This may be one of the best days of my life, why? I have a mean manipulative narc " mother" 60 years of abuse. 3+years no contact on my part. She sent a lengthy abusive text this morning. I felt nothing..no racing heart, no cold sweats no anger..NOTHING...I feel I really am healing now. YEAH!!

@k60c85

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry. I understand, however my dad is the CN and my older sister. I’m the family scapegoat. Have had no contact for almost 4 years. Grey rock with one of my siblings. And I’m in my early 60’s. It was eye opening and painful, but worth it. God bless you in your journey! ✝️🙏🏻💕

@elizabethash4720

Жыл бұрын

​@@k60c85That's the reason we love Jesus and follow him, he IS the way the truth and the life. May God bless you today and every day.✝️

@rvh77

Жыл бұрын

God bless you. Yes, when you stop responding, it get worse, then it gets better and better from there on out. The less you respond to negativity, the more peaceful your life becomes.

@masworraps5989

Жыл бұрын

You’ve described my symptoms. Racing heart etc when they get in contact past my boundaries

@jenniferpierce8860

Жыл бұрын

That's it, the CN wants you to go into fight or flight mode so you feel off balance. Then they get to make you out to be the one with the problem. I grey rocked my CN Mom about 3 months ago. I want her to be ok, but I know she has negative/harmful intentions towards my life. Not going back to that. God Bless.

I married two narcissists-the cruelest was the Covert Narcissist. Extremely cruel!

@sportsman4545

11 ай бұрын

The evil of covert narcs is incredible. Gaslighting from all angles.

@FindYourFree

11 ай бұрын

they are hell bent warlocks

@rozalina531

11 ай бұрын

✨️🙏🏻✨️

@battlevain

6 ай бұрын

They have spent a lifetime refining their cruel craftsmanship. Beware of such characters.

@hd-be7di

5 ай бұрын

@@sportsman4545 Constant mind games and scheming new situations to turn it around and blame you... the worst of the worst is the covert narc. 1/3 adult, 1/3 child, 1/3 demon... toxic envy and jealousy inadvertently turned into hate and projected outwards... destructive, manipulative double faced nightmares in human form.

Run from these people and don’t look back!

The biggest problem in these kind of situations isn't just that it's hard for you as the victim to identify, as once you finally found out you're being abused by a covered narc, the outside world: - Won't take you serious - Won't believe you - Will trivialize the facts This hurts the most and it's very frustrating when the outside world believes the covered narc rather than you as the victim. Imagine if this reaches the court, imagine if you have children with your toxic partner, etc. This is real hell which I do not wish to anybody.

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

🙏

@PLem573

11 ай бұрын

I believe this to be true as well. You try to tell people and they just love and respect that narc so much, they don’t believe it or don’t want to hear it.

@MickeyMouse-lo4sy

11 ай бұрын

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Get out of there and get help from people you can trust, whether that's a psychologist, a pastor, or just some good friends. Once you're out you can start healing and things will start to get better. It's a long walk, though. Been there, still walking/healing.

@MCat-yv3hl

11 ай бұрын

If you can’t find support from friends and family, find it on line. Most people cannot understand it unless they have experienced it. It’s like death by a thousand cuts.

@jasonbeyer915

11 ай бұрын

Imagine that they don't have pots to piss in yet they have SWIMMING POOLS TO DIVE IN AND HARLEY DAVIDSONS AND YAMAHA SIDE KICK SUZUKI 500S to gas up on. This is when someone has to take formative action responsibility enveloping the land. People are pretending apparitions of themselves when maligned becomes apparent

Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. - Matthew 10:16

Most channels discussing toxicity don't go into spirituality. Thank you for the incredible content!

@stephanieheizman5422

3 ай бұрын

Amen!

@karieification

2 ай бұрын

Amen!

My dad was overt and my mom is covert. They were a true power couple of abuse. I didn't realize any of this until I was 40. I'm still trying to deal with the after effects

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

Ditto. Successful Salesman was dad had 4 different business & sold car's @ the Ford dealership. Overt of course. Mom was busy always always baking & being sadistically Catholic, one year ago mom's mask slipped & the joy she derived from telling me I'm no man's equal besides my older brother, leave him out of this, my problem she joyfully smirked so long that I turned my head to glare at her. She looked away but not far enough as the smirk went on. I'm 59 & 1 year WOKE!

@xavierbreath2227

11 ай бұрын

It will take time. Focus on healing yourself. Distance yourself from them. Completely if you have to.

My covert husband actually put a spy listen device (that looks like a phone charger) in my car to listen to my phone conversations. When confronted he says that it’s because he fears loosing me because I been so emotionally distant (I have learned to gray rock) so he is actually blaming me. Now he says he wanted to see if I was cheating on him!!! I ask how that’s possible since I work from home and he says maybe I meet up with a guy when I take a walk (typically a 30 minute walk) or when I go to the grocery store!! It’s unreal how they twist everything back to be your fault. He cried crocodile tears that I’m the best thing that ever happen to him but honestly I’m so done with the gaslighting and manipulation, silent treatment and fake love bombing for the last 6 years. God please help me get out!

@debraornouski8632

Жыл бұрын

I am in the exact same situation as you are, he knows I want out and he is doing everything to get me to stay, the tears, the gas lighting, manipulation is unreal. Its been 23 years. I just want out now and am praying for guidance.

@HighFrequencyGuru

Жыл бұрын

He’s cheating that’s why he’s trying to see what he can find on you so he can feel better about cheating on you.

@HighFrequencyGuru

Жыл бұрын

@@debraornouski8632why are you trapped? I encourage you to do affirmations to empower yourself!

@normatobin962

Жыл бұрын

Omg! You poor thing!! Get out...run...and Never look back!

@karengodan5205

11 ай бұрын

Stay strong. There is nothing they can do to weaken you if they don’t kill your pets.

The covert narcissist was the most difficult one for me to figure out. Wow. Good luck to those who have them as partners. Slithering snakes woe is me demon types.

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

Luck won't due. A non believer would convert to loving GOD quick if his family members were competing to kill you by ur death occuring by one thousand plus little cuts, famdamnly approved & it's in my head. These people behind closed doors are entirely opposite of their public image. Covert narc mom has everyone believing Satan has control of my soul and it's her soul she gave Satan he didn't steal it.

@kimhumiston2686

11 ай бұрын

Mine WAS my boss! Quit my job and retired.

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

Mom is Machiavellian Covert, Father overt & Sibling hateful since my birth

The more valuable you are to the narc, the worse they will treat you! See them through the eyes of how weak and broken they are, with little to offer --- your gifts and strengths intimidate them, yet they crave, desire and need your gifts and are terrified of losing access to them, so they need to lock you in a cage of the mind where you believe you're the inferior one that should be grateful to have them... it's a total plot twist and switch flip. Take back your power! 💃🔥👄❤‍🔥✨

So good. The only thing that I would add is if someone is seeking therapy, they should make sure that the therapist is well educated in narcissistic abuse. Many people have had horrible, re-traumatizing experience of having a therapist who is uneducated in real world narcissism. The therapist ends up falling for the tactics of the narcissist and blaming the true victim.

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@Coco-og7zw

9 ай бұрын

Facts!!!

@artofjessirenee2617

4 ай бұрын

Happened to my mom. Her counselor had no idea how to handle it and ended up taking my dad on as a client and then taking his side. Awful.

@stephanieheizman5422

3 ай бұрын

Yes, so important!!

@stephanieheizman5422

3 ай бұрын

@@artofjessirenee2617, that is awful and unfortunately happens all the time. It’s so damaging for the one being manipulated by the narcissistic.

“My people perish for the lack of knowledge” Hosea 4:6 is the verse I grew up learning.

This is sickening. It is exhausting. It is isolating. For four years of recovery from this, I’ve wondered how anyone made it through this before KZread. I did not use KZread before I found videos on this. Thank God. Blessings to all who are on this path.

@MegaDiva1999

7 ай бұрын

I feel you. Sending prayers and good thoughts. God is with us

@dauglove7835

7 ай бұрын

@@MegaDiva1999 Thank you! Blessings on your journey .

I was delivered from a marriage of 16 years by God. This is spot on. It nearly killed me from suicide. Only God could deliver me from the dark pit I couldn't see my way out of. I am going through the divorce process right now. Please continue this ministry.

@satsumamoon

11 ай бұрын

I also went there. I was either going to get him or myself. I srudied about his NPD and learned how to not get affected by it. It took 10 years. I would say that if you have the option to leave, then you should. My difference in response to his condition does mean he behaves better (because it has no affect ) but a relationship will never be possible unless he becomes a real person . Such a hewling would take decades even if he were ro ever recognise his condition in the first place. A marriage is a union and such a thing cannot exist with a narc. You were right to divorce him.

@debmcarthur1945

11 ай бұрын

​@@oneman6550God hates abuse also

@kerrygilsenan6459

11 ай бұрын

@@oneman6550you obviously didn’t read what the lady said!!

@ShintogaDeathAngel

11 ай бұрын

@@oneman6550 if God "is merciful and understands complex situations" then how can he hate satsumamoon for divorcing her husband when he was treating her so badly? Would you expect your own parents to encourage you to stay with someone who punched you in the face and left a bruise? If God even does exist, and cares about everyone, he shouldn't judge us for protecting ourselves against people who actively cause us harm, especially if their behaviour is called out and they don't change. You can't be 'merciful' and at the same time, want people to be stuck with abusers because of signing a legal social contract!

@sully.21519

11 ай бұрын

16 years or tears of pain. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. You'll get through this. It's hard and depressing and lonely at times. Get in a support group to help you heal. Blessings

Thank you, thank you, Shaneen, for delving into covert narcissism. I was married to a covert narcissistic worship leader husband (now ex-). For 40 years, my cries for help were ignored/dismissed. My friends, pastors, even mental health professionals were of no help. Actually, their responses to me made me sink even deeper. Probably because this insidious, destructive disorder wasn’t recognized until somewhat recently. Even the most prominent Christian counseling clinic in the U.S. at the time gave me “counsel” that devastated me. So I continued feeling utterly all alone, unloved, hopeless. But I’m glad to say that after a couple years with a new counselor AND with insight from Shaneen’s videos , I am sensing gradual healing.

@cynthiaaustin1763

Жыл бұрын

God loves us before we go out to live our lives. We try to do the good things but when it doesn't work out, it doesn't take us to a place of rejection by him because we didn't measure up. He doesn't wait, like my own father did to see if our report card was good enough or our behavior in church was what he prescribed before any love could be handed out. I know the scriptures as I am sure you do but it's really hard to remember to filter life through them. I left my narcissistic husband of 20 years. I'm still going through what you are. I wish you peace and I want to tell you that God loves you so much and he knows...

@alphaomegaambassador4978

Жыл бұрын

My experience was similar. 98% of Christianity is blind to covert narcissism.

@1975Godmade

Жыл бұрын

I was married to a Religious Covert Narcissist. Very poisonous stuff! Glad you have people understanding you, hearing you, validating you!

@psicoterapeutacristasabrina_g

Жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you dear sister...been through all that myself too now almost ten years later I'm totally healed

@keithstewart7514

Жыл бұрын

​@@alphaomegaambassador4978 I disagree! Narcopathetic people are those in religion to the very top!!!

From my own personal experiences with Narcissists I've discovered that they tend to tell on themselves.. They are great at putting on a facade and can manipulate other people around them into believing them over you and even getting people to help them or feel sorry for them.. However, it doesn't last long!! Because no matter how good they think they are, bits of their true self always always come out and then people see them for who they actually are...

@franceshaggitt3104

11 ай бұрын

He said ..I'm not a monster you know.......

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

I was 58 yo the first time I had a vivid long lasting view of "NOT'Her'$" Darling Demonic Smirk 1 year 3 weeks WOKE & how. Hundred's of time's I should have been dead , half or more was from my famdamnly planning. It was a competition between them. Psychical mental and a mother whose blinders seemed to be painted where everything is good... Turns out the orphanage also feeds & they also had a roof. Sounds way betr than the Bullies. Only mom said she loved me. Found out that was also to devastate me. From honor roll student @ 45 my mom decided I was special needs so my brother would control my inheritance. 8 years later for her birthday I said I didn't survive the MISERY of my youth for it to bc the destiny of my Elderly days & would be gone by golden boys b day a few weeks more.

@karieification

2 ай бұрын

Sometimes it takes a long time and you have to go no contact from the person AND all their enablers. The enablers take a long time to separate. When they do, the main narc is on to snare new folks against those who split off.

Silent treatment, ghosting, she even said "im special" in the beginning within like the first week. trauma and drama dumping, gossiping about family members, and other past partners. 😷 I was at a really good place in my life when I met her. Super good job, feeling the high of life as a single young man. Then after 5 months left a shell of a person with no self esteem, tons of confusion, anxiety, stress, anger, and just flat out egg shell walking. It was like a demon latched on me. 😮 I quit my good iob, after the 3rd time of silent treatment and then eventually the relationship ended abruptly. I was left with the demon and rebuilding from ground zero. Leason learned, follow your boundaries have strict boundaries. Have friends and a good sense of communication with mentors. Don't be isolated.

@ShirleyAnnPetrillo-oj7sc

7 ай бұрын

This kind of (demonic) abuse can take you down FAST.

Shaneen, I tried to confide in trusted people but they did not believe me. My covert narc spouse was very good at playing victim. He had so many flying monkeys so many. Especially from my family. Unfortunately I was raised in a deeply rooted narc family system. Mum being covert and dad being overt. My narc spouse would use them, boy .y life was hell. I couldn't understand why, my spouse would constantly gaslight me, made me think I was mad, told me I had emotionally unstable personality disorder. I was miserable, I knew it was not what I wanted for my life. The best answer to these people is run for dear life. Run like your life depends on it.

@franceshaggitt3104

11 ай бұрын

Hear youm I had narc dad..now mother and sister narcs. I married narc..left...then met another narc.... I have my two boys from first narc but cos of parents I married one

Be very Glad if you are discarded! Let freedom Ring people!!!! Thank you so much for all the Great Videos!!

@KK-ri2gu

11 ай бұрын

Yep yep yep I cannot wait for my freedom day to come I am done it is over 30 years manipulations

"You are to sensitive" is something I hear from my narcissistic husband every time I ask him to make some changes to fix our relationship.

@battlevain

6 ай бұрын

Blaming and invalidating the victim is another tactic.

❤🙏 They are truly evil. They are intentional and calculated.

Setting people free one video at a time. Thank you.

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! God bless you. 🙏

@Coco-og7zw

11 ай бұрын

Amen!!!!!

@CaitlinBaker-oq2rc

9 ай бұрын

Amen to that!

I was married to a covert narc for 14 years. The love bombing period was glorious, the rest was controlling, walking on eggshells, being spied on constantly, constant manipulation, cheating, even Brainwashing me by repeated mantras daily of "You are so lucky to have a husband like me. We have the perfect marriage." He is a horrible human being. I believe God delivered me from him because some miraculous things happened for me to escape. 1.5 years free now. It's getting better.

I am amazed at how many narcissists there are. I had childhood trauma by having a narcissistic mother and alcoholic father and health problems that they neglected and ignored. Those health problems have been with me my whole life and now they are worse. The biggest narcissists in my life are constantly trying to make me feel like I'm doing things wrong. I'm so easily overwhelmed and discouraged by the many attacks in my day-to-day life. Thank you so much for your Biblical worldview about this. I praise Yah that He is in control and working these things out for His good purposes. I pray that He strengthens and guides and protects and provides for all of us.

@christinwatson3037

16 күн бұрын

I'm sorry, this sounds rough. Maybe a good counselor outside of your system can help?

2 years out of an abusive, narcissistic relationship... I love Shaneen. This info. is spot on! Educate yourself on narcissistic behaviors, the information is invaluable to the healing process. Understanding them, helps you understand you. Thank you so much sweet sister Shaneen. You are such a sweet gift! I appreciate you greatly!

I nearly lost faith in women, I become educated by real women like you with love and kindness and true understanding of life

This session opened my eyes to some things the Lord has been slowly dealing with in me. I was in this Covert N type of relationship for 20 years and though I have been free from it for 15 years now, I still have healing to do! There have been other traumas since then (like two subsequent deaths of my adult children who were also affected by this relationship). I also had childhood trauma that probably set me up for being in this relationship to begin with. I am currently single with no desire to seek out a relationship. I serve the Lord, and Him alone. I made this decision partly because I noticed that I seem to attract the covert type narcissist. This is evidence that I have not fully healed! As long as there is healing to do, I need to focus on what God wants to bring me through. I had not fully realized this was a factor in my choice to remain single until listening to your video. 20 years of yo-yo acceptance and rejection in a relationship creates a lot of soul wounds that only the Lord can heal, which He CAN and wants to do instantaneously, but often this healing process requires a journey of following His lead so that He can reveal the truth to us bit by bit. Sometimes we can't handle the truth all at once, even if it is a good truth!

@deborahbailey8246

Жыл бұрын

❤ I believe this! Still healing 😊

@mac-ju5ot

Жыл бұрын

I want to thank you so much for sharing this

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing @soleakennedy7214. Praise God for His patient love.

@mikepiccolo32

Жыл бұрын

​@@ShaneenMegjiHow do you know she is telling the truth?

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

@@mikepiccolo32 curiosity may be ur reason for your inquiry? The other's (like myself) have lives thru hell on earth & are clarifying decades of horrific abuse from demonic driven sub-human beings. GOD will judge us all. My opinion is ur judgemental speculation is of little to no value for our mutual healing. As blessed may you be also (troll, bot or other than wise)!

my husband frequently says "youre losing it." jeckyl and hyde is a phrase i have used for years before i understood narcissism. a counselor tried to tell me subtly years ago. i did not pick up what he was telling me

I am going through a divorce with a narcissist right now … and I can tell you … unless there are minor children involved, the courts will NOT take the time to listen to your stories and your documentation … you would literally have to have proof of physical abuse and police reports to get the courts attention, and it would need to be under the criminal court system, not family court …. Sooo … as far as documenting events, do it for your own records to remind you of all the abusive events, because the abuse has a way of creating mind fog and cognitive dissonance which will lead to you blurring out and forgetting all the abusive moments … but DON’T count on it helping with a divorce case … the courts are so backed up with cases that they will just go by the book to run the cases through … if you hire an attorney that makes you think the documentations and recordings will help you get justice, then your attorney is misleading you ! … there are only three states in the US who recognize the concept of coercive control, mental abuse, financial abuse etc in court cases … UNLESS THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED …

@alphaomegaambassador4978

Жыл бұрын

Even with children involved, the courts and court appointed experts might not discern the lying and deception of a Covert Narc's supposed victimhood - especially if the Covert Narc is a woman.

@ShoutItFromTheHousetops

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to share this truth. Been there. I never came out of court feeling heard for the hurt. They don’t care.

@laura53ize

11 ай бұрын

I’m going through it I have an emergency protective order I don’t have to much money to pay for an attorney what I should do now they told me to get divorce or better to go for the custody of the kids first I’m training to find a light where to start I’m in Texas.

@kb1759

11 ай бұрын

even with children involved the courts are manipulated and charmed by them. It was a nightmare.

@bluemoon8268

11 ай бұрын

@@laura53ize … is there a possibility of getting a court appointed attorney … or maybe file a criminal suit so the state will go after him ?

Yes and folks it's really this hidden. Right before your eyes

This is exactly who I married just add the Religious twist. This is the best description I have heard of a Covert Narcissist. 👏🏽 4:45

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

Religious twist is a too kind of way of saying SADISTICALLY CATHOLIC in my personal experience.

@garrett621

11 ай бұрын

The religious twist is especially disturbing and terrifying.

@libertycan6959

11 ай бұрын

Religious twist 👍

I was married to a naval officer for 25 years. The emotional cycle of deployment mimics the covert narcissist’s cycle, making it even harder to figure out that you’re with one. It’s like breaking a code. Now I can spot one a mile away.

A few.months into my marriage, I went for an ayurvedic consultation and the thing that stand s out looking back is that I mentioned about my mental state was that I felt like I was being abused, even though I wasnt being abused. I figured as I was telling him that it was down to ptsd from childhood issues. I thoguht what I was experiencing , extreme fear and anxiety and not feeling safe , was an intern al issue , not related to current events. It took a long time to even realise my husband was abusive and it was when I suspecfed this that I came across videos about NPD. Narc abuse is really quite something, and its hard to believe your oartner is doing these things , it took a lot of study to register .

@jooxumja

11 ай бұрын

I can relate . Videos like these and Dr Ramani videos on narcissism helped me see that what I was going through was abuse. The shame and guilt still trying to heal from 3 years later. But, I got out once it clicked that these people are textbook and there’s no changing or saving them. And the abuse is also textbook . It’s evil and hurtful, but it can be overruled by the desire for peace and truth

@XiaoGuanYin104

11 ай бұрын

I used to say, "I don't know why I am not happy - it's not as if I was an abused child." Then I realized that I was.

@nji7772

11 ай бұрын

Your gut never lies. I learned to trust mine immediately. No need yo know the what or why anymore.

Q - How can you tell when a covert narcissist is angry? A - They're smiling!

@arasyard

2 ай бұрын

yes! one thing common i observed with covert narcs is that you cannot see or show any emotions from them. They seem to have no emotions which i can say its not normal..normal people get angry and show it, get upset and can show it, get sad and you can see it, get happy and you can feel it. With them, they seem so much in control even if they are so angry they will not show any bit signs of anger, they retaliate silently, covertly to hurt someone. calm and collected is a great atittude but if its too much youll question if they are human with emotions

You will like this one.....my Covert Narcissist X Mother in Law at a Family Christmas Party got a Pet A Paw as a Gag gift. Someone spoke up and said now you need to get a dog. She responded I already 5 dogs, referring to her 5 Adult Sons. The room went dead, then the host of the party laughed. She was not funny, but insulting. My husband is 1 of the 5. It was hurtful and a few of us left the party. My nephew being 1, said what's wrong with Aunt Betty....I did not have an answer for him. He is an Empath also. She is what I call the Cold Water Commitee of 1. Very Sad indeed.

@MegaDiva1999

7 ай бұрын

This is horrific. I pray that you're doing better and healing

This is the first time I am here, I definitely come back to learn more to healing. I have been abused , I believed my mother is the covert narcissist, my father and I had been abused by my mother, she has a second older child who is the golden child, I am the youngest being treated as the scapegoat, punching bag doormat , the second older sister abused me physically, verbally, and psychologically, my mother was lying to help her avoid to jail, she was the source of all abuse to me in this family. ,she was pretending someone she is not, I believed she is a covert narcissist, the abuse I have received all recalled in this teaching film. Thank you , I need healing and I will come back to lean.

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

🙏

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

Your individual independence is key. GOD be with you! It took 58 years to begin my healing, I'm 59 now.

Agree. My father is a top class Masterclass, cover narcissist, and all his brothers related. Lies, manipulating, gaslighting. GOD revealed this at my adult years after so much abuse, sexual involvement, control and pain. Now at adult years after all the lost in all areas of love fe the revelation came. But GOD is faithfull and will deal with it, best thing in natural to do is GOING NO CONTACT EVER EVER AGAIN

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

🙏

@marcelleadams5580

Жыл бұрын

@@ShaneenMegji thank you so much , the teachings really bring some closer and insights.. I never knew this stuff, even though now that I try to explain it, people will never see it like it really is, and the part that make you go crazy is, in public the community sees him as respectful, and so good person, and you as the problem. The brain fog, constant replying the events in the head, and he makes you feel quilty if confronted, the lies so blatent, its absolutely amazing. GOD bless you Shaneen and have a wonderful day

@marcelleadams5580

Жыл бұрын

@@ShaneenMegji ❤

@ShoutItFromTheHousetops

11 ай бұрын

So sorry for your family’s pain. Were they all Freemasons? because those are the worst and it’s usually generational abuse of every sort

I couldn’t understand why my life felt like a rollercoaster, now I know! Ty

OMG I HAVE WASTED MY WHOLE LIFE WITH THE NARCISSIST OVER 30 YEARS I CAN TELL YOU THAT IS THE LIVING HELL I CAN'T WAIT TO GET MY LIFE BACK

@wheatORweed

2 ай бұрын

I just left 1 month ago, after 35 years. I am hoping I can heal and find peace.

First, thank you so much for putting God in your extraordinary video, Miss Shaneen. It is an exact description of my wife and my life for almost 24 years. It made me realize how this pattern of behavior is so clinically symptomatic. I know I should have gone my own way many years ago but now my wife has several physical issues. I made marriage vows and as a Christian, I feel I must fulfill my oath. But without my prayers and God’s holy protection from her demonic ways, I would be totally lost. God bless.

@KK-ri2gu

11 ай бұрын

God bless you for your honesty very important we put our God almighty first

@franceshaggitt3104

11 ай бұрын

You still don't need to stay

@granmabern5283

11 ай бұрын

May God bless you and console you and reward you for your faithfulness. We can and should have Merciful Love for those who hurt us. I ask Jesus to give me His Heart so I can love them with His Heart.❤I also make sure to have regular contact with logical, positive people.😅

It is so important to understand these behaviors, thank you!!

He tries to make me question my own reality, but somehow I never question it and actually fight for it. This unfortunately results in many ferocious fights as he doesn't accept my standing up for my reality. It is very hard relationship

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

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Watching this to see if my husband is a covert narcissist but realizing it’s me… I’m the narcissist 🤯🥴

@garrett621

11 ай бұрын

I respect your honesty and self reflection.

@granmabern5283

11 ай бұрын

Hahaha!😅Good one!

thank you very very much! I just went through a situation last Friday with a group of narcissistic women who defended the narcissistic man who attacked me, those women made me gaslight and sent me to calm down and breathe because I was not clear about the situation...it was as you can imagine very unpleasant, the next day I woke up early and went for a walk and I talked to God about what had happened and I begged for help and your video is the 3rd help I receive to my plea, your explanation of the mechanisms of action of covert narcissists and what to do and above all his final words comforted me a lot. I infinitely thank God for his infinite mercy and allowing me to find your video. Thank God for acting so beautifully in my life.

I literally lived with this in a extremely violent malignant narcissist and he was a MONSTER and his very NARCISSISTIC parents and it was 3 against one all the time

I’m so grateful for your work. Thank you 🙏🏼 my mother is the narcissist and it’s heart breaking. I pray every day. ❤️

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

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@franceshaggitt3104

11 ай бұрын

Me too...mother and sister and dad tho he died. Now sister ramps up the manipulation against me and mum ensbles

@doloresrobertson7265

17 күн бұрын

Mine too, and it has taken me 64 years to figure it out.

I've seen narcissists destroy peoples lives and they are very good at what they do. They will systematically take you apart and isolate you from everything and person you love.

I just finally figured out that my husband of over 20 years now suffers with covert narcissism. But it’s too late, I’m literally trapped like a hostage in our home😭I have no income, never had a vehicle in my whole life, I can hardly ever leave our home. I am grateful that he allows me to stay in our daughters old 10x10 bedroom as he’s threatened to kick me out for several years. I have no family and no friends and he has his whole family and all his friends who feel so sorry for him as he acts like a victim of me and lies and I cannot believe they all believe him & now they all hate me 😭😭Even my kids don’t get it, they’re both in their 20’s. I’ve tried escaping before but it’s not easy when I have no friends or family and I’m literally trapped in a house 😭😭I’ve been getting physically sick over the last year. But there’s nothing I can do but keep praying for God to take me off this earth 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭♥️🙏🏻♥️

@lc4972

11 ай бұрын

Please hang in there. You can. There is much info on the net and youtube how to. I made it out but am now going through the same thing with our son who is some type of cluster b. Don't give up. Learn. Then leave. There are shelters out there who will help you. They helped me.

@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529

11 ай бұрын

Praying for both of you to persevere and follow GOD'S WILL for your life!!!! Take care and PROTECT YOURSELF.

@PyrPupMom

11 ай бұрын

You could try a domestic violence shelter. They can help you where you are at and help you get back on your feet. They are used to people escaping with nothing but the clothes on their back and maybe a bag. Try to at least get hold of your birth certificate and take your ID with you of course.

@kb1759

11 ай бұрын

@@lc4972 I think my son from my covert ex. may also.. can you elaborate?

@mygirldarby

11 ай бұрын

You need to make plans now. I live this exact situation. After 25 years he left me. I was very sick when he left. He left me the night before I was intubated and in the icu. He left and never talked to me again. I was hospitalized for 18 days with pneumonia. He never visited, my mother in law ignored my email, when I got home he wouldn't let me use our car (it's all in his name), to go to doctor appointments. I had chest tube hanging out of me and he ignored my pleas for help. I had to take ubers to all doctor appointments. I still do. Now he filed for divorce and wants everything. The house, the car, and only wants to give me $250. Per month for 4 years. I will be destitute and homeless if he gets his way. I am sick but also like you never worked. I had to hire a lawyer immediately and it took all the money he "allowed me" and it is also all he money that the bills are paid with, he set it up that way. So I don't know what is going to happen. I'm just like you. My mom died so I have no family, no friends. He has family and friends. I sit here alone, 24/7 and can't go anywhere because I have no car. I've spent hundreds on Uber going to doctor appointments. When I first got home from the hospital I had a chest tube and had to do everything alone. I had to order food because I couldn't cook. I had to change my own dressings from surgery (my pneumonia spread to my chest cavity and I needed surgery for it),and I am just alone. It is so so sad. He is gone and renting an expensive house and probably has another woman. Please plan for him to leave you. He is likely planning it. The married covert narcissist stays married for decades ND then does a final discard after "mortification." your husband will likely leave you within the next few years. Please put money away for yourself and plan for it. Watch Sam Vankin here on youtube. He explains everything about narcissists in detail. I'm so sorry for us both. Your husband will make you sick. I'm worried because you said you feel sick. Don't end up like me! I'm sorry you married a covert narc. Mine has destroyed me. BTW, it doesn't matter that everything is in his name. It is still half yours! My lawyer told me that. Your husband is probably hiding money too. If you divorce him, that will come out during "discovery."

Guessing I'm in the "secretive" category as he has a good public image. Tried to reveal my situation but was not believed...by the church. Was told to submit harder and put out more and everything would get better 😂😂😂 Then came anger and a bit of violence toward my teen children who he couldn't wait to be "rid of" do he could isolate me all to himself. I remember at one time I was told that I was responsible for his happiness😂😂😂 After the incidents with my kids I sought the Lord very hard about the marriage...he did shore me the black eyes more than once. Now separated. That didn't stop h him from stalking me each place I moved and still trying to push his way back into my life. Worst experience of marriage EVER. Love my life alone... my health is coming back and survival mode is slowly shutting itself down. Praise God! Thank you Lord!🔥❤

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

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@emilykirkman8468

Жыл бұрын

So sorry the church wasn’t there for you!! That’s tragic 😢

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

The church is full of these fools. I see flying Frosty Christian demonic monkey's. A TRUSTED priest is no longer trustworthy for me.

@ElizabethShoe-vi9xz

11 ай бұрын

Don't go back to that church! 👈

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

Removing Narcissism from religion is as likely as removing Narcissism from the members of the Republicans party. Demonic unity is what keeps "LIAR'$ AS KING'$" LIKE LITTLE POS KEVIN MCCARTHY

I have now realized that the discard faze gave me an opportunity to pull back also. Relieved me of any obligation to the Narcissist. A vacation for me emotionally. Time to think clearly and put things in prospective. Take action and improve myself mentally. Detaching and moving past all the manipulation. When my interest in him became absent to him, his efforts to gaslight started up again. Smiling as he blatantly lied and moved on. You "MUST" be smarterthan them. Watch their patterns, they are very predictable .

@thegardenofserendipity

2 ай бұрын

Mine was a bit of both.

Wow, this is exactly what I’ve been going through in the last 3 mos. Thank God he discarded me. 😭 but now 🙌 yayeee

Thank you for this. You described every characteristic of the relationship between my mother and myself. I’m constantly saying to my husband “I know I’m not crazy!” My sweet father died last year, the poor man apparently spent his life running interference for her behavior because it has become unbearable in the last few months. She is now playing the neglected widow to all of our church family and I have no idea how to make the truth known without appearing to be a horrible human. I am just so tired of the insinuated lies and the damage it is doing to my reputation and that of my brothers. I’m just so done.

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

My mom's Catholic and Monsenior Frost is definitely a FLYN monkey bass Turd himself.

You have described my MIL, it’s incredible point by point the accuracy.

I'm definitely being silently devalued and discarded by my covert narc next-door neighbors. Her husband moved in first; then about a month later, the wife moved in too. I dislike the wife very much, and never liked her. But, as she was rail-thin and talked of being ill, I started giving her food and household items I could spare. She has thanked me, but has always treated me worse than her (many!) friends. They are always invited in; me, never. Lately, she walks around with a golf club for no good reason. She never practices her swing, and my neighborhood is a safe one. When I'm outside my door, she refuses to come up the stairs to her apartment. When on her outdoor patio, if I come out on mine, she ducks her head. In the past, when she did speak, she would go on hour-long filibusters, until I just turned my back and went inside. She is showing me that I'm being rejected. It's not like I ever wanted to be her neighbor or friend, but being devalued and discarded after my generosity feels insulting.

I welcome your gift of discernment and today I am so reassured. Thankyou.✝️

Shaneen he used these word for word. All of these. Wow. How alike they are. Thank you for your help as I heal.

I've spent close to two years of narcissism. I was convinced he was a covert narc, possibly sociopathy included. The more I watch him (closely) the lies, manipulation, the moving of small essentials around the house. A brush, house keys to a home I am flipping, he took the keys without me knowing. As it's less than a mile away, I was going back to get something I left there. My keys were missing. He came back from our house, drove to the flip, and then brought me the keys. HE HAD THEM the entire time. All done in front of a county sheriff deputy. He is on a path to prove me not SANE. The LIES are infuriating and I turned ONE back onto him and watched him squirm to fight HIS way out of a lie. Double standards are their worst "qualities", good qualities are RARE IN A NARC.

@Indy__isnt_it

11 ай бұрын

I take that back, good qualities in a narc are all null and void....

Thanks for the great information. I have experience of this treatment with several people. The thing is, I’ve learned so much, and have come to the place that I really don’t care anymore.

My cousin Laura is a covert Narcissist, we got back in contact with her almost 2 years ago after many years and before then I never even heard anything about Narcissism and Narcissists and have any clue what it means. Shaneen your videos are very good and helpful, it's great that you are a Christian and speaking from a Christian Biblical viewpoint.

Timely information and blessings to you Shaneen...God has heard my cries

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Amen. 🙏💕

I LOVE that you covered this! So much material about narcissists don’t cover the “covert narcissist.” I worked for a pastor and his wife who are ABSOLUTELY covert narcissists. They are church planters who have burned MANY bridges in the city where they planted.

Exceptional analysis Shaneen. So helpful. Bless you. ❤

This is such a great explanation! It can be hard to discern if you are dealing with a narcissist. I left a bad situationship that left me so broken, I didn't see a path forward. Turning to God and lots of prayer has been a big part of my healing journey.

Thank you beautiful 💛 hope your doing well! Definitely sharing this one

Thank you for a GREAT, actually one of the top TWO best videos on coverts Ive seen. This nailed it!

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

I recently resigned as the sales and admin manager “effective immediately.” The owner of a company I worked at for only 1.5 weeks tried gaslighting me then she played the victim after I told her in the most professional way and tone, that I didn’t feel comfortable in dealing with the top maintenance director of a major hotel over some unresolved electrical issues in her store. When I resisted her attempt at pushing me into resolving an issue in an area beyond my ability I knew then that she was measuring my loyalty and my submission to her. She then began her manipulation tactics saying “Oh…am I making you angry?!” I immediately recognized the fact that she was operating out of the narcissism 101 playbook. Immediately I was able to see how she was attempting to push me into a situation only to set me up for failure. The final nail in her coffin was when she said “Are you going to put one more thing on my plate?!” After she attempted to play the victim, I laughed to myself knowing that the Lord had just pulled back the curtain for me to see what my future would be working for her so that night I quit with the subject line: “One more thing on your plate.” Then I opened with “Working for you is no longer working for me therefore…” I will not allow anyone or anything operating out of Satan’s kingdom to abuse me again. They may try, but God is my shield and protector. Thank you Jesus!

@queenesther4142

Жыл бұрын

Amen! Well done! Your response to her demonic manipulation was excellent !👏 👏

Hello and thank you. Easily one of the most concise, straightforward and helpful guides on the subject matter. Liked/Subscribed. Have a wonderful day.

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad it was helpful

Thank you, you're so right about everything. Its so true. I enjoy watching your videos. I got C-Ptsd from the abuse. I am 47 female out of five children my parents had. I always been the black sheep in my family. I went to Jesus cause of the abuse. Jesus is our hope. God is Love. I know my worth And values. My peace comes from God. God is great all the time. I have support from friends from church. I been a Christian for over ten years. Both of my parents are Narcissists so is my grandmother. My brothers and sisters are Narcissists Enablers. Narcissists are liars Narcissists never loved us at all Narcissists dont care about you at all Narcissists are broken people Narcissists are insecure people Narcissists are pure evil souls from the Devil Narcissists are fake and phony people

@garethwest9069

Жыл бұрын

Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. - Matthew 10:16

@keithstewart7514

11 ай бұрын

@@garethwest9069 As blessed, thank you

Thank you Shaneen. I could check each one of those boxes about my vulnerable narcissistic husband. If you could do more videos about the vulnerable narcissist I will certainly be watching! 🙏✝️💜

I notice myself having symptoms 2 and 3 as a victim of narcissistic abuse. I'm overly sensitive to criticism because I've been criticized so much and I definitely am aware of the fact that I'm a victim of abuse. This makes me question whether or not I'm a narcissist. Very frustrating and worrisome

@atirliag2833

6 ай бұрын

Just the fact that you are reflecting if you are a narcissist or not, proves you are not

Please pray that i get completely free and healed from this in my life

This is one of the very best videos on covert narcissism. My ex used to say, “the wrong one strikes again!” I was lucky to get out!

Amazing as always! Thank you God bless you ❤️

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! You too!

Thank you for the wonderful wisdom ❤

so fortunate if it is a husband or wife so you can walk away . having a parent for one no walking away .

Good video, Shaneen! Thank you.

I really found this ever so interesting snd I could associate what you said in my husband’s behaviour. I’ve been suffering this narcissist behaviour as long as I remember making me feel guilty with his own disputable behaviour. I thought growing older will mellow but in his case he got worse. Thank you for expertise.

God Bless you, Shaneen!

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! God bless you too. 🙏

Thank you for this video! So informative and spot on to what I am going through with my husband. Only God knows our future and indeed all we can do is pray and leave it up to Him.

@IWillHaveThePastaThanks

11 ай бұрын

Or, you can do something about it now and just GET OUT!

@Rabswood296

9 ай бұрын

My mum has just left a marriage after 28 yrs. He is furious he no longer has control over her, doesn't know where she is and can't contact her. He is now punishing me, her daughter, to punish her

Thank u so much!! Your clear explanation is really helping me.

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

Happy to help

Spot on!!!!💥💥

A really, really brilliant video!!! Thank You.

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

You're very welcome!

Great to hear your posts Which have just reappeared after about 12 months Your Christian principles against toxic narc are great thanks

Thanks! My ex used to say... " The only things that are true are what can be proven" ... WHAT? These covert narcissists are the worst wackos in the world!!!! Iwas free and went back to this horrible person!! Never ever go back! STAY FREE

SOOO POWERFUL!

Most narcissists use both characteristics of overt and covert narcissism, depending on their goal(s). Be aware of that.

"creature"... perfect description. They are predators.

@margaretboehm4485

11 ай бұрын

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Brilliant video ❤❤❤

Brilliant thanks 🔐🛎

My favorite is being called CRAZY 🤪

@granmabern5283

11 ай бұрын

I get called “ a kid”. I’m in my sixties!😅I just laugh and say “ Christ tells us that unless we become as little children, we shall not enter into the Kingdom of Heaven.” Or, I laugh and say, yes, I am the same person that I was all my life. Knowing the Faith and learning more about God and His Creation validates me. Not other people’s opinions. Thanks be to God!❤

@wheatORweed

2 ай бұрын

I was told I should be on medication many a time. I did end up on med for depression but eventually, thru counseling, realized why I was depressed, and took steps to get out.

10 more days. I will finally be free of my covert narc brother-in-law, and my vulnerable narc sister. 4 years at their mercy. In 10 days I move in to my own apartment. They're convinced I will fail, and have to come to my rescue.

@garrett621

11 ай бұрын

Go forth and succeed. If you fall, get up over and over.

Amen 🙏🏽 to this. Great post.

@ShaneenMegji

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Thank you so much! So validating. 🙏💔🌹

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

thank you, Shaneen. You are so amazing and have described my last horrific relationship 100%. It was if you were there videotaping us. May God continue to bless you with wisdom and discernment. I am now at no contact with him but it has been a rough road. THANK YOU

Literally the first you tube therapist I have heard mention scripture which I need and appreciate. Doesn't mean the others are not good or Christian or that you have to be Christian to be a great therapist.. Just stating my experience. Thank you!

To a "T". This is so spot on, and during the devaluation (5 weeks) he was trying out his new source (serial partner) then silent treatment, smear campaign against me, and final discard. This video is exactly my life for 23 yrs.

This was my narc mother.... She would always say "why did I have to provoke him" when dealing with my narc brother. As if the physical abuse was my fault.

Nailed Nailed Nailed it!! Birth Family, horrific sibling, my child groomed and Ma t partners. Last covert Narc same pattern red flags - spun me out gutted me, burned me down. Cycle broken after 55 years. You spoke my journey. God first. Give me an ultimatum and God always wins first place, eventually. 🙏🙏🙏

Apparently telling him that it takes two to tango is me placing all the blame on him... Anytime I try to bring up something that he had done or was doing that was causing me anxiety or Pain by the end of it I'm apologizing for bringing it up...

Best channel best content I hope I can break free and not feel lost anymore

@ShaneenMegji

11 ай бұрын

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