More men need to talk about this. Many men give women hell in relationships, truth is many of these men are deeply wounded. Someone close to me had his first experience with a babysitter when he was 10, she was a teenager. He too thought it was cool, but only decades later realized how damaging it was to him. His life changed once he started to deal with his demons, but it took him three decades.

@ceceprincess4758

Ай бұрын

I met someone like that too

@leonrwalkerjr

Ай бұрын

Yes…it took me long too.

@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473

Ай бұрын

Yes Diddy, I bet you he is a product of child molestation by man or woman and he blames his mother deep down inside and hate women for it He is in fact known to sleep with men so I suspect it was a man who molested him. That’s why I VET men because I can see through their childhood trauma and they hate women deep down inside

@tfowler4060

Ай бұрын

I realized this was happening to boys in my early 20's so every guy I talked to dated or just friends I asked them how they lost virginity and " 8 out 10" had the same story all thought it was cool til I told them they had been s/a and maybe why they are womanizers or overly sexual etc . Only one of those guys told me a man done that to him and it messed him up we are now in our 40's and are still really good friends. He is married to a woman now but Watching him now I know he struggles sexually but he hides like the rest .

Watch your kids at all times!!! This is more common than you know 💔💔

@tiffanyparke3707

Ай бұрын

THIS!

@jenniferray509

Ай бұрын

Yeah ive had a good number of guys who told me some of the same things he's saying.

@MSSHARIII

Ай бұрын

So true, I know a few men who have told me similar stories 🤯, and have messed up views regarding women. Tragic 😩.

@IyahHayi

Ай бұрын

Most parents already know. When will humans admit that society is corrupt and allows this issue to continue

@jenniferray509

Ай бұрын

@@IyahHayi exactly some parents get mad when you say something about it.

The adults in his life failed him as a child. You're extremely brave to speak your truth. Keep trying to reach all those broken men out there who are suffering. Thanks for your work!

Him saying his cousin was his first lover is unsettling to me .. but im glad he’s healing

@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473

Ай бұрын

Very unsettling, I believe him but something isn’t right. I think they are males who molested him as a child and he is deflecting to NOT feel gay which doesn’t make you gay

@nattytheyoungreader7572

Ай бұрын

I know, it's very worrying, can see he accepts its

@miaporche2256

Ай бұрын

He has a youtube channel...

@aquacantstopwontstopspiritual

24 күн бұрын

Why it’s settling cause it’s happening and happened to many that afraid to tell it’s and it’s Written in THE WORD OF GOD dysfunctional families are everywhere many secrets are hidden

You can see he has hurt in his eyes and you can also tell he takes accountability and is very self aware

That’s why I told my daughter if anyone any kid or whoever asks you to play house say no! You gotta be quick on your feet in this life.

Parents/Guardians didn’t notice anything peculiar about a 1st grader with marks all over his face? Nobody thought it suspicious enough to investigate a little further? The levels of neglect by the adults(in his life), in this case are unbelievable!!! Smh@ the things that are “overlooked” in certain communities! Sad 🙏🏽

@My_Lacrimosa

Ай бұрын

They didn't care

@Diva_D_Jennings

Ай бұрын

@@My_Lacrimosa Yeah, I thought about your comment before responding. Unfortunately, you’re probably right. Sadly, it was probably well known in their family history. Generations of children who were probably abused by others in their family. It then becomes the norm to them. Smh. Sad.

@MrSathyasaibaba

Ай бұрын

His mother was an alcoholic and his dad was a crack addict. They were busy feeding their addiction.

@melinatedvessel6840

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately these things happen in lots of communities... Once you spread your wings & surround yourself with folks not from your background,area,nation, etc... ,you'll soon realize things with HUMANS are more the same, than they are different...js

@Diva_D_Jennings

Ай бұрын

@@melinatedvessel6840 It’s “overlooked “ in in certain communities! I never implied that it doesn’t occur in other communities. I am well aware of these issues that have existed even in biblical days.

The old saying stands true… “ Hurt people, hurt people “ All children involved in this matter were failed. This happens to many children.. Parents must do Everything to protect them ❤❤

That's good that he allowed himself to get help.

@leonrwalkerjr

Ай бұрын

I had to, bad

@charityskygrace

Ай бұрын

@@leonrwalkerjr SO PROUD OF YOU!!!

I pray we all can heal from childhood abuse🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

If his cousins were doing it at that age, my question is what happened to them??

@trudiamond30

Ай бұрын

Women who molest are usually molested themselves. No excuse but it’s a cycle.

@leonrwalkerjr

Ай бұрын

One was “unalived”by her BF and the other one died from alcohol.

@Qam-Yasharahla

Ай бұрын

@@leonrwalkerjr, that's not what I'm talking about I'm referring to the fact that there is a strong likelihood that they were victimized and just repeating the ACT

@leonrwalkerjr

Ай бұрын

More than likely, yes.

This is tricky cause they were children also. They didn’t have proper guidance or supervision.

@melinatedvessel6840

Ай бұрын

Exactly, they also have a story..we mustn't ignore that fact...

@GypsyInThirteen

Ай бұрын

@@melinatedvessel6840 absolutely. I guarantee all that rough stuff that the cousins did when he was 5, they had seen their parents "play" this way : (

@aceee9813

Ай бұрын

That's no excuse for what they did to him tho

@neverresign7248

Ай бұрын

This is generational. Often times the cycle continues because everyone protects their molester, instinctually.

@cevans4766

26 күн бұрын

They were probably victims themselves and reenacting what was done to them. Kids just don’t know about sex. They’re exposed to it.

Omg I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone be so self aware, open & honest. I’m glad he got the help he needed.

This is weird. Something must have happened to his cousins too. No normal 10 or 11 year old girl behaves like this.

@queenclarke1

Ай бұрын

Most definitely something happened to them...but it still makes me so mad all the way around...I mean one of them should have realized how that wasn't right

@corcon5

Ай бұрын

Same thing happened to me, my older cousin did the same thing, and whenever she came over I knew what was going to happen. It wasn’t until we got grown, she told me it happened to her by a male cousin who was much older

@corcon5

Ай бұрын

@@ajt8967 yes, it’s true, alot of times you think it’s normal until someone points it out to you that it’s not, once you know it’s not, you have to be strong enough to help yourself or seek it, I was lucky enough to help my self before it was too late

@eveheart2876

26 күн бұрын

Kids see and do

@eveheart2876

26 күн бұрын

You are right indeed

I haven't heard a narcissist take this level of accountability. You might not be a narcissist. 🧡

@trudiamond30

Ай бұрын

He is. Diagnosed. He is on YT and other social media platforms. He has went through extensive therapy and healing.

@navimarlow

Ай бұрын

He’s a true narcissist. I’ve seen his vids

@nnkb1405

Ай бұрын

He's a self-aware narcissist

We had an uncle that got caught touching some of the girls in our family and I remember a group of family members dragging him to a room but he was screaming and crying... I didn't understand then what was going on cuz I was like five yrs old but thinking back now I guess they whooped him!

@ladyredd6857

25 күн бұрын

That's a good thing he needs to be held accountable

I too was sexually molested by my older female cousins and I too joined the Navy. Naval Service fueled my sexual deviancy through the constant ports we'd stop at during deployment while stationed in Japan. Spending 4 years having unsafe sex with random women ruined my Psyche. when I got back to the states and tried to look for a monogamous relationship I would compare women and lose interest immediately once I got sex from them. I've always wanted to be a Father with a big family but due to the sexual trauma and lifestyle I refuse.

@austinking2959

Ай бұрын

I can relate. As much as I want a family, I’d rather suffer alone than have others suffer with me

@renee5506

Ай бұрын

As someone who wasn’t touched inappropriately by relatives but by other kids in grade school leading me to kissing boys at age 10,11. And a boy did things to me in the bushes when I was 12 but no sex. I was then orally assaulted at age 22 and the coercion led me to our one time of sex I had a mental breakdown and Isolated and drank alcohol leading to casual affair at age 26,27 another assault, and age 29 another assault. And a one nighter at age 30. I have been celibate and will not be having kids

@Prettypiscesgyal

14 күн бұрын

@@austinking2959😢

These videos are always so insightful I appreciate the transparency ❤ do anyone else feel like this?

This EXACTLY WHY MY CHILD IS NOT ALLOWED ANYWHERE IM NOT! Its really some sick ppl in this world smh

Thats sooo messed up; you poor Man.. Shame on those Cousins!!!! ❤

@melinatedvessel6840

Ай бұрын

This is not about villinizing other hurt children.... Are folks even listening, or just looking to assign blame...Sheesh @

@melaniejackson8187

Ай бұрын

@@melinatedvessel6840 oh soosh

Wow, Leon....May the Lord continue to give you strength.....Now I understand your story a lot better.....I watch and follow you about narcissists and your healing journey!!!

@SagittariusSweet704

Ай бұрын

Where can I follow him?

@messy_lessy5242

Ай бұрын

Yes I follow Leon on KZread I’ve learned a lot about narcissistic behavior watching his channel & I’m also a victim of narcissistic Abuse.

Hey Leon, you have a channel on narcissism. Good to see you, and you're a survivor. Thank you for helping victims of narcissist make sense of what's happening to them.

What happened to his cousins? They're 10/11 years old. They thought that it was normal to do that to their 5 yr old cousin? Who sa them?

@SagittariusSweet704

Ай бұрын

Exactly. Likely another family member. It’s a generational curse in so many black families. I hate that we try to dismiss incest as a “white” thing for this very reason.

@leighalynch3535

Ай бұрын

@@SagittariusSweet704 I dont think its a race thing... I think statistics prove this is a worldwide problem and people need harsher sentences, and families need to stick up for their children always

@momo4044

Ай бұрын

@@SagittariusSweet704you're tripping that shits more common for yt people😂you went overboard

@ancientfuture9690

Ай бұрын

​​​@@momo4044I'm not so sure you know. Sexual promiscuity and sexual development starts young in the black community. So many black men talk about being touched (and sexually used) by older female friends, cousins, aunties and even by their mother's friends. Even the gentleman in the video said his "older cousins AND the babysitter were touching him". But that is inevitable when "self expression" and "good vibes" is encouraged more than "self control". I mean, the single mother (baby momma) rates and "accepted side pieces/cheating" amongst the men kinda reflect that. If they're so hyper sexual as adults, it means it started young and is just a continuation of a cultivated cultural habit.

That’s so messed up..

Recently had lessons with 2nd graders on these topics, and I could see a few have experienced this. Protect your children. Fathers stay with your children.

@mysticalsolepower4752

Ай бұрын

Sometimes it's also the father

I like his honesty! He’s also on TikTok stating how he was dangerous and a narc towards women and how the universe punished him “god put a stent in his heart” due to him abusing women

I feel sorry for him . He couldn't wait to get all of this off his chest . He talked straight through without taking a break or catching his breath ! Im glad he's seeking help 🙏🏾

Thank you for your military service. Your story has given me a better understanding of PTSD when I process military disability claims.

"I knew something was wrong, but I didnt get any help"... These individuals know exactly what they're doing, but simply do not care. Nevertheless, this was very insightful, thank you for your transparency and sharing your testimony.

This is another reason single women are having such a rough time in the dating scene! So sad

@tiffanyparke3707

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately this happens to boys and girls

@MSSHARIII

Ай бұрын

Yep! Tragic cycle.

@Hap_Shaughessy

Ай бұрын

Who cares about single women when this man is telling his story.

@Mgamble214

Ай бұрын

@@Hap_Shaughessy We care…his story will open the eyes of many. He spoke volumes regarding his lousy treatment of women because of his past. He shared his story to help everyone and to shed light on Men with mental illnesses are useless to a female until he realizes he has a problem. So many in a relationship now blame themselves for hidden demons in their partner that have nothing to do with them and their relationship. This is not a subject to point fingers at; it's to show us that a broken man and his past can break up a family and destroy the man because he's too quiet or embarrassed to speak😳 I'm glad he's working on him, and I pray that men/women with similar backgrounds get help.

@caramignon3626

Ай бұрын

Yep!

The fact that you have such a deep understanding of how the abuse plays out in all aspects of your life, regardless of your diagnosis, which in the scheme of things there are a lot worse ways you could have manifested the treatment you received--is powerful. you can guide many many men through the horrors of these experiences and how they shape your mind, behavior and entire life.

I applaud you for accountability, and the fact that you now recognize the damage you caused. Thank you for sharing, I pray you continue healing.

He is very courageous for his willingness to come forward and speaking his truth. There are so many deeply wounded men amongst us, and in turn they hurt the people closest to them ie relationship partners/spouses/children. His story is eerily similar to my children’s father’s story, although this man has done a great deal of work to heal and understand himself which is so commendable. Bless you on your journey…keep moving forward.

Yes Leon, I follow him on his channel, he is such a blessing

@SagittariusSweet704

Ай бұрын

What’s his channel?

@trudiamond30

Ай бұрын

He is 🥰

Makes me wonder if his cousins were sexually assaulted also. Many ppl who do that to others, experienced it themselves.

@GypsyInThirteen

Ай бұрын

no question, they were either directly abused or observed a level of abuse, power plays, and immense sexual tension and anger somewhere in their foundational life. these are generational and man oh man, the truth is, most families have some hidden legacy of sexual abuse, it's unfortunately so deeply rooted in humanity, and the cycle breakers like this man, are blowing up all that. poison!!!!

@MSSHARIII

Ай бұрын

@@GypsyInThirteen So true, wow❗

@tranquility9325

Ай бұрын

@GypsyInThirteen you're right. I was part of a group of women who were sexually assaulted, and many times family members know something is going down but they act like they don't see it.

Dear Man. Thanks for sharing your story . A lot of people do not know nor realize that “ narcissistic personality disorder “ .. and a lot of so called psychiatric / mental health “ issues “ are brave ways of human coping with this wicked life . Hugs for being a good soldier in the “ life “..❤️‍🩹🙏🏽

@leonrwalkerjr

Ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️💪🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾💯👊🏾

I'm so angry hearing this. I also had this happen to me, SMH. I'm so sorry this happened to you, Leon. I'm praying for you.

I follow him on ig …Such a great guy ..sending love and light to you Mr Leon ❤❤

I'm around this gentleman's age, when we were coming up. When these type of incidents happened, they'd blame the female & say she's just "fast" "hot" & be in big trouble. The law usually didn't get involved when children do this to each other. They'd get a beaten & ostracized. Glad situations & circumstances are changing.

A young woman who is performing sexual acts at 10 or 11 years old is also being violated sexually. We don't know what sex is until it is introduced to us by an older person who knows it's wrong. This is why the act is done in secret. My sister and i both were violated sexually. I was touched by older male cousins at the age of 5. My sister, on the other hand, was violated by my mothers ex-husband.

@moringagreen6925

Ай бұрын

A young girl at that age. Nowhere near a woman

People with NPD almost never go to therapy. It’s not just black men.

Wow Leon. So glad you are getting these messages out. They are helping so many!

Off topic: this video just made me realise cheaters are NOT normal!

@Ms.Royalty7743

Ай бұрын

True always thought this. I know somebody In my neighborhood who is a serial cheater but I heard he done had some stuff happen to him growing up.

@Lynntheintuitive

Ай бұрын

I agree

@MSSHARIII

Ай бұрын

They're not normal at all. I did a KZread video on this topic, promiscuity is almost always linked to trauma!

@IyahHayi

Ай бұрын

Cheating happens for two reasons; comparison or spite. People cheat when their partner isn’t pleasing them enough in bed or if their partner shows a disinterest in bed. Most people try monogamy with people they feel are below them or above them. Both of these cause the issues above.

@Fighttilltheend0136

Ай бұрын

​@@MSSHARIII yep

Thanks for sharing your story..the part that hit me the most is when you said your parents had that talk about touching..I have that talk with my children as well...and yes this kinda of disfunction happens in close families...very scary ...Im watching and praying..your whole story is an eye opener..keep speaking even if you think no ones listening

Thank you for helping people. This stuff is not addressed far too often! Although it has happened to a looooooooot of people!

I follow Leon on KZread and he has helped me cope with narcissistic abuse thank you Leon for being so transparent on this interview and on your channel 🙌🏽

He described every woman has his fantasy…”light, medium, dark”

Dealing with bs people as a child really scars. Reasons everyone ain’t to be played with..never know what battles someone faced

Thank you Leroy for the being so brave and transparent about what happened to you. 😮‍💨 I pray that you continue to heal day by day, and year by year. 😢❤💜

Thanks Leon for your brave action to speak…stay strong and continue to speak your truth it is and has helped so many hurting people women and men ..

85% of men are him!!! So sad.

@Monaedeezy

Ай бұрын

Facts.

The same happened to me. I was also molested by my older cousin around the age of 5. When I came out and told my mom about it she did nothing. Kept it to herself. To this day she brushes it off and has a good relationship with said cousin. Oftentimes I feel she loves him more than she loves me because that’s what her actions show. Making me be around someone who stole my innocence is so cruel.

im happy youre still here, and how self reflective u became after talking thru your trauma

@leighalynch3535

Ай бұрын

im also not saying any trauma is justifiable to hurt others, but talking about it and confessing an issue is the first step to making things better and fixing it

This resonated for me. So many men I know are hyper sexual promiscuous and deviant because of unprocessed trauma from being molested. It’s refreshing to hear an older black man put truth to power. I pray for healing for so many touched and unheard/unhealed boys/men. What happened is not a badge of honor… praying that we get back to a time of innocence, purity and protection. Love and light to all.

Holy cow you are amazing you are super strong I cannot believe the stuff u went through. You're so great! Thanks for sharing!!! You were abused and still so open and strong and smart. Xxxxxxxx ❤

Thanks for sharing your story, praying for complete healing

This happened to my cousins when they were younger. I reported it. We don't communicate. God's love and protection to all who have been molested 🙏🏾.

Thanks for sharing......

You're very brave to tell your story and to take accountability. I can see you're healed or healing.

So yea this was very brave of him to speak about the things that causes his behaviors. To acknowledge it is a step forward. To not want to be that way anymore is colossal.

God Bless You❤

Prayers to you! I follow you on social media and until today I figured this was your story, thank you for sharing!🙏🏾 My husband has SO MANY OF THESE TRAITS .. I push for him to go to therapy as well

Thank you for sharing your story❤️

When I was younger I was molested by a cousin younger than me by 18 months. She got mad at me because I would try to avoid her and told a counselor at school that led to me be facing some trouble because I was older. I was 10 and felt so terrible and embarrassed. My family won’t say it but it quietly destroyed our family dynamic. I’m 42 and this has affected me in so many ways throughout life. Spiritually, emotionally, socially, romantically, all affected. I’ve never spoken to anyone openly about this. I need help

Smh i hate a bully.

Wow…so transparent! I could respect that!

Thank you for being brave enough to tell your story. This was very enlightening.❤

Thank u for sharing your story I am so sorry you went through that

I'm so sorry ❤ you're a great, strong and brave man for surpass and share this ❤❤❤ you deserved better king

I appreciate all your videos. You help me be stronger . Thank you for you opening to share your trauma

Thank you for sharing.

God bless you for sharing your story! Thoughts and prayers always

Much love to him and his journey 🙏🏽🙏🏽

I was molested when I was younger and it started when I was 6 and continued till it became adult sexual abuse I finally escaped and went no contact with all my family when my mum died and I found out i was the scapegoat and the black sheep the one that takes on all the family abuse snd no one likes then because I tell the truth thank you for sharing your story it really means a lot abd I can relate and now I feel so less alone thank you

Your story was a blessing

Hey I watch his channel, he has helped a lot. Nice to see him speak out on other channels.

It happened to me when I was 5, too. Similar scenarios. Helps me make sense of my situation a little bit.

More men need to be honest like this.. this goes on more than people may think and a lot men hold on to childhood trauma throughout their adult life

He reminds me of Tyson

@tiffanyparke3707

Ай бұрын

❤ ohh he does. ❤

It’s alot that I need to say about my childhood life. And things happened to that affected mylife I would love to talk to about how you overcame it.❤❤❤❤❤

Good stuff, a plus for the Naval talk.

STRONG BLACK MAN!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏😇

Heyyyy, I applaud u for being so transparent, And willing to tell ur truth, Most men will not talk abt this, This also happened to my husband asca very young child by his older cousin as well, She actually made him hv S*x With her, Also performing Oral on him. He also had some 30 something yr old woman also SA'd him. She was a female frnd of his dads whom had full custody of him, His mom wasnt in his life. Thk God he didn't turn out to be some CMol****r or womanizer due to this happening to him. Ty for sharing. God Bless U💜🙌🏽🙌🏽✌🏽

Heartbreaking

I follow him on different platforms. He’s in denial, your parents failed you and had far from a great foundation 😞

Why are they blocking out alcohol? Smh

So sick smh

@amydelane4145

Ай бұрын

You are part of the problem, let him speak his truth in his healing.. you chose to watch....

These people don’t realize what they are doing to you and to the family. I a parent I can not find forgiveness in my hurt for this person. He destroyed my feelings for him and put me in bad place with my family, he hurt my son. I ask God everyday to find forgiveness but I just can’t

Charisma!! Is everything copacetic? Thank you for posting, I’ve learned that I don’t need to know all the details to move with God. Sometimes we may not realize when something is not good for us and sometimes God doesn’t bless you as much because of the company around us. I don’t have a definite answer, I am in the same boat with friends but thank you for posting because I didn’t know how to communicate this

JESUS bless you and keep you, Leon!!! Stay strong! 🤗🌹🙏 May the Good LORD heal you and restore you completely!!!

Did u say 8 years old 😮

@Fighttilltheend0136

Ай бұрын

Yep

Pornography is a *scourge* on this society. The fact that children can access it so easily online means that those who produce it are predatory and know what it does. They’re increasing and spreading the *sexual objectification.* Bless you for sharing your life experiences with the audience (“listeners”) here. ❤

I encourage my patients into the hook up culture to share their sexual history from their first encounters To present and to request the same from anyone they want to engage sexually with. Knowing this will help you and them to face yourselves and make well informed decisions on how to move forward productively with or without the individual.

Very beautiful and introspective soul🙌🏽💚 I know how common his experience is unfortunately. And I’m glad it seems a diagnosis helps give a frame to work for healing from. I’m just not sold on NPD. I think we all have narcissism and abuse and neglect can cause us to divide inside. We can have parts of us that are narcissistic and parts that are codependent… so many things. I’m happy people can start to think about behavior and healing when learning about narcissism… but it just seems way more complex than this. I don’t think a true narcissist could ever do the self-reflection this man has done. A true narcissist could never care about his family and the well-being of others enough to want to change. We are very complex beings and that’s why it’s important to give pause before judging others disparagingly. Have healthy boundaries but don’t think blaming another will solve much for you.

Interesting. Makes me think about the men in my life.

Cleveland Ohio 💯

Brother i cant shake the feeling of someone your not suppose to be with but they make u feel wanted like nobody els has.....

Something about the way he speaks reminds me of Mike Tyson. Thank you for your service and sharing your story take care❤

Wowwwww smh that's so sad

The fact he has to constantly repeat he wasn’t a child abuser. Eyebrow raise