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We are living in a time where both relationships and gender identity are at an all-time loss and confusion among the younger generation.
And this is not just a coincidence…
it has everything to do with how we psychologically relate to the internal opposite of either the feminine or masculine that resides from within.
So to start of, let’s ask ourselves the question:
why is it so often that romantic relationships become toxic and abusive?
What is the true psychological cause for this to occur?
Because let’s be honest; most romantic relationships we go through end in complete failure.
We only “find the one” when we ourselves become self-aware. (and consciously stop projecting)
Most people don't realise this but projection of the anima or animus is the psychological reason to why so many romantic relationships often end up becoming co-dependent, toxic relationships.
But what is the anima or animus exactly?
The Anima is the feminine unconscious factor within a man, the animus on the other hand applies to the corresponding masculine factor within a woman's unconscious.
When we project our internal feminine (for men) or internal masculine (for women) onto our respective romantic partner, we in doing so (through unspoken expectation) expect them through projection to uphold the idealised masculine or feminine role of archetypal dynamics within the relationship in their full embodiment, this then leads us to our own personal detachment and dissociation of our own inner opposite from within.
This unhealthy psychological phenomena is also the reason and driving force to why people believe in concepts such as: twin flames and soul mates.
By definition the concept of twin flame is that of two individuals who are supposedly “two halves of one whole.” this matches perfectly to the psychological phenomena of romantic anima or animus projection by two individuals and is certainly not something to be entertained as desirable or healthy but is actually extremely damaging to the psyche of any two individuals caught up within this toxic dynamic.
When romantic projection from both individuals occurs it leads us to the formation of one psychological body shared between two separate individuals which creates emotional codependency and enmeshment whereby we are internally rejecting the opposite dynamic of the psyche from within to expect our partner to fulfil its existence.
But anima/animus projection goes even deeper on many different levels with regards to personality, identity and gender.
For example: the rise of the manosphere or red pill community online is a direct side effect of certain men not integrating with the feminine, therefore rejecting (through projection) a damaged disingenuous concept of the feminine through misogynistic negatively and belittlement of the feminine ideal.
The reason to why this has occurred is down to the traumatisation of masculinity (but also femininity) in the 21st century, the lack of fatherhood figures and healthy masculine role models for young men. This has inevitably led to a complete unbalance and confusion with regards to how gender differences are perceived and understood. If you have no stable role models in the family the child’s ability to be able to understand gender and value systems are going to become very warped, especially when society tries to step in and misguide people around the concept of gender, masculinity and femininity.