Men are quick to disrespect the advice of the sheikh as soon as it requires them to do something they dislike.

@fitim1

7 ай бұрын

​@sha-meem6474 bro, what are you on? Females have many more rights than mens. Respect them!

@thewaytosalvation145

7 ай бұрын

It's not an opinion all scholars hold akhi kzread.info/dash/bejne/a56h0NlynNqToKQ.htmlsi=u_fAL56Ju535nyh5

@nobodyisborngayislam

7 ай бұрын

Bring evidence for your claims

@Batman-_______

7 ай бұрын

Ohhhh so you want to fu*k around before settling. Go on b*

@hyunnieshinee1415

7 ай бұрын

​@@sha-meem6474when u dont have the first wife's permission, youre already violating her rights for emotional and mental support. The Prophet SAW didnt let Ali remarry koz his daughter, Fatimah, would be hurt a lot. Rasulullah SAW asked Ali to divorce her first if he still wanted to marry another woman, so Ali didnt actually get a second wife. The Prophet said "Fatimah is a part of me and anyone that hurts her, hurts me".

Narrated by Abu Huraira: I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself." Sahih al-Bukhari 6069

@mounir9899

11 ай бұрын

Muhammed SWS said its better to marry virgin women

@fifitheflowerpot

11 ай бұрын

SubhanAllah Allahu Akbar He's most merciful forgiving. 😢

@idrea43

11 ай бұрын

Slap it in the marriage contract "if she is not a virgin then the marriage is null" so there will be no chance to expose sins.

@frenzybuzz3703

10 ай бұрын

@@idrea43 I hope a muslim woman has the same option to do so.

@idrea43

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u And we also have the sunnah of marrying a virgin, which i will contently pursue. Surely it shouldn't be that difficult if the Muslimahs are under control

A lot of people are misunderstanding this, this is not about the importance of a woman being a virgin, it is important for them to be virgin just like it is important for us men, the point here is about the disrespect in the question, if youre not sure a woman is virgin then why would u propose to her in the first place? You're insulting her honor and reputation by asking that question. If you think its important for you to marry a virgin then go to a house or a woman you are sure are people who fear god. Otherwise youre simply ignorant to taste.

@kamruzzamanuzzal3764

7 ай бұрын

finally, someone understands in this comment section. there's nothing wrong with having preference, but asking such disrespectful question is bad.

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

There really is no disrespect though in this question guys so I really want to know what the actual issue is here? It is perfectly fine to ask a woman if she's a virgin without having her expose her sins. And you can never be too sure, not especially in the western countries

@mohammedkhalfan7985

7 ай бұрын

Theres nothing wrong in asking that question. you can never be sure whether they are virgin or not even if they appear as people who fear god.

@v.m.k_x8416

7 ай бұрын

⁠@@mohammedkhalfan7985Just don’t assume the worst it’s not good for you or the woman, especially if you want to marry a Muslim woman. You can ask her if she was married before or not.

@v.m.k_x8416

7 ай бұрын

@@KernelMarinethen don’t marry someone from the west or lives in the west

Me when I was 7 year old. Scholars : "Don't meet with girls, it's haram." Me when I was 10 year old. Scholars : "Don't talk to girls, it's haram." Me when I was 18 year old. Scholars : "Lower your gaze and don't look towards girls, it's haram." Me when I was 21 year old. Scholars : "Don't hangout with girls, it's haram. Keep yourself chaste." Me when I was 25 year old and getting ready for the marriage. Scholars : "Kick him out if he asks about woman's chastity." Me : "🥺"

@usereal

Ай бұрын

So you can’t marry without asking that question? Funny how men only listens to shikh if they like the answers

@Code8564

Ай бұрын

@@usereal Your question is like, "Can't you be able to eat the food even if it's poisoned??!"

@Code8564

Ай бұрын

@@usereal Would you marry a man who had past?

@usereal

Ай бұрын

@@Code8564 poisoned? What if she lost her virginity because she was raped and didn’t commit zina? May Allah guide you

@usereal

Ай бұрын

@@Code8564 If he repent why not? All of us are sinners as long as we do our best to repent and never do them again

if a woman or a man are known to be sinners (committed zina) avoid them and look for a better spouse. If you found out later and you know they repented then just forgive and move on. Allah el musta3an

@piqueny8872

10 ай бұрын

This is why imams tell men to wear contraceptions for the first few years of marriage! Test out the waters and find out clear who they new wife is Don’t want to have children with An adulteress

@robthebob4586

10 ай бұрын

@@piqueny8872Which Imam says this?

@piqueny8872

10 ай бұрын

@@robthebob4586 most of theses online imams are advocating use birth control. Since the Muslim divorce rate is up to 75%. And too many divorced single mothers out there

@SuicidalSummerSnowWoman

9 ай бұрын

​@@piqueny8872 thats the 1st im hearing of it

@lockdown1516

7 ай бұрын

What if they do not regret it and now i cannot leave her cz I'll lose half my wealth and possibly my children.i believe in Allah swt wholeheartedly but my advice to everyone would be to respect and love women but not get into any contract/marriage,may Allah forgive me.

The best and simple way is just be the spouse you want. If you commit zina you can't expect your spouse to have not committed it. As male fornicator would only marry a female fornicator

@Padraigp

6 ай бұрын

It does not matter of the past what matters is the present that you create. It's not the bussiness of either to ask of the other and judge the other. Let Allah judge or don't bother following a religion at all.

@World_islam_forever

6 ай бұрын

@@Padraigp yeah I know for those who have repented it is not specifically for those but male fornicator for female fornicator is mentioned for those who are still by the time they are getting married or looking to get married and are still into the act of commiting zina. Hope you got it.

@World_islam_forever

6 ай бұрын

@@Padraigp and I guess you are a jew. If , you are a jew then I don't need any knowledge about my religion from you.thankyou 😊

@Padraigp

6 ай бұрын

@@World_islam_forever why would you guess that?

@Padraigp

6 ай бұрын

@World_islam_forever oh well if you continue to make a mistake then that is certainly better to marry your equal than to trick a good person into a trap with you.

This sounds like solid advice. We shouldn't be asking that question. So long as nothing of the sort happens whilst your married. And she seems to be a good person from what you have known of her before getting married.

@nolicensemechanic8223

7 ай бұрын

But bro what if the girl has fuked 13 of ur friends and u find out later

@misokagigachad67

6 ай бұрын

Also it keeps stuck in your head if your fiance had a relationship or not. Ythere is no need to ruin your possibly beautiful relationship my firends. Don't ask and tell yoır past.

@Skm-pm6qw

6 ай бұрын

Stupidity.... "Purity of a man is for purity of women". Quran .. these sheik is just putting his personal opinion. If a man purity then a women will slso be. He rather should say that ask in different way. Because no men want a women to be his wife who have slept eith miltiple men.

@xh56758

6 ай бұрын

Simp logic

@ozkan576

6 ай бұрын

@@xh56758its the sunnah you goofball.

I think it's important to be sure with her akhlaq and how obedient she is to Allah. And If you find her atractive then she has no isue but if you still insist to ask virgin or not, you are not the right husband for a good woman.

@usereal

Ай бұрын

Funny how men only listens to shikh if they like the answers

as respectfully as possible, i disagree with the sheikh here. the sheikh used to live during times where everyone was pious and chaste, nowadays, this is not the case. many studies show that even the muslims of this generation commit zina before marriage. this disgusting and filthy act is very common in the west, hell, even the east at this point due to western propaganda normalizing it. if i am a virgin then i have the right to uphold my future spouse to the same standards that i’ve held myself up to. many men and women want a partner that hasn’t been touched in the past and rightfully so. how would you lot feel if you found out 10 years after marriage that your spouse had premarital intercourse with someone else? don’t judge others for their preferences and standards, that is surely a disgusting thing to shame someone else for.

@ZachariaSaidov

2 ай бұрын

For all 13 years of my life, I have lived under the delusion that Muslims do not commit zina🤕. My environment and homeland are too good. O Allah, keep them like this until the Day of Judgment

@usereal

Ай бұрын

Funny how men only listens to shikh if they like the answers

@Dont-worry1618

Ай бұрын

@@usereal shut up

@usereal

Ай бұрын

@@Dont-worry1618 nope don’t be that mad

@Dont-worry1618

Ай бұрын

@@usereal ur spamming which is gay

I know a boy 16 years white girlfriend and got married from Pakistan . Everyone know his past relationship except his wife . I feel sorry for that girl .

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

Now imagine she knew? She 100% will ask for a divorce, i don’t know if you knew for the beginning before her getting married to him but the dude should’ve been honest from the beginning, this is not fair for her and (idk if this is right) but personally i would tell her

@nidaiqbal2731

5 ай бұрын

Problem is if she knows she still not going to divorce . I found out while I was doing English course and she was in my class and during course she became pregnant . Sometime not knowing is better but I am sure she will find out sooner or later .

@sakuranagifr

2 ай бұрын

you sound like a kaafir congratulations on being used by shaytan

@sakuranagifr

2 ай бұрын

​@BestPKSA yeah your shaytans best friend go enjoy being a kaafir with abu lahab

@aliabbas2722

Ай бұрын

It's not prob with men it's for women very long explaination

😂 i just love this sheikh. Absolutely 💯 right.

I will continue to ask this question when looking for a spouse, marrying someone with a count or with a high count is unfair to my offspring. I dont mind if she gets offended and wants to kick me out il leave. I dont think this sheikh understands the current day and age and how much fitna there is going around.

@hassanqureshi773

5 ай бұрын

Fax

@farazsiddiqui1312

2 ай бұрын

I have to agree with you

@tinkuroopa2754

2 ай бұрын

that is why in Patriarchal societies they check the bedsheet for blood stains after intercourse and if its not found then they will kick her out. so to avoid all these kind of things some men ask it before whether she is a virgin or not and those women get offended, but if a man kicks her out after intercourse saying i didn't find any proof of virginity then it would be fine for them.

@soka4197

2 ай бұрын

@@tinkuroopa2754 People like you are ignorant and stupid, some women loses her hymen from accident, riding a bike or a horse etc. Can make a women lose their hymen.

@zaza-0704

2 ай бұрын

​@tinkuroopa2754 ,this is so sick. People have to understand that not every virgin woman bleeds on her first time. Not every woman is born with a hymen. People really need to study or inform themselves about the female body and its biology. So, as you said, it's best to just ask them and not do this crap with the white beed sheet thing (which is a cultural practice and not Islamic culture as far as I know).

If a girl is virgin then she will 100% say with confidence ''yes, '' ...If she is not then stayed silent or refused to say ...Then you got the answer🎉

@youngcoder4721

5 ай бұрын

No if a girl is not virgin she will be able to fool you easily.

@RealMk600

5 ай бұрын

exactly this was what I was thinking

@nickkerr6068

4 ай бұрын

Why would anyone want to marry a girl who's been with multiple men? This is a valid question especially in today's society

@Tiger_the_Gunner

3 ай бұрын

​@@RealMk600 Really !!! What's the proof that she's not lying 🙄 So difficult to get the honest answer in these modern ages especially in Muslim majority countries 😑 Hope unmarried females are single & so crystal clear minded just like us (the virgin males of the world who don't believe any kind of physical relation before marriage & hate free mixing) 😴

@ballinspalding11

2 ай бұрын

Asking the question itself is disrespectful. You shouldn't even bother with the question in the first place.

I need a young woman who's a nut-case like me to marry 😂 We'll be a virgin couple during marriage and our first experience will be in our desired honeymoon 🤣

The man should ask if she has married before, instead of asking are you virgin

I love this guy he doesn't mess about straight to the point.

If I controlled my urge for 15 years and stayed a v!rgin just to keep Allah happy then why can't I ask for women who is also v!rgin??🤷🏻🤷🏻 Is it wrong to ask, I don't think so,if she was divorced then it's okay but if she lost her v!rginity by doing zina then sorry to say she is not the person i would like to merry even if she beautiful as angels. I'm not asking for too much I'm asking for something which i have and i have the right to ask for it! ⚽️⚽️⚽️⚽️

@taimurahmad

10 ай бұрын

You can put in marriage contract. Simple. Just dont ask directly

@onestate7734

10 ай бұрын

99% of Muslim women are virgins, therefore asking such questions is really insulting. It actually show that the man has trust issues. Even if you tell no he will keep doubting.

@Afonso-valhelas

10 ай бұрын

@@onestate7734 I see what sooo called Muslim women does women they come to USA or Canada or in France. They forget that they're Muslim and dreess way worse than a normal American would do. I've many arab girls kissing boys in street but she's wearing jihab or bihaj whatever you call it to cover up the head. Ain't no I'm going to let this happen with me. I Ain't gonna merry any Arabs in my life, i don't like them at all!

@maybemera8370

7 ай бұрын

Do you think that even if you asked hee that question and she committed Zina before she would answer yes ? Of course NO As the sheikh said even if the woman had a relationship she wouldn't accept to be asked this question is it okay for you for someone to come and ask you if your sister is a Virgin or she had a relationship before ? Won't you find this insulting ?

@kamruzzamanuzzal3764

7 ай бұрын

there's nothing wrong with having preferences, but asking such disrespectful question is bad. Doesn't matter which gender asks. Instead find out her life from her close associates. Especially their 'aunties', they are best to keep track of ppl and know all the gossips. Or just go for a girl who is raised in a proper household and who reads Quran to gain knowledge and understand the meanings. This option is much safer bet. This goes for both genders, not just girls.

I agree, I wouldn’t marry a woman if I wasn’t 100% I wanted her to have my children. Me asking that is a HUGE insult to her.

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

This is not just for her buddy whatever the sheikh said is wrong for both genders! Are you willing to marry a guy who did zina with another chick? Personally no i would not

i would rather ask and be thrown out. than not ask.

@a.d2019

Ай бұрын

To be fair i think you ask this before you live together. So how can she kick you out anyway 🤣. There is no point in asking if she’s virgin when you had a wedding and now living together.

@usereal

Ай бұрын

Funny how men only listens to shikh if they like the answers

@zenastronomy

Ай бұрын

@@usereal funny how women listen to kaffir west cos they like their answers more

@Alma3924

Ай бұрын

This is not about a condition for marriage or whatsenot. Its about embarassing the woman's reputation by asking such question right after proposing. Right after. If you want a pious wife then live your life as a pious man and try to find someone who is close to her deen and who you think is chaste like you. But to question her honor in such a disgusting manner is absolutely ridiculous and a shameful way to propose.

@zenastronomy

Ай бұрын

@@Alma3924 you don't ask after proposing, you ask before. and it isn't about questioning someones honour. it's reality. i would expect the same from the girl and they do ask similar questions. but no one is condemning them. and if the girl isn't asking the guy if he has had a girlfriend, or done drugs or done alcohol etc, she's also being naive and stupid. it's the whole point of doing background checks. to make sure you are marrying someone compatible and chaste.. sorry if that puts your knickers in a twist. but the age of assuming virginity from unmarried Muslim girls and boys is gone. we don't live in that age anymore. where the default was, people who were chaste and people who committed zina, ppl who drunk alcohol and ppl who didn't, ppl who prayed 5 times a day and ppl who didn't, were easily known by the entire community, due to entire cities being smaller than a building. I'll even give you an example, what is a bigger sin not praying 5 times a day or zina? yet ppl ask the question do you pray 5 times a day to their prospective spouses. is that also not revealing a sin? they do it because it is important. and if there is a reason to reveal a sin, it is allowed in islam. from stds, to children, to violence, to addiction, etc. these are enough reasons to reveal such sins.

Be respectful brothers 😂

There's signs to look for instead of just asking

@ThemediocreZai

11 ай бұрын

Which is?

@cryptoinanutshell

11 ай бұрын

@@ThemediocreZai redbill community will tell you

@queensheebah6251

11 ай бұрын

What was the sign?

@staypatient2816

11 ай бұрын

😂😂 did you saw the future? No one knows expect her and Allah.

@Skm-pm6qw

6 ай бұрын

Stupidity.... "Purity of a man is for purity of women". Quran .. these sheik is just putting his personal opinion. If a man purity then a women will slso be. He rather should say that ask in different way. Because no men want a women to be his wife who have slept eith miltiple men.

And if the woman or man gives you a life-threatening STD after marriage?

@timexpeachtree

11 ай бұрын

😂 ya sheikh even that will be a tribulations for the private sinners or even pious people's Allah is taking away their sin plby threatening them in this world and making their akirah even more blessed

@timexpeachtree

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u I know my mom was a virgin, don't have other female siblings.

@hondaeownerreviews8608

10 ай бұрын

That's why both of you go for tests before

@piqueny8872

10 ай бұрын

Use condoms

@barahui9

7 ай бұрын

​@@hondaeownerreviews8608 I side with this. But is it feasible? "Hey I'm serious about wanting to marry your daughter, let's go get tested."

Unfortunately our dear shiekh lives in a land where zina is not as prevalent as it is in the west. A women who indulges herself in zina will often have mental health problems and a bad choice for marriage. I suggest not asking the question directly but rather set a standard for example you can say " I have never committed zina or been in a haram relationship and I would prefer to marry someone whom is like this also. This way you have not offended anyone but you have set a standard. May Allah strengthen us all. Ameen This is an important matter and we shouldn't play it down.

@tanweeralam1650

6 ай бұрын

True

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

Im a middle eastern and i agree with you but if I were you i would go straight to the point I wouldn’t want to risk it. The shiekh has made a big mistake on this one, I would never ever want to touch a woman that was once touched by another dude especially when Im the one who’s obligated to pay mahar while he got it for free, I understand some of the other men’s anger this is not fair at all Allah knows best

@felix0-014

5 ай бұрын

So genuine question here. What is your opinion of reverts who committed Zinna before Shahada or widows? 🤨 How do you go about that? Do you hold your buddies to the same standard of celibacy?

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

@@felix0-014 yes

@rustygear9370

5 ай бұрын

@@felix0-014 It is not prohibited to marry a repent, a divorcee or a widow, eventhough whenever there's choice, it's recommended to pick the virgin. In all cases, the husband should be aware of her personal history (and vice versa) for the sake of clarity and honesty. BTW, in the quran, allah says that fornicators and associators couldnt marry a believer (each camp marries their likes), so as long as revert is in fact a believer this doesn't apply to her anymore, in condition that she leaves her sinful life behind once and for all. Allah knows better.

Is it me,waiting the boom sound?😂 Love this sheikh

The first thing that comes to mind is “my past isnt important” Her past: (everyone knows what im talking about)

@abdurrehman5431

4 ай бұрын

😂

The one could say he dodged a bullet

People , if u r not a virgin, don't marry a virgin guy. Don't make him suffer all the time

@s_shaleh

6 ай бұрын

How would you even know if a man is a virgin or not?

@Dont-worry1618

6 ай бұрын

@@s_shalehTry to find his friends and see what type of people are they.

@-S_J-

6 ай бұрын

Give same advice to guys too!

@pouyanpk

6 ай бұрын

@@-S_J- fuck the guys they never learn.

@Bilal_is_joking

6 ай бұрын

Suffer from what? Lmao🤣

Yeah until you get an STD or end up raising an illegitimate. Can we ask then?

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

Ignore this thought process, you can definitely marry a virgin and infact, it's a sunnah. You can ask her if she's a virgin, so long as she does not reveal her sins.

@fallingleave5287

Ай бұрын

Then its allowed yes

@fallingleave5287

Ай бұрын

Actually then they have to say it

Well, many Muslim women here in India use this as a strategy. Sowing wild oats in their 20's and when they are ready to settle and start the family, they "REPENT", get Mehar and all other rights a Muslim wife should have.

@nehalazam598

6 ай бұрын

They even doit with their hindu boyfriend for several years and marry off those muslim conservative man to have the best security and then pressure them to face the consequence or else blame them.

@abdurrehman5431

4 ай бұрын

​@@nehalazam598exactly

Sheikhs response is right and wrong at the same time. It’s not black and white. The prophet Muhammad pBUH himself said it’s better to marry a virgin. Firstly asking this question is very disrespectful, to the girl and the father especially if the girl has remained caste and pious her entire life. If she hasn’t been than your asking her to expose sins covered by Allah which is again a big sin. On the other hand nothing wrong with asking for a virgin wife islamically it’s recommended, but there’s a way to go about it. You can list your requirements on a paper or something ie regarding finances, education, work, living arrangements, alongside other requirements and include that you’ll also require the potential to be virgin. She can then reject you and not mention the reason without exposing her sin if she isn’t a virgin. This way your not being disrespectful and at the same time she won’t be exposing her sin if she’s not a virgin and you wouldn’t know the reason for rejection. Could be any of the countless reasons for rejection, happens all the time and you move on. I agree with sheikh on most things , but his response should also take into consideration the reality of todays world. Many women have someone else on mind before marriage and go ahead with it with their heart attached to someone else which creates problems in the marriage down the line and many cases end up in divorce. I see many brothers in the west have this concern, cause of the culture many you muslimahs are commiting zina, and as men it’s our innate desire to marry a chaste woman which is recommended in Islam to begin with. Zina does happen in the east but it’s rare as opposed to west where majority Muslims have done it before marriage as per stats two thirds of Muslims in USA and Canada have committed zina before marriage. Similarly things are as bad in Europe,UK etc. ofcourse zina does happen in the east but it’s not as pravelent due to the environment. So I hope Sheikh takes this consideration for future questions. Sometimes things aren’t black and white and Sheikh is human he can make mistakes. Regardless we should all strive to be good Muslims and pray for a righteous life partner who’ll be the coolness of our eyes.

@hussainak8914

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u Asking such questions directly would be disrespectful and unacceptable. But as I mentioned above I would have no problems for my sister or daughter if a man listed his requirements on a paper etc. Rejection could be due to many reasons and I pray that neither my sister or daughter(if I have one in futur) would commit such major sin inshAllah

@hussainak8914

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u you don’t make no sense men who ask such questions are attracted to zaniyahs? No Muslim man I know wants to marry a zaniyah. That may be a preference for Kafir Dayooth men by not me Akhi. I ain’t even gonna argue with you after you made that statement Salam

@taimurahmad

10 ай бұрын

You are right. Islamweb has fatwa on this He can put in marriage contract. She can be previpusly married no sins exposed

@onestate7734

10 ай бұрын

The virgin mentioned in Hadith meant an unmarried woman not women with haram relations. 99% of Muslim women are virgins, therefore asking such questions is really insulting. It actually show that the man has trust issues. Even if you tell no he will keep doubting.

@KernelMarine

8 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7uwhat is wrong with you?! No issue in asking a woman if she's a virgin in context of marriage without exposing her sins 😂 I myself am virgin and would like to marry a virgin myself, nothing wrong with that

"He's a nutcase". Sheikh gives some mean punchline 😂😂😂

0:00 Here is an alternative for those (like me) who absolutely don't want a woman who had already done Zina: Make a list of all your requirements for a spouse, include "I don't want a wife who have already commited zina" among the other requirements, and if she doesn't check all the boxes (don't make a list too long, stay realistic), then she can refuse without telling you about what point exactly. Everyone is satisfied then !

@Theerevert

11 ай бұрын

Checking a box still puts her/him in a position to admit to things that are between her/him and Allah and it’s still biased in a sense because the entire reason you sent it was to see if he/she was a virgin so you’d automatically assume they weren’t if they didn’t meet expectations. Either way It would be best to simply send the list with out and indicators of what she\ he has done and request that if any apply we must part ways.

@YasserMaghribi

11 ай бұрын

@@Theerevert absolutely not, he/she doesn't have to tell me what isn't checked, it might be the fact that she's not ready to make hijra for example (one of the requirement in the list), or sthg else, and I would never know. And no you're wrong, it would not be my "entire reason", it's also to be sure that the other things are OK with her and to be sure we agree on my most important point (and hers of course) Anyway, that's a solution that has be validated by high-level fiqh students I know, and it is a good way to cover his/her sins without FORCING someone to marry a spouse/husband who had already know another man/woman. I know guys that divorced their spouse because they learned after the marriage that she did it. Let's prevent it with this simple and efficient method..

@ayshasiraj1835

11 ай бұрын

How would you know that she hasn't lied by doing that, better ask from Allah instead of doing such things

@timexpeachtree

11 ай бұрын

​@@ayshasiraj1835you can't accept all the lies saying Allah will absolve of sins, it's rightly said the one who abets (helps) a third is a thief (or in this case a dayooth or and adulterer or adulteress). Also someone who's strong mentally physically intellectually and emotionally and who's faith is strong not bothered about a woman who had a relations

@timexpeachtree

11 ай бұрын

​@@ayshasiraj1835pls I hope all of you understand that not every man is confident or capable to marry a widow or a divorcee as she already have a knowledge of womanly wiles and he is a virgin. Also you have to treat the men who is asking it as someone who is not confident and not capable of being arrogant in relationship.

Zina is a major sin. Trying to bring it down means Qiyamah is near

@s_shaleh

6 ай бұрын

When did this Sheikh do that? Allah doesn't like those who expose their own sins and wrongdoings. So this Sheikh is absolutely right. If a man sees the qualities he's looking for in a partner in a woman and he wishes to marry her then he should not be digging into her past. Nor should a woman be digging into her man's past. Your spouse may have sinned in the past, but if he/she has repented then who are we to judge him/her?

@amayamokamad7649

6 ай бұрын

What is the major sin that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala never forgive???

@creativity2598

6 ай бұрын

@@s_shaleh so you think you won't have a problem if your sister or daughter is married to a man who murdered in the past, someone who did acts of homosexuality in the past?

@What-do-you-want824

6 ай бұрын

​@@s_shalehpast matter for us, Several studies show's that the no of partner women had in past will most likely to effect your marriage in future so why should we take risk by marrying a h0e who doesn't even keep her legs closed before marriage.??🗿

@What-do-you-want824

6 ай бұрын

​@@s_shalehIslam's refusal to expose sins does not imply lying or influencing others to put up with those they do not want. Nobody should be made to feel uncomfortable or antagonistic about wanting certain types of people if they have themselves followed such beliefs.

I don't know why sheikh is getting offended. This ain't about reputation, if the same question was asked to a man I ask sheikh. Would you say the woman is a nutcase?

@darkknight-xm5cj

6 ай бұрын

Simp imams definitely wouldn't

@nafeesmustafa7125

6 ай бұрын

Can you elaborate on your answer. I don't understand what your tryna say. I don't know whether you're being sarcastic or not.

@darkknight-xm5cj

6 ай бұрын

@@nafeesmustafa7125 simp imams would say nothing against women if the roles were reversed Definition of simp (as I use it): A man who violates Islamic norms, either explicitly or implicitly, in order to appease feminist sensibilities, thinking of himself as doing something virtuous and praiseworthy. Synonyms: white knight, cuck

@tawsikabdullah

4 ай бұрын

A woman is also entitled to ask if I do have a job, she asks for my access to resources and it’s fine. Woman are interested in the future of a man. Why if a man is interested in the past of a woman everyone freaks out?

@Usamamohamud

2 ай бұрын

It is haram to answer this question whether youre a man or a woman. You cannot expose your sins after Allah had concealed them for you.

This is wrong you're allowed to have expectations.. you can ask as a list of things and the potential spouse shouldn't lie. Stop spreading lies.

@lolpol6563

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u yes.. Islam has not banned it but there is a way of asking you set out expectations not directly.

@lolpol6563

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u I'm a woman and I would want to ask my future spouse. If I have saved myself then Allah has given me the right to expect somebody the same. I would give a list of my expectations if they do match them they should walk away. These conversations do not need to be a taboo nor do they need to be disrespectful. May Allah guide us all.

@lolpol6563

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u no actually and as a Muslim you shoudknt be assuming such bad things. Unfortunately we live in such a bad world these things needs to be clarified. Maybe you are not pure and that's why this questions will harm your ego so much. Good day. And goodbye.

@lolpol6563

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u I live in the west the things we have heard and seen we are not idiots and Allah has advised us not to be idiots either. If you choose to be that's on you.

@nwordman9180

10 ай бұрын

​@@lolpol6563don't listen to this guy sister, he is hard bend on defending zaanis. It's your right to want a virgin spouse, do not compromise your standards. It's not shameless to ask such important questions. You are making a huge decision of life based on those questions.

Sheikh is always savage 😂

The messenger recommended marrying virgins.

@idothehustletoomuch9431

8 ай бұрын

Which messenger?

@Mochi-re8cv

7 ай бұрын

@@idothehustletoomuch9431 (saw ) ofc :D

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

@@idothehustletoomuch9431 Prophet Muhammad (Salla llahu aleyhi wa-sallam)

@abdullahchowdhury9406

7 ай бұрын

that doesn't mean u go and ask this directly U moron..

@mdabdur-th3yl

7 ай бұрын

Did he tell to ask in this way... or force to expose sins??

honestly I wouldnt want a wife who wasnt a virgin

@Frietoe

11 ай бұрын

It wouldnt hurt you if you didn’t know

@timexpeachtree

11 ай бұрын

Yepp but a strong and faithful virgin man never needs bothered about this, anyway as he not sampled in sin he will have enjoy the fruit of righteousness and patience with halal blessings. Whereas the strongman and faithful women enjoying the adulterer and adulteress will be comparing and crying it can even be lifetime of despair and devastation when one of wife or husband sampled sin. Strongman He won't bother to ask as this is a given as he already said

@staypatient2816

11 ай бұрын

@@Frietoe you will know in bed after marriage. And IT WILL hurt the man as to what kind of dirty woman or pure virgin woman he is marrying! We men don’t want impure women that had done zina with no virginity.

@staypatient2816

11 ай бұрын

@@timexpeachtree please stop with your trsh nonsense! You’re insulting the rights of a man, the sunnah and what Allah has put in us! Fear Allah! Are you that hurt that no man wants you because you’re not pure and virgin? 😢 May Allah make it easy for you. You’re disgusting! You’re probably a kufar feminist, liberal, acting as a Muslim here.

@taimurahmad

11 ай бұрын

The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, recommended marrying virgin women, as Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullaah narrated that he said, “I married a woman during the lifetime of the Messenger of Allaah . I met the Prophet and he asked: “O Jaabir, have you married?” I said, “Yes.” He said: “A virgin or one previously-married?” I said, “A previously-married woman.” Whereupon, he said: “Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could play?” I said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I have sisters; I was afraid that she might intervene between me and them.” He replied: “Then it is that (which is the correct thing to do). A woman is married for her religiousness, wealth and beauty, so you should choose the religious one; lest you lose.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim. This is the wording of Muslim] ‘Utbah ibn ‘Uwaym narrated that the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Marry virgin women for they have sweeter mouths, more fertile wombs, and are more content with what is little.” [Ibn Maajah in his Sunan. Al-Albaani: Hasan] (Sweeter in mouths): It means that their mouths smell good and their saliva is sweeter. It could also mean lack of obscenity and impudence because they still maintain their bashfulness due to not mixing with men. (More content with little): It means that they are content with little expenses and sexual intercourse because they did not experience it before. As Al-Munaawi stated in Faydh Al-Qadeer, the command in the two aforementioned Hadeeths is for recommendation, not for obligation. To us, the preponderant opinion is that marrying virgin women is better in principle, based on the previously mentioned proofs. Taken frpm islamweb

A lot of you men make it a big deal to marry a virgin, yet you yourselves are not virgins. Don't be hypocrites. You guys are so small-minded, not realizing that if Allah had forgiven a person who's repented and lives their life to serve and worship Allah, then Allah has forgiven them. And if Allah has forgiven them and loves them, you have no right to bash anyone for their past.

So she can say that she doesn't want a man that has a second wife. But I can't have a virgin ?🤦

@taimurahmad

9 ай бұрын

You can put in marriage contract. It is allowed

@nhomdefer1153

9 ай бұрын

@@taimurahmad yeah but that's not the point

@Saysomething164

9 ай бұрын

Lol I’m a woman and if a man’s gonna ask me to be a Virgin, I’ll do it. As long as he is. And as long as he does not have another wife.

@jackjoe3848

9 ай бұрын

You're going to debate God?

@nhomdefer1153

9 ай бұрын

@@jackjoe3848 I think you're mixing the point

I have never been in any relationships, Alhamdulillah. But even I wouldn't like being asked such a question. Something about it doesn't feel right, as if there is something wrong with the man's mentality and where his focus is. Social media and media has ruined people's minds.

@eminemfan8203

6 ай бұрын

Would you be offended if someone asked you if you had ever drank alcohol?

@tanweeralam1650

6 ай бұрын

Nope... actually many many girls OWN Bad actions have resulted in this situation.

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

You would feel offended if the man asks you about your virginity but not when you force him to not marry a second wife? hmm

@ZachariaSaidov

2 ай бұрын

Where I'm from such a question is an insult to the girl's honor. All the men of her kind would speak out in her defense and believe me, the outcome would not be good😅 Discussion of any issues relating to the intimate sphere is totally prohibited between unmarried men and women.

@BG-iz1wv

16 күн бұрын

​@BestPKSA A man is to marry a second wife for the sake of raising and supporting orphans and widows. Not for men's stupid pleasure! Allah didn't recommend for men to marry multiple women, except in the case above.

If he only asked to know about the relationship then he has the right, be more respectful sheikh don't get lost in your jokes all the time.

I am clean , I will always want a clean one , not a used one , no matter how reputed she is , if she was actually reputed as he says , she would always stay clean.

I wish we had scholars like him 😢

@haniyasyeda11

7 ай бұрын

He is not scholar

@danyalparacha1761

7 ай бұрын

​@@haniyasyeda11and what are you?

@haniyasyeda11

7 ай бұрын

@@danyalparacha1761 what do u mean by what r u?? 🙄 I said he is not scholar but a sheikh. Why r u even offended by it? 🙄🙄

@HoodReviews

6 ай бұрын

He's clueless when it comes to medical terms

@Skm-pm6qw

6 ай бұрын

Stupidity.... "Purity of a man is for purity of women". Quran .. these sheik is just putting his personal opinion. If a man purity then a women will slso be. He rather should say that ask in different way. Because no men want a women to be his wife who have slept eith miltiple men.

That is just beyond dumb. Before marriage you should clear these things. Otherwise it would become a problem later.

@tawsikabdullah

4 ай бұрын

If any woman kicks the man out, the man got the answer!

@Dont-worry1618

Ай бұрын

@@tawsikabdullah yeah

Okay so an actual question. What if she is not a virgin? And no one asked her, and they got married, and turns out she wasnt a virgin? What do you do next? You can divorce her and pay all of the moakhar and all that stuff and loose your money? I actually need an answer to that question. And btw "forgive" is not an option. I cant trust a girl that cant keep guys outside of her pants to be the mother of my children

I don't trust a person who purposely hide their previous relationship even after they are asked about it.

I respect this shiehk so much now

@Dont-worry1618

Ай бұрын

I hope u did not do anything

OF/Tinder girls gonna save this one in their bookmarks 😂 If you're gonna wait till then to ask, you didn't do enough research.

@usereal

Ай бұрын

I’m too young I’ve never even touch a boy’s hand الحمدالله, I don’t know any Muslim OF girls ( I hope there’s no Muslim doing that ) but I’m saving this bc of the comments because Funny how men only listens to shikh if they like the answers

@user-gc5cn9me2k

Ай бұрын

​@@userealstop spamming the same comment everywhere. Just shut up.

@usereal

Ай бұрын

@@user-gc5cn9me2k since you’re mad abt it I won’t stop :>

If you saved yourself from zina and impurity then you have the rights to expect the same from your potential future life partner. I'm not saying about what is right or wrong, if you had been virgin all your life(till marriage) then you can wish/hope the same from the opposite gender. Nobody wants to be deceived. However there are exceptions. If he/she is a revert muslim then It's a different case If he/she is a divorced person/widow or something similar(had halal relationship) then that's also a different case. What many people wants, is to avoid someone who had haram relationship(even though she/he was a muslim and had basic understanding of islam)

@tanweeralam1650

6 ай бұрын

Yes

Just because this sheikh has 12 daughters doesn’t mean he shouldn’t think for the man’s priorities too. I rather marry a virgin woman than someone who had a disturbing past. And why im the one who has some problems. A woman is also entitled to ask if I do have a job, she asks for my access to resources and it’s fine. Woman are interested in the future of a man. Why if a man is interested in the past of a woman everyone freaks out?

@faheemahmed5786

9 ай бұрын

This should be a lesson for us. Just because a woman's father is a sheikh doesn't necessarily ensure that the woman is a pious woman. Her father may deliver a sl*t in the guise of a pious woman.

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

@@faheemahmed5786 You're right but maybe phrase it a bit more friendly akhi, kind advice from my side.

@zulhilmi5787

7 ай бұрын

You having the job is compulsory due to your responsibilities as a husband to give nafkah to your wife. A woman despite having a virginity or not would not impact her responsibility towards you. Learn to know the difference. Everyone had their past. She might already repented and maybe Allah already accepted it. That's not for you to open what had been concealed.

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

@@zulhilmi5787 The point is that while Allah may have forgiven her for her past, it is not a nice history to have and many men are disgusted by such a history. Unfortunately, too many women have a past that, simply put, is vile and it raises the question of who would want to have this person with such a past be his wife and mother of his children? We can and will pursue the sunnah of marrying a virgin

@zulhilmi5787

7 ай бұрын

@@KernelMarine So you can't accept what Allah already forgave? It doesn't matter what history they had if they already repent on it. You know who else turning a new leaf and repented from their past? The Sahaba. Yes they repent from their past and become the best ummah to ever walked the earth. If we can appreciate the Sahaba due to their pious I don't see any reason not to do the same for a woman who already repent from her past.

Before marriage make all things clear if it comes in front after marriage it is a blast 😂😂

Provoking girls to fall in sin , and saying it doesn't matter. Do sin and forget, is is so easy

This is the most basic question men ask jazakallah khair sheikh for talking on this matter

@Skm-pm6qw

6 ай бұрын

Stupidity.... "Purity of a man is for purity of women". Quran .. these sheik is just putting his personal opinion. If a man purity then a women will slso be. He rather should say that ask in different way. Because no men want a women to be his wife who have slept eith miltiple men.

@MyFather7865

2 ай бұрын

Nen should. This sheikh is just trying to normalize adult ry. He's a s!m p. Moreover I think he didn't get a V so he wants none of us to get a V 🤣

@purplelove3666

2 ай бұрын

Virgin men or non virgin men?

@Nadi.Khanum

2 ай бұрын

@@purplelove3666very less people bother about that or no one does at all 🥲🥲

Guys you are mistaking what the sheik's said He said not to ask such a question just like that directly he didn't say nit to marry a virgin of course you have the right to marry a virgin if you like But it is very insulting to go and ask a woman that question Wouldn't you find it insulting if thus question was asked to your sister or is it okay with you for someone to come and accuse your sister of committing Zina ? This is the meaning of the question You may not understand how insulting it is but this is the honor of a woman and it is very valuable and inportant to her

@ahmadazab7853

7 ай бұрын

so if i want to marry a virgin how can I know?

@nancypachou9705

7 ай бұрын

I have the simplest question as an Orthodox Christian woman from Greece and up to the late 80s premarital sex was not allowed with all its implications. Can someone marry four virgins start divorcing and then go about to find another four? Imagine a virgin marrying an impotent man and he divorces her how will she explain? It is very interesting culturally.

@maybemera8370

7 ай бұрын

@nancypachou9705 I am sorry I don't understand the word "impotent" but there is no problem with marrying more than one time

@nancypachou9705

7 ай бұрын

@@maybemera8370 I mean a man who is unable to perform his duty and gets a divorce from his virgin bride how she will explain this to her new husband? Someone marries someone withholding this. How is this solved in sharia? In such cases the priest in our Orthodox Christian faith the church would grant them a divorce certifying the case. My question is very simple is it ethically fair for women someone marrying them as virgins then divorce them and marry other virgins all over again? I am trying to figure this out in the culture. Example in the Greek Orthodox Christian society a widower or a divorcee would not have access to virgin brides unless cases of extreme wealth and the bride being very poor since she had no mahr. Yes in Greece women gave the mahr to men. I also have my dowry I house us and also bring income to my family from my real estate. Dowry is like mahr. My husband has his own inheritance we join our incomes and together we carry on for the past 25 years.

@maybemera8370

7 ай бұрын

@nancypachou9705 actually I don't know 😂 sorry but it is the first time I hear something like that , if you want an answer for this in Islam you can ask a scholar ❤️

its the right of the man and woman to know, we are prohibited from marrying ones who committed adultery according to the quran. Allah knows best.

@usereal

Ай бұрын

Funny how men only listens to shikh if they like the answers, seems like you know better than him what are the right of a man?

Umm no thanks i have remained clean and pure for 19 years snd haven't have never ever touched a ghair mahram woman in my life. And try my best to lower by gaze out of respect for them and because it is a command of Allah. I am doing all this and i would want someone as a spouse who is on the same page as me. Not some 304 zinniyah girl(other zaani men can marry them)

@rakinrahman890

6 ай бұрын

Exactly

@taesmile.

6 ай бұрын

Do you not believe in taqdeer? Allah is the one who plans everything, even the person you will marry so if you have followed Allah's orders properly all your life then i don't understand why you would even need to worry. Trust Allah and don't ask disrespectful questions to a woman.

@jS-dj7hf

6 ай бұрын

Brother u still have alot to learn ,be respectful in your words ,Allah makes note of our insults of those he has forgiven and who asks for forgiveness , we should not call them by slanderous names ,on the day of judgement u can be switched with them in an instant and your deeds will be taken away how would u feel then ,have your opinion that's fine do not judge others for Allah is all forgiving and and merciful to those that have repented ,staying pure isn't the only thing that will get u into paradise its your character aswwll ,I mean this in the best way ....hate the sin not the sinner .....they could turn out to be the best partners more so than the pure ones....

@cryptidv

6 ай бұрын

​​@@jS-dj7hfhe didn't refer to any specific individual, but the group. And indeed Zina is an incredibly shameful thing to do, and it should be shamed. As should the group of people who do it knowing it's a major sin. If it is not shamed, it will become common place (which it already is slowly becoming). May Allah guide and forgive us all.

@jS-dj7hf

6 ай бұрын

@cryptidv ofcourse it is but we have to be careful, while I've been seeking knowledge, your asked to be careful in how u speak of others and the words u use ,im no teen I'm an elder adult who is on the seeking path just to be clear ,I know the rulings alhamdulilah but our words could replace us with them ,you might think I'm doing all the good and then in the afterlife your deeds are given to others just cus of your mannerism

We need to start asking men if they are virgins. Most likely they are not.

@aftabansari2010able

6 ай бұрын

Here in India, I know more Muslim men are virgin in comparison to Muslim women

@hm8331

6 ай бұрын

Most likely?!

@Mrr324

6 ай бұрын

Ask your father first, wheather he was a virgin before marriage. Start with your home first

@ahmadalbaiti4611

6 ай бұрын

You have the right and so does he to ask

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

Does this woman think men would feel insulted if she asks about our virginity? No go ahead ask me idc im a virgin, the only ones who would feel ashamed and insulted are the ones who committed zina

You have to greet a woman with respect and self security. This question implies a lack of both.

Sheikh is so wrong!! The guy is not a nutcase. Relationships should start with honesty and full revelation. "Kick him out" is same as admiting she's not virgin. If she's honest let the guy decide. The girl may have had one previous relationship or she may have been a prostitute. Be honest!!

Sheikh did it again 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@bruh-oz1fy

11 ай бұрын

Again bought into thr feminist mindset

@tankiebot704

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u of course

@1994mrmysteryman

10 ай бұрын

​@@user-rd2wk3gy7u Ghayrah would include not committing Zina in the first place. A righteous man wanting to marry a virgin is a perfectly reasonable expectation. If my daughter committed Zina, I'd be more ashamed of that, than some suitor inquiring about her virginity. Take your feminism somewhere else.

@faheemahmed5786

9 ай бұрын

​@@user-rd2wk3gy7u A man with ghairah would be proud to say that his daughter is a virgin before marriage. A man who allowed his daughter to do abomination would find the question problematic.

@faheemahmed5786

9 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u Why is that question problematic to a man who trusts his daughter as a pious woman? If someone asks me whether or not I am a virgin, I have no problem with answering such a question. What kind of a person finds that question to be problematic?

I don't think that an adulterer man or woman deserves to marry a pious person.Dont deceive your life partner by hiding a haram relationship. If they discover, there would be problems later on.

The amount of woman supporting this in comments is crazy😂

@abdurrehman5431

4 ай бұрын

U understand 😮 Why they are supporting 🙃🙃

It's a perfectly sound question! I disagree with assim al hakeem.

What's wrong with that. If I'm a pious muslim dodge all these night clubs, drugs and zina. I'm allowed to expect the same from my partner. I don't care what you guys think.

@taimurahmad

10 ай бұрын

Ypu can put in marriage contract. Thag wont rxpose sin. Because she can be previosuly married

@KernelMarine

8 ай бұрын

It's not haram to ask such a question, however it isn't really a "modest" question. Nonetheless like the person above me said it, you can put it in the marriage contract and you don't even have to expose her sins for it.

If a man wants me to be a virgin, that’s fine. As long as he is and as long as he does not have a second wife.

@Adam__Samara

8 ай бұрын

Very strange thinking. Do not treat the haram and halal like it is similar.

@deborafernandes1026

8 ай бұрын

I like the way that you think

@Lynwood_Jackson

8 ай бұрын

​@@Adam__Samarayou're missing her point. She's saying that she's only ok with being asked that by someone who is, himself, chaste. She also has the right to not accept a proposal from someone who is already married.

@MegaHakim1999

8 ай бұрын

So you are okay with a straight up sin which is revealing your privacy and asking him to reveal his, but reject a God given right of his to marry a second wife? What kinda Islam is that if I may?

@Lynwood_Jackson

8 ай бұрын

@@MegaHakim1999 she has the right to not marry someone who is already married.

And why will I be considered mentally disturbed if I expect my future wife to be a virgin? And why would she have a problem telling that she is? If she's not willing to give any answer related to her previous relationship(s) then I'll respect that and move on. I'm sorry but this doesn't sound like a pragmatic advice to me at all. A woman could be missing out on a pious man if she kicks him out everytime this kind of a question is asked to her.

@majestyk8654

5 ай бұрын

I'm a virgin and I was so offended when I was asked this question. You're questioning her chasity and asking whether she has committed zina. It's so disrespectful. If you need to ask, do it indirectly or you might end up chasing away a righteous womm

Doesn't sheikh memorize Surah An-Nur Ayah no. 3 which say "A male fornicator would only marry a female fornicator or idolatress. And a female fornicator would only be married to a fornicator or idolater. This is ˹all˺ forbidden to the believers." I am shocked to see this type of double stand of sheikh AWESOME.😂😂😂

@onestate7734

10 ай бұрын

This is not a rule but a consequence mentioned in the ayat, donot expect to get a pure partner if you are not pure yourself.

@faheemahmed5786

9 ай бұрын

​@@onestate7734 So, if a man is a virgin, he is entitled to ask a woman whether or not she is a virgin?

@mohammadnazmussakib487

2 ай бұрын

he made up his own explanation for that ayah too, dont listen to him, he is giving green pass to all the bad women to lie and deceive men.

One can have such and demand without asking. Its very wrong to say kick him out without explaining a man or woman can have such an demand without asking for the sin. Then its up to them if they accept or not. Imagine youre proposing to someone who've had 10 or 20 partners then repented. No man wants a wife with that many men run over her.

I AGREED BUT .NO GOOD AND REPUTED WOMEN WOULD DO THIS KIND OF SINS.

I thing he is not islamic scholer now he is only father of 4 daughter who support enything from a daughter Now a days muslim women not virgin Its a a man right to get a virgin wife if he is virgin This shake not neutral I thing may allah know best him

So a Man has no right to ask a woman he is marrying any questions? There is some sort of moral boundaries? You are supposed to just shut up and accept your fate? So in Islam marriage isn't built on trust and honesty? Thanks for letting me know.

@rifathossain8940

6 ай бұрын

Stfu. You would've cried even if Sheikh said the opposite thing

@aftabansari2010able

6 ай бұрын

What!!! He asked genuine question ​@@rifathossain8940

Thank you brother, I took your advice and married a kind lady in Thailand. She is very strong. I am so happy.

@zid.shortreels4944

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

sheikh you know the truth mashallah very rare in this time ❤

That's good in theory. I know a brother who caught an STD from a "virgin" woman, and her past came to light. It's not always that simple.

The Quran clearly makes it haram for a believer to marry anyone that committed Zina, this teaching contradicts the quran, so I follow the Quran, not the Sheikh living in a "Muslim" country

I'm sorry i don't agree with this even as a girl. I live in the most conservative area of a third world country with muslim majority. Here if you were seen with a guy the whole area would make fuss about it. YET i hear stories of girls having sex before marriage, that girl never practiced islam just did in ramadan and certain times. My friends have boyfriends, also did some kissing, hugging here and there. MEN? Yeah they're worse here so NO, asking is still better option also trying to know about someone's past

@HereistheReality

6 ай бұрын

I am man wallah this the exact same situation in my country

@Abu-Kurdi

5 ай бұрын

You want some golden advice for free? Stay away from them

@ZachariaSaidov

2 ай бұрын

How can you be friends with these girls? They not only commit zina, but also talk about it. Astagfirullah.

This video is seriously bad advice (for men). If you are uncomfortable with your wife having been with other men in the past, you should voice it (with correct manners and speech) before marrying her. If not, then knowing her past will bug you all the time and slowly but surely, you will begin to resent her, leading to abuse and then divorce. If you are not comfortable with marrying a non-virgin woman, just say so and move on. No need to disrespect women who do not fit your criteria; and no need to change your criteria either. It's that simple, just move on and make Dua for Allah to help you find your match.

@22LadyLopa

10 ай бұрын

If this leads you to abuse and divorce, just means you are a disturbed individual. Who do you think you are? Your feelings are more important than the forgiveness that Allah swt has given her? Furthermore, we are NOT allowed to disclose our sins as Allah swt instructed us to conceal our sins especially if we have sought repentance for them. And if you can’t handle a woman rejecting to answer your question than like Sheikh said , the door is open! Congrats on effectively minimising your potential spouse pool with this borderline incel mentality.

@XMehrooz

10 ай бұрын

@@22LadyLopa bruh. You are talking all idealistic and such. But that's the problem with people like you. The world is realistic, not idealistic. All you said is theoretical in nature, and fails miserably when applied in real life. Let me back up what I said: A woman commits Zina, gets an STD. She repents and makes Tawba. Then she gets married to a man and doesn't tell him about her past and he also doesn't bother checking (just like you advised). They get married and the man now has that STD. His children also have that STD. Would you still justify this in the name of "hiding their sins"? Keyboard warriors like you with all your edgy "incel" comments will always talk big only on the internet where you never have to back up what you claim to say. The Tawba is between the woman and Allah. The marriage is between the woman and the man, not Allah. That man has a 100% justified right to know what he's getting into. Just like the woman also has 100% right to know what kind of man she's marrying.

@XMehrooz

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u Would you want your brother or son to marry a non-virgin who had an STD and get that disease and spread into his descendants as well?

@tankiebot704

10 ай бұрын

minimising the spouse pool is not a problem at all, it's a good thing. a good wife is meant to be rare to find.@@22LadyLopa

@AA-PYT

10 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7uwill you allow your daughter to ask the same question from a man?

There's a difference between a woman who made a mistake and one who is for the streets.

@mahdnova3465

6 ай бұрын

Escuses

Insert vine boom 💥

Does this mean that a person can lead a disco life until marriage?

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

No not really, but Allah forgives and is the most merciful. Sheikh Assim dropped the ball on this one though as it's literally a confirmed sunnah to marry a virgin woman.

@Abdullahxvii

6 ай бұрын

@@KernelMarineit's a confirmed sunnah to marry non virgins as and it's confirmed that you cannot expose your sins regardless or to whom, as that would lift the veil Allah has placed for the person

@What-do-you-want824

6 ай бұрын

​@@Abdullahxviii don't believe in exposing sins, but if you know someone is looking for a virgin, don't trick them into marrying a non-virgin or portray them negatively. It should be pre-stated, and others should learn to respect it, so you don't have to lie or reveal your sins.

@BestPKSA

5 ай бұрын

@@Abdullahxvii it’s also confirmed to marry a virgin and it’s the best choice 🤷🏻‍♂️

@Abdullahxvii

5 ай бұрын

dont talk out of your ass, theres no ranking for best choice or worst choice@@BestPKSA it's entirely dependent on the human beings involved

Sorry Sheikh, repenting to Allah and forgetting the past doesn't bring virginity back.

@The_SideEffectsOfReality_Pills

10 ай бұрын

Thats an immature and insecure statement.

@metehan8551

10 ай бұрын

@@The_SideEffectsOfReality_Pills You do whatever you find right, If I stay out of night clubs and zina I also want a girl who also hasn't been there and done anything.

@kamruzzamanuzzal3764

7 ай бұрын

@@metehan8551 there's nothing wrong with having preferences, but asking such disrespectful question is bad. Doesn't matter which gender asks. Instead find out her life from her close associates. Especially their 'aunties', they are best to keep track of ppl and know all the gossips. Or just go for a girl who is raised in a proper household and who reads Quran to gain knowledge and understand the meanings. This option is much safer bet. This goes for both genders, not just girls.

@KernelMarine

7 ай бұрын

@@kamruzzamanuzzal3764 this isn't a bad question to ask though as the person asking is most likely virgin themselves so stop making it seem like a very bad thing

@kamruzzamanuzzal3764

7 ай бұрын

@@KernelMarine it may seem like this, but Allah told us to keep our sins hidden. Mohammad PBUH also told us to hide our sins. So asking someone to reveal their sins is both a disrespectful and sinful act. Instead, just do your own investigation, best is paying the police to do the investigation.

I see a lot of muslim 304's in the comments section

Ya Allah yeh kya question leke aare hai log scholar ke pass.....if a girl is virgin or not is a question for a man to know her character nowadays live in relationship divorce extra marital became common.....and a girl also can ask a boy about his relationship before marrying

Imam al-Ghazali on the Three (03) Advantages of Marrying Virgins: 01. Virgins tend to love and feel close to their husbands, strengthening their marital bond. In contrast, women who have enjoyed men before may struggle with differences and develop a dislike for their (present) husbands. 02. Marrying a virgin often deepens a man's love, as it is a man's nature to somewhat detest/dislike/loathe a woman who has been touched by another man. 03. The virgin does not yearn after the first husband, because, in general, the surest love is that which is engendered with the first loved one. [Ihya Ulum al-Din, book 12: On the Etiquette of Marriage, page 90].

Yeah but no sheikh that doesn’t make sense. She can deny the guy if she is not a virgin or was in an unislamis/haram relationship without revealing it but to say that a pious guy who maintains his chastity and wants someone chaste as well is wrong and should be disrespected just doesn’t make sense. If the sheikh believes this then would his perspective remain the same if a woman drinks alcohol and the guy wants to know? Similarly would his opinion remain the same for women to ask these questions to men? I personally think these are valid questions to ask before marriage in a respectful manner.

This sheikh is right. Alhamdulilah for Islam.

This is probably the first time I'm strongly disagreeing with you Sheikh.

@ShameerAsif-zl6lv

6 ай бұрын

Same

@rakinrahman890

6 ай бұрын

Same

@ab-cm2ic

6 ай бұрын

With that profile pic?!😂

@jamir0078

6 ай бұрын

Second 5% alcoholic beer

@bongobongoland4354

6 ай бұрын

@@ab-cm2ic 😂😂

Kick me out I Don't care Im still asking Women want a tall, rich, handsome man But when i have preference My manhood is in question? And if u get triggered and kick me out I already have my answer Nothing before marriage should be hidden and nothing should be lied about

@taimurahmad

10 ай бұрын

You can put a condition if virginity in the marriage contract. She simply gets divorced. Then

@randomdude62568

10 ай бұрын

get of the internet and redpill media those 6ft 6 pack 6figure women don't exist you're just watching too much of those podcasts if you're a rightful man you will get a rightful wife keep up with school bud you're wasting your life

@icecream-wf5yb

10 ай бұрын

​@@user-rd2wk3gy7uyeah dont ask the guy his salary,house, his accomplishments even salat. Why? Not praying is a sin right? 🙄

@icecream-wf5yb

9 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u bro when I saw your comment 2 weeks ago. I was confused and lost that I didn't even bother to answer it. And yeah keep saying name sake muslims, once the time for you gonna come to marraige, YOU will experience. Moreover my question is why are you guys trying SO HARD to justify fornication? Can you even comprehend the punishment? Do you even understand that our society is normalizing it? Do even realize we are becoming hypersexual? If a men/women failed to secure their their virginity now-a-days I'd question everything about them. If it was back than I wouldn't think about it like today. I wasn't religious back than, you could call me an atheist Yet I never dared to have sex even if I was horny ok? My culture played a role in it along side my dignity and self respect.

@icecream-wf5yb

9 ай бұрын

@@user-rd2wk3gy7u and why didn't I reply to you 2 weeks ago? Cause I wasn't in the mood to argue about the topic of prayer. NOT PRAYING IS A SIN. Please don't say stuff without knowing OK? if someone stops praying they get time for repentance (because its a sin) or else they become kafir and put to death. Also in today's world you'll see a man who prays , diligent, nice but beat his wife, A woman who prays 5 times a day but dating ok? Not everyone is perfect, even myself. I'm sinning but I should have a clear boundary and think deeply about sins like murdering, fornication, consuming the property of an orphan, theft and so on. So in this generation asking about chastity, virginity has become crucial whether you guys like it or not

I kinda disappointed with this answer.

That’s not a question should be ask directly. You can do a background check to her relatives, friends and her associate.

Tbh I don't think theres anything wrong with the question. This fella needs to chill out

If a guy is virgin , didnt commit zina and saved himself for marriage he has the right to get a virgin wife as well

A man or a woman who protects themselves from Zina in a society full of it deserves an equally pure spouse. Remember, lying about it wont stop it from coming out later at some point. Don't hurt your futures.

Sins are between the perpetrator and Allah... Until their sin has harmed the rights of another. Then they deserve to know... Finding out after marriage that your partner slept all over the show can be extremely painful. Therefore, asking the question is not about judgment. It's about having the ability to make an informed decision.

This will encourage the girls to engage in relationships before marriage and then conceal everything before marriage. Whenever this topic arises and sheikh answers, he never gives any references from the Qur'an or Sunnah to support his claim. If it's according to his whims and desires, then he is going to receive sins for every girl who has gone astray because of listening to him.

@respectme4804

11 ай бұрын

Allah knows best

@layman-

11 ай бұрын

Firstly you don't have knowledge to begin with.. don't you know it's prohibited to share sins in Islam?You can always put the condition of virginity in the marriage contract..to ask personally is very inappropriate...we judge people with what is apparent we don't dig for one's sins

@DreamKiller-wd4if

11 ай бұрын

The hymen can break before sex too, from everyday activities like exercise or inserting a tampon etc

@muslimresponse103

11 ай бұрын

@@DreamKiller-wd4iftampons are haram.

@muslimresponse103

11 ай бұрын

the sheikh is right, you don’t ask a Muslim woman if she is chaste or not, that is an insult to her and her family. you should be able to tell by just looking and talking to her and her family.

I think if you are living in the West the reality is completely different. As long as there is wisdom and manners in how you ask this is a very understandable thing to want to know about your future wife

@pray4paradise540

11 ай бұрын

@aatikab8733 I don't understand why every time a question is asked about a woman the automatic response is "what about men?" But to answer your question then if that is something genuinely important for a woman then she should ask

@Alidilman

11 ай бұрын

100%

@Frietoe

11 ай бұрын

Living in the west does not excuse you from having to hide your sins

@DiverseCreatorsVibe

11 ай бұрын

​@@pray4paradise540seriously

@DiverseCreatorsVibe

11 ай бұрын

​@@aatikab8733yea a good point also

I think I misunderstood the Sheikh, but for a believer, a pious and virgin woman is always a priority on an unpious woman, But My Brothers You Always Have to respect Women so whenever you decide to marry someone, please do your genuine research and after being satisfied, Propose her or talk to her parents and never ever talk about this thing again and also this thing also applies on men.

so what if I rather ask, "will I be the first man in your life if we get married? "

@Rd-88

6 ай бұрын

That's smart 😆 a very passive way of figuring out wether she clean or forda streets.

I am unbelievably confused, if the husband was to find out after the marriage and he has a problem with it, he just has to deal with it 💀???

@tanweeralam1650

6 ай бұрын

Exactly...a virgin has EVERY Tto marry a virgin... don't listen to anyone's opinion