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AM I THE A-HOLE?! (new submissions) Good Influences Episode 54
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As an introvert who needs alone time to recharge my social/emotional batteries I also request that my bf text if he is coming home early. That time is desperately needed for me and if it’s not happening it helps to know ahead of time.
Mike is so real for that girl who wanted the bf to text her before coming home early. Some people NEED to mentally prepare themselves for company even if it's people who live with them. It can get exhausting to mentally make space RIGHT AWAY. Think if you're back to being a teenager and your hormones are high and someone enters your room without knocking. It just feels like that 😅😅😅
@anahwieland
Жыл бұрын
as a server & talking all day to ppl, that space of being alone without interruption really helps too. (it is my place that my bf is welcome to walk in, but I feel bad for asking for a heads up)
@kira7427
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree!
@wendydarling8979
Жыл бұрын
@@anahwieland exactly! The best way to TRULY decompress
@hwhi6130
Жыл бұрын
Seriously and Erin was so irritating trying to justify it
Can you guys do a Gossip episode? Where you talk about gossip said about you and your friends and then say if it's true or false hahaha
@laurynblake3824
Жыл бұрын
Yesss
@arieeld8222
Жыл бұрын
omg that’s such a good one!!!!
@AminaJim
Жыл бұрын
YES! i need to know why Carly and Erin don't talk to the vlog squad + why they didn't go to Erins weeding!!
I totally relate to wanting a heads up that your partner is coming home - I try to plan my night around that, just like mike said, to make dinner for us both or not, when to shower & get ready for bed, etc. My partner doesnt have an issue with letting me know he’s headed home, sometimes he forgets but mostly he’s communicative.
I like when my boyfriend tells me when he comes home early because I’ll workout at home and I don’t like to be watched or scared mid workout
@theyJC
Жыл бұрын
yesss omg being interrupted while in the zone is not fun
I’m so happy to see most of the comments about the “heads up text” are very understanding of OPs situation/mindset. I totally get it.
As an introvert myself, I understand the girl who wants her bf to text her when he’s coming home early. It’s not that she doesn’t want him there and it’s not that she’s doing something he shouldn’t know about, it’s that as an introvert, no matter who it is we need time to prepare to interact with another person. It’s a true introvert thing that very many extroverts would not even begin to comprehend.
Everything that girl said and Mike said about wanting a text I agree with. I feel bad that they made it seem like it was weird ask when she literally stated the reason why. As an introverted and anxious person (who also works on their shit, it’s not like I let this rule my life) i appreciate having a heads up if I don’t know the scheduled time you’ll be back, but Erin’s reaction is exactly why I always feel “bad” or like the “asshole” when I ask. So I completely understand where that girl was coming from
@itzelaportella
Жыл бұрын
I totally feel you on this
@Juless098
Жыл бұрын
I totally agree! I don’t think the girl is the asshole either because I don’t think she’s mad at her partner for NOT texting her…I think both sides can just compromise…if this is something that makes her happy, why shouldn’t he do it? The guy is ALSO completely valid if he forgets…we’re all humans..as long as she is understanding and doesn’t get mad at him.. I think both Erin and Mike can just agree to disagree too instead of both of them completely trying to convince the other their side is right. I think there’s a reason why people love Carly so much..she actually sees both sides but also not offending either one with her reaction. Matt can come off a little offensive sometimes…
Me and my fiancé always text each other when we are coming home!! For me it’s more of a safely thing if something happens to one another
In my opinion Mike is correct. I have anxiety and I like to know in advance how my day is going to go. Mike asked Erin if she would text if TJ said he wanted her to and she said yes. The Reddit person was saying a boundary/something that makes her feel comfortable. Matt and Erin gaming up on him was annoying. Way to go Carly for seeing both sides. All in all I agree with Mike.
@haleybaker1454
Жыл бұрын
It drove me crazy how they just refused to see his side!!!! I’m an extremely anxious person and if my husband didn’t let me know when he was heading home then it would really flip my mood. Every once in a while he might forget to text me, but for the most part, he’s happy to respect what makes me comfortable! I also like to get what I personally need done completed before he comes home so we can spend that time together.
@itzelaportella
Жыл бұрын
Girl, same!
@alexainw0nderland
Жыл бұрын
This drove me crazy too. No one was the asshole imo. It’s easy to text when you’re leaving but sometimes you will forget! My fiancé and I do this and sometimes we BOTH forget. It’s just nice to know to plan your evening or just simply get excited that they’re coming home early!
I 1000% agree with wanting a heads up text. Everything Mike said is right. It’s not too much to ask.
@Dink_13
Жыл бұрын
Yup, fully agree on this topic.
@Kase1313
Жыл бұрын
SAME! She’s not hiding anything and isn’t mad she just wants to be in her own vibe 😂 respect her introverted personality
@saysaybugg
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Bevrina
Жыл бұрын
I love my alone time
@minaxo7448
Жыл бұрын
I feel like it’s more of an introvert thing because I also completely agree
i love erin and matt so much but they really seem to have trouble being introspective and putting themselves in others positions haha
@JS-0-
Жыл бұрын
It can be so frustrating
Erin: “Matt it’s okay to have an opinion!!” Also Erin: *slanders Matt for having any opinions* 😂💀
I 100000% get where the introverted girl is coming from and Erin and Matt’s responses to her made me feel like I was back in middle school getting bullied by extroverts for being quiet 😒
Mike is ABSOLUTELY right about the text. It takes literally 20 seconds to send a text and you know it gives your significant other peace of mind, its simple to just do it. Its about the plan of your day being changed not about her doing anything shady
I just wanna say that I LOVE the structured / unstructured vibe of this podcast! Y'all go on rants and talk about stuff outside of the theme but always make it back on track which I love! It's the best of both worlds!
Mike was spot on with the girl wanting a heads up from her boyfriend. Matt and Erin definitely read the situation all wrong
You should do an episode on parenting! How were you raised? How would you raise your kids? Would love to hear❤
@Claire-tq8hf
Жыл бұрын
Yessss
Needing a simple text before the other person gets home doesn’t make the girlfriend an asshole at all. Erin’s POV is always the non-anxious POV bc she just doesn’t seem to ever get anxious about anything lol
@aznhelena
Жыл бұрын
She gets anxious about her health but pretty non anxious about everything else
@mistressrat
Жыл бұрын
She has a really hard time understanding people differ from her and when they do, she becomes very limited or any perspective beyond her own is very limited.
Its crazy being here since the first ep knowing I've watched 54+ hours of one podcast show
@romanardoni9822
Жыл бұрын
Same and I rewatch episodes 😅
Mike reading the ad directly off the script and not looking at the camera once 💀
the let’s eat grandma made me laugh out LOUD at work
Matt’s face when Erin said she only has time for suits was iconic 😂
I hope the girl asking for a text is not the Asshole because I totally see her point of view! It’s always nice to give a heads up because I would do the same if the schedule is deviating from the norm. It just gives time to mentally prepare to socialize and most likely do couple things. I think it’s a courtesy thing
omg Mike, people are NOT mad that you don’t like Taylor swift. They’re mad at what you specifically said about her. I know I am shouting into the void but Jesus Christ
I think Mike explained the girls situation perfect. I'm EXACTLY like that and I don't think a quick text is too much to ask.
I definitely understand mikes defense on the text situation, as someone who spends time alone almost 24/7, I absolutely need to prepare to share my space with anyone!
Matt doing that pose for the iPad kid was absolutely hilarious
@keshiamccallum3364
Жыл бұрын
I rewatched it like 10 times hahaha. He always has such a cough and it worked well this time with the coughing iPad kid 😂
Oh thank god, I’m DYING of bored at work rn
@prestigious_salad
Жыл бұрын
literally same just screamed out of excitement 😂
I don't think I've ever watched a KZread video and been like " oh my God x is wearing a shirt again" Rich people problems
the coming home topic i had the exact same take as mike. i hate surprises. any kind of them i don’t like them at all. whenever i go anywhere i always ask who is going to be there before hand just to know because i can mentally prepare myself for what i’m walking into. i don’t think she’s the ass hole at all for wanting a simple text from him before coming home she can shift her perspective of what her next hour is going to look like.
The AITA about the text is so interesting. As someone who is on the spectrum and diagnosed ocd. My day revolves around a tiny schedule in my brain and I’ve mapped that out either the night before or that morning. To have something change during that schedule like someone showing up when you weren’t expecting, having noise when you thought it’d be quiet, even the outfit you planned in your head not looking how you thought it would can completely throw an entire mood or day off. To the “normal” person it’s no big deal and you instantly self adjust but for the quirky pals on the spectrum or with social issues a little heads up doesn’t seem like a lot to ask. If you have dated someone on the spectrum before it’s a very normal request and pretty easy adjustment but if you’re not use to that it seems unreasonable and weird I guess.
Can Carly and Erin please do a video on their main channel where they make Mike listen to Taylor Swift songs that are not just the ' radio hits'
@charliedawn27
Жыл бұрын
She’s had mellow songs on the radio too not just shake it off, it’s really not revolutionary music I think he’s aware and just sure of his opinion here
@Ash-mb2dj
Жыл бұрын
Idk I think that there is something for everyone! Her radio hits are never her best songs imo… they’re good but they are not her best. I think Mike might enjoy Folklore.
MATT’S IPAD KID COUGH HAHAHAHA
I agree with Mike about the girl wanting people to let them know when their home. I am introverted and have anxiety so I like to know what is happening and what goes on. I don’t like surprises
Can you guys do an episode on famous true crime cases ?? Just throwing it out there, love yew guysssssss ❤️❤️
@piplup5680
Жыл бұрын
yes omg!!
@Livemusiceventsuk
Жыл бұрын
I second this !!
"Let's eat grandma. Let's eat, grandma." LMAO Mike coming in hot with the examples 😂
Not Matt thinking the lady’s name “Tonya” is weird when his girlfriend is literally named “PATRICIA” 😬🤣
I completely agree with Mike on the text coming home early! (I don’t know that woman’s situation) but I am a stay at home mom and my husband works all day. I like when he shoots me a text or call when he’s on his way home so I can change my day around according to his arrival. Even pre kid, I loved my solitude and I appreciated when he let me know he was on his way home. I would hate for him to come home and nothing is done if that makes sense.. And funny thing is HE feels the same way… he likes to know I’m on my way home so he can do a quick clean up.
Matt judging Erin for wanting to rewatch suits yet I’ve rewatched suits like 4 times hahahaha
@princesskitkat2012
Жыл бұрын
Same I love rewatching since I can skip all the scenes I hate too (always skip Trevor 🙄)
matt do not underestimate the suits fandom. If suits has 1 million fans, then I'm one of them. If suits has one fan, then I'm THAT ONE. If suits has no fans, that means I'm dead.
Mike around the last bit (55min mark) you nail it on the dot! Although ya sketchy that ur person needs a heads up, I drive my gf to and from work all the time and enjoy my ‘me time’ but when I get a text I gotta get her early it’s all good, just change my plans a bit instead of doing my alone stuff. Sometimes I’m working on projects that are louder n she hates listening too, or I watch my shows that she ain’t gonna watch with me. It’s common respect and if you loved and trusted your partner a quick, heading home my love ain’t hard.
Matt, I agree with the birthday registry. Nothing worse than being a good gift giver and receiving shitty gifts or gifts not needed all of the time.
@eb6060
Жыл бұрын
I saw something recently suggesting we should use registries for people graduating, specifically with Masters and PHDs but I think it could be for all grads. I love that idea - also new houses, big moves etc. I think it would be a great idea to use registries beyond weddings and babies.
mike being a kombucha drinker is always a slay
I’m an introvert who’s chronically ill so I have sm fatigue, while my partner is an extrovert with unmedicated ADHD. Sometimes I also need a heads up when he’s coming home if it’s at a different hour than usual
No I just have to say that I completely agree w Mike!! its not about not wanting your partner home it is totally about how your expectations for the night are altered! Nothing wrong w a heads up text!! Me and my bf have the find my friends notif on for when we arrive at home so we have some warning.
I agree with Matt about the birthday registry, it’s better to get something they would actually like rather than something that’s a waste of money because it never gets used
Also this podcast is such good vibes my iPad wouldn’t load and every frame as everyone laughing how adorbs is that. Matt looks so comfortable on this podcast, more than others imo. I listen to the pod at my cleaning job, before bed, on my walks and in the car. Just LOVE it. Love u guys!
You should do listener submissions for “Am I the A-hole”.
Matt's face at 7:32 when Erin says he doesn't like a lot of things 😂 and Mike just dying in the background LMAO 💀
I literally cannot handle their takes on the warning text. It's not that big of a deal and it takes half a second as Mike said, I NEED my alone time and my privacy so if that time is getting cut short I'd like to know. it's not that she hates her partner and doesn't want him to come home. that's such a weird take.
Carly’s smile is infectiously striking beauty😻
10000% agree with Mike. The point he brought up about adjusting her expectations of the night is such a good way to put it. She is not an ahole. She is expressing something simple she wants that will make her happy. It just isn't that hard to do!
as an introvert myself, i’m still with erin and matt on not needing to send a text to let your partner know you’re coming home early. why do you need to mentally prepare yourself to see your own PARTNER. they should be able to see you at any point of the day and love what they see. i get needing some alone time bc i feel that way all the time but you shouldn’t feel anxious when you think about your partner. He literally LIVES there. if i had to try to remember to text my partner everytime i wanted to come home to my OWN HOUSE i would honestly feel like a prisoner. that sounds absolutely exhausting.
ok but I relate to the introverted girl. I’m not doing anything weird and it’s not that I don’t enjoy my bf’s presence. It’s just like mike said, i would like to plan my night accordingly. If I’m having a self care night i would like to know when my bf is getting home so that we could do something else which is OKAY I don’t mind doing something else I just want to know what my night will look like. But then again I’m not that bothered by my bf being home early without telling me. I def think the girl might be hiding something lol I feel like she cares too much/ is making a big deal out of this BUT it would help if the bf tried a bit more to let her know
@limly445
Жыл бұрын
Neither is the asshole just idk they both need to compromise a bit more
I loved Suits! But Matt shitting on it was so funny. Erin laughing was making me laugh too 😆
I’m only a few minutes in but this is a fun one! Y’all seemed to be really giggly and vibing off each other this day!
I completely agree with her about the text thing. I have roommates who I’m very close and comfortable with and whenever I’m just vibing on the couch and watching tv having my me time, whenever they come home earlier than expected it just throws me off and I feel like I have to flip a switch and the energy is different now. It’s okay and I don’t get upset obviously but it’s definitely a thing. I think it stems just from being a person who really enjoys and values being alone, or also just having an idea of what your day or night is going to be in your head and now it’s different.
Glass noodles are a see-through food!! Lol 26:45
@jasonhunter2819
Жыл бұрын
oh! and rice paper wrappers!
a food item that's transparent is spring roll wrappers! also, i can relate that i need my alone time and would like to be told ahead of time a rough estimate of when i should be expecting my partner to come home. but i appreciate Matt and Erin's side and i like hearing opposing arguments, plus i find it entertaining when it SEEMS like they're giving Mike a hard time, but it's their friendship and they're being funny.
Absolutely agree with the heads up text. Especially with ADHD, I need time to decompress alone. WITH THAT, I also thrive on planning my alone time so that I am mentally prepared. It’s a stimulation decompression thing! The spiral my brain would have if someone walks in when I’m not expecting would be insane. It’s not a overprotective, malicious, or suspicious thing. It’s purely a want from ADHD. :)
not even 10 minutes into the episode and mike is already taking jabs at taylor swift 😤
@jasonhunter2819
Жыл бұрын
these were recorded weeks ago so it was probably all right in that couple weeks of them having fun jabbing each other about it
My absolute favorite kind of episode! 🙌
The ferry conversation and Mike's lack of understanding of ferries being able to carry cars killed me! As someone who lives on Vancouver Island and frequents BC Ferries, who accommodate several HUNDRED cars, I thought it was hilarious. Come to Vancouver and hop on the boat to Vancouver Island! Us Islanders actually kind of hate our ferry service because of the extortionate pricing and lack of other options, but it's practically a mini cruise with several car decks, a few passenger decks, a restaurant, cafe, arcade room, kids play area, and gift shop! Not to mention the beautiful scenery!
You should do an episode on fashion trends/in and out currently, classics, etc
Carly suggesting the Alcatraz swim!! YESSS I live in San Francisco and when you said that it crackedddd me up 😂
At least we know Erin and Matt don't understand what a boundary is.
If he's leaving work HOURS EARLY then obviously his day wasn't that busy
Matt’s character is the most wholesome I’ve seen lmao can’t explain it
My chances of me winning the lottery are greater than Matt NOT saying Patricia's name, multiple times EVERY episode!!!🤣😜
Erin and matt looks like a married couple, they match pretty well together 😂
Swallowing the jello eater egg whole!!I had no idea other people experienced this, my sister and i would go crazy every Easter on the jello eggs 🤣🤣
Oh you should spend an episode taking old MySpace surveys and answering the questions they used to ask
Two words, Matt: THE WIRE. If you’re looking for challenge and change, virtually nothing on TV can beat it.
A simple way i try to remember the difference between envy and jealously is intent. Intent behind the emotion I feel determines the word being use. Mal- intent is usually jealousy while admiration is usually envy. I hope this helps!
As a parent, the girl in the Easter egg hunt isn’t the asshole no doubt lol. She said it wasn’t kids only specified, the parents are assholes for getting upset. Who cares let the woman have fun 😂😂
I opened KZread for the sole purpose of commenting on the texting situation couple. I have the perfect solution. She should turn the setting on in her phone where she gets a notification whenever he leaves his current location (aka work). It makes him aware that she will be notified, so nothing sneaky going on, and it’s completely harmless. If she only wants to know when he’s on his way home for the sole purpose of alone time which I heavily understand and relate to, they should do this. He never has to worry about remembering to text her and she never has to bother him and ask. I feel like this full proof lol it’s 2023. Love y’all
Another books part 2 would be cool!
For gift giving - sometimes my mom & I make a shared Pinterest board because she’s really picky & I like specific products. I fully think registries & gifts are awesome! But I’m the thoughtful giver & don’t always receive that outside my family
Mike, please look up the ferries in Seattle / puget sound. They hold at least 100 cars that used to take them all the time. Sometimes I would sit in my car and other times I would go up to the deck. I like when my husband text me or calls on his way home because I startle easily so if he comes in the house without me knowing he's coming home it usually jump scares me lol.
I've been an office admin & am now in a similar position. Watering people's personal plants is crazy! Esp in a multi-floor business. My office is almost a greenhouse w all the plants but the people who brought them in care for them... If ANYTHING I could see watering Lobby/ Entry plants. The CEO. Not effin Tanya 😂
@Lexaloodle
Жыл бұрын
We have a spider plant that has babies a lot too! They asexually reproduce so they'll just start growing a new plant basically & you put that in water until it gets roots... pretty cool actually!
"U should of paused, squinted and said are you ok" 1,000,000
mike was right about tswift x McDonald’s and I’ll stand behind that !!!!!!
Highkey live for Mikes Taylor slander😂😂
Y’all should do an ep of AMITA but from viewers story send ins
Everything Matt said about Suits is SO TRUE lmfaooo
Hi y’all, love the podcast and everyone’s opinions! I wanted to jump in and give my perspective on telling a significant other when you’re coming home. My fiancé and I (34 yo) have been together 10 years and 4 of those years we’ve lived together. Even when we didn’t live together we let each other know when we were on our way home. In my eyes it’s more of a safety thing and just an update. We’re going to be on the road and commuting in California is a bit crazy and you just never know what can happen. It’s also an opportunity to do a quick check in to see if we need to stop at the store or if he’s had a rough day I’ll have a nice cocktail waiting for him or vice versa. ❤ Natalie
I've rewatched suits soo many times yet have never been able to finish the series. 😅
16:38 embarrassed that the "duty" joke got me, brb gonna go reevaluate my life.
I SCREAMED WHEN I SAW “ UPLOADED 56 SECONDS AGO”
i completely agree with mike and wanting to get a text from a partner before they got home as an introvert who loves their space. i am kinda like this with my best friend/roommate, but mostly use our tracking apps or i just ask her what time is she coming home to adjust and prepare myself. although, i also wont be mad if the person forgets to send a text sometimes, but making an effort to text will surely help. either way, randomly checking find my friends to feel at ease surely won't hurt. love u guys and the pod!! much love from the philippines. 😚❤
Tell me you single without telling me you single.. mike: he’s the a**hole for not txting if he’s coming home early.
i really liked the no topic episode! but all of them are 10/10
AITA: I literally give my family a list of gifts I want for my birthday and Christmas 😅 they know I am particular and they will ask me for the list if I dont send it out 30 days before hand. Also I am born a week before Christmas so it’s easier for them to just get me one specific gift I actually want instead of running around trying to find two random items they think I would enjoy
you guys should do an episode on tv shows!!! you've done movies, books, music...I would love to see a tv shows episode!!
MATT KING I STILL NEED TO TALK TO YOU!!!
ive always been taught that a ferry IS a boat that commutes people with cars. i’ve been on one in Galveston to go to a beach but that is crazy mike was so confused about hearing cars go on the ferry bc i’ve never heard of it being without cars
52:15 omg do I ever relate to the person asking for a heads-up text from their partner when they leave work because of the wacky schedule!! I've been in this exact same situation before & my unsolicited response to the ~all too-common~ excuse of "I didn't think of it" that seems to come up in discussions where someone is repeatedly failing to respect a boundary that has been communicated is this: what you're really saying there, and what the person who cared enough to communicate a boundary hears is "I don't care enough about how this thing -that I perceive to be so meaningless despite it obviously being very important to you- impacts you and therefore, I don't care about you". Bottom line, in any type of remotely healthy relationship, whether it be platonic or not, you NEED to care about the things that the other person involved in the relationship cares about; and if you don't, then you simply aren't good for each other. Now, to anyone that made it this far into my dissertation and is thinking "damn, it's just a text, it's not that deep"; I implore you to read my last sentence again.
Totally with mike on the coming home text
The Staten Island ferry in nyc used to take cars until 9/11