Anyone can change if they want to.

@HappilyCommitted

2 ай бұрын

It's true, thank you for your thoughts.

Yes, I know I did. Takes having great values and going back to them as well as changing your habits. My greatest flaw was addiction to pornography and masturbation. I stopped both things and let me tell you... my life changed completely.

@HappilyCommitted

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story.

Cheaters can change if they want to. Although theyre still susceptible of doing it again

Thank you for this

I am the guilty party, I am grieved, my wife, has worked very hard to help me and has been very patient, but she is done, I have been working at it, but I still did not tell her everything until yesterday , keeping information from her is lying, I did lie, and I see I am a liar, I want to overcome this So much, but I fear it’s too late. 😔

A cheater can change if they want to and the put in the work, lots of hard work.

@HappilyCommitted

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

I am sure my situation is not as unique as I think, but everything said was true.... the circumstance that lead to infidelity.... married for 20 years, not intimate (me/wife) for 15+ of those years (depression/triggers of past relationship issues within our union, anger, etc....). me feeling I deserved what has finally happened. I say finally because I was using my inability to push him to cheating so a separation would not feel to dreadfully painful. I love him... I am not sure if he loves me the way I would like to be loved because of his multiple cheating. after a fight (his main mistress called while we were heading home from a concert), I am trying to move forward with trust, but he insists on non-transparency (huge red flag). too much to continue, but..........this is where I am.

@HappilyCommitted

2 ай бұрын

Are you going to give him another chance?

@ejwraygadison849

2 ай бұрын

@@HappilyCommitted As many as I can! I love him! I am in the situation with understanding of the full set of circumstances. It is hard for me to say no when he has been extremely patient over the past decade and a half. When I see or hear what I've written or said regarding the amount of time, it stuns me that we are still "together"... I have no other option but to be as fair and understanding as reasonable.... This is not to say I am being foolish... Sometimes I think I am, but......

I cheated on my wife by sexting someone while I was away on a business trip. We had been fighting a lot and she said some that broke me. Im not blaming her. I hate what I've done. I'm doing everything I can to change, but Im afraid it's too late to save my marriage. I want her to come back. I shouldn't have done what I did. I just hope she can forgive me.

@HappilyCommitted

2 ай бұрын

Which actions are you doing right now to save your marriage?

@CalebHaun

2 ай бұрын

@HappilyCommitted we'll be separating for 6 months. Our therapist said we both need time to heal and see if we each want to continue the relationship. I absolutely want it to continue. I took responsibility and didn't blame it on her. I'm seeing my own therapist and trying to understand why I did what did. I'm Journaling and trying to forgive myself and move on. I still hate myself a lot but I know I cant keep doing that if I want us to last. I'm working on changing myself. Not for my wife, but for me. If I can love myself again I'll be able to love her the way she deserves.