This is so beautiful and heartbreaking. I hate that you went through something similar.

@littlewondersx

4 жыл бұрын

thank you

When something like this happened to me, I kept thinking and thinking and thinking “did I say yes?” “What was my body language?” “Was I okay?” And I know the answer is no, afraid, no. And this was by my ex. Ex fling nightmare shit. And I couldn’t wrap around my head that this was someone I trusted and knew and tried blaming myself, and it didn’t work. Not for long. It wasn’t your fault.

I loved this show and this character. I remember when this episode happened. At the time it was a complicated situation to wrap my heart and mind around because we knew Tank but by the end of the episode we saw Bay's perspective and realized even though they were both drinking. Tank was sober enough to stop things and chose not too. Which then made it assault.

@gjjijji

Жыл бұрын

No he was drunk too

@humorbranco69

Жыл бұрын

That is bullcrap... They were both drunk and if I recall she didn't try to stop him... And the guys life was ruined because she didn't want to take responsability. She was a monster in this issue

@galveston

Жыл бұрын

It is his penis. He has control over where he puts it. Don’t make excuses like that.

@galveston

Жыл бұрын

Let me guess… you’ve had “consensual sex” with drunk girls? You better cut that shit out if you live in a red state, asshole. No more Roe. Too many religious pharmacists who don’t believe in the morning after pill.

@samanthawhatshername2939

Жыл бұрын

@@gjjijji but she asked him didn't you feel wrong about it or at some point did it feel wrong to you? I think that's how she worded it....then he said maybe or something along those lines. Obviously he can hold his liquor better....he is a larger person than she is and he has more experience in alcohol than she does.

I’ve got through this and I was sexually groomed and nobody believes me..

@samcu1379

4 жыл бұрын

Girl Xxx I believe you

@okayokay2376

4 жыл бұрын

I believe you too

@danielafreitas8381

3 жыл бұрын

I do too.

@signer25

3 жыл бұрын

Im in your corner.

@thenbhdenthusiast3699

3 жыл бұрын

we believe you

all my love is with you. i am so sorry you’ve experienced this, and i’m proud of you for surviving.

@littlewondersx

4 жыл бұрын

this means the world, thank you so much

"Good guys can do bad things" hit me in a spot I didn't think was still soft, everyday I feel like it was my fault. Because I let it happen obviously, he asked me if it was okay and I said "it's fine" but in reality it wasn't, I didn't want to. But I was afraid of saying no, I felt uncomfortable with everything happening. I even made up excuses like being tired to stop, there was a point where I said stop and he didn't. Where I pushed his hands away, but that didn't stop him. He was 18 and I was 13, he told me I couldn't tell anyone about it, the moment he left I broke down. I felt like a whore, I had a panic attack. I felt like everything was my fault, all because I was too friendly, and too afraid I guess. So now I'm terrified to be with a guy because I don't wanna go through it again, I don't wanna be a whore. I feel like I'll never escape it, all because I was too stupid to say no all because I was afraid of him.

@gabrielava4389

3 жыл бұрын

i am so sorry this happened to you. please stay strong, if u ever need to talk my insta is gabi.va_

@gabrielava4389

3 жыл бұрын

but it will never be your fault do not forget that. in fact if he was 18 and you were 13 when it happened, even if you said yes it still rape. and you also told him to stop and he didnt. please stay strong you are a survivor.

@celenescrazyworld2012

2 жыл бұрын

Def agree with the other comment, even if you said yes at the start, he shouldn’t have kept going. Besides, u were so little, it’s unrealistic to think that u would have the mental strength and knowledge to say ur true feelings at such a young age. He shouldn’t have done anything at all. Besides, we’ve all done things we’re not proud of when we were younger. You’re as innocent as they come, just like every other innocent person :). Sorry u had to go through that, but I’m wishing u the best💗

@madisonshore7026

2 жыл бұрын

No honey don't every think that was your fault or think of yourself as a whore. He was an older guy who took advantage of someone younger than him and that is not on you. At all. That says so much more about him than you. And he was in the wrong for that not you. Even if you did say yes in the beginning you have every right to take back your consent at any time. At any point when you're uncomfortable or afraid you should speak up and he should've stopped. A real man stops at that point. He may have been 18 but he was clearly not a man yet. He should've known better. Just please do not think of yourself as a whore anymore love. And you have my support with whatever you need.

Bay is one of my favorite Characters on Switched at birth 🥺 this is so heartbreaking 💔 This is an lovely edit

Omg this is so amazing 😭. Kinda Relate to what happened to bay but my Rapist was a bad person when I thought he was a good person, he took Advantage of me and hurt me. And I am so sorry this happened to you to. No one deserves that. I love your edit so much 🥺.

Thank you for making this ❤ Beautifully well done.

What a beautiful vídeo. I haven't watched the show to be honest but I'm really happy this is out for people to have more emphaty and stop victim-blaming. And I'm really sorry that happened to you, hope you're doing better. A hug!♥️

This is really beautiful!! Thank you for making it!!❤

sooo amazing, girliee xox and awww hope you get better too btw!

I'm so so sorry you went through something at all similar. This was SO beautifully edited and well done. I hope it was healing in some way to edit this, validating, cathartic. Bay has been one of my favorite characters of all time since season 1 and I just love her so much and you captured so much in this! Really amazing job. Btw I think you have a typo with the artist in your end credits, i was just looking up the lyrics... Powerful song choice too!! Amazing.

@littlewondersx

4 жыл бұрын

thank you so much

@dianehammer9558

3 жыл бұрын

Katie rapped CusghmerDebraperd

you’re so strong love💛 btw where did you get ur scenes?

I love bay everytime I watch this ep I cry so much

can I ask, where do you get your Switched At Birth clips?

I hate that innocent girls go through this. Makes it real hard for girls to tell from those dangerous from those actually good.

I had an experience a few months ago where I was very drunk and started making out with this guy then stopped and said I shouldn't because I was really drunk. He kept trying to kiss me until I physically put my hand in front of my face and said no, I'm really drunk. He backed off and later apologized saying he realized he shouldn't have tried to do anything with me when I was so messed up. It's up to you to speak up but it's also up to the other person to listen, whether that's listening to your words or just having the sense to know when something is wrong in a situation.

@jazmynnorman4384

2 жыл бұрын

You said stop but she didn’t totally different

@user-od7pm4yl1z

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazmynnorman4384 stop it right now you weirdo

@user-od7pm4yl1z

2 жыл бұрын

@Hanna Horstemeyer victim blamer, ew

@joa5641

Жыл бұрын

@@hannahorstemeyer1278it can happen anywhere. most assaults happen by people you know

this made me sob.

What episode is this?

i know that a lot of fans take issue with this storyline and the way it was handled and no it wasn't perfect but i also think it was important to show that a lot of assaults often happen by people the "victim" knows, not by a stranger. the lines in the story can easily become blurred especially when there's alcohol in the mix. but that doesn't make it any more consenting, and that goes for instances especially outside television. to littlewondes, i hope you're doing better.

OMFG this is so freaking amazing and powerful!!!!

@littlewondersx

4 жыл бұрын

thank you hun, this comment has made me feel so much better as i'm still not in a good place with it all and it's good to be reassured. i'm so sorry that happened to your friend, it's horrific and i'm glad she has you in her life

@keller109

4 жыл бұрын

And what if both people were drunk and can't remember? This comment is so silly. Rape victims who get so drunk that they can't remember shit should be held responsible for their actions along with the perpetrator who may not even remember what exactly occurred themselves. What did your stupid parents teach you? Clearly nothing. Here. I'll help you: Don't get black out drunk at parties and don't take drinks you haven't poured yourself.

@Auburngal03

3 жыл бұрын

@@keller109 No one is going to support this. I am sure as hell will not. Victim blaming makes me sick. It sounds like you have never been in this situation and I am glad for you. But do not invalidate people who were violated. Do not invalidate the feelings of wrong or the shame or the dirty feeling all over your body when someone touches you in a way you did not want. There are different levels of drunkenness and I am all for being safe and making smart decisions but in a lot of cases, it is with people who you know and trust. Getting drunk and having fun is not asking to be raped. Flirting and laughing is not a gate opening for sex. Bay's happened with a person she knows. It was clear that he was more aware of what he was doing than Bay was. Tank should have known better than to move forward with his actions. Bay has always pushed him away any time he tried something, she always said no while completely sober. Tank should have left her alone, but he didn't. People don't ask to be assaulted, they don't go to places to be assaulted. They should not have fear about being assaulted, but also they need know their surroundings and the dangers, but people are human. If anyone's comment is silly, it is yours and full of ignorance.

@keller109

3 жыл бұрын

Endlesswriter03 I never said that getting drunk is asking to be raped, which is exactly why in my previous comment, I said that both parties should be held responsible. Whether you’re with friends or not, it is never a good idea to get black out drunk. Not if you’re at a party with strangers, not if you’re at a party with friends, not if you’re drinking at home alone. The proper action should be taken against the perpetrator, but by ignoring the fact that the victim created an opportunity is despicable. Most rapists aren’t people hiding in the shadows with a knife. Most of them are people we know and see everyday. And rape is primarily about opportunity. Do NOT give people the chance to have an opportunity. It’s one thing to be randomly attacked walking home from a movie. It’s something else entirely to get shit faced, then cry rape about something you can’t even remember. Tank didn’t force those drinks down her throat, if I recall. People like you are doing a major disservice to women and youths by spewing this false narrative about rape culture- that people can just do whatever they want without consequences. You can’t control what other people do. You can only be responsible for yourself and be mindful of precautions you can take like (I don’t know)... Not getting black out drunk. If some asshole comes into your house and robs you blind after YOU left the front door unlocked, please let me know if your insurance company will cover that. 👋

I never have been threw this but I had a horrible nightmare about it and it felt so real and it had incredible detail

@AniKervalishvili

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. It happened in darkness.

@trystonromero7182

3 жыл бұрын

@@AniKervalishvili it may not be the same thing but I never want anyone to feel like how I did

Has nothing to do with the edit but I saw that you did a 9-1-1 edit with Buck and Eddie and so I was wondering if you checked out the spinoff. It’s as great as 9-1-1 so far.

❤❤

To the person who made this - in my previous comment, I talked about stopping a drunken hookup. The reason that event is significant to me is that for a long time, I subconsciously thought that saying no wasn't an option in a sexual encounter, due to experiences in my past. These things can effect you for a long time. The best thing you can do is talk to a therapist, distance yourself from the person, and find support with friends and family. I was super impressed with how Switched at Birth handled this storyline. They tackled a very difficult topic and showed how complicated these situations can be. Saying no is something I'm still working on. I had a drunken hookup with someone on Halloween where some lines were crossed. Months later, I finally got up the courage to talk to the guy about it. He didn't remember some of the things that happened, but still he apologized sincerely. Moving forward, just try to remember that there are good people out there. It could be good to discuss your trauma with future partners so they will be mindful of your experiences in your time together. The most important thing is, this will pass. Life goes on. Just take things day by day. Do things that make you happy every single day, and please seek help. Talk to a therapist, talk to your friends. It will help, I promise.

¿Cual es el capitulo de el minuto 0:21?

I go to school - fake smile When I see my family - fake smile When I go to my room - I fall apart

This show brought so many things into the light but they took it off Netflix

He was probably drunk, so why does he get shit

@ComeOnBunny

2 жыл бұрын

Because he is a man and there are double standards.

we also need to normalize walking away from sexual assault or rape and not being traumatized.

@hannahwilliams5681

3 жыл бұрын

You don't choose what traumatizes you

@cosmicjessica3201

3 жыл бұрын

@@hannahwilliams5681 yeah, sadly not. most people get truamatized from sexual assault and rape, but i didn't. i feel guilty about not being traumatized.

@franciscagomes185

3 жыл бұрын

@@cosmicjessica3201 You don't need to feel guilty. People have different reactions to things. It's good if you're better but really sorry about what you've been throught. A hug!♥️

@cosmicjessica3201

3 жыл бұрын

@@franciscagomes185 thank you so much! a hug right back!

@angelicavences9357

2 жыл бұрын

Is wrong with you???

If you even have to question if you said yes, then you should definitely talk to a professional because if it’s not an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no

This episode really really upset me ! This is how men get their whole life tossed! Two drunk ppl, made a choice together !!! Like who says and ask questions the entire during sex? Bay was just mad she cheated. You can’t blame tank not fully it takes two and I’m sure he thought hmm this the girl i loved and she’s here telling me she wants me as we both are drunk. Women need to take accountability

@jazmincastro3808

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. They were both drunk and who is to say he gave her consent? Everyone says he was sober enough but in the flashbacks we see them equally as drunk. Even if he was slightly more sober why does it fall on him? How was he while being drunk supposed to make the call? They are acting like he was completely in his right mind taking advantage of her.

@jazmynnorman4384

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazmincastro3808 exactly my point so biased! Hated the script

@neverdateagamer1498

2 жыл бұрын

@@jazmynnorman4384 I swear it's one of the reasons why the shows viewership dropped. Everyone around Bay basically forced her to become a victim that she never felt like she was because she wasn't. She had a bad feeling when she woke up that morning because she was blacked out drunk and yes it's scary to not remember especially waking up in bed but how do blame that on someone who was also drunk but remembered as if he was automatically expected to ask like a sober being. I didn't even like Tank but this just made me smh at everyone but him and Emmett.

@sadieyoung7397

Жыл бұрын

She was black out drunk.. that means too damn drunk to consent and she woke up not knowing what happened. Tank should of just walked away. Bay did not even want to have sex with him sober. You gotta ask yourself this question. Would they agree to this even sober ? No. Bay did not want tank even sober sexually. She wouldn’t want him black out drunk. Tank made a bad judgment call because he still had feelings for her. Bay was violated.

@jazmynnorman4384

Жыл бұрын

@@sadieyoung7397 probaly so ! He was just as drunk …drunk is drunk. When you’re drunk it impairs your logic and thinking concept. This is just another woman not owning up and this is how men go to jail !!!