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@edwardnygma5549

Жыл бұрын

Hi Steven, long-time fan here but I felt it was somewhat disingenuous that didn't also upload what Chris mentioned about female improvements. Hardly balanced. I know approximately 70% of your viewers are female and this is more strategically correct from a business standpoint, but you're perpetuating the same disparity that is being discussed here. BOTH sides/genders need to take accountability, not just one.

@DanielKMihalev

Жыл бұрын

Hi Steven, could you please provide the citations of your mentioned percentages and data, because I would like to see where you get your sources from.

Lets be honest, you need to be attractive. Unattractive men are considered creepy.

@MO-ss5mj

8 ай бұрын

Still try and try to get to know her a little beforehand.

@MichaelJames-lz7ni

7 ай бұрын

Men would rather go to Dominos Pizza instead of the gym.

@maxpower19711

6 ай бұрын

Hell, even if you are physically attractive, if you’re autistic or otherwise socially awkward, you still get labeled a creep

@thomasdevos4732

6 ай бұрын

@user-he3by8ut3m Why wouln't you (or anyone) become a chad yourself? It's all about the right mindset, we're all challenged in our own way. Just go for it.

@thomasdevos4732

6 ай бұрын

@user-he3by8ut3m Obtain those prerequisites, that's my point. Change your fixed mindset for a growth mindset and go at it. I'm talking self improvement, train your social skills, charisma, learn about female behaviour, hit the gym, glow up etc etc. What's holding people back? Why not go for it?

"you take away the roles of a man, you make him aimless." it is time we teach men to aim for financial stability because that is an important thing.

@kiklocus4660

10 ай бұрын

yup capitalism did this, they wanted to use women in industrialization to make more money, so they hired them to make planes in world war 2, they invented birth control game over, now men are handed their dicks to their hands, women and lesbians are getting sperm donors. this is not any different than using china as a factory to feed American consumerism, they started to steal everything from us and name it different

@PepeCoinMania

9 ай бұрын

revert feminist back.

@the8thchurch461

9 ай бұрын

​@@PepeCoinManiaFeminism is absolutely necessary. Men are not a woman's authority.

@Everton176

9 ай бұрын

itd help if the government would get off our back

@nickb220

9 ай бұрын

@@PepeCoinMania lol

It's not enough for women to say "Sorry, I'm not interested" when rejecting a guy I'm sure nearly all men can take that on the chin and move on not giving it a second thought. Modern day rejection is something else entirely. It's not enough to reject a guy, many women want to severely punish men for having the audacity of approaching them with public humiliation, embarrassment and shaming. That's why men aren't trying any more.

@queenj.8i895

5 ай бұрын

Some truth here, but a guy won’t get rejected by a woman showing interest. Repeated or prolonged eye contact, continual smiling, warm body language, and other flirtatious gestures make it easy to see if a woman wants you to approach her or not. Women are women and men are men, this won’t change. So men just need to go back to being stronger while women need to go back to being softer. Blessings! ❤️‍🔥

@joepaddy7239

3 ай бұрын

@@queenj.8i895That’s not always the case eye contact isn’t always what it seems along with body language, also girls flirting is something all guys won’t pick up on. I think us guys would rather not approach due to the way we’ll get humiliated no matter how many signs you throw at us, it’s not worth the risk on our end and sure we might be left thinking, “Oh what if she was the one that’ll make me want to settle” it’s instantly shadowed by what if she is just trying to humiliate me for the fun of it or worse throw me in the back of a police car. Sorry girl we ain’t approaching it’s just not worth it no matter if you start throwing coins at our heads or trying to act “sexy” the risk outweighs the reward.

@Tidus13666

2 ай бұрын

spot on

@interestingtimes6242

Ай бұрын

@@queenj.8i895 Yea, I wish that worked. It doesn't. One woman's flirting is another woman's being friendly. When this backfires in your face, the friendly woman will typically be even harsher with her rejection.

@innocentrage1

Ай бұрын

"The worst she can say is no bro" lololol

The importance of a father in boys lives cannot be underestimated. I never realized this until I became a father. Additionally when a father is in the home they need to stop capitulating to society's version of dumbed down masculinity. Men have intrinsic qualities that need to be fostered, encouraged and controlled. With high divorce rates and other factors the boys are left aimless. Its a very complex issue.

@johncrow2852

28 күн бұрын

Agreed, single mothered son here.

Men can only do better through learning by doing - trial and error. But if any 'error' is punishable as sexual harassment, doing better quickly becomes don't approach at all.

So, the issue ends up being that there is absolutely NO WAY for a man to absolutely KNOW what triggers a woman. Even the mildest, gentlest approach by a man to a woman could trigger her, particularly if her "standards" are skewed. The same approach from a tall, handsome man would likely be welcome and not triggering. This is the quandary that average men are in; it's just too risky to even entertain the most diplomatic, considerate approach to a woman. It's not worth our dignity, our mental health, our careers, our internal or external reputations, it's not worth anything.

Self reflection will take you very far, guys

0:30 "How can we men 'do better' so that women aren't afraid / feel threatened." WRONG QUESTION. Should be: "How can the 2% of evil men who account for 98% of all 'unpleasant interactions' with women be dealt with?"

I'm listening to this and I think.. Why is it not about the changed behavior of women? And why are men constantly being portrait as the problem as well as the sad victims of these developments? Because we're neither of those 2. I'm 35 and I can say I'm truly free. I've got money, minimal social obligations, access to casual encounters and enough spare time to get around. Why would that be a problem? Because I'm living the live, and any man who is able to leave that conventional mindset behind will do too.

@sole__doubt

9 ай бұрын

Its always mens fault because its our world. We build and maintain the world so we have to set the standard. In a sane healthy world - men lead, women follow.

@the8thchurch461

9 ай бұрын

​@@sole__doubtMen lead, women follow, a sane healthy world? You couldn't make this stuff up.

@Rose-mystic

9 ай бұрын

Are those casual encounters aware that’s exactly what they are? Or are you misleading these women without letting them know your TRUE intentions with them? I’m guessing your lying by omission and this is the number one problem we have on this planet and why this is MENS fault. Yes your lifestyle sounds very easy and relaxed from your perspective but you are the problem. This is dishonest self centred selfish and immoral behaviour. Then men like you all have the audacity to complain that women now cheat are ho’s etc. Well now you may understand why. Many Women are just turning the tables from all the deceit they’ve encountered from men like you. These are the women who now exploit men for their money and treat them like fools in the process. A good woman who is smart will look at your lifestyle and steer clear from you because she knows from the outset your a dishonest user type weak guy. You’ll only get the broken naive desperate ones. Those are the ones who will eventually also cause you pain. Your arms length approach to women whilst using their bodies like as if they are an object without recognising the human being might serve you here but you will die one day and God does exist, morality is taught to us by God who created Love and everything good. Humans deviated from this (just like what your doing) and there’s consequences both here and when you cross over. The fact there’s judgement, justice, corruption, evil here on earth is exactly what you’ll encounter there. Lust is not a part of love, it’s a selfish desire that doesn’t consider the other person. Your basically a con man conning women. Go and con a business or defraud for $$$ and see what happens when you get caught! Justice. So what’s below is above. Love has no part in evil behaviour. You think your a great guy with great qualities in your everyday life. I bet your charming, can act caring etc. But you have a big splinter in your eye to this aspect of you. You need to place yourself in the shoes of the women you lie too to get access to their bodies and see the emotional toll it’s takes on them. I know a lot of men will say, she should be a better picker? So basically everyone has to be on red alert to the evil in these men instead of these men lifting their game and becoming honest and respectful. Well I’m here and I will be blunt from a no nonsense stance. Love speaks truth, truth may hurt. Men want women who pander to them, agree with them etc Even if these men are wrong and heading off a cliff spiritually. They’ll run away from strong women who’ll speak the truth, because the truth is blunt and disrupts their evil behaviours. You got it all wrong, those agreeable types and like an anchor around your ankle. They’ll keep you believing your lies just to keep “peace” with you because they are wanting to extract something from you, has nothing to do with true love. You’ll both end up in dark places with likeminded. Cos those operating on the love frequency will automatically go to a much higher existence where there is truth, love and peace with others like that there. You’ll be stuck with the evil ETs/demons who like a shark will gravitate to blood, when their kind is ready to be released from the avatar they’re in (body). Now firstly I want you to know, I’m not a man hater, I have a 23 yr old son. I’ve raised him morally with wholesome values. He doesn’t sleep around, he will make a good father and husband some day. He treats women with respect but “casual hookups” no way. He is good looking and girls flock to him but he is looking for a good girl who is honest and a team player who understands the word commitment and what acting from a heart of love looks like. Which also includes telling him if he is making mistakes. Having a humble heart and being reflective equals he will listen and take on board the advice if it’s truth. Not rejecting it in arrogance and stubbornness because his ego can’t handle it whilst looking for a more agreeable woman. The difference from him to many young men today is wisdom and maturity, something I prayer your eyes open up too and many men out their living same lifestyles. This experience on this planet will come to an end, yet you never consider the things I’ve mentioned. Darkness is a pit of isolation and mental torment. Choose wisely.❤

@Rose-mystic

9 ай бұрын

Arrogance is evil- the evil within will tell you to reject my advice. That in itself tells you your spiritually oppressed to keep you dumbed down to truth. Yes if there’s an afterlife it means everyone once dead is alive somewhere. Which means those who never went too the higher dimensions are still stuck here in a lower dimension tormenting living people by setting them up, guiding their experiences and dropping ideas in their thoughts (clairvognizance) Their Thought waves enmesh with yours. You won’t hear voices, you’ll just get their ideas. Look up Joe Dispenza on the latest findings on consciousness. Go research Rainbow Body Meditation phenomena, Materialising or Physical Mediums. The supernatural phenomena in bibles, and ancient texts from various religions (Hindu, Buddhism, etc). Then make the links. No one wants to talk about putting all the evidence together (Ets, UAPs, Energy fields, telepathy, channelling & wisdom from enlightened mystics). Why? Because they are too busy being led around by their lusts, that keep them hypnotised and distracted. The war is between the light and the dark. Look at it like a military recruitment because fundamentally those operating from the dark side are trying to wipe out your light to strengthen their position. It will be a long walk back to God and love once ensnared by these entities. Go ahead and mock my words as an evil person would at an instance. It’ll be the death of you spiritually. I suggest if your smart enough to go investigate, you’ll open your mind to the possibility and change your behaviours to walking in love and fasting your addictions and narcissistic ways cos that’s not from love and get on a straight path by developing a love mentality. Meditate and apologise for all the women you’ve used. Be truthful because deceit needs to be set free from your heart before your truly free to walk in love. Forgiveness is a necessity. Easier to forgive yourself once you’ve been truthful. If not by face to face, send texts or emails. But get released from your bondage to evil. I wish you the best.

@Rose-mystic

9 ай бұрын

This same message goes too the women behaving as prostitutes online on social medias luring men to spiritual death. They are the vampire puppets.

Chad approaches: she likes it. Non-Chad approaches: she's creeped out. You didn't pass her physical attraction test? No pass equals no chance.

@Atrax-vk9lu

Ай бұрын

And u think its easy for unattractive women?

Women chose and men get chosen. That is just life. But women have been, for lack of a better word, immasculated. However, some women do approach if they feel empowered and brave enough to do so, and that the risk to their safety is acceptable. It also has to be socially acceptable for them to approach men - personally I think it is, but I speak from a place of bias in that regard. It is concerning that women don't feel empowered, and safe to do this. Women generally have the higher risk anyway: if it goes wrong, she gets hit, stalked, abused. If it goes wrong for a guy: he gets his feelings hurt. So it is less risk to men than to women.

His concept of “male sedation” is super interesting

@DanielKMihalev

Жыл бұрын

Citations needed

@ponypruhest

9 ай бұрын

@@DanielKMihalevabout 7 minutes into the video

@stonemarten1400

9 ай бұрын

@@DanielKMihalevnot sure you need a citation for the bloomin’ obvious

@ameliadeshane9192

9 ай бұрын

E Michael Jones Libido Dominandi

@ameliadeshane9192

9 ай бұрын

Use of porn as sedation of men.

It's not really uncharted waters. The water is clear at this moment, and it's not working. Thanks for the interview; awesome stuff!

I wanted to subscribe to this channel, seeing how this guest talks without proven statistics and Steven doesn't conftront him but agrees with him, changed my idea about subscribing.

Many of the the relationships i had with women over the years were the result of being a little bit persistent. Girls playing hard to get was definitely a thing when i was younger. To many women it was a bad look if they seemed too easy. I do not envy guys today looking for a relationship. I think nowadays you would be labelled a creep or accused of harassment for making more than one attempt with the same girl. The dating game is hard enough at the best of times. Modern day sensibilities have made it ten times harder.

Amazing how we always blame men and ask how men can do better and never ask what women are doing wrong and what women can do to be better. As a gay man It doesn't affect me but I can see things from a more neutral perspective in terms of heterosexual relationships and I see a lot of good men out there and not many good women. Women and feminism have made relationships a legal and cultural minefield for men; they risk a hell of a lot in approaching women.

@MichaelJames-lz7ni

9 ай бұрын

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the ‘West’ remains very-much a male-dominated society. Look at EVERY major Institution- Law, Military, Economy, Government, Academia….75% male-dominated. Men are fully in-control. Why should men NOT be held accountable for the problems of society that they absolutely RUN?

@ALTheFreeMan

9 ай бұрын

Right, society keeps telling men to “man-up” for a generation of women who are not worth the hassle!

@mana-uv7cz

9 ай бұрын

Comment what you think women could be doing better.

@ALTheFreeMan

9 ай бұрын

@@mana-uv7cz Women should learn how to SERVE their man. Being served is the reason why guys frequent places like Hooters and gentlemen’s clubs. It’s even the reason why men watch p@rn, men want to be serviced by their woman. Just think if every now and then when a man gets home from work, his wife is wearing lingerie serving him up some meatloaf and mash potatoes. Or, maybe she gives him a foot rub while he watches the game. THATS what’s missing from relationships these days. Men are expected to go above and beyond to show their love and affection for women, meanwhile, women can do little to nothing for men and we’re supposed to be okay with it.

@DeborahYorkUK

8 ай бұрын

I guess it depends on your perspective. I see loads of nice women out there kind, thoughtful, fun, educated, unselfish, but very much fewer nice men who are single.

Man this hints for man are pure comedy. At least for me, some less sarcastic man will call it cynical or an heavy insult.

The "casting couch" is still alive and well. So don't think it is gone!! 😮

90% of the time, the random approach is not a winning solution today, doesn't matter how charming or indiscrete you are. People are busy, fast paced, they have no time to dedicate to strangers when walking on streets. Plus women are rightly defensive today with everything you hear on the news... they will just think you are akward. If you want to go for the direct, random approach, then I suggest to leverage one of the dating app out there, which are purposely built to facilitate this and women expect this to be the norm. I personally think the best is always when the connection happen naturally and for a specific reason where you will have the chance to interact meaningfully for something and get to know each other. What is within the man control is to create a favourable environement to increase the chances for these natural interactions to happen.

@tattoodrdoke

Жыл бұрын

The thing is sometimes in life you have to create opportunities. So what happens if you train at a gym or work somewhere that you are not attracted or interested in anyone. I feel that if you see someone who you find attractive then you should approach them to start up a conversation. It doesn't mean it will be long winded. I remember years ago meeting someone and I said can I speak to you for a minute. She said okay. I said I had to come and speak to you to at least get your name. If I never approached you I would be kicking myself tomorrow morning if I didn't find out more about you. We ended up speaking for 10 minutes exchanging numbers as the conversation was good but i didn't burn it out and we went out for 3 years. The thing is nothing ventured nothing gained. The worst that will happen is she will say no and you will both go on with your lives.

@mrknarf4438

Жыл бұрын

Strong disagree: apps have their own dynamics, they focus on things like the way you look and that opening line, and girls there are inundated by messages. Look at the data, something like one in a thousand messages gets you somewhere. On the other hand randomly approaching is great: perhaps not on the street, but even if you're just at an event together, you don't need the perfect line: you talk to her for a but, ask her number, take her out, it doesn't get much more natural than that.

@tattoodrdoke

Жыл бұрын

@Mr Knarf I agree with you 100% the ability to random approach also builds confidence and you learn more about body language. Creating a strong level of rapport with people, weeding out attractive nightmares aka Mrs Red Flag and generally just learning to be more talkative. Apps is like buying something from ebay its all about how its packaged and advertised. Doesn't mean when you get it home it will do what it said it would or fit for purpose. I think spending less time worrying about what women want and just going out and practice practice practice and not give a crap about rejection. I have taught my own kids to graft, be smart, but the biggest lesson is to win or learn don't be scared of failure.

@bluetears2

11 ай бұрын

Hobbies, we all need to get hobbies and touch grass, otherwise there’s just not enough interaction for anything to happen

@heinoustentacles5719

9 ай бұрын

One thing to note is that news stories are overblown. You hear all sorts of scary stories, but how many of them are about people you've met, or know personally? More people ought to look into 'Mean World Syndrome'.

Not to be picky, as I broadly find the narrative to be quite interesting; however, Melinda Gates was not a receptionist at Microsoft. She was an extremely well educated member of the management team.

@PTracer921

Жыл бұрын

And Bill is much more evil than Harvey

@craigkincheloe7779

Жыл бұрын

And how does that impact the message?

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

@@craigkincheloe7779 It's important because men have a problem in the way they think of women.

@Boredblacksheep

Жыл бұрын

@@craigkincheloe7779diminishing women is harmful.

@eternalpresentmoment

Жыл бұрын

And they divorced

Most women today only entertain the best looking guys, and they’d rather stay single than to “settle” with an average guy. So, it makes perfect sense why “average” men would sedate themselves with p*rn and video games. But, I don’t think this current dating environment is accidental. The powers-that-be know exactly what they’re doing.

@robbenvanpersie1562

Жыл бұрын

All by design

@steph6109

Жыл бұрын

Your first sentence is why you're still single and sexless. Honestly it's not hard at all. You're just listening to men, who are bad with women, give advice on how to emotionally and sexually access women.

@ALTheFreeMan

Жыл бұрын

@@steph6109 “It’s not hard at all”, lol, okay, whatever you say buddy.

@weesh4645

Жыл бұрын

How does this benefit powers that be? Please elaborate ..

@ALTheFreeMan

Жыл бұрын

@@weesh4645 Some would say it’s population control. Others think single women spend more money. Me personally, I think we’re living in a real-life “mouse utopia experiment” that is meant to accelerate the upcoming societal collapse.

When government and corporations assume the role of provider for women, the need for marriage, husbands and families is non existent. This will only get worse until our culture changes radically. In the meantime, just enjoy your OnlyFans and AI girlfriends.

@Atrax-vk9lu

Ай бұрын

Yes that's exactly what the government want control over the population

I love your outro!

In fairness I have had women come up to me in the past, in bars and clubs. I also have no problem approaching a woman. There is a way of doing it that is non threatening, charismatic and you'll know very quickly by reading her cues if it's worth proceeding with the conversation.

Goodness, so much to look at here. In vistorian times women would drop a handkerchief to signal interest. In ancient Greece they would throw an apple (if the young man caught it, he was interested). In my parents day, you met at work, in social clubs, at dances. My dad met my mum at Scottish dancing socials. How you danced together was a good test of compatibility. When he declared his interest in mum. She said I but you only ever asked me to dance twice in an evening. His reply was, that's twice as much as anyone else. I met my wife at dance meetings 30 years ago.

Status from video games is a real thing, especially in MMORPGs.

Fascinating insights from Chris!

To me it feels there is no coincidence that nerds created the world we mostly inhabit (not meant derogatory, I am one) . Nerds are not known mostly for human connection especially with the opposite sex.

@quack4800

Жыл бұрын

What? You know nerds can be popular, nerds can socialise, you’re confusing nerds with introverts or not very social humans.

@johnnyfounder951

Жыл бұрын

@@quack4800 I’m not confused, I’ve worked in tech a long time, and yes we are mostly introverts.

@quack4800

Жыл бұрын

@@johnnyfounder951 you’re saying that nerds aren’t known for human connection, and that’s wrong. What you’re describing is introvert or anti social people, mentally ill people, social anxiety people, not nerds.

@stagebloq6002

9 ай бұрын

@@quack4800nerds are communicative, but usually are more interested in things than people. They would rather create solutions for things. In the past humans procreated based on athletics, status and the ability to simply create resources from nature. The world of today is more built for iq than physical dominance which is what men had over women in nature.

@quack4800

9 ай бұрын

@@stagebloq6002 what? Men add more physically dominant, they don’t have higher iq than women, the history proved this hundreds of thousands of times, I may not understand your wording but it sounded like your saying “what men had over women” was iq not physical dominance, and that’s stupid.

Women need to take responsibility for THEIR choices and when things go sideways in a relationship, they need to own that it going off the rails is partly due to them - it takes two to put it into the ditch!

@aracelymoran2504

8 ай бұрын

💯

@sakurazukamorisubaru

8 ай бұрын

They do. But you can't make them. So you only have an option to act right for yourself in this situation. (I mean, technically anyone can be forced to do something they don't want to, but it's going to be a fake motivation and potential source of explosion in the future.)

In a few years a conversation like this will be illegal…

I am not even going to finish this clip or watch anymore like it. I'm not the kind of guy that causes these sorts of problems, but listening to this content makes me think I am and removes any willingness to try.

@user-vb6lq9il5v

5 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@brutaldeluxe6754

2 ай бұрын

You are not, and nor are most men, but you get treated as if you are because some men do cause problems. It's not just rejection that men fear, it's how that rejection is delivered now

Obesity is also sedating men. Both their own obesity and the obesity of women. Nothing puts,me off dating like the site all the obesity amongst my dating options

It used to be that men would have to prove themselves through courtship to be accepted by a high quality women. Now, due to the modern feminism.. women have to prove themselves to high quality men. The problem is… women haven’t figured that out yet.

@wyleecoyotee4252

Жыл бұрын

'High quality men' rather loosely put term. These days a woman wouldn't want a 'high quality man' definitely not with the qualities they possess

@mrknarf4438

Жыл бұрын

​@@wyleecoyotee4252 women wouldn't want "high quality men"? I'm afraid any, even minor, celebrity's DMs will prove that statement wrong...

@wyleecoyotee4252

Жыл бұрын

@Mr Knarf Plenty of women have no interest in celebrities

@steph6109

Жыл бұрын

Good luck with that dusty.

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

@@mrknarf4438 Most women are not interested in promiscuous men with money. A few sycophants are, but most of us are not.

Just don’t approach. Be better for yourself.

Simple social skills, respecting yourself and others. Weinstein wasn’t looking to ‘date’.

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

Well spoken.

@clauaome25

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

Why is it always the man should do better?

There are so many reasons why relationships today are failing or not even starting. The only way to get thru it is to have faith in love. That mentality will bring the beloved to you. You might have to go thru some bad ones, but keep the faith & they will be there. If we always focus on the problem & the statistics, we will always Have the problem. Change your mind

It’s so difficult for guys to get a job or get into school, to get ahead, it’s not worth the risk to approach at work or school and.

So the guy's advice was: 'Don' t stand too close to a woman in a dark alleyway. '

@TomCoutfit

9 ай бұрын

That's what I've doing wrong all these years!

@jim2376

9 ай бұрын

@@TomCoutfit😆😆😆😆

@user-vb6lq9il5v

5 ай бұрын

I got a chuckle out of that too.

@user-vb6lq9il5v

5 ай бұрын

@@TomCoutfit (Face-palm)

I know this is an old podcast but no one ever talks about the high amount of Estrogen in foods today. The male body is being loaded up with female hormone to the point that it very well could be effecting the brain, supressing the hunter gathering need for survival. That coupled with the social problems effecting men is destroying how men were designed.

If Bill had asked Melinda out like that today she'd have sued him for $10 million, instead of divorcing him for $1 billion. Maybe things have gotten better for men...

I haven't watched the whole episode yet but have been feeling for a very long time that men have lost their roles in society as the goal posts keep changing and they are confused as to what their actual roles are. Ladies you need to let men take back their roles.

@samankarimitari7708

10 ай бұрын

Finally someone who asked ladies to take some responsibility and not just about their own selves. Thank you for your comment. (I´m a man with nightmares every night.)

@PepeCoinMania

9 ай бұрын

they won't , medias won't allow it. overall this conversation won't ever happen at large media

@MichaelJames-lz7ni

9 ай бұрын

Men have lost their roles BECAUSE they were totally unfit to assume those roles. Male character, integrity, morals, values, and ethics are SHIT, and there’s plenty of evidence in the culture that proves it.

@lisavermeulen6130

9 ай бұрын

Men have lost their traditional society-created roles because they abused it, don't deserve it, failed at it, and women have been forced to fulfil both roles for themselves and for their children. Strong women do not need men anymore. If men are not wanted and needed they should look at themselves as to why they are not wanted and needed, not blame someone for not wanting and needing them.

@suem7500

2 ай бұрын

Men need to step into their Provider, Protector and Leader roles in the family unit.

Feminists say that they are all about equality. With that comes looking for and accepting a good man as a life partner that doesn't bring in as much material gain, but is an amazing caring father and husband.

@innocentrage1

Ай бұрын

"Equality " yet they never want to approach first or pay for the first date

No matter how much society tells women to make the first move when dating, they'll never do it to a substantial degree. On a biological level, women desire men to make the first move because it's called "peacocking", men display their confidence, their assertiveness, their determination, charm, resourcefulness, competence, acuity and intelligence just to name a few things when men approach women. Women won't approach first because women care about far more than just a man's looks, wardrobe and observable wealth when considering a long-term partner and they want men to display these qualities to them which requires making the first move. Men approach for sex mainly, we see beauty and go for it, women don't see handsome and go for it, they want handsome to come to them and show them what he's got. Expecting women to make the first move completely dismantles this extremely ancient facet of human courting habits and it is highly arrogant because like most things, people in the 21st century are quick to think the new unproven thing is the way to go, not this ancient thing that's served more millennia of people than they can count. The more you analyze it, the more you'll find that the qualities it takes to approach someone for sex/a relationship are very masculine qualities and these are qualities they want to see men possess, they don't want to assume a masculine role and make it easier for men to display fewer desirable qualities just from the fact of him being approached instead. A man receiving an approach does not have to demonstrate the qualities I mentioned at the start of this text wall to nearly the same degree because you'll find the act of approaching in and of itself is what makes the demonstration of these qualities either possible or far more effective.

You can approach a woman if you are an attractive, extremely high value, top shelf guy. If you are anything less than that, it is not going to go well

What men can do better? Why we dont ask what women can do better? Oh right she wont change.

I'm sure there are lovely feminine ladies out there.... But I gave up looking 3 years ago...

@valvrj

Жыл бұрын

Same here. They all have very HIGH standards, but when it comes to giving back, it doesn't happen so often.

New sub here

"Maybe the game provides an outlet for certain impulses, that it fills a void in our genetic makeup that the more civilizing effects of society fail to provide for us." - Fox Mulder, _The X-Files_ "Well, that must be why men feel the great need to blast the crap out of stuff." - Dana Scully, _The X-Files_

With the threat of being labeled as "toxic" and with "Me too", it's not worth it to approach women anymore, and men aren't doing so. Red pill philosophy has much to do with this also.

@quack4800

Жыл бұрын

Nah. You just have to look in the right places.

@quack4800

Жыл бұрын

@@EJS1972 I know that the red pill community is destroying men and their relationship with women, based on what they’ve experienced and their feelings instead of focusing on mental stability and health, lots of them have stupid opinions on what masculinity is and what logic and responsibility are, most of them are nothing but just children with mommy and daddy issues, and now their projecting, most of them have been rejected and now it’s projecting, they haven’t healed so they don’t know how to communicate their emotions and they have very low self worth, LOTS OF ISSUES. And now, masculinity is declining because of it. But if we wanna talk about the fear of being called toxic by women, I assure you there’s nothing to be worried about, it depends on how you see it and you’re the one that makes the decision on whether you wanna continue with this toxic woman or not. It’s your call.

@23DanielVincent

Жыл бұрын

@@quack4800 Sure, and those "places" are overseas.

@alessandrajackson3768

Жыл бұрын

I’ve never heard of anyone catching a case from simply asking out a woman in a normal way.

@23DanielVincent

Жыл бұрын

@@alessandrajackson3768 Probably not, but I'm sure there have been plenty of men who have been called "toxic" or some other aspersion.

Chris' dating advice works great... If you look like him and have his money.

I 100% agree on how and why porn, vidya, and social media sedate young men. The problem is that there aren't alternate choices. Very few jobs have any sort of competition or reward for excellence. Everyone is a cog. Best employee makes the same as the shittiest employee; newest hire makes more than the most experienced guy since raises even for the best are below inflation/ cost of living increase. Most college degrees are worthless. Throw in DIE affirmative action, and there is no reason to struggle or strive in a vast majority of cases. As both hosts have covered, a vast majority of 30yo men are invisible to women. Porn, vidya, social media aren't the cause of the problem, they are both a symptom of it and a self-medicating treatment for it.

The thumbnail is a bit charged. Picking on people with glasses that are skinny makes them a weak man?. Strength comes in many forms my man. I don't care if you didn't mean it that way, because thats what you lead with.

@user-vb6lq9il5v

5 ай бұрын

There's a 'report' feature up there someplace. This might be a good opportunity to use it.

If you are good looking then you got game. If you are ugly then it's sexual harassment.

Interesting as I watched Steven tell his employee that she had a nice dressI don’t think that there was anything wrong with it but that could have been seen as being inappropriate. 🤷‍♀️

Overly sedated men seem like a ticking time bomb on society. But let's not worry about it until it's too late.

@contracthit9839

7 ай бұрын

That's a feminist narrative

I think women confuse being combative as....I don't even know anymore. Happened to me a few times, where someone says so and so really likes you. I'd be really confused be cause so and so had been really mean and aggressive.

Old man gets into an elevator with me and says "If I was younger I would do you"; to restructure that into a real compliment vs. an insult > "If I were younger, I would ask you out on a date". Just one of my life experiences.

Women don’t even look around nevermind make eye contact.. they put off this vibe of all men being creepers. Very frustrating for me at one time and for most men… but you gotta just man up and cold approach.

the take away I have from this came at the end and its that there's no room in society for male anger. This has always been true for men of colour and theres great snl sketch with idris elba that shows the contrast between a "big black guy" and a typical "Karen" when they're have to assert themselves in a public situation. I wanna put forward that the academy and its historic elitism is a root cause of most of inequality issues today with all of the biased and incomplete ideas they've put out. Ideas that have affected policy and social customs.

Wrong question and wrong approach. It’s not “how, as men, can we be better?” but “how can we get back to a former sense of reality?” One where we acknowledge that, in general, human interactions, romantic ones included, have always been messy. Therefore, people generally had thicker skin since they understood that mistakes would be made or actions misinterpreted while meeting someone new. The first world is, in fact, not as dangerous as the “terrified” women example implies. Quite the opposite is true. This is generally the safest time ever for women in the first world, and most of those fears are overblown.

Chris over simplifies a little in his theory here I think. Men with a purpose don’t need to be dangerous, aggression isn’t always a utility for violence and it definitely isn’t synonymous. It’s that drive that says I won’t stop here, enough is not enough, and I’m not letting anything deter me from my goal. It’s the uncompromising resilience to follow through on a strategy to make things better. The wanting of respect is a marker of how well the man is doing in his job. We don’t need an alien army to come to unite us or make us useful. We’ve been useful throughout the history of our species. Now more than ever we need role models to prove that is still the case. And we have them, too. People like Elon are exactly what properly placed aggression looks like. Regarding the dating stuff… the people that watch these videos aren’t generally the people that are most dangerous to women, and you will never be able to reason with the ignorance of a stupid animal. You need to appreciate when a man puts himself on n the line to protect a woman in the street. You need to appreciate the police that do the same. Other than that, there is nothing we can do.

If she rejects you, just tell her that you identify as a woman and call her a sexist.

You can be a strong man. I am. But if you aren’t in the top range of men you will be alone. It won’t help your situation.

want to do better with dating. Reincarnate into a wealthy family that will encourage the proper development of your brain.Oo make sure you are 6 feet tall with Muscles. Attraction is not a choice. Free will is a lie. And successful people suffer from survivorship bias.

@user-vb6lq9il5v

5 ай бұрын

+1 on mention of survivorship bias.

First thing: Destiny

That’s not on men that women feel like that.

So handsome men will get a pass and ugly men will make women feel uncomfortable when they approach them.

Every man has had to walk home at night in proximity of a woman. No practice is going to change anything

Blaming videogames/prawn for why men dropping out of society is putting the cart before the horse. Society/women have become hostile towards us young men also blaming us for all the problems i. The world. As such I dont want to participate in such a society. Videogames and adult content are just pass times, no different in my life than any other hobbies like hiking, walking the dog, fishing, cooking, ect.

This is the problem. we keep trying to do everything a woman wants, instead of focusing on ourselves.

Calm men, content men are infinitely better than dangerous men. Only need for dangerous men in today's society is other dangerous men. "When the aliens come you're going to wish men were competitive and aggressive brutes like in the golden days" is one of the worst arguments for traditional manliness. IMO, bigger problem than traditionally non-masculine men are aggressive men who wish they were warriors instead of pod-casters, lashing out their frustration on the society for not appreciating their ability to beat people up. Aggression has place in a finite game, less so in an infinite game, where it becomes self-destructing instead of a tool for protection.

Well that opener was a disaster.

Just be a decent human being.

💖❤️💖❤️💖🙏💖❤️💖❤️💖

The root cause is absent mothers. "Give me the child until his seventh year, and I will give you the man." Well, we have the men (and women) that are the result of zero mothering.

To put Bill Gates and Harvey Weinstein in the same sentence is wild. Bill Gates did somethings very different that got him success. 1. He did not approach her in a confrontational way. He gave her space. He called her (before text messaging). She had the chance to put the phone down 2. He listened for consent. Her asked her, she said yes. 3. He gave her time and didn't assume she'd have no plans. 3 weeks. 4. She stipulated what she wanted if she wanted to go on a date. She said she wanted spontaneity. Not every woman does. But she did 5. Most importantly, HE LISTENED. He listened when she said yes. He listened when she said she wanted spontaneity. And be implemented it and got success. One simple interaction, so many subtle layers. It's not that hard.

Just marry asian women..come to asia...u will get lots of soft spoken and humble asian women to be married

@gregrodgers107

Жыл бұрын

Think that’s the majority of westerns mens path if they want a relationship

@andradeb2695

Жыл бұрын

Do you local men get mad if we Westerners take your Women???

@Rose-mystic

9 ай бұрын

@@LM-1825don’t forget the Asian woman is looking for a ATM machine husband to pay her way AND her aging parents & unemployed siblings. Also most are FAKE innocents, in other words they play the village girl but live in the city to work and send money back to family. A lot are prostitutes to every Western Man that go there but “ACT” virginal or innocent and humble etc. Reap what you sow” evil does attracts evil in others. Good luck Overseas⚓️

Right place at the right moment thats how it works

Sure good points BUT on the other side u have marketing "fear" .. we have seen the bear/man in the forest meme... except stranger initiated violence is quite rare.. yet woman reportedly would rather meet a bear in the forest than a unknown man ... perception over reality

It doesn't matter what you do, unless you're good looking they will call you a creep. A good looking guy has to approach with a 6/10 creep before she would even notice something was wrong, short fat balding bloke can be 0 creep and still get called out.

America is getting pretty crazy yo!! And although we don't have American problems, we get their rules filtered down to us as well... although it may not apply here! So weird!

Very intelligent explanation. Great video.

Risk and reward. Guys add it up and don't like risks 😮. Social media, porn and gaming also play a role 🎉. It has never been easier to take the easy way out. True for men and women. Stay home and stay medicated 😊. Not the life I want but I understand why it happens. M. Gates may not have been a secretary but she was an employee. We wouldn't know her if not for Bill's genius and success. Bill married the help 😅.

Only two girls have ever hit up Williamson at a club. Whatever..

It's not so complicated. If a woman finds you attractive, she'll flirt back and if not, she'll find you creepy. Just take it lightly and move on... NEXT! And both men and women have to stop looking at Instagram and thinking they can get the hottest partner... be realistic!!! Find someone in your own league, both physically, emotionally and financially. I find that men today have lost their sense of self respect and they are afraid of putting themselves in uncomfortable situations. It's normal to get rejected! Also normal to fail in life... you learn from it and move on. People should stop wining and being lazy and afraid of new things. I'm 40 and when I was young, guys used to get rejected all the time, but it didn't stop them from trying hard with other women. Men and women today are scared of everything... it's like their parents made them afraid of the world... of reality. Go to therapy, do something that will take away your fears and go out and live life.

You're focused on a very narrow group of men

I disagree with Steven on a few points. I agree with Chris that the Devil's in the details. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with an employer asking out an employee, it depends entirely on how they went about it IMO. And let's not pretend that many women don't WANT to date men in superior positions to them. Also, this idea that women should never feel uncomfortable is a bit ridiculous in my mind. All of us feel discomfort with certain social situations, and there's nothing wrong with that - hell, it's healthy to feel uncomfortable from time to time! Again, the conversation is more nuanced than that. If you're cornering her in the supply closet and whipping your 🍆 out, then sure, I agree that's totally unacceptable behaviour and nobody should have to endure that level of discomfort. But if a man politely approaches a woman in the workplace cafeteria, and she feels a little bit embarrassed about it, then I'm sorry but tough. Brush it off and move on with your day. P.S. a lot of the time the difference between her being creeped out, and finding your approach "inappropriate", is down to whether she finds you attractive or not - rather than anything to do with your actions. Two guys could behave in the exact same manner, and if she finds you attractive, then you are deemed confident and charming, if she doesn't think you are attractive then you're a "weirdo" and "creepy".

as Louise Perry pointed out on Chris's channel just the other day, men approaching women isn't the historical norm. Semi-arranged marriages are. Masculinity, historically, was based upon the ability to remain relatively sober, do a solid day's work and not beat on women and kids. Which most of us do pretty much all of the time. The problem is that the bar is forever being raised. And I'm talking as a guy who's had dozens of women.

@tomryan9827

5 ай бұрын

There are 8 billion people. Obviously the vast, overwhelming majority of us are just NPCs. But the modern world's ability to cater to our natural tastes at unnatural levels has left everyone with Main Character Syndrome, and feeling that they deserve a hero's story

1:30 in and this is garbage. Sandboxing it? Practicing? No, have a good relationship with his mom, his aunts, and sisters is where he practices and his DAD is supposed to teach him. If he did not get practice there it may be too late for him especially if he's doing ANY of the things you mention. Maybe he needs to go to church and be retrained or something, but don't turn him loose on women to practice. He needs therapy or something else intensive.

Step 1. Be attractive Step 2. Don’t be unattractive

To the presenter: dude, how can men be better? Why is that always the question? If you can figure out why that is always the question, and never the other way around, you'll be someway to figuring out the nature of the problem. Also, nice job throwing your sex under the bus.

Don't talk to girls at all on your job

In other countries, bosses can date their employees. Just stop dating in the united States. Its the ONLY SOLUTION

@contracthit9839

7 ай бұрын

Chris, the coward won't discuss this

Just because I wear leopard skin tights and cry every time Leonard DiCaprio dies at the end of Titanic doesn't make me weak or any less of a man.

I can't work out weather this guy is bang on the money or well off the mark?

@user-vb6lq9il5v

5 ай бұрын

He's way off the mark.

There is absolutely no way that I will accept being lectured on masculinity by either of these guys

@TheRealAdamSampson

8 ай бұрын

Fair enough. Who would be ok to lecture you on masculinity then?

@rhett3185

8 ай бұрын

@@TheRealAdamSampsonJesus Christ Marcus Aurelius Carl Jung Miyamoto Musashi

@lastmanwalking2793

8 ай бұрын

So you’ll be lectured by a fictional character…well we all know how to estimate your intelligence

Yes, we did socialize and date higher ups in the 1980s and 1990s. Bosses CANNOT do that now! Things got messed up in the early to late 1990s. The women who dated and married the bosses did not complain. The complaints came from the ones who were not asked out by the bosses. Then came all the garbage and New rules. And Here we are today ..😢

@wyleecoyotee4252

Жыл бұрын

Were you hoping to marry a boss?

@trishmalone5639

Жыл бұрын

@@wyleecoyotee4252 I DID marry one of the bosses. I did not report directly to him so it was no issue. It is risky now for any higher up to even look at a some in a position less than theirs to look at them. But smart women still like a boss 😊

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

@@trishmalone5639 You're so gross. Just because you're a groveling sycophant doesn't mean the rest of us are.

@DD-xw6uw

9 ай бұрын

​@@trishmalone5639 speaking as a man and someone that’s been a boss, this current environment can make it too dangerous for a boss to socialise with a female co-worker, especially one that’s younger and lower on the ladder. People are more likely to assume the worse of you now, and take things out of context.

@trishmalone5639

9 ай бұрын

@DD-xw6uw Oh, I certainly agree! The way male bosses have to interact with women now is very different than it was back then. Nowadays, one accusation can be enough to cost you your job and/or career.

Why not simply stay away and live your life? Why to go through so much mental trouble?