Communication Skills - The 6 Keys Of Powerful Communication
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Communication Skills - The six essential components you need to master in order to become a great communicator.
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Video Summary:
Issues in communication can be devastating to careers and intimate relationships. Conversely, remedying communication issues will reap rewards for your whole lifetime. Six key areas sum up the most common failures that contribute to communication issues.
The six pillars of effective communication are: assertiveness, authenticity, open-mindedness, empathy, clarity and listening.
If you have something to say, say it assertively, so you will be taken seriously. Identify your values, boundaries, and own agenda, so that you can communicate them authentically. Smiling and being afraid to contradict someone may be interpreted as being inauthentic. Be open-minded to the positions of others, which helps you grow as a person.
Be empathetic to your listener, which builds common ground. The more clarity you use in communicating, the less likely it will be misconstrued. And don't just hear; demonstrate active listening.
Disclaimer: All personal development advice and information is provided as-is and may not suit your specific circumstances. It may also contain errors or omissions. Neither Actualized.org, nor any of its employees, nor Leo Gura is liable in any way for any potential damages that may be incurred from this information. By listening to this advice you agree to take 100% responsibility for your life!
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1. Assertiveness/Persistence - Be serious about your situation. 2. Authenticity - Be true. 3. Open-mindedness - Think respect to others mind too. 4. Empathy - Be a feeling to others as a human being. 5. Clarity - clear to the subject. 6. Listening - listen to others too.
@alsklaftsk123
6 жыл бұрын
Nice
@gil_7038
5 жыл бұрын
OMG! Thank you, man!
@barbaraaraojo504
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@DayDreamerbyDhang
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@daerontargaryen9499
4 жыл бұрын
I do all those but the problem I can't keep a conversation I feel afraid to speak and can't keep a conversation
I am being assertive in writing this comment and I will receive the most likes because I am clearly communicating what I want.
@simeonheath-moss7023
8 жыл бұрын
+Steve Brule you didn't actually say what you want, did you want to post that comment or do you want likes?
@simeonheath-moss7023
8 жыл бұрын
now take that assertiveness and some legal tender and say that to a person who sells them and you're all set
@pineapplehead789
8 жыл бұрын
+Steve Brule Lol This is funny (Not really I'm testing my communication skill)
@red2blackprofits
8 жыл бұрын
+Steve Brule Assertiveness should not be confused with aggresiveness. Aggressive behavior comes from "I'm OK and You are Not OK." This puts the aggressive person in a mode of control and maniulation. Assertive behavior comes from "I'm OK and You are OK." This person isn't coming from "I will get the most Likes because...." Thye are getting what they want by giving others what they want in return.
@PalesaDimane
7 жыл бұрын
Steve Brule 😂😂😂😂
If you liked this video, I recommend you watch these related videos too: 1) Fear Of Public Speaking - The One Key To Overcoming It Forever 2) How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now
1- Assertiveness 2- Authenticity 3- Open mindedness 4- Empathy 5- Clarity 6- Listening
@jonkun6180
8 жыл бұрын
snt
@lolbeco
8 жыл бұрын
+ginger shock thanks for writhing it out english not my 1st language and i missed some words thanks again :)
@gingershock
8 жыл бұрын
All good. Hi from New Zealand :)
@ShortFingeredShreder
8 жыл бұрын
+ginger shock Thanks for the quiz answers.
@warmaxxx
8 жыл бұрын
+ginger shock thanks saved me 20minutes
I have an immense amount of communication problems . I have always been the quiet person and very self preserved because I never had a lot of friends and was never open about my feelings and I've gotten used to it and comfortable with it . Now I'm at a point in my life where I need to speak to people to gain friendships and relationships and enjoy meeting new people and follow my dreams. Sometimes I would communicate with a friend and wouldn't text or call in days or even weeks . Not because I don't want to, sometimes because I don't feel I'm interesting enough or have anything to add to conversations to make it fun and then I lose interest. I seem to judge my personality a lot as well when it comes to people while i try to hang out and I'm so tired of it. I just want to be free and confident :/
@ActualizedOrg
10 жыл бұрын
I had similar problems. I have a lot of videos posted that will help you with that: - How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert - Introvert vs Extrovert - A Deep Understanding Of Introverts And Extroverts - How To Make Friends - 4 Sticking-Points That Limit Your Ability To Make Friends - How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident - How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now ...and more. Search through all my videos.
@AsifKhan-ec9ck
7 жыл бұрын
universal love it's been 3 years how are you now?
@charmaineborgia5695
6 жыл бұрын
I am the same way and have been all my life. Very introverted. I am tired of fading into the back round, and not being heard.I want more friends. I want to be confident and feel that I have an opinion, and to speak up for myself. This is amazing info. Just what I need. We have to try to come out and know that we matter. Build our confidence and believe in ourselves. Change our charter. Wishing you much happiness.
@glutachi_6621
6 жыл бұрын
Same, I’m working on changing it.
@barbararushing3382
5 жыл бұрын
I never been shy but it has been hard for me to make friends with other. So this really help me a lot
Leo, I cant tell you how much you have helped me to better myself. I love your honesty. I am a great fan of yours.
Oh my GOD, this was so eye-opening! I never realised I was a very bad communicator. I believe I'm incredibly authentic, which means that I will say whatever I think without paying attention to how I articulate myself. Then I get upset when people have their own interpretations. Luckily I'm a good listener, but I was always stubborn when people commented on how my words come across (sometimes pretty rude and arrogant, even though that's not how I feel). Now I understand that I can change my vocabulary and adapt it to my interlocutor without giving up my authenticity. Even better now, my communication will be truly authentic because I get my point across, mostly without distorting it.
Thank you for your video..I've been having a lot of struggles communicating and your words have made things a little more clearer for me..and I noticed that my two biggest struggles with communication is listening and showing empathy that the people in my life deserve.. your video was extremely helpful and I thank you from everyone who finds themselves struggling..
Your talks are so deep that I have to think about it for so long to absorb. I love them though. You have a great mind, you see everything so clearly wish I had known you earlier
Wow Leo, I really had a misunderstanding about communication that you brought up at the end of the video. I tacitly supposed that being an effective communicator would come naturally with time and attention, but I now realize that effective communication is a learned skill that requires work and practice. Thank you.
As a Communication student, this is a really big help to me on improving how I communicate with others. I am a talkative person but sometimes, I am just good in talking and not communicating. I always say what is on my mind and I don't open my mind to other's opinions sometimes. I will do my best to change these and try to follow your advise. Thank you :)
In my journey to learn game I came face to face with this wall called communication. My lack of everything made my journey 10 times harder, every time something different happens and I have to fix something. Well nobody said it would be easy I think that's what makes it worth doing. Thanks for the great video!!!!
I was always told that I was and still am a good listener, so many times that I've even started to consider that maybe that was the reason I couldn't hold together any friendships or relationships, but now I'm starting to see that maybe I was used for this ability of mine just until the other person has managed to get their life in order so they wouldn't need me anymore. Now instead of hating my ability to listen, I'm starting to think that I have to work on the other aspects of my personality. Thank you for this video.
I am so grateful I stumbled across Leo's lectures in a time in my life when I needed it the most. The tutorials "why he cheated " impacted me in ways that where really hard to swallow, but I have a better understanding on the different dynamics that are at play. I love my life coach. "
1. Assertiveness • A lot of people communicate things but they don't get what they want because they are not assertive ○ You can't let other people impose their agenda on you, you have to be confident in your delivery. ○ You have to be insistent & persistent § Meakness only holds you back 2. Authenticity • You have to be true to yourslef, unlike most people who hold back. ○ You have to be clear about your own values you have to know what your boundaries are. ○ You have to have to courage to go after what you want. ○ In some situations holding back is fine but NOT in the long run because of the inauthenticity. ○ He/she is ultimately unfulfilled. 3. Open-mindedness • You have to be willing to consider other perspectives and and alternative scenarios and ideas. ○ Let's not judge and crtisize lest we build a wall impeding communication. ○ If your always closed people will NOT want to comincate with you. § People like to communicate with people who listen. ○ If you are closed you will stunt your growth as a human bean 4. Empathy • One must see the pain of others (mirror neurons), we need to experience the emotions of others as if we're in that situation. ○ People want to feel heard. Empathy creates a common ground. ○ Creates cooperative dynamic. ○ If you do NOT have empathy towards others you create a gulf of separation. 5. Clarity • Communication is not what you meant to say but it's what the other person received. ○ A lot of times what we say is heard errounously by others. ○ Clarity is NOT ambiguous, abstract, inaccurate, or "losey goesy" ○ If people are misperceiveing what you say it might not be their fault but yours. 6. Listening • Communication is a two way street, one must fulfill their own part for successful communication. • You have to be active! ○ Ask questions, respond with "oh", "why", "ah"
Our professor showed us this video in January. She was so excited you replied to her email and allowed her to show this to us. I was so happy to see this because I had already watched some of your other videos prior. You're inspiring and brilliant! Thank you :)
@ActualizedOrg
9 жыл бұрын
Sweet! :D Yeah, I remember an email like that.
@jonkun6180
8 жыл бұрын
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@warmaxxx
8 жыл бұрын
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@niborro4862
7 жыл бұрын
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@maycodes
5 ай бұрын
My prof showed this without consent
Listening to the other person is the most important
I am thankful I came aross this! I have been struggling in communicating with my wife in one area. After listening to this, I learned I lack effective communication in a few areas. Now that I know better I will do better.
Yes i like all your points. 1.Assertive 2. Authencity 3. Open mindness 4. Empathy 5. Clarity 6. Listening . It's a catch 22 situation when your gut feeling is different that of the other. Here open mindness has to be dealt with caution. Sometimes emotions are not important to the situation and one needs a tough stand when other insist on soft stand harming the matter. Situations in life are unpredictable.
I struggle with communication issues on a daily basis. As an aspiring politician I need to be more assertive and clearer when i am speaking. This video is very helpful.
I would have never thought that being polite could be considered being inauthentic. Makes sense. Thank you for posting.
This is a perfect introductory video for my Health classes as we enter the unit on healthy communication! I teach at a school for kids with various learning differences in Portland, OR. I'm so happy to have found this video! Thank you!
I just did must of this today! I was feeling really good about my authenticity in this Business meeting today. I was strong, I did listen and then told them to go ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,! So I din't do so bad.
I love how you communicate. Thank you for the straight talk.
6 techniques very nice way explained, my weakness was assertiveness, I was not assert because i was not authentic, i need to improve on that and i will practice now. i want to become a good communicator, i love you dear for this video.
Thank you Leo - Your VDO can really help me come through this hard time.
man I just came across your channel and I'm sure you get this constantly but you speak to my soul did a quick run through on the titles of you're videos and I'm not sure I have enough time in the world it's all things I've always wanted help with and never knew how to ask never had anyone willing to dedicate the time to explain it to me I've been keeping myself in very intense situations relationships and friendships not because I'm stupid just because I didn't know videos like this existed absolutely phenomenal human!!!!!😄😄😄😄😄
You're single handedly changing my life. Thank you Leo!
authenticity and clarity are my goals now to work on !!
HI my name is Kyla and i've been having problems with my dad and you really help me with being better with communicating to him
Really loved this video.... Because mostly it's difficult for me to say no and now some people around me are taking advantage of that and also most of the time i end up in disastrous situations.
I lack clarity. Thoughts are a mess in my my head and the same I project. Also, When I write (taking time), I am often clear but real time communication doesn't go smooth always. Big work on it is needed. Great video !
you changed my life .I understand what are you doing and that's a one hell out of a thing that you are doing you are really affecting human lives
Well, lemme work on my communication here, for i feel anxious just to write this haha Leo, I`ve been following you for a while, and I just want to say that, as I grow more and more spiritually, I admire you more and more! You are an amazing guy, and your knowledge and understanding are out of this world! You helped me a lot through my awakening process, and you are still doing it! You are one of my safe heavens, whenever I feel lost in my mind! Thank you very much for spreading free content around! Your videos always seems to find me when I need them the most!
I used your video to learn and teach a group about communication. I really liked how you broke down the six keys of good communication. It was a good group discussion opener. I feel the group all learned something about their own communication skills. I know I definitely learned I need to work on my own communication skills. Thanks for the video. I will look out for more in the future.
Thanks for sharing and helping with care. I can see you have done your homework. So far I can truly say I feel better than I did, in part, from listening to your craft at being a coach of sorts. Folks may know a lot of answers, but delivery is crucial in order to have clarity. Nice job Leo. I believe I understand your way of communication. In fact I also feel like you make it very simple to understand your point. Double thanks!!
Leo, I just want to say that I love all of your videos. Thank you so much for posting them. They are very helpful!
@ActualizedOrg
10 жыл бұрын
My pleasure :)
I really like the part of being authentic for yourself. I practice that a lot. I sadly experience reactions like people get quiet or feel offended instead of just talk authentic instead.
This video has been amazing for me and my family. Have just realised that communication theis problem area for all of us. I am now going to work out which skills we each need to work on. Thank you so much, might get back and let you know how we've done.
You make so much since I swear you have open my eyes about a lot of stuff man your a good out going person. People kills to hear stuff like this but if other people hating on your videos they have no clue what they are miss because they are just jealous because you know more than them man have a great I'm glad see you doing this your like an love doctor man great job.!!!!!
I really enjoyed this video. I am deaf and I wear hearing aids. I want to improve my communication skills. This definitely is what I need to work on!
This was excellent! Thank you so much! My professor used your video for our class- so glad!
Thank you, Leo. I notice that I need to work on all of these areas in my life.
In addition to what you have said about empathy, I think that it can help a lot understanding the other; understanding the reason behind what the other is doing or saying.
Hi leo, great video and well articulated points towards improving communication skills. I can relate to what your saying here more than anyone else. I have struggled with my communication all my life because of a chronic stutter and felt that this was actually ruining my chances in life. However I'm making improvements everyday and working on it constantly. keep up the good work!!
I have bad communication skills. I enjoyed this video. Thank you for your time!
thanks for your help you can't imagine how this helps me
@sulmanchand5212
4 жыл бұрын
Love 💗 it 💞
Hey Leo, your videos are again and again very inspiring and helpful to me! Big thanks for your work and helping people to become better versions of themselves!
This, as well as every video of yours I've seen so far, has made me finally really want to take action on improving myself and others around me. I've been depressed for my entire life, but have had points of complete confidence and self-efficacy and you are helping me to get back to the person I enjoyed being. It is very easy to thing of the negative things, which often manifest in more obvious ways, but remembering your strengths is something I had/have a hard time doing on my own. Thank you, Leo! Without people like you out there there would be many more "wanderers", your work is highly appreciated and helps people more than some may be willing to admit! :) Thanks again, my friend. I'll keep continuing to improve myself, with your help, as long as you keep doing what you do!
@ActualizedOrg
10 жыл бұрын
Thanks! :) Start taking baby steps and be consistent. You'll get there.
@YodlerGaming
6 жыл бұрын
3 years later have you improved?
Very generous of you to share such valuable information, you are truly giving a lot of folks hope again who may have lost their way. You are doing such a great service for others by sharing this valuable information. I have spent thousands of dollars on seminars that weren't nearly as impactful. I like your sincerity here very much.
Thanks Leo! Always helpful
What's incredible is the correlation of good emotions and eicosanoids and its effects on the immune system and inflammation
loved your talk and i will watch the rest Leo thank you its so much easier to learn when you can watch and listen to someone.
I'm usually told to adopt the ideas of other individuals like you say people shouldn't criticize people this is something a lot of people around me need to learn.
Leo, I get a kick out of your facial expressions - they make me chuckle. I've just begun watching your videos and are enjoying them. Thanks.
assertiveness and clarity.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge man. This really helped me not only in verbal communication, but also in my relationships with people. Again thanks a lot man, God bless you.
You explained the points about assertiveness really well. Thanks for the great points.
my biggest problem is lack of emapthy or at least not showing it enough.. it leads me into conflicts and other uncomfortable situations. Thank you for your advices, very consize and helpful.
Thank you Leo
I love your videos Leo! I appreciate all the numerous precise examples that you use to make us understand your point. Thank you!
Leo, thank you for this very clear and helpful video.
Thanks Leo! Always delivering great tips!
methods suggested to improve communication skills in simple language are really good... I am going to adopt them in all sincerity!
Thanks for helping me with my communication skills. I learned a lot.
oh what would i do without the help from these videos, thank you so much your a genius!
I really enjoy listening to you. You're so clear about what you are talking about everytime and make me conscious about my bad vocabulary and clarity,gonna need to work on that haha.
thank you Leo, for sharing this knowledge in a straight forward manner. you appear genuine in your presenting of information.
Thank you! Me and my partner had to take a break to really work on this and we are learning and working on it so that once we come back communication will be very good!
Leo. I would like to add 7th point to your talk its really important.That is what ever you are saying should not be only words with some specific dry gestures but full emotional connection with what you want to say from head to toe...Your facial expressions your shoulder movement and involvement of your whole body to express it.
rly helpful tips. I rly lacking in authenticity. I always hold back to not offend the other person, but it seems I need get rid of it and be more honest about me to the other person Im talking. Thank you!
Thank you soooo much I discovered that i have a lake of open mindedness and because of ur video i will work on that right now 🙏🏻🙏🏻
GREAT Video!!!! Thank You.
Great video. It's amazing what impact communication has on your life, dealing with business, work, relationships, and happiness. Something I try to work on daily in my life. A lot of people need to work on there communication skills. The 6 points of communication you talk about are all important. I enjoy your videos and admire your ways of thinking
FABULOUS.... thanks for the video, love your work!
Thank you Leo, I really appreciate the effort you put into all your videos.
Found your page yesterday. Awesome material. Thank you so much!!! 🧐♥️💡
I always felt about the points you mentioned were important in communication.
i love this video. the way this guy express himself is very nice
Thank you for your knowledge
Very clear and easy to understand.
Thank you Leo!
Excellent as always! Thank you!
Wow, this sounds sort of like an analysis of what Marshall Rosenberg teaches people how to do in his videos. This video is just more analytically descriptive and shorter. 10/10 for this one!
This really helped me right dialogue for skills.
Thanks for your words and and hard work
amazing. simple yet powerful
love this video...i realised i need work more on my own ... thank you,....
Thanks for this advice,
thanx for the tips leo.this video was quite useful
Thank you so much for being such a philanthropist.
Thank you so much....
Great video Leo, really helpful. Thanks.
You deserve a bigger stage. Thanks!
Thank you so much!!!!!!
I think the biggest key to good listening is listing and trying to understand to what the other person is saying, WITHOUT thinking in your head about what you're going to say next. It's the hardest thing to do.
Great information! Thank you for the thorough overview to the 6 Keys of Powerful Communication.
Thanks Leo
This is what I need right now and I see a couple of areas that will work for me. Thanks
Thank you for your good advices. I find out I need to improve the assertiveness in my communication.