I have to CONSTANTLY remind myself to be quiet and say way less.

@honeydew5963

4 жыл бұрын

JCrewCutie yess the struggle😩 I have the problem and thoughts in my head everyday

@sharonstanley9936

4 жыл бұрын

Honey Dew @JCrewCutie Start journaling 💕💕

@thedivineone

4 жыл бұрын

JCrewCutie me too learning everyday

@yeseniapacheco1164

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@arielsullivan4746

4 жыл бұрын

Me currently

I’m glad black girls are starting to reclaim femininity 💗

@redcolerealty9245

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@solarielee7540

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! I am personally learning. Didn't know this a while ago

@kayyoung9242

4 жыл бұрын

Me too ❤

@ela6252

3 жыл бұрын

i hope one day people will never see you as colour. my mom has lived in the us and her coworkers told her to avoid black people. ofc she didn’t ahahha fuck racism

I work with all asian women and they all look and dress like men; mo makeup, jewelry, dresses, etc. I stand out because i am super feminine! They always tell me i don't need makeup and asking why am I always in dresses. Women hate when another woman raises the bar.

@PS-fk5zv

4 жыл бұрын

Roses & Peonies omg I’m Asian and I’m super feminine but my Asian friends, and parents always comment on how I’m always “too dressed up” and it’s so annoying 😂😂😂

@questionresearch8721

4 жыл бұрын

Keep going.

@Roses-Peonies

4 жыл бұрын

@@PS-fk5zv That is because it makes them need to do more to get on your level, you have raised the bar.

@Roses-Peonies

4 жыл бұрын

@@questionresearch8721 Thanks love! 🥰

@BriannaxChaiyou

4 жыл бұрын

Keep fighting on your journey. I’m like you and my mom also helped me. Not all women, mentioned in the video, had what I had and try to tear us down. What’s worse, when you go outside the racial norms, people will have the audacity to tell you you’re not black or you’re not what race you are. That’s annoying and I experienced that in high school.

When I stared moving in silence... Whew, best decision ever.

@Nekole1

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. It can be a headache when you have to many people in your ear at once.

@chellyvino

4 жыл бұрын

Did you delete social media etc? I have a bad habit of counting my chickens before they hatch or sharing my dreams with everybody.

@ebonydiamond_

4 жыл бұрын

chellyvino no I did not delete my socials ... I just kept my moves to myself.

@dee8765

4 жыл бұрын

chellyvino I’ve started working on moving in silence since year .... pretty major moves I’m making only my mom and sis know ... and they found out like weeks after I started

@chellyvino

4 жыл бұрын

@@dee8765 same! are you willing to share? I feel like my moves are major but haven't shared with anyone. i have a BIG mouth and tell my business a lot by accident. But the last time I did this I was 19 and joined the AirForce. Im doing it now as I embark on my 30s. I feel like its necessary for elevation because ppl really DONT want to see you succeed.

I haven't told a soul except for my husband my secret. My family is negative and immature, so i keep my agenda silent. Imma tell you lovely ladies though, as we are family! Im working on my degree! Ive been in school for over a year now. My gpa is 3.96! Im shooting for valedictorian. Wish me luck! Im not telling anyone anything! Im going to just mail tickets to my graduation. "They said i wouldn't be nothing.. Now they only say congratulations"!!!]

@pinkpup11

4 жыл бұрын

The HYENA #makeupslayer Yesss gurlll!!! That is amazing, you will achieve all that you put your mind to 🙌🏾✨

@DJW100Ms

4 жыл бұрын

Yess!! Keep going boo! Keep winning 💖💖💖

@Nasstexa2011

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations babe 🥳 That’s amazing

@aaliyahjohnson3089

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulationsssssssss!!!!!!🥳🥳

@TechwithToya

4 жыл бұрын

THAT’S AMAZING!!!!!! KEEP PUSHING!!!!

I have a patient who is stunning, well groomed and looks 65 but is 83 years old. She broke her hip, admitted to hospital (pre-Rona!) and everyday asked the nurse for her tinted moisturiser, blush and lipstick. The other older female patients would make snide remarks and hate on her because she always looked good. Jealousy knows no age range ladies!

She’s speaking facts. People act like they’re genuinely happy for you and your accomplishments but are really jealous. All the while sending negative energy and the evil eye hoping for your downfall. Protect your energy and only share with people who are also on a path to growth

@LN2C

4 жыл бұрын

True Davis

@girlnextdoor2836

4 жыл бұрын

The moment you start making it they start attacking and creating lies about you.Its strange

@p9nstyle

4 жыл бұрын

I no longer tell anyone but my husband what I'm working on...I've been playing small for too long

@sherisetodd7761

4 жыл бұрын

Also as an older woman I used to think when I was younger that women mature out of this. I found out as I got older that the slightest bit of self improvement can be a threat to women who you think would be too mature to act certain ways.

@sherisetodd7761

4 жыл бұрын

When I was young, other young women tended to act ok (not all) but you will be surprised when you get older that some people do not grow out of hating on other people's self improvement even if the improvement is slight.

This reminds me of the black woman who posted her six figure salary from Computer science in the UK to inspire others on Twitter. In return she received hate, jealously and nearly lost her job due to spite from people she didn't even know online. She soon deactivated her. The worse thing that it was from other black people. Keep things to yourself. Nobody wants you to do too well

@fatima.o3258

4 жыл бұрын

Victoria yeah I saw this and she actually wanted to help people get to that stage. Such a shame what jealous people do

@user-ep4jo1ev3j

4 жыл бұрын

@@fatima.o3258 it was truly so sad

@kristenmoonrise

4 жыл бұрын

Wow I hadn't heard of that. How sad!

@AashaBiancaB

4 жыл бұрын

I get that was supposed to be uplifting, but it is tacky to post your income 🥴That’s partially why she got so much back lash, she set herself up for it 🤷🏾‍♀️

@fatima.o3258

4 жыл бұрын

Aasha yeah I agree I know she did it with good intentions because she wanted to teach people. But it’s true maybe she shouldn’t have posted it. She nearly lost her job as well because if the backlash.

Some people get so offended when they “find out” about my come ups... like ... “Why didn’t you tell me you were...?” I’m such a private person, moving in silence comes natural.

@TellyTingzChannel

4 жыл бұрын

Honey tell me about it

@DJW100Ms

4 жыл бұрын

Yess and I hate that like what would it matter? I’m doing me!

@aestheticchillvibes

4 жыл бұрын

ESPECIALLY family🙄🙄😭😂 I be like I don’t owe y’all a damn thing.

@daniellegates1354

4 жыл бұрын

Lucky you. Imma get like you.

@SunsetGlowASMR

4 жыл бұрын

Dominique lmao funny you said family. My “mother-in-law” was soooo offended when she saw me pull up in a new car. She was hurt that I didn’t tell her I was getting one. Mind you, we have a history of a rocky relationship. Like... Daffuq?? I just told her that I didn’t think it was important.

As an introvert feminine woman, I've ALWAYS moved in silence! This applies to EVERY aspect of yr life! In school, at work, even with my family. Keep your projects, ambitions, progress, plans, even some successes to YOURSELF! All information is NOT for everybody's ears. I stay a mystery, no one can completely figure me out or predict my moves, not even my husband or parents!!!!

@brookestephens9831

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing! I have been struggling to get back to my introvert nature but it’s just about all the way back and I’ve become very selective with whom I spend my time and energy. I don’t hardly share a thing lol

I live by this. People call it being sneaky or being distant. I call it smart.

@aestheticchillvibes

4 жыл бұрын

Angelique Y omg I could cry this statement right here!!!! Girl say it again!!!

@RealTalkRelationshipTherapy

4 жыл бұрын

it is absolutely smart when you know who you are and where youre going you dont need to annouce things to everyone they will just know

@thenarcrebel5135

4 жыл бұрын

I can so relate!!

I rather be over dressed than under ... it drives me crazy to be under dressed.. feminine is the key!

@Kat3369

4 жыл бұрын

Ooh...me too....I can't stand it!

@niag7273

4 жыл бұрын

Thought I was the only one! I don’t understand why mainly black women make a big deal when u do ...

@itsAdrianCaprice

3 жыл бұрын

Me too! Ugh

@NW-pt8zz

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! You can go anywhere in a snap

I remember a rapper said in a song: Y’all need to make moves and make less announcements. I try to do the same. I don’t announce anything unless it set in stone.

@13ikea

4 жыл бұрын

latrenicahuckie Fabolous - Bounce (I believe)

@glowingmyway

4 жыл бұрын

PYTexan yep! That was him! I love that song

I’m not a black woman, but i love your channel. This is exactly what I’ve been doing in this quarantine. I’ve lost 26lbs during quarantine and i started dressing nice for home. Ladies I tell you that you‘ll feel so much better and happier. Good luck to everyone 🌸🌸🌸

@chamomilemeadows

4 жыл бұрын

26??? WOW you are a queen!!!!

@cherryblossom7442

4 жыл бұрын

@Bits and pieces corner. thank you :) good luck on your journey!

@cherryblossom7442

4 жыл бұрын

@@chamomilemeadows thank you so much :)

@claudine5386

4 жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

@millianwalker1587

4 жыл бұрын

🖤

Even, during this quarantine I do my nails, facial exfoliate my skin do all my self-care routine, I get up and look presentable .Doing this makes me feel feminine.

@mayakelly3457

4 жыл бұрын

Isn’t this just regular upkeep or do other ladies actually NOT do this 😱 I thought it this was normal.

@candy2325

3 жыл бұрын

@@mayakelly3457 sometimes I get lazy and don’t get to do the extra steps of self care especially my nails. Now I get my nails done biweekly because it’s considered my “me time”

I’m such a firm believer in moving in silence. 1) b/c once you speak your plans out loud you subconsciously tell yourself you’ve already accomplished it when you haven’t so you don’t try as hard or even finish what you set out to do. 2) Everyone is a hater and a critic! People will literally talk you of your blessing just b/c they don’t want to see you win. Trust me I’ve experienced this so many times in my life where people talked me out of moving forward or trying to dumb me down and I refuse to let it happen anymore. Listen to her ladies, she’s so right keep your mouth shut and let your light (life) shine 🤩✨

@genj6630

4 жыл бұрын

So true on everyone being a hater and critic! How found too people can get jealous over anything!

@yeahyeah1924

4 жыл бұрын

I believe this too, but then what about "speaking into existence"?

@zeezee3840

4 жыл бұрын

So true dear

@TaleciaGStyle

4 жыл бұрын

yeahyeah yes speak things into existence but that doesn’t mean you walk around telling everyone what your believing & working for. Speak about those things around those who you trust and mean well

@genj6630

4 жыл бұрын

@@TaleciaGStyle I like that breakdown. That makes sense. I even heard a tip: tells your big dreams to kids! They are so positive and do not have so much doubt yet!

Even posting less. Have you noticed all these influencers like Lori Harvey don't really say much in their posts and stories? It's an emoji here, a phrase there, etc. They say less, stay feminine and stay paid. Not that being paid is the only plus, but at least keeping and maintaining your peace is a MAJOR bonus as well.

Moving in silence is something I learned the hard way with my own mother. When I talk about femininty with my sister she will tell us to shut up and stop "wasting time talking about nonsense." Then there is the subtle jabs when I am talking, the passive aggressivenes and the judgemental comments. Now I spend time in my room meditating, praying, taking care of my mental health and I shut my mouth. If I learn something new, (which btw she claims we must share yet she judges me all the time,) I keep it to myself and talk to my sister when she isn't around. It keeps me happy and my life drama free.

@Nyc.Barbie

4 жыл бұрын

Cheryl D Wow I’m dealing with a similar situation at home, but everyone in my house which is females are masculine, judgmental, passive aggressive & love to gossip about my business behind my back & also believe w.e rumors they hear about me from haters from outside instead of coming to me & clearing shit up......especially my mother, so I can’t say anything to anyone in my house, I just stay in my room also & pray, meditate, read, workout, yoga, sing, write, take selfies & keep working on my passions & goals....... anything to keep me Happy & sane....in this hell hole I suppose to call home

@Nyc.Barbie

4 жыл бұрын

My mother is so toxic & petty & bitter when I told her I was going to hang out with my boo & slept over for a few days when I got back home, she wouldn’t let me in the house & told me to wait at the door while she called the cops on me without me knowing...she did that two times already, keep calling the cops for petty reasons & there was a group of cops in my face talking to me, but what was worse is that the main cop that was talking to me wouldn’t take his hand off his off his gun & he was a white man, the only white cop out the group of 8 cops

@cherylmia

4 жыл бұрын

@@Nyc.Barbie wow. I am so sorry you have to deal with that. Learning the feminine lifestyle while being raised in a homestead with masculine females is hard. My sister and I are basically being used by God to break a generational curse. Its going to be hard but just know that I am keeping you in my prayers and sending positive vibes your way. 💕💕💕Much love.

@bunnym6814

4 жыл бұрын

Holly Haters can be the people closest to you and they usually are.

@wowso4

4 жыл бұрын

Holly sorry your going through that darling, stay safe and keep your life private try to not talk about your success with these people. I wish you all the best. Keep working on yourself and continue to work on your dreams.

Every once in a while I try to spread the message w/my friends. I’m the type that tries to put people on when I find something valuable you know? But some people just aren’t ready. Or they simply don’t want to change 🤷🏽‍♀️.

@lexij5034

4 жыл бұрын

Ashley Santiago Omg yes! My ex best friend used to accuse me of thinking I was better than her. Unfortunately, I had to cut her off.

@BrittinyKay

4 жыл бұрын

I’m trying to put my sister on game and also teach her about our hair and she just refuses to learn anything maybe one day when I have an alpha male and hair down my back she’ll want to listen

@Jackywitha_y

4 жыл бұрын

@Ashley Santiago I know the feeling. I had to cut off my best friend of 7 years. That was a few years ago now. But I still remember the feeling. It's so much better to get rid of the snakes though 🐍🙅🏽‍♀️

@fruitsarelife148

4 жыл бұрын

@@BrittinyKay yess

@jessicam0345

4 жыл бұрын

I stopped with the “putting people on”. So backfired me.

A the more reason why we are special. I love being the minority. Means we stand out

@Roses-Peonies

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Let the basic , masculine women fade into the background..feminine women are meant to stand out!

@nataliesuki

4 жыл бұрын

@@Roses-Peonies I feel. Like a diamond in the coal mine at the minute. Even tho I'm in quarantine I still get dressed up every day to go to the supermarket. I love this movement

@Roses-Peonies

4 жыл бұрын

@@nataliesuki I can definitely relate; all I see when I go to the store are bonnets, house slippers, and pajamas!

@stanfatou2002

4 жыл бұрын

ikr! When i dress up i stand out b of my afro and im very feminine

@daniellescott477

4 жыл бұрын

Yeeeessss

This is so true. I had a friend, tell me that I’m always over dressing because I wore heels everytime we went. She even went as far as calling me boogie because I try to use natural products on my body.

This is very true, I remember in college how much this masculine girl used to tease me for always dressing feminine and minding my business.

@lifelessonswithjo

4 жыл бұрын

r . o I had this happened to me at the workplace. But the crazy part is that they didn’t dress masculine.

@juanelawson9775

4 жыл бұрын

Women also talk too too too much.Part of being fenrmine is silent and not a know it all even tho you do .let me let you In on a secret most me love the unkown.

@tiabroughton2136

4 жыл бұрын

Girl same! They hated me in school 😳😂🤣

@majesticbyelg6398

4 жыл бұрын

Me too in highschool.jealous they all use to go and follow me.these wemon competitive and disgusting.

@lifelessonswithjo

4 жыл бұрын

Juane Lawson True but they saw me as stuck up though for staying to myself. All they talk about was going to the strip club. Criticizing one another or humiliating other people when they were in a group. Cursing every second or talking about tattoos, sex etc. I didn’t find those topics appealing so I stayed away. I did my job and was professional, kind and compassionate so they attacked me because of it.

Yesss ! This girl was on ig posting her money & flexing I told her be careful people are evil ...sis thought I was jealous of her 😂😩🤦🏽‍♀️

@Nekole1

4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like an insecure woman if you ask me.

@bluetsegaye

4 жыл бұрын

Jnia Gittens well she missed the best advice

@keikei1943

4 жыл бұрын

gyal thats some women for you when you trying to show give advice from a sister view

@genj6630

4 жыл бұрын

@@bluetsegaye Facts!

@Cookiedesigns254

4 жыл бұрын

She’s masculine for showing off her money like she’s a man 🤢

Ladies mastering self validation is key to moving in silence! once we become content with our OWN validation and opinion, moving in silence is light!

@tamarhope2767

Жыл бұрын

Most be FULL of self LOVE. ❤

This video is completely right! When you are truly invested, your family/ friends will get jealous. So ladies go to the gym, eat right, have other feminine friends

@Itsterrileeee

4 жыл бұрын

diana pierre pretty much 🥂💕✨

@aestheticchillvibes

4 жыл бұрын

On God 💯!!!! I stay in shape! And my own mom is comparing her young days to my size now..😒 its sad.... when black women compare themselves.

I always move in silence

@MissFeminine

4 жыл бұрын

ALWAYS 🥂

This is sooooo true. I told one of my friends I wanted to go to medical school and she said “girlllll I wouldn’t do that, that’s too many years of school”. People don’t always want you to do well or they’ll step on you so you can’t get there. Or I noticed we’ll be in a club and she’ll be watching me dance like in competition just weird af. Or she’ll smile in my face then post on Twitter about my hair or something stupid. Glad I got rid of her smh. I don’t believe in jealousy but that’s some snake shit.

I agree I’m a teen working on weight loss and I have a “friend” who is very toxic and masculine and when I would try to tell her about it she would ignore it all together and switch the subject . I decided to spend some time away from her for awhile because she’s always been jealous and harmful too me but I didn’t cut her off for some odd reason . But now I’m ready too because she’s just doing too much and it’s really draining me.

@miahlove1753

4 жыл бұрын

Imani Louverture fr tho sis I’m honestly down for that idea femininity needs to be learned and taught at earlier ages so us black women can flourish and stop the generational curses early on.

@sharonstanley9936

4 жыл бұрын

miah love mine is the same. I sent a positive video to her. She said idk how you watch those. I’m like what?! She’s the man in her non existent relationship. So sad. A male coworker even told her that. I had to start distancing myself. 😇

@thedivineone

4 жыл бұрын

miah love unfriend her sis

@LondonsLanding

4 жыл бұрын

miah love so proud of you! You’re doing well- working on your health and identifying toxicity now.

@Kat3369

4 жыл бұрын

Do it, girl....!

100% i cut off so many “friends” because of the jealousy and envy thing. Girl this is confirmation for me. Making the commitment to myself !!!!

Exactly. I'm always stressing the point that discretion is an essential tool for self and image protection. but it seems very hard these days to not show off knowingly.

Don't tell everyone what your doing. Stayed prayed up and elevated! It's literal witches out here in these streets waiting to put something negative on your life.

@ednaevans2025

4 жыл бұрын

So so True, and many can be Family n friends.

@ItsKalyn

4 жыл бұрын

@@ednaevans2025 Exactly, just because they family doesn't mean you have to sacrifice your peace for them. They'll catch on to them being toxic when you remove yourself or if not. Pray for them and keep it moving.

“There is wisdom in silence” I needed this. I was just telling myself that I needed to focus on consoling and confiding in myself.

Keep the videos coming do NOT stop literally it's new mom's like me who need this advice/motivaton

@KashJ7

4 жыл бұрын

👋 new mom also! 😁He's 2 months old. Congrats to u

@taelahharris7154

4 жыл бұрын

Mar 11:11 same ..

@duadua6011

4 жыл бұрын

Yaaaaaasss

@riaalmeida6228

4 жыл бұрын

YESS!!

@shenafrancis4260

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed .... I can definitely relate having kids make you neglect yourself in every possible way but I think that balance is key

I love being feminine

@ednaevans2025

4 жыл бұрын

Mee Too

Hi Miss Feminine. I'm 16 yrs old, and I love your channel so much. I've been taking notes since your first video. You are such an inspiration to me, I've learned so much and want to put what i learned into practice ❤️❤️❤️

@Cometalktome

4 жыл бұрын

Miracle Destiny smart girl. I also watch SheRaSeven1

@estherbioh8127

4 жыл бұрын

I’m 18 and feel the same way!

@taijamonae4666

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Me too you got this 💙

@TheMuseHerself_

4 жыл бұрын

@@taijamonae4666 💚

@3SKB

4 жыл бұрын

Also watch Inner Beauty TV by Nicole Michelle ❤️

Moving in silence is what I’ve BEEN doing. Not many people know that I’ve achieved or what I plan on achieving.

When she spoke on pregnancy... never for once posted about my first pregnancy until I was 6 days postpartum 😩...

@foreverdavy4851

4 жыл бұрын

No point to post about your pregnancy until AFTER you've given birth, period!😁😁

It's sad that as black women still don't congrat each other but will for others. I always let people know how beautiful and cute they outfit etc. Most I don't even know. You should see they face light up. I'm so glad that I'm on this journey. I love your channel and am a new sub, but can you talk about the proper undergarments, makeup, etc on femininity? I don't know if you have. Thanks love ❤

@madehoney5052

4 жыл бұрын

Meg Amor we have to be proud of each other and not intimidated

@tonjarichardson1983

4 жыл бұрын

I always compliment 😀

@elizabethwoods2853

4 жыл бұрын

Y0U THIS HELPS ME A L0T THIS LADY THAT LIVES IN MY APT BUIDING THIS WHIT SAID T0 ME T0 ME Y0U ARE REALLY GAINING WEIGHT I D0NT EVER TALK T0 LADY AT ALL SHE WAST CUTE DID T HAVE ON MAKE L00K KIND MANUESS ..I WAS WELL MADE UP I G0T S0 S0 DEPRESS AFTER SHE SAID THAT AND DIDT WANT T0 EAT L00K LIKE SHE C0ULD STAND T00 L0SE 25 P0UNDS HER SELF. S0 IWENT T0 MY GYM THAT SAME DAY G0T ON THE SCALE AND 101 POUNDS YES I DID GAIN 5 P0UND S0 WHAT WAS IT T0 HER RIGHT S0ME 0NE T0LD ME SHE WISHED SHE L00K LIKE ME S0 SHE WANTED ME T0 FEEL BAD GUESS WHAT I DID SHE W0N H0W SAD IS THAT S0 Y0U Y0U ALLWAYS HAVE STAND UP F0R THE WAY Y0U L00K T0 0THERE W0MEN Y0U SH0ULDT NEVER HAVE T0.

@tattooedxxheart7263

4 жыл бұрын

Melanin Queen does that include black American women?

@iwantthechisme1338

4 жыл бұрын

@@tattooedxxheart7263 yes why not?

I’m learning to move in silence as well. And it’s been benefitting me a lot. I didn’t tell people I was applying for dental assisting school until I actually got in 💓🦷 and I’ve been learning to be more private with my romantic life and my relationship has been healthy and flourishing. I’m growing closer to my partner too 🥰 ladies, there are people out there that will pray on your downfall! Keep your goals to yourself until you accomplish them! 💓 sending virtual love and peace everyone’s way!

@user-hq6gt6wr9k

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats and thanks for the inspiration!

@wowso4

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations darling, I’m usually a private person I learned to keep my life private I have a few toxic family members so I hate to over share.

I see a lot of comments saying "whats wrong with some women being masuline" Ladies there is a reason why you have female body parts and characteristics lol, it's simply because you are a woman. Feminity is not just about clothing it's a mindset. Sure wearing jeans and sneakers doesn't make you man, as these types of clothing is designed for women too. I think the point of these videos is refraining from masculine habits, characteristics, etc. Trust me the word "masculine" is not about choosing to wear sneakers over heels. So no as a woman being msculine isn't the way to go.

@JD-kq1he

4 жыл бұрын

ĴẴᵯilah ṦḤakir i understand what you are trying to convey. I agree! Although seeing as how flamboyant gay men when wanting to be feminine wear skirts, heels or flats, and dresses over sneakers and pants is an eye opener. They really flatter our female bodies and are designed too.

@gigijanae1460

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!💋 Femininity is a mindset and energy; not some debate about wearing sneakers or heels. Women were created differently from men. We embody an aura, an energy, a peace that men desire and will literally destroy entire empires over. Our energy changes and builds entire worlds. Now some women are naturally more masculine than feminine but most are masculine in behavior due to societal pressure and brainwashing. Most masculine women are bullies and usually embody the toxic forms of masculinity that are unhealthy much to their detriment. Women need to wake up and stop supporting a societal pressure that harms us more than help us.

@mndegrassi8

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly that's just the way some women are born. Like some people are born gay or lesbian. You're telling someone to change who they are in a sense. Not every female is going to have or should have feminine tendencies. This is all about choice and if it wroking for them and they are happy then that's all that matters. I don't think its for anyone to push feminity on someone simply because they were born with certain genetalia. Should I feel obligated to have children just because I was born with a womb? (The handmaids tale😅🙃) You're entitled to your opinion by all means. I just believe feminity is about choice and staying true to who you are.

@camillefaith2005

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah but not every woman is naturally feminine. Femininity is a mindset that you have to want to cultivate for yourself. Every woman is different. Women wouldn't be special and unique if we were all the same. ❤️

@camillefaith2005

4 жыл бұрын

@@mndegrassi8 I agree.

I think this also applies to other areas of life, particularly career.

@yeseniapacheco1164

4 жыл бұрын

Nyere Tube You’re right... I work as a medical assistant but I’m pursuing a nursing career. I feel like my co-workers secretly hate on me and a lot of them have distances themselves from me.

@Kat3369

4 жыл бұрын

Oof....I learned this the hard way. 🤦🏿‍♀️

Yes, this has alot to do with the low marriage rates amongst black women. It is intimidating to be masculine. You can still be successful and be feminine.

I realized this even applied to my MOTHER! Keeping quiet will prevent people from discouraging you. Move in silence ladies, and let the people around you notice instead of announcing it.

when i tell y'all this video came at the perfect time , i recently graduated from medical school and was supposed to move to London by march for my new job , i told people i thought were my friends .all my plans and when i say all my plans went to the bin.. biggest lesson i have ever learnt never tell anyone anything move in absolute silence.

I’m working on that moving in silence thing. Sometimes it’s hard bc I’m a KZreadr so I wanna tell a lot and be open. I’ll work on it though bc I wanna evolve during this journey. 💕

@itzbeline1651

3 жыл бұрын

Had to subscribe and support you❤️

The funny thing is for me I see more hate from dusty males from all races... When my male coworkers found out I was engaged. They had all negative issues to say about my engagement and my fiance. Even though they don't know him. FYI they themselves are unmarried and have baby mama drama.

@dolcesweet5173

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true. I found dusty males (and unfortunately black males; I am a black woman) threw a lot of shade, and made a lot of passive aggressive remarks. Mean while they are backed up on paying their child support and dealing with baby mama drama

@wowso4

4 жыл бұрын

Don’t worry about those dusty man darling they are hating because they are jealous your with a good man and they want you to be single and desperate so you will give them a chance. Don’t share anything with them about your relationship with these man it’s none of their business and try to only talk to them in a professional manner.

Your videos are the only ones on KZread I can repeatedly watch and still gain something from. I just feel like rewatching them solidifies the mindsets you describe, and I feel I have really leveled up during this quarantine. Thank you.

@mamibella4513

4 жыл бұрын

Olivia Blackmon I re watch these in the morning it gets me so ready for my day

I’m latina but I love your channel. My life experiences have made me cold and masculine but I knew that wasn’t me and now I’m on a journey to find my femininity and I found you! Keep doin what your doin

@NatalieBargas

4 жыл бұрын

Ziana V. Agree

@ednaevans2025

4 жыл бұрын

Life experience can do that.

@thevoicewithin123

4 жыл бұрын

Edna Evans Life definitely throws some crazy storms but the important thing is to experience it, learn from it, create your morals by deciding what is right for you, and letting everything from the past go. I was holding onto so much from my past and last night I forgave everyone from my past, but most importantly, I forgave myself. And then, I released. You should definitely work on it so that you can become your true self and shed all the layers thats kept you far apart from that person for so long. (sorry if this was long!)

I NEED TO LEARN THIS. Omg, I always tell my friends and fam everything I’m planning and all. No surprises nothing. I actually always seek validation. Need to change that.

@danatekhlay6304

3 жыл бұрын

yeah same I need to work on that😔I

After I was molested, that's when I scared to go back to my feminine ways. Men want you to be feminine but are quick to take it away from you as well.

@nousnous4361

4 жыл бұрын

Some men will try to take that from you whether you're a tomboy or Audrey Hepburn. Femininity doesn't necessarily make you more of a target. I think strength and self protection is part of femininity because feminine women prioritise self care. Maybe leaving some mystery in conversation and in the way you dress may make you seem less available and harder to be taken advantage of. Don't share too much personal info especially about sex or intimacy. Many men see that as a way in. Learning self defense techniques gave me an extra boost of confidence too.

I've spent alot my time trying to be "not like other girls" to the point I don't remember or understand how to be feminine. When I wear a dress I feel like im lying to myself. I hope I can get that confidence to feel feminine and more comfortable in my own skin. I'm proud to be a girl!

Now that I think about it my Gannie(Grandma) was super feminine. I’ve only seen her in pants maybe 3 or 4 times in my life and one of those was lounge pants. Always with her perfume, jewelry and her hair always done. She didn’t wear makeup or heels but people loved talking to her is was always someone coming up to us to talk to her about something. I’m definitely going to take her lessons to heart more❤️

I love all the beautiful women shown in the video. It's nice to see visual representations of the feminine woman I aspire to be. 😍💕

Can you make a video on how to deal with the aggressiveness, hate, and bullyjng of masculine women in environments you cant avoid like work.

@stephi6792

4 жыл бұрын

Who would even bully a beautiful woman like you? All jealousy.

@ednaevans2025

4 жыл бұрын

Cassandra Mack, does great youtube videos on that subject.

@yeahokay8229

4 жыл бұрын

I second Cassandra Mack I love her videos

I’m always moving in silence. That’s key! Even though I have a KZread channel I’m still VERY private. I remember my cousin made me get pink hair lol she said I’m boring omg. I cut her off anyways toxic af. Cheers to growing and glowing🥂💕✨

@MissFeminine

4 жыл бұрын

🥂

I agree with you. My mom been telling me to keep my business to myself. I’ve had friends say I didn’t know you bought a car or whatever. Also, I spoke to a Tarot card reader and she told me that some of my friends are jealous of me. That I need to keep my business to myself.

This was such great advice. I am a firm believer in moving in silence. I find that many peope are jealous of the black women who came from nothing and now are successful. Even when I dress professional going to work. I get so many nasty stares and looks. Its sickening. And black men are envious of put together black women. It can be a headache daily because we as black women deal with so much on a regular basis. That is why I keep people out of my business. As I get older and have been focused more on my feminine journey. I realize that so many black women walk around masculine. Its what so many of us have been accustomed to. Working and not taking care of ourselves. You always see women like this taking care of men not the other way arround. I have to remind myself daily as to why Im focusing on growing as a person. Society is a mess now. Black women are under so much scrunity. Do not entertain these foolish men who have nothing to offer you ladies. You have some men who look for women to take care of them.

People that I know have no idea that I am working on this glow up, except for you guys in the comments and in an online community that I am in but they don’t know me either. Those that know me in real life, have absolutely no idea. I am not even posting in my social media page. I am determined to have another glow up. I am working on both the mind and physicality. Haters will just have to deal. I am going to get there, little by little. I already know how people can attack you mentally, been through it since my upbringing. Working on becoming stoic and building healthier boundaries. I have had backhanded compliments, nasty stares etc and I used to let it get to me. I had women literally tell me they were jealous at my lowest which I didn’t understand. Now I get it....and I am not going to let them stop me. They will deal!

@cha_young

4 жыл бұрын

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Yes, I'm glad you're moving in silence! 2020 is definitely the year and best time to reinvent yourself! People don't realize that whatever you do this year sets the tone for the rest of this decade! Some people will come out of this quarantine the same way they were when this transitional period started. It would be uncivilized and a disservice to ourselves not to level up! You pretty much summed up how I feel! I have experienced the same type of backhanded comments and jealousy. I am nowhere close to where I want to be but I still receive hate from my own family and those that claim to be my friends. So I am determined to "Glow all the way up" !

@lifelessonswithjo

4 жыл бұрын

Cha Young Exactly! I am not panicking or complaining about what is going on. I am calm and level headed. Grateful that I am able to work from home. Taking this time to do a lot of self care and work on myself mentally. 2020 is definitely that year so either go hard or go home! And yes, my family set me up and were the first ones to reject me. After that I went through a lot but I made it. I am glad that I am not bitter or spiteful despite the pain. Haters will have to self destruct because they are not destroying me, that’s for sure. 🥂 Cheers girl!

I literally was raised by a feminine women and have been a feminine young lady all my life. I truly don’t understand how women are COMFORTABLE being masculine like it makes me cringe. Stop making life harder for yourself I BEG you 🥺.

@zaria_treasuress

3 жыл бұрын

If I have a daughter, you can bet that she’ll be a queen of queens

@jada7323

3 жыл бұрын

Ashea E as she should be !

When you move in silence people have nothing to destroy or used against you🤐 😎💅

I’m a Virgo moving in silence is my bible🙏🏾

"If you just keep your mouth shut" LMAO!!!!!!!!!

This is by far THEE MOST Important process of the feminine journey I believe. In my own experience, I have had women who tried to hinder my elevation, but they were FAR OUTNUMBERED by a countless number of men who tried to do just the same.

This is so true A few months ago b4 quarantine at school (im in college) I actively started changing little things to be more feminine. friends would talk about me for little things like flowers as my screensaver laughing that it’s too girly like leave me alone lol

@Jackywitha_y

4 жыл бұрын

Lol. Omg I have flowers on my eportfolio 😍.

@parrisjackson6215

4 жыл бұрын

Flowers smell good they there for hygiene to remember others to stay clean 😂 they put flower smell in men stuff too so

I agree . People will not like that you are moving up and elevating . That’s their problem not yours . Keep going up Queens ❤️

I’m dealing with a situation at home where I can’t explore my femininity 100% I can’t be myself 100% nor live in my truth 100% or even enjoy & take advantage of my Youth & can’t even enjoy my Level up Journey because everyone in my house which is females are masculine, judgmental, passive aggressive & love to gossip about my business behind my back & also believe w.e rumors they hear about me from haters from outside instead of coming to me & clearing it up, They especially hate when I let men help me especially Financially & spoil me ......especially my mother, so I can’t say anything to anyone in my house, I just stay in my room & pray, meditate, read, workout, yoga, sing, write, take selfies, saving up to move out ASAP & just keep working on my passions & goals....... anything to keep me Happy & sane....in this hell hole I suppose to call home

Now that I’ve watched the video. Facts throughout the video! I was already on a reinvention/self care journey before this quarantine & this ultimately pushed my feminine traits to the forefront. There wasn’t an announcement & I’m not blogging the journey & its been such a smooth one. I highly encourage everyone to keep their journey(any type of journey) to themselves. I’ve always done this and never had a problem with ppl or bad energy interfering with me.

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@blueturtle3846

4 жыл бұрын

😂

I love your channel and those alike. When I was younger, femininity wasn’t pushed as much when I was younger but it’s never too late. #QuietlyElevatingMyself

I have always been discreet and extremely reserved. Aspects my feminine aura speaks volume, in my opinion. Thank you for finally speaking about it

I always do my best to keep silent even though I'm plotting and gushing inside. There are people that smoke at you but so desperately want what you have and wish to ruin your joy ...I love the concept of pregnancy and protecting your efforts! I love this keep it real message as it validates what I know already ✨💯

I agree I learned to stop telling people I’m trying loose weight

Love your message! Moving in silence is the best thing to do. Because some people always love to criticise & even try to put a woman down if they see she is trying to succeed. That is why I want to be friends with women that are positive & want to level up. I would love to encourage & push eachother to become the best version of ourselves💕

@Nekole1

4 жыл бұрын

I am the same way. I prefer mature classy women to hang out. I cant do loud mouth women who talk down about every woman she comes into contact with. Thats exhausting.

There is wisdom in silence. I felt that on a 1000 levels

This is a key. I am so glad I brought the E-book I’m ready for this journey

@brownskinbeauty.

4 жыл бұрын

Did she add anything? It was basically the same info she gives in her videos, unless I'm missing something

@MJ-rz5yw

4 жыл бұрын

Brown Skin Beauty she’s highlighted how important it is moving in silence, especially on this feminine journey as not everyone is on our side

@brownskinbeauty.

4 жыл бұрын

@@MJ-rz5yw I was talking about her e-book, it's essentially the same info she made her first few videos on

I would like to say thank you. I have been on a feminine journey for the past few months. I stopped sharing as much with my friends now they have been saying constantly that they aren’t updated in my life and I’m mysterious. I’ve made moves without announcing them and the ones I have announced they didn’t believe I would actually make them. I am working on feminine mindset (attitude and self doubt) and a feminine wardrobe now. This journey has been lonely but I do feel as though it will be worth it. Your channel has been 1 that has flourished my femininity.

Preach sis! I have been down that road with those so called "friends" ...and I now move in silence.🙌 Live and you learn.

Moving in silence is GOLDEN💛 ...When I tried to have one conversation about femininity and Hypergamy, they had a whole bunch is rebuttals to claim why it WONT work. So I will remain Silent - The End ✨💫

It’s becoming hard on me 😩 everyday i try and keep up with my routine up everyday but i wasn’t raised like this so i beat myself up. These videos are so helpful.

thank you so much for creating this channel! never quit! never stop! you are inspiring so many young and even older black women across the world and you will continue to do so! you will continue to attract an audience that has been searching for this content for years! The universe, the most high will continue to bless you with abundance , wealth , and success! thank you. love this channel and will continue to support!!!! We must get intune with our feminine energy!

I’m glad that I am able to go on this journey with my best friend! I started my journey late last year after having an epiphany and then in January she had the same epiphany! Now we’re waiting for this quarantine to be (safely) over to update our wardrobe and get back on track. I’m using this time to get a skincare routine going and to lose some weight

Yes! Especially with losing weight. I haven’t told anyone because the last time I did I was constantly being asked to eat unhealthy food. Now I just let my results speak for themselves.

Ladies, this is so true. I also wanted to add that you cannot want better for someone if they do not want it for themselves. I have a friend I shared a lot of dating/life frustrations with. We are both in the same place in life. I have been learning so much and benefiting from what I’m learning I thought I would share it with her so that we can both better ourselves. However it has not been well received at all. I didn’t let it discourage me because well the proof is in the pudding but I realized this might be something I would have to go alone and hopefully the right friends will come along the way. Focus on your growth and be okay with being hidden for a while. When you emerge as a butterfly let them wonder how it happened but at that point you are flying to different heights to be brought down.

True. The enemies cannot destroy what they don’t know. Lay low and building in silence is the MOST POWERFUL thing you can do.

They keep telling me am so tall why l wear heels 😢😢 yes am tall am 5'11 but heels makes u look elegant

Thanks for this. I’m new to the channel and the journey. I’ve watched a few of your vids but this one right here?! I could put this on repeat and just be in a flow. I could listen to this every day for the rest of the year and just prep my mind for progress. Well said and very encouraging. Thank you! 🙌🏿

Yes!, notification squad! Thank you for this 🙏🏾❤️

This was a great topic, privacy is a major 🔑!

I’m so happy you posted this before i even thought about sharing with anyone. Thank you so much❤️

I absolutely needed this right now😭. My sister and I were just talking about this and I know I have a problem when it comes to keeping quiet. Thank you for your advice❤️

I FELT THIS in my soul! I needed to hear this..... thank you sister🙏🏾

Sis is BACK and CONSISTENT 👏🏾💞 Lemme sit down and enjoy this 🤗

I see Two Bahamian girls, love it! 🇧🇸💛

👸🏽BLACK WOMEN: JUST BE YOURSELF FROM DAY TO DAY👸🏽

This is so refreshing! Silence is golden ✨

This is my favorite femininity channel, your videos are the perfect length and I enjoy looking at all of the beautiful feminine women and listening to you speak. Thank you for this important reminder. 🌹❤️

I love your content, as a first time mum this stuff is really crucial for me as I'm trying to not let myself go and boost my confidence levels, your videos are helping me achieve that !

I will definitely argee with you. I am doing everything you stated. I been working out and trying to be the best version of me!!!!

Man this is so true. Keep your journey to yourself and level up! Many will not understand and that’s okay 👌🏾

I absolutely agree! Am learning, growing, and I am coming out the best version of me! Thank you!