MORAL OF THE STORY....NEVER LET FAMILY BORROW MONEY

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

😂

@claudiayacumakis5047

Жыл бұрын

😂 Yes! You’re right.

@Dr.Babe__

Жыл бұрын

😂😂🤣

@johng5529

Жыл бұрын

Some of the best advice I ever got and has sadly proven to be so true, 'If you want to get rid of somebody, lend them money.'

@blazingstar9638

Жыл бұрын

@@johng5529 😂😂

My anger stems from my impatience, so imagine my anger when watching an 11 minute long video hoping to find a technique on how to not be so angry and I get through the whole video with no answers and in the last 30 seconds she says “have empathy.” OH BOY WAS THAT HELPFUL

@franciscorios7255

Ай бұрын

You should be empathic with yourself

@nikstar1313

Ай бұрын

@@franciscorios7255 Please don’t tell people what they should do

@nikstar1313

Ай бұрын

I totally agree and am with you. Saved me 10 minutes

@mrsweetkandy7673

Ай бұрын

Oh thank god you're here. I am very patient with people but very impatient when frustrated (something not working as intended, bad luck streaks, feeling like everything is rigged against me), and i have no issues with people as i have issues with anger outbursts on things not going as i wish, not people themselves so empathy is definitely not my issue. So this isn't very helpful, thanks for the info

@lisamorrissey4077

Ай бұрын

Terrible videos

I notice when people are coming out of depression they often get very angry. The best thing to do is be a good listener and let them vent. Or when they are confronting a terrible illness and grieve that loss of health. Depression and anger is all part of the acceptance process. Thank you for this awesome video, Dr. Marks.

@perfectsplit5515

4 ай бұрын

When people are depressed, they don't have the "luxury" of being angry. That is certainly the case with me. :(

@TomokoAbe_

4 ай бұрын

@@perfectsplit5515 There are different levels and types of depressive illnesses. Some become catatonic. Ativan can be used to treat that but ECT or Ketamine are also employed when standard meds do not work, especially when they refuse to eat.

@NS-xt5wv

4 ай бұрын

Are you a therapist? My therapist told me the same, and she was actually right. I’ve become extremely irritable lately and I get angry and express my anger which I have never done in my life. My anger was totally suppressed and replaced with sadness (I’d break down in tears instead of being angry) and I would avoid confrontation at all costs. Now when I started coming out of my depression, my anger became so prominent, I almost always react and go for a confrontation. It’s a very hard state to be in :(

@joyced277

3 ай бұрын

​@@NS-xt5wvI have been going through this myself for about the last 3+ months.

@arminarlerto_aijul7864

2 ай бұрын

​@@joyced277woah, same here. I've noticed my friends distancing away from me because of this, and I don't know what to do, honestly :/

I have had anger issues since a child & I’m not denying some of this. I needed this. Thank you 🙏🏽

@PraveenSriram

5 ай бұрын

All the best to you

@israelaldaba46

5 ай бұрын

hhaving anger that no Kwon knows about I said be in a angrys person shoes

@perfectsplit5515

4 ай бұрын

I have chronic anger. When I am in crisis, I feel sad. When things get better, I start feeling mad about injustices and transgressions in the past. That is when my chronic anger "kicks in". I think my negative energy, primarily in the form of my chronic anger, causes bad things to happen to me in the long run and holds me back in life. :( Trying to "cure" my chronic anger is like exercising - you have to force yourself to do it because it is not natural. It takes discipline.

@Waffles-nc6sr

4 ай бұрын

​@perfectsplit5515 anger doesn't come off naturally,something is bothering you,you need to change something.

@perfectsplit5515

3 ай бұрын

@@Waffles-nc6sr My chronic anger is rooted in my bad experiences in 1993 ROTC Field Training. The bad evaluations they gave me defined me as a person and ruined my self-esteem. After a while, I realized there were flaws in the system. I then obsessed over finding fault with the system, in order "exonerate" myself from the negative judgments they made about me. I then applied this tradition to all other areas of my life, focusing on wrong other people did to me, in order to feed my sense of grievance. Eventually it went on autopilot. Whenever I have a lot of time alone, my brain randomly conjures up some past grievance.

Hi Tracey, I'm a veterinarian who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder type II in 2020. I have found your videos extremely helpful, and I always tell people I want to be the Dr. Tracey Marks of veterinary medicine. You're a role model to me and so many others. Keep doing what you're doing! It would be such a pleasure to collaborate with you someday. Take care :)

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Hi Dr. Sum. Thanks so much and I'm glad you've found my videos helpful. Keep going with your Vet channel - people love their pets and getting information on how to help them is a huge need. My animal knowledge is limited, but a collab sounds fun.

@wearealljustclowns

Жыл бұрын

I care

@biggdd78

Жыл бұрын

Bipolar 2 as well , but not a veteran

@cleosdoc

Жыл бұрын

I’m a veterinarian too and it would be great to hear about how other veterinarians struggle w their mental health issues, some of us are struggling just to get out of bed, and work/dealing with clients is getting harder and harder to endure.

@drkatiesum

Жыл бұрын

@@karicatwatts5360 hi! Let's make 2023 a good one :)

Hate. I hate how my family mistreats me

@CaptainRScott

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@CaptainRScott

3 ай бұрын

❤

@babycakes8434

Ай бұрын

You are not alone.

@YoutubeProGuy

Ай бұрын

Same my family gets angry

@Urfav.brunette24

4 күн бұрын

Same and they dont even understand

Yes more on anger please. I am so tired of being mad at just about everything in my life. I don't want or mean to hurt the people around me but I just can not control my anger more often than not. I think my biggest problem is my total hatred for just about every other human I come in contact with and I just can't seem to shake it.

@TrulyWOW

Жыл бұрын

Same here. I feel a sense of betrayal from nearly everyone around me, especially since I feel like I invest a lot into them, and never feel like they return the favor. The general feeling I have is that people do not understand me and are ultimately selfish.

@CodyTravers_

Жыл бұрын

How do you feel about yourself?

@CaptainRScott

3 ай бұрын

❤

@Josueluvszaza

Ай бұрын

Preach brother

It’s so crazy that I came across this video because I’m actually dealing with a very similar situation to your hypothetical. My mom never paid attention to me as a child because I was responsible, and both of my siblings were needy. I helped raise my siblings and never complained. I now have growing resentment towards my mother because my emotional needs were never met, and she doesn’t even know. Time to go to therapy. Thank you for making this video!

@hienienguyen6766

6 ай бұрын

Yes emotional toxic parents are hard to deal with. I rather ignore and delete toxic people. Life is hard to deal with. The stress can be unbearable to deal with bad negative vibes

@J.Paul2023

6 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with what you describe.. Its also good to get to know yourself. Its too bad you did not have the book of John, Matthew, Luke and Mark beside you to help you find your strength.. Please know that there are many mental problems today with ELF waves mind control experiments . They can transmit all kinds of unwanted feelings that include rage that incite all kinds of wild behaviors as well as voices in some cases depending on how you're targeted.. Please look up this video for more information " Ex CIA Dr Robert Duncan and Tyrone Dew, directed energy weapons" as well as "electronic harassment". Please write to the President to take action against this. Thank-you

@PraveenSriram

5 ай бұрын

I have very toxic parents also

@tnt01

5 ай бұрын

Always put yourself first. Self love #1

@perfectsplit5515

4 ай бұрын

idrkok, you are to your siblings - what my big sister is to me. I was the "special needs child", while my sister was the one who had her act together. Back in college, I got in trouble with ROTC and my mother said to my sister, "Did you pray for your brother?" My sister resented it, because she also had problems of her own and it seemed calloused for my mother to emphasize my problems over hers. She was actually "jealous" of me because I was getting all the attention for getting in trouble!

"It's really my parents who cause the hurt." That is true for 99.9% of the issues that humans struggle with. Humans make terrible parents.

@kellyfrancis8999

9 ай бұрын

Unfortunately there’s no better substitute and if we want the human race to survive humans will continue to have children.

@dtr_DoTheRighThing

9 ай бұрын

My husband also suffered from anger because of His parents.I Dont know how to do anymore.But I believed God is going to do something.

@desireandfire

7 ай бұрын

@@dtr_DoTheRighThinggod isn't the one putting the knife in your hands

@Zectifin

7 ай бұрын

This story could not have resonated with me anymore. My parents always took my sisters side and she always got what she wanted and I had to just deal with everything and shutup, even though I rarely complained and was the "good quiet boy". The never apologized for anything and I haven't talked to them for about 12 years now.

@TheSouthIsHot

7 ай бұрын

@@Zectifin Children growing up in the same household don't have the "same" parents. I grew up with a brother 3y 8m older; a brother 1y 11m older; and a twin brother 2min older. I occasionally have to tell my twin brother, "We didn't grow up with the same parents." Parents do NOT treat all of their children the same. They might claim to love each of their children the same, but they do NOT treat them the same. I'm 54yo and my mother hasn't changed and my father didn't change before he died. Parents don't change. You are doing the right thing by freeing yourself from your parents.

You are so good at what you do. The layers of the iceberg. Wow. I want to use this in every conflict, remembering there’s always more below the surface.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

OMG Christopher thank you SO much. I appreciate this more than you know. I'm so happy to be a help. 😊❤️

Damn that example is my family in a nutshell as the first born 😡…i can confirm that deepest emotion is true.

@babyshooz

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@solegonz762

Жыл бұрын

Eldest here & can so relate "being the bigger person."

@CaptainRScott

3 ай бұрын

Ditto!

@nata9832

Ай бұрын

Show this video to your family may be it will help them understand

@YoutubeProGuy

Ай бұрын

Same is well

This is exactly what happened with me and my parents. Small situation, I blew up, I was asked to be the bigger person, got even more upset and it’s about 3 months I have no said a word to my dad. I’m still pretty upset about the situation but I’m also getting counseling for it. Was diagnosed with severe depression and uncovering things from my past made me see things I did not know was there and I fear that maybe it was more rocky than I remember. I’m getting the help but I do appreciate your perspective and knowledge in these subjects.

@CaptainRScott

3 ай бұрын

❤

This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time, thank you Dr.Marks!!

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome Daisy! 🙏🏽

This is sooo helpful. I have 6 brothers and sisters. My mom pays attention and communicates more with my two younger siblings who are struggling more in life. I told my husband that I believe it's because they are struggling more than me so she tends to keep in touch with them more. I only talk to my Mom when I call her but she frequently connects with my younger sister and brother. It hurts but it's life 🤷

@paulo0e

7 ай бұрын

Yeah. Life’s not fair

Another great video👏🏾. Anger is a smoke signal that something needs to be addressed. Many times we struggle with communicating our needs and feelings but taking small steps to be honest and assertive makes a huge difference ❤️

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Truth. Thank you! 👍🏽😊

@PraveenSriram

5 ай бұрын

It definitely is a smoke 💨 signal and can lead to a deadly fire 🔥 if not stopped

As a schizoid, trying to relearn what it means to have emotions, this has been very helpful and enlightening

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

So glad Darkfireice. 👍🏽😊

As always, Dr. Marks, you hit a home run when explaining mental health topics! I frequently send my therapy clients to your channel for more information on issues they come into counselling with. You have the ability to distill your content in an organized and relatable fashion. Anger is always better understood by looking beyond the visible surface. The iceberg illustration is a great way to help people understand that we often bury pain and hurt very deep in order to distance ourselves from our true feelings. Anger pops to the surface, but it is kept afloat by something much deeper.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much D Smith, you make some great points. And thanks for sending your clients over - I'm so glad I can be that kind of supplemental help. It takes a village right? 😊👍🏽

@perfectsplit5515

4 ай бұрын

The iceberg analogy would apply to me. When the university assistant dean told me in his office that fighting was prohibited, I instantly got furious with him. The reason was because deep down inside, "under the surface", I had put him in a category with all the negligent public school authorities in the 80s who condoned racial harassment against me by my racist peers, but would condemn me if I tried to stand up for myself. He literally said, "We don't allow any fighting at all." My interpretation was, "It is okay for other people to make racial slurs to you, but it is wrong for you to stand up for yourself."

writing on my iceberg layers of anger to a notebook and listening rain sound for a month already helped me so much, even we get help its more important to realize only person who can totally understand us is somewhere inside. thank you Dr. Marks

Nicely done. It is SO difficult to admit that you hate your parents, your child, or your partner. But it can be true. It is a cold feeling. Once you know it, you can't unring that bell. You will have to address it. So it can be easier to be angry than to deal with the reality of your feelings or the situation you are in.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Very true, Cathy. Many times, it's easier to be angry than stir up and deal with the stronger feelings.

The example is SO accurate. Parents miss this very often and I can relate.

The iceberg analogy is very helpful. Viewed this way, it is easier to trace my own anger. I think feeling stuck and helpless in a co-dependent relationship, especially when reinforced by real physical/logistical dependence like financial, transportation, or other living dependence, is a major source of frustration and anger.

@francefradetjardineslacora8114

Ай бұрын

Feeling trapped. Horrible situation. I feel tremendous anger when I carefully set out a situation and how we should proceed and my partner tramples over the plan. I feel like why bother even discussing it, I should unilaterally do the thing without consulting him instead. But then I was not brought up that way, he was. His mother has to stfu while the men decide. I was brought up in an environment where girls were as important as boys. Understanding class and cultural differences as well as urban and rural differences helps. I got the hat trick. Different class, different culture, different countries. It is a minefield and really tiring always being the one who is conciliatory. I would leave if I could but I have nobody now. I was taught that lying was bad and he lies all the time. Today about some planters he sold for half the value they are worth. We have a gardening business. If I raise a concern I get attacked and he sulks. Really lame loser, but at this stage in my life I have zero alternatives. As my hairdresser said, we have our cross to bear, some tiny, some massively heavy, and we must make the best of the shit hand life gave us. I just grit my fucking teeth and get on with it. God bless you and onwards and upwards. Don't let the bastards grind you down.

@johncassles7481

Ай бұрын

@@francefradetjardineslacora8114 Sounds like your situation is difficult as well. For what it is worth, I think it is still important that you convey your thoughts and opinions. You don't have to be offensive about it but he needs to know your thoughts. At least then your intelligence and judgement will not be taken for granted. But he needs to know that putting "all" possibilities out on the table, before making a decision, leads to better results. If you make him realize that it is not a power battle but instead a compromise, then you may have more success. Just my humble thoughts.

@francefradetjardineslacora8114

Ай бұрын

@@johncassles7481 Thanks. I always say, "What about..." I am very rules and protocols and he is much more free and easy. I hate rule breakers actually. I think they are selfish. The concept of closed and open societies is an interesting one, and I think I would be happier in a closed society, where the community is more important than the individual. I find individualism selfish and inconsiderate. I live in an open individualistic society (Spain) and the levels of selfishness here are frankly extraordinary. The cruelty to animals as a sport is a big clue. All that will affect a person raised in that culture, like it or not.

This is an exceptionally helpful explanation for anger and understand it. Thank YOU.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Jeannie, thank you! 🙏🏽

I am a parent like that who has two daughters. I make mistakes but try to be aware of it. Thanks, your work is inspiring and helpful 💜

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome. We all make parenting mistakes. The key is being aware and making changes. Keep going. 😊❤️

@abh_kultura5458

Жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you so much for your answer!!! Thank you for your hard work and wish to patiently help thousands of people with your knowledge. Our parents didn't have such opportunity to have so much informations about parenting but we shouldn't repeat their mistakes. There is always space to grow and be better 🙏🏼

@CaptainRScott

3 ай бұрын

❤

I’m listening to your book on Audible right now and it’s trippy to pause it to watch a new upload 😆😳

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

LOL! I'll bet it is. Kind of like a 3D experience of me 😂

@Shannon_Vlogs

Жыл бұрын

You are always in sooo many awesome people’s comment sections!

@sarahdunster1643

3 ай бұрын

🎉😂😢

@luhprada

2 ай бұрын

why do i see you everywhere my man😭just saw u in diegointhedark comments

it's so hard to stop the cycle. Because anger is such a trigger response that it moves through you before you fully realize it. But it is our responsibility to be aware of it and know how to put ourself away from a situation

I needed this, Dr. Tracey. You hit on almost EVERY feeling I have had for many, many, many years. 😭🤬😭

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Oh awesome. I'm so glad this spoke to you. 😊❤️

Thank you Dr. Tracey, this resonates with me. Im constantly angry, against people, the world and myself. I came to realize that anger is inward trauma and the slightest of things will trigger it, upsetting me and shutting things and people out for the entire day. Its not healthy and to this point I dont even know how to deal with it. But thanks for the video!!

I recognize this temperament! Many of my family members were smoldering ready to and did erupt into rage that was way out of proportion to the existing environment. As you can imagine this is frightening for a child. After a while I realized the tantrums were going to exist no matter what "wrong" choice I made. Even to this day I hear those specific family members hint about how I "don't come around much"... in the beginning I attempted to address this subject... this has motivated me to put my energy and resources into boundaries with relationship that are reciprocal and balanced!

Dr. Marks this video has uploaded in a time that an incident of anger made me lose my job and you helped me realise that the problem was deeper than I thought. I watched many of your videos so far and I want to express my gratitude for your clear and concise way to present mental health issues to a broader audience. I would be happy to watch more videos about generalized anxiety disorder and anger issues.

The struggle of being the self-sufficient child is something that I've always dealt with on a subconscious level and this video helps me feel seen; thank you!

Wow! Your hypothetical scenario is so relatable in its entirety!

Unbelievable how accurate this analysis is.... I can totally relate with it btw

Dr. T, you certainly know how to bring clarity to these issues. Thanks!

Dr.Tracey is awesome and so knowledgeable ❤

Thank you for posting this. Just what I needed right now, and I will certainly look up your other programs on anger. I also have seen and highly appreciate many of your other topics.

Thank you for these insights Dr. Marks! Your videos always seem to pop up with just what I need to hear when I most need to hear it!

I really appreciate your non bullshit attitude and you get straight to the point . Thank you

I live in Canada, and am grateful to have you featured on Cinematherapy, which is how i started watching your channel. It is greatly helpful considering I was diagnosed with anxiety after having a stroke at the age of 13 years old, from a medical condition from birth. Thank you Dr. Marks.

You have a very special style to reach out and explain to your audience that makes you an amazing professional You talk slowly enough so everybody has a moment to think and comprehend what you are saying and I thank you for that

Dr. Marks, I just want to say that I have been following and enjoying your content for a few years and I want you to know what a difference you are making for so many people! You are wonderful and I so appreciate the videos you make available to us! Thanks for everything!

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you. I really appreciate having you around for years. Thanks for letting me know! 😊❤️

@amug3536

Жыл бұрын

I agree...she is TOO GOOD

Many times KZread make suggestion we don't want. YT made your videos as a suggestion. I am glad it did. Thank you for giving great thoughts to help me and others in mental health journey. Thanks Dr Marks

This is all very true, and very helpful. It's unfortunate that often very angry people will not feel comfortable opening up about these feelings except to those they trust very deeply.

I had a situation where, I was about to go to bed and heard banging on my door, when I answered the door it was the neighbor that parks next to me in the building's parking lot, aggressively demanding me to move my car or he'll have me arrested. Fearing that he would do something to me or my car I moved it, but because I was still feeling angry and wanted this guy to stay away from me, I called the police and when the police officers arrived, I told them what happened to the best of my ability and explained that I'm Autistic, when I struggled to communicate clearly. The police officers were very helpful, when they saw how faded the parking lot lines were, they helped me improve how my car was parked, reassured me that being in an escalating conflict is a legitimate reason to call the police and told me that if something like this happens again I can call them again.

I Know U Get This All The Time But Your Videos Really Really Help Me In Tough Times. U Have Saved My Life Thank U. U Deserve Everything

I am a learner from Hong Kong. Highly appreaciate your great mission and knowledge, Dr. Tracey Marks!!

Dude. This is the perfect example of TOXIC POSITIVITY. great video , but this is exactly how positivity hurts people and I hate it. The parents and the women that borrowed the money I’m story just gaslighted the main character like it’s not even a big deal that money , a lot of money, was borrowed . Thank for the video. We need more videos on toxic positivity lol

Best video you have ever made.... will share with my first year social service worker students next week!!!

Thanks Dr. Marks for your very detailed explanation of this topic. You are awesome!

Thank you for the patient explanation Dr. Marks. Helpful.

This is SO GREAT!!! I frequently suggest to my clients that they try to get behind the anger and figure out what hurt or fear is at the root... but this explains that so clearly! Really awesome as always 🙂

Hi Dr. Tracey. I think you wash her off from you in the best way . She will never change ❤.

This is pure gold!

My anger is very suppressed . My mind races with anger constantly but I am considered be be happy and mild mannered by those around me. My head sometimes feel like it's going to explode. Also, I think having ADD makes its even worse.

Thank you for taking the time to make this video and sharing it.

Hi Dr. Marks, I came across this video again having forgotten I've already watched it. It is still helpful the second time around.

Really amazing depth-oriented analysis done in Dr. TM’s pithy style. Bravo! 👍❤️

Very thoughtful presentation, great job. We all have inner child.

Thank you yet again. I mean it. Your videos have helped me more than you can imagine.

Thank you for sharing this technique. I just shared this technique with my Anger Management class this morning. You have a new subscriber. :)

Your videos have really helped me today. Just came off a night of alcohol and drug use 2 days ago and these last few days I have been feeling and thinking the worst imaginable things and your videos really gave me relief from the fear/anger I’ve been experiencing,thank you!

Through self awareness I call it getting down to base level but this is a great explanation as well

Thank you for sharing your wisdom especially during these (rough) holidays

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Sole I really appreciate you. I hope you stayed strong during the holidays. 😊

This is awesome and helped me so much!

Dr Marks ive watched quite a few of your videos but this was was especially good. Thankyou for making it. I really appreciate them

Love the VOICES, made it even more REAL.

Hi and thank you for all your helpful videos 🥰 you’ve just described my family’s dynamics.

Dr Tracey Mark you are very great. I enjoy watching your videos

Doctor I really appreciate your videos , they help me tremendously.

Thanks so much for sharing your expertise and educational advice ❤

Im from Poland, I don’t have degree in psychology, However I love to watch yours videos also some documentaries on yout. To learn more and more about human behaviour and brain. Please keep doing what you doing, Believe me - many ppl need your help, And many ppl need to learn the content of your videos - to better understand their own thinking process and behaviour- Thank you Betty 😀❤️

I have researched and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helps to reduce anxiety and depression . I would love to try magic mushrooms but I can't easily get some , Is there any realiable source I can purchase one

@italianburger1290

Жыл бұрын

I am feeling the same way too, I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be part of this community.

@samsonmicheal8817

Жыл бұрын

@Beata Pisano Does he ship?

@amandaleonice1657

Жыл бұрын

Tripping is not all that bad but one has to find a good mycologist to teach you the right things you need to know

@jessicascott5555

Жыл бұрын

Came across the comments about dr.hansen_ and I must say he's a genuis.

@italianburger1290

Жыл бұрын

@@samsonmicheal8817 Reach out to him, he will give you the best satisfactory responses...

You, you, you're good you! You've got a gift. I feel more rational just watching you talk.

@DeanBurnettJr.

Жыл бұрын

Try to scam the angry? you should probably try to scam the happy videos.

This content is absolutely amazing ❤️

Thank you for sharing, really helpful.

Thank you! ...Very powerful...Will recommend to my husband. Hopefully this will help my husband who really needs to see this. so we can have meaningful & truthful conversations.

Your videos are always helpful and I often share them with others.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad they're helpful Kitten. Thanks for sharing them. 🙏🏽😊

This some really amazing, cathargic analysis. The method of insight really helped. Thanks a lot.

I love this lady ❤ helping me lots over the years. Thank you 🙏

Thank you so much for all these videos, I’m sure I speak for more than just myself when I say how much they help

@amug3536

Жыл бұрын

Yes

thank you for the Iceberg analogy. It was very helpful!

I'm so thankful for you videos, thank you so much.

Thank you so much for this! I've been watching anything I can to help with my anger issues and I've been trying out different approaches as well. This technique really worked for me, and I can say with confidence that I'm a better human being than I was yesterday. The ice berg of anger concept was incredibly helpful, and talking it out with myself has made a significant difference. Just a couple of days ago, something that would have made me lose it had little effect on me. I can't express enough how grateful I am that you took the time to make this video. I've spent hours watching self-help content on KZread, trying to gain control over this problem. If the example you used was real, I'm truly sorry for what you went through. Thank you again for this valuable resource.

@MaryAnn-mn9vw

5 ай бұрын

As a second child I was raised to always understand my sister because my mother said ....I can understand better....many instances that as a younger one and understand better I always have to be the one who would give way etc....now I have to admit that I have issues with anger....my mother said you are the only one who keeps yelling and shouting but your sisters aren't....without her realizing that it was because she made me feel that I am self sufficient yet deprived of her emphaty......😢😢😢

@MaryAnn-mn9vw

5 ай бұрын

The saddest part is it also affects my relationship with my husband and son.....😢😢😢

I appreciate this scenario, with the subject Admitting that they hate their family, AND that they cover it up or try to dismiss themselves because they're afraid their family will find out. I feel that there's usually emphasis on people discovering the "real" result being that the person begins with hate and then moves on to realizing that the hateful feeling is irrational, or a front for something else. It happens. But it's frustrating and counter-productive ignoring when you really feel hate and have a reason for it, but ignore it because hate is so often brushed off as irrational no matter what. More often, it seems like this idea is forced onto people who already suppress their hate, and it's just really hurtful and unfair

Thank you so much for creating this video. Before you made it I was ridiculously angry at everyone and was driving aggressively which could’ve at worst got me arrested and in the county jail if apprehended. I am a whole lot calmer now watching this video but I rather not talk here about what triggered my anger and my life in general. My father and I both have very tough lives and my father has it much worse than I do since he bottles his anger in but is miraculously still alive at age 71 with lung 🫁 cancer.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome Praveen. You definitely don’t want to end up in jail and sadly that’s what happens to some people with explosive anger. All the best to you and your dad. 🙏🏽❤️

@PraveenSriram

5 ай бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks still a little bit angry but much calmer now

Wow, you have just educated me in my 80 yrs of wondering why I was always the forgotten child and my sibling was always in trouble with drugs etc n he was treated as the good loving child. I was always there when my parents needed me till their deaths but never ever felt loved. It still saddens me till today. I will never get to address my feelings with my parents and I still feel the hurt! Sad but I do have a very loving hubby of 66 years that helps me through the times I get the sad feeling when triggered by a memory from my past. 2 loving kids - n 2 wonderful grandkids make life perfect. Thanks for helping me understand a bit of my unanswered questions.

You my lady are the best! Thx as always..

This is excellent!! I went thro something like this a long time ago. My biggest problem, like you said was i did loath them, my situation was very different. But a dying friend helped me to understand what was really going on. I had to get away from them. I had this idea that no matter how bad the things my mother did to me, she is still my mom. I know im not explaining this right but, comes down to it. My anger was from all the things they did to me, and there was nothing I could do about it. I wasn't in the wrong, just sick of being pushed aside, anyway to make a long story short, i had so much anger for so long, still do but not to the extent as b4, I realized many things i needed to see about myself, how i was allowing it to happen. Ive accepted the truth about myself and them, and stay far away now. I am now even this minute, still working on dealing with the things that were done to me. I have groups I follow, friends I talk to and i am getting better at not being angry. Im better at being angry with people who have nothing to do with it. Over all im better, but I had to face some very ugly truths. Thankyou Mrs Marks, you really have the best advice one can get, without an office visit. :) I do hope people can face what we fear most, for me it was abandonment.

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

Oh Lynn Marie, I'm glad you've been able to work through that anger and hurt. It will be a work in progress, but you're well on your way to healing. Thanks for sharing your story. 😀❤️

@amug3536

Жыл бұрын

I pray for peace and comfort from Jesus Christ....may your heart br soothed and healed and strengthened ... May you someday forgive the people who hurt you and lighten and clear your own heart for your own good..... I read many time you are getting better ... I cheer for you 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

Awesome information 🙏🏼❤️

Excellent video 🙌🏼🙌🏼

I love your advice on anger. This is an informative video

I’m glad I found you 😭🤚🏼 This angry me is not meeee at all. Me no want it

My dangerous anger, usually starts in-between mood changes, feels like heavy anxiety usually heading for depression and hate.

Amazingly helpful video

I would love this lady to be around when i get angry. I would love to hurt people when i'm mad.

Gosh this was really good thank you!

Thank you Dr. Marks!!!!!!!!! ❤️ 💙

That hypothetical anger story mad my heart beat race and made me pace around my livingroom😂

This is useful information Thank You. 😊

Great explanation and example!Thankyou!

@DrTraceyMarks

Жыл бұрын

You are welcome! 😊

Happy Holidays Dr. Marks