Control the controllables | Dr. Arman Taghizadeh | TEDxGrandCanyonUniversity
We often get anxious/overwhelmed and stuck on things that are largely out of our control, which reinforces the feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, discouragement and potentially depression. By choosing to direct our attention to those things within our control, we can better navigate the anxiety/fears/doubts that get in our way while improving our chances for success. Three things we can always control are effort, attitude and gratitude. Growing up as a child, Dr. T always wanted to become a teacher and a coach. After competing at the NCAA Division 1 level in wrestling, Dr. T ultimately chose to attend medical school and later did residency and fellowship in adult, child and adolescent psychiatry. Currently as a practicing board certified psychiatrist and sports psychiatrist, Dr. T has combined his knowledge and experience as a competitive athlete, medical doctor and mental health provider to come back to his “Square One.” He is privileged to provide mental health education, support and mindset training to patients, athletes, coaches, parents and competitive businesses. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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The concept of focusing on what we can control rather than what's out of our hands is a game-changer.
“First Attempt In Learning” - that's a keeper. Changes everything!
It's refreshing to hear a professional talk about the mental aspect of effort. I always thought of effort as just physical, but it's so much more. This video is a great reminder of that.
This talk is a must-watch for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's uncontrollables. His personal anecdotes make the advice so relatable and actionable.
Love how the speaker connects his sports background with psychiatry, shows how diverse experiences shape us into whole and complex people
I've always struggled with the idea of failure, but reframing it as a "First Attempt In Learning" as he suggested makes so much sense. It’s all about how we view our challenges.
I really like this message. No point worrying or spending up all our time and energy obsessing over things we can't do anything about
Effort, attitude, and gratitude are such powerful tools. Thanks for the reminder!
This is very inspiring! The fear of failure is a huge driving force of anxiety. Reframing failure itself is a great idea.
This talk really puts into perspective how to navigate anxiety and improve our chances for success.
the wrestling analogy to life's struggles is so apt.
From athelete to psychiatrist... Wow, that's a new one! Thoroughly appreciated the parallels he drew between the skills learned in wrestling and those needed in medicine... How unique and comparable! What passion!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
It's really special when you choose to closely link your passion to your profession.
I think it's really cool that he took the discipline from wrestling and applied it to his medical career. There are all kinds of transferable skills and strengths that we might not know about until we make the swap.
Great talk! Feel like I learn something new every time I listen to Dr T.
I admire this man! I really enjoy the F.A.I.L, and watching him sing to us!!
One of the smartest people I know. Thank you Dr. T
Really interesting! As a former student athlete, Dr. T has helped me in my journey with my mindset about how to look at failure as one step closer to success. So happy he got to share this with everyone !
@dr.t_sportspsych
21 күн бұрын
Thank you! More failures will lead to more successes!
This makes perfect sense and managing stress by focusing on controllables is such valuable advice. It's our attitude towards stress and failure that can change our success rate.
I think we all aspire to meet our family's expectations, even when we may not have the skills or talents to do so. We want that approval more than anything else.
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
It's definitely important but so is choosing the mindset needed to get that approval from within.
Awesome insights Dr. T, I really loved hearing about the translation of the attitude of an athlete into a professional setting. Very inspiring!
Chunking information for better memory seems like a great trick, definitely going to give it a go
Focus on the things that you can control! Love that!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
So important to Control the Controllables!
The world needs more people like Dr. T! What a fantastic job!
@dr.t_sportspsych
21 күн бұрын
Thank you. We can all make the choice to control our controllables and we would all be happier and more successful.
F.A.I.L -- First Attempt In Learning -- The acronym is a powerful technique to frame your setbacks in the overall scheme of a successful life. This profound statement resonates with me. I refer back to this Talk to remind myself that we are all learners in this grand experiment.
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
Thank you. So much value in failure.
Fantastic video! As a Manager I use the FAIL acronym often. Always train my team that not to focus on what did not go right. Focus on what went right and find things to change to work on next time for the areas that didn’t go as planned. Always need to keep your mind thinking positive.
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
The reframe applies to so much more than just sports!
It's easy to get caught up in the academic grind and lose sight of why we chose this path in the first place.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
It definitely can be. Simplifying to intentional areas of focus can really help.
From wrestler to medical school, that's quite a journey. Good talk Arman
@tarasuppleton
3 ай бұрын
ha, you beat me here. Love that we always find these TED gems...
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
Thank you! The journey is all about learning.
Excellent talk. I sometimes forget how important mindset it in your daily life. Great tips and reminder! Good job Dr. T!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Mindset is Everything!
Love this TED talk and super important message. Thanks Dr T!
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
Thank YOU.
So empowering! Thank you for sharing all of your wisdom Dr. T!
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Thank you!
WISDOM! Success is as much about mindset as it is about skill.
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Thank you. I would even say mindset>skill
This really helped shift my focus to such a more positive light!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
How and what you focus is a choice!
Amazing learning and great story! Its like you were put on this earth to be a fighter and a thinker of the best kind. An independent mind finding the best way to contribute to humanity.
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
Really appreciate this
Oh how I relate! I felt the pressure to pursue a prestigious career to make my parents proud. But deep down, I've always had a passion for sports and coaching, just like he did. Badminton and Basketball were my everything! Although I'm feeling a touch of envy, it's refreshing to see someone who did it
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Appreciate you. Hoping others can be inspired to turn their passions into a profession.
Effort. Attitude. Gratitude. Never thought of those 3 words together. Especially the gratitude. Definitely going to be a slogan for my upcoming season with my team. Along with embracing the failures. Every failure is an opportunity to learn. This video summed up the key pieces I like to bring to my team each season, but did it in a much simpler way.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Gratitude is the hardest one but the most important one!
I think I missed the moment that connected his love of wrestling, teaching and coaching with applying for med school but so cool that it all lined up like that for him!
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
"Maybe I was training to be a doctor all along so let me at least apply..."
this is awesome! the overall point of this is very important to me because I try to only focus on what I can control and not what I can't control!
This guy helped me so much!! ❤ Thank you Dr. T :)
Mindset, mindset, mindset! Thanks for the reminder. I'm off to buy the t-shirt.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Mindset is one of the most powerful choices we have!
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity! Yes! More of this please!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Always remember: First/Further Attempts In Learning!
Great presentation. Thank you Dr. T
His whole emphasis on maintaining a balanced mindset and finding joy in the journey reminded me to stay grounded and grateful... Yep. needed that today.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Thank you. When we simplify and focus on the process, we are more likely to improve outcomes.
Reframing failure as a learning opportunity is an attitude everyone should learn when growing up. Definitely a "controllable" in your toolkit.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Reframing is so important, so valuable and so controllable!
Can relate to what he says about the more he focused on winning the less enjoyment he got from wrestling. It's tough lesson but yeah, once you're doing something only for the out come and not the joy of doing it, the joy just goes away
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Really important to focus on the process to make it more enjoyable
Great words Dr. T!
Gratitude exercise sounds like something I should start doing
@dr.t_sportspsych
12 күн бұрын
Intentional gratitude is highly correlated with sustained success! and its fun.
Loved this! I will definitely take these lessons forward as I train for my next Triathalon - mindset is everything!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
It sure is....and most importantly in any endurance race, remember to control the controllables!
This is POWERFUL !! Sharing 🙌🏼
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Thank you! Please do.
Dr. T is the man! I wish I had these tools when I was an athlete myself, but I will certainly be applying them to my everyday life. Thank you for this!
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
I wish I had these tools when I competed as well!
I struggle with knowing what I actually do control, and thats where it all starts for me and the spiral down gets faster.
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
Focus on EFFORT, ATTITUDE, and GRATITUDE!
This was a great watch. Learned a lot from it. Thanks for always inspiring Dr. T!
@dr.t_sportspsych
29 күн бұрын
Thank you!
Love this! Can apply this to so many parts of my life.
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
You really can!
Love this so much, I drew so many parallels to my life being a mom! You have to fall down a few times in order to eventually learn to walk! Will definitely be sharing this with others!!
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Thank you. As athletes, professional and parents, the "controllables" always remain the same!
teamwork and mindset is something I try to instill in myself every day.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
So important and so valuable.
Fantastic! As a late arrival to competitive sports, I can deeply appreciate this important message. Tennis is the love of my life (well, yeah, my husband and kids too). Truthfully, it has been the first window into my psyche, or at least the clearest. The immediate feedback acquired from thoughts, and feelings to outcomes is a thing of beauty. I had a history of snubbing sports as primal, egocentric and wasteful. Now, I see the immense value and all of the important psychological lessons that sports have to offer us and our children. FAILing each time I’m on the court is a gift, so powerful and joyful that I hope all of my patients, family and friends will find it too. Thanks Arman for this poignant talk.
@freedomplace5239
3 ай бұрын
There's nothing quite like mastery of the mind. Everyday counts I tell myself, thanks for sharing what you've uncovered. Apparently we're all in the game!
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
Appreciate the feedback and personal parallels
What an amazing journey he has had following his passions and also being able to live up to his parents' expectations.
@dr.t_sportspsych
12 күн бұрын
Once I simplified my areas of focus and controlled what I could control, my passions lined up with their dreams!
Love this so much!! Thank you so much for the information and inspiring messages Dr. T!!
Great video. It takes a lot of discipline to be a D1 wrestler and eventually a doctor. You can tell he is passionate about his work.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Thank you! The values that wrestling instilled continue to hold for life beyond.
This is an excellent video! Thank you for your insight Dr. T.
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Thank you!
I'm all about this. No point putting your time and energy towards something that's ultimately not up to you to
@dr.t_sportspsych
29 күн бұрын
When you control what you can control, you dedicate your time and energy to things that matter
Great speech and I really enjoyed the way it emphasizes the importance of effort, attitude, and gratitude. It highlights the significance of embracing failures as opportunities for learning and growth. Overall, this video encapsulates the key elements I value in leadership and serves as a reminder to stay grounded and grateful while pursuing success.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
When we simplify and reframe our experiences, we are more likely to be successful.
love this!!💚
Remembering to have the right mindset for the task at hand can sometimes be the missing X factor to success.
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Mindset is Everything!
Balancing familial expectations with personal aspirations can be tough stuff.
@dr.t_sportspsych
2 ай бұрын
Its a struggle but also a privilege
Great video, reframing failure is so powerful.
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
Reframing can make a major difference as the way we think directly influences emotions and actions.
This is excellent
It's not often you hear about the lessons learned from sports translating into success in other fields like medicine. Pretty cool stuff
@dr.t_sportspsych
3 ай бұрын
The parallels are powerful.
Being taught from an early age to reframe failure as a lesson would benefit us all. Not sure how that'd align with certain parents expectations though 😅😅
I don't think enough sporting coaches realize in full the impact they can make in someones life, on or off the field.
First. Attempt. In. Learning. It's only a failure if we let it be!
@dr.t_sportspsych
Ай бұрын
and the FAIL can also help you grow if you let it!
A lot of migrant parents put that kind of pressure on their kids and I've always seen it as not just about the money but securing them as valuable members of the community and honestly it's a shame that other parents don't instill that on their kids
Damn yessir whatever you say 😅😅
Had to laugh that the follow up to "I don't like blood" was how about a dentist? like... there's still heaps of blood in a mouth!!! LOL
This is like a parody of a TEDTalk and self-help culture in general.
I feel like there are a lot of parents out there who are scared of the risks of their offspring make, especially if it can come with long term damage... Heh.
Truly inspirational. A lot of things are made a bigger deal in your mind than they end up actually being in reality. Really shows how strong your mentality can be.
@dr.t_sportspsych
21 күн бұрын
Mindset. Is. Everything!