Before Therapy: Hack Your Mind to Heal, Succeed

There is a lot you can do before you resort to therapy. Your mind is a hackable device.
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  • @MrHDProd
    @MrHDProdАй бұрын

    All this knowledge and it’s for free. Thank you 🙏

  • @JC-mv7hf
    @JC-mv7hf29 күн бұрын

    I got 15 hacks not 20 - anyone can compare to the list? 1. Disempower memories (they are your construct) 2. Control your body, use it to control mind, to heal traumas - do get rid of trauma by using body as trauma is based in the body as much as brain (Social rejection - trauma (=physical assault) = body reacts the same as to physical pain ) 3. When you need to be rational use your second language (it forces you to be unemotional) not mother-tongue as is link to your feeling and unconsciousness 4. When you feel you are great, superior, treat is as a red flag as it might be a sign of overestimation (danny kruger effect) - grandiosity is counter-factual and people might use it to exploit you 5. Avoid music combined with other activities - it can loft or lover your mood and impacts the way we process information/ distort reality and decision skills (perceptual expectations - your brain is adapting to what you are listening it expects visually the same so brain might mislead you) - be careful and make time to be listening to music when you need to be rational, logic, decisions, choices, cope with demands 6. Sing as if reduces anxiety and depression - hearing own voice releases endorfins and ontoxicine - kortizol and … at bay. 7. Monitor your anxiety and depression and use hacks!/ Negativity is genetic (science) - negative passive - aggressive component/ reaction to stimuli- and is linked to anxiety, but anxiety is not genetic - now students as anxious as patients in the 50s, 4x more - reason is more stress. Anxiety is stress linked. 8. Be sarcastic - Sarcasm - sign of intelligence and being sarcastic makes you smarter, improves health of your brain, requires understanding, changing perspective, generate humour (creativity, abstractive thinking) 9. Sunlight - exposure 10min per day - prevents mood disorders by producing vitamin d which stabilises mood (lack promotes depression and disturbs the mood (seasonas depression)) 10. Dopamine- self deny yourself pleasures/ have self-discipline 4-4 times per day o regain control and reactions - to reduce cravings - repetitive behaviours giving pleasure cause dopamine burst and addiction to the behaviours and you require more and more 11. Sleep - no more or less than 8 hours 12. Time - to read faster and understand more read long texts, books 13. Body follows mind and vice versa - when you experience problems focus on what is worse, the other will follow 14. Self love self acceptance self trust be your best friend and consult yourself when you get problems - only if you cannot help yourself jump to therapy 15. Do work on yourself before you go to therapy - all resources are in yourself

  • @bellakrinkle9381

    @bellakrinkle9381

    6 күн бұрын

    I wonder in which language Sam dreams and if he analyzes them. 😁

  • @LostSoulSearching
    @LostSoulSearchingАй бұрын

    I genuinely appreciate you helping us...helping me.

  • @SELPHELPING
    @SELPHELPINGАй бұрын

    I have never seen a genius so good at their craft that they literally own it. Hats off to you Professor Vaknin. It just keeps getting better.

  • @maryvera123
    @maryvera123Ай бұрын

    Professor Vaknin is at it again! Sharing his knowledge to help us attain serenity and peace of mind.

  • @JC-mv7hf
    @JC-mv7hfАй бұрын

    This video is my new Bible

  • Ай бұрын

    please don't say that, becoming a sister/nun saved me from suicide. we need god back into this barren world, I'm willing to do my sacrifice after nursing school. pray even if you feel nothing.

  • @elinaselene
    @elinaseleneАй бұрын

    So much needed to hear this today as I'm decluttering my mind and body after a narcissistic relationship. I don't want to go to the first self styled expert claiming to heal me, instead I want to reclaim myself in the most intuitive way my mind and body can guide me. The hack on sleep and sunlight I needed to hear although knowing these are the first things I need to start with to get healthy again. Thank you Sam.

  • @vivasurvivor
    @vivasurvivorАй бұрын

    Revolutionary topic 🤯 @Prof. Sam Vaknin 🏆 Thank you for these mental hacks. Pure genius!

  • @TheDaoOfRescue
    @TheDaoOfRescueАй бұрын

    I like the point about treating psychological pain using the body. I will write an article about this and send it to ya. Acupuncture has been used as a form of psychological therapy for thousands of years; but the western sciences are just catching up. So it’s good to know the west is finally bridging the gap and figuring out that the acupuncture points are what is holding the trauma in different points of the body.

  • @minor12828

    @minor12828

    Ай бұрын

    Very intersting. I though it was more about stress relief.

  • @TheDaoOfRescue

    @TheDaoOfRescue

    Ай бұрын

    @@minor12828 much deeper than that. Sadly most of the high level practitioners were whacked during the communist revolution so most don’t get that type of training anymore. It’s kind of a shell of its former self so to speak. But still moderately helpful in its lower level forms.

  • @katharinaleitner2763
    @katharinaleitner2763Ай бұрын

    The first hack about memory is about being aware of reconsolidation? I concluded

  • @allannielsen5308
    @allannielsen5308Ай бұрын

    Der Sam Vaknin, thank you for telling the very essential and fundamental truth, but it requires something more then just what we can read in BOOKS, my deeo respect and deep gratitude for you effort and unique work. Sincerly 🙏🏼

  • @SELPHELPING
    @SELPHELPINGАй бұрын

    My parents were never invested in all three children. They were emotionally absent and believed that love means clothing educating refusing conversations with opposite gender etc. Sam. You are round about my mother’s age. I look upto you as a parent. As a guiding light. The one I could go to for to seek answers. Thank you for being present in this era.

  • @phinton314
    @phinton314Ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! You are changing lives for the best!

  • @debraparker6404
    @debraparker6404Ай бұрын

    I do wake about 3:00 am and have blood sugar history. But not diabetic yet. Thank you for your information.

  • @monyrachan8568
    @monyrachan8568Ай бұрын

    I love the topic of today that you share with us Pro. Sam !

  • @samueleriksson9535
    @samueleriksson9535Ай бұрын

    I have trained myself to be as unaffected by music as I want. It was not my goal and I did not know it was possible to do so. It slowly happened when I started listening to a large variety of music on shuffle, then forcing myself to not switch song because I was in a certain mood from the last song. Then I started to take the moods induced from the music less seriously.

  • @prince13x
    @prince13xАй бұрын

    Could anxiety/depression not be increasing, but instead the acceptable range of emotional expression is becoming more narrow? As our views on beauty becomes more narrow, more people identify/are identified as “ugly”/insufficient. Couldn’t the same be happening with mental illness?

  • @bernadettemcmaster4560

    @bernadettemcmaster4560

    Ай бұрын

    My Gosh, Thank You!

  • @Rev_Oir
    @Rev_Oir28 күн бұрын

    After nine years of beatings and "accidental" poisonings, followed by decades of gaslighting by my family, I have been diagnosed with CPTSD. Thanks for helping me put their abuse into perspective, Sam.

  • @Serenissima5969
    @Serenissima5969Ай бұрын

    Omg..this is the most modern advice for mental health I ever heard!!!! Thank you so much for your astonishing talk!! People like you,Mr.Vaknin,help humanity evolve out of the dark ages/ Middle Ages! of therapeutic treatment of the human mind and soul..it is so needed!!!! Your a light in the darkness and hope for the better to come!!! Stay as you are,so conscious..so truthful..so open minded ..so not anxious of sharing all your wisdom!!!! Everything you talk about is enormous! helpful!!!! Thank you so much from the depth of my heart ❤️ I

  • @debraparker6404
    @debraparker6404Ай бұрын

    That’s good to hear about sarcasm. LOL I love sarcasm!

  • @whygohome172
    @whygohome172Ай бұрын

    Some people have discovered the healing power of fasting!

  • @greglee4897
    @greglee4897Ай бұрын

    Thank you for making this video it was very helpful

  • @ChrisKnight-ow3ix
    @ChrisKnight-ow3ixАй бұрын

    This is so helpful. The stuff about the brain reacting to emotional traumas the same as physical trauma, helps me understand a lot of things. Like, why I need to walk for at least an hour daily to be able to sleep st night; why a hot bath is so soothing when distressed & maybe why addiction to opioids- strong physical pain killers-is so common amongst emotional trauma sufferers. Thanks for the content that is always specific& substantive- not like all the vague & unsatisfying waffle that abounds.

  • @Deiacatlover
    @DeiacatloverАй бұрын

    Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @Olca88
    @Olca88Ай бұрын

    Thank u..

  • @debraparker6404
    @debraparker6404Ай бұрын

    I sing while I drive.

  • @JC-mv7hf
    @JC-mv7hfАй бұрын

    I do buy time by outsourcing things other can do.

  • @ik71399
    @ik71399Ай бұрын

    You are Gold 🥇

  • @bellakrinkle9381
    @bellakrinkle93816 күн бұрын

    Recovering from Narcissistic abuse can be the path to deep self awareness that can lead to individual Sovereignty and self Agency. Psychoanalysis is not complete unless Agency is discovered. Unless one's voice is free to speak, analysis is not finished. 😵‍💫

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    6 күн бұрын

    Watch the NA Healing playlist.

  • @carlacrystal955
    @carlacrystal955Ай бұрын

    The wisest of men knew that he knew nothing

  • @vpoppv
    @vpoppvАй бұрын

    Excellent tips, but OMG I just realized I never had a romantic relationship in my mother tongue! Luckily, most of my self talk is in English so I'm good there, but in retrospect I've always had good chemistry with the opposite sex when talking in my mother tongue. I'm so curious if the dynamics would be different....

  • @dorothywest2053
    @dorothywest2053Ай бұрын

    Combined self counseling with a professional counseling. Thanks for the information

  • @Dan-zs9uf
    @Dan-zs9ufАй бұрын

    I am glad that you brought that up, with thinking in another language: may I ask, regarding the inner voice after narcissistic abuse, if the victim thinks in a foreign language, unknown to the abuser, is that the narcissist voice implanted in the victim abuse due conditioning or the true own inner voice?

  • @ravenousraven60
    @ravenousraven60Ай бұрын

    Thank you, Professor.

  • @JC-mv7hf
    @JC-mv7hfАй бұрын

    What if you chose the right music which helps you decide, makes the choice stronger and helps you cope?

  • @Summahtyme
    @SummahtymeАй бұрын

    So grateful for this channel!! Thank you 🙏

  • @cnunex1766
    @cnunex1766Ай бұрын

    #21 use your talents to help others. Thank you professor for enriching our lives with your content

  • @sylviefirestone9624
    @sylviefirestone9624Ай бұрын

    Merci, danke, tak, gratitude for all the free truth!

  • @onlinelddersbandara1822
    @onlinelddersbandara1822Ай бұрын

    Thank you

  • @Mountlougallops
    @MountlougallopsАй бұрын

    Thank You Sam.

  • @dianeoneil5376
    @dianeoneil5376Ай бұрын

    Thank you as always for this invaluable information and advice!

  • @carlacrystal955
    @carlacrystal955Ай бұрын

    Fascinating 🙌🏽

  • @stevenday5448
    @stevenday5448Ай бұрын

    Brilliant hacks! 🙏🏼

  • @Fddt-HetField
    @Fddt-HetFieldАй бұрын

    The best Prof ..👌👍

  • @scalab1
    @scalab1Ай бұрын

    Thoughts to ponder! I appreciate you, Sam Vaknin.

  • @ritariverbass8593
    @ritariverbass8593Ай бұрын

    What a great video! Thank you so much.

  • @kosmos229
    @kosmos229Ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @michelewalton9358
    @michelewalton9358Ай бұрын

    Thank you for such an informative and useful video.

  • @jackoneil3933
    @jackoneil3933Ай бұрын

    Brilliant Sam! A must hear and share for everyone!

  • @user-ju8fn8fu9s
    @user-ju8fn8fu9sАй бұрын

    Thank you so much Dear Professor Sam Vaknin❤ ❤❤

  • @danielbarak3148
    @danielbarak3148Ай бұрын

    Thank you Sam for the amazing sharing information...

  • @daathdorothiel
    @daathdorothielАй бұрын

    I have selective amnesia and don't mind break ups for the teachings. Curious about the further advices. Thank you Prof.

  • @ana988
    @ana9888 күн бұрын

    BIG like 🥇

  • @north_mesa
    @north_mesaАй бұрын

    A healthy mind can not live within an unhealthy body.

  • @jonathantrautman
    @jonathantrautmanАй бұрын

    Thank you, Dr. Vaknin Something that trips me up is thinking, if my memories are constantly rewritten and unreliable, and if I am an irrational actor, how and why should I trust myself/feel efficacious?

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Social reality is constructed to yield positive outcomes when you are irrational and emotional.

  • @jonathantrautman

    @jonathantrautman

    Ай бұрын

    @@samvaknin It's like a faith of sorts! Thank you, Dr.!

  • @JC-mv7hf
    @JC-mv7hf29 күн бұрын

    What about other noises when we do think, make decisions? I listen to music as it overlays the other noices, give me the control over what I am listening to

  • @daathdorothiel
    @daathdorothielАй бұрын

    Question: if I don't get the time to get more than 3 hours of sleep for a couple days, and I'm sleeping on other days 12-15 hours instead (less time than the undersleeping days) for being a student and working in multiple places and first of all medicine... What is to expect? Autistic burnout is what I am experiencing lately.

  • @MrNobodyfromfrance
    @MrNobodyfromfranceАй бұрын

    🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: [00:02] 🧠 The human mind is incredibly complex and not fully understood by psychology. [00:28] 💡 This talk will focus on 20+ science-backed hacks to help you heal and succeed in life. [01:50] 🪞 We tend to identify with our minds, making it difficult to separate ourselves from our thoughts. [02:30] 🧠 Memory is not like a library with perfect recall. We reconstruct memories each time we remember them. [04:43] 🤯 This means our memories are not always accurate representations of the past, but rather reflections of ourselves. [05:10] 🧠 Memories are subjective and shaped by emotions, not objective recordings of the past. [05:26] 😔 Understanding this can help reduce the power negative memories hold over us. [05:52] 💪 We can be the "masters" of our memories, re-interpreting them to lessen their traumatic impact. [06:19] disempowerment emoji Disempowering memories involves recognizing them as subjective creations, not absolute truths. [07:14] 🤔 Fun fact: We tend to remember objects and people from a specific angle, known as the canonical perspective. [08:25] 💔 Our brains don't differentiate between social rejection and physical pain, leading to intense emotional suffering. [10:04] 💪 Physical activity can be a powerful tool to manage emotional pain caused by rejection. [10:30] 🧠 Many trauma therapies focus on the body's role in healing, as trauma can be stored within the body. [11:08] 🤯 Social rejection is often misinterpreted by the brain as a physical attack, hence the intense emotional suffering. [11:37] 🤔 Counterintuitive hack: Thinking in a different language can promote rational decision-making by reducing emotional bias. [14:20] 🧠 Our first language carries emotional baggage and can cloud rational thinking during decision-making. [14:57] 🧠 Our first language is tied to emotions, while other languages can promote more rational thinking. [16:33] 🧠 The Dunning-Kruger effect: Less intelligent people tend to overestimate their intelligence. [17:41] ⚠️ Be cautious of excessive self-praise; it might indicate a lack of self-awareness and hinder your ability to learn. [18:59] ⚠️ Thinking you're too smart can make you vulnerable to manipulation and scams. [19:12] 🎶 Music can significantly impact your mood, both positively and negatively. [20:05] 🧠 Perceptual expectation: Our brains anticipate visual input when we hear music, influencing how we process information. [20:57] 🧠 Music can synchronize brainwaves, impacting cognitive function. [21:11] 🎧 Avoid multitasking with music when you need to focus, analyze, or make decisions. [23:22] 🎤 Singing is a powerful tool to reduce anxiety and depression, even if you're not a skilled singer. [24:55] 🧬 Negativity can be influenced by genetics, with some people predisposed to negative thinking. [26:02] ❓ Anxiety might not be solely genetic, as its prevalence has significantly increased in recent years. [27:19] 🌎 Increased stress and a harsh reality contribute to the rise of mental health issues today. [27:49] 🧠 Sarcasm, while often perceived negatively, can actually improve brain health and is a sign of intelligence. [28:55] 🧠 Sarcasm requires quick wit, creativity, and the ability to understand complex ideas. [30:03] ☀️ Sunlight exposure helps combat depression, potentially due to vitamin D production. [32:16] 🪴 Treat yourself like a plant: give yourself sunlight, which is essential for mood regulation. [32:42] 🧠 Dopamine is linked to both pleasure and desire, and repetitive addictive behaviors can stem from dopamine release. [33:37] 💪 Self-denial can be a powerful tool to break addictive cycles. [33:49] 🧠 Self-denial can help break the cycle of pleasure and desire driven by dopamine. [34:58] 💪 Breaking the cycle of addiction: Deny yourself the things you crave for 10 minutes, 3-4 times a day. [35:24] 😴 Sleep is crucial for physical and mental health. Aim for 7-8 hours of quality sleep each night. [36:06] ⚠️ Oversleeping is just as bad for your health as undersleeping. [37:43] 😴 Prioritize deep sleep for optimal health and cognitive function. [39:27] 📚 The ideal line length for reading speed and comprehension is 100 characters. [40:21] 🧠 Mental health and physical health are interconnected. A bad mood can lead to physical problems. [41:02] ⚖️ Prioritize treating the root cause of your suffering, whether mental or physical. [41:43] 💪 Self-help hacks like self-love and self-acceptance can be as effective as medication for treating mental health issues. [42:13] 🤝 Trust yourself and seek professional help only if self-help measures fail consistently. Made with HARPA AI

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @joycejoin
    @joycejoin27 күн бұрын

    "Thank you, Professor Sam Vaknin!" When I go to sport, should I think about the situation, or is that not necessary?

  • @minor12828
    @minor12828Ай бұрын

    That's why i can approach a girl in english so easily but in spanish 😑. That about the memory breaks my mental model. I 've been thinking that memory worked like a 'linked list' in computer science. Chunks of memory pointing to another until you access the 'whole' picture or at least what's remembered. I need to to check the literature.

  • @JediMindtrick91
    @JediMindtrick9127 күн бұрын

    About the „dont think in your mothertongue“. My „mothertongue“ is Farsi, i grew up in Germany and think and speak in German. I usually consume content in English language and I am able to think in English as well, because its less complex than German. Thinking in programming language sounds low resolution. Any suggestions?

  • @user-fx3sj1vf5q
    @user-fx3sj1vf5q19 күн бұрын

    So, my narcissistic ex, left the country to avoid paying child support to our now adult child with a developmental disability.. now, he still refuses to send me money, unless I almost beg for it.. I ask him because I need the financial assistance. Should I just give up, and leave him alone?

  • @debraparker6404
    @debraparker6404Ай бұрын

    What about cooking?

  • @CountessCarmilla
    @CountessCarmillaАй бұрын

    So I feel the body hack one is a bit vague. I am guessing if I am feeling upset over something then exercise it out? Physically get out your aggression I suppose, but I am not soo certain it is that simple.

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Learn more about about body-mind therapies.

  • @Watermelonn8990
    @Watermelonn8990Ай бұрын

    Sam, since you mentioned speed reading, do you do it? If so, how many words per minute or pages per hour can you read? Thank you

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    700 words per minute. I have eidetic memory, so this helps.

  • @Watermelonn8990

    @Watermelonn8990

    Ай бұрын

    @@samvaknin you are like an intelligent Rain man :)

  • @elodiedupont9672
    @elodiedupont9672Ай бұрын

    Amazing tips Sam 😊 Do primary psycopaths need less hours of sleep than the average population (eg. like 5 hours of sleep per night) ? Thanks.

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Not that we know of.

  • @elodiedupont9672

    @elodiedupont9672

    Ай бұрын

    @@samvaknin Thank you

  • @kasiakas
    @kasiakasАй бұрын

    What if I have 'music and songs' in my head most of the time?

  • @SofiaReyes1662-tq5cf
    @SofiaReyes1662-tq5cfАй бұрын

    What can you do to improve decision making if you are monolingual?

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Acquire a second language.

  • @yuno555gasai5
    @yuno555gasai5Ай бұрын

    Psychopath have a lot of narcissism in them how to know if someone is a narcissist or a psychopath if in some way one is the part of the other.

  • @mrdeshonline

    @mrdeshonline

    Ай бұрын

    All are narcissist

  • @debraparker6404
    @debraparker6404Ай бұрын

    Does sunlight also make you sleep better?

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Only if you are exposed to it in the morning.

  • @NECCO8001
    @NECCO800115 күн бұрын

    New ToDo List: I'm A Plant. Herbaceous. Flowering. 1. Break up and aerate soil with Vankin videos . . .

  • @DenizeSmedley
    @DenizeSmedleyАй бұрын

    Do you believe in hypnosis for getting rid of trauma?

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    No.

  • @DenizeSmedley

    @DenizeSmedley

    Ай бұрын

    @@samvakninHow do you get rid of trauma bonds from being in a relationship with a narcissist?

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    @@DenizeSmedley Watch the Narcissistic Abuse Healing playlist.

  • @randomgal269
    @randomgal269Ай бұрын

    I am surprised to know that you speak Arabic, why did you learn it? Is it because your father is of Moroccan decent?! I'd really like to hear you say something in Arabic! Do you speak the classical Arabic, or some sort of middle eastern dialect?

  • @samvaknin

    @samvaknin

    Ай бұрын

    Fuskha, al-lughati 'l-adhabiya.

  • @randomgal269

    @randomgal269

    Ай бұрын

    @@samvaknin oh wow, that is so cool. I see what you did there with "fuskha" 😂.

  • @Anixxo24
    @Anixxo24Ай бұрын

    Vous êtes un génie Sam Vaknin. Souvent je pense que Le Trés Haut fait des dons spéciaux aux juifs, ils sont son peuple après tout.

  • @440civil
    @440civil22 күн бұрын

    I like to listen music and play chess meanwhile and it works

  • @albertonielsen3178
    @albertonielsen3178Ай бұрын

    Help each other!!!

  • @BarbaraGray-tm6lz
    @BarbaraGray-tm6lzАй бұрын

    Thank you