“i tried balancing my old family and new family, without letting anyone go”- Mia after letting go of her old family for the new family

@nwilady1867

26 күн бұрын

Right. There is no longer an old family. That's a memory.

@polarbear2080

26 күн бұрын

And then having a meltdown plus existential crisis when old family literally showed her how easy they / mom can easily let go of Mia too.

@elcambiollego

26 күн бұрын

What a disturbingly dumb way to balance things, Mia.

@juanvelasquez1167

25 күн бұрын

OP handled it like a BOSS!

@juanvelasquez1167

25 күн бұрын

Now the daughter regrets. Actions have consequences my dear. Enjoy!

The daughter knew. She knew. She knew before Mom knew. Hell, dad probably introduced his side chick to daughter and daughter kept Dad's secret.

@RavenSutcliffe

16 күн бұрын

That would be the father manipulating his daughter, especially considering the "she had only been growing closer to Jonathan". She's a teen, she still thinks like a child, and whether she knew or not, it's pretty obvious the adult in this situation, who's also her FATHER, was and is manipulating her, but everyone is choosing to focus on the teenager screwing up

@chadc5184

15 күн бұрын

​@RavenSutcliffe it's not so much the father manipulating the daughter in as much as his side chick trying to be a friend instead of a mother. Most likely op was the disciplinarian of the house, and of course the daughter is gonna like the less strict person (until it inevitably blow up in their face)

@RavenSutcliffe

15 күн бұрын

@@chadc5184 the whole "she (the daughter) has been getting closer to her father only recently"... Yeah that looks like he knew the affair was eventually going to blow up in his face and wanted to use the daughter/put her on his side. Especially since he had never particularly cared about her before, apparently. ETA: plus with this person saying that the daughter knew beforehand and helped the father hide it with ZERO evidence that had happened, I'm adding that if the situation was in fact like that then the father would have been manipulating her into keeping the secret or what have you. While it was still an affair the kid stood to gain nothing from the girlfriend

@claireadams6214

10 күн бұрын

First thing I thought. Oh god she knew!

@-Umbrella.

5 күн бұрын

​@@RavenSutcliffe If the daughter knew before the mom and kept quiet I am not blaming the dad just because she was a teenager. That dad is responsible for the action and putting the daughter in a situation to learn of this. Teenagers know right from wrong. She isn't stupid. She's just a trash kid.

all for a fucking car

@DerTim

26 күн бұрын

must have been a pretty shitty deal to trade a house worth collage fund against a car. Seems to be she didn't even received it. Lol

@chrismccloskey2502

26 күн бұрын

The daughter is rotten to the core. The make-up is all bs. She just wants mom's money

@nr1fan4all

26 күн бұрын

Next time she is acting cold I know op will think first if her ex bribed her with a happy meal or something cheap... selling yourself, selling your mom for a car and rent money, damm

@polarbear2080

26 күн бұрын

@@DerTim Yeah, Mia truly picked the wrong side because she didn't get car and Dad got nothing to show but a new girlfriend in rental apartment, meanwhile Mom literally showed how much was in her side of college fund by spending it on by buying house and moving right like all in same month as the start of divorce proceedings. If scorch earth was a competition - OP won by landslide by she wrecked all 3 of them with college fund all because both the cheater and the daughter never bother to considered that OP would go nuke if the daughter went out her way to take his side.

@artemislove2941

26 күн бұрын

and an apartment 😀

Wow the daughter is a mercenary,she threw the relationship with op,for a car. Holy fuck, I don't think the relationship between them will be the same ever again.

@user-ij8uj1tz5u

26 күн бұрын

That's what happens when a narcissis makes a kid pick sides of mom and dad.

@Deimos001

26 күн бұрын

@@user-ij8uj1tz5u I don't think the ex husband was the main cause,the daughter was way out of line before the occurred.

@jellydog9155

25 күн бұрын

Damn that's tough

@DeatGaming

24 күн бұрын

Dumb kids do dumb things. Hopefully Mia can turn this into a life lesson and never forget how dumb and greedy she was.

@Deimos001

24 күн бұрын

​@@DeatGamingwell 18 years old ain't a kid no more,so yeah she reaped what she sowed. It's the famous saying play stupid games,win stupid prizes.

Daughter got exactly what she asked for, and mother was 100% in the right to spend that money on herself, instead of on an ungrateful child that would side with a cheater.

@mnomadvfx

25 күн бұрын

It's a bit 2+3=4 there. I don't think that she should have automatically expected the daughter to take sides at all - especially given by her own admission she knew the daughter had been growing closer to her father in recent years, so expecting her to just take a side was wrong. But what the daughter did in response was at least as bad or worse. The college fund was not a given the same way parental love is - it's rather comical how many of these stories go to blows over money when it just displays the ones getting upset as mercenary personalities. Also the daughter still has the fathers half of the college find, unless he blew it on his affair.

@saran.4001

17 күн бұрын

@@mnomadvfx It is not taking a side. It is right from wrong.

@RavenSutcliffe

16 күн бұрын

​@@mnomadvfxI don't think "I'm likely not going to college because I did something stupid as a teen while being manipulated by my father" is displaying a mercenary personality but ok. If we weren't talking about a country that can put you into lifelong debt over this I'd agree, but we are

@Nempo13

13 күн бұрын

@@RavenSutcliffe She chose dad for a CAR. Also, "Suddenly getting close to Johnathan" means the father was giving her things and getting the girl to help him hide it. You never help a cheater, you never trust a cheater, you certainly do not remain friends with a cheater. A kid also should be drilled into their head this fact so if one parent cheats they are never forgiven for it.

@goldenpony822

12 күн бұрын

​​​​​​i have to say at 16 yo I chose my STEP DAD and went full NC with the actual mothrr because while he was providing for family, she'd do these huge guilt trips about me having to parent my 2yo stepsis while she was out having a fkn affair and step dad working hard. And thr more I grow older the more I reqalize she was just a freeloader her whole life from gramps to stepdad and a negligent absent party goer mother. Some years ago she called to talk about her retiring into some rural area (with the help of gramps gift flat and daddy's funds) and assuming I was going to go there. I was like be careful with your life choices because noone will be out there to look for you and you'll be 400km away from the nearest hospital, plus you've never cared about your own health so it might be rough. Big silence and a thanks for the clear message I got. And I was out.

In no way was she faking it. Your daughter never loved you.

@dollsite

26 күн бұрын

exactly what i thought. i could never ever do this to my own mother for ANYONE.

@huh5950

26 күн бұрын

I thought so too but shes trynna reconnect even tho she has nothing to gain from it since the money for her is gone, she gave up on getting a car from her father and they are doing counseling too. Does that warrant forgiveness? Honestly no. But I guess OP is forgiving her daughter for her own sake.

@roland4618

26 күн бұрын

She does have one thing to gain from it. Inheritance, if she can’t have the college fund, then she can play the long game and rebuild a good relationship in the chance that the house becomes hers. There’s a chance, but it’s basically “do barely anything, maybe get a house or good inheritance in the end.”

@user-fs6fr1un4f

25 күн бұрын

Women usually live longer than men, so her father's house is going to belong to her father's second wife (affair partner) and his children from the second marriage.

@balusters

25 күн бұрын

She's definitely her father's daughter. Mom should have said she'd never inherit anything or something to see if daughter really wants to reconnect.

OP is either a better person or a bigger doormat than me, I guess... the fact that the daughter did what she did OVER AN EFFING CAR would've made me even angrier and less inclined to forgive.

@charlizesalisbury9913

26 күн бұрын

pretty sure being the bigger person is sometimes also being the bigger dormat... They are one and the same.

@joshuarees2354

25 күн бұрын

Yeah daughter clearly wants somehting and hasnt changed her ways shes just being a doormatt

@01wonderful

24 күн бұрын

I can tell you as a mom, your child has to do soemthing very horrible to stop loving them. Its really a feeling you can't get rid of no matter how hsrd you try. Also, damn, the daughter is an adult and i still saw people saying 'but frontal lobe'....as if thats an excuse. I really wish people would stop using such excuses, that frontal lobe will never mature if we keep syaing they are still kids at 19 lmao. Like theh can drive, drink and have s3x with whoever they want, but when we need to hold them accountable for something, all of a sudden that frontal lobe isnt fully developed?

@Kuremensu

24 күн бұрын

Probably the bigger doormat. The bigger person would have checked out after the post, without showing the new shiny home for attention.

@MysticOceanDollies

21 күн бұрын

It’s the fact that it’s her daughter, her own flesh and blood that she gave birth to, that made her forgive her. She should still not trust her daughter, but it’s hard for a mother to not forgive her child.

For a price of a car and a apartament she nuked her relationship with her mom? STONKS

@masumi158

18 күн бұрын

For a PROMISE.

@krishanpaul2

18 күн бұрын

she's a f'in idiot but that dad's a piece of work too. maybe he can use the car money to pay for her tuition.

@_whyte.woods_1256

16 күн бұрын

Don't even know what stonks means😂

@Nezumi_Yasu

5 күн бұрын

​@@_whyte.woods_1256 even if you don't know you used the right emoji 😂😂😂😂

I don't see why Mia couldn't have just told OP "hey, dad promised me a car if I played nice with AP." Just a small warning to her mom. It didn't have to affect Mia and Op's relationship at all.

@umm3766

25 күн бұрын

ngl a daughter who truly loved her mother that got cheated on by her dad still wouldn't play that

@puppychen6947

21 күн бұрын

@@umm3766I mean personally I would because I’d want my sperm doner to(finally) foot the bill on smt and let my mom off easy lol but I understand y others don’t

@bakedandbeaded

20 күн бұрын

@@umm3766 Not true. they'd play it even harder as a big fuck you to their wallets, then never talk to them again.

@heatherboz

20 күн бұрын

​@@umm3766As a daughter I would play the father harder but my mother would know everything and be in on it

@bryn1063

18 күн бұрын

​@heatherboz ikr. Take his money and still support your mother. She's so stupid ngl. But truthfully, I think she's lying. She never really cared about her mother bit as soon as the money was gone. Then she suddenly started caring. Naw she wanted to dump op. Live her life with a car and a fat college fund.

She said her mother took revenge, that means she knew she did something bad. she had no regret until it actually effected her. She ignored mother, chose not only father, but fathers affair partner who she barely knew over her mother, she was rude, she blocked her mother for being rightfully upset with her calling AP mom, she said mother needed to stop stalking her, she said she needs to move on to bring happiness in her life.OP just took all this on board and decided to listen to the brat, and now brats upset because the consequences now effect her, not just her mother

@beverlyarcher3744

14 күн бұрын

Yeah especially since she didn't even get the car

Last story was about parents blowing the fund on a house and being the assholes. Now the tables turn😂

@mykaelarmstrong7474

26 күн бұрын

Lol I just read that one 10 mins ago

@Doorsplayer112

26 күн бұрын

Me too😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@SYLVESTER-6782

26 күн бұрын

I don't like the part where they reconcile since they don't deserve it. I also don't like how the OP's blame themselves even though they did nothing wrong. Furthermore, I hate that stupid ass argument of "they're your family"

@jferguson8960

26 күн бұрын

​@@SYLVESTER-6782agree. It sucks that it takes a face to face for these people to apologize.

@blue_leafs

26 күн бұрын

​@SYLVESTER-6782 this is an AI story

Daughter's ego reaches to the sky, it seems to me that she is only sorry because she has received consequences for her actions, not because she truly feels that she hurt her mother, op behaved in the only best way.

@TrueLight-zr8ou

26 күн бұрын

and the daughter did what wrong nothing she should shame her dad no he's an adult made his choices he never treated her bad she's 18 moms in the wrong

@ThomasAndy-qu8dp

26 күн бұрын

At least she feels sorry, i'd rather see someone being a complete idiot and changes for the better than her being an idiot and keep being an idiot because she has no basic empathy.

@constantdemonics

26 күн бұрын

@@TrueLight-zr8oushe’s 18. An adult. She’s capable of understanding a bribe. If she was picking a side it should have been Mom.

@VynDimentional

25 күн бұрын

@@TrueLight-zr8ou Can someone translate?

@user-xd6nc6rg7b

25 күн бұрын

@@TrueLight-zr8ouWho said she had to shame her dad? OP didn’t ask her to pick sides. The dad offered her a car and a free apartment to be nice to the AP. She chose to ice out her mom while kissing AP’s @$$ all on her own.

If her daughter loved her affair mother so much, she can deal with paying for her college fund. Have fun, go spend that money and enjoy the house. The gall to ask how she'd help contribute, how about you go ask the affair partner to contribute? Last time I'd talk to her tbh. Better yet, go get a job.

for the promise of a car and an apartment. the PROMISE of that. remember y'all, she never even got those things yet. dad could still 100% renege on those promises and then she'd have forever effed up her relationship with her mom for NOTHING. pathetic.

@saran.4001

17 күн бұрын

The tuition would have been a lot more money than the car and an apartment.

Just a post? How she can forget about the whole phone call when Mia basically told her mother she likes her new family more?

NTA the daughter is a massive AH

@jferguson8960

26 күн бұрын

Dad too for dangling that incentive for his daughter. She F up for accepting it and not finding a better way to have her moms back.

@Chuckakhan

26 күн бұрын

No the mum is the AH she’s taking her revenge on a teenager. She probably left out a heap of context.

@ogxh0018

26 күн бұрын

​@@Chuckakhanyour take is even worse than most of what reddit puts out. Shes 17-19 years old. If you can't learn how to not bite the hand that feeds you or learn the fact that actions have consequences then you're a failure of a child. That's life and she has to live what she chose, especially since she knows the whole story and who betrayed who

@norcofreerider604

26 күн бұрын

I disagree. OP wanted her daughter to side with her. This is a major red flag. Parents should keep their children out of their marriage problems as much as possible, not try to rope them in against the other parent. OP is likely very manipulative and the daughter was tired of her sh!t.

@MinisterManDan

26 күн бұрын

@@norcofreerider604 Of course she wanted her (adult) daughter to side with her. The daughter's worthless father cheated on her mom and left her, and then tried to bribe her to accept the whore he shacked up with just to hurt her mother. If you take the side of the parent who abused your other parent, you're a piece of shit. Life is about taking sides sometimes, and your parents are not always equally worthy of your love.

"She told me that whatever happened was done and that now, instead of whining, I should just be trying to make my future better." I can imagine OP speaking in Joker's voice and mocking tone: "very poor choice of words!"

@mnomadvfx

25 күн бұрын

Momma did a magic trick and made a college fund disappear 😆🤣

@encryptogamer789

25 күн бұрын

Made me crack up. Thanks!

@scarlthesnarl5581

25 күн бұрын

What is it with people acting like past actions and occurrences should have no impact on a person or their relationship.

@belooga-bj3pw

19 күн бұрын

She was like: "Bet"

@savannahs5439

15 күн бұрын

​@scarlthesnarl5581 likely the father's words

Stabbed her mother in the back during one of the most painful/vulnerable moments of her life...... so she can get a car. I honestly don't know if this is a daughter worth reconnecting with. This is the kind of child that have no morals in abusing and robbing parents when their old to rob to do anything about it

@beverlyarcher3744

14 күн бұрын

What's hilarious didn't even get the car

Wow, Jonathan was the lowest of the scum. To manipulate your daughter just like that. And Mia, yeah. She's his daughter alright.

@DraxXThanos

26 күн бұрын

no one was manipulated he was truthful and she still picked her dad

@yanuarpdt

26 күн бұрын

@@DraxXThanos not that part. The "get along with my AP in would buy you a car" part.

@DraxXThanos

26 күн бұрын

@@yanuarpdt my bad i hadnt reached that part.

@mnomadvfx

25 күн бұрын

@@yanuarpdt "The "get along with my AP in would buy you a car" part" Get along with future step mom =/= take a steaming s**t on birth mothers feelings by ignoring her after her marriage broke down and making a public show of all but licking her new moms shoes with wanton malice. Sounds like the little bitch got a little overeager for her bonus gifts - now she can sell them to make up the lost half of her college fund if she still wants that.

@lilsstrunks

19 күн бұрын

@@yanuarpdt man that's not manipulation lmfao

Mia chose a car and aparment over your relationship, she dosent deserve your love. Btw if shes worried about her "mom" paying for her college then she should ask her new mom to pay if she loves her that much.

I’m predicting a future post of OP writing about Mia treating her like crap again because her ex-husband is paying for Mia’s wedding.

@mr.halfright

8 күн бұрын

Give it a few months. The next post is gonna be titled something like, "my daughter told me she hates me and blocked me everywhere because her dad promised her a house"

First story: NTA Funny how OP suddebly became her mother again, after Mia found out about the money and how she will no longer get to go to collage. Let her loving father and her "new mom" pay for it. OP does not owe her anything anymore. Mia is sn adult, time for her to.learn about adult consiquences

@mnomadvfx

25 күн бұрын

Nah, plenty of people get into college on scholarships and loans. She's still got the fathers half so it's not even like she's completely out.

OP's daughter only felt bad because the money was gone. She needs to understand that her actions have consequences, even if it's with her own mother. A car and an apartment? Wow. She clearly values money over relationships. And considering her lies, how does OP know she's telling the truth or if this was just some lie fabricated by her or her father to lure OP back. But, if OP truly wants her back, I would _highly_ suggest keeping her at arms length and _not_ spending any money on her. It doesn't matter how much she's sorry. This is a permanent mark on OP's relationship with her daughter. Forgive, but _DO NOT_ forget.

Just tell the brat to "Get over it." like she did to you.

@lindah3803

25 күн бұрын

OP definitely should have quoted her daughter when she called after finding out that OP's part of her college fund was gone. She could have used the quote every time she texted or messaged her. I would have.

Your daughter's boohoo party was nothing more than emotional manipulation. The proof is in the last thing she said which was asking for the college $$. I wonder if the dad really saved for daughter's college. Or he's spent all of it on his home wrecking w*o*e. She was promised a car, well where is it? Did I miss the part where she actually got it? Don't be surprised if your daughter starts begging to have her name put on the deed & asking about your will. Put up cameras in the house before you let her in. You might catch her searching your house for the will, mortgage, bank statements, etc. good luck

@saran.4001

17 күн бұрын

I like your suspicious and probably accurate mind. I hope the dad did blow the college money, that would really serve Mia right. Mia and her dad deserve each other.

Mia made her choice, now she can live with it.

Lol her daughter just trying to guilt trip her 🤡 and if she fell for it, too bad ma’am Just live your life from now on, your daughter is a grown up

@TheImperiumEmpire552

21 күн бұрын

People aren't heartless ok?

@lyra6695

21 күн бұрын

@@TheImperiumEmpire552 but to do that to your own mother isn’t? And she cried and “realized” she is wrong after she take some serious action? Before that? She dismissed OP feeling and even calling her dramatic

@PinkGhosty3236

20 күн бұрын

​@@TheImperiumEmpire552 It's called having a spine, if my kid did that they'd be cut out instantly

"She only gets hiccups when she's upset" Sure, but she's not upset becaise she cares, shes upset because the gravy train has stopped. Her new mom can pay for college

Well, Mia played OP. I don't buy Mia's tear filled remorse. I wouldn't be surprised if scumbag Daddy dearest told Mia that she has to get back in with Mom. Get back with her and she'll be able to get her to pay for the later semesters. I can see Mia shaking her head and saying: Oh yea, that would work. I can do that. Mia's going to take her for a ride. I hope OP likes to travel.

Nothing I hate more than people using emotions to blackmail others.

Choosing a car over her own mom. That's not the type of stuff you can just forgive.

Story 1: brought up a good point.... Why do divorcing parents try and make the kids pick a side? Yes it's their parents separating but the kids are still their kids and shouldn't be used as pawns to guilt trip or manipulate the other parent.

@fandomtrash5609

26 күн бұрын

Tbf imagine giving all your love to a man and your child together. And not only does he cheat on you but your daughter also doesn’t gaf and chooses to spend more time with the ap.

@florpleborp2275

26 күн бұрын

The only time is condone it, having been a child who was constantly pulled back and forth in the pick a side tug of war, is when one parent is being especially nasty to another. It’s a bitterness that builds, like they wanted the divorce but didn’t ACTUALLY wanna deal with all that it entails. But it’s too late once you’re married. If both are that way, then quite frankly you may need to step back and decide for YOURSELF if either of your parents are healthy for you. There’s honestly too much to unpack the nuance and specifics of such a delicate topic, so that’s not gospel. You NEVER pick a side, you simply opt for the safe parent IF one is toxic. Rest assured when I say if you’re making these opinions of your parents anywhere between the age of 10-19, you’ll will change your mind later, but you’ll either realize you were actually being unappreciative, or you realize just how bad it truly was.

@yeyosilver7067

26 күн бұрын

Wanting your daughter to be on your side when her father is a filthy piece of shit is literally a normal thing to think about. You really don't have common sense, do you?

@miguelarias5193

26 күн бұрын

​@@fandomtrash5609 TBf OP could legit be painting themselves a a poor little victim who got blindsided when in reality they could be TAH. Or they could be narcissistic or something. Notice how she just brushed off the fact she blew up her daughters phone and quickly made it" it's and us vs them mentality of you side with them F you and your future too"

@nyu2631

26 күн бұрын

Well, in this case, the kid was almost a full grown woman, she was heading to college lol I guess if she had been a literal kid the scenario would've been totally different.

Why are people saying "Story 1" when there's ONLY 1 story? Was there a second story that was just edited out before I watched it?

@nodjr1595

26 күн бұрын

most of these have 2 or more stories, so they probably pause the video and comment at whatever part they are before finishing the video.

@edensordreamer

25 күн бұрын

Yeah. I was confused too. Seems like a lot of people commenting even before the story finished. Some of them even didn't grasp the essence of the story because they're commenting without understanding the whole story first 🙃

@jacobstarr9010

12 күн бұрын

Multiple updates

She’s spiteful like her father and she chose her side! Got exactly what she asked for

I’m sick and tired of hearing about these kids throwing a fit about losing their college fund you were never entitled to one in the first place.

@lindah3803

25 күн бұрын

There's a difference in a kid fittin when the parents never promised any college fund. Opposed to a kid that has been promised to have all or a portion of their college paid. In this situation Mia had been promised. She knew Dad had an account for her college. Mom had an account as well. Now her Dad promised her the car and apartment if she played nicey nice with his skank. He never considered that OP would pull her account away. By OP pulling her funds, that meant that he would have to pay the full amount, plus honor his promise. Or the daughter would have to get a job to make up Mom's part or student loans. I don't think he has the money to honor his promise without OP's money. Mia never dreamed that Mom wouldn't pay. With what she did, no she has no right to be fittin.

@dcg590

14 күн бұрын

@@lindah3803who cares if she was promised? Things change and she’s still not entitled to college.

At least make sure to not fund any part of her college tuition, car, and living situation. That should be the very least of her punishment for the betrayal.

I'm so mad OP forgave her daughter... Imagine hurting your mother for A CAR and having no consequences (I wouldn't be surprised if OP sold her house or go in debt to contribute to AH's education)

Story 1: just a reminder that moms are people and at the very basic level humans too. At thr very basis of humans is understanding and acceptance. And if one human doesnt get it, why should they give it. Mia played stupid games and won stupid prizes.

"I never thought you would stop being a doormat loving me unconditionally!!!" Op's child is a gold digger, the fact she so easily threw away her mom who was her best friend growing up is so wild to me

I would be absolutely done, over a car and a apartment. Scorched Earth activated.

the mom should just said "Get over it" as soon she was asked about the college fund.

You go mom, her new mom can pay her college since she is so great. Get that dream house and leave daughter out of the will, get a new daughter

Not the AH. Let her father and the homewrecker pay for her collage. But no, they can't do that because it would leave less money for his AP. I hope you took him for everything. Cause you know the only reason AP is with him is money. She'll drop him like a hot potato if he loses that. Your daughter was crying because her actions had consequences. You're definitely not the AH.

I feel like there might be more to the story that the OP is letting out, kids don't usually resent their parents like this without a reason. Either that or the daughter is a complete sociopath.

C'mon...she was upset because she didn't put up with her bs. Well done,mom.

I think making a child be complicit in keeping an affair secret should be grounds for suing for alienation of affection. She could sue her ex-husband

Her own daughter betrayed her over a pathetic reason like that? I'm surprised that OP didn't disown her for that.

That mom is way kinder than most because I'm not so sure that I would have even entertained the idea of forgiving the daughter after she just casually betrayed her mother for a damn car while acting like an unfazed, heartless and petty bitch about it, too. Smdh.

OP should just be happy that those 3 awful, vile people are playing as a happy family now. It hurts, but she's lucky she get to learn about her daughter only caring about the money she would contribute for her tuition. Before she could spend it on that ungrateful brat, she spent it on a better thing- her dream house. Edit: I posted this before hearing OP's last update but I still think that her daughter is a brat who chose materialistic things over her mom who got cheated on and she deserves no money for her college from OP. I hope that the daughter finds OP's posts and learn about what the commentors has to say about her.

The daughter doesn't owe the mother anything, true the mother doesn't owe the daughter a college fund, also true

For your daughter's sake, don't be a pushover. A sorry and crying doesnt cut it. She needs to work on rebuilding a relationship that she wrecked so bad.

NTA. Not only did she not stand up for the victim, she sided with the cheater and his AP and treated her mom like garbage. She deserved the worst.

NTA. Quite frankly it's really none of their business what you do with YOUR money. They can rely on themselves and each other. It's no longer your problem.

Well, I guess if you fuck around, you find out

What gets me about this story is that the main character never goes into hitting up the cheater about possible manipulation. The ex wife wouldn't be that daft.

Good for not being her cash cow. Being a mother is not her only identity. She is her own person.

Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

About time Mia learned that her actions have consequences.

Real humility and love wouldve been the daughter understanding the mom having to do what she needed to do to survive after a divorce. 🤷🏾‍♀️

so either daughter doesnt love OP and did it for a car or she doesnt love OP and did it because she supports her dads new gf... after the social media post she had all the opportunity to do damage control but didnt give a shit until she realized it would affect her.

She didn't regret losing her relationship with her mom for a car, she regretted trading her college fund for a car.

Clear case of parental alienation get a lawyer ASAP! Use the funds from that case to restitution for her college, basically Sue, your husband, so he pay your share

You know this is fake because you you can’t really buy a house in the middle of a divorce like that

@saran.4001

17 күн бұрын

Yes you can. Gisele Bundchin bought one while divorcing Tom Brady. She had the money, what would stop you from buying a house while divorcing?

I'm rather disappointed in OP. She forgave way too quickly and easily. If my dad cheated on my mom and told me to be nice to his new woman for a car, I'd have told him to go sit and spin on a gear shift.

Mia got a really good lesson about the consequences of her actions.

.....she did all that all that shit for a car and apartment?! Bull... she could have told you and simply pretended to play along if that was the case.

Actions have consequences. She can't disrespect her mom and still get what she want.

I could never do this to my mother, even if she ain’t the best. If my dad, who I don’t really have a good relationship with him (he’s been a bit absent in my younger years, like 4-10ish) told me to emotionally hurt my mother and cozy up to my stepmother for a car and a an apartment, I wouldn’t do it for the world. Her daughter clearly needs to think this through, and the OP should realize she is less significant in her daughter’s life than she realizes. The daughter was only upset because of the money, and soon realized her mistake too late.

and people wonder why I don't want any bloody brats

Choices have consequences. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. F*** around and find out. So spoiled little Mia can go to her new mommy and ask for a college fund.

Am i the only one that think the daughter only "repaired" the relationship with OP to get the house when she dies? That daughter, from what i read, is beyond empathy or any real love for OP. I thinks the daughter is faking everything and biding her time.

Mia is almost definitely playing the long con, simply put, she made it pretty clear that all she cares about is money, and being on the will of 2 people is better than 1, to test this, OP should have told her that she was willing on having a relationship with her but that she was cutting her out of her will, then OP should have seen her reaction, this method will ensure that she is only getting the emotional part of the relationship and nothing material, which means that Mia is only after her because she cares and not because of the money, if she in any way shape or form tries to convince her to change the will, then she would definitely be a narcissistic gold digger just like her father. This is far better than burying your head in the sand and hoping that she isn’t after your money after she broke your trust.

NTA she old enough to take care of herself she made her bed now she gotta lie in it im starting to think mia knew about the affair

F this kid and her father, there is no excuse to cheat. Male or Female, the cheaters don't deserve s! I wish this woman the best of luck in life!

Reconciliation is not forgiving. Reconciliation is the path to forgive.

Mia can ask her new mom to pay for her college since you were blocked. Enjoy ur new home. Throw a party enjoy ur new life without ungrateful little brats

Yeah, I won’t lie…if my children chose anything but neutrality or me in a divorce…fair enough, it’s their life. But I’m reclaiming MY life and my money, time, support, energy, etc. Like there’s a line…people forget mothers are humans too because we’re known for going superhuman to keep our children safe and happy…but shit, we can 100% choose ourselves.

really bruh. she did all of that..just for a CAR???

I'm SHOOK that she could even think about hurting her mother like that, in a time when she needed her daughter more than anything. I hope that karma-wide, that daughter never gets cheated on, because she's going to get hit like a train if she does. Damn, would she ever. And what would be the cherry on top was if everyone took the cheaters side if it happened to HER.

The real villain in the story is the US education system

Lmfao throwing your own mother away for a car. 💀

Kid is spoiled but what was their relationship like before this? I am glad the Mom spent the money on herself.😅

Mia: "I have a very good reason to explain why I broke my family apart" Me: What it was for? Mia: a new car

Unpopular opinion: The mother exhibits significant emotional immaturity. Perhaps this is rooted in cultural differences. In my culture, pettiness is not celebrated, so it's perplexing to see the mother’s rash and spiteful actions being applauded. While I do not condone the daughter’s behavior, the mother’s conduct appears equally immature. Her insistence that the daughter take her side or harbor animosity towards her father is particularly troubling. Children should not be forced to choose sides in a divorce. Moreover, in my culture, parental responsibilities do not cease when a child turns 18; they continue, often until the child is married. The emphasis on individualism in Western societies is startling to me.

my mother and i have always had a hot and cold relationship but i can never imagine behaving like this to her for a fucking car and apartment

play stupid games, win stupid prizes, lmao *with demonic under tones

I have to wonder what op's relationship with her daughter was like before the divorce. It ain't an excuse, but there may be a reason she'd throw it away for a car.

SHould have taken that email from the daughter and given it to OP Lawyer and get them in trouble for emotional manipulation of the daughter

This 40-something woman trying to justify acting like a pissed off teen by saying "You did it first!" isn't the mic drop she thinks it is. There's no justification for what her husband did or how rude her daughter was for a couple months but it makes me wonder why they "had grown apart for the last few years"? I'm thinking that her pettiness and immaturity had been getting to her daughter for awhile. They all suck and the OP is just as bad as the daughter and husband. I'm sure everyone will say "but he cheated!" and should be given a free pass for doing anything shitty. I disagree and I HAVE been cheated on and never cheated. I could never justify hurting my daughters future, no matter how she treated me. This OP needs to mature a lot.

This is defenatly one of the stories that i need to see mias side for before I make a decision.

If the girl was so quick to drop her mother over a car, I wonder what she would do for a million dollars… Anyways I understand mom.. that’s still her child and she has a soft spot . Forgiving the first time isn’t cowardly or doormat, it’s courageous. I hope mia learns and actually becomes better.

Your daughter was never entitled to any money from you and she cut you off, not the other way around. She just didn't think that they were going to be any consequences. Well welcome to adult world where actions have consequences.

I’d tell the daughter that if she wants to go to college so bad, to ask her new mom to pay for it, since she obviously prefers her over her birth mom.

I don't think children, no matter their age or circumstance, should be asked to "take sides" during divorce. Just love your kids in spite of their changing and sometimes incorrect attitudes. Just fucking support them emotionally and financially, don't control them with funding in order to get what you want.

@mnomadvfx

25 күн бұрын

Or just don't support them financially. Parents already support their children financially for 18 years. 18 YEARS! After that IMHO anything else is entirely parental discretion and in no way entitled, unless it was dispensed by another member of their family and only held in trust by parents until their 18th birthday. My great gran left me some money for my college years, but my parents did nothing. In this case it's kinda warranted that the mother should choose to spend it herself given she has had the rug pulled out from under her fairly late in life to start saving anew for another house. The daughter still has her fathers half of a college fund and a car and an apartment - if she wants college so bad and the fathers half isn't enough she can sell the gifts she sided with her father for to the point of burning bridges with her mother. So ye - there's really no good parties here all round, but the least bad party is the mother. At least she's the one with a VERY good excuse to be acting a bit out of character and using previously earmarked saving to for buying a house.

@melaniebell8115

25 күн бұрын

@@mnomadvfx I respectfully disagree. I have immense sympathy for a teenager, just starting out in life, whose family just dissolved and got the financial rug pulled out from under her. Going no contact and no support for not meeting emotional demands is not the action of a loving mother. Don't have kids if you don't plan to help them start a successful adult life.

@agirlwithglasses246

25 күн бұрын

⁠@@melaniebell8115 well, I respectfully disagree with you too, the kid is 18 , 18 is a good enough age when they develop the sense of right and wrong , actually, scientifically humans develop sense of right and wrong at 3/4 yrs old, and they can fully comprehend it at around 6/7 yrs old She’s 18, she knew exactly what a bribe means , she threw away her relationship with her own mother for a car , and made some random **** her “mom” publicly where people can see, and still expects to have money? No , for receiving monetary help, you need to be a good child too . Parents are not banks. Some of them work very hard to put a roof and food for their children ,and when children are such ungrateful brats , there’s no wrong to let there be consequences for their actions , that daughter needs to learn there will be consequences for her actions, and she can’t have her cake and eat it too. Being a teenager doesn’t just give an automatic pass to do things

@agirlwithglasses246

25 күн бұрын

I’m not saying she should’ve taken sides during divorce, I’m saying she basically shunned her own mother for a car , and not expect to have any consequences .

I honestly think both parents are AH, I think there’s more to why the daughter acted that way towards her mom.

Life is wonderful being childfree 💪

It feels like there was already a weird dynamic going on when she moved out without as much as a goodbye to her daughter.

Maybe Mia should have thought, wow, dad's was a pos to mom now is trying to buy me, maybe my relationship with moms kore important, and maybe she can help me with a car and apartment and stuff. But nahh, let's just push her away, then when confronted about it, be a massive b**** to her, and then when concequences for her actions happen, keep blaming her mom instead of accepting responsibility. Guess mom should be thankful kow, she has a solid figure on how much her love is worth to her daughter

Seriously! NTA.... Cheaters are already pathetic but an 18 year old adult doing this already disgusting.

She could have been decent to the lady as well as her mother.. to stomp on your mom for a car is insanity.. her mom probably would have got her the car smh.. just foolishness.. she chose sides & would have had to stay there for a longgggg time if it were me.. but it’s not so