I read Dr. Shefali book, The Conscious Parent, around one year ago. It was near the new year and I made it my new year resolution to implement what I had learned. Doing this has changed my life. I am still learning and evolving, but I finally feel like the loving, patient, and AUTHENTIC person that my children deserve as a guide. LOVE LOVE LOVED this interview. Both of you are wonderful. And THANK YOU Dr. Shefali!!!

@marieforleo

4 жыл бұрын

Awesome work! Thank you for sharing it here. - Team Forleo

It is so amazing that you answered my question, Marie. You gave me a whole new insight to this topic, and the timing couldn't be better. Thank you so much to you and your guest for taking the time to discuss my question, and I know it helped others as well! :) Since I asked this question (which was a couple months ago)I have been trying to reach that sense of stillness that was mentioned, and I meditate regularly, almost daily, but this has given me even more inspiration and motivation to make some more necessary adjustments. I cannot express my gratitude to you enough!

Always follow your instincts. I was always a laid back parent and had tremendous respect for my children. They are now very confident adults. I had very gentle parents and so could easily pass this on for my children. It just always made sense and was instilled in me since childhood.

After watching Dr Shefalis talks, I have realised that I get triggered by someone saying something is wrong - especially my spouse. I kept saying to him "stop blaming me!" and "stop having a go - it's not MY fault!" I think this stems from all the guilt that was pushed onto me as a child and being led to believe I was to blame for every problem in the house. So now, when my husband says something is wrong, I just acknowledge it and maybe offer a suggestion of a solution. Thank you Dr Shefali, you have changed my life!x

As parents we worry about how our kids will turn out . . . giving them solid values and then every year letting go a little more and shunting over more responsibility (the ability to respond) will have them think independently. They will have their struggles separate from our. Stay curious, stay grounded, stay open and without drama and you'll do fine. I SO agree with Dr. Shefali in "getting out of our own way" AND getting out of our children's way. Parenting isn't a top-down experience if you're doing it well . . . you are learning and growing every step of the way.

Thank you Marie for hosting Dr. Shefali. Since I discovered Dr. Shefali recently, I have tried to apply her parenting principles to my life, and its amazing. Life-changing, no less. I can't get enough of her wisdom, and I learned new things from this interview---wonderful!

Thank and great questions!!! I am triggered when my husband doesn’t validate how I look when I dress up. I have asked myself what would it be like if I just fully validated myself and stopped looking for that from him. I’ve tried it many times and it is really freeing. I think I am out growing the social norm of looking good for men but rather do it for me. Great redo and fix!

One of my triggers is when someone close to me tells me I should do something differently. I am learning first to defend my methods that I know to be right and secondly to take constructive criticism

@tommac21

Жыл бұрын

Don't listen to a word these people say. You'll figure it out. This is total Bullcrap ! Ask how her kids are doing ?

Thanks for the break down…of finding & listening to your own inner voice. I had a very controlling mother who kept imposing her beliefs on me & projecting her egoic insecurities on me, I realized that she was just filling in a void that she never satiated on her own. I grew up feeling lost & directionless because I was being pulled in two different directions. I learned to listen to my own inner voice again & to trust myself. Our own intuition is powerful enough, external voices will only confuse you.

Oh my gosh! I love this! Thank you for sharing! As a mother who was raised by a very controlling mother. I am extremely laid back with my parenting. Sometimes other parents try to tell me I'm TOO laid back. I try to give my daughter all of the freedoms possible. I want her to be free and to be her. This just reinforced everything I've ever known to be right as a mom.

@missyara12

9 жыл бұрын

I hate when others try to tell you how you should be towards your own child. I have an infant and have heard and been hearing what I should be doing for my own baby way before she was born. It's the worst.

@ShellyMazur

9 жыл бұрын

It is the worst. No one but you knows whats right for your relationship with your child. Congratulations on being strong enough to know that you don't have to listen to their "advice".

@Salty-Artist

9 жыл бұрын

Sprinkles of Shelly Good for you! You get it! We are all supposed to learn by example, even if that means(most often) learning how NOT to act from our parent/s mistakes.

@Salty-Artist

9 жыл бұрын

Sorry, don't agree Joseph D T. The more people "generalize", at least attempt to effect "good" parenting, the better we all can be. Parenting should be taught as a skill as most don't have a natural gift for it!

@CnoteTheBeast

9 жыл бұрын

Sprinkles of Shelly I agree with alot said. I also would like to add. As parents we should LISTEN to others advice but decide rather its good advice or bad advice. Bad advice is the way we dont want to raise our child. Try not to think of what WE WANT for our children futures but what can WE DO to make our children better without dictating who they're. All we can do is lead them on the right path and give the best advice to our knowledge. Thats my opinion atleast.

So refreshing to see a psychologist teaching philosophical ideas as therapeutic techniques particularly self reflection and examination. Thank you Marie tv!

This is so beyond being a parent- meaning it's for us the adults about ourselves-as we all had "flawed" parents so each of us need to hear this. I'm so glad to have found this. Marie thanks so much for htis one! I think you say "amazeballs" sometimes Yes!

my trigger from my kids, grandkids, anyone I guess is when I am not appreciated. By show of disrespect, taken for granted and such. I'm aware that it is because of my feelings of unworthiness. I have to remind myself daily, hourly, by minute, how worthy I am, along with everyother being on this planet.

I loved this. Thank you! As a mum to 3 children this really resonated with me. From the video I will work on full filling my needs from the inside rather than from externally and will guide my children to do the same. I'm already on the journey as I recently resigned from my job and set up my own consulting business and have learnt that when I stopped chasing success, success found me in a very different form than what I had originally thought. I'm happy, I have my life back, I'm doing things for me and helping others, I'm making an impact and finally making my mark. Thank you for all you videos, I couldn't have done this without you X

I just want to say this was very touching as most of your talks are Marie! That inner voice is truly what is calling out all the time and we lose it as children, adults and so forth.Truly, amazing!

Loved this episode, Marie! Such great tips for all even non-parents.

I applaud Dr Shefali for her purposeful work. One recommendation would be to use less terminology and new age language because 'regular' folks really need to understand this more than those who are already familiar with terms like "authentic self". Put it in layman terms. All the best with your work.

@letscook63

7 жыл бұрын

levcimac absolutely!!👏🏼

Wow! Lots of nuggets of wisdom in this episode! I really enjoyed this insight in the parenting side of life and am a little surprised but very grateful that you Marie took time to do this interview. I'm happy you acknowledge that a lot of us out there are parents and we need a little guidance in our lives on that side too. Thank you so much!

Great to see people connecting with their inner voice and not being driven by social/outside expectations and that vague, generalized status anxiety we all think we should be keeping up with. Stay true with #mindfulness

Hello Marie, I just watched this again 7 years later, I would love to see you speak about all of this content again. It's life changing. I took pages of notes from it. Katie xo

Oh man! This was so good for me to hear. This is what I've strive for with my kids, I just hadn't known a word for it. I can't wait yo share this with my community of young moms. Imagine if girls were able to grasp this concept at a young age and raise their kids this way, how much that could impact future generations. Thanks so much for this, will be ordering the book!

oh I can see the vision for the future of children & families. I always have felt like there are not many role models out there for the type of parenting that I know is possible so thank you for sharing this!

WOW!!! This has to be one of the most inspiring things I've seen since I began my own work on parenting four years ago. I hadn't heard of Dr Tsabari until today, so I'll be buying her books and looking up other videos featuring her work - as a matter of priority ... I can't wait! Love it, love it, love it!!

Thank You so much dearest 🌹 You’re such an inspiration 🥰 Be Blissful Eternally 🙏😇🌈

Beautiful insight takeways that will facilitate even greater healing for our wounded inner child. Thanks!

Fantastic video! Every human can learn from this wisdom, about interpersonal communication in general.

I definitely sent this interview to my friends and family. Really great interview. Thank you!

This is one of my favorite episodes. Bravo!

So loved this!!!! Thx for sharing!

What a moment to be alive,thank you so much for sharing this💝

Hi . . Interconnectedness & Vibrations of NADA // Listening Intuitively to our own actions and words and listening to Children w HEART

Wonderful and exalting, thank you

Loved this episode!!! You're amazing!

Absolutely brilliant interview, thank you.

Amazing interview! So many words of wisdom!

What triggers me is disobedience. I have a very difficult relationship with my son because of that. He's a brave little soul, a strong character and hates compromises just as much as I do. So we are in a constant state of war. War for power. I know that this is all my problem, I know where it comes from in my childhood but I fell to control that inner monster, this EGO of mine... This leaves me feeling hopeless. I wish I lived in NY so I could visit dr Tsabary. It's hard if not impossible to find a good therapist, who specializes in this aria here.

Well...wow! Only just come across Dr Shefali, thank you for bringing us this absolute gem, Marie! I’m not a parent but got such a lot from this regardless: “detaching from our insatiable desire to have our needs be met from the outside”... quote of the month I think!🌈🙌

Justo lo que necesitaba ❤️ Thank you so much for this amazing interview!

Love this especially because I'm a brand new mom i will be more conscious of the way I raise my daughter

Wow, just what I needed to hear right now. Thank you x

This is very helpful. I am a new mom and this is very helpful. Thanks for posting.

This is such a fantastic video. Thank you so much Marie for bringing Dr Tsabary on to shed light on this topic.

Amazing video. Can't thank you enough for this. It bought tears to my eyes. That challenge you laid out in the end was amazingly helpful. I didn't realise the connection between what my children say and the lack of self worth I have. It's so obvious now that I've answered those questions. I am a recovering perfectionist and have experienced many times as a child that desire to 'rewind the clock'. I used to wish I 'wake up from my dream' and be able to do the recent months and even years over again. So grateful for that insight into what that is really about.

@aliciasibole4673

9 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear you're a recovering perfectionist and it's nice to see I'm not the only one wanting to rewind the clock! I'd love to hear more about how you've recovered from this from you're perspective, if you don't mind sharing. :) (PS I'm the one who's question was in the video)

@compacngv

9 жыл бұрын

Alicia Sibole Hi Alicia :) you are brave for asking that question! For years I kept quiet about my wish to be able to redo my life. I didn't want anyone to know because then they would know I've made mistakes and I desperately wanted to keep that hidden. I thought if I didn't talk about it, I could pretend these things didn't happen. It would drive me crazy that my mum would call me a perfectionist. Whenever I heard her say that it sounded so negative. So I started to move away from my perfectionist tendency in small ways - like not measuring the ingredients properly when cooking, turning a blind eye to my unmade bed, telling myself I didn't care if someone didn't prepare a meal the 'right' way etc. At first it was just lip service and made me nervous but eventually I started to actually not care about having to do things 'right'. The one mistake I made at the time with this approach was not following up on why I had to do things 'right'. I didn't go inside, I thought instead there was something wrong with me, that been a perfectionist was a shameful thing. A few years ago I started to address this issue, it's taking time, but I am learning that I am worthy and loved as I am, perfectionist or not. I am learning to embrace what I do, what I like and how I am. Acceptance is key. I would encourage you Alicia to go inwards, learn to find peace in being with yourself now, accept who you are now (with all you like and don't like), and that authentic self that is you can shine. Thanks for starting the conversation :) It's really helped me x

@aliciasibole4673

9 жыл бұрын

Cara Wow, I can relate to your story so much, and you've really inspired me - thank you. Just reading the "turning a blind eye to my unmade bed" got me feeling weird, because I don't think I could ever do that, but if you can do it, I think I can, too. I understand that it is a process that takes a long time, so I'll be working on it until I focus on what I'm feeling inside instead of all external. Thank you so much again for sharing with me!

@compacngv

9 жыл бұрын

Alicia Sibole Sounds like you're onto it Alicia :) It is a process, like you say. I was always impatient to get to the perfect end result, but am finding that enjoying the journey is really more fun. All the best x

wow!!!! just discovered this episode!!!!! my two life guides!!!!!

woooow this episode is awesome I love it so much and dr.shefali is very beautiful thank you very much

Beautiful conversation... :)

dr. shefali! ♥

Superb ! This is need of Time !

Great video!

I needed to hear this

AMAZING!!!

Aaah Marie Forleo! You are amazing. Kind regards. I' m your fan. Brazilian National Flag. Xo. Beijo.

As a working mom 9-5 anyone have advice balancing life and motherhood? It seems I'm always rushing... Rushing getting dress in the morning, rushing not to be late, rushing to cook dinner and get ready for the next day. It's so exhausting.Any tips! please =)

A great interview! I recommend Conscious Parenting on my website as I have found it so helpful. Most helpful I guess, when my child doesn't behave as I expect him to (which is all the time thank goodness :) )...

Freaking AMAZING!!

This was amazing and so eloquently stated. I have a 19 year old and 16 year old and I am trying to redirect how I parent and I am having a hard time have a less controlling approach especially when they make decisions I feel like can impact them. I would like to purchase the book but does anyone know if there are exercises in the book that teach you how to start moving towards this concept or idea of parenting?

@consciouslyawakening9588

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same aged children now and am wondering the same thing. I am trying to walk daily with less or no ego and go from there. I want to teach my kids more independence and to think freely for themselves yet still guide them. I know this is 6 years later, but I am at the same place.

Very inspiring! Changed my outlook on parenting.

I get triggered when my son aged 3.5 yrs does not allow me to connect/chat with another. He is seeking my attention. I'm a single mama with not much adult interaction so it hurts when I can't connect with ours. It brings forth sadness as I know he needs me. Any advice or guidance please

Alicia our grandaughter is aware of her direction she will take and hopefully will continue to search the best results and not burden herself with perfection

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Part of me is agreeable, and the other -likely my ego, wants more insight? Should we not put our child into the ballet class? Is that for us to discern?

beautiful video! i wish it was around 28 years ago :/

She is beautiful.

I am growing to become the conscious aspect of true self & I often visualized how to pass ethernal conscious ideals learnt knowing my path insideoutformation of the ego self is my own. I needed a way to guide a child if and when I am blessed with parenthood. Dr. Shefali's book is true guidence for evolution of an offspring technology. The ideals expressed through her dissolved my fears of parenthood..

@crownether579

8 жыл бұрын

completely!!

I really wanted her to look like one of the rhonj

I'm triggered when I think people aren't listening to me or don't want to listen to me. That trigger is telling me probably -- that when I'm communicating to be validated it's not easy for anyone involved, and it's not really a fun/life affirming way to communicate. Maybe I'll try to just communicate more flow of joy, authentic joy, after I tune into an validate myself first. **

@amarsinghc2000

Жыл бұрын

It too triggers me

What triggers me ? My ego always telling me how bad I am how wrong is all I do and say. With mindfulness, I can notice is, and stop the drama before I feel overwhelmed with a depressive state of mind.

Is wisdom the "new" word for intelligence ? I think so

My trigger is my daughter acting out in public... I think people will think I'm a bad parent because my kid doesn't listen. But she is only four. I think it comes from my continued PPD. I still am having trouble coming to terms with if I like being a mom or not, and if people can see that. I love my daughter, but I feel like people automatically assume you are a POS if being a mom isn't your mushy rainbow heart and soul. its like I don't even think what she is doing is that big of a deal, but everyone will think I'm shit if I don't keep her in line.

I don't like it when people are cheap or when they disrespect my time. I know, because of years of work! (remedial class LOL) that every strong emotional response is showing me something I'm scheduled to learn about myself. Hmmmmm on the face of it, I'd say I could look at how I think of my own value and how I value my time. $hit! hahahahaha

This is not a Q&A Tuesday topic for business. I want to see more videos about business topics.

Great topic and video but I also heard that a child in middle school (under 16 I assume) is in love! This kid has time for a boyfriend? Something is wrong with this

Yeah...let our children to follow their inner voice and play until they are 40 years old and then when they are useless and ask: "dad/mom, why didn't you teach me or guided me to do something?! " and you say: "oh, but I let you follow your inner voice!!!!!!!!!" "you need to be an idiot to be used by smart people who's parents did not allow them to follow their inner voice"

Great video!