Mab, you look like a flight attendant 😊. Very beautiful!

Should have listened to your mom. She has good mommy instincts

@xayxiong1061

8 ай бұрын

Agreed!

Great story, it’s a lesson to learn, thank you for sharing your experience with us

This is what happen when you’re desperate for a man’s love.

Red flag!! When he asked to loan money.

Thanks for sharing your unjust love experience.

Geeze lady! The moment he tells me to cut my mom off, he’s no longer in my life. People need to learn to love themselves!

@pogtxawjtshiavchannel4659

8 ай бұрын

Agreed

Leejtwg kom nej cov Pojniam RUAM nov ntshaw ntshaw qau thiab nyiam2 mus khaws neeg Khib-nyiab los yug as.

I'm sorry this happened to you but please don't beg for love. Seems like you sold yourself to him.

You were expecting too much from a man who really didn’t love you. Don’t let boundaries crossed. Keep your dignity and move on.

Cas koj pheej hais tias nws hlub koj hla hlo nws use koj xwb nws tsis tau hlub koj tsuas yog koj hlub nws xwb vim koj too desperate for men to love you

We women need to stop catering to these losers. Txhob ua neeg zoo rau cov txiv neej no os. Lawv twb tsis tseem ceeb los lawv qhov ego mas koj tshaj.

@nouyang3166

8 ай бұрын

When will these women learn that we don't need a man. She sold herself to him.

@cealla999

8 ай бұрын

Amen

@ThePrincessWorrior

8 ай бұрын

Es tsis ua li cas tsis tau qau los mos. Twb nqhis nqhis qau ces yuav tau ua ntxhua yam

Never loan so much money out to your boyfriend/girlfriend no matter how much you’re in love… you should of used him to the end

Zoo mloog heev 👍 👏 👌

OMG Lesson Learned!!! Never give your money and all your time to a stranger!!! Self-Love is the key to protect yourself ❤

Boyfriend girlfriend family borrow$...they never pay back..

Zoo heev li os

A couple things. 1. Your bf is just not that into you. 2. Mom knows best. Should’ve listened to your mom.

Yep, he used you. Never borrow any money to anyone. If that person really needs that, there's banks everywhere.

When he requested you to cut ties with your own mom that was RED flag right there!

Well, momma know best. So next time listen to her and pay attention to the red flags. That guy have no respect for you and so are his children. They are right, you are just the roommate. Learn to love yourself and don't move into a big house right away with a stranger. Smh. Hope this be a lesson learned and you be smarter next time.

Yup, Being Nice Get's You Use & Play For A Fool ... This Happens When You Love A Man & All He Does Is Hurt You Day In & Day Out ... If He Don't Respect You, His Kids Won't Respect You ... That's The Truth!! Don't Ever Borrow Money To Anyone When They Always Promise Everyday They Will Married You But Wouldn't ... He Wants To Help You, So You Could Do A Lot In Return! It's Not For You That's He's Helping! He Needs To Help You, So Later On Ask You For More Help Then He Is Wanting To Do For You! He Only Needs You For Support When He Don't Have Anything!! Don't Force Anyone To Call You Mom, It's Never Gonna Happen If Their Dad Is Just Living With You! I Understand.. So Sad, But We Live & Learn & We Become Smarter!!

Ntuj txiav txim thiaj li ncaj

Kuv xav ma peb cov viv ncaus nkauj nrab yov yuav txiv ma yuav tau coj mus rau koj niam pab saib i like2 your mommy

One advice sister! Txhob maj vwm zoo siab rau tus neeg ua lab qhua kev hlub rau koj nawb! Cov txiv dev yawg nrauj tiam no lawv nyiam ua zoo dag koj heev ! Kuv twb mag ib zaug ntxiab lawm kuv thiaj kawv tiav qhov koj mag ko kuv yeej chim siab heev tabsis kuv mas zoo qhov tias nws yog lawyer es pab kuv pauj kev chim siab ntau heev ntawm kuv tus qub txiv lawm es muab xam tias kuv ntiav nws xwb!

His fake love made you blind.

Nov Yog lub neej tseeb uas feem coob tau ntsib thiaj yuav tau ntsib ua ntu zus. So, Try hard to workout in your first relationship before you move on es thiaj tsis ntsib Tej no!

zoo kawg mas cov niam nrauj ces kawg li koj xwb tiag

Honestly she should of just wrote a contract before she gave him that money. So sorry for her suffering. She deserves way better.

Title: nyiam tus cwjpwm tsis nyiam tus tibneeg thiaj li tsis xav yuav...

Nws zij ncauj tas yog yaim poj nrauj xwb os. Txiv neeg tsawg2 lawm os

Caag nub nuav koj naav khaub ncaws li niam tais ci nplas lawm na hehe😊

Viv ncaus cas yuav ntseeg cov yawg nrauj ua luaj li nas hlub yus tus kheej ua ntej tso mas 😢

When dating, don’t give them anything, don’t fall for the “going to marry”. You don’t have to “fit” them, they have to compromise with you. When it comes to $$$, where’s his? If he has no money, don’t bother with loser boy, they’re just using you. Take your time to find a mate, step outside of Hmong people, so much less headache.

@Peter123969

8 ай бұрын

Lol why do does it have to be a race issue? My sister have been with a few meka guys. They are losers! There are many losers in every race. Lol. The guy in the story doesn't seem like a loser to me. He chose his children over her. The only issue was that he refused to pay her back. Which was wrong. He should have paid her back. It's common ex lovers refuse to pay what they owe to the other person when things go south in the relationship. Not saying it's right but it's a fact.

@magicalunicorn5853

8 ай бұрын

@@Peter123969 so many stories women pigeon hole themselves to just dating Hmong. It’s not about race but finding the right match for who the persons values.

Yeej yog li tus menyuam hais ov.. kuv cov step kids los lawv yeej hu kuv lub npe xwb los kuv tsis kkk.. os tsuav lawv respect kuv as a person like not a bitching step mother! 😊kuv cov los lawv yeej hu kuv tus husband the samw too! Peb sib yoog sib pab xwb we have no problem.. peb tsis perfect but there are ways we could arrange to make our life better and less headed!

Ladies when you ask a guy that if he has money and he does not have shit, time to drop that loser and move on, he is only going to use your ass and drop you as well. Play the game smarter. Remember your worth.

No one should force a child to call someone "mom" or "dad". That should come freely from the child/children. Even if the child/children are adults. I don't agree with this Hmong tradition of forcing children to call the step-parent "mom" or "dad".

@ThePrincessWorrior

8 ай бұрын

My mom remarried, i never called her new husbands father. I called them by name or just “you”

I love ❤️ your outfit!!

Peb cov poj niam hmoob mas yog tus twg ua dev nquag thiab ua zoo rau nws mas nws xav tias tus ntawv yog neeg zoo no nej tsis paub tias cov ua dev nquag ntawv ces ua nau txhias qum txiv neej ua nau txhias paum xwb no los cas nas lawv ua kom lawv siv tau yus xwb nas hauv lawv siab lawv tsis yog neeg zoo nas peb cov poj nrauj aw kuv hnov ntau zaj neej neeg cov yawg nrauj hais lus mos thiab ua zoo2 mas poj niam xav tias lawv hlub nej tiag2 no los poj hmoob ruam aw, cov lawv yuav2 koj mas lawv tsuas muaj pub nyiaj pab nyiaj rau koj xwb mas thiaj yog tus yuav2 koj thiab hlub koj hos tus pheej yuav kom koj pab nws ces nws xav kaus nej xwb los nej nim zoo2 siab txog thaum lawv kaus txaus ces lawv muab nej pov tseg xwb mas txhob cia siab cov ua zoo2 os nawb pab nej cov poj nrauj tu siab txog cov neeg dag nej noj nej haus.

Pov nkawv ntshaw yog nraj siab phem cais li kod

Yog koj ntse, koj twb twm raug thaum nws yuam kom koj muab koj niam lawb lawm. Ib tug hluas nraug twg lam tau lam hais lus yuam koj li no tsis zoo ua leej twg tus txiv tsev ib zaug li.

Yog yus twb muaj dua ib lub neej los lm tsim nyog koj nkag siab tias twb g tau sib yuav twb txais koj nyiaj ntau baum ntawv na es ho yog zoo hluas nraug li cas os. Qhov ntawm kev txais nyiaj rau hluas nraug yuav tsum sau check lwm hnub nws g kam them los koj mus hais tau rov los ho nej muab nyiaj ntsuab txais rau lawv xwb ces tag li g tau rov qab unless koj tus hluas nraug yog neeg ncaj nawb.😂😂😂

The boyfriend and his son have some financial behavior problems and they made irresponsible choices. Nonetheless, there is no right or wrong when it comes to what your boyfriend’s children should call you, by your name or “mother.” They get to make that decision. However, trying to understand and accept somebody for who they are, even when they don’t agree with you-that’s what make people respect you. But a lesson learned.

Txoj kev ntshaw txiv na paub lawm los

kablia koj zoo nkauj, koj xoos mus ua tus flight attenant lawm os//ehaaaaa

Mab, you look so beautiful in this picture.

Txhob tu siab tsuav nws tsis ntshai tsam npam nws tu tub nyab lo puam chawj lub ntuj mam pab koj txiav txim...

Ua cas koj txoj kev hlub muaj tej yam thooj ๆ kuv lub neej thiab txoj kev hlub thiab Yog tias koj tus hlub neb txaus siab los nyob ua ke lawm no los tseg Hos yog neb ho tsis sib yuav no puas kam hloov los txais tos kuv na Hmoob thaib

Koj niam ntsia koj niag laib koj niam yeej paub zoo lawd , tej laus luag pom dheev luag paub kawg li os , ncauj gab rog nplaig gab ntse ntxias noj ntxias ghe li no ntag

Lub npe haib ua luaj ❤❤❤❤

Koj tsib txhiab cais nge txiv neej xwb lawv tsis yuav koj li os poj ruam ntshaw txiv neej aw , Paub li cais yog paub lig los maj !

Wow family ko siab phem tiag li. Tsis txhob ntshaw tej tus neeg siab phem li no that's sad.

Nev nev yawg nrauj poj nrauj ntxias noj ntxias haus nev nev nev

Nej paub tsawg cov nraug nrab xav tau tus mos2 xwb os

Tus txiv neej no tsis hlub koj os nws hlub koj tus Niam hluas hauv xwb.

Yog kawg koj ntshaw nws dhau lawm koj txaus koj siab muab $5000 rau nws o paub lawm po txoj kev tawv ncauj tsi mloog niam hais o paub lawm po

Men like this dude is the reason why I’m keeping my husband

Hahahaha! I knew the karma was coming up! Congratulations to you lady, you win! 😂 Hope this was a learning experience to you.

Qhov hais tias nws nyiam2 koj mas nws yeej tsis qias koj peb yeej tias nws ua neeb nqis hiav mas tab sis koj txhob xav tias lawv ua tau neeb nqis hiav ces yog lawv hlub2 thiab nyiam2 koj no nawb los peb txiv neej ces txawm koj tsis hlub tsis nyiam los txog thaum dab caum lawm lawv yeej ua tau neeb nqis hias hos

Ua dev thawj thiab xwb es tseem ua heev npaum li ko muab cov niag dev tsw lwj lawb dab xwb...Cov niag dab tuag ntxhaib no puas yog lub npe tseem tseem os tus niamtsev os...Vivncaus aw kev npam nyob ze ze lawm os nws yeej yuav tsi dim nws lub txim kiag li nawb koj saib mus yeej yuav pom kiag xwb os.

Moms know best. See, u didn't listen to her both times and look at how both your relationships failed. I hope next time u listen to her.

It’s sad that some people fall victim to these scums baggage. If anyone children disrespect me like this man kids did to her. I would have left. Children play a roll of people marriages that don’t workout. These grown ass children think they can still live with people for free. Also for parents that let their children live for free and don’t pay shit. Y’all creating a monster out of them. I have three grown ass kids and they help me pay bills. If they ain’t going to school they need to work and help me pay bills. No one living with me for free. Or they can move the fuck out and pay their own bills.

raug siv puas khib nkauj fa ces kawg li koj xwb tiag

U look so gorgeous in this outfit, sis

Nev yus txoj kev ruam os paub lospo.

koj noj nceb tsis taug cav ces kawg raug dag li kos ntag mas

He not marrying you because he you are being too easy. He just used you. I’m an OG but I never live with a man before married.

5 grand I expect much more from that boy much2 more, a bunch of free loaders

I guess he was planning this before he met you.. sorry this happened to you but I lesson to learn... you shouldn't gave him any money ..

Paum cuab ces ua, nyiaj pub dawb ces siv. 😊

Cov neeg zoo li no kuv twb ntsib lawm mob hlwb tas tas 😭

Uas cas zoo lis koj yuav ntshaws txiv uas luaj nas? Twb tsis tau sib yuav lawv tsis hus los yeej tsis uas cas lis?

Dang, you dodge a bullet there. What a horrible family.

Dump him move on.he uses you not love you or want to committ

FOOM KOM NPAM NES XWB MAS

Tus me niam tais aw ua cas koj pheej hais tias tub yeeg tub yees thisj yog

Ua cas es cov niag pog niam hmoob no zoo li nej yuav desperate rau txiv neej ua luaj na!… Your mom is not negative, she’s smart and not desperate. Kuv mloog mas koj muab mus desperate dhau lawm os. Listen to your ma, she’s right.

@thestoryofmylife6979

8 ай бұрын

When you are tooo desperate, txiv neej saib tsis taus yus na. Because they know how desperate you are and take you for granted.

You can’t buy love, no matter how much you have. Don’t be desperate

This lady too desperate.

Don't force children to call you "mom or mother", you have to earn it from them. You are not their mother so don't dam it from them. It takes a lot to be a mother to a child. You have to love them and care for them. Don't claim the title if you cannot love them. Marriage is not that glamorous but when you are young and in love, it seems like the end of the world without each other. It takes two to make a couple, a child or 2 to make a family. It takes a stable marriage to build a life together. If I am divorced, I too will not want to jump into another marriage. Like I said, "It's not that glamorous", definitely far from the movies.

You dodge a bulley

koj nim tsis ntseeg koj niam o! koj nim qhua qhua koj the niag hluag nraug o ! pom tsis pom paub tsis Paub ! tej Lau luag yeej paub dua yus !

You did it to yourself! 🙄🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

hahaha koj niam mas ntse tshaj koj hos koj ruam tshaj nws koj thiaj li raug dag

There’s a saying that says “why buy the cow when you get the milk for free”. Have some respect for yourself and know your self worth. When you respect yourself he will respect you.

Tsis tau yog koj tu txiv es koj muab $5000 rau dab tsi no na...nws tu tub nws yuav tsa yim thiab tsis tsa lo yog nws teeb meem lo mas...

Him and his kids only used you for a home. They are all losers so be happy that it ended. It’s a blessing in disguise that he didn’t marry you. Sounds like he was never into you, he just wanted a roommate with benefits and you fit the bill. Learn to love yourself before you get into the next relationship.

Free rent why not.

ม้าเธอเหมือนหญิงพนักงานอยู่บนเครื่องบิน

Ladies don't invest too much into these second relationships. Use him too. It is no wonder his ex wife left his stupid ass. This is why I don't get remarried and don't date losers.

You should have voiced to your bf instead of the son. If I'm only dating, I don't want my bf's kids to call me mom until I marry him.

Your mom was right, he’s just using you. You should’ve listened to your mom. When he told you to cut your mom off and borrowed money from you, you should’ve known he’s using you, he doesn’t really love you.

wow! koj zoo li tus flight attendant os es puas yog ne los?

Hm….I don’t know why you would ask him to marry you when u don’t like the kids much and they don’t have much respect to ur rules?? U need to stand strong on ur rules, and not go easy on it. If that is what makes u happy and feels respect, keep it. Let him go if he doesn’t respect and doesn’t teach his kids to respect you. That means, u didn’t mean much to him and he wanted someone who becomes his slave and his kids’ slave. U should know better. Lesson learned.

He didn’t marry you yet why you expect to call you mom you just shaking up with his dad You are the one act fault Your guy friends is right you are not there mother why you expect so much

@ThePrincessWorrior

8 ай бұрын

She thought $5k can buy her that title 😂

U can't expect his kids to call u "mom" when u aren't married to him. U are wrong in that.

@ThePrincessWorrior

8 ай бұрын

Even married, still can’t have that expectation. They will call you that when you have proven yourself enough to be one in their live. Otherwise, your name will be the most respected way to call you.

Your at fault...

Sorry, not with you. First, he looked and sounded like a freeloader to begin with. Second, yes, you were wrong to force his children. Your heart is not big enough to accept and love his children they way they are. Third, Love and respect is earned when it comes to this type of arrangement.

@ThePrincessWorrior

8 ай бұрын

Oiy!!! Not with her. She should be able to buy all that with “borrowing” $5k 😂

yawg nrauj pog tso ruam ib yam pluag ib yam txom nyem ib yam, koj niam mas hais yog thiab saib pom hais lus xwb twb paub tias yog tib neeg phem lawm, ua nkauj ua ntsaug tau 2 - 3 xyoo tsis sib yuav ces tsis txhob tos tsis txhob cia siab ov mog, pog qhev tseem cia siab yuav los ua niam tsev pab tsis tau koj pab tu siab, zoo neb tsis yuav tsev ov mog,

Women want love so I don’t blame you 100% for giving into his words. But after awhile we should really look into men’s actions too - he will show you if he wants to be with you or not. And clearly he showed he didn’t. Men will know VERY SOON if they want to marry someone. It won’t take this long.