I’m 7 years into a relationship, we’ve lived together the whole time. I’m exhausted. I do as much as I can for him but finally coming to terms that I’m not receiving anything back, at all.
@yvalentinfg
11 ай бұрын
I feel the exact same way here. Also, been living with him for 7.5 years. I’m mentally exhausted. About to throw in the towel.
@kimdavis5403
10 ай бұрын
Same. 10 years. I’m done. After efforts while dating, once some men move in they think relationship requires no more work-sure-like it’s gonna self sustain for years 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
@connecticut730
7 ай бұрын
Question, why not try to reignite the passion. Why throw away? Woman on these posts seem cold. I am in a relationship where we went into auto pilot and want to date like when first met. Part of our problem is throwing away stuff. Go have a conversation with someone that's been married for 50 years. At the end, you want those shared memories and rock by your side. No doubt nobody wants to carry a dead relationship, but what happened to fixing things??
@Caposie
2 ай бұрын
I read don’t give a man more than he is willing to give. Women need to stop over giving. We are not their mothers. Try not giving and see what happens as an experiment.
@poolmilethirty2859
2 ай бұрын
Some men just marry to have kids and have someone take care of them as well as him. So sad
@simplyher537611 ай бұрын
The "barely notices" got me 😞
@CrystalDatingCoach Жыл бұрын
That's when you WALK away. If the plant is dead... No amount of water can make it come alive again.
@vivayo45882 ай бұрын
8 years of this and explaining it to my partner. he still does not get it. he says we have no couple issues. of course not for him. i truly pay attention, see him and demonstrate it. after 8 years here, now is on me, i guess.
@YGTheFreak_Official
20 күн бұрын
4 years in thank you ❤ youve helped me, I hope that helps. It's all lessons learn em do what's best for you please you, if they don't think of you consistently make a decision fully based on you with none of them in it....no thinking of them. It's reciprocated energy
@StationOutlook Жыл бұрын
And thats exactly why i ran like the wind after 1 whole year of that
@Mushroom321-2 ай бұрын
Great education of awareness!! 😮😮
@AfiDeSouza-qf6nf3 күн бұрын
Thank you this an important point.
@Forheavenssake1ify Жыл бұрын
We have to see out their eyes. When we see what they see, they see what we see, our vison is united, shared, excited, engaged- "Two sided", I guess? When one sees only their own goals, it's "one sided".
@donharris8846
8 күн бұрын
This is interesting but difficult for people to do
@oddballchic2 ай бұрын
Yes, this is real. If you don’t feel your loved ones with you even when you are apart, what even is that?
@user-yk9tz4fl4uАй бұрын
Exactly
@dianachristou5116Ай бұрын
So helpful
@mindbodygreen
Ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@belleofthecamp65307 күн бұрын
Yes!
@patriciaengle5930 Жыл бұрын
Amen , goeie preek , Esther ! U got that right !
@annlatham15 күн бұрын
Hi Esther! Will you please think about going on Valeria Lipovetsky’s podcast one day? ❤🙏🏼
@elizabethbrehm899611 ай бұрын
Spot on
@harishnarendrula13772 ай бұрын
Thank You Loads
@sussannekeith56762 ай бұрын
Yes, exactly 😮
@valdius85Ай бұрын
Unless both people put in the effort, the relationship dies. Most logically thinking people understand that when they enter the relationship, but as time goes on they take it for granted. Both men and women. Sometime couples are fine as they have satisfying life outside of marriage and don’t need that much physical connection. For those who need connection this is a disaster.
@melkernerАй бұрын
I only exist to take care of the laundry, feeding the family, doing the dishes - I wish I got as much attention as her smartphone. Hasn't touched me in 8 years - not interested.
@timothywilson32537 күн бұрын
O yes, you exsist for me , I think of your relationship talks often or at least , frequently .
@thetruther95411 ай бұрын
I know Esther. The first reason you gave the relationship was failing and you going to start the obstacle game, in front of Bill Maher, was your man was just sitting there, ignoring you on the phone. You said, that’s the way it is, people just scrolling and scrolling there on the phone. So that is the start of the problem. I remember that without even looking. So, what to do to make it exciting? Masturbation cannot play a role? It’s like my father figure when I was a teenager “I’ll be damned if I’m going to play with myself”. I’ll really have to pay attention, Esther, why can’t you be satisfied? And if indeed, it was the wrong man, why haven’t you found the better one yet? How many times till you realize this “ravishing” is never going to happen. It’s pathological. It’s triangulation. It’s undeserved attention, because you’re making a promise you can’t deliver. If I am a damn good ravisher and I know it? Will I ravish you? Or will you break my heart? Telling me you thought I was sexy, but not enough for you. Maybe Bill Maher could have been a little more gentle, but he said the right things at the right time. If I was Bill Maher, how about I try and satisfy you by brushing your hair? To begin with.
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So eloquently explained. Thank you Esther.
I’m 7 years into a relationship, we’ve lived together the whole time. I’m exhausted. I do as much as I can for him but finally coming to terms that I’m not receiving anything back, at all.
@yvalentinfg
11 ай бұрын
I feel the exact same way here. Also, been living with him for 7.5 years. I’m mentally exhausted. About to throw in the towel.
@kimdavis5403
10 ай бұрын
Same. 10 years. I’m done. After efforts while dating, once some men move in they think relationship requires no more work-sure-like it’s gonna self sustain for years 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
@connecticut730
7 ай бұрын
Question, why not try to reignite the passion. Why throw away? Woman on these posts seem cold. I am in a relationship where we went into auto pilot and want to date like when first met. Part of our problem is throwing away stuff. Go have a conversation with someone that's been married for 50 years. At the end, you want those shared memories and rock by your side. No doubt nobody wants to carry a dead relationship, but what happened to fixing things??
@Caposie
2 ай бұрын
I read don’t give a man more than he is willing to give. Women need to stop over giving. We are not their mothers. Try not giving and see what happens as an experiment.
@poolmilethirty2859
2 ай бұрын
Some men just marry to have kids and have someone take care of them as well as him. So sad
The "barely notices" got me 😞
That's when you WALK away. If the plant is dead... No amount of water can make it come alive again.
8 years of this and explaining it to my partner. he still does not get it. he says we have no couple issues. of course not for him. i truly pay attention, see him and demonstrate it. after 8 years here, now is on me, i guess.
@YGTheFreak_Official
20 күн бұрын
4 years in thank you ❤ youve helped me, I hope that helps. It's all lessons learn em do what's best for you please you, if they don't think of you consistently make a decision fully based on you with none of them in it....no thinking of them. It's reciprocated energy
And thats exactly why i ran like the wind after 1 whole year of that
Great education of awareness!! 😮😮
Thank you this an important point.
We have to see out their eyes. When we see what they see, they see what we see, our vison is united, shared, excited, engaged- "Two sided", I guess? When one sees only their own goals, it's "one sided".
@donharris8846
8 күн бұрын
This is interesting but difficult for people to do
Yes, this is real. If you don’t feel your loved ones with you even when you are apart, what even is that?
Exactly
So helpful
@mindbodygreen
Ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
Yes!
Amen , goeie preek , Esther ! U got that right !
Hi Esther! Will you please think about going on Valeria Lipovetsky’s podcast one day? ❤🙏🏼
Spot on
Thank You Loads
Yes, exactly 😮
Unless both people put in the effort, the relationship dies. Most logically thinking people understand that when they enter the relationship, but as time goes on they take it for granted. Both men and women. Sometime couples are fine as they have satisfying life outside of marriage and don’t need that much physical connection. For those who need connection this is a disaster.
I only exist to take care of the laundry, feeding the family, doing the dishes - I wish I got as much attention as her smartphone. Hasn't touched me in 8 years - not interested.
O yes, you exsist for me , I think of your relationship talks often or at least , frequently .
I know Esther. The first reason you gave the relationship was failing and you going to start the obstacle game, in front of Bill Maher, was your man was just sitting there, ignoring you on the phone. You said, that’s the way it is, people just scrolling and scrolling there on the phone. So that is the start of the problem. I remember that without even looking. So, what to do to make it exciting? Masturbation cannot play a role? It’s like my father figure when I was a teenager “I’ll be damned if I’m going to play with myself”. I’ll really have to pay attention, Esther, why can’t you be satisfied? And if indeed, it was the wrong man, why haven’t you found the better one yet? How many times till you realize this “ravishing” is never going to happen. It’s pathological. It’s triangulation. It’s undeserved attention, because you’re making a promise you can’t deliver. If I am a damn good ravisher and I know it? Will I ravish you? Or will you break my heart? Telling me you thought I was sexy, but not enough for you. Maybe Bill Maher could have been a little more gentle, but he said the right things at the right time. If I was Bill Maher, how about I try and satisfy you by brushing your hair? To begin with.
@SelfImageStylist
3 ай бұрын
no idea what ur talking about
I don't understand.. someone pls explain..
@jasminnyturner
11 ай бұрын
what don't you understand?
i smell BS and CAP