The thing that is the most devastating about this misconception is that no one would EVER choose to go through what I (and anyone with an ED) have gone through. Not only that, but folks with EDs don't need to feel any more guilt than they already do. If you're reading this and you have an ED, I KNOW that you didn't choose this. I didn't either. It's not our fault.

@FUED221

7 жыл бұрын

Patty Arenson I completely agree with you!... I would never wish the hell it is, on anyone!!!

@BabeArixo

4 жыл бұрын

😞💔

@lauracal8389

4 жыл бұрын

I disagree. It is a choice. Only once when you recognize it is can you take the power back and start to heal. It is an addiction like every other addiction. It may feel like hell and be a horrible and hard thing to overcome...but it feels that way because you made those choices that led there. I am not trying to be harsh. I speak from experience.

@hannahwilliams5681

4 жыл бұрын

@@lauracal8389 🙄

@estellestar1473

4 жыл бұрын

You are so right. None of us chose our "genes," as Kati mentioned. Hehehe! No one chooses to have an illness. I did not choose to experience the neurochemical imbalances, the bullying, the anxiety, the depression in my life... There are a few choices which we can make about how to respond to the ED, especially if we can listen to what our inner voice really wishes... Sometimes my bad voice has been so loud and overpowering that I could not find my true thoughts and feelings.

I personally don't believe it's a choice. It's a person way to excape all their pain.

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Agreed. xoxo Thanks for sharing your thoughts :) xoxo

@101sanford

4 жыл бұрын

@@Katimorton do u have a disorder

I've never had a full- fledged eating disorder, but I do have some experience with restricting, binging, purging, etc. and a lot of experience with self harm. The way I see it is that on the behavioral level there is an element of choice (even if it doesn't always feel like that), but you don't choose to have the thoughts that lead you to the coping skill. I think to say that there's no choice is a bit dismal in terms of choosing recovery, but to say that it's all choice obviously ignores the real issues.

I feel like I am choosing this lifestyle tho.

@kirstycarlsson2919

3 жыл бұрын

Your eating disorder is valid! Remember eating disorders are not a choice they are a mental illness.

@eff0_o

2 жыл бұрын

Ik this was a long time ago and i often feel the same way but i think the whole thing is the urge to pursue that liftstyle and thoughts are not a choice but the continuing to choose the act on them and not go against them can be

@katesierra6238

2 жыл бұрын

@@eff0_o gosh my comment was 2 years ago? Feels like i said this yesterday. But i think u r right. Now i know its not a choice, i thought because i wasnt on the extreme side of an ed meant i didnt have one. Even though its not severe with me, i struggle with food every single day

@eff0_o

2 жыл бұрын

@@katesierra6238 im so sorry to hear, it is such a miserable thing to deal w especially for so long. i believe in u and hope things get better and u find relief🖤

@appleheaddefender

2 жыл бұрын

@@kirstycarlsson2919 feels like a choice

Hey kati, Here is another perspective to reveal how/why Eating disorders are not a "choice," but in fact, a mental illness. This may not be the case for all, so I'll just speak for myself. when I do an ED behavior, it's not because I just rationally and calmly decide to do so.. it's because there are overwhelming thoughts and or feelings, UNTIL I do such behaviors.. which often gives me some sense of necessary relief or safety. that's why I do these behaviors. because it's one of the only ways I can calm my thoughts, feelings, anxieties, etc. IT'S OFTEN THE ONLY WAY "THAT I KNOW HOW" TO "FEEL" SAFE. the negative thoughts and feelings become so overwhelming that it typically feels urgent for me to do ED behaviors. Also, not to be compared to, but I like to use OCD as an example... how one with OCD will usually have to perform rituals/behaviors in order to relieve their anxieties, even if just momentarily. anyway, just wanted to share. :) xo

@monicajohnson8341

7 жыл бұрын

Hi Shandi, Thanks for sharing your story. I suffered with anorexia and bulimia for 14 years. I most likely would have died. Last year I found the strength to heal myself internally and externally. I felt a loss of control in my life at the age of 12, which is why I starved myself. It was the only thing I felt I could control in my life. I noticed you mentioned that your ED made you "feel safe". Can you please explain more about this?

I love you Katie, you help me so much and I'm only 15 so I'm still scared of proper "therapy" or whatever but you help me with my anxiety, depression and eating disorder so much as you actually understand me! Thank you!!

I chose my ed, one day I told myself I didn’t want to feel fat anymore so I was going to become anorexic. And I did. But then once I hit my goal weight I told myself I was going to stop but I couldn’t. I feel like it might be a choice to some in the sense that you would like to start having an Ed but once you get into it you don’t really have any control or choices anymore

@Roxxyy26

3 ай бұрын

Exactly same with me. At first I did it to control my body. But then when I wanted to stop it becamecharder and harder. I wish in ever started.

In my opinion, eating disorders fall on the same spectrum as addiction or the "ism" in general. Over eating, not eating, drinking, drugs, gambling, shopping, agoraphobia are all unhealthy ways to cope with reality. They are learned and some people's bodies tend to lean towards these unhealthy mechanisms for a myriad of reasons. Thank god for the 12 steps because they can be literally applied to all of these things!

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

I couldn't agree more :) xoxo Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!

@beaniebaby6467

4 жыл бұрын

I agree. I also believe that initially the act of not eating, over eating, bulemia only develops into addiction after you make The Choice to initially start doing it. The Choice to do it initially is probably related to anxiety, social phobia, depression, bpd, etc. So in my opinion initially it is a choice that develops to an addiction.

I should be sleeping rn, but I really like your videos heh

@theautistic.teacher

4 жыл бұрын

Same

Thank you for this video! I was in an abusive household and was anorexic to escape it all. It was an awful coping skill and I'm 98% recovered.

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

I am so glad you liked it!!! And way to go on your recovery!! Keep at it!! You are amazing :) xoxo

Hey Kati! Is it the same with suicide? people have told me suicide is a choice but I really don't agree with this.

@physcoticteen7708

6 жыл бұрын

Preach.

@cfrost87

5 жыл бұрын

Siobhan D, I agree with you. Those who take their own lives often have mental illnesses, so their brains are not working properly. So suicide makes sense to them but not to the rest of us.

Thank you so much for making a video this is makes me feel so much better 💜 you're great at everything you do! 💜

loved hearing your opinion on this from a professional point of view! You rock!

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Awe thanks!! So glad you liked it :) xoxo

Hey Kati, love your videos, thank you for being so passionate about these topics and sticking up for folks who really need it. You're a lifesaver

This is so amazing. Thanks for sharing this it makes me feel less alone and worth recovery! Thank you so much Kati

I love this channel, like really. I was with a lot of psychiatres, but no one really helps me so i don't want to see them anymore. I was watching the video, and i litteraly understand what was my problem. I love hearing about all the problem that someone van have. You make me want to learn psychology in collège i'm serious. Thanks for everything.

thank you so much. been wondering all my life. love you ..

Thank you for your compassionate response. I have stopped myself from getting help because I am scared because people might judge me for 'choosing' this illness.

Hey Kati! I was wondering if you would do a video on "how to know when you need inpatient or residential treatment"? I think it would be a great topic!

@leaannhoffman8758

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

Your videos are always on point. Thank You.

Kati, I love your videos. They are really helping me get through the situation that I am in. I suffer from Tourette's Syndrome as well as GAD, SAD, and MDD. On top of that, I have severe body image issues that lead to me restricting calories. I do binge like maybe once a month, though. My brain makes me think that I am fat even though I have been told that I am too thin for a guy.My medication has made me gain what I consider a significant amount of weight even though it put me in the optimal "healthy" range, I still feel fat. I am ashamed of my body. I've been in treatment for years now and taken over 12 meds and I have never felt any relief. I'm in an almost constant state of despair that is only alleviated when I self-harm. Last night I had to go to the hospital for staples because I cut too deep. I'm seeing an amazing therapist right now, but it doesn't help me. She has also suffered from Tourette's Syndrome and that is what we seem to be focusing on in my therapy two therapy sessions I have had with her. I have trouble bringing up my self-harm with her because I hate drawing attention to it. However, I'm just getting so tired and want to quit again. I almost feel like I'm suicidal again and I'm self-harming more than ever. Nursing school is reeking havoc on my mental health. How do I find the strength to keep going on when there is no end in sight? I'm losing the battle with my illness and I need relief. How do I overcome my SAD and GAD? I don't have any friends and I'm so lonely. As an add on, would you know why I've never found any therapeutic effect from all the different meds I've been on? The only exception to this being the Ativan that I started taking three days ago. It helps with my anxiety tremendously, but that leaves me focusing on my depression and I almost feel all the worse for it.

I do overeat to cope. I don't really have anyone to talk to so I eat. I know it's damaging my health.

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with this.. I hope you are able to get some support from a therapist or possibly use my ED workbook as well :) xoxo

@monicajohnson8341

7 жыл бұрын

Hi Michael, What triggers you to overeat? Can I ask what you struggle to cope with?

@domwilks3946

3 жыл бұрын

Again.. personal choice. Work out bud. Sorry nor sorry

this helped me understand a friends mindset a lot better

Your videos are really impressive. You’re very effective with changing peoples minds.

very well said. thank you!

I think you are brilliant. You are in the right field and doing on this earth what God put you here to do. Thank you.

Hey Kati, You are just so Awesome!!

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Awe thanks Megan!! xoxo

love this, love you!

Found this video very interesting. I hope you and everyone reading this has a good day ☺️☺️💕

I, very much, appreciated this video! I struggle with an eating disorder while working on childhood abuse. It feels like so much of my life needs to be a secret; and, this is one of them! I know that I will find better, healthier ways of coping in the future. But, it felt "sweet" to hear a wee bit of validation, that it isn't unusual. That this is temporary and I am on the road to recovery! A thank you for reminding me!! Colleen

@monicajohnson8341

7 жыл бұрын

I wish you all the best on your road to recovery Colleen! I suffered with an ED for 14 years. Last year, I decided to heal myself by choosing life. I'm so much happier!

I'm so glad you made this video! Now I can show this to my family, for I lack the ability to explain it to them as to how it's actually not a choice for me. Thank you! 💕

@monicajohnson8341

7 жыл бұрын

How long have you been struggling with an ED, Alexandria?

Please make a video on crippling anxiety?

Great video Kati! :)

Love your channel 💕

Thank you so much for this xxx ❤️ I'm restricting my food and hurting myself physically just as a way of trying to cope I wish people knew it wasn't a choice I didn't choose to do or live like this this it's the only way I can survive at the moment :( xxxx

Hi Kati. Been watching your videos since 2013? I was diagnosed with PTSD, depression & anxiety after being bullied. I resorted to unhealthy coping skills such as self-harm and alcohol. I used to get panic attacks all the time and anxiety ruled my life. It is now 2016 and I am in my senior year of high-school and I have moved out from home to be closer to town (I come from a rural area) Everything is working out so great! I haven't had any PTSD, depression or anxiety in a long time. I have been intentionally clean for 2 years and 8 months. I consider myself recovered and now I am just in love with everything in my life. Your videos (as well as support from friends, family & teachers) do this. Be proud.

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Hey!! I recognize your picture and know you have been watching for awhile (although if I remember correctly your username used to be different.. haha) :) Thank you so much for updating me and I am SO PROUD of how far you have come!!! xoxo Thank you for being a part of this community :) xxoo

You're so cool! These videos help so much! Can you please do a video on the 'binge eating'/extreme hunger side of recovering from anorexia and how to cope with weight gain in recovery. It is easy for people to think you have 'recovered' just because you're WR but how does this play into being mentally better? Is it normal for this to set you back in your recovery? What are some healthy coping skills to deal with this? Sorry for so many questions! Thank you Kati 😊 xx

thanks for this

Hey Kati! I think it would be great if u could talk about depersonalization disorder? I would love to learn more about it because I have had out of body episodes multiple times (what I know so far I don't have it I have never been to a doctor about it but I have experienced it). I would also like to learn more about anxiety (especially panic attacks) I love watching ur videos so much! Have a good day xoxo💗💗

Is there a way to know whether the behaviour is a coping skill or not? This seems to be the main "criterium" for disordered eating to become an eating disorder, but I personally have no idea whether my restriction and purging are a way of coping or just my illogical way of trying to lose weight.

Personally I think its a choice at the beginning. From my experience anyway. I whole-heartedly believe I talked myself into an ED.

@shandiland6950

7 жыл бұрын

But was it a disorder in the beginning? a person can committ ED behaviors and not actually have the eating disorder mental illness. it could however lead to developing one for real. I've known many people who had tried different ed behaviors for a while, but it didn't stick. they moved on and never looked back. they didn't actually have the illness. in the beginning I didn't think I did... but mine unfortunately developed into one for real. remember, it's not technically a medical "disorder" unless it's negatively affecting or impairing your ability to function in everyday life (such as keep relationships, jobs, etc.) OR if u meet the criteria for the disorder and are diagnosed by the appropriate professional(s). AND that does NOT, in any way, discredit the seriousness or severity of anyone suffering symptoms WITHOUT meeting criteria for a disorder.

@shandiland6950

7 жыл бұрын

And sorry to hear that u suffer(ed) from an eating disorder my dear. hugs. xo

@matt24680

7 жыл бұрын

Shandi Land Yes I know this. I have USFED restricting type one. I've been diagnosed by a professional and I take a Psych class at Harvard University. I know what I'm taking about. I knew everything about EDs because of my class so I talked myself into one.

@matt24680

7 жыл бұрын

Shandi Land thanks .hugs.

@scuttlearmy

7 жыл бұрын

It might have seemed like a choice, but having an ED is a coping mechanism. Whatever you were experiencing to talk yourself into controlling (or losing control) on your eating in some way. Yes, it can feel like a choice, especially when MANY people "try" the symptoms for a while and then stop. The crucial aspect is directing the stress around food. Regardless, "choice" is a strong word, and i believe recovery is the one to bear it.

#KatiFAQ I was put on anti-depressants 2 months ago.. After a month we noticed I stabilised but my mood was really low.. We upped the dose a couple of weeks ago and I ended up suicidal and self harming from negative thoughts... I stopped taking my medication yesterday and have felt a lot better... My doctor plans to monitor me over the next week off the meds... But is it possible they did the complete op and put me in a darker place?? Btw Love your videos - thank you for all that you do on helping to break the stigma!

@TigersLullaby125

7 жыл бұрын

It is actually possible. If you look up the side effects of basically all ani-depressants they say may increase depression and suicidal thoughts. Also at least in my experience being zombified on meds is very similar to depression in that it suppresses emotion. For me depression isn't sadness or hopelessness it's a complete lack of emotion alltogaether so in that regards what medication does is very similar.

yeah, you're right. i used to restrict when i was in a very bad situation mentally because i hated myself and thought i was disgusting and filthy regarding my personality and feelings but i couldn't do anything on the inside so i tried to make myself better on the outside to compensate. also i did it as self harm because honestly going many hours without food is fucking painful physically. nowadays i managed to get it under control but i still catch myself reducing my food intake whenever i go through really stressful periods.

Yes I've heard this a lot and I believed it. For years I avoided help because I was convinced it was a choice. It's inky even I seriously wanted to stop and couldn't that I accepted it wasn't a choice.

Great video like always! Eating disorders are definitely NOT a choice. I would never CHOOSE to really and truly believe that ice cream was a bad food that would make me fat if I even ate one bite (that is an example from my past). I love ice cream! I did get past that, and now eat ice cream like a normal person, but it took a long, long time in order for me to get there.

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your experience :) xoxo I am glad you were able to overcome that ED thought!! xoxo

Have you got a video on how to help your friend with her feelings?

Good video to educate people

I can relate even if my binge-eating sometimes ends up with BFRB instead. could you please make a video of your thoughts on BFRB (Body focused repetitive behaviors) and what you think would help the most! love your videos BTW!

Especially ARFID.

Hey Katie I just discharged from three months of residential,php, and iop Ed treatment I am now heading home and I am scared of relapse especially being In and out of treatment this year and having to go back to school for the first time in a really long time and it's a new school what do I do?

Can my ED come back? I thought it was gone all year but then things got really bad and I started again without even thinking about it and I lost weight.

is this the same as just not feeling like eating at all when im depressed or nervous? my apetite as almost desapeared for a couple of months and i can ingest very little food before i start to feel disgust.

Like the E-8 lattice in the background ;)

Yes I do agree that eating disorders are not a choice I’m loving testament to that it’s a struggle it is a coping mechanism

Loooveeee you katii xx

This is so weird. When I was struggling with my ED...I did it as a way to cope with my depression which my parents were beginning to see. I think way back then I was struggling to be "okay" with needing help & with leaning on other people. That trusting & depending on someone else from time to time WAS NORMAL. I'm still puzzled as to what lead me to that thought process? My parents think its abandonment issues because I was very premature and all by myself in a incubator for 3 months. I'm not sure. I'm intrigued.

I eat and eat and eat so that I can die and so it doesn't look like suicide. Then insurance will pay out to family. I've gone from size 12 to size 24 so far. I can't tell anyone what I am doing. I'm waiting for dbt will that help

Thank you I hate it when people just turn round and say stop doing it well I want to but it's not that simple I don't think my therapist understands it either the same as self harm she told me that there is nothing wrong with me doing it it's a coping skill well I want help with it not to be told normal people do it too just makes me feel stupid for wanting help

Hi Kati! I'm new to your channel yay! I have some questions to elaborate on this question. My distorted eating patterns are kind of still new so I'm still not sure to the answer to this question for me. I'm using food restriction for validation, maybe if I get skinnier people will like me better so I'll have friends, to get more support and validation from my doctor and therapist for attention from feeling too lonely all the time. My therapist also said I restrict as a desire to have health problems to elicit a caring response from my professionals, which that part is completely true. Is this a choice and eating disorder behaviors or an actual eating disorder?

@LileyAriel

6 жыл бұрын

Oh my god, I've been watching all of Kati's videos on eating disorders in an effort to convince myself I don't have one because I don't do it for a lot of the reasons she describes. But what you just described fits my behaviors so well. I still don't know though, is this an actual eating disorder....or do I just want attention?

Hi, i know the chance of you answering is slim but i thought i'd ask anyway and if anyone with expierence in psychosis could help that would be great too.. I've been diagnosed with AN for 6 years and my psychiatrist/treatment team have also suspected BPD and have been assesing that for a while but in the past 2 months, which have been a hard time involving low/mixed mood and impulsive behaviour i've noticed my general paranoia has increased a bit and i'm seeing spiders and/or little bugs?? They disappear seconds after i stare at them and theyre kind of blurry like they would look if behind a dirty window or glass. I feel they are 'real' for 5 or so seconds but then they disappear (or run away so quick that my vision can't see?) which makes me even more paranoid. I've started checking behind furniture and clothes for them and two days ago even pulled out a coin sized piece of hair from my head fearing a spider was there. Rationally, i mostly know its all in my mind, a fear of spiders, which makes me think its just anxiety and my imagination going wild but more and more often i'm telling myself that what i'm seeing is true and I'm questioning it a lot in fear. Could this at all be a sign of psychosis or simply anxiety? Do you think its worth mentioning to my psych, i'm just scared i'll seem idiotic and over dramatic.. Thank you for anyone who replies, sorry the message is so long..!

Cute shirt Kati, and very informative video, :)

KATI!!! I have a question!! Can you develop and eating disorder from medicines like adderall???

This is really tricky. Because I think that on the one hand nobody chooses a mental illness. Nobody gives themselves an eating disorder, it is not their choice and not their fault. But on the other hand they are the only one who can choose to recover. And it is their responsibility to get help and get better. Which kind of sucks, if you think about it, but I think that's where a lot of people get it mixed together and talk about it being a choice. We have to choose recovery.

Dear Kati, I think for mani years I have been hiding an eating disorder for many years because there were not consistent. I have had people in my family that have told me that I am a hypochondriac so I tend to hide things especially until I know for sure what it is. Lately though I have been diagnosed with panic, anxiety and now depression and my emotions are running away from me, the only thing I can piece together is at least two times a week I purge the small amount of food I eat during that day ( I do not binge) although) this may not be full criteria yet I feel I am planning on doing it more. I’m a little scared should I tell my therapist? She is going to think I’m already nuts. Thank you

thx for this ha bisky vid i loved this a lot and i have a friend who realized they were addicted to certain cookies so they stopped buying them sometimes it is a choice most of the time its not or maybe the choice is just what we do about them but i know i stop eating when i am full and i only eat when i am hungry

Kati, I was wondering what you thought about the controversy surrounding KZreadr Eugenia Cooney. Everyone seems to want to help her, even Onision. I'm just not sure people are approaching it the right way. What if her fans are making her worse or what if she is causing her fans to develop eating disorders?

@petitenymphefolastre

7 жыл бұрын

I feel like the videos directed at Eugenia Cooney are spreading a lot of misinformation about anorexia and stigmatizing mental illness. Chances are, these response videos are more damaging to anorexic girls than people claim that Eugenia Cooney allegedly is, as they are sending the message that it is shameful to have a mental illness. I fear that anorexic teens will see these response videos and be afraid to go see a doctor and get diagnosed. Also, looking at pictures of underweight girls and wishing to look like them is most likely a symptom of anorexia rather than a cause. Another thing to point out is that we do not know what Eugenia has for a fact just based upon looking at her. Many physical and mental health issues are characterized by extreme weight loss, so she could have any number of things. I really hope that she is receiving proper treatment if she really is sick with a life-threatening illness, but she does absolutely have a right to confidentiality in terms of her diagnosis and medical treatment that she chooses to pursue.

I won't let myself vomit because i hate it but i don't want to get vat so i just don't eat anything what disorder is that....please tell me I'm not crazy but i also have epilepsy and drink vary strong pills...and when i eat i get very sick

I'm in France as an exchange student and it's horrible, like she said everything is out if my control and I'm extremely anxious all the time. I'm also having trouble sleeping even thoung I'm very tired, I'm always cold never mind how warm it is and since they eat allot more than what I'm used to in Germany in the first few weeks I gained weight (not much, for someone who doesn't know my body as well as I do it was not even noticeable) so I decided to eat less of the "main course" and more salad and fruit. Now I know that doesn't sound too bad but sometimes I'm surprised at how little I eat and feel full. I'm just worried that restricting the main meal like that and mainly eating fruit and vegetables might turn into an eating disorder. And if it does, wasn't it my choice for restricting?

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Hi Kati! I love your videos. I watch them all. Quick question: I know you're not an MD but you're in the ED field so I thought you might have an idea. Why is it possible for my heart to be affected by my eating habits even if I'm not underweight? I was recently in the hospital for ED heart complications and I was pretty much the only one there who wasn't underweight which was kinda confusing for me. Any ideas? Thanks!

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

It definitely could be.. electrolyte levels can affect our heart/cause heart attacks. I am not sure if you had been purging, but I have had that happen to many of my bulimic clients. Also, losing weight and gaining weight can be hard on our bodies as well.. but I would definitely ask your doctors more about this so you can better understand what's going on and what caused it. xoxo

That's an interesting take.

Your intros and your "byes" are so funny ahha I crack up, you're cool sauce

Hi Kati! Can you do more videos on BPD?

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

I definitely can!! xxo Anything about it you want to know??

@lisam7861

7 жыл бұрын

***** I've heard a lot of people say that people with BPD have a tendency to 'adapt' other people's personalities in their presence (Kind of like when a chameleon camouflages itself). Can you elaborate on that?

Kati # faq Can you develop a swallowing disorder from not eating? All my swallow muscles have weekend therefore it makes me very tired to just eat a yogert. Can this be true. I hope you see this. Much love!!!

Why would someone think that we choose to starve our selves?

I was having this discussion with my friend today! That's really creepy

I’m so confused. I don’t feel guilty after purging, only after overeating. Yet I still purge as a coping skill. But I don’t have any trauma, at least not anything in the last 5 years. I just don’t get it.

Can you do a video on orthorexia and if it overlaps with anorexia. Or is it a part of EDNOS/OSFED? I went vegan and gluten free and some people think i have an eating disorder because i only eat foods i think are healthy.

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

I have a livestream where I talk about orthorexia.. but I can definitely do another one. Here is my video on vegetarian/vegan and EDs. xoxo kzread.info/dash/bejne/iKmIm9GCZJaspZM.html I hope that helps! xox

Hey Kati! I am 16 and I live with my mother and my fifteen year old sister. My mother (though not officially diagnosed) has BPD and my sister also has some quite severe mental illnesses. Both of them talk about suicide, but I don't think that they would go through with it in the near future. My question is, do I have a responsibility to tell someone about this? I talk to teachers sometimes but I always avoid saying anything that they might have to report.

@TigersLullaby125

7 жыл бұрын

The real question is how much do you love them and could you live your life without them. If the answer is no to the latter then you should tell someone. If your teachers won't listen or you don't think they'll take you seriously talk to a school counselor it's their job to help students emotionally get through school and they should be able to refer your mother and sister to a therapist or psychiatrist depending on the situation.

@TigersLullaby125

7 жыл бұрын

Also if you don't want them to feel betrayed or something like that try talking to them about it. You may be able to convince them to seek help on their own. Let them know that suicidal thoughts, whether your depressed or not, are always a bad thing. Thoughts that reccur tend to get stronger as they are thought of more and eventually become actions. Even if you have to sacrifice some of their trust in you by telling someone it's sad but worth their lives.

@DefyingEternity

7 жыл бұрын

Billy Newman thank you so much for your reply. My mother and my sister have both refused to see psychologists, neither of them think that they need any help. I'm worried that if I disclose too much to my teachers then they will have to contact child protective services, and my sister and I really don't have anywhere to go...

@TigersLullaby125

7 жыл бұрын

Ultimately you can't help someone who does not want the help. It's a very sad situation that you're in and telling someone can get a refferal to psychologists but if they don't want to go they don't have to. The only time people are usually forced into care is if they are seen as a threat to themselves or others. In this situation really the only option is to convince them that they need help. They have to want the help which can be very hard to do. I myself am bipolar and in the past I did not want any treatment whatsoever. In my position it felt like a handicap to need medication and that I needed to be changed in order for society to accept me. That may be how they feel or they could just be in total denial. If you think about it in their perspective how would you like to be talked to. Hope this helps. Don't give up :)

I think it's more of an unconscious choice based off on past experience, as that determines behavior. So yeah there's an element of choice to mental illness, but it's conditioning how to behave a certain ways for years and years that cements itself where it may be hard to just break out of particular mindset

I don't know how I feel about this. I don't have an eating disorder but I chose to become a vegetarian because that was something that could be mine, that I could control, that could give me some control in my life, and so I could show that I have will power to not eat meat. so basically I chose this and it helps me have control.

I thought this video was so damn interesting kati I have had an autism assessment and I feel bad because I struggled to do some of the tasks that they are asking me to do even though they said its ok how can i overcome this?

Thank you!! I will be sending this to a ton of people! And quick question, can high schoolers take a leave of absence from school for a while? I was recently admitted into a psych ward for suicidal ideations with a plan and everything's extremely overwhelming right now and I was wondering if that was an option?? I've looked online and they only talk about it for people in college. Thank you so much for all you do honestly 💖 #katiFAQ

@Katimorton

7 жыл бұрын

Yes you can take a medical leave and withdrawal for a semester or a year, etc. I have done that for many of my clients.. but you usually need a letter from your therapist and doctor. xoxo You just have to talk to your school counselor or principle and get them the paperwork they need. That way you can focus on getting healthy and come back to school when you are feeling better :) xoxo

I guess I thought that coping was a choice and indicated psychological weakness but I'm no longer going to beat myself up over my binges even though my family is angry about me for some reason.

Thumbs up for the Kal-toh in the background!

I don't think I have an eating disorder, but sometimes I eat atrociously. Yesterday I ate 4 oz of fudge in about 30 min. Then I came home and ate a rice dinner by myself that was meant to serve four people. I can understand the guilt so many people feel over their eating disorders. There is a lot of guilt mixed in with a lot of eating disorders. I think that is one of the worst things about eating disorders - the guilt.

I totally agree, but Kati I'm a bit confused... I feel as though around the time my ED began, I had been watching videos on KZread of yours about ED's a few weeks prior. I wouldn't exactly go as far as to say that you 'gave me ideas', but is it just a coincidence that my ED began a few weeks after beginning to watch your ED videos? I hope this doesn't mean I'm seeking attention? Not sure why it would, but I'm not. For some reason this makes me feel as though I 'chose' to have an ED?

I don't understand why my sister adopted it as a coping skill when I was growing up though. I had a very fun upbringing as did my brother and never could understand what triggered it with her. Same home, parents, etc. I must've missed something. All I can recall is maybe my dad not paying nearly as much attention to her when me and my brother (we're twins) came along. Even at the time I saw it as maybe a coping skill to get my dad's attention.

No because when I started I did not Know what ED was I have now relised how sick my patterns Are I binge and restrict I binge Till I puke sometimes

Not to forget the genetic component that puts some of us at higher risks of eating disorders. I wonder about this myself sometimes... Because when I was struggling with something the natural thing for me to do was to self harm. I have no idea why my mind came up with that as a solution. Nobody told me about it. So I used to think that self harming in certain situation is a totally normal thing and that surely everybody does it, right? Obviously I was wrong about that and I still wonder how others do it. What does their mind tell them to do if they are in a stressful situation? I think this is a good example of how it's not simply a choice but a necessity. Because if my mind had offered me different coping mechanism, I probably would have chosen a less destructive one. But instead, self harm seemed like the only way out, so I did it.

Kati, the lockdowns have provided a perfect environment for the development or resurfacing of an eating disorder.

Hi Kati, I'm only 12 and I don't know if I'm depressed or not. I've taken multiple quizzes and all of them have said that I am but I don't want to go to my school counselor and not have an illness. I don't know what to do. I also don't want to be judged.

@monicajohnson8341

7 жыл бұрын

One thing you'll learn in life, is that many people will judge you. The important thing is that you ignore them. I feel it's important to feel comfortable sharing your feelings of depression with an adult or school counselor. Don't let society make your mental health a "taboo" subject. Your happiness is important =)

Hhi katie I recently decided it was time to work ththrough a rough time. I finally went to the doctors today to get tested from being raped when I was 13. When I was telling the doctor I just started crying and couldn’t stop. Sother my question is how can you talk about abuse without breaking down? #katiefaq any help would be appreciated. BTW I love your videos they have helped so much

After I make myself throw up, I always feel happy

I have a question. I know dieting and weight loss do not equate to anorexia but I have been very hesitant to start dieting because I am afraid it might turn into anorexia. I did a 3 month experiment and lost some weight but throughout the process I was very worried so I halted it. My question is, what are the safety precautions someone can do to lose weight safely without turning into anorexia?

@ottaviazwillenberg3168

7 жыл бұрын

StrangleNdie if you don't have the gene to carry anorexia, you won't get it. I'd say if you have lost weight already and not already experienced AN, you don't have the gene. Well, from my experience anyway. Don't trust me haha!

@monicajohnson8341

7 жыл бұрын

I struggled with anorexia and bulimia for 14 years. I competed in sports all my life. No one knew that I was suffering inside. Finally, one year ago, I chose to heal myself and I been in recovery for ever since. It's a beautiful feeling. You wouldn't become anorexic from simply dieting, per say. What is your reasoning for wanting to lose weight?

#katifaq I really like your videos. I would like to ask you for advice on overcoming the fear of going out one's house. I go to college I'm 21. My father always walks me to the subway station. I'm tired of that. I come back home alone. The thing is that I cannot go alone anywhere else. I'm used to the route " home to college, college to home" and that's why I can do it. Now I'm starting to feel frustrated and trapt at home. But I can't go out, I feel insecure, I feel people stare or laugh. I used to convince myself that there was nothing Interesting out there to go out. But there are places I would like to go. Also my mom has been annoying and I don't want to be around. But I can't go out. I don't have friends. And My sister is always with me and sometimes I would like to be alone, but I can't be alone. Do you have any suggestions? Thank you for all what you do in youtube.

I had bulimia.And I am clean for 2 months already but I can't stop thinks of that it's like my brain juct keep telling me I need to this.when I think I think about it.When I eat I think about is I'm so scard I It feels lik a want to this my brain juct keep telling me nothing would happen juct do that.It's not a choice it's a sickness you can't stop.And I know a can but it's difficult.it's like trying to stop your bad habits..And bulimia is like a bad habit.

My eating disorder started out as a self harm behaviour, and then it grew from there... eating disorders themselves are NOT a choice in any way, shape, or form. It is a monster that lives inside your head, it's mental illness thoughts that truly are not your own, they're the disorder. We do not WANT to think or feel the way we do, it is our mental illness, and it makes us feel better in a way, as she says it's a coping mechanism, and yet it makes us also feel horrible, because trying to battle those thoughts only seems to make it worse, especially if you have no one to support you.

but too much of eating can harm us..how to get over this coping skill

It’s a choice at first. Or people with and ED feel like they don’t have a choice when they do. But after a while it isn’t a choice anymore