Caitlin Moran: “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You"

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British journalist Caitlin Moran wrote this letter to her eldest daughter Lizzie in 2013, explaining at the time:
“My daughter is about to turn 13 and I’ve been smoking a lot recently, and so - in the wee small hours, when my lungs feel like there’s a small mouse inside them, scratching to get out - I’ve thought about writing her one of those “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You To Consult As You Continue Your Now Motherless Life” letters. Here’s the first draft. Might tweak it a bit later. When I’ve had another fag.”
Here's Caitlin herself to read it - originally performed at the Freemason's Hall, London.

Пікірлер: 238

  • @Florkl
    @Florkl10 ай бұрын

    “You always look beautiful in them. You always look beautiful.” It’s a tragedy not everyone gets to hear those words.

  • @Liliarthan

    @Liliarthan

    4 ай бұрын

    Absolutely

  • @chrsd2536
    @chrsd25362 жыл бұрын

    Can you imagine how much you'd miss a mom who was like this? 😥

  • @joisagirlsname

    @joisagirlsname

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes. My dad was like this, and I still miss him every day.

  • @ericthompson3982

    @ericthompson3982

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right?

  • @ericthompson3982

    @ericthompson3982

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@WhiskeyGulf71 You... lead a bit of a sad life, don't you? Please find some good friends that you can speak with.

  • @Elizabeth-rq1vi

    @Elizabeth-rq1vi

    Жыл бұрын

    @@WhiskeyGulf71 she sounds like a wonderful person, she was giving advice to her 13yo daughter! George Bernard Shaw said “you don’t stop playing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop playing”. She didn’t want her daughter to loose that joy of life as she grew up plus she had very sound advice that is relatable on this side of the pond.

  • @MSYNGWIE12

    @MSYNGWIE12

    Жыл бұрын

    My therapist would love to show this to my late mother, who missed the boat, sadly...She was so cut off from her own emotional turmoil, she might not get this. Pure heartfelt, sense, warm and wise...

  • @ER-uy7ct
    @ER-uy7ct3 ай бұрын

    So, I'm sitting in my family room crying. My mom has stage 3, moving to stage 4 lung cancer. And she has not lost her sense of humor like this mother. Thinking about my life without her and her humor and wit has been so hard. This letter reminds me to think of the great stories have with her as the center of them all. Family trips, walking down the Champs-Élysées getting so thirsty and buy 2 large glasses of diet coke for 20 francs (this was 2002). I have to remember the fun we had.

  • @Saezimmerman
    @Saezimmerman Жыл бұрын

    "You probably aren't having a nervous breakdown. You just need a cup of tea and a biscuit."

  • @Doooooooooooood

    @Doooooooooooood

    Жыл бұрын

    That should be plastered all over every home page, every profile, every post on every social media platform!

  • @judycroteau482

    @judycroteau482

    5 ай бұрын

    And “buy a big biscuit tin”. 😂

  • @LM-he7eb
    @LM-he7eb6 ай бұрын

    She sounds like such an awesome mom. I know the letter was not meant for me. But, I took it, I took it, I took the advice. It is filled with fun, wisdom, care, awareness & LOVE.

  • @Liliarthan

    @Liliarthan

    4 ай бұрын

    Same. Feels like a type of vicarious experience of motherly love

  • @jk013x

    @jk013x

    2 ай бұрын

    Wisdom and love are meant for everyone. I'm sure the woman who wrote that would be overjoyed to know how many people she was able to touch with her words.

  • @StefanTravis
    @StefanTravis2 жыл бұрын

    "Never love someone who you think you need to mend." Yep. It's 25 years too late for me, but it's good advice anyway.

  • @elainepayne7047

    @elainepayne7047

    2 жыл бұрын

    And for me? 60 years too late!!!!

  • @Px828

    @Px828

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@elainepayne7047 40 for me.

  • @HimonoOnna90

    @HimonoOnna90

    2 жыл бұрын

    As long as you are alive and you got the message, it's not too late. You're still here and you're still able to make the best of that advice.

  • @gentianvandewerken929

    @gentianvandewerken929

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hope you got out /I did after 30 years, best thing I ever did!

  • @katyjudd1061

    @katyjudd1061

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Px828 Same.

  • @yehuditcollins6783
    @yehuditcollins678311 ай бұрын

    I'm nearly 87. When things go wrong, and they do, i ask myself, "If this was happening to someone else, would I laugh?" So i end up laughing not crying.

  • @gretebremseth1622

    @gretebremseth1622

    10 ай бұрын

    Very good advice! Wish you a happy birthday! Long distance hug from Norway! ❤ 💙

  • @jwvandegronden
    @jwvandegronden Жыл бұрын

    That teared me up, the end was the final blow…. What a great mother!! And how important to have supportive parents, this way or anyway as long as it comes from the heart. Like this. I just fell into this well of letters, never heard of it until today and I’m hooked. Straightaway!! Thank you to the people who came up with this brilliant idea!!

  • @ellejuniperfilms

    @ellejuniperfilms

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed ! It's an amazing rabbit hole to get down into. Hilarious and moving.

  • @beckyg2604

    @beckyg2604

    Жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad I'm not the only one who recently discovered Letters Live! The hilarious ones are great fun, but the occasional touching letter is great, too. This one managed to hit both notes.

  • @SarahJLBriggs

    @SarahJLBriggs

    10 ай бұрын

    Me too! They started popping up and they're ace.

  • @LM-he7eb

    @LM-he7eb

    6 ай бұрын

    OMG. Thank God I'm not the only one. I thought I was weird. I teared up too

  • @johnhilton4348

    @johnhilton4348

    6 ай бұрын

    You've written my feelings perfectly. (I'm still mopping my face.)

  • @k.m.2625
    @k.m.262511 ай бұрын

    Wish my mom had given me advice like that. Bless you, Caitlin Moran. Your daughter is going to have a brilliant life.

  • @ToriLand78
    @ToriLand78 Жыл бұрын

    I'm so sorry this woman has passed away. She seems like someone who I would have loved to have known and called a friend. What a wonderful combination of laughter through tears. A brilliant final letter from a brilliant woman.

  • @binghobson7122

    @binghobson7122

    Жыл бұрын

    She hasn’t! The woman reading it wrote it!

  • @ToriLand78

    @ToriLand78

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, I realized that a little too late.

  • @cxzact9204

    @cxzact9204

    11 ай бұрын

    Your comment just reduced me to tears, god damnit.

  • @penelopeboythorn

    @penelopeboythorn

    2 ай бұрын

    A prime dinner party guest

  • @doberman1ism
    @doberman1ism6 ай бұрын

    I am 70 years young and I greatly appreciate mums letter. I wish I could have known her. I know we would have gotten along famously. I know she is resting in peace. What a wonderful free spirit!

  • @AenesidemusOZ

    @AenesidemusOZ

    5 ай бұрын

    The letter's author was the woman reading it. This is one time where an amazing piece of pathos is actually worthy of joy rather than sadness.

  • @sweetpotatofries99

    @sweetpotatofries99

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@AenesidemusOZ the letter's author was the woman reading it? What?

  • @AenesidemusOZ

    @AenesidemusOZ

    3 ай бұрын

    @sweetpotatofries99 Caitlin Moran, the woman reading the letter, wrote the letter to her daughter, Lizzie, in 2013.

  • @aeneas-sails
    @aeneas-sails5 ай бұрын

    The whole series is pretty excellent, but this one in particular shines brightly.

  • @RHLW
    @RHLW6 ай бұрын

    "Never start smoking"... Can confirm.

  • @jeremiahgabriel5709
    @jeremiahgabriel57092 жыл бұрын

    This is a useful, delightful, irreverent in the best way, letter. Also, a human body described as "meat clockwork" is awesome.

  • @andrewc.2952
    @andrewc.29522 жыл бұрын

    Wow. Just wow. I'm honestly very deeply touched by this life changing letter. God bless her memory.

  • @al201103

    @al201103

    2 жыл бұрын

    She's still with us - the speaker is the author, very much alive and well and still writing.

  • @FasterFaster196

    @FasterFaster196

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@al201103 I was wondering who the writer was.

  • @celticlass8573

    @celticlass8573

    Жыл бұрын

    @@FasterFaster196 The writer is Caitlin Moran, who is the one reading the letter. It confused me for a moment too, since I didn't know who she was. :)

  • @victoria7t

    @victoria7t

    9 ай бұрын

    ​@@FasterFaster196you could have easily found out on your own. Read the description of what the videos about before you watch the video

  • @chonkymonster671
    @chonkymonster6718 ай бұрын

    What a wonderful gift that she left for her daughter. And how heartbreaking it must have been for her as she was fading away knowing that she won't be there with her. I'm gonna go call my mom.

  • @Soren015

    @Soren015

    6 ай бұрын

    The woman reading is the author - so don't be heartbroken; she's alive and well!

  • @martinwetzel892
    @martinwetzel892 Жыл бұрын

    This was incredibly wholesome and heartbreaking at the same time. What a wonderful piece of advice to pass on.

  • @oahuhawaii2141

    @oahuhawaii2141

    Жыл бұрын

    Wholesome up until 05:30.

  • @hobistinyheartbag
    @hobistinyheartbag Жыл бұрын

    I’m so glad she is here and sharing her own letter 💜

  • @ApocalypseofMichael
    @ApocalypseofMichael5 ай бұрын

    What an incredible letter; written by an incredible woman❤

  • @grannypeacock
    @grannypeacock Жыл бұрын

    I have officially adopted this woman as my mother

  • @bainslayer
    @bainslayer Жыл бұрын

    immediately taking notes, this is how you say goodbye.

  • @berulan8463
    @berulan84632 жыл бұрын

    'Don't stop me now" is such a great soundtrack for life, death and ever after.

  • @MrBizteck

    @MrBizteck

    Жыл бұрын

    Ive requested that Banjo song .. ' no more fucks to give' to be played at mine.

  • @blackbutterfly1517
    @blackbutterfly15172 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant and funny. This letter is a treasure. ⭐️

  • @matthewotto8322
    @matthewotto8322 Жыл бұрын

    For the record, as he hung on his cross, Christ was making plans to hang out later, with his new friend on the cross next to him.

  • @mikes5637
    @mikes56372 жыл бұрын

    "Get a big biscuit tin". Advice to live by.

  • @joealtmaier9271
    @joealtmaier9271 Жыл бұрын

    I told my kids this all the time. It's not a waste if you get a story out of it!

  • @pamlou4330
    @pamlou43302 жыл бұрын

    One of the best letter I heard in my life !

  • @WhiteCamry
    @WhiteCamry2 жыл бұрын

    It's not every Mum who lives to read her posthumous letter of advice to her daughter and get laughs.

  • @judycroteau482

    @judycroteau482

    5 ай бұрын

    I believe that it is someone else’s letter - not the narrator. Just a great letter that needed to be heard by many people.

  • @judycroteau482

    @judycroteau482

    5 ай бұрын

    I stand corrected. I just read the description and the narrator DID write this letter to her daughter one day when she felt like she was dying. I love this woman! What an amazing letter! ❤

  • @garyb2392
    @garyb2392 Жыл бұрын

    This was an amazing gift to her daughter…and that we get a chance to hear it! TY

  • @Locklear33
    @Locklear336 ай бұрын

    That is one hell of a mum❤

  • @eleanor.shadow
    @eleanor.shadow2 жыл бұрын

    Love this! If I ever need to leave someone a letter, I hope I can dole out such sound advice in such a funny way 😆

  • @JadBouHarfouch
    @JadBouHarfouchКүн бұрын

    Never left a comment before, but this was the best letter and advice I have heard in a long time

  • @hanyabi-habib8226
    @hanyabi-habib82262 ай бұрын

    Awwwww, this one is so sweet. 😿

  • @NaughtyNecro
    @NaughtyNecro3 ай бұрын

    As a smoker with self image issues, I needed this.

  • @alenemarie1726
    @alenemarie17266 ай бұрын

    I miss my dad so much. This hits so hard when he isn’t here to tell me he loves me.

  • @ladyhawke1357
    @ladyhawke13572 жыл бұрын

    What priceless words and so beautifully read.

  • @helenmartin8051
    @helenmartin805111 ай бұрын

    Brilliantly written !!!! 😊

  • @glenmcfarlane
    @glenmcfarlane10 ай бұрын

    I’ve just shared this with my 3 daughters. How glorious.

  • @lonniekropf808
    @lonniekropf808 Жыл бұрын

    One of the best letters I’ve heard so far.

  • @rosieHolliday5887
    @rosieHolliday58875 ай бұрын

    That might have been the best I've heard so far. What an absolutely diamond mum. I bet she was a pleasure to know. RIP fantastic lady x

  • @KaritKtana
    @KaritKtana2 жыл бұрын

    The thumbnail alone makes her look like a fun witch. Brilliant! 👏✨

  • @mrketteringhan
    @mrketteringhan6 ай бұрын

    What a fantastic letter, and can think of no one better to have read it. Wonderful.

  • @iwantmyoperahouse

    @iwantmyoperahouse

    6 ай бұрын

    Yes, because she herself is the author, right? Just thought I’d point it out because it’s my second time listening to this and only just now realised that Caitlin Moran wrote this. I was now browsing the comments to see if anyone else got it 😊

  • @dsatt57
    @dsatt572 жыл бұрын

    This is brilliant advice, every word.

  • @gilesmcdowall8860
    @gilesmcdowall8860 Жыл бұрын

    Why can’t all mothers be like this? Loads of advice and a sense of humour 🤣

  • @lightningwingdragon973
    @lightningwingdragon973 Жыл бұрын

    This restored my faith in humanity

  • @arxaaron
    @arxaaron2 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant. Lovely. I needed this in so many ways!

  • @kalachulip
    @kalachulip Жыл бұрын

    Thank you. Dropped by this channel when I needed to hear ~the-right-words. Thanks a lot. 🥺

  • @carabiner7999
    @carabiner79992 жыл бұрын

    Just so brilliant!

  • @madderhat5852
    @madderhat58522 жыл бұрын

    Can something pierce your mind, heart and gut at the same time?

  • @AshtonArcher
    @AshtonArcher Жыл бұрын

    Astonished by how much she sounds like Victoria Coren Mitchell!

  • @mariannegeraud6318
    @mariannegeraud63182 жыл бұрын

    Only a mum can give such realistic, graphic,down to earth and so easy to understand advice!!!

  • @grahamyates2490

    @grahamyates2490

    2 жыл бұрын

    Try reading Rudyard Kipling's poem "If". It might give you an idea of the type of advice a father can give.

  • @mariannegeraud6318

    @mariannegeraud6318

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@grahamyates2490 I have read it and I loved it...some moving advice on how to be a better person and live life to the fullest!

  • @johnrowland3105
    @johnrowland3105 Жыл бұрын

    Awesome. Love the idea of a crem full of folk wearing plastic moustaches singing along to Don't stop me now, laughing out loud as the song progresses.

  • @citygirlphotos.tutonelyles4386
    @citygirlphotos.tutonelyles43862 ай бұрын

    Wonderful👏

  • @fariesz6786
    @fariesz67862 жыл бұрын

    i can say out of experience that not all horrid experiences make for amazing anecdotes. then again i have long decided to live my f•••ed up life as if they did. must not be _my_ problem if people don't _like_ hearing some things if it's important for me to tell those stories. this mum was a blessing like mine fortunately still is. an aspiration. a hero.

  • @celticlass8573

    @celticlass8573

    Жыл бұрын

    She's still alive, fortunately. :)

  • @primrosedahlia9466

    @primrosedahlia9466

    10 ай бұрын

    Yeah I agree, but I think she was referring more to the times you totally screw up and make a fool out of yourself, than stories of abuse.

  • @caigner
    @caigner Жыл бұрын

    THAT was a brilliant presentation!

  • @chandana___
    @chandana___2 жыл бұрын

    Wow.. Wow... Loved this so much..

  • @Kobe29261
    @Kobe29261 Жыл бұрын

    Louise Brealeys performance of her How to Build a Girl is in my top 10 audio books of all time!

  • @lisca2866
    @lisca28662 жыл бұрын

    Amazing!! Very talented

  • @arlenehutchinson9259
    @arlenehutchinson92596 ай бұрын

    Thanks mum ❤

  • @annathy
    @annathy2 жыл бұрын

    Best advice ever.

  • @inpuris13
    @inpuris13Ай бұрын

    this was actually very helpful

  • @user-zj7cs2bc2i
    @user-zj7cs2bc2i2 жыл бұрын

    Amazing! 👏👏👏👏

  • @DavidDel88
    @DavidDel882 жыл бұрын

    What a woman! Love her!

  • @watcherintherye1111
    @watcherintherye11112 жыл бұрын

    This one is surely my favourite of all these...

  • @elainepayne7047
    @elainepayne70472 жыл бұрын

    The very best advice ever!

  • @elh141
    @elh1412 жыл бұрын

    Thank you from mind, heart and lovely soft body. Patting leg as I type. 💚

  • @claytonskids6764
    @claytonskids6764 Жыл бұрын

    YES! REAL life lessons !…… Thank You 💕🤗👍

  • @kristykienitz3061
    @kristykienitz30612 жыл бұрын

    Love this!!!

  • @writtenwordsschoolofenglish
    @writtenwordsschoolofenglish11 ай бұрын

    What a brilliant letter! I must show this to my own daughter.

  • @LindaNelOlivier
    @LindaNelOlivier2 жыл бұрын

    This is just the best in every way.

  • @Anil18834
    @Anil18834 Жыл бұрын

    What a WONDERFUL letter!

  • @busayoogunsola3458
    @busayoogunsola3458 Жыл бұрын

    That was brilliant!!!

  • @chanjessiet
    @chanjessiet10 ай бұрын

    I have tears in my hear when I feel her love

  • @hwway4488
    @hwway4488 Жыл бұрын

    So much joy 😊

  • @rushiaskinnerwallace6175
    @rushiaskinnerwallace61752 жыл бұрын

    I adore this

  • @MelissaThompson432
    @MelissaThompson4322 жыл бұрын

    I want her to be my new friend.... I need to be told occasionally to have a cup of tea and a biscuit, and I want her to preplan my funeral.

  • @sarahjones8396

    @sarahjones8396

    Жыл бұрын

    Hear, hear!

  • @denisemcdougal6445
    @denisemcdougal6445 Жыл бұрын

    I love this mother her letter of ❤

  • @lmg7503
    @lmg75032 жыл бұрын

    Life, and a letter we should be handed before we walk it's path.😁

  • @christinearmington
    @christinearmington Жыл бұрын

    Marvelous! ❤

  • @tomjahnes7811
    @tomjahnes7811 Жыл бұрын

    my favorite so far

  • @Carolmaizy
    @Carolmaizy Жыл бұрын

    Perfect!

  • @patrickhicks9880
    @patrickhicks98802 жыл бұрын

    i love this channel

  • @johnmunro4952
    @johnmunro49522 жыл бұрын

    Oh that's beautiful

  • @Misstressofdons
    @Misstressofdons11 ай бұрын

    What a beautiful letter

  • @Falbala146
    @Falbala1462 жыл бұрын

    this is so beautiful.

  • @annmc8392
    @annmc83922 жыл бұрын

    Good advice, hope young people take note.

  • @shadowjack8
    @shadowjack8 Жыл бұрын

    So relatable. My daughter keeps picking guys that she thinks she can fix. Then she married on of them, at her baby shower.

  • @antonellahuron496
    @antonellahuron4969 ай бұрын

    this is wonderful advice :)

  • @kattoneycliffe6715
    @kattoneycliffe6715 Жыл бұрын

    Very good advice there!!

  • @brolly414
    @brolly41410 ай бұрын

    How lovely

  • @MysteryMommy1
    @MysteryMommy1 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @ellenbryn
    @ellenbryn25 күн бұрын

    what a great mom. I hope they had fun with the Freddie Mercury sendoff.

  • @is.this.really.important
    @is.this.really.important2 жыл бұрын

    I wish I had known this woman. I wish she had been my mother. Rest in peace.

  • @sarahsagar2129

    @sarahsagar2129

    2 жыл бұрын

    🤣 she's very much alive... after all, you are watching her right now!

  • @nikiTricoteuse

    @nikiTricoteuse

    2 жыл бұрын

    The woman reading the letter IS the woman who wrote it. She wrote it to give to her daughter.

  • @CLL9262

    @CLL9262

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nikiTricoteuse Are you sure ? How can/do you know this?

  • @nikiTricoteuse

    @nikiTricoteuse

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@CLL9262 It says in the drop down description. (Click on the down arrow to the right of the title.) The woman's name is Caitlin Moran and it's the first draft of a letter she wrote in 2013, to her eldest daughter who was about to turn 13, in case she died before her daughter grew up.

  • @CLL9262

    @CLL9262

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nikiTricoteuse Thank you for this info. What a stunning idea to do this. I wonder what effect such a lettre had on her daughter..

  • @yoeshelkarma1494
    @yoeshelkarma1494 Жыл бұрын

    This is the best letter to be read

  • @sandjune2753
    @sandjune275310 ай бұрын

    What a great mum

  • @wisbrington1559
    @wisbrington1559 Жыл бұрын

    how adorable

  • @jennyfulcher8035
    @jennyfulcher80359 ай бұрын

    Hilariously and touching sound advice from Mummy!

  • @kevincaldwell4707
    @kevincaldwell4707 Жыл бұрын

    This letter should be used in universities to explain how life should be lived

  • @rismau83
    @rismau832 жыл бұрын

    She sounds like Victoria Coren Mitchell ☺️

  • @PM_82

    @PM_82

    Жыл бұрын

    Was looking through the comments if someone commented this already .. :)

  • @Gradhmhor27
    @Gradhmhor2710 ай бұрын

    2:36 -2:57 100%, but it’s not a joke. Great advice❤

  • @LM-he7eb

    @LM-he7eb

    Ай бұрын

    True, silent soul suckers, whose work happens in the shadows really exist. Narcissist, whose primary hobby is crushing people's self esteem really exist

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