one, especially in situations like the ones you are describing where you actually have have the ability to say "NO" but choose not to. Assuming your story to be true, if your sisters are willing to lie to others about you and your brother not loving them as sisters, why won't you and your brother be willing to set the record straight?! Keeping your mouth shut about the truth only allows your sisters to continue in their disrespectful ways toward you and your brother. You want an end to this "woe is me" sob story, you need to let others know the truth, again, assuming you are truly telling the truth!

My goodness

Sounds like your sis put herself n husband on a pedestal and overruled yall because of selfishness. It's very toxic, thanks for sharing!! Respect is not hard to give.

Peb cov yog poj dab xwb! Dhuav tshaj plaws li os ntuj teb es. Tub nkeeg tshuav tuag xwb. 😂

Like brother, like sister. You only think you’re right, but you are 100% wrong. To earn respect and be loved, you have to do it first.

Perception is the key here. I think you and your sisters only see what you all want to see. It could be that your very educated sisters don't respect you brothers as much as you want them to. But you can be the better person, invite everyone sisters, brother, parents, bils and sil and have dinner together. You can then have an open, transparent conversation about your issues..hoping no one will het offended. Good luck to you brother!

Cov neeg coj li koj Ob tug muam dev no ces kawg mag ncaws mag ua poj nrauj xwb

Muaj muaj plhus ces thiaj mag nrauj ua poj nrauj li no ntag

I would move far away from the parents and sisters. You need to stand up for yourself and not let people take advantage of you.

All i am saying is that my husband being the youngest.. have 2 older brothers were disrespected as well during my FIL funeral. One of my older sister held the funeral money..my husband he learned his lesson of not stepping up as much and he should have been vocal about this... but they were so disrespectful calling all the brothers stupid and not man enough they all said they wish they were boys.. even the married one....in this story The brothers should have stepped up.. and been vocal about it. The sisters sounds like theyre a PAIN in the behind. Sounds like alot like my husbands family.... for the longest time my SIL dictated my husband our marriage and was manupulative as ever. ...but now hes learned and we dont live in the same home. And learning to love each other with boundaries. Everything is a learning experience. Main thing is learn to be respectful to each other!!

Nej niam phem ib yam nkaus Kuv niam tiag.

It's your Parents fault for enabling your sisters selfish behaviors!

This happened because your parents allow it to happen. Setting the tone for your kids is hard, but one can't pick and choose. It needs to be fair across the board for everyone. I'm not saying it's completely their fault, but everyone has to learn from their own action, and if your sisters don't, it's on them. But you can. I hope it works out for you.

😂😂😂, I'm embarrassed for this type of sisters.

My family and mom is the completely opposite. My mom worships my 2 brothers. Per my mom one day the boys gonna carry her head and their last name . She saves the chicken legs and chest for them us sisters we eat left over. She saves all her money to the boys just like your mom did for your sisters. My mom kaus us sisters saying she has not money but give money like leaves to her sons. We help my parents before and after work her boys sitting home do nothing.

Evilness runs deep.

Tim niag maum dev laus xwb

I sense there is a lot of hostilities between you and your sisters otherwise you won't come online to vent your frustrations. You need to be firm and don't let them get away with things. Good luck.

Ntuj aw nej yim neeg ko mas mob hlwb tshaj plaws. Tsos tseg tsis mloog ntxiv lawm. Nej yim Hmoob mob hlwb

I can’t even listen to the full story. These sisters are sooo annoying!

i know why your sister’s husband dont like you guys…. its because they dont even like your sisters. if i was them i would be grumpy too. the way you describe them it sounds to me like they are fed up with them.

I don't know but, grow some hair on ya ballons....ya bro and sis need to get along,

My hubby is not on nobody side lol

It’s because ur mom & dad allow them to do that to u & ur brother. It’s ur parents fault. That’s wat Tracy gets!!

Why you guy always wait for your sisters to help you

How does one submit a story to her? I don't see an email or contact information anywhere.

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I don’t respect cov tubnyab ib qho hlo li nawb. Vim tub ua tsis taug txiv ces nyab ua txiv kom tub muab tub tsevneeg tsimtxom xwb ntag. Txhob ntshaw ntshaw nyab tsam tau nyab ces nyab saum ntxhab ces nyab ua pojniam yuav tua tsevneeg povtseg xwb nawb.

It’s ur guys parents fault and cause the issue

Neb ruam tsaj Tracy

Yeej muaj ntau os cov muam tsab ntse li ko na...kuv twb pom los lawm..

Me kwv aws koj twb paub zoo lawm tias koj Ob niag ntsej muam thiab yuam Yij no tsis txhob kov txav dev deb xwb rau rau siab khwv kom yus yeej nws kiag nyias ua nyias neej xwb tsis txhob care txog cia nws tuag nws mus xwb