Change Your Perspective (and it will change your life) | Being Well Podcast

How we view ourselves, other people, and the world around us has a huge impact on the emotions we feel, the choices we make, and the quality of the lives we lead. These are our perspectives, and they’re the foundation our lives are built on…which is why changing them is so freakin’ hard.
In this episode,‪@RickHanson‬and I explore what perspectives are, what a healthy perspective looks like in practice, and how we can deliberately change our perspectives over time. Specific topics include unpacking where perspectives come from, getting better at identifying when a perspective starts to affect our behavior, and thinking of ourselves as “rivers” rather than “rocks.” By the end of this episode, you’ll learn the key skills you need to change the views that have been holding you back.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction and info on Rick’s Neurodharma course
2:00 Aspects of the kind of perspective we’re talking about
5:00 Change, being grounded in reality, and self-compassion
12:35 Fixed perspectives, fear, and a few examples from Rick
20:00 Shame, and conflict with others due to changes in behavior
22:55 Lack of self-confidence leading to rigidity
25:20 De-centering, joy, viewing yourself as a river, and playfulness
31:15 Roleplay, and asking ‘what if?’
34:55 Inquiring into how our perspectives are constructed
43:50 Emotional imagination, and retelling your story
47:10 How our values and aspirations drive our perspective
52:30 Asking which perspectives support what’s important to you
54:20 Recap
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  • @janedmunds4218
    @janedmunds42188 ай бұрын

    Thank you Rick and mom Hanson for giving us Forrest

  • @pc3235
    @pc3235Ай бұрын

    I wish I had been able to speak with my dad like this. It melts my heart, Forrest, every time you say dad in these conversations.

  • @jackietripp1716

    @jackietripp1716

    Ай бұрын

    they are soothing to watch~ ;)

  • @dr.andrabrosh8715
    @dr.andrabrosh87158 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this insightful and informative episode! I hope you do a piece on Aging because I hated the idea that you're dreading getting older. We need to combat this kind of age-phobic mental space that permeates the culture.

  • @ShadeCandle
    @ShadeCandle8 ай бұрын

    So funny - just getting to the end here, and it turns out I'm just a few weeks older than you, Forrest, having turned 36 at the end of September. So welcome to middle age!! A certain elder family member referred to me the other day in what might have been construed as a joke as a senior citizen. And the beat goes on... I'm not sure if I've commented on any of your videos yet, but I've been tuning in for a few months now, and absolutely love what you do. You and your dad are uniquely insightful and articulate rays of light in this field, and I've benefited a lot from listening to you, being a student counselor myself. I've also been thoroughly struck by your consistent demonstration of a healthy father-son relationship, which is something I can't say I've personally experienced. So, thanks for all you do, from just a bit north, on Vancouver Island.

  • @marren6323
    @marren63238 ай бұрын

    Great conversation! I appreciate your channel. Forrest, I love how you moved from talking too much to adjusting your perspective about that and yourself after being told directly about it. Then, with a new perspective, you started using your talking ability to create this platform that supports that part of you in a new and healthier way. The icing on the cake is that your "talking" helps support others, too. Such a wonderful example of moving to a healthier perspective!

  • @darkcreatureinadarkroom1617
    @darkcreatureinadarkroom16178 ай бұрын

    I was going to say, how do you become less budging? But I guess I should wait for the video on self-confidence. I always try to look for as many perspectives as I can and realize my mistakes. I will then be the first person to acknowledge that and apologize... And then it turns out I'm the only one. So, since it rarely is the case that I'm the only one who is wrong in an argument, I'm not rushing to apologize anymore no matter how wrong I might be. I'm tired of people thinking I'm stompable. I deserve respect, that's my new perspective.

  • @AS-ks6kn
    @AS-ks6kn8 ай бұрын

    What a wonderful and helpful topic! This is exactly what I needed to further my journey of being less rigid and more empathetic and connecting: All topics you and Rick touched on today! Thank you. 🎉 I also very much appreciate the connection you and your dad share. It is lovely to witness😊.

  • @jaynedenny7759
    @jaynedenny77597 ай бұрын

    Good show. You two are so lovable. I love learning from your content and HOW you relate to each other. Esp bc you are family and even more remarkable parent/adult child role models. ❤

  • @A99286
    @A992868 ай бұрын

    I have Social phobia (fearing others) to an extreme degree, like 1000%.

  • @ForrestHanson

    @ForrestHanson

    8 ай бұрын

    That's a really interesting idea.

  • @sunnyadams5842

    @sunnyadams5842

    7 ай бұрын

    do you know why?

  • @A99286

    @A99286

    7 ай бұрын

    @@sunnyadams5842 no

  • @chevalvivant
    @chevalvivant2 ай бұрын

    Love you both, thank you

  • @lindaelarde2692
    @lindaelarde26923 ай бұрын

    So thought provoking with great suggestions on how to go deeper and understand the origins of our perspectives.

  • @wiGoGale
    @wiGoGale7 ай бұрын

    Love these two- going to watch this one over! 1 Budgie Bird in the making here

  • @lannaintajak80
    @lannaintajak804 ай бұрын

    Loooove this episode ❤ Thank you.

  • @andrewgowen9236
    @andrewgowen92368 ай бұрын

    Rick mentioned "David White" in this podcast. Please note, I suspect this was an unintentional amalgamation of Narrative Therapy's two founders, Michael White (from Australia) and David Epston (from New Zealand). On that note, I would love to hear Rick and Forrest do a podcast on Narrative Therapy. Thanks.

  • @stephanielau1483
    @stephanielau14838 ай бұрын

    Thanks for another great episode!

  • @barbarademaio3980
    @barbarademaio39808 ай бұрын

    Always valuable ...easy to take medicine! Thx!

  • @ShadeCandle
    @ShadeCandle8 ай бұрын

    Another potential topic I'd love to hear your thoughts on, if it interests you: since moving to the west coast, I've become close with a number of people in the new age community. Despite my scientific background and skeptical nature, being wary of magical thinking, I've found myself wondering if maybe there is something to all the talk of manifesting, but I can't quite bring myself to believe it. But as I listened to you discussing shifting perspectives tonight, that was a personal example that sprung to mind. Granted, it's a more spiritual topic than psychological, but I'm thinking it would be interesting to hear you discuss the idea of intellectual integrity vs the desire for magical thinking/spiritual fuzziness, etc... Just a thought!

  • @sunnyadams5842

    @sunnyadams5842

    7 ай бұрын

    Reality!! Dang!! Optimistic Realism... Reality!! Dang!! THAT understanding is SO ESSENTIAL and So helpful in getting Regulated!!! It's hard, at first, to come back from the blur into a Closer Facsimile of Objective Reality... Focusing was SO HARD, it was PAINFUL! In the begining, after Narc Abuse, as was The Light. My Eyes! Had I really been ThAT DEEPLY into 5ge Dark for so long?! I guess, yes?!! ReTraining my brain to WANT AWARENESSto😮 co Appropriate Budgablity!! HEALTHY ATTRIBUTes, Perspective .

  • @kristenwolch
    @kristenwolch8 ай бұрын

    "What if I really am enough as I am?"

  • @WahidSpeenGhazi
    @WahidSpeenGhazi8 ай бұрын

    What do you have to say about perspective and narratives for someone with OCD? As you know someone with OCD and obsessional doubts does not necessarily have the best view of themselves.

  • @jadejago7664
    @jadejago76648 ай бұрын

    I'll have to remember to make you a rock buoy picture once my uni semester has finished.

  • @whatdoyoulivefor735
    @whatdoyoulivefor7357 ай бұрын

    35 middle aged? Mmmk. Never heard of anyone refer to 35 as middle aged unless it was a pre-turn of the century writer.... And even then.... Not really

  • @ForrestHanson

    @ForrestHanson

    7 ай бұрын

    Late-not-quite-middle-age doesn't exactly roll off the tongue. Global life expectancy is 72 years. 35 is basically half that. That's kinda the middle no?

  • @whatdoyoulivefor735

    @whatdoyoulivefor735

    7 ай бұрын

    @@ForrestHanson if you're going by the global life expectancy. But you're American(?), fairly privileged and global standards include parts of the world that have low life expectancies. And anyway it's rising, of course. Judging it this way, as a Canadian female I'll be middle aged at 42 but why even bother placing that marker? I might die tomorrow or I might live to be the first 123 year old woman. Also, biological age is different than chronological age. And you can change your biological age over time with lifestyle and a large part of lifestyle is the right mindset so thinking you're half done at 35 just seems kinda silly.

  • @ForrestHanson

    @ForrestHanson

    7 ай бұрын

    Fwiw, early middle age is typically defined as starting around age 35 in research. pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7203662