“We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.”

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

True, I have really loved this comment 🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️

@adamyagupta9756

Жыл бұрын

If we start seeing things as they are then we will be really depressed 💀

@simpdefendmlady6579

Жыл бұрын

Going to tell this to tradcons, feminists and femceIs

"It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see" wow.

@theodora3141

Жыл бұрын

Can someone explain to me what does she mean with affirmations ?

@Weaponator18

Жыл бұрын

​@@theodora3141 saying things to yourself over and over again until it becomes your default mindset. Hope that helps :)

@theodora3141

Жыл бұрын

@@Weaponator18 it does , thank you ❤️

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

True 😊😊😊

@YourMomXD1337

Жыл бұрын

Inshallah

I used to be stuck in victim mindset but with work I realized it was because as a kid my parents could always save the day. As humans we miss the feeling as a kid of being saved or coddled by someone. When a parent would hold you and tell you everything will be ok and all you had to do was sit there and everything did become ok. Now we have to empower ourselves to be the parent to our inner child. Tell them it is ok but also take steps to make it that way

@simpdefendmlady6579

Жыл бұрын

'Victim mindset' May I ask what is your gender?

@Natalieeee365

4 ай бұрын

Well said…

Really love today’s message, and such a great one to wake up to on my birthday, really glad I’ve stuck by for all this time.

@trinaq

Жыл бұрын

Happy Birthday, glad that Anna was able to inspire and uplift you today! 🥰

@missreia

Жыл бұрын

Happy birthday 🎊 make it a beautiful one for your world!

@jessicasharma4836

Жыл бұрын

Happy Birthday!

@LuanEevee

Жыл бұрын

Happy birthday beautiful soul!

@coffeestain8147

Жыл бұрын

🎂🎉

I take this perspective with a grain of salt. I think it takes discernment of your circumstances to determine how much you can take on to alter your mindset to ultimately change your circumstances for yourself. It places a lot of responsibility on the individual to change, when there can be plenty that is outside your locus of control. I hear a lot of contrast of “victim mindset” vs “empowered mindset” not allowing for the gray area in between. I think it’s a privilege to have power and mental capacity to simply change your mindset for positive results. And the pressure to change your mindset when contrasted with things like depression, trauma and societal disenfranchisement can place blame on individuals.

@xcristinat

Жыл бұрын

THIS!!! It's hard enough to just "change your mindset" when you're a first world citizen living with debilitating health issues.....now imagine saying this message to a survivor of war or someone living in a third world country....it would come off as extremely tone deaf. You are absolutely right that it is a privilege to hold this perspective.

@xcristinat

Жыл бұрын

Also, I hate the term "victim-mindset" - it has such a negative connotation...why can't we admit that sometimes people are victims, whether it's of someone else, a culture, society, etc?? Just because someone is a victim doesn't make them a horrible, helpless person. It's simply acknowledging the way that that person was/is treated unfairly.

@latteknowsbest6365

Жыл бұрын

@@xcristinattrue true

@catmeister6460

5 ай бұрын

@@xcristinattotally agree. Our modern, hyper-individualistic society has way too much focus on ‘winners vs losers’ and the idea that happiness and succes is a feasible concept. Sure, partly this is true, but it totally ignores important aspects such as genetic predisposition, societal and cultural influences and one’s cognitive ability to see things in a different perspective. Therefore if you are not successful or happy it’s probably ‘your own fault’.

I’ve been saying some version of this to people for a while now, which usually went “well you can’t really do much about what happened, but you can control how you respond to it”. I can honestly tell you that timing this message and softening it as much as you can is key to it being heard. When someone is spinning out that usually is t the time to challenge them. I’ve made this mistake so so many times.

Thanks Anna for reminding us the importance of the choices we make and how they define us!

@deutschmitpurple2918

Жыл бұрын

When I watch her videos, I feel myself so happy and confident

Can't control your reaction, but you do control your Response. Practice your Response. Practice makes Progress. Eventually, your Response will Progress into something that feels like Reaction YOU CAN DO THE THING!!!

❤ Our MINDSET is everything. It’s the filter we put over everything we see, think and experience. It’s the key to taking difficult experiences in life and turning them into opportunities to grow and increase our self-love and confidence. As a Mindset Coach, I regularly talk about strategies for how we can learn how to LOVE OUR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs we’re experiencing on my YT channel.

Some things in life never stay the same, it changes everything

@missreia

Жыл бұрын

It changes everything...which is also changing

A problem I have is blaming myself for circumstances outside of my control and also blaming myself for my own choices. Being both the victim and the villain is hard and not sure how to get out of that…

Thank you for this content. I feel like it hit on something I have been struggling with for the past few months and gave me a starting point for what I hope can be a meaningful change. I had been feeling like a lot of bad things had been just "happening to me" without considering my agency in those things or how I can CHOOSE to respond rather than just responding emotionally with my first instinct.

Oh my gosh GIRL! Yes. This is how I have chosen to see my life for what feels like a decade now. It's the only way to do it. I've learned so much. And honestly like after the summer I just had (breakup with partner of 7 years, ending friendship of 9 yrs), I cannot tell you have beneficial it has been for me to take time to focus on myself and learn how I can grow from these experiences. I am now a few months past that stuff and things are already looking incredibly better. I, like anyone else, have my hard days but in the grand scheme of things I am doing so much better and a huge part of that is the committed mindset I have cultivated.

@nadineburford4977

Жыл бұрын

You're amazing 👏

mindset is something I work on everyday and can't wait until it takes me to where I desire to be

Our reaction holds more power than our tragedies

This is so true, I wrote down what I wanted to believe every morning and evening for a month now even when I'm crying my brain replays the positive thoughts instead of digging me deeper into the hole

Never been this early in a vlog! Anna serving us another empowering message!

I needed to hear this today. I failed a lot this morning, and it felt a lot like i was useless, and that my study group didn't think i was enough to include me. I journalled. And now I am going to appreciate all my efforts and that I gave good answers in my lecture today and that I am smart. Onwards.

You're honestly one of the best people I follow on KZread. Thanks for your inspiring videos and positive attitude !

Thanks for the advice, Anna! Powerful stuff. People really can change their lives through re-framing how they react to things, good and bad.

Love the mention of stoic principles. The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts.

Thank you for all your help over the last few years.

Thank you Anna for your time and effort

I didn’t know that I’ve needed this mindset until this very minute. Thank you Anna!

i love your videos anna, and find myself sharing them often. i think i needed to hear this, and i think i know a couple other who could stand to hear it too. thank you. also, i've been watching your videos for years and you've found a way to make sponsor portions funny or interesting lol. thanks for that too

I really need to hear this today, Anna! Thank you!

Recently I had a bad experience and I’m kinda flashed by myself how positive I go trough it. Yeah sometimes I’m sad but then I think of it as a good event. Like now i know that I want more love, and I will give it to myself. It’s motivating time to pull myself to the good side of life. :)

@ozeryldz3398

Жыл бұрын

When the bad events happens to me I always think okey dude its temporary it will over just be patience about it and as always it finish like happiness and other good feelings..

@theodora3141

Жыл бұрын

Can someone explain to me what does she mean with affirmations ?

@lunar686

Жыл бұрын

I’ve found the best key is to not beat yourself up for negative emotions, it’s all part of the experience of being here, and not every event will have a silver lining. But there truly is something to be said for how, without the bad, we couldn’t truly appreciate the good. All experiences are temporary and it’s best to be kind to yourself throughout all of them. Happiness won’t stay, but neither will misery.

thanks for being a big sister for me (virtually) and reminding me to take a good care of my mental health..

Thanks Anna love your positive self help videos 👏 you always look gorgeous too!

Charles R. Swindoll is a great preacher and theologian who was based in Fullerton for many years. Thanks for quoting him. I've been a fan of his for a long time.

More of these! Jolly good work!🥰

Thank you so much for this. I'm going to restart my mirror affirmations. I can do this!

YES YES YES and I feel SO FREE ever since I changed my mindset

OMG never have I ever been so early! Love you, your knowledge and awesomeness

Garrain Jones said it best! Much love to everyone trying to create that change in their lives, blessings to everyone 💙

Gurl this is what I needeeeeed!

Anna has been practicing and teaching key aspects of Stoicism. She's the GOAT

One of my favorite videos! I love this message Anna ❤

We are looking at you Anna and we love what we see. Inside and outside too. Thanks for showing up for us. It means a lot!

We love you Anna!❤️

I needed to hear this today. Thanks as always Anna

Yassss Anna!!! ❤️💯✨️

Needed these reminders today, Thanks 😊

That was beautiful , thank you

Every moment of one's life is a performance that someday will be seen by your future self.

Always, right on time. I am wondering how Ana knows what I needed to hear. Thank you for making me feel so much better with the situatuon I am right now.

@JennLinsi

Жыл бұрын

Hi Claire. I hope you’re doing ok. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃

Yup! This is basically a happiness science 101: Things are never good or bad. Because it all depends on what you compare them to. Is breaking a leg bad? Not necessarily, because you could've broken your spine. The quickest way to feel better is to think how it could've been worst (negative visualization technique) and the biggest mistake we make (to feel down) is we think how things could have been better..

Love this!!

Just watched ant-man for the first time today and i saw you! didn't realize you had made it that high. good for you! i wish you luck in your future endeavors

i've started to think that no matter how fucked your circumstances are, you can always do something to make things 1% better

So timely.

You are such a wonderful person, love this message Anna ❤

Thanks Anna's Production Team 🤩👍🇦🇺🖤💛❤️

So true. Great speech

I used to do mirror work when I was the only child. I felt I had to coach myself. It feels weird now but will try it!

Thanks for all the good advise pretty lady!!!

Your videos are more than enough empowerment 😌

thank you anna ily

Great message. I'm glad I'm seeing more youtubers talk about the importance of mindset

@JennLinsi

Жыл бұрын

Hi Breh. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃

Please keep making videos that come at the right place and time ❤

Oh this episode was great!!!!

those little videos each week are one of my few moments of my "me time" , so thanks anna for them 😻

it only took me 40 years to be empowered ... but I've never actively trained to get rid of the victim mentality, I've simply hit wall after wall and then I found the door. but the realization was painful as f... when I looked back and saw how much of me I've wasted because of not feeling in charge, blaming everything else instead.

Thanks I really needed that today

Thank your for this 💙🤍

It's a good message, maybe only applies to how to react to some things tho. If something truely awful happens to you, I'm not sure just changing your mindset will allow you to get over it

@jareerareerarr5053

Жыл бұрын

yeah. I'm know a girl who is a syrian refugee. the stories she tells man......

thank you a lot!!

You say everything I usually say. It is amazing your growth and intelligence and I appreciate you for it 🌹🌹😁❤

so relevant!

This is one of the basic tenets of stoicism and it helped me A LOT in my life (everybody should read "The Practicing Stoic" if they haven't, btw).

I like the idea “Who you are; is the sum of your reactions to what’s happened around you” or “you are the sum of your reactions”. Also is there any community like a discord server for Anna’s viewers? I’ve been watching for years and think it’d be awesome to be able to jump on a server and talk with other people interested in the same topics, seems like it’d be a positive and helpful community to engage with.

Anna Akana is not only lovely but she is also right: what happens to you is not as important as how you respond to it. You tell 'em sister.

The fourth noble truth of Buddhism is to be mindful of our thoughts and how they influence ours and others actions.

"Victim of circumstance" That's not always applicative. Whether or not we see ourselves as victims doesn't always change our circumstances. Denial of events and actions outside of our control may help our internal state, but can also create a whole new problem of our own making. This is a slippery slope. No matter how well you play a bad hand, you still got dealt a bad hand.

@4891MR

Жыл бұрын

The first step to changing anything is acceptance of the things that you cannot change. Well... it might take a number of steps to get to that acceptance. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression... I mean acceptance of the past is basically the first productive step. You always need to be in reality to change the future. You know, a lot of modern activists like to object to optimism, seeming to feel that if folks feel too empowered, then they're not likely to fight for political change. And that may be true in some cases. But defeatists are not going to fight, either.

@andrealewis2501

Жыл бұрын

I think it completely depends, sometimes negative cards come in blessings in disguise depending upon how you play them in the future, my situation is really hard to tell which way it could go, possibly two situations I'm in or three and in a story I wrote the main character thinks what's happened to her is the worst thing that could happen at first....

Glad to see the estoics are still alive!

"It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see" apart from the really nice and appreciating message i guess some of us also saw something else 😂😂😂

@xav9156

Жыл бұрын

From my perspective it was nice

@loloknight

Жыл бұрын

Is this like a movement...?

exactly - we are going to react by creating a system that producing freedom for all - no more exploitation - no more victims

Preachhh!

Okay but ✨ mindset ✨ is not a substitute for therapy, and psychological issues like depression can't just be magicked away with some positive thinking...

This is actually helpful. Thank you

That's The Core Of Stoic Philosophy.

YEEEEES! 👏✨️

Great great and great job ❤❤❤ beautiful and brilliant presentation ❤❤❤ have a blessed day ❤❤❤

I was recently stuck in a victim mentality after I left a job I loved for an opportunity that lead nowhere. I had to go from working at a photo studio, to working as a cashiere again. I was sad and scared and wondered how’d I find another job related to my field (I live in a state with little opportunities in my chosen career). I also have little skills since I went to a university that did not have the best program. I felt sorry for myself for a bit. Then, I decided to fix my situation. I got a better paying job. And now I’m going to community college and taking on a mentorship with someone in the field to improve my skills and get a portfolio. Even though I’m lost and a little embarrassed that I’m not where I want to be, I’m going to take action. Let’s hope all goes well.

Stoicism baby! 💯👌

Be empowered af! 👏🏿🔥👏🏿🔥👏🏿💖💖💖 HECK YEA

Good message ty.

Wow I actually got a notification that Anna posted

“Unlearning previous behaviours, beliefs and mindsets will take a lot of conscious and intentional reprogramming. But that work makes the difference between making the most out of your life and living your highest and truest potential.. OR .. allowing things that happen to you to dictate who you are and how far you’ll go and how fulfilled you’ll be.” Great stuff, keep it up!

I'm just now grasping the depth of this concept... It's not just "change your mindset, change your life", it's "Your life IS your mindset". For anyone interested, the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and even Self-hypnosis are good accellerators to this process.

I’ve been having a lot of bad situations thot has happened to me and failures and I have to truly work on myself because your dealing with people they will hate and judge you for no reason 🤦🏽‍♀️🙏🏾

Needed this. I opened up to my friends about a guy who was bullying me and instead of being there for me they ghosted and stayed friends with the guy instead. Feels pretty hard to reframe this in a positive way :(

@briant7134

Жыл бұрын

I think the message isn’t necessarily to make it all positive, but just to find the silver lining. In your case, your garbage friends took themselves out to the dumpster. A similar thing happened to me when I was 18. but from that lowest point, I wound up getting a job with some amazing people that I have remained friends with to this day. I didn’t see a way out, but I found it by complete accident and my garbage hand turned out to be a life-changing boon. I’m sure that you will find your way towards people who will be good friends that are worth having in your life.

@cutiez4eva1

Жыл бұрын

@@briant7134 Thank you

you and your background look great. also well said on your points

Thanks Anna, your voice is soothing helped me to understand!

its sad that i just discovered this channel now and not sooner. subscribed

It doesn't work when there is a war in your country and missiles fly above your head and you don't know whether you will have your apartment tomorrow morning or one will be destroyed by a missile. Sometimes what happens matters indeed.

Preach, a true lioness 🥳🥳🥳

My favorite thing to do is fall asleep to affirmations

That's pretty much equivalent to the Law of Attraction. If you don't like your current self, you've gotta start acting like the person you want to be, and that comes with everything Anna said here.

@niccolom

Жыл бұрын

@jshowa o Sure. But is what Anna said also pseudo-science?

Thank you so much anna... You are my therapist... ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤