Do you have a script to say no to bossy coworkers?

@ryanf1905

3 жыл бұрын

Ok, so I’m a guy and I always end up in situations where a female coworker tries to boss me around. I must admit I react the wrong way as if I’m threatened. If it were a guy it wouldn’t bother me, I’d call it out and it would be done with it. Any ideas?

@dcabral00

3 жыл бұрын

@@ryanf1905 That is discrimination: sexual bias.

@dcabral00

3 жыл бұрын

@@ryanf1905 I have an idea. You say "may I ask you something?" bossy says "yes." You say "What makes you think that saying this, or doing this is ok?" If things get heated, is time to introduce a third party in the way of the boss to join the conversation.

@lsfunk01

3 жыл бұрын

You could try saying, “if you want to change my job speak to my manager”

@dcabral00

3 жыл бұрын

@@lsfunk01 Actually, that is pretty good!

My problem with bossy coworkers is simple, they think they are the ones in charge. How about I do my job, you do your job and stay in your lane.

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

If only it was so simple as to tell people this and they would listen.

@parler8698

3 жыл бұрын

Right. They want to be higher up the food chain than they truly are.

@MisterMikeTexas

2 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍🍻🍻

@Damedahall

2 жыл бұрын

For real!

@VedaSantos

2 жыл бұрын

trueee

the most toxic are bossy coworkers who have the big boss's ear. they misuse their trust to bad mouth people they hate. and the boss is worse who only listens to that person.

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

The bossy favorite is a toxic combination 😭

@candykite232

3 жыл бұрын

We call them Puppets of the Company. Sucking up the bosses ass & not taking responsibility for their own mistakes.

@randomstuff6553

3 жыл бұрын

That's exactly what is going on. They are a fucking nightmare

@CJ-jp3zw

3 жыл бұрын

These ppl do not want to see the dark side of their so called crew until they backstab her or him

@frankmedrisch7451

2 жыл бұрын

Completely what I am going through

"you're not the boss of me" is a whole lot better than my version of "do u ever shut the fuck up and mind your business?" Lol

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

Lol true 🤣

@theoryrealist9866

2 жыл бұрын

You would 100% be my work best friend. You’re my kind of person lol

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

@sophiachavarria6385

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

@missycitty9478

Жыл бұрын

😂😂 that's soooo what I want to say!! Takes all I have not to! I'm dealing with a real control freak who LOOKS for mistakes I may have made , just so she can call me out and embarrass me in front of anyone and everyone. She is toxic AF and , although I'm getting better at just not giving A fook, some days I literally want to tell her to Fook off and leave me alone!!

I just told this woman that she’s not my boss. And she was all hurt. I straight up said quit trying to boss me around. Your not my boss. And yeah I wasn’t calm. It was pretty brutal. Made her cry. 😂

@Inkironnrum

8 ай бұрын

Call that tough love. Good for you. That crybaby was never told NO!

@_christconsciousness_

8 ай бұрын

As you should lol! I’m sure she deserved it! 😂

@numanhussain6080

5 ай бұрын

This isn't a great reaction from you.

@AG-zh7zl

3 ай бұрын

Is her name Karen by any chance?

@EricaChavira-on4oz

Ай бұрын

Good!

I have a bossy coworker, I only talk to him if I have to.

I’ve had the bossy coworker more than a few times. Most of the time the bossy coworker crashes and burns unknowingly clashing with the WRONG person next thing ya know they’re gone. Oh and bossy people have one hilarious habit. If you call them bossy they’ll tell you the next day that they asked their family members or friends if they’re bossy and say their friends and family said no!

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

As if their mom would tell them they are bossy 😂

@glow1815

3 жыл бұрын

So true. We have one but I haven't seen her in a month now MIA lol

@marianacretu6523

2 жыл бұрын

That's because they ask friends and family lol

There's always 1 in every workplace. I just asked "who died and made you the boss" 🤣🤣

@monanoorchaalida3243

Жыл бұрын

?

@kristianolliviere9045

Жыл бұрын

Tell them F*** you

Hate it when coworkers tell you what to do and got the nerve to tell you "look like you don't know what to do" and after they leave they don't restock up nothing its like you have to do other people duties like im not going to let no one take advantage of me... This IS WHY I STAY TO MYSELf and speaking up and say what's on your mind!!

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

That's really annoying 😭 It sounds like your coworker might be projecting 🤔

@user-eu5ol7mx8y

3 жыл бұрын

Your grammar is incorrect. "I'm not going to let no one take advantage of me". You did double negative. It should be "anyone" instead of "no one".

@Damedahall

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-eu5ol7mx8y This is not grammar school.

@user-eu5ol7mx8y

2 жыл бұрын

@@Damedahall I'm a foreigner and english is my second language. If I can learn it, anyone can, there are no excuses.

@Damedahall

2 жыл бұрын

I have a colleague like this. I am the only African American in my office and the first one ever and the company has been established 100 years. I am the only degreed person within the office and they are some of the most threatened and conniving people ever. Withholding information, constantly telling me what to do and the tasks do not align with my role, trying to rat out to the bosses my actions, one lady who tries to be my boss blatantly tried to call me dumb. I cannot wait to put my notice in for this place! It is the place of weirdos and I am "RETS TO GO!" lol I want to speak my mind, but I know the repercussions that would come from that action.

The worst is a coworker who has mastered the ancient warrior art of plausible deniability.

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

This IS how the micromanager is at my job! To the damn T

@pirateslife4me

Жыл бұрын

THIS

Bossy co workers seem to have more authority than the boss!

@pharaohbtw

Жыл бұрын

Not really. They just believe that.

@exlesoes

Жыл бұрын

@@pharaohbtw lol to my chagrin

@Kanashiseppaku

5 ай бұрын

No literally. At my job my supervisor literally says that when the bossy coworker is around to just listen to her cuz she doesn’t want to hear about it. It’s ridiculous. Both of them need to do their effing job.

@kellyscott2421

3 ай бұрын

Dwight Schrute Syndrome

That "Sorry, I can't help you right now, I'm at capacity with important task XYZ" line is awesome. I never really knew what to say in this kind of situation, but the "help" phrasing is great!

Love this video! There are so many aggressive people at work and it’s stressing me out every day. Thank you!

How about, “are you telling me or are you asking me, because you’re sounding like if you were my boss but I don’t report to you” 🤣

I would appreciate a video on being more assertive

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

It has been added to my list!

We had this new worker in my team who thinks she is gods gift. She enjoys delegating all tasks to others and she does none. Unfortunately these types of people end up in management positions making life nightmare for everyone. They are unskilled, uneducated, lack people skills, bad tempered, two faced and baised. Promoted to management only because they are friends with the interviewer. I had many managers like this and I always end up leaving work because of them.

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

For her to be a new worker she's bold asf lol

@vedatowner-rivers-vedawith4372

Жыл бұрын

Wow! That's scary!

I usually just ignore them. They likely won't rat you out because they would reveal themselves to the boss. If they do then they look bad. If the boss sides with them you need to get a new job.

This video was uploaded at the perfect time. Thanks Jen. My co worker was asking me to support his tasks during my FTO ( which is next week ) .I explained to him that I am on FTO but he asked me to come to work for 4-5 hours . I had enough and I spoke to my mgr ( not in complaining tone but concerning ) My boss spoke to him and my word are over finally I can enjoy my vacation 😊

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

Yay!! Good for you for setting the boundary. Enjoy your vacay! 🏝️

Actually you CAN say “you’re not the boss of me” to a peer.

Your videos are so helpful. I have always worked in toxic environments and these kinds of video are helping me to remain calm and cool. Thanks so much.

Great advice. I have worked with people like that and those kinds of people suck

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

I agree. They do suck.

I've talked back to bossy co-workers, and I've responded "Don't tell me what to do!" I've also done the opposite of what they ordered me which pissed one of them off!

@Satsusss

2 жыл бұрын

Well done. I'm glad you spoke up and didn't let them trample all over you. I'm going through the exact thing right now.

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Thank God you spoke up! I hate the one I work with. It's a damn guy too. He is truly a POS! I spoke up to him today in an email and tagged the Manager lol! This guy is literally obnoxious because he's mad that I don't turn the volume up on the work phone that we share. He is the Queen of Pettiness

@bmoshareholderappleshareho855

2 жыл бұрын

There were a few times workers tried to get me to do something that was my job, but I was not on duty yet. My reply was, " I am not on duty yet. When my shift starts, I will start working."

@mh-ud2vq

Жыл бұрын

I had to speak to my co worker as she was more than aggressive with me. She would yell down the corridor at me like I was a dog. Then start saying “have you done this or that yet”, or so and so is asking for help, I finally cracked it at her and said” I’m sick of the way you treat me, and you have to stop yelling at me, I’m older than you and doing this job longer so stop treating me like this She stopped speaking to me for awhile, but now she’s good as gold, we even have a laugh together

@orangejuicesimpson7233

Жыл бұрын

@@NiaMSnow I asked the person bossing me around "why are you such an asshole."

I encountered one of these recently, she liked to act as a go between for the manager, so that she could hand out the managers orders, which of course you couldn't refuse. In the managers presence, if he asked someone to do something, she would parrot his request half a second later, and again it would appear as though you're doing her bidding. She had no common sense and questionable intelligence, she used to fall apart when asked difficult questions or if you pointed out a request was impossible, she must have picked this stuff up in a book or something.

@gratefulforlifeandkindness

2 жыл бұрын

I'm having this problems now. This co workers is close to all the managers. I can lie she one of the top workers in the business. Bosses love her work performance. What she does to get power over employees. Ask the bosses to help the employees with they work performance. In reality she just bossing people around acting like a fake supervisor. She know how to get permission to help employees. If you don't listen to her she tell the boss. And play Victim like the person is being disobedient giving her a hard time. Most times bosses take her side. Then you look like a bad lazy worker. When she pretending to help you just to find wrong. Also as well be a control freak. They very good at winning mangers over. Even the managers the employees hate. You right some read books to learn to over power people. And some just are naturally manipulative. At my job now. I fight against the fight bossy co worker with pretending to be deaf. I get snitch on. However when the real boss tell me do my job I do it respectly. I'm trying teach her in a quite way. I only listen to boss. Sometimes it works however she will come back weeks or months. Trying to control me.

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Damn she's annoying. Maybe the micromanager at my job isn't that bad lol

This came at the perfect time! Hahaha! There is one of these at every workplace! Boy, the one at mine currently tests everyone's patience. She is basically a micro-manager. It's a lot harder as I work in a retail setting and I can't escape her when we are rostered together. I feel like turning around and saying: "Girl, you aren't getting paid to be the manager. Just stop!" 😂 I'm proud that I haven't gotten angry or snapped yet, but I've gotten close and I think many others have as well. There is also no chance of any promotion for her as there is only one manager at the store and he owns the store too, so I have no idea what she's playing at! Perhaps it is just a personality thing. I definitely feel like the boss loves her because she does his job for him and she gets far more shifts that everyone else. Hoping to leave the role soon because it doesn't suit where I want go career wise and she drives me bonkers! 😂

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

This is a great instance to apply a lot of empathy. You mentioned you're looking to leave the role soon; maybe she isn't and is struggling with the fact the growth she wants isn't there. I hope these tips help you cope whole you're there 💜

@PurplePinkRed

3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick I think she does! You are right! I often hear her talking about her other career options etc. Great advice 👍

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

So much bad behavior is rooted in fear and insecurity. When you spot it, it's so much easier to empathize and not be bothered. Keep me posted on how it goes with her and if that perspective shift makes working with her any easier!

@PurplePinkRed

3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick Will do! Thanks 😊

this has happened to me recently.... my coworker has been promoted to be the supervisor of our front desk staff. I am clinical staff so she has NO business getting bossy but it IS bleeding into our area. I think she is trying to be assertive, but it is coming off as treating others as if they don't know their job (all of us has done this much longer than she has). It's not giving tasks, it's more like critiquing the way we do our job. For YEARS we have all worked well together and step a fine line in challenging anyone's method of getting a job done, and never intervene unless it is a safety issue. Since she has taken on this extra duty, it is really affecting our teamwork, and most on the team pretty much want to keep her at arms length. I am saddened that she is turning this way, as I like her as a person. I have decided to keep my mouth shut about it, because I am leaving soon and I don't need the friction.

I would usually ignore them.

I always had great success with finding the person after work and off the employers property...This changes things at work quite well :)

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Can I hire you to visit my micromanager 😌

It's funny because the easiest is to say No. But when I did so, my bossy coworker started screaming at me in public. it made me feel bad because nobody knows that you are being screamed at simply saying No........It can look like you have problem getting along with others because I am new at work.

@Lost-mb1gj

2 жыл бұрын

Yup same here, they’re aware that the bosses haven’t fully warmed up to you yet and they know that the bosses obviously know them a bit more so usually it’s their side that gets taken 🙄🙄

Your videos are super relevant and useful. Really like the way you articulate things. Keep them coming!

Not reacting is the hardest part, especially as a female

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

I do the silent treatment or even I laugh a lot. Typically the micromanager at my job looks confused lol. He's such a little fat fk! I can't stand him

If they tell you to do something just ignore them and do your own thing.

@EricaChavira-on4oz

Ай бұрын

Exactly!

Thanks for this, great advice

I agree context is important. I have a young intern who is a good employee, but communicates in a bossy way. This is with everyone, even our mutual boss. She was rushing to help a customer and said “could you do xyz” to help the situation. I did, but later stated “hey if you feel rushed, I could take over & you could do the other task as well”. Simple, kind & straight forward ☺️

@dg5343

3 жыл бұрын

If she was going around assigning menial tasks or overstepping on transactions, I’d have a different approach however

@WELSY-mh9op

10 ай бұрын

@@dg5343 azuz,vpj ,,n,,. Mm

It always depends *how* the person is bossy for me. If the person is really disrespectful and belittling, then I have a problem with it. If they're more collaborative and have experience, then that's fine. Most of the time the person is being really disrespectful. As mentioned below, usually the bossy person is a favorite and the resident control freak as well so you're not allowed to complain about *how* they are 'managing' you.

Good to watch this video, I am in struggle situation right now. I am totally exhausted and hopefully can bare it until this year.

I JUST started a new job and 9ne of my co workers is already bossing me around making me feel like crap. Idk how to handle it.

@VedaSantos

2 жыл бұрын

feel you

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Sameeeee sis!

I need help with this. I told my bossy coworker off and she's actually gotten worse.

@SCSC-qz7rr

2 жыл бұрын

Go to your or her manager and put it in writing.

@marshmallowcat4983

2 жыл бұрын

@@SCSC-qz7rr manager was a half wit, who treated me like a child because I was the youngest adult working there. It didn't end well, but I'm out of there now. :)

Nailed it!

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

😃😃😃

I actually experienced a bossy coworker very recently and it's been going on for a few weeks. I was thinking of all the things I wanted to tell her based on how I was raised and what I was always taught. I then watched your video and a few videos before and actually thought of what to "perfessionally" per say to tell her. Maybe something along the lines of like "I am glad you are concerned about my job, and I am super glad you've became a crew leader, you really do work really hard. But I have been here since this morning and I understand you just clocked in. Since my shift is almost over, I would like to take the last couple of hours of my shift to calm down from the busy day I have had. Please and thank you."

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Or you could say what I said today," please bring your concerns to the manager so that the manager may approach me with any feedback."

There was one guy I couldn't stand working with because he was very bossy at first and I and pretty told him never to talk down to me ever again. Despite this, we both got annoyed by customers who would not give us their undivided attention and stand in front of the meat counter on their phones, when undivided attention to customer service was key. Subway workers don't like whenever customers are on their phones while ordering. It's just rude. That was the only bossy coworker I came across, but it was resolved overnight. When I look back, I was pretty easygoing, patient, and easy to work with. That patience didn't extend to people who called in sick all the time or had poor work ethics.

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

I love how you found common ground, even if it was in a pet peeve 😂 People who are in their phone in stores, restaurants, etc drive me mad too. It's so impolite.

@pennsylvanianrrfoamer

3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick if I were on a date, and my date kept on looking at her phone that would drive me nuts. I give my full undivided attention and leave my phone in my pocket and turn it off. Why can't we just go back to the days where we didn't have cellphones...

I've had lazy coworkers in retail that called me "bossy" for reminding them to at least ATTEMPT to do their share of the work. Like they think it's within their rights to put all the work on the one person actually doing their job when two people were scheduled to share the job...and they get mad and call me bossy if I ask them to pull their weight.

@Lost-mb1gj

2 жыл бұрын

You’re not the type of person we’re talking about in the studio today 🗿 I have a bossy coworker in the sense that she’s always whispering to the bosses about everyone, talks a lot with other coworkers in the back, and wastes a lot of time eating or just chilling in the back. But I’m the one labeled as the young inexperienced one that doesn’t work hard enough. It’s well known she also talks really bad about the bosses but the bosses have no guts to drop her ass.

Good tip the way I handled it by being direct and have ignored it by not doing what they told me to do.

Thank you so much for this information I just had to deal with this for the first time a couple of weeks ago because my co-worker boss me around three times that is not my manger thankfully it got resolved when I reported it to my boss that I feel hes trying to get me to be counter productive in the work enviorment.

All my great lovely colleagues left my team and last week a new bossy colleague joined and I need this video

The advice is very useful and affirmed some of the strategies that I am currently trying to use although it is a recurrent process and not a one-time thing.

This is more aimed at the cooperate business world I see. While it does provide some useful information, it doesn't really help my work environment. What I personally tend to say, is 'my wife is my boss'. It's the truth, and it also contains humour enough to dissolve or de-escalate tension. It also gets the message across without being nasty about it. As far as someone dumping tasking on you 'sorry, I'm busy', is simple honesty.

I actually reacted and got the supervisor involved and it worked, so there are exceptions.

I have said, "No. I don't work for you, I work for ( named the company)

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

I used that one before! It works

There was a company I use to work where they got some workers from a temp agency. One of the temps would boss the other temps around. She referred to herself as a supervisor only because she had been on the job a couple days longer than the rest of the temps. I've never had a problem with being bossed around by another co-worker although there have been those who tried but I dont put up with it.

You didn't even offer several responses to this bad situation.

@EricaChavira-on4oz

Ай бұрын

This video is ridiculous….i turned it off.

I missed all of this... Wish I saw it sooner 😅

Yes. Yes I do

Can you do one on being assertive please.

I love you so muchies. 🥳

You are amazing. Thank you. I found out why the bossy coworker bothers me She says, "that's just the way am," versus teachable me. Her voice drips with a 3 year old "all about me" attitude. How can I move past this?

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

It sounds like her insecurity is very deep and very obvious. The bossyness is compensating for her lack of self-esteem; she is creating external validation through her behavior to feel better about herself. But since the authority isn't sincere, and it's actually destructive to her self-esteem because it makes people dislike her, the cycle continues. Have as much empathy as possible. She is trying to drag you down to her level, do your best to maintain yours - and even to lift her up. I often find with people like this that a little kindness and acknowledgement goes a really long way (unless they're toxic, in which case a whole other approach is needed)

@cynvolk

3 жыл бұрын

@@JenniferBrick thank you! I do sense a great insecurity from her. Hard to be nice when she's not but I try amd am rewarded with her authentic nature so I keep on. Thank you so much for your response. It made my day!

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

@@cynvolk anytime, I'm here to support you!

@user-cm5cu9yq5s

Ай бұрын

Awesome

How about this situation. ....I'm working, an equil co-worker stoops what they are doing and barks orders on what to do. Says "i want this off here and on there and I want it now" and walks away.....or walks up and says "grab a broom and sweep" then sits down and brags how she just told that guy what do do and he did it. These are real and from the same person.

@glow1815

3 жыл бұрын

Um if you're nobody you will NOT speak to me that way period. I will not let someone talks to me that way the very first time they try.

Hello Jennifer, what do you do if that co-worker's job is to give out assignments to you, and it is your job to take that and do it. But she did it with a condescending tone, and if you make faux-pas, because you haven't learn that step before? she corrected you using a superior tone like it was your fault, or that you did it on purpose. She also alienated you by being friendly with others people while treating you like an inferior in front of other people. Since she is in a position of "power', without actually being designated as your boss, she was able to isolate you from other co-workers who too happy to gang up with her to bully you the same way.

@JenniferBrick

3 жыл бұрын

First, acknowledge where this is coming from in her. Probably insecurity, when we trigger someone its because we're showing them something they want and dont have or an insecurity they have. For practical tips, my Toxic Coworkers video has several suggestions - I'm not saying she's toxic but she is structuring an unhealthy environment.

Girl, you've nailed it! I've just come to realized I now have a little pip-squeak on my job who is trying to reposition himself and usurp my authority. Why, because he is a professional brown noser... This dude remindes me of a tempestuous teenage girl. He actually reached over me at a social event like I wasn't there to bring an executive I was talking to and work closely with, a drink *that he didnt even ask for.* Took him completely by surprise. Thank you for your wisdom on this. Now that its clear the pipsqueak is angling, I know how I must move with this one...

Great advice, but how is it possible to stay calm and confident when you are a magnet for insults and crappy coworkers being verbally abusive and taking to you like you are a child? This happens to me in life, not just jobs. I have no ide what I'm doing to attract this. This had been one of the main reasons I have depression and anger issues. The stars have NEVER been aligned in my favor...I'm a Pisces after all...

@goldta70schick78

2 жыл бұрын

I'm ALWAYS disrespected as well.

@irisrose4732

2 жыл бұрын

As a fellow Pisces and someone who's suffered a dysfunctional, abusive past, I essentially allowed others to overstep my boundaries, which were nonexistent in the first place. I am assuming that you are a kind, sensitive soul, always smiling and easy going. This is why you're being mistreated. I suggest learning to love and respect yourself, as well as setting boundaries. It's tough, but I'm learning to say NO and to speak up right away to bullies, whether at work or otherwise. As I've been told a few times throughout my life already, "People will treat you the way you allow them to."

@jenna89josh91

2 жыл бұрын

I’m a Pisces too and so easily targeted by people who don’t act their wage!

@franciscamartinez7245

Жыл бұрын

We attract things that we need to address. You need to learn to stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries. Once you know how to do this effectively it won’t be a problem anymore. Good luck I know it can be tough but it’s like learning to ride a bike, once you understand it and know you have every right to because you value just as much as anyone else then you will get it. It’s getting your head around it xx

I have one cowork and she is not only so bossy and also so aggressive, She think that she is better than anyone else and have god gifts from heaven. She love lecturer people's life and work style. I used to keep silent. But it even encouraged her to be more. Till one day, she began to watched me every single small thing and gave criticised. I told her that we all have years experiences and you do not need lecture my work and my life. She became soo angry and she yelling and swearing and smash the door. I gave formal complain to the management. After that, she still like kept pick me. I just walked 15 miles away and cut all social with her, then she gather her a little dirty group to begin bully. it is another story. I can not understand their psychlogy. They dont have any meaningful things to do in their life? They never learnt what is meaning of kindness? Why they need get joy from control and bossy people to gain their dignity? BYW, in reality, they are very poor and some of them even didnt have car, struggle with life. But poverty is never the reason to become so terrible.towards people. This group of people have two side face and when they meet the manager and they suddently became ass kisser.

Same mind philosophy here. I was more wondering WHY do people feel the need to be bossy, like the psychology of that behavior itself. U touched on it very briefly at the beginning. “Why does it bother you when someone is bossy?” Is the best question and thats the question I am trying to answer by knowing what makes a bossy person. I feel if i can figure out their makeup, I can be more forgiving of that behavior

My coworker has been helpful because I am new, but sometimes she violates my value of having workplace autonomy. I don’t feel trusted to do my job when she messages me when I’m idle or calls up meetings to sync up ie check in if I’m actually working-though I admit this is what it feels like rather than fact.

Co working with equal power saying the opposite of what you said right after you said it (they know & heard) in front of clients

Please by vary wary of taking advice from bossy coworkers. A manager who was not available to train me had my coworkers train me for a couple weeks. One of my coworkers obnoxiously boasted that she new everything & criticized my work ethic. Turned out the manager told me she was making a lot of mistakes & doing the wrong thing. To top it all off they had a meeting with her. She is by far one of the most toxic coworkers I’ve ever had to deal with & she poisoned my relationships with staff & managers when my experience could’ve started way way better & easier. Now that the manager sees my work performance & sees that I listen & eager to do my job correctly we have a decent relationship.

My job requires someone help me. I've had subordinates "instruct" me on every step when working in tandem. It's very obnoxious. At my best I respond "sure, I can do it that way if you like." It usually makes them realize what they're doing and opens me up to good suggestions

@hend6475

3 жыл бұрын

What I want to say, when I'm at my worst, is "good thing your here. Every other time I do this without you I can't seem to manage"

Do a video on working with all women. Omg.

@Lost-mb1gj

2 жыл бұрын

What about it?

@normalman23

2 жыл бұрын

@@Lost-mb1gj lol

@maximwilson1482

2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes working with only women can be difficult lol. I've been the only guy in a sea of women and they can be gossipy and vicious

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Women are wild but my micromanager is a gay man and it's 10x worse than working with all women. That man is truly a hot mess

Your videos are great. I would love to see more about handling bullying females in the workplace.

One thing they like to do is collect info. Little things like asking you when you finish, to see if you leave 1 minute earlier than you are supposed to. If they ask you, my advice is to tell them they're free to ask the manager. Ppl are like hawks, they want to catch you put, especially when you're not in with he crowd so much

Hello 👋 thank you for this video 💛 I just have a question because some of these sentences seem a little impractical to be rattling off when I am in the middle of peak service behind the bar. I work in hospitality so I may need something a little more punchy and straight to the point. I have worked most of my life in bars, I am 41, this little girl (25) thinks she needs to tell me what to do 😂😂 when we are FLAT OUT, I start doing back up roles because none of the young people seem to understand the importance of making sure we are keeping on top of glasses, lemons and limes and ice. So they serve people and then work in reaction mode. I work my ASS off, I work 8hrs straight on my feet NO BREAKS and have a very strong work ethic. I really don’t need to be told what to do 😂 funny thing is when there is no one at the bar they just stand around talking and eating instead of doing recovery before we get hit again.

"I Nailed it" You can always extend a friendly invitation to the person to use the proper command channels at work to achieve their goals, that way you help yourself while helping them become more professionally mature, while both parts grow their way to be successful.

Very timely as I'm due on a conference call with one of those in 50 mins.

i have someone in another department who won't stay in her own lane, continuously...i've not ever reacted unprofessionally, thank you for the suggestion type thing, but it seems to be empowering her..,why bother me, this time she said the website i selected is unprofessional, when i have a logical reason why i selected it. i feel it's because i'm older, and lower on the payscale...

Yeh arm bar works too

Hi, Jennifer! I am new to the corporate world, and your videos are very useful. Judging from the comments and my own experience, this behavior is widespread, and my question is: are we doing the right thing normalizing it and focusing on how to handle it? Feels somehow like blaming the victim. Shouldn't the company be responsible for identifying and eradicating this kind of behaviors?

I try to help. When I big amount of things on my schedule I say I’m here to help answer any questions but you need to take charge of your tasks and I will not be available to do them with you

In one of my jobs last year, at a retail store, I had my job orientation with two girls who were teenager girls. I was pissed that not only did they treat me, a 25-26 year old woman with far more job and life experience than both of them put together, but the management ENCOURAGED these children to act like Mean Girls ™️ and like they had any authority whatsoever over me. It was so degrading! I wouldn’t say that I got emotional, but I did voice how absurd it was to be talked down to like that. It makes me want to go up to female coworkers who act this entitled, give them the raised eyebrow 🤨, and ask, “Are we going to have a problem here or are you going to treat me like someone who is almost a decade older than you?”

@Inkironnrum

8 ай бұрын

You should have said to management-oh wow! I didn’t know the store was adding a daycare center for children. Then look at the girls-then say-omg how did you two become so smart like that?! I’m just… I’m I’m just… Then look at the manager and finish your sentence… Speechless. Then with a straight face tell the manager-both of them are without a doubt management material. Did you hire them already??? The point I’m trying to make is--jab back at those who suck. But do so to the point of acting serious. Like speaking to them with enthusiasm. That confuses them. They can’t tell if you’re being rude or not. And it gets the point across, too.

I want video as I want to be kind a my colleague!!!!

But what if your bossy coworker identifies as a boss?

@PoSHEmediaglobal

Жыл бұрын

😂

“You have some different work to do” about the nicest way you could possibly say “you need to work on your unconscious bias!” 😂

Can you do a video o. How to say no to your manager

I have two bossy coworkers. One has worked there 13 years, the other (call her Junior) has worked there same time as me about 2 years. She is however, besties with the 13 year co worker, so it seems she copies what the other does. I complied with them both for a while, then when Junior started basically followed me around and found things wrong with what or how I did something. There is no work guidelines except from the supervisor and the sup is never around. It went on for several months, both her and the Vet and I lost it the other night and told her "My legs are tired. Why don't you do it yourself?!" She responded, "I have been doing it". And I said "I have other things to do right now". Truth told I was working my tail off in my area that had nothing that had to do with them. They think they are the bosses. We have a new Sup and she is terrible. She is never around and does not give any feedback. What to do? Did I do the wrong thing?

I had said to him in an email," going forward xyz please bring your concerns or questions to the Manager so she can inform me of anything." I hate when coworkers micromanage ME! The guy who I wrote this to is a complete ahole! He was upset because the phone volume is low after I leave from my shift!

I had a woman it was her first day on the job telling me that I was to go home early!!this one is going to be trouble, straight away I've got my guard up with her.

I just recently started a new job and one of my co-workers has only been employed for 4 months prior to me, and she acts like she's everyone's manager because she came from management background in the nursing field for the past 15 years so she thinks she can walk into a new company and act like she's the boss of everybody. It's crazy because my first day she trained me she talked s*** about some of the other co-workers who supposedly there was talk going back and forth and she kept running her mouth about people to me on my first day on the job meeting me. Needless to say she never really actually trained me because she wanted to take control over the job itself instead of having me actually do it so I can learn. I feel like it was a manipulating way of keeping me at a lower stance than her in the job itself. Basically a type of sabotage towards me. Last week I stood my ground and asked her politely if she actually wants to train me or not, and she didn't like that question and took offense and and now treats me as if I'm a lower standard than her. I don't understand why we let people like that get away with being that way. There's much more to my story but I'm only on my second week of the job and I'm sure I'll be expecting more to come from her.

@favourebede6334

2 жыл бұрын

oh my God!! This is exactly what I’m going through. I always stand my ground though. ALWAYS. She is insecure and feels threatened that’s her problem.

Not letting 4 people boss me around and it's only 5 of us working there. I quit!! And happy

I have experience this today and genuinely wanna know a way to deal with this I’m putting this bellow for advice only nothing more. I work in a daycare and this co worker joined in not long ago I was still new though but she work in the area I’m in for 2 months. At first we were pretty chill but then all of sudden one day she stop talking to me all together there were many reason I think could be why but I decided not to push it and leave her be. And only interact with her unless it’s work related but recently some reason she decided to start bossing me around ordering me to do stuff it was mellow at first but it got to the point that she was looking down on me. One example is today. I have a broken mop that what I believe is unfixable. It was still useable and my boss is okay with me still using it. However all of a sudden this co worker stoped me start somewhat scolding me (not yelling) about the broken mop, I tried to explain to her it’s broken but instead she just say “Well if ‘another co worker name’ can fix it why can’t you? That’s not a good excuse” I just felt really hurt from that.. but I’m also scared confronting other upper coworkers and my boss about it because they like her a lot. I kept thinking I’m overreacting but that back my mind said it would had been nice if she just help me instead of saying that.

Some workers are easy to get along with. Some workers are difficult to get along with and some workers are impossible to get along with.

I have someone like this. She is in my department and younger, but she thinks she's the boss of me!! She gets away with everything. And kisses up to the bosses. So tired of ir.

9:08 That’s super interesting because I was taught to always use “I” not “you” statements. Was this a way that communication teachers were gaslighting students to take ownership and responsibility for someone else’s behavior?

At Goodwill 5 people think they are supervisor or I just go along with the other coworkers are doing try and follow them ..at the end of the day I do feel I hit against the wall

omg I am experiencing this i have workmates that act like a boss. 🙄

What's worse is when all the workers complain about the same employee, but the " manager," is so incompetent that she won't handle the employee because she fears that the problem employee will think she's taking sides. I quit a job because of this. I just couldn't. This girl was running everyone away and it wasn't until I quit and the students( it was a school) complained about her constantly that my manager was forced to do something. ... I wish I could say the girls name but it would make to obvious but if you're in NC you might be working with her. 😂

2:37 The reason this behavior bothers me is, yes, I do feel disrespected and undermined, like my age and experience hold no merit and they think I’m some low IQ invalid who will follow the marching orders of the lowest in command… which is our same level. I respect when my real boss gives me a task. I even respect when a veteran employee guides me to do something as a newbie. What I do not respect is the one(s) in charge delegating the ones at my exact level in the job to give me tasks. That is humiliating and so very disrespectful.

What if your bossy coworker is a manipulative malignant narcissist? I have tried all the above. Non of it worked instead it got more nasty and dirty.

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

Say to them," please reach out to the manager If you have any questions or concerns." It let's them know that they shouldn't even be reaching out to you! In a professional way without you getting in trouble you're simply reminding them to talk to the manager if they have an issue with how you handle your work ethic. 9 times outta 10 they won't talk to the manager about you because they aren't a damn manager. Kinda similar to reverse psychology at its bestb

@markmeadows7093

2 жыл бұрын

@@NiaMSnow hey that’s a good idea. I asked her nicely to stop doing it one time. She started screaming and making accusations.

@NiaMSnow

2 жыл бұрын

@@markmeadows7093 document everything

is this video targeted at office working jobs? or outdoor jobs that I do?

Hi, I have colleague who is half younger, less experienced, from beggining just took a lead and manager just accepted it and she took a lead, just she doesn't care she is bossy and aggressively proactive not letting other peoe doing things as well.. So I wanted to be in her place, but I did t have even chance to become one. Ease need a video about envy and that I wanted to be in her place as now she doesn't need to work even I g and weekends as all other therapists and receptionists.

Honestly if someone was bossing me around, I'd tell them "F***you"!!!! That'll scare them. I'm going to show in not soft. You think that's appropriate?

Yes a coworker once tried to overstep where I could (potentially, I mean in real time) be able to engage with clients more. I already felt lots of "quota" stress, was trying to constantly multi-task and on top of all that already I wasn't against team player-ing as I did that vehemently myself or should I say I was gun-ho out'dd (double d for the 'ed effect)

What about a situation where your boss is trying to run the site remotely from another site. Hasn't put anyone in charge in his absence...and coworkers think they know what's best to do and boss you around. My thought is to say...I'm busy with my work currently. If you get our actual boss to call me qnd tell me to switch tasks to what you're telling me to do...I'm all for it. But only after the person in charge actually tells me to. No offense...but you can't exercise authority you do not have

I dont care about a bossy coworker, i can say thank you and just go about my day but it sucks when its them off loading their tasks on you that they get paid to do and they are the bossy favorite. Its a toxic combo I am dealing with. I am looking for another job because I realize there is no fix for this. In the meantime I dont let my ego get bruised and keep working minding my own business.