He is such a golden retriever boyfriend. I mean that in the absolute best way possible.

@wired4933

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my god I thought I was the only one who saw that xD

@denisezerda4744

2 жыл бұрын

the accuracy 💯

@keke243

2 жыл бұрын

He's Mr. Peanut Butter

@skeleczar

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t think anyone would take that as a negative! Actually, one time in 6th grade they gave us these little pine trees for Arbor Day to plant when we got home. I was rubbing it on my face because it tickled and felt cool, and suddenly I heard a laugh. I stopped and looked, and the boy I had a crush on was staring at me laughing. He said, “You remind me of my dog.” To this day, that’s still one of the nicest compliments I’ve ever gotten.

@squizzyicetea

2 жыл бұрын

This is perfect ❤😇

I was sexually, physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my family as a little girl. I have an excellent therapist and a husband who loves and accepts me as I am. It is possible. Big hugs.

@daniellerodgers6493

2 жыл бұрын

Warms my heart. ♥️

@gracianne

2 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤

@natali9142

2 жыл бұрын

❤

@l.f.l.f.7101

2 жыл бұрын

True!

@lrsreis4802

2 жыл бұрын

I am very happy for your healing. But I live in Brasil, I don’t believe in love here. Maybe it’s happen there. Hugs.

Can we just give a shoutout to the people that raised this amazing man👏

@Stonktradomus

7 ай бұрын

Unfortunately not, we don't know who they are.

@SuppositionalBox

7 ай бұрын

@@Stonktradomus They know who they are. If they see this, all the better!

@guymartin6514

7 ай бұрын

Too true! What a fabulous guy :)

@followhim.8543

7 ай бұрын

If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉❤

@lisawhitehall1870

4 ай бұрын

WORD

I am a retired psychologist and happened across this video and frankly you two are super clear and conscious of your beings and it is a joy to see the love you give to each other. A wonderful couple that are supporting each other on your paths whatever they may be. A great example to many couples today struggling not with maybe clinical labels but just people not aware of their being ness. You are a light as a couple

@cht2162

9 ай бұрын

And individually as well.

@followhim.8543

7 ай бұрын

If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉❤

@douggreen5377

2 ай бұрын

Totally wrong. She is 100% Spirit. This perfection makes it an impossibility that she has these disorders. Recovery is not medical or mental. It is knowing the Truth and changing the belief that these disorders are real to the fact that they are lies. You can’t trust the 5 senses here.

Is it just me, or is this guy one of the purest of hearts. I don't know him personally but I really get the sensation that he is just a very kind man. And the older he gets, the more loving and kind he will become. I just wish we could all be more like him.

@youruniquestyle

2 жыл бұрын

I agree completely.

@DeoxTCG

2 жыл бұрын

Im just like him, Girls say im too good but some cheated on me anyway xD

@jennifernelson6187

2 жыл бұрын

I feel like he's the Mr. Rogers of our time.

@shaylacrossland1475

2 жыл бұрын

I definitely agree. He seems like an amazing guy.

@muscleman125

2 жыл бұрын

He is living like Jesus or the Buddha would've wanted all of us too. We should up look up to this man, the essence of masculinity is compassion and protection of those in need.

This man, his girlfriend, everything they do.. I'm a very negative person and I have my own stuff but I can feel you both restore my faith in humanity. Thank you both for everything you do, for the way you are.

@susanabeatrizalbert2643

Жыл бұрын

Es muy lindo tu comentario ! Son contadas las personas que nos dan la posibilidad de pensar "que no todo ésta perdido". Como en el manto de la noche (humanidad), las constelaciones nos señalan ésa verdad ! Saludos.

@laurak7388

Жыл бұрын

I knoooow! Whenever I’m feeling negative I always seem to find this channel. This dude is like an angel on earth. He is doing God’s work in helping us complex humans understand each other and to connect. I feel so much more conscious of my compassion for others and consideration of what others might be going through when I watch these videos.

@N-wordScissorhands

Жыл бұрын

I am the same way. Very negative and also cynical.

@kimulm0619

Жыл бұрын

Meee!!! Too,,they restore my faith in humanity too.Thats a great observation.💙

@victorial8764

Жыл бұрын

Well said. I agree. ❤

I have ADHD, Social Anxiety and PTSD. Shes so relatable for me. How alone it feels to think everyone hates you all the time. And how impatient people are with you when you feel like dirt.

@idid138

11 ай бұрын

Ooph, yes. It's hard not to fall into self isolating. I used to have a friend that was a fun pusher, til I pushed her away. I needed that and miss her.

@SuppositionalBox

7 ай бұрын

​@@idid138 I honestly think you just answered why my best friend stopped contacting me over the past year. Thank you for the insight, though my self isolation is largely out of my hands. Being mildly autistic with moderately high Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Intermittent Explosive Disorder can be quite the conundrum to deal with in public sometimes. Thanks for the insight, at any rate! Seriously, thank you

@followhim.8543

7 ай бұрын

If you died TODAY, where would you be spending eternity? Have all your sins been forgiven or are you still hoping that you're a good enough person to earn a spot in heaven. The reality is that no one can earn a spot, our sin disqualifies us. But the God news is that Jesus paid for our qualification by dying on our behalf taking the punishment that we deserved. JESUS said, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son; that WHOEVER believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16 Nothing is more important than your eternal destination. Please, don't say, "When I get older I'll get right with God' or 'I'll get serious with Jesus one day when I'm ready.' Don't wait any longer, today is the day of salvation. Get right with God today, for tomorrow very well might be too late. We invite you to REPENT and accept that Jesus Christ is Lord of your life by praying this simple prayer out loud right now... 'Heavenly Father, I turn away from my old life and repent for my sins. I believe that Jesus came for me, that Jesus died for me and that Jesus rose again for me so that I can be forgiven and receive eternal life. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is the Lord of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, receive the gift of eternal life. I ask you to fill me with the Holy Spirit and lead me for the rest of my life. In Jesus name - Amen. 🎉❤

@NorthernGreenEyes

5 ай бұрын

Same here!!!

@lisawhitehall1870

4 ай бұрын

Word...WORD😢

Alyssa mentions many traits that are associated with autism. High intelligence with big challenges. I relate to not liking eye contact! Has she had an autism evaluation? I had multiple diagnosis… that still didn’t help me. A very intelligent doctor decided to test me for autism… and BINGO. ADHD, anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, depression… and then - autism was the overarching thing that had been missed. Good luck to you both!

@oups5572

19 күн бұрын

Oui!!! J'ai pensé exactement la même chose!! Je ne serai pas étonnée que son problème initial soit l'autisme! Ça expliquerai vraiment l'ensemble de ses problèmes. La dépression, le tdah, le trouble anxieux généralisé et les tocs sont très souvent des comorbidités de l'autisme!

"I don't need to solve or to understand your depression" - here's a great message for those caring for someone who is struggling emotionally. The first thing anyone needs is for their state to be accepted, rather than "fixed".

@hotwateronwool

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!! What a good point

@julianvelasco380

2 жыл бұрын

That's really helpful, so hard when someone insists they try to understand you... When it's more helpful they just accept you.

@YonKat24

2 жыл бұрын

True ❤

@MJ-gj6mj

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I'm well aware everyone isn't a trained to fix mental health. It's like just be there and don't kick me when I'm down!

@nathandelamora7107

2 жыл бұрын

i think most of the time people want to “fix” is because they’re afraid to lose this person to suicide

“What is it like to feel like everybody constantly doesn’t like you?” The way her mood literally changed in front of the camera broke my heart

@cdr9515

2 жыл бұрын

I started crying. The feeling is too familiar

@hananhafed8000

2 жыл бұрын

Why do he asked that 🥲

@Sharkbar_

2 жыл бұрын

I cried at hearing that question, I felt like he was asking me personally and I could not answer it.

@jodejette

2 жыл бұрын

@@cdr9515 Right?! Me too.

@fairone1000

2 жыл бұрын

@@cdr9515 Yess! Me too!

I'm currently in a very dark place, and your videos are bringing back my faith in humanity. Thank you for everything you guys have done and continue to do.

@conanmcclanahan1069

3 ай бұрын

Hope you are doing okay a couple months on from typing this, and thank you for being brave enough to say something! Seeing the videos on this channel also make my life brighter than I was able to previously make it for myself. I think it's a sign that all things are meant to be the way they are. Everyone learns and grows at different paces, and EVERYONE on EARTH needs help from EVERYONE ELSE! That is SPECIFICALLY what society was intended for!

@cashtaylor9804

Ай бұрын

Hi, I hope you're feeling better! It's been approx 4months since you commented. I just wanted to check on you and see how you're doing?

@yayvey

Ай бұрын

@@cashtaylor9804 Hey! Still in a dark place, but I'm waiting for medication and have since then been able to surround myself with a supportive circle that I'm beginning to warm up to! Thank you for the reply :)

@yayvey

Ай бұрын

@@conanmcclanahan1069 Hey! I'm sorry for not responding, at the time 2 months ago I was at my worst. Since then, I finally went to my doctor about these issues, and now I am awaiting medication. I also (very luckily) found myself a new and supportive friend group that I am very grateful for.

@yayvey

Ай бұрын

@@conanmcclanahan1069 It deleted my response to you? I sent a similar message as the last one, but included an apology for not responding 2 months ago due to that being the worst of it. I'm doing much better now! Still feel low moments, but having a support system makes it that much easier to stay positive. And yeah! This channel does wonders on bringing awareness to mental health. Quite possibly the biggest impact I had so far to get me into taking the first step on my mental health journey. There's a lot of stigma about sharing these things that I used to feel anxiety over, but it took a KZread channel for me to learn that I was wrong my whole life about emotional intelligence and expression. It's not natural for us to keep it repressed, but when it's learned it's hard to unlearn.

You struck gold when you found Alyssa. And so did she. What a wonderful love story.

This gives me hope that there will be someone who will accept, understand, and love me regardless of my mental health problems. Thank you.

@bababooeybababooey

2 жыл бұрын

There will be!

@ShredHeadJHJ

2 жыл бұрын

Remember - women get with who they want; men get with who they can.

@WiWillemijn

2 жыл бұрын

@@ShredHeadJHJ well, with that attitude..

@palomascamera1572

2 жыл бұрын

god bless you can have you get the man you need and want

@mariamaboumia9284

2 жыл бұрын

Of course there will be

He’s one of the most emotionally intelligent person I’ve ever witnessed on this earth! He makes such a great effort to understand! He’s a gem 💎

@1deep499

2 жыл бұрын

He might be the devil praying on the weak 🤫

@fakeaccount8342

2 жыл бұрын

Who do you think you're kidding exactly?

@Ultamami

2 жыл бұрын

@@1deep499 *preying

@1deep499

2 жыл бұрын

@@Ultamami Oops 😳

@MrCph2200

2 жыл бұрын

@@1deep499 I have that worry too. But I pray that it’s not true

I rewatch this every few months. 😢 it’s so wholesome & real.

@kellyann4073

Ай бұрын

So do I. I see more of my struggle represented in Alyssa than anyone, ever. And all I see is a strong, smart, beautiful and worthy person in her who is deserving of the world. This video reminds me that I am just the same and deserving of the same. Just like you.

@shelbyregisterrn108

8 күн бұрын

Hey Kim! I love this channel. One of my favorites 💞

We adopted 6 kids with varying degrees of Fasd. With that came additional diagnosis of clinical depression, ADHD, OCD, possible Bipolar, chromosome disorder, and others. So much of what you said is how some of my kids have felt for years, and a couple still feel that way. Thank you for being so incredibly open and honest about everything. You are a beautiful young lady.

@Decouvertealbum

5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ from Peru

Her whole vibe changed when the dog got up on her lap. What a huge blessing animals are for us humans. 💜

@sherryd.3425

2 жыл бұрын

They are truly our saving grace. If only we could care for them physically, as well as they care for us. I just don't feel we have a handle on the best (yet most economical nutrition) for them, or ways to keep them as healthy as we could. Everyone should be able to experience the daily, healing love of a pet, but we don't always make it easy. I'll think on that.

@eternal_nomad

2 жыл бұрын

@@sherryd.3425 I agree, I also wish there were better food options for our beloved pets! I'm always thinking those pellets can't be very good for them, even the "best" made ones.

@fellowviewer1095

2 жыл бұрын

@@eternal_nomad I don't know where you live but in the US you can buy refrigerated, less processed food for them.

@icarus7552

2 жыл бұрын

Dogs & cats know when we're sad, that's the beautiful part of it. They know and want to make sure we're okay. They are pure love, like angels in different forms.

@jodejette

2 жыл бұрын

That is why I got m daughter, age 14, who seems to struggle with much of this, last year. It's helping.

Bless her for being so brave and bless him for never running away.

@tamerabarnes5485

2 жыл бұрын

Yes❤️

@MJ-gj6mj

2 жыл бұрын

He has helped her build herself back up, rather than hand her the hammer to break herself down. Idk if that makes sense to others but it's just important to be in a relationship with someone that won't manipulate your mental health vulnerabilities I feel.

@ledumpsterfire6474

2 жыл бұрын

When you really love someone, it's hard to watch them struggle, but easy to not run away. Even on the worst days, you don't want to run, you just want to learn how best to help.

@brandireneecrosby5361

2 жыл бұрын

My "person" just lied.He broke me worse.

@etandrepont

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, being brave and vocal are key parts towards recovery and self awareness. It brings back the control someone feels once the limbic system is activated into safety protection mode of please, fight, flight and/or freeze.

As someone who had lost faith in dating for myself and for other people, having been in abusive relationships, being abused because of my mental conditions, seeing how awful and abusive people can be.. THIS interview restored my faith in humanity. That good people do exist. Y’all two are the sweetest and so amazing people for the work you do and the people you help. Thank you for all you do. ❤️

@tamoyed

6 ай бұрын

Hey, I know this is old but I just wanted to tell you there's more of us out there with great relationships despite so many illnesses and/or trauma in the picture. I'm physically and mentally disabled and my partner is healthy and loves caring for me. I do what I can to support him back and I think it's formed a stronger, closer relationship. I hope if you haven't found your person, you will soon. You deserve it too no matter what problems you struggle with.

@laurachiar6086

4 ай бұрын

❤🙏

Bro this video is amazing I felt like embarrassed because of how much they showed us. I had this feeling like I shouldn't be here, and yet I'm thankful because I learned so much and I'm really grateful that these guys shared such a raw real part of their life with us. I think what they do is amazing and I wish them the bestest life.

@ArthurHale

7 ай бұрын

I completely agree!

This is one of the saddest and sweetest videos you’ve done. Goes to show love is real. You’re genuine

@parler8698

Жыл бұрын

It's eye opening.

@GgByAngel

Жыл бұрын

Love is just a chemical process.

@imstupidbut

Жыл бұрын

@@GgByAngelthen life is just a chemical process

@aurorasdawn4681

Жыл бұрын

@@winstonmcfinston What? Why?

@gemmaclark6663

Жыл бұрын

@@winstonmcfinston How what's Chris like or Done ? Xxx

When Chris asked what it's like to think that nobody likes you it cut right to my core when I saw her tear up. Devastating is about right. It's an awful feeling.

@kimmiske7821

2 жыл бұрын

Dutbf Sometimes we I’ve asked my mother why everybody hates me. She answered with, “I don’t know!.” Gee thanks mom.

@rhysobrien2439

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimmiske7821 I'm sure that she didn't mean to hurt your feelings. It's a hard question for a son to ask of his mother. It probably guts her to hear her son ask her that.

@angelfoxinprettysocks3005

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t answer that one, if someone asked me. I think she’s so brave! 💕 Chris is amazing, though he didn’t understand perfectly, he’s always being open, always trying. I dream of such a relationship. Yet I feel uncomfortable sometimes even, when others are so kind, as I am not used to it. I always ended up in a relationship, where I had someone drag me down, when I tried to stay, and endure, even help them. I used to ignore warning signs, thinking I didn’t deserve otherwise, and that was as good as it gets. It’s wonderful knowing, others have the right support, through their mental health struggles.❤️❣️

@kittykaitcandykillet8160

Жыл бұрын

The people who resonated with that knew the look she had, the emotions it was hard hitting.

@rhysobrien2439

Жыл бұрын

@@kittykaitcandykillet8160 there's few feelings worse in this world than the constant nagging thought I have which roughly equates to "Nobody likes you. And you deserve it because you are unlikable and utterly worthless/useless. You are no good to anybody and that's why you don't have any friends."

Wow at 15:28 this is exactly how I feel living with CPTSD with a loving husband and happy child. I often feel like I take away from their happiness. Also, how she describes there is no ratio to the good and bad it’s just all intertwined. I have a beautiful life, and I recognize how blessed I am, but my brain clouds my ability to fully feel the joy of it.

@MaxDamage1984

5 ай бұрын

Don't listen to your brain. Listen to your heart. Your brain is there to help you survive, so you should only listen to it in a survival situation.

@CaityDunks

Ай бұрын

The fear of ruining my kids' childhoods with my struggles takes up too much space in my head. I want to be better for them so badly.

@allisonhay8760

Ай бұрын

Yes- I think my kids would be better off without me, but I also think that if I go, that would harm them. I expect not to live a long life, and that makes me feel better- I think their memories of me would be better than the reality of me

@laimaravillon895

29 күн бұрын

Wow

I doubt Chis will see this on a 3 year old video (maybe, this one is about his personal life and relationship with his life partner) but I really have to say what an amazing person you are. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the good you do in this world. You are a literal ray of light, spreading love and joy to millions. If I could impact even 1/1000000th of the people you have, I would have accomplished my goals in life. Thank you for all you do Chris, you are a living saint. You make the world a much brighter, happier, loving, and more beautiful place.

@aphysique

7 күн бұрын

He's doing a lil of God's work, isn't he!!

Rejection Sensitive Disorder is common for ADHD folks. it is SO exhausting and devastating to think everyone hates you 24/7 and really destroys you mentally. I relate to you so much and am so grateful to you for sharing your experience.

@feebee5557

2 жыл бұрын

Damn. I was diagnosed ADHD in the 70s and my parents didn't like what Ritalin did to me so I was left to deal with it on my own without any therapeutic or dietary help. I mean, I'm glad for it because I've learned so much on my own but there's so much I still don't know. I am always feeling rejected and it's affected every friendship I've had in my 50 years. I'm so grateful for my children and loving husband who accept me for who I am, but knowing that would have saved me a lot of heartache the past 45 years. Thank you for this comment because it's provided me with a new avenue of introspection and healing. Bless.

@_lynno

2 жыл бұрын

Your comment was the first time I’ve heard of this disorder. I’ve spent hours researching it and it was like reading articles about myself. It all makes so much sense and I can actually see a way to incorporate this into my own self-healing journey. Thank you so much 🙏🏻

@tanyasorin4619

2 жыл бұрын

​@@_lynno I am glad that it helped! I too only found out about it recently, and I can assure you that at least knowing what is going on with you does make life easier. I was seeing a therapist at the time and was actually really pissed at him for not ever mentioning RSD because that was really the only reason I was in therapy. I found out about it through a friend of mine and was stunned that a licensed psychologist was less educated on this topic than a teenage girl. Knowing why I am the way I am gave me relief and made me feel less isolated because I always thought that I was the only one who was struggling with relationships in this way. I hope that in the future more people will know about RSD because you cannot properly heal before you know the cause of your pain.

@dhafiansuhartono8668

2 жыл бұрын

@@tanyasorin4619 that's a thing? Shhii makes sense now

@_kikizaman_

2 жыл бұрын

Wow I have extreme adhd and I always feel like this, to the point where isolate and I only have 1 friend left. I didn’t know this was adhd related. Thank you

I hope everyone gets to feel this level of love in their life.

@lulumoon6942

2 жыл бұрын

That's a precious wish, hope for you, too. 🙏💖🌈

@Xindi86

2 жыл бұрын

The same, I wish this for everyone. Every person deserves this kind of person in their lives. 🙏 Also wish there was someone this compassionate and caring in my life. Two beautiful people ♡ Keep it up, you guys are very loving and I think you two are amazing. Much love from the Netherlands!

@eggrollsoup

2 жыл бұрын

i never felt any kind of real love. not sure if i ever will

@revdrtiffanyfoster

2 жыл бұрын

@@eggrollsoup 🤗

@eggrollsoup

2 жыл бұрын

@@revdrtiffanyfoster hopefully one day

I am 64 and for the first time in my life listening to her I realized there was actually someone who was going through exactly what I did. I am so proud of have far you have came. Thank you for sharing with us. 💕

@radvibes

11 ай бұрын

I'm 64 also. I've had very bad anxiety all of my life and had a nervous breakdown 1.5 years ago. Now on meds.

@tradergirl7067

7 ай бұрын

I think she is my twin actually. wow

She is an incredible human being, beautiful and strong. Listening to her felt like she was desribing me, I was diagnosed with the same at 25, but still find it dificult to find someone who I can feel like being myself is ok, so having relationships is so hard for me. So glad she has a wonderful and supportive boyfriend, such a blessing

Lots of comments about how great Chris is and how lucky Alyssa is to have someone like Chris who tries to understand her. Kudos to Chris. But oh my gosh, Alyssa! Your level of self realization is inspiring. When you have those dark thoughts - the negative things you tell yourself about yourself - it can be all-consuming. It takes such strength of character and a high level of compassion to change the narrative in your own head and challenge those thoughts. Chris sounds like a supportive partner, but ALYSSA did and is doing the hard work of challenging those negative thoughts and living with her diagnoses while not letting them define the person she is. Mental health issues are a struggle, and it takes a strong person to find the energy and self-compassion to fight through to a place of patience and acceptance while understanding you might fall back into bad days and have to dig your way out again. Alyssa, you are inspirational. Keep going, Queen!

@sarahgumball8597

Жыл бұрын

Yes I am amazed with her self realization! Beautiful couple 🥹❤️

@MrStickman4

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree

@howardcohen6817

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your support for Alyssa. She is really an inspiration.

@shanehill3804

Жыл бұрын

Definitely agree with you, I found it super motivational, I feel I can relate to Alyssa's pain and to see someone approach their own struggles with such wisdom and heart has given me a needed boost that maybe I can too. Slowly but surely rebuilding my social media around people like this.

@hollyhenderson2803

Жыл бұрын

@@shanehill3804 Yes! You can!

As a mid 40's male, I've learned to not listen to my brain anymore. I just live and don't care what others think. I try to be a good husband and a better father to my 2 girls. Took me a lot of years to get there.

@AR-zz8de

Жыл бұрын

you got this man. im rooting for you

@shinigami2192

Жыл бұрын

i’m happy to hear that! time is key to everything.

@aftomoon

Жыл бұрын

Как научится НЕ слушать свой мозг?

@basedanon420

Жыл бұрын

Based

@morebrigges

Жыл бұрын

@@basedanon420 You have the same first name!

I'm a proud sponsor of your channel. As a father of a special needs child that my wife and I adopted from Bulgaria, I can't thank you enough for all the wonderful people that you interview.

This is literally the best youtube video I've ever watched. Hands. Down. This is the universal example of a good relationship.

Thank you for this. This is so needed for young couples. I am 80, my hubbie is 82. We are married fir 61 yrs. Life is good. God bless you both for being so honest.💟

@shannon8715

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@ivyringheim1182

2 жыл бұрын

wow 61 yrs! thats a lot of years❤️

Believe me boyfriends/ husbands like Chirs exist ......my husband is one of them ...and thank god for these angels ...and Alyssa i have so much respect for you .....for expressing about what you went through and going through so beautifully...wish one day I can do that and help someone ...but for now thanks for doing this ....god bless ❤️

@tieiatalks

2 жыл бұрын

So is mine! How did we get so lucky? ♥️

@klyannguerra3418

2 жыл бұрын

Mine as well, and I'm thankful everyday for having him.

@PhokingLegend

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Thank you for giving hopeful motivation

@Sulam2490

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said, wishing you both the best, sending you so much love.

@xVadRay

Жыл бұрын

I have only encountered violent and neglectful men, I pray to be lucky and find a good man

I can see in his eyes that deep compassion that comes from supporting a partner who is struggling with their mental health. May Alyssa continue to care for herself & build a lot of hope

I have CPTSD, bipolar 1 with psychotic features, severe depression, ADHD, and some variety of anxiety that hasn't been for-sure labeled yet. Her self-perception sounds very similar to what I deal with, so my heart hurts for that struggle. The spirals are so rough. Chris, hug her for me!

This interview reminds me so much of my own relationship. I have depression and autism and my husband pours non-stop love into me. It has been really healing. We’ve been married nine and a half years.

@fightmilk8613

Жыл бұрын

You both are very lucky 😊

@KawaiiCat2

Жыл бұрын

That’s amazing. So good to hear great stories like this!

@clairecochran9765

11 ай бұрын

I wonder what Chris’ diagnosis are?

@idid138

11 ай бұрын

@@clairecochran9765 perhaps, eternal optimist?

@stellaspooperpicker-upper6767

11 ай бұрын

How exhausting for him though.

When Chris got choked up at the end... that was everything. All the pain, fear, confusion, joy, hope and love portrayed in the rest of the video... summed up in a single moment.

@MJ-gj6mj

2 жыл бұрын

What a gift Alyssa has in him. He is everything she needs and all of what she thought she didn't deserve. This couple is beautiful 😍

@svirardi

2 жыл бұрын

And when he was still trying to smile for the camera.. gah, that broke me. 🥺 Chris, it’s okay to cry! ❤️

As a person with C-PTSD, I heavily relate to Alyssa. I was given multiple diagnoses before it was discovered I had C-PTSD. Most, if not all, of the ways I was symptomatic of other illnesses could be traced back to it.

@justineharper3346

11 ай бұрын

I was wondering if her diagnosis could be related to past trauma. I’ve been diagnosed with three of these (working on getting the 4th because I’m 99.9% convinced that I have ADHD), but they seem to have started with a traumatic childhood. My husband also has the same struggles as her, mainly the self loathing, and I’m convinced if he actually opened up to a doctor about things that happened to him in childhood, he would be diagnosed with C-PTSD

@lizziewalsh275

11 ай бұрын

I agree, with ADHD etc come with childhood trauma (adhd is also genetic) but OCD/tric doesn’t quite fit with C-PTSD

@alinacirstescu4696

11 ай бұрын

Yeah i have adhd& ocd and highly suspect i have CPTSD and i was relating HEAVILY to her

This had me crying throughout. Your love for one another and how he shows her his love throughout is so beautiful.

Props for this man for being so straight foward with his intentions and ability to just accept people as they are

@bee1411

2 жыл бұрын

It is literally so rare.

He really is a precious light in the world. He is the definition of a humanitarian. Complete opposite of narcissism. He is empathy in action.

@rubiesofgold7698

Жыл бұрын

He’s a modern day version of Mr. Rogers. I hope and pray that their humanitarian work continues to grow.

@sandywhat2429

Жыл бұрын

@@rubiesofgold7698 yes I totally agree. Young Mr Rogers 🤣❤️

@VintageRose75

Жыл бұрын

@@rubiesofgold7698 Yes!!!!! He even speaks a bit like him!!!

@kateingram6987

Жыл бұрын

@@rubiesofgold7698 Exactly what I thot. Modern day in the sense that we are more real and honest and I think maybe even the times are a little harder too.

@robbielynmccrary872

2 ай бұрын

love is patient and kind. love is not jealous.mitbdoes not brag does not get puffed up does not behave indecently does not look for its own interests does not become provoked. it does not keep account of the injury……it bears all things believes all things hopes all things endures all things love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

I just wish I could give you a hug, Alyssa. Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience. I have been diagnosed with several mental health disorders over the past couple of years, as well, and your honesty and openness with your emotions really hit me.

Her answer about that feeling of being unloved is so good. Educational and important to help people understand. I love her and her courage.

I started crying as soon as she did. It’s so hard. My mind is such a contradictory place. The best and the worst. I send you love, Alyssa.

@ScotsyCajn

Жыл бұрын

I have those diagnoses and more. Just saying this so you can Know, that I understand. How ….wild… your mind is.

@idid138

11 ай бұрын

@@ScotsyCajn Hi Lydia! I'm a Lydia too, so like to say hi to my "sisters", never met a Lydia I didn't like. Also your comment really resonated with me, and what my daughter seems to be dealing with. I want to help her and often I feel helpless.

@followhim.8543

7 ай бұрын

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@Mr.Sr.Jr.

6 ай бұрын

People who seek diagnosis' are victims and weak-minded and would prefer a crutch/wheelchair/sympathy rather than be able to walk with a slight limp. It blows me away how people like this don't realize that this mental illness nonsense is a first world phenomenon and the rest of the world / the rest of life doesn't just play a fiddle for themselves when things are tough. It's only a luxury afforded to those who have an extremely easy life and need to create drama and excuses.

@ScotsyCajn

6 ай бұрын

@@Mr.Sr.Jr. for me, it's about change. Learning to accept what's going on in and around me so I can stay alive. Walk with a limp? Ha! I've spent my life (since age 3) crawling the muddy battlefield with my sword still up as best I can. A slight limp is what my horse had... I ditched it years ago.

Chris's parents raised him to be a kind, respectful and thoughtful person. Alyssa - you are a wonderful, sweet and gentle soul. You both give me hope for humanity. ❤️

I feel like for the first time I have seen this man not have his full smile in a video I can see that strong emotion for his partner. Which is beautiful.

They give me hope that someone will love me. Despite all of my struggles and baggage, I try my best everyday to become better. Trauma is not easy to overcome and I know that I’m deserving of someone who will be understanding of my past and love all of me.

Everybody praising him, but she is also such a sweet, genuine, self reflected person

@ermo5623

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Such a beautiful girl & it takes a lot to be so open and vulnerable.

@user-yn9tv3pw6u

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@sweetycharm564

11 ай бұрын

Exactly

@picklepoppers8223

11 ай бұрын

Something that he wholeheartedly deserves.

I had an abusive childhood in many ways. Nowadays, as a father, I try my best to raise my children the best way I can. And I would really like to meet his parents. They have done a remarkable job raising him. They should be on a video! I praise them!

@MJ-gj6mj

2 жыл бұрын

Good fathers are a special gift. Your children may not always show it, but you are appreciated.

@jenm1

2 жыл бұрын

hugs

@fatimaezzahra1966

2 жыл бұрын

Your children must be very lucky to get a loving father like you. God bless you

@mayc8674

2 жыл бұрын

Boy, i hope to God you don't mean being permissive and overly praising kids for no reason bc then they become as they call them today, "snowflakes".

I'm a single father of 5 boys. I know what it's like to watch someone you care about struggle. It hurts a lot. You have to let it flow through you everyday to manage it. Stay goofy. Sometimes, we have to smile not to cry. Humor is the best medicine.

This woman, bless her with all her ailments, is incredibly lucky to have a man like Chris. This dude is a Saint.

So glad she didn’t fall into the hands of an abuser!💜

@YouTubeShorts-pb6ww

Жыл бұрын

Seriously what I was thinking

@antonovromanov7412

Жыл бұрын

Yeah 😢

@mandys0088

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's really rough

@paulfennimore4078

Жыл бұрын

could not of said it any better , godspeed

@Igga_killer

Жыл бұрын

@@mandys0088 did u face an abusive relationship?

I hope my daughter meets someone like Chris. They are both loving and are so caring

@DineshSingh-qx3ik

2 жыл бұрын

Any parent would love to have someone like him in life of their daughter

@benireges

Жыл бұрын

May your daughter meet Chris one day!🤗

@japlunkett6789

Жыл бұрын

I think he’s taken….

When he looks at you he see's a genuine beautiful angel!

I like how he reassures her before asking her a question!!!

Her pause when he asked her how she felt when she thinks nobody likes her… I felt that, girl. To not be able to open your mouth because you won’t be able to hold it together. ❤️

@jessecoates1562

2 жыл бұрын

You said it.

@jamieyoch806

2 жыл бұрын

And to just not have the words to describe the pain…

@Good-DaySunshine

2 жыл бұрын

Red: you have the most beautiful eyes!

@jenellsaphid

2 жыл бұрын

She immediately got so sad. It was hard to watch.

@christinamccarthy6326

2 жыл бұрын

Me to i struggle with feelings of worthlessness and sorrow

The “being a burden” I feel that soo deeply

@karenbonham1359

2 жыл бұрын

I agree this is a big part of needing help. One thing that helps me is thinking about how I feel when I have the ability to help someone. The best days I have are those I get to help someone. That is why they call it the gift of your need, when you allow someone to help you out is a gift to them. Please consider this when you feel you are a burden...

@daniellee1324

2 жыл бұрын

@@karenbonham1359 thank you!!! 💕

I have almost the same combination of diagnoses (I have OCD, ADHD, anxiety and depression) and this video really moved me. Living like this is devastating, and it's invisible. I understand you completely Alyssa and I really hope you are managing ok at the moment. You're a good person. ❤️

I have tricotillomania, I thank you for opening up about living with mental health problems, I struggle a lot and watching this made me cry, I feel like I’m a nothing

@yj2754

Ай бұрын

thank you for speaking up, i'm on the same page too. it feels nice to have someone who's struggling with the same yhing

@commonsense571

Ай бұрын

You are everything 💜❤💜 you are worthy of love and belonging. You are enough. This Mama sends you unconditional love and hugs 🌷. Thank you. 🌷

I am just like her and it's one of the reasons why I think I can't be in a relationship right now. But to see that she's found someone like him gives me hope.

@guillianjoyce

2 жыл бұрын

Rooting for you, babe! Sending light and love 🤍♥️

@rozhin6055

Жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same!

@maceyr.6583

Жыл бұрын

Same. 🥺

@erwanasuzumiya6347

Жыл бұрын

You deserve love and I hope you find it! Take care of yourself

@cupidery

Жыл бұрын

same

Chris is a gem. So glad he's found love & happiness. His partner is adorable & blessed to have him.

@gaviromero8894

2 жыл бұрын

They’re blessed to have each other!

@loreylane3918

Жыл бұрын

She is the lucky one indeed .

How could anyone not adore and love them both!!!!!!

This guy is 100% genuine and I say that rarely about people AND I don’t even know the guy personally.

The juxtaposition of bouncing back and forth between how she sees herself versus how Chris sees her was a great filming choice. Greatly depicts the emotional battles many families go through.

I can’t imagine having a partner who loves and accepts you despite your mental health diagnoses. You two are a gift to the world. Thank you for your work, selflessness and care.

@antonovromanov7412

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I didn’t have that

@radvibes

11 ай бұрын

So true

@dogshake

10 ай бұрын

This video reminds me of my life partner and myself. Our names are Chris and Angie, and they’re Chris and Alyssa, and much like them it’s been just over 6 years since we’ve been dating. She has Autism and OCD and Epilepsy. I have been there with through it all and I couldn’t be more freaking lucky to have her. She’s been through an unbelievable amount of abuse and has seen some horrible stuff at a young age…it breaks my heart…I’m just so so grateful for her existence and the fact that I can be here to drown her in pure love and hopefully make her feel like things will be okay. The first thing I tell her (or text her if I have work in the mornings) is “Hey hun, just reminding you that you are so strong, and so beautiful”. I NEED her to feel comfortable, she deserves it the most out of anyone I’ve ever seen. Sorry for going on a ramble, I just like to tell other people how strong and beautiful she is.

I was surprised to hear that Chris would not want to get rid of Alyssa's diagnosies... Yes, she is perfect and he loves her the way she is, of course! But to her life's sake (until he met her), I expected him to say yes, with the explanation for her to feel more happy, have less struggles in life, in terms of being able to enjoy a depression free life... Yet still loving her!

It’s not for me to say who should endure with who- God bless this beautiful couple for real. What I’m about to say is a harsh reality that I had to live under and I wanted to give this perspective. However, my mom had quite a repertoire of mental issues. My father was a sweet, wholesome man who saw the best in everyone and wanted to ‘save’ the situation within her. It would have been difficult but a better scenario if it would’ve been just her and my father as they were the ones that agreed to live with those issues and chose the situation together. However, once they started having children, those issues now became shared amongst other people that they brought into this world and passed along hereditarily to their children. It became a giant mess and not fair for those that did not choose having those problems to begin with and/or to endure such things from a mom with issues and I can only tell you how difficult things got as the years went on for all of us in every capacity. It was hard enough trying to deal with my parents (trying to help my dad take care of my mom who was so mentally unstable he had to quit his job - which was a major profession - he had spent his whole life building - she was extremely unmanageable) but the illnesses made there way through the bloodline so we all had some of them- anxiety, depression, boarderline personality disorder, on and on.. looking back, she was a very inconsistent mom- at times extremely wonderful- the best at times- better than any of my friend’s mom - she did thing that were off the charts amazingly wonderful- but also the worst as well, I had to be the adult from a very young age, like 5. She was abusive and I believe she didn’t mean to be but it set my sister and I up for failure in life choosing husbands that repeated patterns - ending in divorce on and on. When she got older it really ruined about every holiday we had as a family and up into the time of her death - which was 80- it ruin everyone’s everything. Because we either had to leave my dad behind, which we couldn’t do or deal with it. It’s been horrible. Didn’t want to ruin everyone’s happy moment regarding this video- but I wanted you to think through things before thinking you could just get with people and think that your ‘love’ can fix things.

His response to the question of “how is it to love someone with 5 mental health disorders” made me tear up. 😭 my fiancé is incredible and talks about me the way Chris talks about Alyssa. I have mental health disorders too and they are exhausted among many other things- to have a partner who is not just willing to but HAPPY to be beside you through it all is just… a dream.

@KhaleesiMotherOfGuineaPigs

2 жыл бұрын

Its the most important thing. I'm 40 and have never had someone so supportive as my partner is now. I've never really had someone love me like this before who's aware of all of my mental struggles and issues. He helps me feel like I can manage.

@emilyeah

2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@KhaleesiMotherOfGuineaPigs

Жыл бұрын

@@nincure I think that's lovely when you find your person. I hope you have a wonderful life together, loving, supporting and caring for each other. Once you have that everything else doable. Xx

@KhaleesiMotherOfGuineaPigs

Жыл бұрын

@@nincure oh I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that your doing ok and taking care of yourself?

@howardcohen6817

Жыл бұрын

@@KhaleesiMotherOfGuineaPigs Wow! Tell us a little about him; he's a special person.

Is this guy some kind of angel or something? Heavenly blessed man he is

My heart melted with this video. You two are the best couple I've ever seen. I'm on tears... i just cannot express how much I loved to watch this

my ex was diagnosed with depression and ADHD, also shortly after we got together and i see our relationship a lot in this video, and wow it hit hard...

This man has such an angelic persona. She's is blessed to have him as her partner, and also to the children and other adults with mental health diagnoses or physical disabilities. You all are overcomers! May God continue to bless you both in all your future endeavors! 🙏🙌🥰

@Emily-gv3ne

2 жыл бұрын

I think he is blessed by her as well.

@andreamayall

2 жыл бұрын

@@Emily-gv3ne yep, exactly.

@rumaristo129

2 жыл бұрын

He's blessed to have her as a partner.

@geminipurepecha

2 жыл бұрын

That's so special I wish someone took care of me like you do each other.

@whatshisname3304

2 жыл бұрын

his heart is good but he has an undefinable persona. if I was being unkind I would say he was sort of smug. but I love his channel. but he s not the best part of it.

Epitome of True Love. I cried through the whole thing. They are an incredibly beautiful couple.

@openlybookish

2 жыл бұрын

I've gotten teary a few times.

A lot of what you've been through resonates with me. I've had the rock bottom, overwhelm, GAD, depression, grief, panic attacks. I understand some of the struggles.

I just recently ran across your channel. As a mom of a child with special needs, your videos have made me laugh and cry. Thank you for your loving kindness in showing the world the struggles and more importantly the joy that special needs people bring to this world. My daughter has Smith-Magenis syndrome and although it can be challenging, the joy she brings to this world far outweighs the challenges. God bless you and Alyssa in your journey. Alyssa is a beautiful soul! I’m glad she was able to share her struggles so openly. Until you’ve experienced what she has, you have no idea how strong a person she really is.

It’s so hard to have faith in humanity right now, but this channel makes me believe in human compassion. You guys are making a huge difference. Thank you ❤️

@Amethyst_Friend

2 жыл бұрын

No it's the easiest thing in the world to have faith in humanity

@drelezar7745

2 жыл бұрын

If this makes you feel better, the truth is we ARNT becoming more evil over time, we are just realizing how evil we already were. There will ALWAYS be more good in the world than evil and *the fact that everyone cares about it proves that*

@dontcallmethat6515

2 жыл бұрын

ikr!! i started watching this channel when the world was falling apart and no one was listening to each other... but I always turn this on when I feel angry at other people. this always somehow pops up in my recommended right when I need it.

@chrisscala4221

2 жыл бұрын

I really feel this way too. I haven't watched their videos in a while and I realized how much I missed them! It's really easy to get caught up in my personal stuff and close my heart off sometimes and this channel really opens it up!

@lulumoon6942

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, SBSK is an oasis for the soul. God bless Chris& Alyssa, all the wonderful people he interviews, and the loveliest people on the Internet, this community!!! 🙏💖🌈

I am literally this girl. How I always feel, think perceive things. Seeing and hearing the sadness in her is literally like hearing myself talk or think. I honestly never thought anyone was experiencing the exact things I do. I have read and watched alot on mental illness but I don't think anything has clicked as much for me as this has.

@mariecarie1

Жыл бұрын

Guess what Ashley? I am literally this girl, too. Swap out trichotillomania with dermatillomania, and I am exactly this girl. And I had just about the same reaction to this video as you. I’m not saying this to minimize or trivialize your reaction, or anything you’ve gone through. I’m saying this to tell you that I love you, and that we really are okay, because if you’re like me, then you really can’t hear that enough. Hugs from Indiana

@bissum4227

Жыл бұрын

@@mariecarie1 and Ashley, me, too. This is incredibly validating.

@stephanied6451

11 ай бұрын

Me too. I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and trich but am in processed of possible adhd diagnosis. And after hearing her talk, I think I also have OCD. I never realized that writing writing letters in the air/my hand and counting syllables over and over really was anything much but between how often I do that and how often I worry and think of scenarios in my head of awful things happening - it really does make me think I have that too. I have a perfect life otherwise but just truly can't feel the elation I should.

@judistocker1811

6 ай бұрын

I’ve cried watching this with the realization of my own challenges

Well done for being brave to share these personal struggles, and for mentioning trichotilliomania (one form of OCD), which is rarely talked about perhaps because it causes shame, guilt and embarrassment. I think that is like a vicious circle because doing it causes shame, and shame causes feeling of inadequacy and frustration has to be taken out on something - like hair, which is also a source of shame if it never looks neat enough or grows where you don't want it!!. Being anxious, stressed or frustrated makes me fiddle with my hair or pull it out, often unintentionally because I just get bothered by split ends and squiggly bits which I should ignore or cut off, not pull out the whole hair! But then it becomes a habit I can't stop unless I am keeping my hands busy doing something useful. Being asked why I do it also causes stress because it's hard to explain, and it's something I just find myself doing for no reason. Perhaps because of anxiety, but sometimes I don't know what I'm anxious about other than being afraid of being told off for making a bald patch. Perhaps part of the trouble is feelings can't be put into words. I also blame boredom, forgetting what I am supposed to be doing, or having cravings for sweet things I should not be eating and trying to avoid giving in to them! Anyway whatever causes it, being told off about it doesn't really help, it just means someone else thinks you just need more self-control, which is hard when you have any kind of OCD. I was also told I should do some sort of cognitive behaviour therapy, but I don't really understand what that involves and found my own ways to manage - like keeping my mind and hands busy. 'Computer therapy' mostly!! I have ideas about depression as well - and OCD in general... But on a more positive thought = this video is great showing how love can overcome or overlook all sorts of issues and people can accept each other just as they are. Keep on smiling - you two do a good job being honest about 'stuff' and I hope your KZread channel helps more people understand and express what they go through and struggle with. More conditions have names these days than they had decades ago, and maybe more need names. I made one up: HSDDS "Hyper-sensitive discomfort distraction syndrome". Is that a real one or is it just a characteristic of autistic spectrum disorders or a symptom of PTSD? It seems more a physical thing than a mental one, but could cause or be associated with mental problems because of how physical sensations affect emotions and brain and how we choose to cope or how we find ouselves trying to cope without choosing deliberately, if that makes any sense! I mean I just can't concentrate on anything intellectual or serious when I'm uncomfortable, overwhelmed or irritated by any sensory stress. Even just a buzzing insect flying around bothering me or an itch that needs scratching! Sorry this got too long!! Life is complicated!

We need more people in the world like Chris. Genuinely an awesome guy. Wish I had the chance to meet him in person some day.

I'm autistic and ADHD (both diagnosed at 36 years old), GAD and depression, and this interview gives me so much strength. Seeing how much love involved in your story is amazing.

@exhocmomentopendetaeternit9096

2 жыл бұрын

I'm autistic and ADHD too, diagnosed at 18. Stay strong!

@alissar8353

2 жыл бұрын

I have a form of ADHD with social anxiety and other things as well. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since 6 or 7 social anxiety almost 2 years ago. Stay strong and positive

@kyleighbreanne9656

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry that you had to struggle for over three decades before you got answers, my heart goes out to you ❤️

@i12EmpireTV

2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed last year with adhd, PTSD and borderline personality disorder at 35 years of age.stay strong, we all in this together

@jessecoates1562

2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at 50 with ADD, in addition to depression and anxiety that I've had since my teens. The diagnosis and treatment have changed so much for the positive in my life! Ironically, I had become a teacher for students with disabilities 8 years before, lol. ADD had insidiously impacted my self esteem and life choices in big ways, learning that it is neurological was like, "HA! I knew I wasn't just ___ (dumb, a f-up, etc.) But I was also a better artist because of the ability to hyper focus (puts me into a state where my subconscious and conscious are communicating more) and developed empathetic/intuitive strengths. So grateful that I was diagnosed.

I started crying when he talked about how he feels about her. I've been in a relationship for the past three years and this week she told me she needed a break because my mental health problems are too much for her right now. It happened so many times I just lost all hope that she would accept me and love me regardless of my depression. It's so hard knowing that people see me as a burden. I'm trying to be understanding but it really hurts to think that she can only see the bad things in me, specially now that I'm down and can't really see the good things myself. I wish she could see me the way he sees Alyssa, she's is so lucky to have him as her partner

@andreamayall

2 жыл бұрын

Understanding takes time. I don't think he could just make click and go forward. I don't know how your partner is, or how has behaved in the past, so I'm not gonna tell you to hang in there at any costs, but give your partner time to live this too. As long as the communication is clear and fluid, taking some time for yourself to reorganize ideas and help you better is not a bad idea. I wish you the best in life, with or without a partner, cause you are, as Alyssa has said, your best cheerleader!!!!!!" loads of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@yuyiurumi

2 жыл бұрын

Same, with all of my partners, I just feel like a burden... She's so lucky

@micheler1077

2 жыл бұрын

Please do not take offense…. Each of you are beautiful, amazing and loved. Love is not a word love is a feeling and you deserve your own Chris. You deserve a partner that will stand by you no matter what. A partner that sees your heart not your brain. If your partner can’t handle you at your worst then they don’t deserve your best.

@theflowerhead

2 жыл бұрын

Therapy/nutrition/ and drugs maybe. Nutrition and supplements are great. We want to be as fair as possible to people, but your health is #1 and someone one day will see it as just a chance to help someone they love. Someone I've finally met treats me that way. I know it's hard. I'm sorry.

@dh6320

2 жыл бұрын

I would say, you are still lucky. You have a partner that is being honest with you - even it hurt your feelings or let you down, they chose to be honest with you. Do you know how rare that is? That's why you see so many cheating couples and broken trust.

Wow. What amazing people. Thank you so much for this video. I deal with ADHD, OCD, CPTSD and recently learned that I am on the autism spectrum, ASD. It is hard sometimes to be your own advocate, feels sort of ironic, but it has taught me what self compassion is and I am learning how to honor my feelings and needs. I have learned how to be a better friend to myself and be comfortable setting the boundaries that are helpful to me. Namaste!❤😊

@NightMystique13

Ай бұрын

We are the same! Loving and respecting ourselves and asking for help when we need it most changes our life. Not easy but worth the effort.

He is lucky to have such a brave partner! Being open and honest helps others. You are not alone. Thank u 4 share your details in your journey. I’m inspired to continue the work I’m doing on myself. Thank you.

As someone diagnosed with CPTSD , ADHD, OCD, Major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, and a slew of other acronyms, hearing Alyssa's experience and seeing her express herself in such a raw manner was really powerful. Having all these labels can feel incredibly isolating, shameful and intimidating. Self doubt is a mighty foe, and it makes you think you're alone, unloved and undeserving. Alyssa's story is sooo validating, and it was a relief hearing that someone out there understands. It was super brave of her to come on here, there are so many more of us out here experiencing the same struggles and we often don't realize that. Thank you Alyssa, for sharing your story, and being so vulnerable. 💛

@myrthasmascary4086

2 жыл бұрын

I super proud of u bcuz u get 2 make the choice I wish u the best

In my opinion SBSK is unparalleled in its honesty, respect and interest in each others experiences and view on life. I have studied Psychology and will start my training for becoming a Therapist soon and I learned so much from you and the SBSK community, so I am forever grateful for the work and heart you put into this channel! Its humanity in its purest form. You both are so beautiful, strong people and I wish you all the best for your future.

@lulumoon6942

2 жыл бұрын

Beauties thoughts and words, thank you, and all my best in your chosen vocation. You will be changing lives far beyond your clients, and that's wonderful! 👍🙏💖🌈

@hannahjohnston3757

2 жыл бұрын

Best of luck to you!

@JoseyWales1865

2 жыл бұрын

Licensed Professional Counselor?

@MJJIllseeyouinheaven

2 жыл бұрын

@Amber’s Imperfections Thank you so much! Yeah, in Germany it is quite a long journey to become a cognitive behavioral therapist - at least 5 years at university (masters degree) and about 4 more years of special training in the field to get approved as a therapist. :)

As someone with anxiety disorder, PTSD, depression and ADHD I get this so much. I wish her all the success in the world with her therapy. It is awful to be so trapped in your own mind (especially with a critical interior voice) and feel disconnected from the world at times. No one is harder on me than I am. I would never talk to anyone the way my inner voice talks to me. It is like an abuser you can't escape from.

I’ve watched this video several times, as with many other SBSK videos. This is by far my favorite❤. It proves their desire to reach and tell the stories of “special” kids/people is rooted in love, acceptance, and experience.

Literally crying for 45min straight lol. God, imagine having someone love you that much? Despite the hard times, the struggles, they still being there. I wish you two the best, SBSK is definitely one of my fav channels.

@RamKumar-yi6wn

Жыл бұрын

Why are you crying though ?

@stars19735

Жыл бұрын

@@RamKumar-yi6wn idk empathy?

@lolbajset

Жыл бұрын

@@stars19735 fragility isn't empathy

If only more people in the world were as genuine and accepting as he is

@Iredidv

2 жыл бұрын

I was just about to type the same.. if only 5% of the people were like this guy, the world would look a whole lot different. Tears in my eyes rly.

@Lily_Catt-

2 жыл бұрын

He's way to Accepting. That's really cool

@Chrys_thatsit

2 жыл бұрын

There are guys like this nowadays, but there are people who sadly neglect/deny them because girls would want something different then complain guys are shi8

@Chrys_thatsit

2 жыл бұрын

BUT it goes vice versa of course.

@exhocmomentopendetaeternit9096

2 жыл бұрын

Ikr? It would be a better place

i have ADHD, anxiety, OCD and IED, i feel like no one gets to know me enough to like me. i hope one day someone understands me and loves me like you with Alyssa!

Thank you for making this video, my partner and I each go through our share of mental health struggles, Autism, ADHD, OCD, Anxiety, and Depression, some shared some not. This just gives a wonderful perspective on how important it is to communicate and ask for help during low times, especially when both partners are in a low time, it's so crucial to have a network of friends and family who will support you as well. Really needed this today as we both had a pretty rough day yesterday. We have also been together 5, almost 6 years now, and having someone who listens and understands me so well has been so healing, but challenging in some ways since we're so similar.

Now I understood why Chris has this motivation to help people with mental issues

I have most of those diagnoses and my boyfriend is like Chris, trying to learn while loving. It’s something I could never imagine and I love him very much

@d.leighannbatemon3192

2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, and then as bipolar, and neither of those diagnosis were correct. When I was finally diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum, that felt absolutely right. She sounds to me like she's also an Aspie (high functioning autistic person). OCD, bipolar, anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder are all common misdiagnosis of autism in women because women will mask more then men.

@lulumoon6942

2 жыл бұрын

Please try to remember you deserve the love, absolutely!!! 🙏💖🌈

@jessecoates1562

2 жыл бұрын

@@d.leighannbatemon3192 Agree, 100%.

@youraveragemfdoomenjoyer5513

2 жыл бұрын

@@d.leighannbatemon3192 agreed 50% men mask more then women it’s very very not accurate men hide their feelings more it’s a well known thing

@daphneduck3294

2 жыл бұрын

@@youraveragemfdoomenjoyer5513 Masking has nothing to do with hiding the way you feel it is about mimicking others and the way they operate and communicate to seem 'normal' or neurologically typical and women with autism are masters at this and that's why many of them do not get diagnosed it's really hard to recognize in women because not enough research has been done in the way it effects women specifically and yes masking is another reason why it's harder to get diagnosed

Alyssa is living with an almost identical diagnosis list to me. Anxiety, depression, ADHD, Trich, but I have bipolar instead of OCD. Alyssa, you're so blessed to have such a supportive, loving partner. Even if it may not always feel that way internally. If this man can't catch you when you fall, he'll be there to help nurse your wounds.

@aphysique

7 күн бұрын

What beautiful hair you have, .....Prayer's & blessing's for you!!

i’ve never heard someone describe dissociation so precisely. it’s something i’ve experienced my entire life, and i’ve never been able to fully define it. so thank you.

Every time I forget what love is, every time I feel like i'm alone and nobody will understand me and that love doesn't exist, I watch this video. I truly had never seen something this pure before. I love this channel, you guys taught me so much about so many things that I can't ever say thank you enough.

@Jesus_is_Lord_777

27 күн бұрын

The love of God is unconditional, as His nature is to love. We love, because He first loved us. His name is Jesus Christ and He is your Heavenly Father ❤️😊

I have a similar basket of letters in my diagnosis, and one thing I've realized by mid-life is that it's ok to be single. I've turned my focus away from people and more towards nature and animals. You don't have to give back to anyone if you're overwhelmed, just hanging out with a nice sunset is worthy as well.

@rastanot

2 жыл бұрын

For some, it may be a wise decision to be single. Many of us find it next to impossible to sustain balanced relationships - all while fighting to find a way to live with complex mental illnesses. It takes years of therapy, developing hobbies, and testing Many medications before we can start to feel well enough before we can begin to discover our own personalities.

I absolutely love and highly respect both of you after watching that. The levels of maturity, compassion and open communication you two have is shocking considering your age's. I wish others would watch this and learn how to really talk to eachother, with love and understanding. I've followed you from (almost!) the beginning and know how genuine and sincere you are, with the aim to change the world for the better, integrating everyone with love, acceptance and joy. Good luck you two, you're doing amazing things and this group really is a credit to you both. 😊❤

I totally understand, and relate to you. I have all of the same disorders that you do, and it is A LOT to deal with. Heck, having anxiety by itself is a beast to handle! You're amazing, and speaking about your experiences will help others not feel alone!