Hello again lovelies! 💕Here's a follow up to my latest childfree by choice video in my Authentic Living series! I hope it inspires you to reconnect with your heart and inner voice....and to always trust yourself. Watch more of my thoughts on being childfree by choice here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/X5mX09VwgJXNpag.html 🌱You can also get my FULL slow intuitive living bundle here - helenawoods.com/slowlivingbundle

@Childfree334

8 ай бұрын

I loved this video, but you are giving people WAY TOO MUCH credit. In my experience, people don't want us to have kids because they want us to experience unconditional love and the "beauty" of motherhood. Human beings are NOT that altruistic. Sorry, but it's true. Society wants EVERY woman to be a mother to control us and keep us in servitude. Then the trick us to convince us that it is so fulfilling despite the ugly reality.

I'm a 39 year old male, and I'm childfree. I like my freedom, sanity, and money.

I chose not having children years ago, I'm now 53 yrs young and I never regret it.

@love__and__hope__

8 ай бұрын

Selfish life feels good , doesn’t it ?

@PriyankaYadav-lt5ml

7 ай бұрын

I m from India and its already overpopulated nd I decided to be childfree years ago in college nd I m proud of my decision

@love__and__hope__

7 ай бұрын

@@PriyankaYadav-lt5ml I got it. But in Europe different story.

@beaulieuc8910

7 ай бұрын

it is more selfish to have kids in this toxic world @@love__and__hope__

@beaulieuc8910

6 ай бұрын

Not self

I love having children, but also totally understand why some women would choose not to. We should all be entitled to see the positives in our choices, what a beautiful thing that we get to choose ❤️

I always knew I don't want to have children! Thank you for this video 🧡

"Accepting someones truth without asking if it's true for them". This 🙌. Though I want to have kids, I loooove this perspective and am so glad that more and more people are making these decisions consciously and living a life of true intention.

Never wanted children, never had children, never regretted. I lived through the social dogma and pressures. I held my own. I know and knew that I am not a father. believe it takes a true caring mature adult to know who you are and not pretend, which ultimately leads to failure. I'd rather be childless than a bad father. If you want children, good for you, go for it. But please do not belittle us who do not.

I can't imagine how miserable my life would be as a mother. I love my body to much to ruin it with pregnancy. I love my life, I don't want to do endless household grind for 18 plus years. Nope. Plus children destroy happy relationships.

@Childfree334

8 ай бұрын

​@@NajYlib-mc5foAs a childfree woman I definitely do not share your religious beliefs, but I absolutely agree about adopting instead of siring new humans to suffer.

@acedia_14

5 ай бұрын

@@Childfree334 with a wine glass as the pfp 🤣🤣 I sincerely hope this is satire

@Childfree334

5 ай бұрын

@@acedia_14 It's not satire at all moron. I am co-owner of a winery. See, there is so much more that women can do in this world besides catering to men and pushing out babies.

Every day is a new beginning; treat it that way. Stop thinking about what might have been and starting looking at what can be.

The best thing I never did. If all of my life choices were this easy. Thank you for this video!♥️

Hello Helena, Thankyou for sharing this video! I totally understand why you don't want children . I never wanted children ,but I accidentally got pregnant with my beautiful son . Having children sometimes is joyful and sad times when they get sick. Some children get really sick ,my son got sick at 26 mths old with meningitis,and he nearly die . It's was the worse time of mine and my husband's life. He pulled though ,but left him with a disability from his illness ,I have been his carer for 32 yrs and my husband and I just love him so much . My husband has just lately found out he has sage 3 small cell lung cancer ,it's a fast moving cancer ! He's having chemo and Radiotherapy to treat his cancer hopefully to give him more time. Without treatment on wks to live. We have been married for 42 yrs in Dec . So I say Helena live you life to what you want to enjoy life with your beautiful husband ,and your solo travelling. Good on you ,and do takecare ,see you in you next video 🤗🥰🌟

Hello You often mention the sacrifices that women make when deciding to have children (expected and UNEXPECTED :)) and this is OH SO TRUE! I have grown children and being tired and challenged and not hearing yourself think at times is definitely part of the journey. But ooooooh the expected and unexpected rewards. I also agree that you should not have children for anybody else but you, and shame on those who shame and guilt women for not wanting kids, whatever the reason, it is awful. However, you do not talk about what is given up when choosing not to have kids (your own or adoption) i.e. the journey of pregnancy and child birth (when possible), the relationship with raising a human being, seeing them grow and evolve and go out in the world and thrive. These are also sacrifices. Life is all about choices and whatever they are we learn and grow. Be who you want to be!

Living a life like yours... Is my dream❤ love and hugs from India🇮🇳

@PriyankaYadav-lt5ml

7 ай бұрын

Hi sis me too from India ❤

@jagritinarulaofficial

7 ай бұрын

@@PriyankaYadav-lt5ml ohh hey dear❤

It's never wise to force our opinions on anyone on any subject, unless what that person is embarking on can be literally dangerous to themselves or others, and even then, sometimes it's based on our idea of danger. I would go further to say that you should honour who you are at each stage of life....if you force yourself to have a child when it's not your desire, you risk PPD by a hundred-fold. Are these opinionated people going to help take care of your child when you are not mentally prepared to care for them?? And people can always change their mind somewhere down the line, living in today is what counts. I had an aunt who lived 80 years, never married, never had children. She was a teacher, that was her calling. She died fulfilled and without regret. That's all that matters. Life without regret.

I really do not like the comments that are saying that this is a movement, can women not decide WHAT THEY WANT? F$k sake? This women, anyone women has the right to choose what they want with their life, women as a species are not supposed to collectively decide for individualistic choices of each women. These are the same people that get mad when a women has a baby and never wanted them, then the child has trauma? Y’all will say then why have kids? Women can’t win for sh$t. Let this women live in peace. Let anyone pick their choices, that’s why everyone is in therapy. Choose bear. Listen to yourself and honor your innner voice.

Such a great Follow up from your last video about childfree by choice 👏💖

Thank you for your great and beautiful video Your channel is full of positive energy and that's wonderful My dear friend, have the best moments in God's shelter

Thankyou Helena for another informative video, your so in touch with your feelings and understand fully how other people unintentionally try to force their way of living on to others. So true not every woman wants to have children just like not every woman wants to live with a man. Myself after two very short marriages I made a decision many years ago that Marriage is not for me. At my age I'm happy to have my Cat as in Crazy Cat Lady.. I love my life and have many Social Connections including Dancing, Swimming, Beach Strolling and many hobbies. Many people cannot relate to my uncomplicated Lifestyle, but many people live like me. So I totally relate to what you're saying about your choice to be Childfree ❤❤❤

Wonderful words and inspiration! 😊❤

Thank you for making such a great video ❤ I feel so great when i hear from you In fact this video was the video that I have been waiting for Thank you so so much

Thanks for Vlog.Positive vibes

My son is going to college next year, and I am planning a year of traveling around Europe to reconnect with myself, learn who I am in this new, childless chapter of my life and also to reconnect with family and friends ❤ I am terrified and super excited in the same time! Your videos give me strength Helena so Thank You! 🤗

@helenawoods

8 ай бұрын

wow how fun!! That's actually the next video I'm writing right now - the joys of living/traveling alone! Was journaling on it in a cafe this morning. It might bring you some excitement and courage or that year of travel! It's the most wonderful, eye-opening thing you can do for yourself! You learn SO MUCH when you travel solo. Excited for you :)

@Postcard_Perfect

8 ай бұрын

@@helenawoods Looking forward to it! Do you think you can include some tips on how to travel for cheap if you don’t have points? I am thinking to make an account for myself for house sitting or go help do stuff for food and room.

@beaulieuc8910

8 ай бұрын

You are not childfree

@Postcard_Perfect

8 ай бұрын

@@beaulieuc8910No, I am not, but you know what I meant, don’t you ? 😉

@Childfree334

8 ай бұрын

​@@beaulieuc8910OP didn't say she was childfree, she said childless now that her son is on his own. She is CORRECT.

Remember Your eternal Self (= Universe) - so be bold. Do Your Thing ! Get inspired by the humble or bold childless, by ALL THOSE HAPPY and humanly rich and environmentally and socially engaged ones! It´s such a gift to finally be humble, free of wrath, precious, after all the studies and all that dark time, all that self-empowering moments - to just Be and Be Happy. Let Us stay engaged in the Good Thing! Dear Helen - thank YOU for Your contribution to my inspiration.

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Blows my mind how they would say these things to childfree when there are people that don't met thier partners in time or have infertility.

I wonder if your Ketu (south node) is in the 5th house, like mine? Being intentionally childfree without guilt is a common trait of that astrological position.

@RoseNanda

8 ай бұрын

Hello, my north node is in 5th house. So quite opposite. And yet I don't want children. I choose to be child free. 🤣

@lorraine6947

8 ай бұрын

@@RoseNanda the trait I mentioned is quite typical of 5th house south node placement as I wrote above. But surely, this world is multifaceted with different roads that lead to the same location...

@RoseNanda

8 ай бұрын

@@lorraine6947 I understand that. 5th house is childlike trait and creativity, etc. But very child centered. Having it in south node indicates it's sort of behind us. Hence I shared a counter experience that sometimes having it even in North node doesn't mean we are naturally drawn to children. :)

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

Astrology is a giant scam. Believing in it causes cognitive dissonance.

@CordeliaWagner

8 ай бұрын

You know that the sky has shifted because we move through the galaxy? Your assumptions make no sense. It was always bollocks but the sky you rely on has totally changed since some scammers inventet astrology.

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If people don't want kids they should not have kids. That's it. It's better than giving trauma to kids you don't want. I personally want children it makes my heart whole to care for them. But if someone doesn't feel that in them they shouldn't have them that's it people stop telling others what to do.

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I appreciate your honesty. It is true that childfree life is more comfortable, peaceful and serene. However, it is also lacking one dimension of love. I can totally understand if someone chooses purely spiritual life instead. I feel deeply sorry for every human being too ill to have children or to generally follow the deepest passion of their heart. I confess I have difficulty understanding healthy young people seeing only their own interests and convenience.

Who's gonna change my diaper when I'm 92?

@Childfree334

8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂 The CNA android at the nursing home, whether you have kids or not.

@keyhimself3542

8 ай бұрын

@@Childfree334 lol. "But wudduh bouts much legocy?"

@Childfree334

8 ай бұрын

@@keyhimself3542 Unless you have done something spectacular on your own merits in this world, there is no legacy. Kids are not a legacy, and that is what so many people don't understand. All they are doing is making the next generation of wage slaves.

@keyhimself3542

8 ай бұрын

@@Childfree334 my child could be the first person to discover peanut butter on Mars

@Childfree334

8 ай бұрын

@@keyhimself3542 😂😂😂😂 I always counter that argument with "Your parents also had you with the expectation that you would do something great, but oh look; you are a Walmart store manager just barely scraping by. 🤷🏾‍♀️

When making a decision in your 20s, one can’t possibly foresee the loneliness hopelessness and desperation I see in my friends in their 50s who share their anguish with me having chosen this route. They bought into the lie of freedom and self actualisation and instead have a life that is self absorbed and fundamentally purposeless when the appeal of not having children wears off. One never fully grows up until one is responsible for a child. The outpouring of love that is instinctual as a woman cannot be redirected elsewhere with the same profound impact. The relationship with a child is ever changing and enriching. It’s has been a blessing and a precious gift.

@J.Ilene.

3 ай бұрын

Hmmm. Would you feel the same about people who can’t have kids?

@kristieraynor7182

Ай бұрын

Nonsense. You are making up a scenario to fit your agenda.

Your movements rhetoric sounds awful pleasant but the problem with it is if it is a successful movement, it will only last for one generation then youll all be gone and everyone elses kids will move on

@ikeameltdown8012

5 ай бұрын

So?

@acedia_14

5 ай бұрын

@@ikeameltdown8012 spoken like someone who makes the most of their life and isn’t a pitiful waste of the human spirit

@deaquin_

Ай бұрын

People CHOOSING what they want for their lives is not a movement. Get outtaa here with that bs. You are part of the problem because misery loves company.... Plus no one cares about your opinion. 😉

It is duty to be valuable and produce future workers to sustain society. As well as soldiers. For people with reproductive health it is selfish to do only as one pleased. Duties over laziness and idleness. Man also has duty - to work hard and support kids well not to throw money on pure entertainment

@helenawoods

8 ай бұрын

To think that one is lazy simply because they don't want children is seriously one of the most disgusting things I have ever heard. 🤮 There are many ways to have responsibilities - to have value, to have duties, to make a better world - that don't require procreating. Your comment reeks of judgment and a lack of compassion. @rvardskammanuuzvardu6174

@acedia_14

5 ай бұрын

@@helenawoods the only disgusting thing here is how willingly you delude yourself into justifying your sad empty lifestyle. I hope you find peace one day.

@LunchOnTheGreen

5 ай бұрын

No.

@love__and__hope__

5 ай бұрын

@@helenawoods can you offer as hard duty and valuable as producing kids? I agree if someone does not reproduce to be able to become surgeon or something. Typical career is no way close to child rearing duties

I was actually born to someone who never wanted children. And it was undeniably obvious. It took me years to heal from her rejection! ❤️‍🩹 Side Note: I loved the outfit with the polka dot skirt and your favorite top! 🤩