I’ve almost ruined my marriage. I was just diagnosed at age 37 after suffering for probably 15 years. We’ve been married for 18 years. I had no idea what was happening each month. It was very bad at one point. I have so much guilt and shame. I’m surprised my husband is still with me but very thankful. Now that I know I am willing to do whatever it takes to not hurt him anymore. This disorder is horrendous. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.

Thank you for making these videos. Diagnosed at 26. I'm 42 now. It's been a hell ride each month. Nice to see people talking about this.

I've not been able to get any diagnosis due to lacking healthcare from freelancing, but I'm struggling with the symptoms of ADHD, PMDD, and PTSD. If there was no YT, I'd be toast. xoxo Blessings

I didn’t realize I had PMDD until I was 30 😳 So many relationship struggles, I thought I was just broken. When a previous partner pointed out to me that there were extreme moody shifts once a month, the pieces finally fit together. I went to an OBGYN who specializes in hormone therapy and discussed my symptoms and was finally understanding what was happening with me. These videos are extremely helpful. I still have severe episodes but now I can recognize it’s not me, it is my PMDD, and I can communicate to my current partner what is going on. He is extremely sweet and supportive and understands it’s a mood disorder. Thank you for speaking about this! It really helps to have someone to relate to for once! Also, I experience all of the lovely PMDD symptoms but one that stands out to me that is so frustrating is that I am extremely clumsy, I break things accidentally, spill drinks and run into walls, it’s so embarrassing. I also cannot find my words: sometimes I just blank out or my brain will think one thing but my mouth says another. It’s so bizarre! It’s like my brain just isn’t clicking at the same speed as the rest of the month. Does anyone else experience this?

@elizabeth.ferreira

Жыл бұрын

I get clumsy too! Thats such a physical moment for me to recognize my PMDD is arriving. I start dropping things, stubbing my toe, my brain blanks out and I have to go " wait what was I talking about?" so so so true!

@Alisha_Nicole

6 ай бұрын

Yes I do

@agape843

5 ай бұрын

Yes,that is also something I expirence! Clumsiness,foggy brain,forgetfulness!

@melissaguevara724

Ай бұрын

Yes and the brain fog is the worst!

I’ve been binge watching your videos for a couple days and I just thought I’d say hello and tell you how grateful I am to have stumbled across your content. I resonate so deeply with so much of how you share your experiences. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

"They'll never be able to comfort me" OMG I have never heard someone else say it before. Thank you. You understand. Right after PMDD ends that feeling goes away and I get so confused why any of that even crossed my mind in the first place... he is so unbelievably sweet and comforting. More comforting than even my own mother 😅 PMDD really warps my mind. It's bittersweet to know I'm not alone (I'm sorry you also experience this nightmare-ish confusion). Thank you again. Thank you for posting these videos, thank you for being so honest and so real, and thank you for sharing your wisdom with us gentle witch 🌻🔮

@EvelynLawson

Жыл бұрын

Look up ☝️☝️that handle, he’s got the best tips and helps. I’ve microdosed shrooms for about 6 months now and it has really helped my CPTSD, anxiety and depression and I’ll recommend it for anyone.🙏🏻

I’m only 7 min in and never felt SO SEEN in my life!! 🙌🏾😩thanks for being so vulnerable!

Thank you, Elizabeth, I am currently in the last two days of severe PMDD episodes and I was feeling really low and like unaliving myself but just when it felt the most dark your videos came to my rescue. At this point, one of my coping mechanisms would be to listen to your videos on repeat because I feel someone feels my pain, equally.

@Polecat-qz5om

4 ай бұрын

Yes sis

@melissaguevara724

3 ай бұрын

Yes!

Thank you for this. I don’t have pmdd, but I am going through menopause, and these podcasts are helping me during this time of extreme hormonal ups and downs. I also feel that this podcast could help anyone,as your acceptance of yourself and your transparency is something that most of us could use a little, or a lot of. Thank you Elizabeth!

Girl I love you. I am so incredibly grateful that you make these videos. I have PMDD and noone to talk about this with. I am running into the exact same issues in my relationship and I feel so understood and so much less alone with these struggles hearing you talk about it. It helps me so much with seperating the disorder from my personality and helps me shed all that GUILT I am feeling.

Mine is the 4th day as well, or 3 days before my period. That is usually the only day a month I take a double dose of my adhd medication. I get migraines, I become irritable (usually rage) especially by overstimulation (this is where my adhd meds help keep me a bit more grounded and less reactive, as well as helping with the brain fog) and hunger, I binge all day usually. My husband started doing this thing when I tell him “it’s starting” where he gives me a lot of space for self care, and he gets me my cravings (my coworkers do this too, I was surprised by my coworker this morning with a chicken sandwich… I grunted in frustration at some paperwork and she said “OH YEAH I GOT YOU A CHICKEN SANDWICH JUST FOR THIS MOMENT!” And it made me crack up, and took me right out of the frustration) he doesn’t ask much from me during this time and he tends to be more like a nice Roomate that keeps feeding my favorite snacks and sliding them into the shower… or in the bathroom when I’m just sitting there for a while just letting the hot water hit me. I got put on an antidepressant that works well with adhd and that has been making it more manageable as well and I don’t have any of the “bad thoughts” anymore like wanting to pack up and go where nobody knows me 🥴. Before meds when I had that thought though I would immediately look at my calendar and laugh. I say that my brain and I are not on the same page sometimes and I would just say to myself “hey now, you know that’s just the hormones talking you silly goose!” 🤦🏻‍♀️ I call my PMDD “hell week” but I take it in stride and with a lot of humor.

@Polecat-qz5om

4 ай бұрын

What ssri do you take that works with adhd meds?

PMDD for two weeks of the month. Ontop of other chronic health issues. Plus dismissal of it when raised with professionals many years ago = now complete isolation, zero relationships with anyone and no life purpose.

@melissaguevara724

3 ай бұрын

I’m in the same boat! It’s unbearable most days! There is a purpose in God. Read the psalms-they really comfort me during the bad times! Praying for you!

@NattyByNature-

Ай бұрын

Basically me, I do have one and two persons but not consistently because I can’t be that for them and some of them have issues where they can’t be that for me either and I get it. No one should like like this though. I wish I could find a loving girlfriend that is understanding.

l watched 10 minutes and was so so impressed l just couldn't wait to send your link to my darling daughter who is 25 and struggles with what could possibly be PMDD, she has so many of the symptoms. She was diagnosed 2 years ago with borderline personality disorder.....But l have my suspicions there may be a link to her cycle. Thankyou for sharing your own experience and wisdom, and helpful strategies. l feel your work could really help not only people with PMDd but their loved ones. l even feel some relief after hearing such well articulated, honest, real life account and lm not the one suffering. l look forward to hearing my daughters response to your words of wisdom too.❤Thankyou from Australia 😊

It's related to inflammation. My wife has suffered with pmdd for 14 years and I tirelessly researched everything. I started thinking about going the holistic route and was referred to Dr Achina Stein. She has a video called "what if it's not depression" on KZread and after I watched it, everything started to make sense. The majority of autoimmune and depression issues are related to our gut health, trauma and serious illness. My wife has returned to her self for the last 2 months after being bedridden for the previous 9 months, and I am so thankful I found this information.

Thank you so much for sharing this! My husband and I loved it because it inspired us to keep growing together. I have PMDD, diagnosed recently and I’m 46. So now tons of things makes sense but I’m starting to walk this journey of understanding, been responsable and knowing me and my cycles. Your videos are so helpful. Thank you so much 🫶🏻

At this point in my life I am sure I have pmdd, and I think it’s because I got to experience a supportive partner, he doesn’t seem to run away when I am having an episode and asks questions with a curious demeanour. And then as I have this feed back I notice the symptoms of my behaviour are cyclical and all take place in that late luteal phase. This cause me to feel relaxed and to look into all of this and what treatment options are available. When I didn’t experience support from partners and friends in the past I noticed they would pile on judgment or unkindness and I was believing something was wrong with me and I didn’t deserve medical treatment or I didn’t deserve friends. It makes sense as I am being treated for catamenial epilepsy, (seizures during late luteal phase)

l watched 10 minutes and was so impressed l just couldn't wait to send your link to my darling daughter who is 25 and struggles with what could possibly be PMDD, she has so many of the symptoms. She was diagnosed 2 years ago with borderline personality disorder.....But l have my suspicions there may be a link to her cycle. Thankyou for sharing your own experience and wisdom, and helpful strategies. l feel your work could really help not only people with PMDd but their loved ones. l even feel some relief after hearing such well articulated, honest, real life account and lm not the one suffering. ❤Thankyou from Australia 😊

Amazing clarity! I'm seeing this in my partner now. Hearing about behaviours and symptoms has really helped. There is hope after all...

First I’d like to say THANKYOU for shining a light on this condition that is frequently diagnosed as some other mental disorder. Your post has given me much hope,new skills to implement not only for myself,but ways of communicating a lot more efficiently when it happens with my Husband. It really has been a living nightmare. For me,it begins a day or two after ovulation,it feels as though someone has taken the “charger” from me,and I start going flat! That’s my first sign it’s begun. I can relate to the extreme irritability,intense anger,the fragility,the want to isolate myself(pushing everyone away)the savage depression,the insecurity,the absolute warping of my thoughts(this can be quite severe) and occasionally it can turn into psychosis. I have began,already,to put into place some tools to help me get through those weeks. First,recognition that it’s begun (journalling everyday helps,especially for your partner,as they can know where you’re at each day,and handle it accordingly) Secondly NOT to be so harsh on myself,beating up on myself that “I should be able to work through this”!!-so giving myself some grace,giving myself permission to rest (that’s a difficult one for me!) Also,as I think you mentioned,observing the PMDD as a SEPERATE entity (this is crucial!) Not getting into heavy deep and meaningfuls with my Husband in this period,as my thinking will not be clear,thoughtful,nor kind. If some issue arises in that time,not to think on it then,visualising putting it into a box,and storing it,not to be looked at UNTIL my period arrives,so I can than look at it with clear,fresh eyes. Not pushing myself to “be better” (trust me,I’ve really,REALLY tried!) Not pushing my body to exercise if I really can’t. Recognising it’s OKAY to be vulnerable!! (I have really struggled with that!) So many women are silently struggling,or have been misdiagnosed,this condition needs to be more widely known,ESPECIALLY for the partner who also is enduring a type of hell. Help needs to be offered with both the person with PMDD,and the ones closest to them (btw,any chance you may get your partner to talk about his experience? This would be a TREMENDOUS help for men out there!)

I feel SO seen. Thank you.

I am a highly sensitive empath with PMDD and ADD. Glad to have found your videos. It perfectly explains what I am experiencing and I am having such a hard time with it. It's ruining my life and my relationship and I want help and healing for it. Thank you for sharing how you and your partner navigate it. And the message not to hide your imperfections ❤

So so glad i found this

Oh this is quite lovely and brutily beautiful ❤ absolutely resonates ~ thank you for sharing

Grace. I love that. This is honestly a helpful way to communicate with anyone even people at work. Thank you. ❤

Thank you so much for your authentic nature & honesty ♡ just beautiful & so helpful. I see myself in you.

Oauuu.. Awesome, amazing, speech and very true;

I'm so happy for you both. What a beautiful symbiotic connection. I'm inspired yet again by your talks. Thanks for giving me hope and some techniques for the next relationship I enter. I feel like I contributed so much toxicity bc of our condition. It has taken me quite some time to forgive myself.

I am so happy I found you. It’s so hard finding ppl who don’t think I’m making excuses or just brushing it off. Especially in a culture like Jamaica. I pray to find someone that’s understanding because I am doing the work and it’s extremely difficult, almost impossible to cope with depression, suicidal ideation, not wanting to socialize, no motivation, rage, add Complex trauma to that. I just only pop up when I’m in a ‘good state’.

@Helen-jy6br

Ай бұрын

Same! I wonder to myself how did i manage this for so long but i look back and now my rage and anger and outbursts at ppl make sense. In love with PMDD is helpful too! She also has a podcast

@NattyByNature-

Ай бұрын

@@Helen-jy6br yea, I’ll be sure to listen. Thanks! It’s exhausting honestly, I wish you peace.

I’m so grateful I found your channel. I appreciate you and your videos, thank you for sharing this. Helps me feel less alone ❤️

I really needed this video. My partner sometimes realizes PMDD is coming even before I do, just by some little expressions i do with my face. Even so, we really strugle during that time because he feels so much pressured to help me. Sometimes he's so desperate that he gives me a million different ideas to help me and I can't even think if they will help or not. Thanks for sharing your experience, I took some notes and I'll talk to him about it. By the way, your partner is such a poet!

I cannot thank you enough for sharing and expressing your experience/vulnerability with PMDD. Im 22 and I recently got diagnosed a couple of months ago and ADHD almost a year ago, I had no idea how much of an impact they can create hand in hand!Thankfully i have an amazing partner who has helped me tremendously in understanding this part of my self. I started skipping work a lot and I couldn’t make sense as to why i was having these episodes once a month, it made me feel immense guilt and shame. I developed a self loathing coping mech for what felt like the only way i was able to function in my day to day routine. I thought to myself “If i hate myself hard enough, I’ll get by just enough.” (((Which of course is an unsustainable way of managing))). Though i am at the beginning of this journey and my 3rd entity is here with me typing this (lol) , I definitely feel some weight lifted off to know I’m not alone. Thank you so much, wishing you well and to anyone reading this as well. Taking it one day at a time. Take care ❣️

I've been through many diagnoses that never stuck and I found out about this the day my period started after a Google search of why I was so mad at my fiance for no reason. I really hope I finally found the right diagnosis because I'm so tired of trying to manage or mask my symptoms because I felt like it was just me being lazy or anti-social out of nowhere (opposite of my normal self) I mean there were weeks when I couldn't keep the house clean andi was so ashamed and embarrassed that for some reason, sometimes I just couldn't but most of the time I had no problems.

Thank you so much 💓

Yes! It doesn't always need to be fixed. Just be here with me in this mess

I was just diagnosed with PMDD, but I’ve known something has been really wrong for years. It almost cost me my marriage! I just thought I was a very angry, depressed, anxious, crazy person. I am SO glad I found your videos. This disorder makes you feel so alone and miserable!

Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

I can not relate more to someone in my entire before than with you and how you have explained PMDD. I told my husband I am tired of feeling this depression before my period and mood swings so I decided to finally go get checked out again and this new obgyn diagnosed me right away with PMDD and prescribed me on a birth control that will help with all these symptoms and try supplements. I said I did not want to take antidepressants….. this still feels wrong but I don’t feel alone

As a now ex-partner of someone who was diagnosed with "severe" PMDD after 4.5 years of a tumultuous relationship, hearing this perspective helps. If you suffer from this disorder, please try to follow this example of how to deal with it with your partner. Trying to blame everything on your partner and thinking that literally none of your behavior is because of PMDD will spell the end of your relationship, I promise. Just own it and try to find a way to work with it instead of pretending it doesn't exist.

@agape843

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for posting this! I believe there needs to be more support and understanding for the partners of the one with PMDD.

all good! amazing! how about when the PMDD sufferer is in denial?

I get not everyone can date someone with pmdd but it's like I don't like how I'm like this either and wish I could just break up with my pmdd but psh I can't. So yah whoever is still here through it is a God send.

Thanks bless ❤❤

Do you have any videos on dealing with pmdd as a mother? I feel like that is what triggers me the most is feeling like I can’t do enough for my kids and be a good enough mom for them during times I’m feeling crappy like I know I’m a good mom but not when I’m experiencing pmdd I hate it…I want to stay home but feel guilty wanting to get them out of the house and take them somewhere…I have two toddler boys ages 3 and 5 it’s so hard sometimes 😭

Thanx for this video. My girlfriend will be really abusive toward me once a month. She will call me ugly and worthless. Telling me things like I'm not the father of our child. She lies about me having "affairs" etc. I then try to "flee" from the situation only to have her follow me not letting me get out of the situation. Then after a day or two she breaks down and apologizes for everything. I am not sure whether to stick with this for my child or leave. But I am afraid she might lie and make things very difficult for me.

@timpulver5932

2 ай бұрын

In a similar situation and an episode happened yesterday. I feel exhausted.

How are you able to take a birds eye view din the midst of an episode? For me what defines an episode is the inability to think clearly. I'm just so activated and so depressed that I'm not in contact with any logical part of my mind..

Yah it's definitely difficult like me being me is nerodyvergent... So it's like even the work force makes you Nero typical so sometimes it's really hard to be you . But same time I do understand how Nero typical is a better way of life it's just really hard . Plus it seems like even with a diagnosis of ADHD and pmdd people still don't understand

Do you navigate paranoia during at all? I've noticed that's something a lot of us with PMDD have but I've never heard anyone speak on that

I must say, have yet to work such courage to refine the timing, to carry the grace and compassion, my fears into that dragons den. To be in it with my spouse together. Geez with greatest intent to protect self and provide space that 10ish-12days - The fruitless plan to gather and flee with my children till storm is over. It feeds that dragon further beliefs, it is worthless, unappreciated, unloved, etc. This folks is a serious detriment to all relationships, pattern of symptoms greatly misunderstood. how to gently and softly bring up topic so sensitive and historically taboo for outside the man as a permissible topics to speak. That Id be curious even how male providers, any even, may safely skip it for fear such a hotly criticized debated diagnosis. Thank you so much for releasing these videos as a husband, a father of three,

hello! how did you get yourself through your masters?!??!!? I'm currently doing a masters in environmental politics and I have pmdd... I'm really struggling :( xx

@elizabeth.ferreira

Жыл бұрын

Hi Kate, I really feel for you. Graduate school is so activating and with the added experience of PMDD, it often feels like an insurmountable task. I'll try to answer your question... Firstly, I was in therapy. I had a safe space with a skilled clinician where I could have an island of relief. Thought the process at times was hard, I always felt like feeling the hard stuff was all apart of a greater purpose. This wider lens or awareness really helped me trust the process and be curious during my darkest times. Second, I had a great support from my partner. On days when I got stuck and I couldn't organize my thoughts for a paper he would sit with me and help. Sometimes I just needed help organizing my thoughts. Third, I planned for my PMDD. I would purposely do more work on the weeks I felt good, turning assignments in early, or asking for extensions. I wouldn't expect myself to do much during my PMDD. I also had compassionate professors who really understood that there was no way for all the material to be read or done. So I liberated myself to only read and take in information that I was interested in. If I started reading something that just triggered me, I wouldn't read it. I'd find alternative routes to learning the same topic. And lastly, I made self-care the ultimate priority. If I needed to miss a class, I did. If I needed to feel like an adult rather than a "student" I would just not do a pointless assignment or I would flat out do something I preferred. Self-care for me was owning my own sovereignty and my own path. In this I decolonized myself from the typical school system and let go of expectations that were not aligned with my values. Tools that helped me were: spiritual practices, moving my body, getting out in nature, and being creative. I hope this helps. Warmly, Elizabeth

Hi, I’m wondering how long did finding that place where he “gets you” and asks in this gentle way how you are or how is your pmdd…. How long did it take to perfect this? Is he able to maintain this every month? Do you juggle kids? I don’t mean to be rude, but the way you describe things, it all seems so calm. That is so far from my life, lol Especially adding children , who have their own issues. …. A space to strive for definitely! 🏝️

Sometimes I think about a kid, but I am very afraid because of my health problems. What is your opinion on this subject?

I struggle to communicate what I need

Every month at that time I can't stand my partner. I question our whole relationship and make plans of breaking up with him for good. Then my cycle starts again and I'm the happiest person ever and I know that I love him. I'm so so confused to the point I feel like I'm schizophrenic. Half of our relationship I want to break up with him cos I hate him. And I know that I am really toxic at that time and that I should not be this grumpy and cold towards him. I feel really bad afterwards. And I don't know which feeling are real. Are my romantic feelings just the result of my estrogen? Is the pmdd me the more rational me? Would I feel exactly the same with any man? Should I just stay single for the rest of my life? I can't live like this any longer.

@agape843

5 ай бұрын

I can truly relate to what you’ve been going through. It’s almost like you could schedule breaking it off with your partner every damn month!😣 If you can recognise that this condition is SEPERATE from you,that it’s a damn liar,and really won’t tell you anything true,and give yourself some grace in that time,it helps. Understand that your brain is a little f up,and not to take what your brain is saying too seriously (trust me,I know,this is easier said than done,because it all seems SO DAMN REAL at the time!!) Sending you bucketfuls of love,we’re all in this together!!❤️❤️

@Ginab33

4 ай бұрын

I find myself in the same situation. We hurt the ones closest to us. We know what to say to make it hurt/worse. For me, I held a grudge against him during pmdd that he wasn’t even aware of and that was that he will never truly understand what I was going through. His mood and behavior towards me was a constant. So maybe I was resentful of that. It’s taken 3 years for me to establish boundaries. My biggest trigger was discomfort with sexual content and it was my fear to communicate to him that he would need to refrain from sending me anything that has to do with it during that week. I let him know in the beginning of the week that on Thursday let’s say, is when pmdd starts. That’s all I can do, give him a heads up. He already knows I am less chatty and have no interest in holding a conversation and would really rather be left alone but will compromise with hourly check ins with eachother. It’s working. Now it’s my own guilt and negative thoughts I need to deal with. Good luck! Maybe try identifying whether it’s something he’s doing during pmdd that exasperates your triggers that can be controlled or put to an end for a week.

My relationship just ended, he couldn't handle it anymore. I'm lost don't know what to do. I'm taking supplements and vitamins doesn't work

And yes your partner has to know that you do have really great days and the pmdd will pass

Or my spouse just to be funny and make me laugh and it's like dude I get you wanna distract me but can you just sit with me and listen and hold me? Is it okay to ask your partner what you need. And is it still genuine if they do it? Even if it's something you had to tell them to do

I get it my long distance husband tells me of and others give me verbal abuse and I did attempt suicide by a bus and the driver refused to run me over and I went hospital tonight in ambulance

@timpulver5932

2 ай бұрын

I hope you are doing better. So sorry when I read this just now.

@melissaguevara724

Ай бұрын

I pray you’re better! ❤

serious question ... How many sexual partners have you had?

@josslynplatte3345

4 ай бұрын

none of your business and irrelevant

@MRJM17

4 ай бұрын

@@josslynplatte3345 nope

@Driven94bliss-m1r

4 ай бұрын

Yeah go away creep

I seriously cannot thank you enough for making these videos. 🤍🤍🤍

l watched 10 minutes and was so so impressed l just couldn't wait to send your link to my darling daughter who is 25 and struggles with what could possibly be PMDD, she has so many of the symptoms. She was diagnosed 2 years ago with borderline personality disorder.....But l have my suspicions there may be a link to her cycle. Thankyou for sharing your own experience and wisdom, and helpful strategies. l feel your work could really help not only people with PMDd but their loved ones. l even feel some relief after hearing such well articulated, honest, real life account and lm not the one suffering. l look forward to hearing my daughters response to your words of wisdom too.❤Thankyou from Australia 😊