If you're transgender, have you ever gotten a question like this?

@miracledinner2244

3 жыл бұрын

old name is a frequent one

@janelle.evangelista999

3 жыл бұрын

yes, the chasers love to ask these questions

@queensigal

3 жыл бұрын

I guess people can ask about having children.Did you think of saving sperm and if not do you want to be a parent? I know a FTM trans who first had children then had the operation. Any regrets about children?

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree. Those questions make me really upset as well

@miracledinner2244

3 жыл бұрын

@@queensigal i chose not to preserve my sperm. being 17, never having been in a relationship, at least as likely to end up with a cis man as a cis woman, never wanted any children, and even if i do, adoption might be a suitable alternative. all in all it wasn't worth the cost. of course this decision is entirely my own responsibility and if i do regret this i will only have myself to blame

most people are not transgender so if your going to be intimate with someone these questions seems reasonable to ask a transgender. I mean if apperance did not matter why even transition .

Addressing these rude questions is beneficial and more people need to be educated. I really appreciate your insight and experience and you’re willingness to share this with everyone.

@daviedood2503

10 ай бұрын

It's not rude at all. People are curious. Nothing wrong with that. You're HERE aren't you 🤔🙄🤣

I wanted to thank you for being brave enough to not only tell people what is not acceptable to ask but also answer the questions, that people have asked. People are always curious about what they don't know or understand. It is evident that you are happy and I am happy for you.

“Why would I change back, I’m so happy“ is the best statement of this video, and probably every transgender person’s life

@Levi_is_Smol

3 жыл бұрын

Every time someone asks me if I'm happier now or that I somehow was happier back then, I show them my school photo from 6th grade, where I look like I've just murdered a bunch of people and ask them "do I look happy there?"

@clivematthews95

3 жыл бұрын

@@Levi_is_Smol you stay your true self, and I think you know how brave you are and how honest with yourself you are, love you for that ♥️ have a nice day, and thank you for sharing 🙏🏾

@joshuathomas8529

Жыл бұрын

The reason is their are many people that have regretted going threw the full transition.

@nxbxxha_1764

Жыл бұрын

HE'S NOT A REAL WOMAN FOR FUCK'S SAKE! A WOMAN AIN'T JUST A NAME OR OBJECT!

@fionasheppard2305

Жыл бұрын

Yeah.. just not those that kill themselves because of their regret.. or people that live the rest of their lives with physical complications due to the surgeries they've had.

I get the feelings about asking for before and after photos, but they are truly inspiring to those just starting their journey wondering what can I expect.

I think that many people are just 'curious'.... they don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I know that if I were to ask those 'tude' questions (but not straight away!!) it would be from a sense of fellow feeling, empathy, encouragement and support. Thank you for being so open and honest, Mathilda. Love from the UK. XX

Why would You go to an obgyn?

Thank you for always being such a bright light. You’re so amazing 🥺💕

3 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much!! 😭❤️

Preach it sister! I have had most of those questions myself. Luckily, transitioning toughens your hide against intrusive, personal and rude questions. Mostly. You answered in such a nice way.

Stumbled onto this to educate myself on Trans and I just want to applaud how much you went out of your way to explain onto seemingly stupid questions. Thank you!

I definitely cannot ask these questions to transgender people, just show respect to them and be equalised with each other.

@americanatheart110

Жыл бұрын

Asking question is not disrespectful.

@I_D_K_74

Жыл бұрын

​@@americanatheart110 depends what question

@Doma6945

Жыл бұрын

@@I_D_K_74 still not disrespectful

@I_D_K_74

Жыл бұрын

@@Doma6945 if its extremely personal

@Doma6945

Жыл бұрын

@@I_D_K_74 well they are asking what are you gonna do in future and that's normal

Thanks for making this video. Me and a bro were talking about this stuff the other day. I totally agree. These are things i would never just ask someone. It was nice to have the info volunteered. For intellectual curiosities.

I think it pretty important to know if someone has a pennis before you date them.

another rude question: have you ever considered to use Matilda ( the song from Harry Belafonte) as a signature tune for your videos?

3 жыл бұрын

Hahah no, I haven’t even heard it, I think. Maybe I’ll check it out! 😅

@oliwiam7255

3 жыл бұрын

or alt j !

@HippieVeganJewslim

5 ай бұрын

What about the Pink Floyd song Matilda Mother? By the way, everyone knows about the Roald Dahl book Matilda! I personally like Mathilda more than Marcus, just saying. @

Mathilda - you’re a gorgeous person inside and out! Thanks for taking time to answer all these difficult questions!

HUGE thank you for your honesty and addressing so many common questions! You are truly a gem.

There are many difficult questions here, and they are indeed painful, but It is difficult to ask for acceptance and understanding to people who have never had experience with these conditions if we are not allowed to ask questions.

@monday7150

2 жыл бұрын

Apparently we are not allowed to ask these question. Fcuking joke

@nxbxxha_1764

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Maye___

Жыл бұрын

@@monday7150 it really depends on the person you're asking, im more open to questions while other trans people arent 💗

It may be rude to ask these questions, but asking and discussing in private private will likely increase intimacy and should not be rude if the persons have gotten to that stage.

Thank you for confronting the rudeness head-on and for being honest and open :)

When I first came out , when I was changing my name with every bill and company , around 60% of them thought they had the right to ask me if I'm having the surgery ....it's so gross . A letter came in the mail with my old name and it literally gave me a brain spasm , I was so cringed out . Great video btw 🧡

@jeanettewest

3 жыл бұрын

This is something I am dreading; all those dang changes coming up....ugh!

@sarahsayshello9726

3 жыл бұрын

I'm still getting letters woth it and its been like 4 months. I dont think it'll stop till my social is updated. Thank you covid for closing down that office building

@Doma6945

Жыл бұрын

@@traviskalmoni bro they asked why he?she was doing surgery or not

@johngallagher3732

7 ай бұрын

Your photo is cringe..

Bless you as always, a special person and a special lady. Total support and respect. Rodge David Kidderminster UK

I don't worry about the questions, we're so rare the chance that anyone has ever met a trans person is tiny ...... folk really are just being curious, mostly there's no harm meant but we're a trotal mystery and folk don't know haw to handle that. Even my middle-aged doctor, who must have seen thousands of people every year, admitted to me that I was the first trans person he'd met ..... I'm always been told "But you're so normal !!" when I'm out and about because the only trans they ever see are the shouty activists that are popular on television news programmes. Loved the videos !!

It's also a bit more understandable that it's insensitive once you realise how difficult it is to get the surgery (price, pain, surgery dates + surgeons and pschy evals). My point is that it's so difficult that a lot of transgender people don't get the opportunity for surgery.

"why would you ask these questions" because its quite a new topic and we dont know and want to educate ourselfs.

After watching this I’ve changed my perspective on trans people.

@and4money4

22 күн бұрын

In what way?

Mathilda those are not rude questions but straight forward questions, remember trans people that have transitioned are .00001% of Western world, hardly no one knows personally someone that has fully transitioned and because all this is so knew, people want to know, specially when you put up a channel where you outted yourself as trans, and is a big part of your channel. It's not like these people are walking down the street they spot a trans person and Start asking all these questions. The question about your boyfriend being gay is simple, people do not know when and how you met, and people assume that he could be bi or gay attracted to feminine looking men, specially if he met you before or during your transitioning or in a lgtbq...gathering/event and lastly, because a 100% heterosexual men will have a subconscious unpleasant reaction when he realizes the person he is talking or flirting with is a biological male and when close to having sex with a male that has had bottom surgery. Because a trans woman nor his/her quasi vjj does not feel nor smell like a real vjj nor asa real woman. It's a genetic/physiological/biological/endocrinological thing. Biological women produce certain hormones with a certain smell before sex, just before sex and during sex (pheromones) that the biological male sens, smells, subconsciously.

You wanted to know why this person asked if you would like to be a boy again. Here's a simple answer: because there are trans people who do. There are regretters, it happens. Detransitionners have a right to exist and be allowed to speak their truth. If you don't regret your transition and you're happy being trans, good for you. But know that it's not always the case, so asking about how you feel about your choice to be trans is completely understandable, even if you might find it surprising, invasive or rude.

@user-mv7rl7ty1j

18 күн бұрын

Have you ever regretted getting married with your husband? You know, there are people who have...

@anaisgeoffrion2819

18 күн бұрын

@@user-mv7rl7ty1j I'm not married so my answer is no. But there are certainly people who have regretted. That said, I am not sure to see where you're goin with this example. Could you clarify?

It takes a courageous person to make a video like this. I commend you for the service to others you have given in this video. Mathilda, you are an incredible young woman and I hope your life is truly wonderful and happy. Just one other thing. Asking a woman, at an appropriate time,about lubrication during sex Is a thoughtful discussion to have for any couple. As a man if I love someone I want her to enjoy sex with me and I would want to know about this problem so we can work out a solution together. Lack of lubrication is not just a problem for Transgender women. It can also be a problem for straight women as well. It is loving and respectful thing to approach at the right time. I am not criticizing you, just trying to answer why a man would ask this question. Sorry for the long comment.

Tack för att du delar med dig och utbildar andra på det här sättet!

@gone_mad-tryagainlater

11 ай бұрын

Hey what language is this? Just curious!

My sister(best friend who is mtf trans) helped me learn a lot. Many of my non binary friends opened my eyes first. I had questions like, "are they on hormones," "does the vagina close up and clit turn into a penis?" I'm glad my new friends were patient, and tolerated my naivety of non binary yrans folks etc. I love all my friends. The ability to see all my new neighbors, humbled me very much.

It’s just human nature to be curious. I understand why it’s inappropriate to ask. But these questions don’t surprise me one bit. I think everyone on the planet who isn’t transgender. Would quietly wonder all of these exact questions. So thanks for sharing such personal information. I don’t think it’s weird to wonder these things. Inappropriate to ask? Yeah. Unless it were a close friend or family member. ❤❤

I don't want to argue or debate. I just have an honest question: I understand that it's rude to ask the transphobic questions but if you're a man and you meet a cute trans girl, let's say in a club or so, and you're genuinely curious about getting to know her, why would it be rude to ask questions about her biology? Especially when you don't have any experiences with trans girls? I think there are many guys who are genuinely curious, but who don't have any experiences, and to forbid them to ask any questions about all the obvious thinks I find a bit odd...

Thank you for being so honest and forthright. You are an amazing woman. How wonderful that you are now the real you.

I have no words to explain what important are you being for me, so thank you

I think you’re quite brave for doing this Mathilda . I am happy for you that you’re happy . To me you just look like an ordinary woman , if you hadn’t said you were trans I would never have guessed . All the best to you and your bf

Saving this video to educate some people in the future, thank you very much Mathilda

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

You're the best and wonderful on the new video for the questions and answers🥰❤💞✨

Hi Mathilda, you are such an incredible woman. I have so much respect for you. Thank you for sharing these very difficult questions. ❤

It seems that providing people with clarity and education is very important to you. I really appreciate that. People are curious creatures, especially about others who are not like them. While some people might have an agenda and a mission to be mean and cause discomfort and pain, I might venture to say that many just want to try to wrap their head around something about which they know nothing and don't have a clue. I am one of those people. It's very discouraging to me that you answer the questions, but meanwhile continue throughout the answering process to disparage and criticize the people asking the questions. If you feel that way, why would you choose to engage? Wouldn't it be simpler and make more sense to either 1) not invite and not answer the questions, or 2) make a one-time emphatic point upfront that these questions are inappropriate when not invited, and then choose to openly answer the questions. I have questions, but now, I don't feel safe asking you. I will either Google the questions I have, ask trans people I know who are open to my queries, or simply remain uneducated. My intention is not to attack you here, so please, I would appreciate it if you refrain from attacking me. Thank you.

I clicked so fast because I didn't want to miss out ❤💗

3 жыл бұрын

@besharmikihaad6391

3 жыл бұрын

Even if you click slow ......you cant miss it

Seriously, wtf is wrong with so many people? Like you, Mathilda, I too have been asked so many of these shockingly intrusive and disrespectful questions by quite a few people. In my experience, it's bad enough being asked such things by someone I know. But, to be asked such things by total strangers... It really irks me to my core! 🤬 Anyways, great vid, as always, hun. Happy crimbo/ saturnalia/ chanukah etc to you and yours. 😊 x

@americanatheart110

Жыл бұрын

Society is developed through dialigue. Asking question is not disrespectful. Getting offended for no reason is the problem. 95% times people are nice and accept if they understand. Only few are bullies. And those bully don't care gender.

Thank you for making this video! I am looking into transitioning MtF and I was honestly curious. Thank you so much this helped me a lot!

One thing I will say is that my ex was transgender and 19 and I think You have to think about it for a long time but understand what you’re gonna get to make sure you know what you want because it is pretty permanent not reversible so I think that knowing what you want and thinking about it for a while is a good idea and I asked a lot of questions just so I could educate myself because it is a very new topic and it is a taboo situation

The questions are "normal" and logical, because that is the topic( being trans), you are talking about. If it would be a music channel, it would have been rude to ask these guestions. There are numerous detransitioners out there, so that's one reason of the~ 6.00 min. guestion as well.

@TransShadow42

3 жыл бұрын

ah yes, all 1-5 percent of the already extremely small percent of trans people in the world. Also she's saying these questions are rude and terrible to ask a transperson irl, not just on youtube. Of course dont ask any transperson this if your cis but still you are kinda right there is a difference asking this for a channel specifically about being trans but these questions shouldnt be asked to anyone else type thing.

@michajastrzebski4383

3 жыл бұрын

might be logical, still, why in all hells would anyone ask anyone if their genitals look real, trans or not? Like WTF...

@sarahsayshello9726

3 жыл бұрын

@@TransShadow42 my ex asked alot of the rude questions when he first found out. I didn't care. We gotta remember we are basically aliens to most people. They've never encountered a trsns person before. Let's make the first interaction a positive and educational one for them.

@TransShadow42

3 жыл бұрын

@@sarahsayshello9726 yeah I totally get that, but at the same time I don't want someone asking me what I have down there or am I going to get surgery and other such extremely invasive questions. We're a regular human beings, we deserve to be treated with respect. But yeah, I totally get the fact that a lot of times we are their first exposure and so I do try to be really understanding and positive but at some point it does get too personal so.

Who in the world would ever ask those questions? You are now female period! End of discussion!! You are beautiful. You corrected what mother nature got wrong.

I would think because some people have these questions it's because they are curious and have the desire to be what they are asking about I to have those same feelings and have that desire but there is so much fear involved with the unknown that it holds me back thank you for sharing you are an amazing trans woman

@americanatheart110

Жыл бұрын

She is just a "woman"

Thank you for talking about these things. I’m interested in the community and wanted to know more👌💯💫💫💫

i’m crying when she said ‘do u go around on the bus asking your grandma 💀😭😭’

Thanks for enlightening us on offensive questions. I guess ppl are curious, but if those questions are rude, i definitely will google and not ask

If I ever met a transgender person and fell in love, and then she told me I would not care, it's like if she cared if Im balding or have a small pp. If you like the person. You like the person.

@sarahsayshello9726

3 жыл бұрын

Pretty much how it went with my ex. Je asked me put and I was like yes! Then no! I wonder if he saw the fear in my eyes after I said yes. Well at our lunch break I told him. The look on his face ill never forget it. He asked some questions while kind of staring in the distance. I had no idea wivh way he was leaning. By the time break ended he was like ok. I still want to take you to breakfast. Was the start of a very happy relationship. I still love him actuslly.

@gigachad1021

2 жыл бұрын

Gay

@Ireee702

Жыл бұрын

@@gigachad1021 You don't deserve that name

@gigachad1021

Жыл бұрын

@@Ireee702 why

I can't believe anyone would ever ask those questions... Thank you for educating everyone, though I would hope people would know better by now lol. Anyway, you're an amazing, beautiful, strong, brave woman!!! Lots of love to you, gorgeous 💕💕💕

Peepee did make me laugh lots🤣🤣🤣 very delicately put across, as kids could be viewing this content. Thumbs up to your integrity👍✅

you're right, but people always like to judge others ... so. go ahead you are beautiful and strong :)

this was empowering!

Thank u soo much for talking about these things and all your other videos as well I’ve just come out as trans and it’s helped me hugely ❤ Ember

Hi mathilde from EVE in the UK, I got some of them questions asked of me🤨 I totally agree with you, there are some people who are just interested and others who that should say nothing, unfortunately I can't say what I would like to say, take care and stay safe xx

Thank you for sharing all of that ❤

As a cis person who considers myself to be an ally…. THANK YOU and dusking for myself only really but I’m sure many would agree with where I come from, I GENUINELY just seek to understand the how and why EVERYTHING in the world works and trans people are part of existance and their worthy of my curiosity and understanding,,,, just like how geology works or how reptile vs mammalian sexuality works…. But as a human being I recognize trans people aren’t a specimen in a textbook/museum to be displayed for study….. but there isn’t another way to understand this part of the world I share existance with other than to ask or wish I could go study this in a museum/scientific sense but also aware of how socially horrible the implied ethics and social propriety are and how inappropriate scientific mind can feel frustrated in the intersection of my empathic self meeting my own complete open and vocal if not sharing too much with total strangers neurodivergent self is about why anyone still feels weird at all about sharing stuff…

Wow you are so Brave Mathilda! Im trans and I remember watching your videos before I was out to anyone, especially myself. I told myself that I was just learning about it as a cis man lol rip. Now I'm watching them as I consider bottom surgery in my far future to get a sense for the process again. Your content is so affirming of my rights to privacy and self respect. Thank you for all that you do!❤

I get that they're rude to ask people, but I understand the questions... most of them. Asking about the past... I can't see why anyone would give a crap, for the most part. Asking if you'd ever want to de-transition is mainly a transphobic wishful thinking issue, like praying the gay away. Any anti-trans propagandist has a handful of cases they scoured the net for just so they can use it against the whole trans population. Now, the biology stuff is interesting. I can see why people would want to know. The look... dude, there's websites for that... but the actual function is cool. I was confused about that stuff till they talked about it on Jazz's show. When I originally heard about that surgery, years ago, I automatically assumed it would serve no function at all, other than using the toilet, that it was all esthetic. Although people find it difficult to talk about on an individual level (props, by the way), I think the demystification certainly serves a broader purpose. People fear or dismiss what they don't understand. Basically, 'Transgenders don't really exist because I don't get it'.

Great u almost answered all common questions which comes to mind when thinking of transgender person.

Just wanna say thanks for explaining so well cause we can't possibly know how hese things :) so thanks

I remember being asked those questions also made me upset and very emotional. I'm much happier and free I'm able to live my true self.

Great video idea. People think they can be rude and hopefully this video will get people to think twice before asking such offensive, intrusive stuff

@thomasvontom

Жыл бұрын

I would say it's not rude or inappropriate. If it's a honest intellectual curiosity and you know the person to a degree that these sort of personal conversations can go both ways. I for one have always wondered what the results of these surgerys are long term. Just because I wanted to know.

Did you watch the trans drama "pose"on Netflix and if so did you like it?I loved some of the characters. You look so much better NOW . All people should live NOW and not look back!

"Answering Questions You CAN'T Ask Trans People" Why can't I? Who would stop me?

@triumph.over.shipwreck

24 күн бұрын

*keyboards typing vigorously rn*

People can indeed be obtuse and rude at times, and that's not acceptable in polite interactions with any other human. HOWEVER, it's no big surprise and it is not strange/abnormal for people to simply wonder about things they don't fully understand. I'd personally never ask these these things of anyone, unless perhaps they were a very close friend and they didn't mind. People need to use some common sense and decorum, but I'm just saying it's not inherently wrong or abnormal for people to wonder about these things. Doesn't mean it has any malicious intent, it's simply human curiosity.

So. For me, I’m painfully straight. But I’ve got a transgender child and I’m trying to understand in a really fundamental way. I love my kids, but this is new to me and I’m desperate to understand so I can fully support. As a parent, I feel like I’m in a position to be a mentor and coach, but something like this isn’t something I can help with. Seems like a shit job as a parent to me if I can’t help my kid understand the world they’re in and the experiences they’re having. I’m trying to learn and understand to do a better job of parenting. This video, while clear about what’s offensive, is essential for me to help understand the the whole experience and yes, I’m going to be offensive without guidance. I don’t want to be offensive or make it worse, but I also appreciate this because it helps me understand what is appropriate and what’s not. Maybe you’ve already done a video on this, but my question is: What would be helpful for a young person to hear from their parents when they decide to communicate their identity.

@exnihilo415

3 жыл бұрын

I’m the husband of a trans woman. We’ve been married for many years. As a bisexual of a certain age I faced a great deal of discrimination. My father never spoke to me again when he learned that I was with my wife (this was before her transition but that wouldn’t have mattered to him anyway). My advice is to tell your trans kid that things get better. Adolescence is a rough time. It is going to be a compex journey with endocrinologists and psychologists and your body being under the microscope by others. Not everyone will accept them. Aside from that reality check, that you have their back through it all. That you’ll always be there for them. That being trans is beautiful and that there is a community of people that will fully accept you. That finding love and a partner to share life with won’t be a problem. The world is becoming more accepting everyday. To know hope and to not give in to the hate that they may receive. If you have any questions, just ask. Wishing you the best!

You are inspiration for everyone

I don't think it's weird to ask these questions.

finaly, just redirect all the people with these questions to this video , thank you :)

Thank you for answering, educating the world and helping us regular people understand. Asking questions means interest and curiosity. People wants to learn and understand. And Yes, some people are rude and/or insensitive!! ignore them!!!

You said ya'll! Giving the south some love!

You are so right, and you look so beautiful, but your personality is stunning.

Woahhhhh as a FTM person who actually named myself your deadname, I was totally jumpscared by that part of the video. It is crazy to me that a name that brings me so much joy can bring someone else so much discomfort, and yet despite being on completely opposite ends of the gender spectrum, so many of our experiences as trans people are the same. I completely admire your bravery in admitting what your deadname was, especially with all of the hateful trolls on the internet who might use it against you. You are so strong Mathilda!

i wonder why people would really ask these kind of questions cause it's too private

@requitLuv

3 жыл бұрын

Because they are curious?

Thank you my lady for educating us about trans people

5:54 you know you're a perfect girl when you can't answer a simple yes/no question anymore🤣

I don't understand why you find these questions so upsetting. People have a genuine interest in the outcome of any physical transformation. Perhaps it's because you fear ridicule or you'd rather not be reminded of the operation. I don't really think people are being rude or disrespectful. Personally, if I didn't know you were transexual I would't know to ask! You look completely feminine. The questions are inspired by any girl declaring to all on a public forum their transexual experience. True, people might be boorishly rude in how they ask the question and you'd be right to ignore them. And yes, information on the surgical procedures can be found elsewhere, but I guess once people get to know you, then they want to learn from YOUR experience and opinions.

Does anyone know how to do the thing where you use concealer on your neck?

@sarahsayshello9726

3 жыл бұрын

If hiding bruises or hickey use white toothpaste and rub it in let it dry then use the concealer over the toothpaste

Seems like if you really want to know, there is always a polite way to ask and go about things.

Fantastic video thankyou!!

You have become a beautiful woman merry Christmas babydoll

Hi! I found you so inspirational, and o was wondering. I’m 15 and want to transition mtf, but I don’t know how, I rlly need advice! Thanks! :D

Appearantly with the Sigmund colon surgery you can indeed lubricate. Just what I read. Its the one im saving for. But for the does it work im pretty certain they mean lubrication

I love your new hair!!

Community guideline won't allow me to speak freely About MYSELF!

,,I had multiple doctors down there and they were very happy with the results'' is it just me or does this sound really wrong.

@solmoman

3 жыл бұрын

yeah youre a pinata full of money intheir eyes

You are so beautiful Matilda ❤️🤗🌷 thanks for sharing this information, it was really helpful!

@badenroyle2651

2 жыл бұрын

Yes she is so beautiful and also so pretty ❤️😇😘

Great speech!

This is the real me....well said. That's all people need to know about you.

I think many of the questions answered in this I think the reason many may ask these question if they are trying to figure out if they want to transition themselves, others who ask any to these question yeah don't know why they would want to know.

What about having children. I know a transgender woman who first had children then transitioned. Any thoughts about adopting or having children with a surgate?

It's a good thing you answered the pie but you don't know why people care what it is. It matters to me now and not before and if you have a boy who loves you you love each other as you wish there wasn't gay or anything else 🥰🥰

Very insightful and educational video. Hope all is well?

You are a very beautiful and intelligent woman and I have learned so much about the transgender community from your channel especially. As a cis gendered woman I still struggle with understanding why anyone would chose to be a woman. From my experience and observations woman are sexualized and objectified much more than men. Men are taken seriously and thought highly of more frequently than woman. I am biased since I have had plenty of bad experiences for simply being a woman and I just can’t wrap my head around why anyone would chose to be the gender that is looked at as lower. I didn’t ask to be a woman and would love to have been born a male instead to avoid all the unfair treatment. My other question is kind of a difficult one, what exactly does being a woman mean to you? Is it the stereotypical factors such as wearing makeup, dressing up, being submissive, being emotional? Is it the biological factors such as having breasts for feeding a child, having a vagina to give birth, having a menstrual cycle for possible pregnancy? I struggle with understanding what the idea of a woman is to MTF since the stereotypical factors just enforce gender roles that keep woman lower than men and separated from men as well, and the biological factors are just for aesthetics since none of those functions are possible for what they are created for in regards to MTF. I don’t mean hate by this comment at all, it’s just a genuine and I think important topic to discuss. I appreciate you answering all the taboo questions non transgender people have.

@WizardOfTheHills

3 жыл бұрын

Being a man I envy the freedom women have to choose occupation. Women in male dominated occupations are thought of as pioneers, trail blazers, and are celebrated. Men in female dominated occupations on the other hand are often looked down upon. I can't wear make-up in public without attracting condescending and ridiculing looks. Women have the freedom to choose whether or not to wear make-up. Women have a lot more leeway when it comes to clothes. It is permissible for women to show a lot more skin than men when attending formal dress parties. Sexually dominating women are adored, (just do a search for femdom), but submissive women are not looked down upon. Submissive men on the other hand are thought of as far less desirable. When it comes to hooking up, women have a clear advantage. An old (1982) study showed that an average looking woman had a more than 50% chance of hooking up when approaching single men at a bar. In the reverse experiment the men were always rejected by women. What I am getting at here is that all genders are different when it comes to advantages and disadvantages. Depending on your personal preferences and emphasis, one gender may be regarded as more desirable.

@sarahsayshello9726

3 жыл бұрын

Its not so much gender stereotypes. If I was born female I'd be considered a ton boy. But ultimately I like both male and female things equally. I dont wear makeup im a bad cook but I love to bake and knit yet I love guns and hard manual labor I dislike cars and adore baths. Its just self identity. Either you are a woman or a man kinda thing. As much as I hate to say it and how much shit gets tossed my way the easiest way to say it is for m2fs we have a woman's mind. Its lamen terms yes but its the easiest way I can think if to explain something thats hard to explain. Women and men are definitly treated differently though. Ige always noticed it but I really noticed it after transitioning. Like ar work when something heavy needs moving before id get asked to help. After transition though my boss asked me to cover someone so they could help him. I yhink he could see the shit I was about to give him cause he was like nvm and walked away. Doors get opened for me I see dudes staring at me. Hilariously in my opinion anyways ive seen guys looming at my breasts and im only an a cup like seriously dude? Before when I'd cry for whatever reason I'd be avoided but now when I cry guys come to my defense. Try to talk to me etc. My God the hormones and the mood swings though. That took awhile to get used to. Sane with the strength loss. I cant even draw my bows anymore wich I used to be able to with ease. Guys talk over me wich never happened before. God forbid they listen. I work with alot of foreigners and the Muslims refuse to listen to me. My boss had me train one once and it was like dude what are you doing? He doesn't listen to me. So that can be frustrating but at the end of the day life went from being miserable. Just looking in the mirror hurt. Hearing your name hurt. Its like every single thing was designed specifically to hurt you. After transitioning though I go to bed happy and wake up happy. Looking in the mirror I like what I see. Hearing my name is meaningless. Blessedly meaningless. It doesn't hurt. Its hard to explain this suffering to someone who's never experinced it. Kinda like explaining bills to a kid who was raised by billionaires

@gigachad1021

2 жыл бұрын

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Yes, these are very rude questions, and I would never even think of asking any one of them of ANY woman, trans or not. You are SO courageous for answering them. Just know that there are a lot of us our here who love and support you, Mathilda. Who don't give a crap what your "dead name" was. And who can plainly see that you are a happy, vibrant woman. Why would anyone even suspect that you might consider de-transitioning? Hang in there, lovely lady. You're AWESOME!! #OneOldMansOpinion

The detransition question may be because places like here in America we don't have the processes that Sweden has and we do have a lot of people who end up detransitioning so I'm not sure if it as rude as is it seems at first glance or if it's a legitimate question because of detransitioners in places that don't have the same Medical system that helps a person to know all the information in order to make a knowledgeable decision. In America it is kind of like you can do it almost on a whim you can decide to transition and a year-and-a-half later have surgery for gender reassignment. The only real requirement here is that someone has to Act and dress the gender of their choosing for one year before scheduling surgery. Not trying to be rude I love everybody everyone even the ignorant they know not what they do. And I know you mentioned Maya Henry on one of your videos, she's actually where I found you.❤❤❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

The only question I would ask is it possible for certain mtf trans to be attracted to female instead of only males? or could they be bi as well?