Remember that non-communication IS communication. Don't be someone's afterthought.

@dr.jenniferma3914

9 ай бұрын

What's your limit? For me, if two days pass and I haven't heard from you, don't bother reaching out.

@tifanylam6349

6 ай бұрын

@@dr.jenniferma3914 TRUE THAT! I AGREE!

@redfather5342

5 ай бұрын

Really why

Simple. You make time for the things you want and excuses for the things you don't.

@kelseycoca

Жыл бұрын

this is perfectly put!

@xanjey17

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@tayluvofficial

Жыл бұрын

You just broke me💔 this means my best friend isn't into me. 😭 I'm not his priority??!

@marilaneborges7632

11 ай бұрын

❤

@tonyacummings5794

10 ай бұрын

Right on

I don’t believe the whole “bad texter” thingy, if they’re interested enough they’ll call or arrange meeting you! So😌

@AlviTVBD

2 жыл бұрын

💯 agree. But bad texters still exist, Kaziwa. Eg. Alvi Aladin. I hope you have good artworks by the way. Love from Bangladeshis around the world. 🇧🇩🇧🇩🇹🇷

@UrUrbanRockstar

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!! Especially if they were once texting you a lot at the beginning. To me, it means the interest isn't as high as it once was. Otherwise, there should be consistent dates planned. A man that is interested will make it known.

@orientalboy86

2 жыл бұрын

It kills attraction when a guy contacts women to often as women love mystery and men who are busy as there is even scientific evidence for that. Women are like cats, they pull back at some time to reflect (men should do the same and pull back as well instead of chasing the girl) as attraction always grows in space. Women tend to get bored if a man constantly calls, texts etc.

@carlosverde-datingtips7001

2 жыл бұрын

I hear ya - Kaziwa! Great tips - by Matthew! And speaking of not being comparable with someone… No matter how much you might like someone - it’s not going to work out in the long run, if they’re not the right type of people for you! If you want a happy life - consider someone that fits your personality, that matches well with you, and that is supportive of what you want to do - and actually wants to be part of it! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@raquelm2004

2 жыл бұрын

@@orientalboy86 men do the same, love chasing, hate clinginess

In early stages, it is sometimes hard to gauge a lack of interest (if they are dating multiple people) or being more laxed at texting. Especially if they are on social media quite a bit. But then again I realized, 80% of the time if I'm watching Matthew to find an answer, the guy just isn't that interested.

@Minimeowzilla

2 жыл бұрын

totally. it really shouldn't be this hard the vast majority of the time. absolutely love Matthew but if we need his help that much then it's not a good sign lol

@helenlingard7790

2 жыл бұрын

You KNOW deep down yourself, its good to get validation from Matthew, but deep down WE KNOW... If we're worth it, they'll make the effort. We also need to have the conversation with the other person.

@amber4027

Жыл бұрын

Yesssss 100

@beebeeisdatpreciousbabycak690

Жыл бұрын

This is absolute facts. No one who's interested is " THAT BUSY" . NEVER.

@tjrothausen

Жыл бұрын

LOL so true on that 80%; probably 99% for me

Matthew: "Do you find yourself in the early stages of dating right now and feeling increasingly frustra---" Me: "YES."

@shellyc2161

2 жыл бұрын

Dating sucks these days and it’s paired with anxiety on both sides. I wish I could just meet someone who has passion & consistency in their communication. Matthew is right though, if we don’t communicate our needs and stay meek, then we get walked on

@amber4027

Жыл бұрын

Bahahahahahaha

@LauDor08

Жыл бұрын

Right. You don't wanna be too vulnerable and ask for too much from them too soon when you're getting to know each other. But you also don't want to waste your time, especially the older you get. I think Matthew offers good tips for expressing your needs without being too needy, but still being direct. And yes, anxiety is real, especially if you've had trauma. No one wants to get burned.

@LauDor08

Жыл бұрын

@@shellyc2161 I see both sides of the coin. Obviously, if someone cares about you, they will put forth effort and make time. But everyone's love language and communication needs are different. And someone might not know they're not meeting your needs if you don't tell them. A closed mouth won't get fed.

@dianivet

Жыл бұрын

LMAO facts

Many men say they have to work so much, but honestly...everybody has 5 minutes to text back. If He doesn't have 5 minutes to text you back, he doesn't have time for a relationship neither.

@Seraphim7

Жыл бұрын

Amen!!!

@patrycjaszlachta9603

Жыл бұрын

That’s true

@haewillph1646

Жыл бұрын

Exactly my thoughts. Just a few text to tell you he's fine would do.

@AstrologerAanchal

Жыл бұрын

Well!!! Some more serious work really exist, many professionals are not allowed to use phone at their workplace, it may be the case ... So we need to make sure if he's fooling around or really busy

@susanw7924

Жыл бұрын

Exactly.

If he’s interested, you’ll know. If you are wondering, he’s not. Period.

If they’re bad at texting but they’re interested in you, they’ll find ways to communicate. Audio call, video call, setting up many dates to see you. If you just don’t hear from them at all, just know they don’t care that much :)

@youyoua988

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!! I hate texting but if it someone I care about or want to see , I either send an audio or send a text to set a date.

@lunalu552

Жыл бұрын

Bad texters doesn't mean lack of communication bad texters are people who prefer voice for communication. People take their phones even to the toilet so they can definitely send a text and text is easier and more discrete. But he could send a voice message or even schedule a voice call. Thats what "bad texters" do.

@Jean-ws8zr

Жыл бұрын

Hmmm. I have been in multiple dates but I had this 1st date with someone who is very talkative in person but in text sometimes he non stop texting and idk he sometimes does not text at all but react to my stories.

@Jean-ws8zr

Жыл бұрын

There’s an update on this guy that I dated with. So now we are chatting on soc med and we also call and video call and we talk everyday 😊

@beseez

Жыл бұрын

I resemble this remark. I am older. Came into the digital crap kicking and screaming. My youngster forced me to learn this stuff so I could keep them safe. Now? I hate phone calls. Text. Kik. Etc works great. Meeting someone, not withstanding. The thing is, most men of an age dislike texting, digital stuff. They only want f2f conversation or nothing at all. Lastly, are phone conversations. As Matt says, it is a matter of connection. He wants sex, I want connection. He wants f2f. I want sex to not be a constant push. Love this video.

Dating was just so much easier before the whole texting culture. We used to wait for the guy to call and never gave it a second thought. My late husband would call me on a Wednesday night to make plans for Saturday night. I never stressed about not hearing from him in-between. It's just the way it was. There is such a thing as over communicating. I'm learning if you are secure in yourself the whole texting thing doesn't matter.

@soobinism

Жыл бұрын

So refreshing to hear opinions like this, my thoughts mirror yours exactly. Every woman I meet hates my texting habits (I only text to arrange plans). It wasn't that long ago that texting and smartphones didn't exist... now I'm always being doubted because I don't text, no matter how much love I show in person. I put 200% of my effort into dates and being together. Apparently all meaningless if I don't keep up daily communication in between, even if we meet frequently. I feel just as close to someone even if I don't speak with them online every single day, but I feel very alone in this sentiment.

@fouzulinaya7402

Жыл бұрын

Thankyou

@gewfone

Жыл бұрын

He took you for granted, was confident you'd say yes, and so he made minimal effort, and didn't reassure you, you tolerated that lack of communication...why ??

@soobinism

Жыл бұрын

@@gewfone Were all relationships fake and disrespectful before phones were invented?

@lynnstpierre

Жыл бұрын

Everyone is different. I personally like to hear from my person everyday (a short text a few times a day really). It puts a smile on my face and I feel close to them.

You won’t be confused with a guy that likes you. Bottom line.

@katybryant8185

Жыл бұрын

Aww thank you I needed to hear

@lisawhite8718

Жыл бұрын

I wish it was that simple. Guys can like you and still be confusing. Humans are unique and complex.

@Jean-ws8zr

Жыл бұрын

@@lisawhite8718 If a guy confuses you address that to him. Let him know what you want. That’s what I did. He ask me what I want and rn we are exclusively dating.

@Mayfloweralways

Жыл бұрын

Yep. When first meeting, it usually doesn’t take long for a decide he’s interested. After he decides you’re someone who is more serious to him, you will see a softness to him and a willingness to give. At first, my boyfriend said “ I don’t like texting.” Now we text and talk continuously. And when he thinks I have something on my mind, his Face is open and his voice is gentle. “Hey. What’s on your mind. Talk to me.” There are a lot of variables, but I think a man who truly wants you will clearly show it

@dyonaisa9954

Жыл бұрын

@@Mayfloweralways correct, my boyfriend isn't a texter and still isn't. I shoukd be glad when I recive 1 to 3 text messages a week. I never doubted that he likes me becaus his actions says it all. He moves mountains just to see me 2 to 3 days a week (we have a long distance relationship) Even if it means he needs to drive to me for just a couple of hours. He plans everything upfront. We do a lot of fun things, go to diner, walking, out for a drink etc I was/am never insecure about not receiving any textmessages. Instead he calls me now and than. I think I'm falling in love with this guy! Girls if he doesn't text it does't automatically mean he doesn't care. Actions speak louder then texting.

"If he's interested then you'll know, if he's not you'll wonder" thats been true with texting for me. Especially with apps and so many options, you'll know if youre his top person or a "backup"

@orientalboy86

2 жыл бұрын

That’s not true. I met my girlfriend 6 months ago and she always checks who writes first, who calls and she wants me to call and text more but I love her and don’t want to blow off her phone because too much texting and calling can kill attraction and lead to a break up which I don’t want because she’s to valuable to me. You won’t have anything to talk about if you meet up with that person and constantly call and text with that person. I know that attraction grows in space and I’d rather arrange meetings with my girlfriend as it’s far more natural, I want to smell her, see her, kiss her, hug her, see her mimics, emotions, smile and just feel her and spend as much time with her as possible.

@alexandramunoz4551

2 жыл бұрын

@@orientalboy86 I'm always happy when I hear people expressing in how many different ways they appreciate others. That's wonderful

@orientalboy86

2 жыл бұрын

@@alexandramunoz4551 That’s true. I used to call my ex girlfriends a lot, it was amazing in the beginning but after a while I noticed that there were a lot of silent moments where we didn’t say anything to each other because there was nothing to talk about anymore. That’s when I said to myself that I won’t make the same mistake in the future and avoid talking each day for hours on the phone as it has the potential to kill attraction.

@alexandramunoz4551

2 жыл бұрын

@@orientalboy86 spot on! Stay well man :)

@shikhathakur4353

2 жыл бұрын

@@orientalboy86 do you atleast text her once a day? I met this guy on Tinder. We talked about our lives and he told me he likes me ..talked all sort of romantic things unless I shared my number. His texts drastically reduced. Especially when we met. It was always me who texted him first but after that he used to respond. Eg I texted I miss you. He used to respond I miss you daily. But the first message had to come from my side. This was also when we were in different cities. This used to make me very angry that he is only into me physically and not emotionally. So I told him 1 day to block me which he said he cannot as this feels more permanent to him and if he doesn't text me often doesn't mean he doesn't miss me or want this to end. What do you think about him?

I used to believe "if he liked me then he'd text me more often" because that's the way MY brain works, but after studying psychology and talking to my happily married friends, there genuinely are guys who, despite having strong feelings for someone, just don't like texting. They may think about their person everyday, but don't feel the need to text them/don't feel connection from texting. They use texting purely as a means to plan things. So just because YOU text someone when you like them, it doesn't mean everyone is wired that way! We all have different brains and different ways of expressing affection. (But also obviously if a guy rarely texts you it can be a sign he's not interested. It all depends on the person)

@bartdegryse9345

2 жыл бұрын

from a man perspective. another reason could be. if we maybe would text to much, or just less, we get ghosted. or get scared we can come across needy,? a lot of women don't like it/that ... so that's why we don't send 15 dammn texts in a 2 min span. it's either max 5 texts to meet up = definite plans makes it's so easy for us. if you are genuine interested back to date, etc ...

@Lil-Be

2 жыл бұрын

I am a woman and I 100% agree with those man. I dislike texting so much and use it for logistics ONLY.

@Sherbetsink

2 жыл бұрын

Yes my boyfriend hates texting as he feels it just takes so much time to get across what he wants to say and is impersonal , it would frustrate him but he would call instead and communicate that way .it took me a bit to understand not to take it personally. So yes even if he hates texting he will still communicate if interested I believe at least in some way . Edit to add he is still this way over a year of us being together and now I've grown to really appreciate this about him .

@houske1261

2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't want a man like that tbh It sounds like a disability that comes from toxic masculinity

@gulbenalkan

2 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend says, "even if I m not calling or texting you, it doesnt mean I m not thinking about you". Fair. But my response to that is, "I cant read your mind, can I?". I need to hear from him to feel connected (call or text doesnt matter), he not so much. At the end of the day, it comes down to the compatibility of both parties' needs I guess. And an eagerness to find a happy medium when compatibility is hard to achieve naturally. We both have busy jobs, so our solution is to send each other a kiss emoji, whenever we think of the other, or need to connect. It doesnt even need to be a lot of words or full blown conversation. Just one emoji.

Consistency is the 🗝️ word! There can be bad texters and good ones. The red flag is someone who is texting a lot in the start and then gradually less and less and in the end hardly even reply.

@redfather5342

5 ай бұрын

Because they got bored you ever thought about that

Most of the times the same guy that claims to be bad at texting ultimately watches all your social media stories. We all know they are not bad at texting they just dont care. Thanks Matthew

@samanthamakhafola3014

Жыл бұрын

True

@itsmariam

Жыл бұрын

🤧

@kurikong2379

Жыл бұрын

Oof that hurts 😫

@samtula5946

Жыл бұрын

Why do they watch your social media stories? They’re just bored? They just have a crush but don’t want to move forward with it?

@LovelyLittleLillies

8 ай бұрын

​@@samtula5946maybe bc it's on their timeline or ftp bc they're on social media rather than intentionally seeking u out? He's probably just scrolling and scrolled past it post

I was in a situationship with a guy for two months. He texted me once in a week, we saw each other once every two weeks. But at the end, I realised that despite we had a kind of dates, I really don't know anything about the everyday of this person neither he knows about mine nor he ask about it. After a short new years' message, that we exchanged. I decided that I won't invest in this type of relationships anymore. If he's a bad texter or whatever, he still can call me or try to be more in touch with me asking for my day. Maybe he's not that into me, so I have to move on.

This is very useful, thanks! What happens to me over and over... I text with a guy, at the beginning it's a great frequency, we start going out, let's say it lasts for 2 months and then poof, it's decreasing. I'm a very straight-forward person, so usually I ask if everything is okay, if he wants to still meet me. They answer - of course I want to!, but communication is still decreasing to the point we are not going out anymore. I feel that guys I'm meeting never admit that they are not interested anymore and then I'm there frustrating over it. And I'm not angry that someone is not interested anymore, just I like it communicated, not having a hope and wasting my time

@consolatamuthoni3441

2 жыл бұрын

This is so me.

@karincosme

Жыл бұрын

I agree! If a guy isn’t interested in you anymore, he should be man enough to tell you instead of wasting your time and stringing you along.

@amyjoseph3914

Жыл бұрын

Do you think it’s because online dating makes for hook-up culture? And that there’s always someone next with online dating? Asking because I’m curious about your experience.

@dzhonnikihirin4006

Жыл бұрын

Did you not get the hint

@graciegal7619

Жыл бұрын

Same!

Honestly, bad texting in and of itself is kind of a deal-breaker, because it indicates that they're bad at communication. Unless they have some preferred method of communication they're better at (which they should state upfront), I have no time for bad texters. Bad texter = bad communicator.

It’s not about texting or call. It’s about getting to know me and getting to know him. You can’t get to know someone infrequently.

My ex hated texting but he was almost 24/7 on twitter. When I asked why he doesn't write to me he'd be like he doesn't spend all his time on his phone and would rather text when absolutely necessary. I understood that for a while but it eventually wore me out cos I felt like I was giving so much and receiving so little. I used to beg for a good morning text or a good night text or a how're you doing text. He never called either. Not only did I realise he just wasn't into me, but he wouldn't bother addressing my love languages. The person for you should meet you at your point of need however quirky or weird. I also think communication is extremely key for the success of any relationship. Anyone who deprives you of that really isn't into you.

@AstrologerAanchal

Жыл бұрын

May be that Twitter had a lag because even my husband's Facebook messenger shows him online the whole day when he isn't.

Been seeing this girl for just over a month and this has made it pretty clear to me that I just need to end things and walk away. It's a shame because she really does have great qualities that I want in a partner but at this point it's just me getting scraps and valuing those scraps way too much. Bummer

Please ladies, listen, you were given intuition. Listen to it. If a guy is into you, you’ll know… but stay into you first and always. Keep going out with your friends. Doing what you enjoy. We are not that needy that we need someone to tell us they love us at breakfast, lunch and dinner. If I was a guy, I would find this off putting if I had to text to make a woman secure. As a woman, I hate texting but if I am interested in someone, I’ll make an effort and send voice messages or little videos. On the other hand, I am confident enough to know that if someone isn’t that interested in me, then it is their prerogative. It doesn’t diminish who I am. Of course, I get disappointing, no one likes rejection but hey, plenty of good guys out there…. It is just a matter of time. A bad texter isn’t the real problem. If you were a priority or if he was remotely interested, he would find the right way of communicating… you don’t need to have conversation about it, even in joking. You’ll know deep down. Matt is right. Confidence is the key to everything. We may have to work at it for a while, but oh boy, once we have it, we are like magnets 😄

@jsdevtom

9 ай бұрын

What is wrong with having a conversation about it?

@dr.jenniferma3914

9 ай бұрын

@@jsdevtom Well in part because the signs are already there. I will just reference that I thought they were ghosting if I don't hear from them for a couple days. If they keep up that behavior after knowing where my mind goes, then I lose interest.

@jsdevtom

9 ай бұрын

@@dr.jenniferma3914 "after knowing where my mind goes" So we agree, the relationship would benefit from talking about it?

@cbh2409

6 ай бұрын

When someone says you have intuition, what they're basically doing is calling you stupid. Listen, you aren't too smart and can't think too logically, but you have these feelings. Geesh. Nothing I hate worse than when people say women are "intuitive", please stop accepting it when men call you stupid.

Being a bad texter during working hours is fine. It's outside of those hours that it becomes fishy. We do have other interests during the afternoon to focus on, like the gym or some volunteering, etc... but never does it get to a point where I will forget to text someone I like all day or a few days in a row. It is important however to link this to the number of times we see each other per week. She knows that I will always keep myself available to see her all weekend long (and every night) until she tells me she's got other plans. That's when I will call my friends to go out with them.

@MrCjchamp

Жыл бұрын

Why are you keeping yourself available? Is she your gf? If not why aren’t your making definite plans? You’re putting her on a pedestal. I’ll bet she dumped you

@EverythingCelebritiesluxury

Жыл бұрын

I should start doing my solo date coz relationship are a bigger than the pandemic we had , i cant deal with all these excusses

This was deeper than I expected. When he says (paraphrasing) that when we don’t feel worthy of good treatment we don’t state what our needs are that hit close to home. Didn’t realize that was my core emotion / belief, but it’s ultimately why I never say what I want or need.

@andreachappell1598

Жыл бұрын

This is so me, had a lovely man, we fell in love, felt like we had known each other our whole life’s, but there were things and behaviours for him not because he was bad or anything just his learnt ways, it was difficult for me to express my self, I loved him like never have before but I just became closed. I wish the confidence had been there to talk it all through. We broke up and I miss him and wish I knew now what I needed to know then 😟

If I’m into you, I make you a priority and you’ll know it by my texts (a bit too much perhaps 😓, but that’s out of excitement and my wish to be close to you, connect to you more). This is only based on one experience, though 😅. It’s definitely something to talk about if you feel there’s either too little or too much texting.

@MsSmashone

2 жыл бұрын

I like a happy medium. I don’t like texting all day. I do like some mystery but it someone falls of the face of the earth it makes me sick!

@TruthQuest1

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. It puts things in perspective. If someone's a priority, if the interest is there, we will make time for them and we will want to be close to them

@Whatever_Happy_People

Ай бұрын

I'm in Australia but you saying if your into a woman she knows it is good not having to second guess sounds nice. It's a year later but good luck to you. Peace.

My sister's boyfriend is a bad texter. She thought he wasn't that interested. They were friends for 2 year before dating but not on texting basis. He texted her back within a day, he replies other people within weeks 😂

I had that problem with a guy I am seeing but then realised he doesn't actually use his phone . When I am with him he doesn't even look at his phone! But then I had men who texted me all day everyday and still weren't really interested...

@ZenoGoreng

2 жыл бұрын

Well, that’s good he’s not on his phone when he’s with you. That seems like a very normal thing to do when you’re with someone. He should be paying attention to you in stead of his phone. You’re there. You should be his priority at that moment. Men who text you all day, yet aren’t interested, probably just use you for attention. And when I say they use you, I don’t mean their intentions are necessarily bad. I’d say it’s most likely a subconscious thing.

For myself , if a guy doesn’t show enough interest then neither do I, in fact if he’s very slow once I’ve gave my number , then to be honest there eliminated from my phone. No way would I be at the mercy of waiting for a guy to text me, if he’s slow he’s either not keen enough OR got other priorities in his life! You can’t make a man want you!

@Ohkeh640

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@yoongisugaagustd7418

2 жыл бұрын

@@saniaz680 samee, but you're lucky you just got minutes gap at night, i got hours instead, like 3-5 hours. He wasn't like this before i gave him my number though, boy bye 😂

Nah. there are no "Bad Texter" If we are "Into You" we can texting until 3 AM

@oemj7147

2 жыл бұрын

"Bad texter" is cope for hot guy who's not interested. Meanwhile another 9 dudes are writing poetry that nobody reads.

@Aarune_

2 жыл бұрын

Texting until 3am is too much even if interested.

@mette1983

2 жыл бұрын

@@Aarune_ it’s said in a joking manner lol

@Aarune_

2 жыл бұрын

@@mette1983 Uh-huh.

@user-dr5jv1wk4j

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for stating the obvious. 🥛🥛Cheersss pii mljekoo

I think it's important to trust your gut, if you feel something is wrong then it is. There is no need to give them excuses. If they are bad texter then all they have to do is learn how to text.

@dr.jenniferma3914

9 ай бұрын

Good point! How difficult is it to send a meme or ask "how are you" just something that shows that you're in their thoughts.

@hsdiem0

9 ай бұрын

Because he was bad texter I used to send long paragraph, he would never read

@hsdiem0

9 ай бұрын

Because he was bad texter I used to send long paragraph, he would never read

@nomfundokhoza1378

8 ай бұрын

I think it has nothing to do with good or bad texting,it has to do with if he cares enough to give you his time,if he gives you less of his time then you not his priority.He most likely has a person he's investing his time in,you just a toy he wants to play with, whenever he's bored.Put yourself first and be selfish,self love is important otherwise PPL will use you.

I’m a seriously bad texter, no matter how much I like people. It exists. Just don’t like being on my phone and having long convos over text

@UrUrbanRockstar

2 жыл бұрын

How do you instead express your consistent interest? Just a note: the same effort you put into typing this KZread message is the same effort that can be placed into sending a text once a day. Perhaps...it's just not what you'd prefer to do with your time.

@vintagemoth

2 жыл бұрын

You have phone anxiety

@frantzl

2 жыл бұрын

@@vintagemoth Sort of I guess

@MarkoLomovic

2 жыл бұрын

​@@UrUrbanRockstar Why you need texting to feel that other person is consistently interested? There is a reason why many guys don't like texting with people they don't know well and prefer calls and talking in person.

@UrUrbanRockstar

2 жыл бұрын

@@MarkoLomovic It doesn't have to be texting. It could be calls or meeting up. We're generally told that men that are interested make a consistent effort to communicate or see you. When we don't see consistency (lapse in 5 days or more without communicating), it triggers thoughts that something changed. Is that not necessarily true?

My advice to anyone dealing with this. I’ve been there a few times in my life. One thing I’ve come to realize is that if you have to question your relationship with them rather it’s to yourself or asking someone “ I don’t know how he feels. He never contacts me. He doesn’t help me when I need help. He’ll go all day without contacting me “. He is simply not for you. Men are natural hunters and they go after what they want. When you’re with the right one you’ll know ❤

Texting dont matter if you are meeting up in person. People spend more time texting than dating

Matthew how are you posting just the right video exactly when I need it? You're amazing and the best at what you do! xoxo

Thank you so much, Matthew, thank you for so many videos and advice! I've been watching your videos for 5 years and I still get inspired from you!! Thanks so much and greetings from Macau!

Always hits home, thanks Mathew 😊

Amazing content with coming years! Thanks, mathew. Very helpful, indeed.

actions will show when someone is genuinely interested in you, Full Stop. 😊

Very timely for me. Thank you, Matthew!

Thank you Matthew! This video really helped put words to my emotions!

I dated a man for 6 months and he rarely ever called and was a terrible texter. I discussed it with him a few times and he never chaged. So, I moved 10 hours away for a job opportunity and we promised we'd visit each other. He now calls and texts several times a day. If he'd been even a 3rd that attentive before I never would have moved.

exactly....when there's no progress and you just don't know where you stand....

You know its fishy when hes apparently a bad texter but when youre together he glimpses at his phone or goes to the bathroom with it a few times. And yeah, he might send me the voice messages. But its not enough when he does it on Monday after a whole weekend of being quiet... I told him what I need, and that is better communication in any form- texting, calling, ideally meeting more often. And told him it would be great to see where this takes us. It took us nowhere. He said he will try to improve and nothing changed. So I ended it. I could have easily madly fallen in love with that guy but he didnt create the connection with me. Even tho we had (the most amazing) sex. Shame but his loss

@lauriepeifer7297

2 жыл бұрын

You did thee right thing by returning him to the streets, cause thats where he belongs (and where he is while slient all weekend). I recently had to do the same.

@lunalu552

Жыл бұрын

Men dont emotionally connect through sex mostra likely they disconnect. So many women lost in translation. Here's a book for you "men don't love women like you" by Lambert. Hope it helps.

@How.Dare.You.

Жыл бұрын

@@lunalu552 when i google: do men fall in love through sex" I get different results

Such a brilliant video. Thank you for the insight!

You explain things so well 💗 thank you

WOW, Matthew’s most meaningful practical message!!! 💯🎯

Perfect timing, Matthew... Thank you very much.

This is GOLD Matthew, thanks!

When you like someone you want to share. Period. If its not happening, the person is not into you.

I will take calling over texting any day. I hate texting. Once upon a time, we didn't have mobile phones. We had a desire to see our partners at the end of the day and had things to talk about, because we had our time for our work, our colleagues. We need space not suffocation. We need closeness by paying attention, because we are interested. We haven't been doing what we felt we had to do through the day..

You’re fascinating. You make great videos and give valuable advice on what is important. I can’t imagine how many people you have helped feel loved and work their relationship out. Thank you for your great content.

I did not expect this discourse to go this deep. Thanks Matthew. I enjoyed your advise on this.

spot on ! valuable insight ! much appreciated ! 👍🏻

Totally agree Dear Matthew! Thanks again! Blessings!

I am so amazed at how good you are at communicating. This is a major issue with people who are not 100% sure that you're the one. It's good to call them out as soon as your see it.

Fantastic and timely video.Needed to hear this today.Thank you so much Mathew.

The texting doesn’t need to increase as the relationship increases bc as the relationship increases, you’ll be together more in person and won’t need to text. Getting into these texting traps never end. It kills attraction. It’ll never be enough

If a man is interested, even an older man, he will do what it takes to get to know you. The medium is not the issue.

Everything I’ve ever wanted to say about this topic 😂he is saying in a PERFECT way. Thank you for your videos you communicate hard topics with ease and understanding.😊

I’m dating a surgeon. He’s a horrible texted due to typically being in surgery. However this man will say I’ll call you at 7 and my phone will ring like clock work. If he’s been called into a surgery a scrub nurse will reach out and say he’s running late. I was bothered at first but, I’ve learned that he’s a great communicator just a terrible texter!

Extremely good and useful video. Thanks a lot .🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

At 45, I really don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do. I'm not sure I would ever have a conversation about my needs at the dating stage. If they don't do the things I need organically, I would just drop them.

@TurningTesting

Жыл бұрын

Is 32 too early to use the same logic? He's 28, wants me to clearly communicate my needs, but in my head I'm like 'it's a common sense to me, but turns out not with you'. The worst is... I did say what I need. When he doesn't pick up, I'm frustrated 'how much do you want to be nagged?' When he does, I'm feeling like I'm 'growing myself a man to my liking ' and feel rotten for seeing him like a robot, not a man 😕

This is really hard when in my last relationship I was love bombed SO much and he texted and called all the time…now normal communication feels like neglect.

@thematthewhusseyy

8 ай бұрын

I always say, reset, readjust.

This is So Good, thank you for seeing the trees for the forest.

Great points here! Thank you!

Good to rewatch this video again before I put things into conclusion . Gonna try communicating about the closeness and see how it goes.

I love this video! The need for connection…that’s it! That’s totally what it boils down to. You’re brilliant and thank you Matthew ❤

I believe that Matthew, you have grown wise enough , your videos nowadays are more down to earth , real and honest , really like this progression in you:).

Hands down the best clip I’ve watched. Thank you for this clarity.

these videos help me calm my ego and question my feelings. thank you Matthew

My guy text me back, whenever I text him, we used to text all the time, but now we have minimize it, but when we talk, is all amazing vibes, sometimes I get nervous, when he doesn’t text me for a couple of days, but I give him space and respect it. Mathew has showed me A lot! ☺️

Now I k ow what channel to return to when I cannot find the words to describe my feelings. This was so refreshing to hear. Thank you🤎

The best is to find a connection and the touching point between two people. Thanks for great advise Mat!

@AlviTVBD

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯 Mat is amazing. If I was a girl, I would fall in love with him, hands down. My mom's name is Anna too btw

@annatamamyan4669

2 жыл бұрын

@@AlviTVBD Agree totally and he gives advice beyond the dating scheme.

I feel like I should have paid for this advice 🙏🏾 👌🏾 so well communicated. I fully agree with this,makes perfect sense.!

Hard thruth is that if someone is really interested they find the way to communicate, and it's up to you wether you are happy with the frequency, medium... for me work is a priority and I would be texting that much if I'm on a meeting or have to be really focus on something I have to get done, and I would respect someone that does the same. I dated this guy that didn't text much during the day but called me everytime he left work, so I knew he was interested and investing on the relationship

Great topic!!! 🌟👏🏼

I expressed directly that I felt like the communication was not working anymore and his reaction was to leave me on read. Sometimes no text is message enough... Gotta let it go

Absolutely helpful video. Thnks so much 4 clarifying things. Bad texting is becomin sumthin of a Debate with most men these days. But it basically shows Inconsistencies n How little effort they put into the most basic of communication. Thanks again Matthew!

Great tips! And speaking of not being comparable with someone… No matter how much you might like someone - it’s not going to work out in the long run, if they’re not the right type of people for you! If you want a happy life - consider someone that fits your personality, that matches well with you, and that is supportive of what you want to do - and actually wants to be part of it! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

Love this insight and thinking about it sooo true thank you I know what direction I’m taking now and it’s not going forward in my relationship I have confidence now to end things thanks again x

This is genius! Never thought about this! Thank you!

I really needed this today. I’m going through this right now. I can’t believe this was posted today, oh my gosh! Matthew, thank you for everything you do!

@1maybeline

2 жыл бұрын

Call him out on it from the beginning, otherwise the relationship will linger and go nowhere.

@frenchymia1982

2 жыл бұрын

Same here! He keeps saying he is extremely busy and that’s y he can’t text as much as he used to… but haven’t heard from him for the past 4 days now.. so, don’t know if he is lying or not 🤷‍♀️

@1maybeline

2 жыл бұрын

@@frenchymia1982 If it's a new relationship, there will be many games played & you will have to play as well. You need to make yourself busy. Start working out, a hobby a class, etc - just start doing things you enjoy. This will automatically make you more attractive and give you the opportunity to meet someone who's more serious about finding their love and being in a relationship.

@frenchymia1982

2 жыл бұрын

@@1maybeline thanks for replying… that’s exactly what I’m doing.. just keeping myself busy. I don’t like waiting after people anymore .

@syahiraamran2800

Жыл бұрын

Same girl...someone recently stop texting me and refuse to even answer my simple text of "How are u today?"...

I feel like attachment styles play a big part in this scenario. I’m avoidant/secure so I don’t need a lot of texting all day, everyday. Too much and it makes me pull away, tbh. So I have a hard time dating those with anxious attachment styles that need constant interaction/validation. Doesn’t mean I’m not interested, just means our needs differ.

Such a good video. Much love to you, brother.

Nice work, thank you 🌷

If the person is interested, that person will call or text or something. Very good advice about communication. Thank you

I rather be single. It’s not worth the stress. People have such bad communication skills it’s not even funny. It’s a turn off. Idc if I’m by myself at least I know I’m happy.

@starzintheskyz4477

10 ай бұрын

Same here

nailed this one for me today. Matthew thank you for the breakdown. very helpful to hear.

I needed to listen to this. Thank you

Thank you for this timely video! My recent attempt at having this conversation about needing more closeness with my bf resulted in a devastating breakup. This helps me see that it was a compatibility issue instead of a rejection/abandonment.

@TruthQuest1

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that. You make a good point. It is more of a compatibility issue rather than a rejection issue. Sometimes we take it as rejection when what we need to do is reframe it.

This was so helpful. I thorough enjoy how you break these scenarios down and great effective ways to communicate. I'm curious to know do these solutions apply to long distance dating/relationships?

u r the best. this video is another golden piece ❤

Wow ur amazingg. Ur right at the end of the day, ”am i happy?” “are we compatible?” its all that matters!!!

I thrive on conversation but Im genuinely a bad texter when it comes to relationships. I feel like no words can fairly compare to the simplicity and beauty of listening a voice or to see a smile. The guy I'm dating now is also a bad texter (lucky for me, cause he understands) but he enjoys conversation too. So, we rather talk.

Constant delays means they're usually not that interested or maybe too nice and insecure about rejecting, maybe currently not interested or scared to bring new people into their life too. Can't force people to like us but some open up, some won't

Wonderful video! Thank you!

Omg great timing!

I do think when someone says “I’m a bad texter” is an excuse. It isn’t difficult to send a text to show someone you are thinking of them or that you have an interest in them. If the person is a bad texter, then they should be expressing some sort of affection in some way (phone call, seeing you, sending memes, etc) to show that the person is thinking of you. People work and have other commitments as well but if someone can’t make that attempt to give you that “closeness”, then maybe the person is not for you unfortunately.

It's a MAJOR red flag and shouldn't be ignored. The communication should pick up after dates. You really should be hearing from someone daily if there's actual intent of dating you. If you don't hear from them daily, if the texts are dry or seem like you have to pull teeth to get anything going, or if you find that you're anxiously looking at your phone wondering when you'll hear from them again, they are either: 1. Playing massive games that are designed to trigger your attachment style. I consider great dates and bad or no texting to be a kind of intermittent reinforcement set up. They are setting you up to wonder, crave, feel some relief with crumbs of attention. Don't take it. or, 2. They are genuinely not interested in you. They may want you as an option if the mood strikes or they're in your area, but they aren't thinking of having you in their circle. They don't see you as material for the inner circle and they are deliberately keeping you out. I say "deliberate" because people often wonder if the bad texter KNOWS what they're doing. They do. They don't care. Move on. If you do decide to bring up this problem and they CONTINUE to do the same thing, RUN!

got my answer! exactly what i needed to hear! he's DONE for me ,not gonna even bother to tell him anything

damn, Matthew, once again this is so very helpful!