All or Nothing Thinking Perfectionism and Our View of God
Is "All or Nothing" thinking impacting your journey? In today's broadcast, I want to address some questions about perfectionism and show you how the "just right, but never enough" mindset can drive us into black and white, otherwise known as "all or nothing" thinking. As we begin to discern the distortions of these mindsets, it can helps us walk away from the torment and pressure of perfectionism. It can allow us to heal how we relate to God, ourselves and what we are going through.
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Mark please don’t ever stop making videos! They are changing lives. You are called to do what you do! God bless you brother from another mother 😄
@JedStevens1234
Жыл бұрын
Amen !
@_cr8ive_
6 ай бұрын
Amen 👋🏻😑
As a non-denominational biblical Christian who suffers from ADHD, GAD, and OCD, this helps a lot. 🙏🏻✝️💙
@SyoDraws
Жыл бұрын
May God help you in all of your work. May the joy of the Lord be your strength
@teamTERF
11 ай бұрын
Same
@abiolaogunrinde5747
3 ай бұрын
I'm struggling to understand, how did you become a Christian? Did you have OCD before you became a Christian? I ask because I feel like I've been on this journey of faith and I feel like my OCD/anxiety (undiagnosed) have prevented me from embracing the gospel (if that makes sense)? So I wonder, if people are afraid of God and stuff, how can they become Christian? I hope that that makes sense..
@adorjangangel1557
2 ай бұрын
@@abiolaogunrinde5747 I understand you. I had OCD before getting Christian. Actually I wanted to be a Christian but "I did not dare to make the decision" because of my OCD. I listened to a lot of grace-centered teaching, started to attend to a church with healthy teaching, participated in therapy with psychologyst as well. And then last year at age 30 I made the decision. What I want to tell you, yes, sometimes it takes a journey as well (at least in my case it took) to get to the point in our life to take that decision. Keep going on the journey, I will pray for you!
After weeks being in pain leading up to this man this is the hardest thing faced so far in life facing perfectionism, kept forgetting about it it's like I been trapped in my mind with such heavy focus on near perfect movie scenes like it needed to rehearse everything over and over and over again till it gets it right but was never enough. Defiantly been stumping my walk with Jesus...this is gonna be a long journey.
@margaretgrosskreuz8687
Жыл бұрын
Starlen. At least you are on the journey. A lot of unlearning and relearning. I am grateful for Mark. I am very new to this channel and am benefitting already. Take good care of YOU
@Nicky-ez3ln
Жыл бұрын
God bless you both!❤
@SyoDraws
Жыл бұрын
May God help you in your journey
This is EXCELLENT. Gotta listen to this about 5 more times lol…
I'll try again . I imagine the neuro surgeon Dr Ben Carson, would fit Marks idea of a perfectionist who is at peace with himself and his work . He has a very soothing manner when he talks on stage or is being interviewed. This is the man who's testimony begins with his childhood, and the anger within him that got him into lots of fights . One in particular, nearly ended with him ending up as a murderer , but for the Grace of God . A great video Mark again on perfectionism , and the all or nothing mentality and black and white thinking . I experience them both . And having yesterday , got involved in a situation I had no right to be in , I am now going through the consequences of my blind rage that could have got me into alot of trouble. The consequences being , guilt , shame , embarrassment, fear and 'beating myself up' . God help me . May the peace of God guard my heart and mind through the lord Jesus Christ, Amen .🆓✝️🇬🇧
@Nicky-ez3ln
Жыл бұрын
God bless
Another great video. God bless you my brother.
Whoa. That message about God giving US the responsibility to help others and meet their needs... Very useful in dealing with the problem of evil. May God help us to work out of love and not fear.
Thank you Mark i love the way your approch of GOD ALMIGHTY❤
Mark Dejesus!!! You are a wonder! It’s amazing how God uses you!!! This was sooooooo goooddddd!!! I have yet watched a video of yours that has not changed my life. Thank you. God bless you ❤
Am looking forward to watching this asap. May the lord bless ya bud .
It’s literally like you’re reading my mind. 🤯🤯🤯 so glad I found your channel.
I think that the insatisfaction that comes from wanting to be more or earning more is not a bad in itself!
God seems to have placed your insights into my life when I needed them most. Thank you Mark for all the hard work sir.
Blaming things on God , Him allowing things , being passive etc was so true.
Thank you Mark!!!
Wow…this is soooo goood!!
This is SO, SO, SO good and needed right now!!! Thank you!!!
This video has blessed me tremendously! 😍 The message is so accurate and addresses the heart of my issues as one who is healing from OCD and perfectionism. God bless Ps Mark!🙏
You have no idea what a blessing you are, God is really using you in an amazing way. I have had a rough time in my life, brought up pretty strict and so on. I have ordered an Audiobook. Thank you and my God bless you
Thank you again..I am so in need of Grace for all of this
Mark thank you . i was taught that if i speak it into existence it would come to pass just the way i spoke it.
Mark, god has blessed you with deep wisdom on mental health; I hope to have the honor to get to meet you in person someday! It would be so good for you to guest speak at Watermark church in Dallas at Re:generation
Yesss 🙌 brother thank you for this message!!!!! I needed this! Thank you Lord 🔥❤️🔥🙏🙌🔥❤️
Good job
I am really grateful for these videos ,, thank you ,, God is using you and I am very grateful for that. Thank you Lord
I find myself often thinking the same way as the comments you address. I’m curious about the avenue you took to address them - I never thought about this as perfectionism, but more as a faulty view of God and lack of love. I know that’s where perfectionism stems from, but I would have expected a slightly different response.
After i watched it for the 2nd time, i deleted my comment cause i realized i said things cause i was feeling emotional and scared. Now for the 2nd time i understood more and im sure if i come back one day to watch it for the 3rd time i will understand more :)
Yes there is disappointment in my life and I'm the cause of most of it in my life.
its confusing to me when God's sanctification process IS pressure, that's the point...learning how to be pressurized, I guess, is the work.
Hey Pastor Mark, whats the best way to accept being in a culture in Japan, by giving myself the realization that i dont fit in a normal economy bubble, and being obsessed with math and brain games. I keep thinking ill get a job... ❤Thank you for all your teaching.
I have too many problems and very little time to fix them.
Bonjour avez-vous des vidéos en français ou sous- titré en français? Merci 🙏
We get angry on the highway because slow people are afraid to drive and won't get out of the way.
All or nothing with regards to forgiveness of someone who hurt you deeply all your life? In my case a parent who never admits to the hurt they have caused- how do I reaĺy find total forgiveness in my heart ? I want to forgive bur have an element of unwillingness to forgive as the pain is so raw and overwhelming and I'm suffering from severe anxiety and depression so I feel disconnected ... Where do I begin to deal with this jn a real and positive way?
"You can't sit on the fence" you must pick one side mentality... Or you will fall. Oh or "picking no side is still being on the devil's side." is another good one.
@glendagajsek-shears3890
Жыл бұрын
I get the "pressure" on how we expect God to do something when "allowing" things but then we are told to we are the one's to stop the evil.
@glendagajsek-shears3890
Жыл бұрын
What if you have gone to the other end of the scale that I do no do anything and that God does everything (through us). It can only happen if He wills it.
I am the BLOCK in this connection with God. I believe my heart has been hardened since many years ago. Nothing makes sense to me because there is nothing tangible. I understand anger and sadness, joy that is fleeting most of the time. I listen and get frustrated.
@CharlieBass5
Жыл бұрын
@Olia Krist Can't afford to, God's not finished with me yet.
@CharlieBass5
Жыл бұрын
Just having a hard time getting my head around all this.
@CharlieBass5
Жыл бұрын
@Olia Krist Thank you,I needed that.
@CharlieBass5
Жыл бұрын
@@JMRabil675 My saving grace is that fact that I'm not in prison or a vegetable. I've had the chance to see God's work in my life. I wanted to got to Vietnam in 1972 when I was 17. Being from North Carolina and in Job Corp in Oregon I needed my grandparents consent. They like myself knew I needed something like the military to maybe straighten me out. They signed the the paperwork, mailed it, and it gets lost in the mail just before my departure date. There are more situations like this, too many for this venue. This was my only time being mad at God because I needed to be fixed. He has frustrated me and even more when so when I hear DeJesues say God wants relationship. I understand there are no quick fixes, I just don't know how to make the transition. I have come to believe that we get to still be here because we're going to get to where we're supposed to and we haven't made the grave mistake of going in the wrong direction. I got here because I realized I didn't know how to get to my heart, basically trying to understand how to love God with all my heart.
@Nicky-ez3ln
Жыл бұрын
wow beautifully said
Diligent "hurrying up and get into rest" I would see that in people but not much in my self. I would rush through some things or just also take my time. But also struggle with procrastination. I like rest 🙂
@glendagajsek-shears3890
Жыл бұрын
If I can't keep the Law then I'm under grace?
@glendagajsek-shears3890
Жыл бұрын
Or "YOU need to change your heart or attitude!" For or towards God? And accept Christ into your heart.
@glendagajsek-shears3890
Жыл бұрын
I would get mad at getting interrupted because of getting distracted easily and not get something finished... Or I would use something as an excuse so I wouldn't finish 😔
@glendagajsek-shears3890
Жыл бұрын
Yeah I do notice when I would get mad about something and start doing things... Or just breaking down and cry.
What's the middle ground of "clean or dirty"? My wife tells me that I'm too particular, I see it as having the right to chose.
Is it possible for us to chat
Rom 9:21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
I just left a comment and it's been removed. I know utube has been removing a number of my comments on other channels because of my 'unpolitical correctness' . But this comment didn't warranty coming under that category . 🤔
Im completely burnt out right now...not a very pleasant experience. 🤦🏼♂️😖
Is it ok if I call you my pastor lol