CAN TOXIC FAMILY DYNAMICS CREATE NATURAL EVIL? BORN OR MADE?

A toxic family dynamic can cause you to think a lot of things about your family.
Although your thoughts about your family may not be true or hold any "scientific" basis, that doesn't mean you are wrong about who they are.
If you feel like you have come from a very dysfunctional and toxic family, I'm sure you have asked yourself if certain family members are BIOLOGICALLY and INHERENTLY evil.
This kind of evil almost seems like a biological and generational curse or pattern of behaviors that therapy alone can't treat.
It isn't far-fetched to ask the question if evil can be biological or based on someone's genetic code.
In this live chat, I discuss the "biology" of evil in a toxic family dynamic.
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#trauma #tamarahilllpc #toxicfamily
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 intro
3:30 "there has to be something bigger!"
6:10 there may be a "callousness gene" that influences behavior
7:28 "loneliness" and "isolation" can lead to evil behavior
20:48 COMPONENTS OF HUMAN EVIL
28:20 STANDFORD PRISON EXPERIMENT of 1971
-"what takes a human from moral to evil?"
38:10 can kids/youths be evil?
46:50 is evil biological or genetic?
53:44 SIGNS YOU MAY SEE IN YOUR OWN FAMILY
*discussion in-between content
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Mentioned in this chat (research & further information):
1. Thomaes, S., Brummelman, E., Miller, J. D., & Lilienfeld, S. O. (2017). The dark personality and psychopathology: Toward a brighter future.Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 126(7), 835-842. doi.org/10.1037/abn0000305
2. The Co-Development of Relational Aggression and Disruptive Behavior Symptoms from Late Childhood through Adolescence
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
3. Parenting Characteristics and Callous-Unemotional Traits in Children Aged 0-6 Years: A Systematic Narrative Review
link.springer.com/article/10....
4. The Heritability of Callous and Unemotional Traits
www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
5. Carlo Garofalo, Craig S. Neumann, and Patrizia Velotti, “Difficulties in emotion regulation and psychopathic traits in violent offenders,” Journal of Criminal Justice 57, 2018, 116-125.
6. What Lies Behind: The Hidden Suffering of the Psychopath, Willem H. J. Martens, MD, PhD www.psychiatrictimes.com/view....
7. Inside the Mind of a Psychopath - Are We Born Evil?
core.ac.uk/outputs/322835483/
***Why is July Fourth the most violent day of the year?
news.northeastern.edu/2024/07...
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  • @chillasrolo5897
    @chillasrolo589727 күн бұрын

    "What is survival to a spider is senseless chaos to a fly"

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    👏

  • @kimmathe6701
    @kimmathe670127 күн бұрын

    Oh yes , in my spirit I have seen and felt evil. You can see it in their eyes, there stare , very , very cold. Very terrifying to be in the presence of evil. If you have a heart 💝 you will feel evil in the air. I believe the love bombing degrading And discard stages of Narcistic abuse is evil.

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    So well said: "You can see it in their eyes, there stare , very , very cold. Very terrifying to be in the presence of evil. If you have a heart 💝 you will feel evil in the air."

  • @Hendrixtanell13

    @Hendrixtanell13

    27 күн бұрын

    I felt evil 😈 by a co-worker who was stalking and staring at me

  • @truth4utoda
    @truth4utoda27 күн бұрын

    This was so good. Thank you love!! You keep setting the bar high in your field.

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    You are so welcome! And thank you for that. That's humbling to hear.

  • @Classybrown27
    @Classybrown2726 күн бұрын

    I try my hardest to teach my kids to be empathetic and have emotions and to be kind now days people take so much pride in being evil I’ll never understand this mindset

  • @nycwlr
    @nycwlr27 күн бұрын

    Just a little while ago I looked up the word horror. I pray for myself stingily, not in any other name. It really is that serious.

  • @user-ff8kw7qk7s
    @user-ff8kw7qk7s27 күн бұрын

    Excellent, you are so knowledgeable. I’m suffering a lot with a schizophrenic mother who incapable of understanding her illness, and now a very difficult and rebellious 19 years old daughter. I’m lost, don’t know how to get through this anymore. Is there any chance I could have a consult with you? Thanks ❤

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    Thank you❤ I'm so sorry.😔This is very difficult and I'm sure there are times when you feel like you are in the middle of an evil dynamic. I'm happy to speak with you. I'm booked up until end of August for consults but I'm happy to schedule you. Send me an email and I'll forward what you'll need.

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789

    @melliecrann-gaoth4789

    27 күн бұрын

    On line there is a very good thesis “Lives Unseen Competent Adult Children of Parents with Serious Mental Illness “. Suzette Marzetti. A social worker in Australia. I watched a series on compassion based trauma therapy and she put up her link. I read it and it is helpful. I don’t know how to put up a link but it could really help this young person. Also it’s shocking health and social neglect to he left living with this and growing up with this level of serious mental illness. Much compassion to this girl.

  • @kimmathe6701
    @kimmathe670127 күн бұрын

    Thank you . I'm appreciate your content and I'm the oldest of 5 . (3:sisters and one brother) I've taken a year and I'm writing a letter to all my siblings and I will speak my truth because they have grown up believing lies about me. I'm a white , child abuser. , crazy etc. etc. The worst abuse that my parents did was intentionally separated ..... My siblings and myself. ( Emotionally and physically. ) Was trafficked by my parents. I almost lost my life many times. Have had to fight to create a new life. I'm 62. Do you have any information on parents alienating siblings against one another. So sad , I have the support of my church because when I speak the truth I will be met with more hatred and further abandonment.

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    Thank you! I'm glad this helpful. This is so so difficult of a dynamic to tease apart, manage, and work through. It's not impossible at all. But it will take you some time to work through. I'm sorry this is something you have to navigate. Interestingly, this topic is coming up very very soon! Stay tuned. I was tossing up whether I wanted to discuss it tomorrow or next weekend. 😉

  • @kimmathe6701

    @kimmathe6701

    27 күн бұрын

    Thank you. I am healing . So thankful . Blessings .

  • @TikaRose222
    @TikaRose22218 күн бұрын

    There's is always something bigger, that is spiritual.... for so long people have been only relying on physical manifestation of evil and wickedness... because it's safest, instead of looking to see how it's actually created; humanity has gotten out of hand now people are forced to look deeper... i love it

  • @Scene68
    @Scene6826 күн бұрын

    I would like to thank you, Ms. Támara Hill, for bringing us content that is well-needed to be discussed, because every topic you speak on truly does hit 'very close' to home. I think evil is spiritual warfare. Almost good can't exist without evil. Why empathic humans are always targeted by dark empaths. Could be wrong on that idea, but just my two cents from my perspective.

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    25 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much!! And I'm very glad this has been helpful to you. I love that you see evil as "spiritual warfare." Me too. It's such a battle and sometimes a battle that feels like it ca win over you.

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth478926 күн бұрын

    Tamara. I found the link of what I wanted to send you about non disordered adult children of parents with a serious mental illness. This is in particular as a response to the 19year old girl who has a mother with schizophrenia. She described her mother as evil and reached out to you for help in a comment below. It is shocking how children are left to deal with harrowing situations and grow up in such an abnormal environment, without help from outside agencies. I cam across this woman’s work when she left a comment on an online compassion based trauma course I did.

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    25 күн бұрын

    Thank you for that!! Feel free to post it here. And thank you for pointing this out. I agree. It is horrible to see and shocking to say the least. Having a "disordered" parent can change your life forever. This is one of the chats for next week. Stay tuned!

  • @Classybrown27
    @Classybrown2726 күн бұрын

    & when I experience evil people I already know somethings very off with them and I stay clear because they don’t have the conscious to care anyway I’ll just never relate nor understand it’s creepy to me and brings out my angry side

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth478927 күн бұрын

    I’m at the moment watching so many videos about a little girl who disappeared called Madeline McCann in 2007 in Portugal. I remember so much the case at the time but now I’ve found myself trying to understand - behaviour that just doesn’t add up- how “ things work with deviousness and high functioning people “. I’m getting stuck, not good but I can’t just switch it totally off.

  • @ayatflashfish
    @ayatflashfish27 күн бұрын

    Thank you! 🙏🏽☀️✨This is soo interesting.!

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    ☺welcome!! We'll talk more on this in the future for sure!

  • @truth4utoda
    @truth4utoda27 күн бұрын

    😢Jeffrey D and Denis N. And the Stanford Prison experience are horrible

  • @user-tn8fu1gx3v
    @user-tn8fu1gx3v26 күн бұрын

    Thankyou for your live chats...very interesting and validating

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    25 күн бұрын

    You are so welcome!! And thank you for the kind superchat. I'm glad these live chats are helpful to you too.❤

  • @wireplug1
    @wireplug126 күн бұрын

    Generational Curses

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    25 күн бұрын

    Yep! A lot of people feel this is evil in their family.

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth478927 күн бұрын

    Tamara - I think you will really like this podcast. It is called Wisdom of the Masters. It is about the core teachings of spirituality and pieces of work from various sources narrated by an Australian woman with a very calm voice

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    Thank you!! I always like and appreciate these suggestions. There's always more wisdom to gain and knowledge to seek.

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789

    @melliecrann-gaoth4789

    26 күн бұрын

    I really like this podcast, it almost brings you to knowing that is not thinking and it’s connecting yo our spiritual selves, it’s like a balance and some of us see and feel and remember the bad more than others who may study it and keep it all at a thinking level

  • @choozychelleigh8965
    @choozychelleigh896526 күн бұрын

    Thankyou always

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    25 күн бұрын

    You're welcome!!

  • @adila2442
    @adila244227 күн бұрын

    I catch this right after live is over. Fasinating topic

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    😂 I've been there! It is fasinating. We'll talk more in the future too!

  • @TikaRose222
    @TikaRose22218 күн бұрын

    People like to disregard spirituality, however spiritualist, are the one's whom are having the hard, uncomfortable conversations alot of people are afraid to have... why because you'll have to then really look at yourself as a human ...

  • @fairygurl9269
    @fairygurl926927 күн бұрын

    ✨️

  • @TherapistTamaraHill

    @TherapistTamaraHill

    27 күн бұрын

    🤗

  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth478925 күн бұрын

    Tamara. Mellie again- I know you have a strong spiritual lineage and it is with blending of cultures. I have a strong spirit part. It saved me as a child. I have explored on my own i guess and as a source of information- the internet. Spirt animals and power animals. I’m not sure which is the difference. Maybe my instinct can lead me. But these are in addition to and also part of ( in my non thinking knowing) the holy spirit.

  • @jennifersim3262
    @jennifersim326221 күн бұрын

  • @Smartbeautifulawesome
    @Smartbeautifulawesome27 күн бұрын

    Gross this is a lot of weird people lol I know

  • @slimdusty6328
    @slimdusty632826 күн бұрын

    Callousness is proliferated throughout our systems. For instance, consider the claim our systems make about our option for liberty of faith, which very often ends up to be anything but true liberty. Often being more like a subtle form of widely sanctioned tyranny. These days whenever i contemplate evil, i seldomly bother to dwell on judging the individual. Such form of judgement can carry tendency to be terribly short sighted, in my opinion. Its a way that self righteous individual can attempt to absolve themselves of participating in any part in the evil that surrounds us Humans are in a larger degree the product of their environments. This can relate to epigenetics too. Of course there will still be some with permanent genetics that lean towards evil as well. The sages have generally had a better grasp of the concept of oneness and how its our environments what serve to produce people . I suspect its perhaps also to do with why Jesus suggested that perfect people should only be those to cast the first stone I don't pay so much attention to judgement of individual anymore.Im more interested to look forward to a time when perhaps leaders and psychologists and all might begin to help direct the politician to care to focus more on intending to fix more of the root issues in society that serve to create evil people. Until that begins i don't expect to see a whole lot less evil in any holistic sense

  • @nancyP7448
    @nancyP744822 күн бұрын

    Can this kind of evil be a family curse?

  • @justinjohn8380
    @justinjohn838026 күн бұрын

    🩵❤️💙🩷♥️

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