Dear Wendy, please don't be offended by the staring. We stare - period. Not only at black persons. Many foreigners experience the "german stare", no matter the skin color.

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Hi Peter, I am not offended…not even a bit. I love Germany regardless

@koastin-117-jz8eu

15 күн бұрын

That's the reason we are talking about it. You Germans need to grow up and STOP staring at people with black skin. Why are you staring at other people anyway? This is not the stone age. Don't look at us, just focus on what you are doing and mind your own business like everyone else in the country. smh

We used to stay in a smaller city with very few black people. Initially, i used to be conscious, but i got used to it over time. Regarding being curious about our hair type, i can completely relate to that. I had a lady walk up to me in the mall once to ask if my hair was natural and how long it took me to braid my hair (i had extensions on), and i explained to her that it wasn't actually my natural hair and that since i braid my hair myself, it takes a little longer than normal. She appreciated the explanation and went ahead and told me that she's met a few black people who weren't so nice or patient to explain how it works but that she understands and is genuinely curious. I used to tell myself that i was doing them a favour seeing my natural hair out. Lol.

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I guess the challenges of living abroad never ends, one can only get used to them. And it’s so nice of you to explain to the lady because I also know some of them are just genuinely curious.

@wora1111

2 ай бұрын

Most of the people I know use the combination of facial features and hair style to identify the people they know. If you change the style you wear your hair even your friends may not recognize you on the street (happened to me with my first perm). Wigs or extensions are not very common as accessories but rather used to cover missing hair (by Europeans).

@wendyazubuike

Ай бұрын

@@wora1111That’s right…the questions and comments about the hair has a lot to do with changes in facial features and appearance which is very understandable

Another one! Keep doing what you know how to do girl 🥰🥰🥰

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much darling 💞💞

It's the staring back at them for me 😂😂😂😂😂

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Yess oo…a staring contest 😅😅

My girl doing her thinggg, hey girllllll❤❤

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Yesss girrllll💃🏼💃🏼

They stare because most of them haven’t been out of their zone before. They haven’t seen your skin color before and are amazed or even love it and are shy to say it. Thats it .

@wendyazubuike

Ай бұрын

I totally understand that it’s out of curiosity for most of them, which is nothing bad But one can be curious whilst keeping the other person’s feelings in mind, because it’s usually embarrassing when you’re being stared at.😀

@lyamorian767

3 күн бұрын

of course they´ve seen black skin before. Germany is not lying under a rock.

I just came across your channel. I like the video quality.

@wendyazubuike

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@DAKSPALM

Ай бұрын

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Wendy darling😊😊 this is good! I love this part of youuu😅

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Awww…thank you so much darling❤️

A1, A2, B1, B2-the only black in the class. Just dominate them with your hardwork and you will be liked. That's what I am busy doing.

@BoatemaaPapabi

Ай бұрын

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Thank you for sharing your experiences! To me it’s always interesting to see how people from other countries feel in Germany. Staring: yes, we do stare. But most of the time it’s not malicious, but curiosity and/or admiration. Shock at seeing you in a university setting: wouldn’t happen to me, because most black adults I met in my life (childhood and as an adult) were doctors or teachers. 🤷‍♀️ Questions: yes, we are curious and changing your hair changes the way you look a lot. And don’t forget many Germans do not spend a lot of time to do their hair.

@wendyazubuike

12 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective! Yes, I understand that a lot of times it could be out of curiosity and admiration…at least for some people. But we can also agree that curiosity is different from being rude. I think one can be curious whilst keeping the other person‘s feelings in mind.

Hello Wendy, They’re not staring at you, they are looking at you - because people are, in general, interesting to look at, and in Germany it’s done honestly and openly. It’s also called people-watching. And in your case, you are also very good-looking. I do find that many Germans forget to smile when they people-watch. ;-) (I acknowledge that there are some people who might actually be staring.) The reason that people ask where you came from is that they are honestly interested in you. People ask me that also, often because they still hear some accent, when I speak, even after living in Germany for 18 years and speaking German for 30 years. I’m glad that you feel so safe in Germany. I also feel safe here and it is one of the things I like the most about living here.

@wendyazubuike

3 күн бұрын

Thank you so much! Germany is an amazing country, and I’ve had great experiences as well living here…and that’s why I’m still here.

The video was very interesting

@wendyazubuike

Ай бұрын

Thank you for watching!

i enyoyed the video, 100% true about being black in Germany, well somehow you get used to it, use the good stuff to make up for the awkwardness lol😂and yes the safety and security in Germany (not 100% perfect though) is applaudable

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Awww…I’m so glad you enjoyed this💞💞 Absolutely, we definitely have to use the good stuff to make up😄😄 because Germany is still a great country to live in

Being the only black person has become normal for me. One just have to bear it in mind. And for the staring, stare back at them 😂😂😂 For the hair stuff, I asked them to get use to me having different new styles😅. I also feel very safe in 🇩🇪. Great video Wendy!! You are doing wonderful 🎉🎉

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

I guess these are the challenges of living abroad. And what would life be without its challenges and leaving our comfort zones?😅😅 Thank you so much dear, for your comment and sharing your experience❤️❤️

@BoatemaaPapabi

Ай бұрын

😂

First: Welcome to Germany. And staring, that's normal for Germans. I hope you will have a nice time.

@wendyazubuike

16 күн бұрын

Thanks a lot!😃

Wow

As a German, I can say, we often don't even notice that we stare. At least I don't. I am always caught by foreign friends, who tell me: Stop staring? And I regularly say: "Did I stare? I was just looking around?" I think it is a different perception of privacy. If you are at a common space you are fair game to be looked at in Germany. Wich I realize can be kind of nervewrecking for other cultures. But again, I wouldn't even notice it, if I hadn't friends from other countries. And to be honest in my expirience we also stare at other germans, no matter the skin colour. When I lived in the city I had staring contests 2 times a day in the tram.^^

@wendyazubuike

3 күн бұрын

Thank you so much! I have also had a lot more positive experiences living in Germany. And yeah, I only got to know about the stares being harmless and just out of curiosity since I made this video…lol

Which city were you residing as a student? Cause in berlin, i didn't experience such stares.

@wendyazubuike

19 күн бұрын

I lived in Freiburg (south western Germany) as a student, and I have friends in different cities in Germany with similar experiences as well. Berlin probably has more immigrants in it, as you’ll see in any capital city. I‘m pretty sure you‘ll have a different experience if you move to a different city.

Being stared at means you do not look like everybody else. That will happen to the girl in the boy's soccer team, the guy with tattoes all over his face, the new student in class or the guy in the wheelchair, simply because they do not fit the pattern. But this wears off quickly, and other attributes gain importance for referring to a person.

@blairsantillana

16 күн бұрын

It’s still rude.

@koastin-117-jz8eu

15 күн бұрын

Just to clarify, Germans do not stare at people, they are simply rude. People need to stop trying to insult the intelligence of everyone else on this earth with the nonsense "We just stare, it's in us", or "If you are different people will look at you strange". This is 2024!! Are there no black skinned Germans? So why is it all of a sudden so strange to see another black person - oh I know why, the other black person's skin and body features look like they are African. So in 2024 you have never seen an African in your life? These people are waking up at 04:00 to catch a bus or train to sit for hours to come to your workplaces and service points to clean out the trash, to arrange the furniture for the day, to support you in your bakeries, to clean up your toilets, you don't pay them enough and still you find the time to stare at them like they are non human and talk down on them and gossip about them at your spare time. Please show black skinned people the respect they deserve or atleast half the love you show for your dogs and cats.

@jennyh4025

13 күн бұрын

@@blairsantillananot for Germans. In Germany there‘s staring out of curiosity and/or admiration and staring. One can usually see the difference and it’s the first most of the time.

@chrisrudolf9839

12 күн бұрын

@@jennyh4025 I'd say it's LESS rude for Germans, because in Germany it is customary to make eye contact a lot (during conversations), more so than in many other cultures, and it is generally not considered rude to look at people when you are in a public space. However, prolongued staring at strangers is still considered bad manners also in Germany. Many who do it probably aren't intentionally rude, they just have a look and if they see something unusual on a person, they get distracted and don't realized that they have stared at that one person way longer than it would still be appropriate.

you are doing well, you can actually make a good Tv presenter

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Awww 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼 Thank you so much sis💞💞

Quick question do they take offense when you stare back at them tooo? #nonsmilingstare

@wendyazubuike

29 күн бұрын

Hahahah I can‘t tell if they take offense…but I know they usually get embarrassed and uncomfortable, and then look away😅

@chrisrudolf9839

12 күн бұрын

@@wendyazubuike As a German, I'd say most of them don't take offense, but rather first find it odd, wonder why you stare at them, then they realize that they had been staring at you long enough to make it feel creepy and are emberassed about it.

Let’s be clear, do you mean east or west Germany ?

@wendyazubuike

2 ай бұрын

Hi Chris, I‘ve lived in Southern Germany for a couple of years and currently live in the Northern Germany… and this happened to be my experiences so far