I keep my bingey things out of the house. I’ll let myself go get it if I really want it, but usually the effort is enough to keep me home lol. Every once in a while, I’ll stock something I’d usually binge, just one, to see if it’s still a trigger food for me. If it is, I go back to the first tip. Over time, I’m able to keep more stuff at home but it’s definitely a process. 🙃 The mental gymnastics we all do is *wild* innit lol! I’m gonna go read comments to see what others do 😂

I think your phrase 'it worked until it didn't' sums it up for me. I can go for prolonged periods having biscuits, cakes etc in the house and just having a little every day, but then sometimes (always when stressed), I'll binge on them. Maybe having a lot of just one thing could work? I'm definitely not excluding them entirely though, as I know from experience that mental or physical restriction always ends up causing disordered eating.

@asd_ratio

16 күн бұрын

This means it is working actually until one day but then it is not ?

With your ideas and guidance, I have allowed all foods back into my life. I brought my binge foods back and have not binged in a year now. It has worked for me to have these foods available. It really does take the scarcity and "bad" label off the table. Strangely enough, I get anxious when the quantity of what is available gets low. I need to go out to replenish the supply. That scarcity feeling comes back. Must be my lifelong conditioning of not having enough, or not being allowed to have what I wanted that makes me feel anxious.

I like this. It's common sense, whereas most advice is very black & white. It is just as empowering to keep bikkies in the house that i love but get sick of quickly, as it is to accept I don't need to push myself to the mental & emotional limit by keeping cereal in the house, which is a food I get fixated on & ALWAYS eat to excess. I have adhd, so it's bad advice to tell me to surround myself with the foods I know I absolutely have no impulse control around. I can control whether I buy it in the first place though. I'm more likely to check in with myself at the supermarket in the cereal aisle than i am when I'm home with a whole box & hungry/emotional lol.

I love sweets and I enjoy cooking them. So my solution to the need to have them readily available is to only eat what I actually prepare myself. I have all the ingredients available and if I really want to consume sweets, I have to make them myself. I have realized over time that making smaller amounts at once is more enjoyable and easier to manage. After all, i can always make more. It is still a work in progress but each step towards the final goal is a winner.

Finding your book, videos and podcasts are very literally lifesaving! Thank you!

Hi, I've just recently found your channel after having a light-bulb moment in my own life!!! I can honestly say that everything you say is ticking so many boxes for me. Your advice is invaluable and I am learning so much. I shall be checking out your podcasts too. Thank you so much for your help on this challenging journey ❤😊

@juliemoore6957

6 ай бұрын

Ditto!

I know "the eat all to get rid of it" syndrome so I can be good the next day. Having goodies around all the time would not work for me. In addition my taste buds changed, thankfully, and I could not eat the almond slice I used to like now since I now find it sickingly sweet. I had to give up chocolate which I ate a lot of each day. Difficult? Yes but worth it in the long run.

Being able to keep bingefood in the house gives me back my sense of autonomy and freedom. I can choose. Even thought in the weekend often I loose myself. The weekends stay hard.

I like the analogy with drugs and alcohol: i.e., a recovering alcoholic shouldn't have alcohol at home. I CAN'T have hyperpalatable food in my house. When I am hungry, I intuitively eat whole foods until satiety. This is the only thing that has worked for me.

Mine triggered food: seeded bread toasted on crunchy peanut butter, sometimes I drizzle honey on top! I don’t buy seeded brown bread anymore. If there s white bread in the house for children I don’t eat it, I don’t like white bread. I will now and again have teaspoon of peanut butter but I won’t binge on that alone😂 Another one s Mcvites dark chocolate digestive biscuits! I don’t buy this food in the house if I could avoid it. 2weeks so far without binge eating and purging! Eating 3 meals a day helps to keep eating disorder at bay. So far so good! Dear God, please give me strength to fight food cravings urges , to stop overeating 🙏

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

8 ай бұрын

Interesting with the dark chocolate McVities… I used to binge on the milk chocolate caramel ones and so part of my easing in to habituating these was getting the dark chocolate ones in as I didn’t feel so out of control around those…

Thanks for another thought provoking video. I don't have a pattern - if the food is there I'll binge or maybe not binge... if it's not there, like you mentioned I'm okay until I'm not okay, then I go out intentionally to spend often £20 (which I can't afford) on a whole load of binge food and eat it all, starting when I sit in my car having just been in the supermarket. The thought of having some 'safer' options is a really interesting idea, and one I'm going to seriously consider.

Loved hearing that good regret can be part of a healthy relationship with food! Thanks for another great video 💜

I personally allow myself to eat comfort foods 1 to 2 times per week. I share what I bring with others. That has helped me so that I don’t deny permission to eat it, but I consciously buy food. I focus on self love and avoid to eat a bunch of things that aren’t so healthy for me.

Could you please talk about or interview someone going through ‘recovery’ from diet mentality that has diabetes? Diabetes is restrictive and it can be a struggle when you are trying to relax about food.

I think this has been one of your most useful videos (although I resonate a lot with all your videos) I have been reading the intuitive eating book (I have also read your back and love it) I find it stressful and it takes a lot of energy trying to decide whether to buy trigger foods to have around. I might try the idea of buying a lot of one item, as if I buy lots of different types of sweet foods, I just plough through them and find myself trying to use them up again, I want to allow myself just to have one thing, but I quickly find myself getting out of control … I think it’s the dopamine … I still struggle a lot with knowing how to have foods around without getting out of control around them, even now I’m thinking it won’t work having a lot as there never seems enough, I find myself thinking of ‘what next’ just as I’m finishing one item, thanks for reading my long comment

I'm finding this with the Little Debbie's Christmas Tree cakes. Idk if you have those in the UK but they are wildly popular in the US at Christmas. And the first box I ate pretty much all of it in 24 hours. But now I've had a box in the house for over a week and I'm not destroying them. I'm keeping them around so I don't feel the urgency to have all this special treat before it's gone. And it's really nice to have them in the house, know I have plenty, and not eat them all for the sake of eating them. They aren't calling to me from the kitchen like they normally do what I tell myself "ok, this is the last box of the season I'm getting". I never realized how much "last super " and scarcity mindset I had on foods even when not on a diet because I think in the back of my head I always knew another diet was inevitable.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

8 ай бұрын

We don’t have these, but they sound intriguing!! I’m glad you are having the experience of habituating them 😍😍

@lorriredmon8212

8 ай бұрын

We recently have brought those into the house for the holidays too. IDK if my tastes have changed or the recipe has but I'm finding I don't like them one bit where I used to love them. That doesn't mean I wouldn't binge on them or something like them just because I don't really like it, but for today, I have NO DESIRE to have them. I told my husband to "have at it". He can have them all, and that didn't trigger me either. I have a carton of chocolates that are for me when I do want something. It's just a beautiful thing to have these items in the house and not be called by them.

When I'm tired or stressed it feels like my brain get hacked. So I need a mile between me and binge food in order to get a grip or it's gone no matter how much i have in the house🤢.

Nothing has worked for me yet. I'm still figuring this out. Life in the last 3 years has become super dull and I think that I am eating compulsively to add some fun and enjoyment? Or is it for comfort? Not sure... Anyway, working on picking up some fun and interesting new hobbies to enrich my life!

@thinker646

8 ай бұрын

Me too. Definitely a boredom component to my eating

Excellent!❤ I find that if I have multiple foods that I love, it can easily become problematic. But, if I have a lot of one thing that I love, I can be calm and eat small amounts.

This was a really good video. Something I try to do which helps me enjoy fun food without feeling a need to binge on is. Making it a experience going out to a cafe picking out something I really want I go to a quiet park with my book and food and that's how I enjoy it. I found it works and because I'm outside in public I find I eat with more mindfulness then if I was to go buy a packet of chips and go back home and eat it all alone. I find it's nice sitting in nature aswell. 🍂

This really makes so much sense with my food issues. Thank you, again, for taking the time to help us!

Yaaaasss I've been waiting for this

I’m so grateful I found your channel! ❤

It doesn't work for me to keep them at home, it always ends in horrible binging. I just can't continue with this strategy, despite many therapists telling me to do so. Allowing myself to buy it when I want is a better strategy.

Sooo helpful Sarah, thank you x

I’ve just found you today Injustice love your honesty. Can you talk about replacing cigarettes with food and how to stop that habit. Thanks ❤

Thank you, that was really helpful!! I've been eyeing the Ben & Jerry's at the store but haven't been brave enough to keep a tub in the freezer yet. Maybe I'll give it a shot!

Awesome video. Thank you!

A really helpful, awesome video. Thank you very much❤

This was a really interesting video. I've never thought of this concept, but I'll give it a go and see if it works for me

Sooooo many things to say ! First, I froze when you said you were a police officer, I would have never supposed that ! But the idea of reactionnary gap is good...until the craving (for food, not towards a suspect !) is too strong. Sometimes I buy trigger food in big quantity (esp.for those who come from USA - I'm very picky about foods I crave), just for being reassured that I can have some whenever I want, so there's no point in demolishing 2 jars in a row. But sometimes I just want to grab a spoon, and bam, the whole jar is gone. I've also noticed that, since i don't buy some specific trigger foods anymore, I just don't want them anymore. And, even if I see them in store, they become neutral to me. The one-packaged foods (can't remember the english term, sorry) don't work for me : I love, really LOVE, some protein bars, and they're wrapped individually. But when the craving on those starts, it doesn't bother me to unwrap and eat 10 of them (and crying like a baby 3hrs later when the digestion process begins). For those particular foods, the things that works, particularly in summer, is to freeze them. It takes LONG to let them unfreeze naturally, and they taste like dog sh*t if I place them in the microwave. Haven't found a better solution yet ! ! Thank you Sarah for decrypting those foods 'situations' (as it's politically correct to say it those days) and giving us some very useful tips !

Every couple of years I try again to have a jar of peanutbutter in the cupboard, but it always ends with a spoon and a snack at a few thousand calories. Which gets my mood to subzero. ✌️

@TheBingeEatingTherapist

8 ай бұрын

Peanut butter seems to be a tricky food for a lot of people. What is it about the spreadables?!!

@WiseMindNutrition

8 ай бұрын

Super tricky for so many! We're thinking part of the reason might be because its so dense, it is easy to eat a large amount quickly without feeling any 'fuller', not to mention the combination of sugar/salt/fat that gives our brains the ultimate dopamine hit @@TheBingeEatingTherapist

Everything you have spoken about has been part of my own self reflections this week. The idea that my root causes are more complex than just being a restriction reaction. It’s convoluted and evolved, even after I have waded beyond the diet lifestyle. It is compulsive now, and the compulsions are strong when I am in conflict with myself, and in a fight or flight mode. Resist or submit. Twice in the last two weeks I decided to buy all of my binge foods to challenge my urges, knowing and acknowledging that I have no issues of sparsity, yet I felt compelled to eat it all, and eat it all I did by the end of the day.

@melitapavlinic7302

8 ай бұрын

Maybe you could go through a period of a food abstinence for 2-3 months just to give your brain a break from the dopamine hit and to break your habit. Pre-plan your meals and then eat problematic foods together with your main meals, so that they do not mess up with your blood sugar or as a seperate meal or when outside. There are different ways to go around this topic, I am talking from my own experience, what workss for me. It is not completely unrestricted free and intuitive eating that might work for some people better. What helped me was one time after a night shift where I wanted to have something sweet it to tell myself I can have that pastry but will come home first and have it with my breakfast. Allowing yourself something in a controlled way in the later parts of recovery took a lot of conflict away and the urges dimnished with the time

@idunnainnit

8 ай бұрын

@@melitapavlinic7302 thank you, I can appreciate the flow of thought behind that. A reset, before re-introduction. This is an option, or what I’m trying is to be smart about which foods I can safely keep in my space so I don’t end up restricting in a way that feels like my diet days, which make me salivate for food excessively on weekends or days where I’m in a mental state of relaxation. Also, fighting impulsivity is insanely hard as I live surrounded by supermarkets right outside my front door, not to forget crap easy fast food like McD and KFC and GDK. Honestly, worst location to live for someone with a complex ED.

you are helping me SO, SO much

I FIND MYSELF BINGE EATING WHEN , I HAVE THESE FOOD AVAILABLETHEREFORE I WILL NOT HAVE THEM SO EASILY AVAILABLE

great video. was such a surprise to know you were a police officer!

Once things are opened, its hard to not keep dipping in. I resort to giving my husband the chocolate or biscuits. He has weighed the same all our married life and never feels guilty about the foods he eats.

@catherinebiermann7940

6 ай бұрын

I have one of those as well. Eats whatever he wants and never gains weight. Sometimes it’s very frustrating.

If I had one box of anything sweet I love I would totally binge on it and my husband wouldn't allow me to get an abundance of any sweet as he is afraid I'll get even heavier 😢

Useful and interesting,as always. Thanks. When I've just started to binge eat, I was miserable and in the end talked to my relatives. We decided to restrict the binge foods in my ration. But it didn't help. Now I feel better about my relationship with food. We usually buy lots of food because we like it to be cheap and the discount shop is sailing optom things and it id far away. My lifehack is keep the food at home but ask my relatives to hide it. Some I leave to eat like a usual food. When it's gone,and I need more I have time to think if I need it or not. Then I may ask where it's hidden and eat. Well, it's a bit too much maybe,but I'm calm. Although,I often just hide part of the food by myself. So when I want this food I firstly think why I want it, isn't it extra or compulsive?

@nairanizamova6004

8 ай бұрын

I remember where the food is when I hide it,of course. But anyway I start acknowledging it may be too much

You like very happy 🎉

I really struggle with this! I bought cookies a while ago and had two left in the drawer for quite a while. Watching this video, I really wanted to (and did) eat them. I had no urge to eat them before the video and I think if I didn’t have them in the house, I wouldn’t have had an urge to go buy them. 🤪

ordered snacks I love online while watching this😅

Ive got a mess on my flooor and high cholesterol . Im an anorexic with Bed episodes mixed in im just buying the odd sweet treat at the shop. I had the news i might die and now ive had 4 binges. Im eating nothing during the day. Im anorexic and my consultant threatened me with drugs that will kill me. Its 4 am here. Why ahe punished me because i gained 2kg in a week like she asked. Because i was so scared for my life as ive a history of seizures and dont want the horrible side effects i stopped eating and lost the 2 kg plus more. Im now probably under 5 stone. I've requested a different consultant. Meds that will ruin my life shouldnt be the reward for gaining weight secondly i have history of debilitating epilepsy and those would bring it back. Id tried a snack box far away amd kept eating the entire thing.

So here's my question why not just live and eat or you want all the good food is supposed to be pleasurable that's why you want it so give in to it and enjoy it and not think about whether it's bad or good Just eat all you want anytime you want whatever you want that's what food is for why do people make it out to be such a bad thing when it's the best thing in the world

Can someone summarize the video for me ?

Tell that to my parents 😂

International friend here! 👋🫶 So grateful for this channel and your brilliant voice of reason (especially during the times when my own internal voice of reason has gone temporarily offline). I guess I tend to swing back and forth on the chaos/control pendulum. I started buying "binging foods" again within the last couple weeks. I didn't realize that I was using food as another way to punish or hurt myself. 😥 I practice mindfulness in other areas, but I'm newer to practicing around how I use food to nourish my body. Abstinence (from binging foods) seems safer to me, because I feel like I get so out of control when I give myself permission to eat certain foods. Then I began considering that maybe I'm not eating enough during the day (but only because your of your videos!) I do cardio 5 days/wk. during my lunch hour, and eat my lunch at my desk afterwards while I'm working. I didn't notice any significant weight loss. And since I spend so much more time sitting now that I work a desk job, I thought 1000 calories or less was totally legitimate. It didn't occur to me that the evening cravings and compulsions could actually be valid hunger.... Anyway, thank you holding space here, and for sharing all your amazing insights. Grateful for your guiding light on the journey.

you are helping me SO, SO much