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the four pillars to adjust: purposeful, controlled, flowing and self-amused.

This video hits the mark. Authenticity is the way to truly connect. Personally, when I lie and agree with people for the sake of being liked, I become boring and lose my personality. When I agree for the sake of being liked, I withhold my truth. Withholding my truth prevents me from sharing my opinions and stories- so I shut up afterwards because the only way to retain this fake mask is to hide more of my thoughts. This short 13 minute video contains so much value. A lot of what Julien talks about here can be found in his HVC course, so enjoy the free content folks and take lotsa notes.

This is such great advice! For a long time i worked to try to be someone that was well-liked (to get external validation), so i started to be more enthusiastic, more funny (i.e., the one liner guy) etc., but the problem was that i lacked substance and authenticity. I was too fearful of being truly polarising, and I struggled to really know who i was, what i stood for, even what i liked. I also felt a lot of shame about my lack of achievements and other things about myself so i kind of locked away my past and my personality. Once i realised this, i started to stop pretending who i was and be more honest. I felt better, more confident, but pretending (to be someone else) for so long took its toll - i felt empty and didnt really know what to say in a conversation and how to connect with people since i didnt really know myself. Auditing my past has helped remind me of who i am so i can express myself authentically. Btw love your content Julian - your videos on self esteem are truly life-changing.

@tommybinson

3 ай бұрын

A fine comment. Thanks for sharing. Best wishes!

We only get one life. Be the person you want to be. So difficult, yet so easy.

The cave you fear to enter, Holds the treasure you seek. A person facing his fear is truly adapting himself towards what he wants to become.

@user-ji7hy6cm8z

Ай бұрын

This revelation made me cower in my fears more, however thank you for the advice sir

It’s great to look at what made you excited, to figure out what might help you express your uniqueness

@JulienHimself

5 ай бұрын

Yes! This is the way... 🔥👊

You my friend make SO MUCH SENSE! You really help me. Thank you. 💞

Awesome advice!

thank you again Julien.

I feel like I am being a social scammer (or being fake) if I'm express myself more than usual.

@time_lightsout_1186

5 ай бұрын

That's because your focused to much on what other people think about you.

@mmhcreates

5 ай бұрын

It is fake. Be you. This vid title contradicts his main message.

@aviro.7594

5 ай бұрын

that's because you compare yourself with the mass. You want to fit in, we all want to survive. In the early day's we had to, to survive. Not in the modern world anymore ;)

@aviro.7594

5 ай бұрын

Grab your balls and express the real you. Don't be afraid to stand alone, you will survive, and your soul will feel beter then ever. I hate it to fit in, most off the time i walk alone i don't want to be part of a group or think like the mass.

@gainsandgirls

5 ай бұрын

You don't have to "over the top" ridiculous expressive but don't hide away and try not to be seen. Relax, be yourself, have fun and speak your mind.

Purpose Controlled Flowing Self amused

Incredible video, life-changing value if we know how to listen

This video came at the perfect time

Thank uu julien ❤

@JulienHimself

5 ай бұрын

You’re welcome! 🙏

I remember the vampire diary days lol So happy for your success !

I agree with your view. back in high school I felt like I had no personality, I wanted to fit in with everyone and that made me no one. I would force my self to like what I thought other people liked so that i feel accepted by them and that made me forgettable. I didn't even get the friendship and approval I hoped I would gain. and for a long time I could not form any meaningful relationship with another person. either I feel like I'm not being myself or there was an invisible wall between us and they wouldn't understand me.

@TheSuperJP3

5 ай бұрын

I was a very thin high schooler so I had no confidence. Now, I been lifting weights and there seems to be a difference. I still suck at parties tho

@flo1804

5 ай бұрын

I find myself in this description

Good video bro

Thank you from Lebanon

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@JulienHimself

5 ай бұрын

🔥🔥🔥

thank you

So check yourself for: -How Purpuseful you are -How Controlled you are -How Flowing you are ,& -How Self Amused you are.

Julian definetly has magnetic personality

@tommybinson

3 ай бұрын

Yes, I use Julian as a role model for confidence and expressiveness. But I retain my persona.

Thanks. It takes effort and courage to escape the soft nice-guy mindset, esp. after decades there. But benefits in internal and external respect you soon feel.

I love ASMR videos, people think it's cringy but I don't care I like them

May I ask if dopamine correlates with being charismatic? Because I noticed that like when I feel more cheered and relaxed I can draw the good attention way more easily and actually be extemely articulate with my speech and have a quick thinking

@Vlikdude

4 ай бұрын

I would say yea because when i intake nicotine it boosts dopamine and it definitely makes me more social and have more charisma but nicotine isnt good for health

Does this guy give any practical guidance, like cut-and-paste step-by-step tips? His gift of gab is impressive, but actions speak louder than words.

7:27 I absolutely do , look down to anyone buying coffee from this criminal place!!

There's a shit load of things about me that not everybody likes/understands, but I missed the part where that's my problem.

Learn from the Discworlds Monks Of Cool. Listen, it goes like this..... The Monks of Cool, whose tiny and exclusive monastery is hidden in a really cool and laid-back valley in the lower Ramtops, have a passing-out test for a novice. He is taken into a room full of all types of clothing and asked: Yo, my son, which of these is the most stylish thing to wear? And the correct answer is: Hey, whatever I select. From Terry Pratchett's Lords and ladies. Read it, and thank me when you've finished the book. You won't regret doing this

Model Kit building..

I love eminem too 😂

I dont prescribe to the God of Self (self love, self empowerment) if Jesus says I am good enough then that makes me 100% content.

@potapotapotapotapotapota

5 ай бұрын

it's not so much about "self love" as it is letting go of what other people think of you by being your authentic self. If your authentic self is to be a lover of Jesus then his advice will help you stop caring about people who tell you not to talk about Jesus

@Officialksh

4 ай бұрын

Brudda you wasting oxygen wagwan

You talked about some ppl not liking who u are how to handle that ?

@aliasanew3398

5 ай бұрын

Haters gon hate man. It’s they’re job.

@user-hq8dy5ur8v

5 ай бұрын

@@aliasanew3398 but how do u handle it

@halfwaysleet

5 ай бұрын

don't handle it. Plain and simple. You're unlikely to succeed at getting people to like you by trying to get people to like you. You can try understanding them and their hobbies, talk to them, take curiosity in them, but if you're going to pretend to be someone you're not, it's not going to work out well for you. I suggest reading a book called how to make friends and influence people. Great book.

@i.m.3940

5 ай бұрын

What seems to be working for me is just having a bit of confidence and also being humble at the same time. Refrain from judging people too early, give them an honest, real chance at being friends and if your interests differ a lot, acknowledge the fact that interests are subjective, people like different things and thats completely fine, you don't need to become best friends or anything. Usually if the person you're dealing with is mature enough, regardless of age, they'll acknowledge it as well and you'll have normal, friendly and respectful relations. Realistically speaking, no person out there has a real reason to *actually* dislike or hate you unless you harmed them in some way, which is rarely the case anyway. If you're worried that somebody dislikes you just because you like different things and have different hobbies, that person is almost always an immature idiot that is mentally still stuck in middle school, they'll never start liking you no matter what you do so you're not doing yourself any favors by dwelling on it. You'll notice that their "friends" are the same as them and they tend to talk behind each other's backs constantly too. If such a person doesn't like you, it means you're doing something right and you should be glad they're not in your circle. Thats the easiest way to handle it for me personally and once I realized that, I started growing a thicker skin and the best part about that is that you simply start forgetting these people even exist, your mind truly becomes at peace.

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I wonder when this torture will end.

@potapotapotapotapotapota

5 ай бұрын

when you meet Jesus

@gsit80

5 ай бұрын

​@@potapotapotapotapotapota sorry c..k s....r I'm happy we Satan. We have cookies on the dark side.

@gsit80

5 ай бұрын

@@potapotapotapotapotapota right.

@niellalien

4 ай бұрын

What torture?

@gsit80

4 ай бұрын

This torture@@niellalien

Okay I get authenticity.. but I’ve heard your personality is childish way too many times! Although when I was a child I was actually an adult..

Hey Julien, are you okay? You look burned out.

If you check this video and the first video from this channel you see two different persons completely! This is called Dissociative identity disorder and it exists psychiatry to solve this kind of problems! Not a random guy on the Internet dressed with a cloak and leather trousers like of Robin of Batman & Robin... WTF?!?

@Blubkeks100

5 ай бұрын

I think many so called disorders are just for selling dr.'s and medication bro. You think personally change over time (in terms of your hair and clothing style) is something sick? Or being a little different?! He seems completely fine, don't adress problems that are none!

@aliasanew3398

5 ай бұрын

He literally looks the same… it’s almost like people change styles every so often 🤯

@Blubkeks100

5 ай бұрын

😂😂 Dude its 8 years ago wtf

@gsit80

5 ай бұрын

​@@Blubkeks100 I do a difficult job: sometimes to understand things it takes times.

@gsit80

5 ай бұрын

​@@aliasanew3398 I don't agree. He used teardrop glasses in the video from the beginning of this channel... He's using square frame glasses now!

I love that you made the distinction between the actor and the humor with the whole Borat thing, it's great to see people feeling free to stand up for themselves, and being willing to piss people off. Honestly, if he watched this, he'd probably understand it himself, he's just a guy like us, except he has to work in Hollywood. He's enslaved, as consumers, we have the power to free him and the rest of our brothers and sisters by proper use of our consumption choices. I sound like a hippy, but I'm a hippy and a ninja, that's my lineage after all. ⚡️⚡️👌🥷☝️❤️‍🔥🙏