This is so REAL!!! Im 31yrs old and I’ve just discovered ME…. I feel like sometimes we go through life finding enjoyment in the company of others or others interests and somehow forgetting to discover who we are and being really tuned into what we want, desire, and need. The greatest journey I’ve been on in life began when I turned 30 and I decided to learn to love me and learn WHO I AM.💕

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

I love your progress too sis!💕

Girl dont ever hold it in, you'll go crazy. Journaling morning and night to empty my head of the days drama has been a huge game changer for me. Literally just writing out my feelings helps me create solutions for problems and lets off alot steam if necessary.

"You can never depend on other people to make you happy" FACTS!!! I always tell my friends that because self love and appreciation is top tier. It's so much people out there that determine their worth by the opinions of others that I just find it so sad. Being that as it may, I'm happy that you are on this journey that you are on. P.S. YES to therapy!!! I know I told you before, that I'm proud of you for starting it, but I feel the need to tell you again (since you are being vulnerable). 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

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I love that you are finding yourself and being open to trying new things. You give me alot of hope. Thank you for being honest with us on your experience 💗

This was a GOOD video! Your perspective/advice was rational and real. Thanks so much for sharing your perspective....I would welcome more videos like this!

I have been watching you for a while. You are speaking the truth, and I can see your growth. I love that you are passing along some of your wisdom.

I love watching you're content especially the natural hair but I was so focused with this video it made me feel so much better as a young woman in her early twenties learning herself and experiencing so many different things and mental health is so important ❤️

SIS SPEAK ON IT!🗣 Im so proud of your level of awareness & growth. So many of the subjects you covered need to be talked about . This is a reallll conversation starter . Thank you for your vulnerability I love you more sis! Our relationship is heaven sent💞

The topic of solid friendships is EVERYTHINGGGGG!! I have definitely learned which friends are here and which ones are HERE (bc yes there’s a BIG difference). FACTS!!!! I love that you have that. This was such a good chit chat!! ❤ sending love your way!!

You Are so WISE beyond your years!!! I needed You to be my best friend when I was 27!!! 💖 But you weren't born yet. I'm 60 and I'm learning sooo much watching your Vlogs which I absolutely love!! 💖💖💖.

I love, love, love every topic that you spoke about in this video. I am soon to turn 60 years old and it took me to be in my 50's before I realized how to love myself completely and to stop being the go to girl for everyone. I love going on my solo dates and I actually do not wish to date anymore. There is nothing better than a peace of mind. Prayer and meditation is very good for your inner peace. I am looking forward to retirement and learning new things in my newest journey. Thank you so much Crystal for this juicy conversation and we are never to old for change. Much love to you beautiful lady and beautiful blessings to you. ❤🙏😊

Sis, I agree with everything you said…my 20s were a very big learning experience , it wasnt until I was 26 I started realizing external beings had a big impact on my life and feelings. I saw that I let alot of BS slide because I cared about people that really didnt match the same energy as I had. I literally went on a major self solitude journey because others definitely didnt have the heart I did. I learned what made me happy and what fed my soul. I had a friend that went to school in psychology and she helped me sooo much with understanding my feelings and what was happening around me. Im now 30 years old and sheessshhh I can truly see the growth in myself after removing myself from people and things that truly didnt serve the person I am. Im happy to see that your learning about yourself and what makes you happy. Thats what this life is about, we only have one, and make the most of it💜

Yes I agree NEVER SACRIFICE YOURSELF FOR ANOTHER PERSON 💯💯💯

This video was made for me. I took mental notes sis 💯

I was called selfish because I always put myself first. I've done everything that you can think of by myself and for myself. And all my family and friends thought it was insane. Now everyone wants to jump on the bandwagon with me and start putting themselves 1st, too. I'm so happy to see that! I've never been selfish, but I will always put my needs above what someone needs from me. I'm glad you're doing this in your 20s instead of your 40s like most of my friends. And I do have a good friend who I've known since we were infants. That's my sister and I have a closer relationship with her than my blood sister actually. Bio. sis has issues that she refuses to work on and I'm all about betterment of oneself. So I can't with her and the jealously. We had the same opportunities, so don't be mad at me for taking advantage of them and you didn't.

Really enjoyed this video crystal you dropped some gems for sure!! I am loving this new journey

Crys!!!! Sis, you are PREACHING in this video!!! I told you before that you are blessed but let me say it again: you are blessed!!!!

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Very much so! Thank you sis💕

I really needed to hear this, thank you for being real♥️.

I actually started doing solo dates and you’re so right, it’s a little awkward when you see people with friends/companions. But I pay it no mind and it’s really enjoyable. I love it. Like who else is better company than self?

Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Great things are in your future 😊❤️

Learning who YOU are and WHO'S you are is what makes life GIVE what it's supposed to be giving. Hope this finds whoever needs to hear it. 💖

Love that you were vulnerable with us!! 💕

Love this video! I'm also in my 20's and I've been doing a lot of these things and finding myself. Thank you for sharing this.

I really appreciate this chat thank you so much for all that you do sis❤.

I relate to this so much especially the part on having God in your life very early on. Thank you Crystal ♥️

GURLLLLLLLLLLLL (in your voice) This is the BEST hands down video u have done. I loved it. Made me think of was listening to my bestfriend.

You were definitely speaking facts in this video. Self discovery is highly important

Hii beauty im new to the gang but after seeing a couple videos im liking it over here! thank you for choosing to be vulnerable women our age need this type of talk especially concering our relationship with God as we learn ourslef! i commend u sis keep goingggggg you breaking generational curses !!

I am so proud of you and the journey you're on. Thanks for sharing and pure facts we can't do anything without Jehovah 🥰

I’m SOOO grateful and happy you made this video. You nailed all the thoughts I’ve been thinking lately pertaining to where I’m at in my life and the person I want to become and show up as. 💯🙏🏾 I recently just hit 30 and I still have trouble wondering what truly makes me happy, however, like you said, I’m doing the inner work and progressing every day and figuring it out one day at a time. Change doesn’t expire so why rush to have it all figured out by a certain time or age? 🤔 🤗💜💛🧡

Sis we need another sit down video! I enjoyed this chat chat so much. Definitely needed to hear some of the things you were saying 🤎.

Thank You again!!! Had to watch again ❤ Nuggets for sure 😊 We gotta takes notes.

Hey sis❤️, I barely comment but I wanted to say that I totally relate to you saying that you’re at your age now and know very little about yourself. I am going through something similar, all I do is hyper-consciously think about the way I am and try to fix it, and/or study/do some sort of work, to a point where I will burn out/become drained and when I do, I don’t know what to do to take a break. Pretty much I don’t know what I enjoy doing for fun or what my outlets are, which is part of me knowing very little about myself. I’m not even sure if that made any sense, but thank you for feeling comfortable enough to share everything you did in today’s video. I’m excited to continue to watch you grow and glow✨

@scortez99

Жыл бұрын

You’re not alone. I’m definitely going thru the same thing where I don’t have an outlet… so I get burnt out a lot. Trying to be more adventurous & step out my element or comfort zone to find things that bring me joy. It’s a journey, so good luck on yours.🖤

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

We will figure it out sis! Good thing is that we are aware and are putting in effort💕💕

Your strong I am living my life vicariously through you. Especially taking a trip alone

People only change for who they want to change for…PERIOD 💯

Sis I agree with you 100%! We need to have Jehovah in our lives!!! That’s a must! And yes! We need to destroy the stigma that’s surrounding mental health and therapy! It really helps! Tfs! 🤗❤

Sis! This Chit chat was everything, its a lot of women out here that are finally understanding the magnitude of self love and how good it feels. I’m also one of those women and learning to put me first has been a journey but it feels sooooo good! For me it started at 29 and I’ve been on the journey every since, creating boundaries, advocating for my self, asking for help and loving on me unapologetically. Nobody is going love you better than you can love yourself, period! Sending love and light to any woman who may be struggling to figure this out, give yourself grace and take it one day at a time. You are not alone, its a whole community out here, we just have to find each other❤❤❤

definitely recommend praying to God and Bible study when managing mental health!! and the point you made about therapy and other people helping us is so real! lol i’m happy we on the same page sis!

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

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OMG Crys! I watch you for several reasons... 1. Your hair content as I am a hair stylist and I love everything hair. 2. Your videos are amazing and full of great finds for home, hair, and fashion 3. Your contagious energy What I loved about this video is your honesty and transparency.... I just lost a friend and like you said I've given so much to the friendship by way of support, loyalty and being a confidant. So many people forget what being a friend is. I don't need you to buy me things I just need your loyalty! I need you to respect me as a friend as I do you. I'm hurt by this recent loss of this friend because I don't have many close friends. She was my closest. Now I'm going to take your advice and find myself .. by enjoying my own company. I'm over 40 but we too go through the same things. Hearing you say that you had great friends that were your support system through a difficult time. I don't have that😢 it is sad because I believe that women need a best girlfriend. Yes my sister and I are close but I miss my friend... The disrespect however was too much and happened in my home while my children were present! So for me to overlook the situation won't happen because the person doesn't feel they did anything wrong. That alone lets me know they are selfish and maybe a little envious. I said all this to say...thank you for this video I needed to hear this when my husband is working or out with his friends I'll do the things that makes me happy. Thanks Crys!

Braking generational curses that stops family blessings and stunts your growth as an individual.. I been telling some in the fam this fa years n I say it's guna b me to brake it cause my heart is so huge for my family and myself! We need the brake through n b who we all supposed to be! I loved this vid so much, I'm so happy for your self recognition,your growth n everything , flourish QUEEN n b safe on your trip! I cannot wait to do all these things alone! And with only who I want to do it with. Take control of our lives!

Seasonal depression also deals with the season changing. Lack of sun light and vitamin D can effect your mood significantly. brown people who genetically are used or accustomed to large amounts of sun. It does not have to deal with the holiday season.

Love this chit chat Crystal!! 🤗❤️

gurl youtube has been recommending all your videos from years ago and sis I can definitely see the growth. but also I learned so much. I saw ur twa and colored hair which made my jaw droppppp. I saw videos of you and your husband. (which I want to see more of I remember that last vlog he was in where he made the jungle juice. I died laughing) sis, I even learned about your religion which I ain't even know. And Ik u said u dont like doing q&a's cause u dont really like talking about yourself so ill be tuning in to your uploads regarding your journey to finding yourself. Seeing your old videos had me in awe. and some of the hairstyles u did? I most definitely will try recreating them.

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

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Love this sit down video. Your teeth looks so good.

I love everything about this video ❤❤

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Thank you sis💕

I enjoyed the video. Related so much to not feeling comfortable with depending on anyone. I'm currently on a journey to make new friends and change up my circle a bit. What I'm looking for in a friendship is essentially what u described between you and your friend. I want like-minded friends. in the sense that I want to help each other grow closer to God, I want very goal-driven friends. I'm trying to transition from having friends who like to go out and party and think yolo into friends who want are seeking meaning and purpose in life. But its so difficult obtaining that especially as school and everything is online.

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

💕💕you got this sis

I’m glad you are finding yourself. Life is like a lightbulb and I tell everyone in their 20s your lightbulb just flickers until you hit 26, then that lightbulb stay on lol. I’m 56 and I learned that the hard way. Never make big decisions that will affect your life forever. Examples marriage, family, friendships, these three are the most important things in a persons life. We all want to be happy but like the Bible says happy are those conscious of their spiritual needs. Material things will not bring happiness, but our relationship with Jehovah will, and friendships with his organization will give you true friends and peace of mind. Never underestimate Jehovah, the Bible and our Christian brotherhood. 😊and seasonal depression I feel what helps is doing for others their is more happiness in giving then receiving and when you give of yourself it helps not to dwell on your seasonal depression to were you’re not feeling it because you’re keeping yourself busy on others😊.

Great video my beautiful sister and I hope you have many more blessings to come 🙏 ❤️

Omg this was so good!

Happy (belated) birthday!! 🥳🥂🎉🥳🥂🎉

You look so good sis💕

"Generational curse" - that is such a fitting term girl, preach! Really appreciate that point, what you discussed about true friendship and the point about needing Jehovah. You ain't ever lie. Really enjoyed this chit chat!

Hey sis I was off You tube for a bit and I didn’t know what happened in your personal life. I wish you all the self love on your journey. I’m still learning self love @60 I come 1st. Therapy and God works for me 💐 I learned to dine,shop by myself I haven’t tried traveling solo yet. Ashe

U so beautiful sis 🥰🥰🥰.just learnt alot.Thank u❤️❤️

I've heard that liking pictures especially several pics of the same person and they do the means both parties are interested and the next step is for one person to start DMing.

ikdr. i just saw ur photos from the solo trip on insta and gurl they are BEAUTIFULLLLLL. you are radiatingg. If yall are not following crys on insta what are you even doing?🙃 Regarding generational curses and giving back thank you so much for touching on this cause we have the power to change things up and make it get better. break the curses, heal from trauma etc.

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Period! Thank you sis💕

When i hear anyone in our community going to therapy it makes my heart smiling ❤😊

Love the hair!

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 💕

LOVE YOURSELF AND BE YOUR TRUE SELF 💯🧡🙏🏾✌🏾

Loved all the talking points and top tip, creating and cultivating a strong relationship with Christ is key! He’s going to be the beginning of all wisdom concerning our lives! Yes to all the skin products!

Love the thumbnail! ❤️

Yay another Vlog i’m going to be watching ❤❤❤❤ girl my pain from my wisdom tooth pain is coming back again😢😢 Pray for me girl

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Whew I hope you feel better sis!

@blackqueen2451

Жыл бұрын

@@CurlieCrys oh I do girl I feel better

Yes 💯 my sister! We need Jehovah, glad to know you’re my sister, I’m here for you dear. Love you dear😘❤️❤️

Hello crystal. I really enjoyed your content.❤

I just turned 31 in Sept. & my "skincare routine" for my whole teen & adult life was 👉🏽 using rubbing alcohol on cotton balls to "clean" my face then coco butter to moisturize it afterwards & i would do that every morning while getting ready & every night before bed & THAT WAS IT ! 😩 i didn't know where to begin to even try to start a routine since i didn't know much abt toners, serums or masks so i got that 3 step kit from Fenty as my starter to help me get into a legit routine until i find something better lol My goal as i get older is to take better care of my skin so i highkey be takin notes on some of the products you be using so thank you for that 👀📝✔

@Stopthehate206

Жыл бұрын

Girl this me right now 😭

@Mellz4ya

Жыл бұрын

@@Stopthehate206 i still be in the skincare aisle looking at all the different products lost as hell sometimes ready to cry cause idk which item would be best for me like smh lol we're gonna get through this though stay strong 💪🏽😂

I enjoyed hearing that you know Jehovah, what a blessing. ♥️

I just turned 30! and She's already here! I found her and she found me. No better love for myself and my daughter! xoxo 🛍💕🥂

Great video! You were speaking truth. I feel I hold things in also and I’m learning to not do that. Also yes Jehovah is essential and I love the Cote de Roses rosè 🥳

Hey love 💕 the video. Really made me think about my own self. I definitely need to put myself first more. Also how did you find your therapist?

Video ideas: -WWCD -Chit Chats -Girl’s Night In (Subscriber edition-you bring on a subscriber live in your video) -DIY projects -Content BTS Day (editing, setting up, apps you use, reasoning behind your captions, picking out outfits, etc) -Amazon Hauls -Cook With Me 😍💛🍁🔥🍂🧡

Heyy Crystal! Love the video, I definitely can relate.. We both have similarities in our religion and how we were raised.. and just know girl, when you put Jehovah first you don’t have to worry about anything else, he is the almighty. Everyday Is a journey and I’m also getting to know a lot about myself in in my late 20’s, and this book by Judge Lynn Toler, called Dear Sonali; Letters to the daughter I never had. Girlll that will change your lifeee I sincerely grown from reading that book and I’m such a different person. Please look that up and I promise you will not regret it. Can’t wait for another video ❤

@kraziikiim

Жыл бұрын

I love judge Lynn toler so I’ll have to look that book up🥹

@Brwniee95

Жыл бұрын

I’m have to cop that book sis 🥰 thank you for sharing

Speaking of masks, I just got this trial size of fresh, floral recovery calming mask and I think you will love it. It's for even tone and texture and just... Wow. Edit: it's at Sephora 🙂🙂

My PSA for the day...... "Don't make them a priority, while allowing yourself to be an option"

@Doctormycurls

Жыл бұрын

Whew a WORD!!! ❤

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

A word!

Love how you are learning to enjoy YOUR life! Side note...did I miss something? I thought you got married? My apologies if I missed something cuz i do watch the vlogs, I just didn't recall you mentioning the mister.

@tanini_locd

Жыл бұрын

Omg I completely forgot she was married 😲

I love that wine!

Yes I was raised in the same type of household and same religion I completely understand

💚💚💚💚💚love love love the video

Don't know why, but the rant about guys liking posts made me 😂😂.

Your preaching now sister

Are you doing mat Pilates or Pilates with the reformer? If you have not tried the reformer, try it!

We are the same age sis. I went to Ghana, Africa by myself for 26 days last year . My parents thought I was crazy , and yes I have a bf but he wasn’t financially ready to travel with me . I still went because, no ma’am I can’t wait on nobody to travel with me .

I enjoyed your video a lot

Girl you’ve been my therapist this morning

Hii Curlie Cyrs I understand what you are saying I have a friend like that from school days,also I thought you was older you have some wisdom and I respect that I do that most of the time and my husband tell me about it and I get that and I need help too

I'm about to turn 37 in November and I'm currently in therapy trying to find myself.

It's important to date yourself.

Sis was lit 😜😂

People need people

Hey girl, Happy 11th Day of Vlogtober

How are you liking your new Aroma360 diffuser? Does the scent last throughout your home? I tried to find it on Amazon but was unsuccessful. I can’t find “The Hotel Collection” one you purchased. 😢👀

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Omg I LOVEEEE it!! The my way scent is amazing

Wait....huh? Hey Crys 🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️ This title though 👀👀👀 Happy Tuesday (I'm loving all of the uploads) 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

Thank you sis 💕

Amen sister Jahova is the 🔑 keys to the kingdom

Me too Cry’s I love doing for others I won’t comment anymore on that note

I relate to your girl when it comes to that stuff I watch his actions i’ll be telling my exes boy bye 👋🏽

I'm part way through the video and all I'm wondering is...... Where is your husband? Shouldn't he be someone you can lean on? You always seem like you are going through stuff alone. Am I missing something here?

@dezzyb333

Жыл бұрын

@J J yea I noticed no ring as well...

@Janice.69

Жыл бұрын

I been wondering too! And on her IG I don't see any pictures with him anymore. I hope everything is okay. She hasn't mentioned him in a long time. I been watching all her blogs

@cynthiaporter7179

Жыл бұрын

I see that I'm not the only one that has acknowledge that there's no mention of the hubby. However, in another one of her vlogs when she's finally revealing nd receiving her dream car nd decorating her new apartment. So I pray all is well as u continue on your personal journey of finding your true self. God Bless🙏❤🌹

@Janice.69

Жыл бұрын

@@cynthiaporter7179 I'm surprised no one else has asked , but yeah definitely hasn't mentioned or showed him since they went to Disneyland in the summer

@toniadams945

Жыл бұрын

I thought perhaps I missed something, so I’ve been view previous vlogs to see when the ring came off.

Cry crew and I’m loving all the uploads

Amen sister amen I pray to God for everything especially protection

About black people ( specifically women) and pilates imma need y’all to look up Kathy Stanford Grant who studied under the inventor Joseph Pilates. Shes credited with popularizing Pilates and was so good there’s an actual Pilates program named after her.

@CurlieCrys

Жыл бұрын

💕💕💕

Thank you

Girl I’m trying my best not to laugh 😂 😂