CIA Spy: Don't Trust Your Gut! - How To Detect Lying, Manipulation & Mind Games | Andrew Bustamante
Andrew Bustamante is a former covert CIA intelligence officer, decorated military combat veteran, successful Fortune 10 corporate advisor, proud husband and father. After 20 years running human and technical intelligence operations for private and government clients worldwide, Andrew founded EverydaySpy.com -- the first-ever digital spy training platform. Headlining both US and International media, Andrew’s training events have been praised for their innovative, authentic, and life-changing impact.
Today on the show we discuss: the most accurate way to tell if someone is lying to you, simple techniques for improving communication skills, how to “fake it until you make it’ and appear more confident, why you shouldn’t trust your gut instinct and what to do instead, how to control a conversation and ask better questions, why motivation and manipulation are actually very similar, how to instantly reduce stress and fear and more.
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BS trusting my instinct got me out of 100s of situations
@familylifescienceeducation5227
19 күн бұрын
Exactly! 🎉
@theimpaler5034
18 күн бұрын
Ask any detective and they will say gut instinct is the correct instinct
@ram47863
18 күн бұрын
Same
@constantlychangin
17 күн бұрын
Gut instinct with additional processing is just fine yall
@percubit10
16 күн бұрын
trusting my gut always got me out of situations. Your message is BS.
Not listening to your gut is the thing that put people in trouble . The mind is slow compared to the body reflexes. You feel a strange unsettling eary feeling in your stomach and lower abdomen that warns you to consider what’s going on. It saved thousands of people from disasters…
@whoo2975
4 күн бұрын
Bro try to introduce "gut feeling" and "survival instinct" are the samething. Master of Inmaginary
@heide-raquelfuss5580
3 күн бұрын
And animals...
@egocruz2156
Күн бұрын
The “gut instinct” stems from the when we lived as cavemen. We don’t face those type of dangers no more so our gut holds us back alot in this day and age
@apestaartjegeluk7706
Күн бұрын
@@egocruz2156 😵💫😂😂😂have you been sleeping these last years …?…. Maybe time to wake up
Former CIA reminds me of Project Mocking Bird. It’s like a doctor is still a doctor after he / she leaves the profession. Conditioned.
As an older person, hope you young folks take this for what it's worth: when survival is your motivator, for example your health is failing and you will die if you continue to eat garbage fast food and PROCESSED foods, then it is VERY EASY to lose weight. Yeah, uh, don't do this. Good luck. lol Actually i did it. Age 52 from 230 to 170. Been holding 170 to 180 for years now. How'd I do it. I learned about nutrition and food, then learnt to cook using KZread. Took me a few months, equipt my kitchen with inexpensive restraunt supply cook ware, because it is fast and easy to clean, and setup work stations, that allow me to prep and make meals, very quicly. It is a process. Optimize the process for your own tastes and healthy foods. Yes, every once in a while, just for fun, I'll go eat an Arby's beef and cheddar, and compared to my homemade beef and cheddar sandwich, there is no comparison, and I end up taking one bite, and throwing the Arby's away, remembering how disgusting it is. CHildhood programing is difficult to reprogramm. But it can be done. Just have to find the right algorythm for your own self.
I love this guy. Watching a professional lier talk about lies is incredible. P.S. stop hating on him ya'll crazy he's just a guy. You can take what he says and test it or dump it.
@yurilopez439
4 күн бұрын
That's what I'm saying
@yurilopez439
4 күн бұрын
Take it with a grain of salt.
Every time I’ve listened to my gut, it was always 💯 % correct. Almost 50 years old so no one will ever be able to change my mind.
@samsmusichub
7 күн бұрын
Question. I get what he's saying but also get what you're saying. Would you consider yourself a logical person? Perhaps your gut has been trained on logic so your gut is good intuition. For example I was raised Christian and still am. So for years I've trained my mind and actions on what I consider is the morally right thing to do. So my "gut" is just my brain referring to my Christian training. In that sense my gut is (hopefully) not my feelings - as Andrew implies it is - rather, it's the moral framework that I believe in. It could be the same for people with other religions or people who are staunch atheists too. My "gut" has also been pretty accurate, like I know the kind of people to avoid in life because my experience has shown me the potential negative outcomes. So to me my gut is usually no longer my initial feelings insomuch that it's my belief structure and experience (my gut tells me things based on what I see and believe, not my emotions). Curious to know what you think!
His interviews are meant to be a recruiting tool
@GungaLaGunga
17 күн бұрын
yep, and a plumber uses a pipe wrentch. Leverage tools. He's just using hte tools he uses in his job. That said, this character other characters on YT are interesting. I really do knot know why this dude, a young relatable dude, is speaking to all of us. And why. IDK. But espianage, spy crarft, and geopolitics is at the worst state in my life, and i lived thru the cold war. We really did think we were gonna be vaporized. War Games was a serious movie and had tremendous affect and effects on the American population. "The medium is the mAssage" , eh hem, i mean mEessage. --- Marshall McCluhan
@estyron27858
15 күн бұрын
Can you please elaborate?
@whoo2975
4 күн бұрын
@@estyron27858 From someone who needs to edit such short comment? guess not.
I listened to this guy before. By default I don't trust him to be honest and I find it highly unlikely he'd be allowed this much free reign to say this alot of what he's had to say. I can only and will only assume on general principle, once CIA, always CIA.
@frankthetank3342
21 күн бұрын
It's the hair.
@jujubesification
21 күн бұрын
He isn't saying anything that isn't already well known and established. He does present it with a certain bias/from a particular world view, which is inevitable.
@didafm
20 күн бұрын
Well you're wrong. This guy is extremely smart
@te9591
20 күн бұрын
I feel the same. Im surprised he's been allowed to use the CIA handle, especially on YT.
@McFaddenWasRight
19 күн бұрын
@@didafm no one is questioning his intelligence.
Bro is teaching us basic communication skills that as an extremist introvert I never learned growing up and had to learn the hard way through practice. It's good to hear there is a framework to discussion, because that is more tractable with me since growing up I felt that conversation was so natural and effortless to everybody else but it made my blood pressure rise and made me exhausted lol.
The one time I didn’t listen to my gut it ended poorly
It’s crazy you can tour with your best hits as a cia agent
@familylifescienceeducation5227
19 күн бұрын
🤭🤭
Always trust your gut! Every time I didn't, I had very bad experiences.
It makes sence what he says, but I doubt anyone relied solely on intelect when making decisions, especially people in his line of work. It happened to me a lot that everything seemed alright, but there was that weird feeling and most of the time it turned out to be legitimate. So, never dissregard gut feelings.
I travel solo at this point in my life and of course there's always situations that might overstress me but the idea of journaling my stress situations is what a great idea thank you great conversation guys have a beautiful day 🌹🌹
love it. I have to try and use the info Andrew provided
I think you helped me learn how to communicate with people. I suck at it. Like i really really don't know how to do it. It's never been an easy thing for me, and after TBI, it's become near impossible. I could watch this over and over and learn something new every time. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. ❤❤❤
I see this guy everywhere and I don’t care how charismatic he is I will never trust him I just know he can switch just like that
Awesome ❤Andrew kicks butt
I trust my gut all the time and I’m always right
@gears7467
19 күн бұрын
That's just your perception.
@thundergrace
19 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@LiftingYouHigher
10 күн бұрын
R u for real? Like how should I explain this to you? Or maybe why should I explain this to you when you don’t even know how you are basing your decisions, and your ignorant about ur own self! Let me be productive here. I advise you to read the book “the power of ur subconscious mind” I promise you when you read it you are gonna come back to this conversation and delete your statement because you’re gonna feel so embarrassed
@julesonfoot9273
8 күн бұрын
You’re always right? That’s quite a statement 😅
I think Andrew is an executive business coach, leveraging his CIA training. Interesting guy and I wish him success.
Good interview. Real good usable advice. Meditation is a medicine. Reading and study is just knowledge. What works is real-world practice. To get better one has to make a conscious decision about what and who they want to be, then assume progressive manageable risks towards the direction he wants to go with intent, journaling, learning from the experience, rewarding yourself when works and repeat. Each time, mimicking/faking, to best of one abilities, the traits of the type of person they would like to acquire.
DUDE! you know your stuff -- better than any ive seen.
@GroundbreakGames
14 күн бұрын
He's a con man psy op. Grow up.
Very well explained
I am a very strong empath, l relie on my gut fellings, its allways served me well, previding your a honest person, people have let me down, that is my stength.
Of course we were lied to, but so were you Superman.
Thank you for your good lectures. I enjoy it every minute, even if it is sad, when i realize, it is to late for me. Whish i would of known all this when i was younger. I could of avoided many things i have faced and my loved ones. Thank you sir.
I enjoyed the breakdown of introducing cognitive dissonance and how some people can’t handle it. It’s not comfortable having your beliefs challenged, but it really is life-changing. The people that say perception is reality lack perspective. The people with the greatest perspective can manipulate others via their perceptions.
Very good 🎉
Over explanation is my trait. Mostly i do it, so others understand things better, or to vent, or for information where i think it is important to know. My head is 24 h, 7/7 working. Very draining, but my brain can not rest. I have to know everything and understand everything in detail. Also..., being allways curious is a big driver. Analizing, rotating... Only...you can never have enough knowledge, so learning never ends.
4:35 this guy is smart. Man. I subbed. I really liked that.
Maybe a better way to explain cognitive dissonance is you’re intruding upon someone’s schema and it’s upsetting.
Hi Doug-You asked him really good questions. I would love to hear him speak on the indoctrination process which he mentioned getting toward the end. Maybe you could have him back on at some point. 🙂
In eastern culture, A popular proverb is, “I want to cut my horn to become a calf again” Means, someone is meant to understand to others, which was comparatively outdated or earlier version (in mind). Its very challenging sometimes to listen & understand others views about something that , May be understood long ago. This recall of that same concept may require some patience & energy but has high chance to learn may be something new from same material/content/conversation. The speaker is accurately touched a few points thTs very close to agreement of understanding.
Yes ! Most definitely by you !!!!
Our environment can shape our honesty. If honesty is shamed or derided, then we withhold being honest. It's not safe to communicate honesty. Kids have the energy to be honest. But, do the parents have the strength to respond ethically? Or do they fall back on conditioning and become reactive and lack any authentic response? You need to reflect on your own self-interest and put it in perspective. Are you putting protecting your ego ahead of the best interest of the people you truly should care about? Without the people we truly care about, exactly what are you living for?
@james7767
16 күн бұрын
Good point!
not trying to hide my face with makeup lol it’s just fun to do & i love having fun in the morning
Wow It's like Sony 360 degree sound CIA great 👍 definition Best regards ✨️
A great podcast though! 👍
I share everything with family
cia agent: the person who control the conversation is the person who ask the most question cia agent : who ask the most question ? doug: I as.... fck!
Yea some people aren't worth debating with. No matter how many facts you state, no matter how right you are, some people will never be able to accept it. There's no use in arguing with a brick wall.
A individual inner truths, values and belief is what molds her/ his perception. External factors have very little and or a small impact on a individual perception. 😁
I love when he said " my spouse is a she" 😊 Not every person is heterosexual. I really appreciate that point.
@constantlychangin
17 күн бұрын
I hope all is well with you
@holzbock6663
14 күн бұрын
jfc
Sounds like he’s basically telling you to limit yourself! That’s what I’m hearing. I can see the benefit of thinking this way sometimes, but how do we grow and evolve and find new solutions if we’re all thinking from the same point of view?
4:30 worldview, 9:00 adopt their veiw, 16:00 children, 31:00 liar's perspective
Read The Gift of Fear by agabin de Becker!! Incredible book
6:00 moments of time available to change world view and you grow doing this
I'm sitting here teeth unbrushed and holding it in. How is bro predicting my life.
i know i am being lied to
s tem imam izkusnje.. taksen clovek je za mene dobesedno nor.. realno da povem..
Cuz of Andrew I start following you I love this guy he is smart wow
I have my method of dealing with this in a civil manner but fuck then a whole crowd starts moving but i know exactly what you sre saying
I have a hard time adpating to other people views, when my own views have beem forged by years of witness. I do try to understand why someone might have a polar opposite viewpoint, but I have yet to skew off of my trajectory. I like my logic and life has been good to me. Not trying to veer off the road.
@truthseek3017
19 күн бұрын
Yin and Yang
@user-kc5qi2oy1j
19 күн бұрын
Not being able to consider multiple perspectives at once without believing in them, by knowing them instead, is a level of intelligent chosen through character development. To react otherwise is just ego attachment to ideas and is just a display of cognitive dissaonce.
@tracygreenwood5368
17 күн бұрын
Narcs Vrs Empaths 💜💥☯️👁♾️
So he’s telling the truth now? Hmm. His credibility has already been trashed by his own admission if that’s what it was
@MsCoolGemini
9 күн бұрын
He is not at work in the interview.😮
Hey can you ask Andrew how to tell if someone likes you or doesn't?
@yOuRn1GhTmAr
19 күн бұрын
Your on the wrong platform
@thundergrace
19 күн бұрын
i like you!😂
@thundergrace
19 күн бұрын
1. They dont look you in the eye. 2. They have a grimace on their face 3 they dont answer and walk away 4 they give you the finger 5 they yell at you 6 they put you down all the time 7 and last they ghost you dont want anything to do with you. many other things ...they just give you mean looks....thats how you know...
@user-kc5qi2oy1j
19 күн бұрын
Ask them.
@user-kc5qi2oy1j
19 күн бұрын
@@thundergrace even in this talk he said you shouldn't pay too much attention to micro expressions because you don't know where they're coming from, instead of ruminating and jumping to conclusions through faulty logic, how about you just ask them how they think and feel, chances are, they'll probably tell you.
oh wow yeah man, i still think of her my first real love in college. We got into both each others secret lives. My high school sweetheeart we did not. Just kisses and puppy love and while I remember her, but not anything like my college girlfriend. We were very intimate with each other and it was overwhelming at that time in my life. Yep i will never forget her. Both sadly and with love. We were just way too young and unwise about the world even in our twenties. And we were both heavy drinkers. Not a good foundaiton for a life or marriage or a family. Understanding and acceptance is healing. We didn't treat each with real love. We were lost in each other. We were both fearful and scared and didn't know what we were doing. Nothing terrible happened other than she was the one that got away. Poingant and powerful healing. IDK, just my thoughts on my own one that got away. Damn she had that power over me. We just clicked. I didn't have to do anything or try. It was pure 'animal magnitism' as they put it last century.
Really brillant guy
He’s the only cia I know of that’s allowed to just do podcast after podcast Everything you see is what your meant to see, there’s no such thing as ex cia 😂
I’d personally be wary of any guest that has been on (and sought hard to be on, like this guy) every and any podcast. Thirstiness usually positively correlated with grifter.
Actually. You should trust your guy & not your emotions.
To overcome fear is simple. A mouse will make a grown man break his own neck. Or make the man befriend the mouse!.
Thats it
Yeah, no you should always trust your gut
He lost me at telling us to lie to appear confident when that's not at all improving ourselves that's just lying it, you're not being honest about yourself at all and that's not great to do at all and people will sense it. Of course you don't want to tell people you don't know things about yourself it's not safe to that but people aren't going to respect you for not being yourself. The world isn't so gray either nor as simple as he described and there really is good or bad and moral and ethical implications, it worries me he would think there isn't. Yes there is 50% of us that is predictable and we behave, think, feel, and perceive things in the same ways but i think it's the other 50% that makes a huge difference that makes us different to each other and not so simple and grey making us harder to predict. We wish things were that simple but it's not and if it was as easy as such a rigid perception we'd all be doing it, but we don't even despite society functioning on such a rigid perception because from that other 50% of us comes our creativity, various different personalities and perceptions of ourselves and the outside world, and what creates such unpredictable and chaotic energy of us humans and it's hard to understand why someone does something because of that.
30:55 31:06 that's not what she said bro
This guy is sooooooo prestigious because he was in the Cia. What a joke
You should always use discernment and intuition. If you use discernment and intuition, you will clearly see that this guy is a tool. Judging by the comments, you guys are aware of that already; good! These dorks prey on the feeble-minded
why are the cops always harassing me.?..can you please help me get them off my back. I dont like cops
It makes sense the evil guy says not to trust your gut, even though that's what our body has evolved and kept us safe for millions of years 😂
@LiftingYouHigher
10 күн бұрын
Bab, 1- there is no joke in ur statement so i don’t see why ur laughing 2- who’s the evil here? A person teaching or an ignorant that is trying to take over education and knowledge with nothing but a laugh. 3- humans evolved based on science not guts. and ur false information that ur trying to impose here are based on ur guts not real data. I advise u to use less ur guts and more ur mind bcz u need education. But, who are you again?
@kevinsedwards
10 күн бұрын
@@LiftingYouHigher haha what you said is very funny. the "gut" instinct is what keeps the entire animal kingdom alive, along with humans for millions of years. I'm a dude who acknowledges basic human psychology. the gut instinct is science pally friendo, try again
@kevinsedwards
10 күн бұрын
@@LiftingYouHigher It's funny, I'm not so sure I'm the one in need of a better education. Just because you can write a long paragraphed condescending comment doesn't imply you're the educated one friendo.
@kevinsedwards
10 күн бұрын
@@LiftingYouHigher Humans evolved because they had gut instinct, it's all science. I don't understand your point 😂
So stand for nothing
What about that Whyte lens? Unsubsidized. Whyte isn't the baseline for normal.
You (mostly) lost me 6:19. Tough to have an opinion about conscious choices, and, unconsciousness choices.
It's all good lip are🤐
I don't trust that guy no matter what he says he's an agency guy through and through, and a trained liar and Deceiver
he should do a video about how its unwise to trust a fart in the field ....just saying
He’s fully CiA mind , he is he , he’s a CIA man
@truthseek3017
19 күн бұрын
JC Denton in the flesh.
@thundergrace
19 күн бұрын
@@truthseek3017 😂
I tust my gut. I assume most people are total liars...including this guy.
Trusting a C.I.A. OP 😂😂😂 SHADOW 🚫
My gut says this guy is BS and full of gift of gab.
why does bro's face look so funny? drop the filter bro, it's silly.
Jesus dinned with a so called sinner for a reason
I don’t trust this dude.
@gjthomas9770
10 күн бұрын
I get it. You are too thick
Sometimes this guest has said things that are a little obnoxious in reference to women the way he describes his wife saying” too many words” . The tone and way he worded it was unflattering to her As well as the mom vacation and how he described the reward as some “cheesy hotel” Like the reward for women who are mothers is to stay in a cheesy hotel and that’s why we lose weight know there’s more to it, but he’s gotta watch how he words things it’s not becoming of him. The message can get lost and he comes off as less than .
@Sonotbearface
19 күн бұрын
He already admitted that he was a womanizer all the way up until they met….also, she was with a black rapper that was breaking her down and had her doing tricks, she only joined the CIA so she could move away from that 🍆…so now he’s traveling the world again even though he’s not in the CIA anymore and dosent need too, and I’m sure he’s enjoying himself out there, probably be forgetting he has a family.
@Sonotbearface
19 күн бұрын
He already admitted that he was a womanizer all the way up until they met….also, she was with a black rapper that was breaking her down and had her doing tricks, she only joined the CIA so she could move away from that 🍆…so now he’s traveling the world again even though he’s not in the CIA anymore and dosent need too, and I’m sure he’s enjoying himself out there, probably be forgetting he has a family.
@user-kc5qi2oy1j
19 күн бұрын
I'm glad he exists so people like me can spot delusional insane people like you.
@user-kc5qi2oy1j
19 күн бұрын
You'll willing to discredit someone based on tone because you thought it was unflattering? I hope you get no power.
@user-kc5qi2oy1j
19 күн бұрын
Ah yes, the victim mindset, have fun being targeted by predators with that attitude :D
He is in disguise… wow.
CIA FRUITCAKE 🏳️🌈
Interesting