But the problem is they will FIRST alienate you from your family and friends BEFORE they escalate the abuse....therefore you have no one looking out for you....

"Don't worry girls I've got her." hearing that from her mum was such a relief, it's horrible that this could & always happen to anyone, we never really know the person we're with until they show their true colours.

"Unless you don´t trust me.", was a line I´ve heard nearly a year everyday. Leave this relationship behind before it gets you.

This triggered me so much. There are so many men like this. It’s like a pandemic of narcissistic abuse. If your body is telling you something isn’t right please leave. It’s exhausting to keep fighting for someone like this. They never change they just get worse. I have a protective order against my ex. He put his hands on me three times. I left on the third time. But honestly I should have left when the control and manipulation started. When the emotional abuse started because the physical abuse came shortly after.

I was just thinking the other day that being an "asshole/bitch" has saved me countless times. Remember, loves, when you say "no" - you do not have to explain it. "I'm good/I'll pass" works too. And dont feel guilty about blocking people who make your tummy turn. Trust your gut, and stay closed to your loved ones. The right kinds of people won't push your boundaries. Trust is built not expected.

This needs to be taught in schools . I didn’t know what a toxic narcissist was until I was in my early 30’s ! I thought the toxic word was a kind of dangerous substance only 😂 So many don’t understand about abuse & toxicity within a human until in the thick of a relationship

I was in a relationship once where I wasn't allowed to pick my own clothes, if I was outside I had to keep my eyes on the pavement, I wasn't allowed to talk to other girls at all for any reason, I couldn't have a mobile phone,laptop,tablet etc. She would even do things like go through the TV guide to circle programmes I wasn't allowed to watch. There were loads of times we'd be out at a restaurant or somewhere else and she'd go mental saying that I was looking at other girls and asking why I was doing this to her even although I had my eyes down. I was the stupid one though for allowing myself to be treated like that and staying with her for nearly 2 years. Thanks for reading my comment I know its a bit long and no one will care but I just thought I'd get it off my chest. ❤✌

Good to see one that’s accurate it starts small and builds slowly

She have a very good support system, when it happened to me, everyone thinks that im the crazy one. There was no marks, nobody believes me, I can't explained, everything is confusing, i can only cry, like a crazy person, even my friends talk trash about me, that makes me confused and doubt my insanity as a bonus with self blame

Thanks for this!!! People don't know they are in an abusive relationship, until they are up to their neck in it. It doesn't always have to be physical. It's mental, verbal and emotional, too

This is about the importance of close friends and family. Throughout the ordeal, she has people who care for her. People on her side.

the emotional abuse is what i feel i'm going through, why people treat people like that is beyond me.

This story started out as a really good example of controlling emotional abuse. I think the escalation to physical abuse turn this into a lost opportunity, of showing how control is abuse in and of itself. We need more examples showing that abuse isn't only physical. Abuser will use something like this video to say "I'm not abusive like that, I don't hit you"

This was literally spot on. I can't believe how well done this was. The way it was filmed with the phone too. I'm so sorry we have to go through things like this. It's so hard once a trauma bond forms. Emotional abuse can be even worse. I almost rather have gotten punched. Get out girls and guys. The sunshine waits on the other side brighter than you realize. I promise you.

Exactly how is starts. All this social media and location is a stalkers/ controllers wet dream. If you find yourself here- just ask for help. Leave and don’t go back. It’s okay. You are not stupid or blind- some of the smartest women I’ve ever met have fallen for it. But we stick together and we don’t stick with abusers...

The instant he was telling her when to call him and bossing her around I knew. The way somebody makes you feel is not unintentional when they make you feel overwhelmed and unorganized. A real lover supports you and embraces you to thrive.

I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 7 years. Watching this brought back memories, painful ones. Everything shown here is true, it happens, all in the name of “love” and “care”. Till we lose ourselves. Get out before it’s too late

I’m shocked how common it is and how I see myself and my ex in this situation.

Well, let me tell you. When my abuser suggested to share my location- I said hell no. You’re a free willed person and don’t let anyone fool you. And stand strickt on what you have said. No means No

Been there! It's really bad when you don't have supportive friends and when you don't have a family.