I was an alcoholic for 11 years, age 20-31 and now sober 1.5 years. When I admit it and tell people I am a recovering alcoholic they dismiss it. My family especially will try to convince me I can still drink and I was never an alcoholic. Those same people also judged me for drinking too much. I was fighting this lonely battle everyday and still fighting. I thank God for pulling me out of it. I pray for those who are fighting this battle, I pray they find the help and support to fight this.🙏🏼

@dmitriponomarev8002

2 жыл бұрын

You are now a recovering alcoholic. I am one being sober for 5 years now. Stay strong and great job!

@kolinaburton2503

2 жыл бұрын

I relate to this soo much. My family told me I am not an alcoholic and that I can moderate when in my reality I cant. I go through phases of not drinking but whenever the time comes to an end I slip back into my drinking habits…Which begins to slowly affect my health, my relationships, and work/personal life. Today is my 2nd day of going sober for good.

@VanessaTorres-Veetee99

2 жыл бұрын

@@kolinaburton2503 I pray this is finally the end of drinking. I pray God sends you the support you need to help you through this time. In Jesus name.

@VanessaTorres-Veetee99

2 жыл бұрын

@@dmitriponomarev8002 Thank you. Still sober! Thank you Lord!

@lindabell1039

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I have dealt with for years. Still drinking now. Need to stop.

The problem with alcohol not to mention the deadly withdrawal is that there's a dealer 10 minutes down the road in any direction you go.

Alcohol-Cunning, Baffling, Powerful. I was in denial for decades. As a high performing alcoholic, no one else questioned my drinking. I didn’t drink from a brown paper bag while wearing a trench coat. I’m like 80% of alcoholics-right in your midst suffering from a cruel disease. Thankfully I got help and now have over 13 years of sobriety.

@Dapryor

Жыл бұрын

Congrats! I’m at 2.5 years now and watching these to scare myself like I was in early sobriety.

@sandalysandaly9543

Жыл бұрын

I don't count the days or years, I will never drink a drop of that poison ever again

@gregorycarnielutube

11 ай бұрын

The most expensive, legal and accessible poison.

@user-ic3nz7xk3n

4 ай бұрын

It's not cunning or baffling in the 2000's you moron parrot

@Takeahnase.

4 ай бұрын

Keep going! One day at a time, brother. We trudge onward!

My dad died due to alcohol. He was a successful doctor. He retired, divorced, my mom got so sick of it and he would hide bottles all around the house. He was the best dad tho. I am now suffering from that and struggling... Thank you

@senaax8255

Жыл бұрын

Marysol is makin a joke, Leah is real...

@twinb1954

7 күн бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. My eldest son is an alcoholic. He is currently sober, but it’s been heartbreaking to see him go through this!

I never hid a bottle in a brown paper bag, I never wore a faded old raincoat or lived on the street. But I was an alcoholic and I’ve been a recovering alcoholic for sixteen years. The stereotypes are alive and well.

@SuperWildsnorlax

Жыл бұрын

Shame smh.

@bangelta

Жыл бұрын

you probably destroyed the lives of those around you

@terrellsimmo.s7271

Жыл бұрын

I did

@Gigachadbateman104

Жыл бұрын

Bunch of rude low lifes in the comments

@goodvibezvideomashup

Жыл бұрын

Just for today 🙂

Your father's death was not in vain. You are doing such an amazing thing in his honour. May your message reach billions.

I 8months sober and finally starting to be aware how clearly I can see and feel life

I am an alcoholic from across the sea. An American. This hit heavily. Thank you to the speaker for your bravery in addressing this heavy subject. It is a beacon of hope for someone as lost as I. I wish you the best.

@Sharon-kr1ui

9 ай бұрын

God Bless you, I hope you are doing well. Your comment touched me.

I have been struggling with alcoholism and ptsd for nearly 30 years. Yesterday was 90 days sober for me and I have been grappling with morbid and depressing thoughts- the same thoughts that fueled my alcoholism for all of those years. I can relate to everything you said, and have empathy for your father. Thank you for making such a beautiful and eloquent video. It brought tears to my eyes and has given me some hope and acceptance. Your video helped this alcoholic stay sober today.

@tendyboiz1046

Жыл бұрын

Let's go cheering you on

@bellavictor90

Жыл бұрын

@@tendyboiz1046 idabella

@jaynesvijeo249

Жыл бұрын

also been struggling after a 13 year bout with alcohol. hope you are still doing ok. it is never a bad idea to keep trying for youself.

@Kaniac47

Жыл бұрын

@@jaynesvijeo249 thank you. I just hit 10 months sober a few days ago. Hope you are doing ok as well.

@joannelarose8198

Жыл бұрын

@@xlkarma8446 Have you tried therapy for PTSD? I understand how trauma can cause addiction.

I’m an alcoholic who in the next 3-4 weeks should be in residential detox (God willing). This video and others like it really help. Thank you

Not being able to tell anyone one I was an alcoholic. That is the one thing that kept me in my addiction, my nightmare of a cycle or alcohol and drug abuse. I felt like I couldn’t tell anyone because they would disown me. Judge me, treat me like a criminal, a deadbeat. Now I look at my past as a blessing for other people I may be able to help.

This is so true. I have struggled w alcohol and have family members who still judge me even though I’m in recovery, meanwhile, they are overweight and addicted to junk food. It doesn’t make sense.

@realmoney4045

2 жыл бұрын

😂🤔

@thespartann7925

2 жыл бұрын

You are amazing, keep it up

@Daiseehead

Жыл бұрын

Im married to an alcoholic, and my friends get frustrated because I keep “putting up with this.” They ask me how long will I allow this to happen. I’m addicted to unhealthy foods, and that is the only way I can relate to alcoholism. I don’t want this addiction, but it has definitely allowed me to have compassion for my husband, who is a wonderful man.

@vw5056

Жыл бұрын

@@Daiseehead try keto

@OnionGirlDenver

Жыл бұрын

They’re judging you for alcoholism and you’re judging them for what they eat and weigh. Seems like an equal exchange

Thank you for this. It’s so true. My heart goes out to you. My husband is the sweetest, smartest, compassionate, loyal, hard-working, high-functioning man I’ve ever known (besides my own dad), but he’s an alcoholic. He has FINALLY suffered life threatening consequences of his alcohol use that landed him in the hospital on 5/26/22. He had a Mallory-Weiss tear which caused intestinal bleeding and the vomiting of large amounts of blood. He was jaundiced on top of it, very weak, and very tired. They found out he had/has alcoholic hepatitis and possibly cirrhosis, but we won’t know for about 6 months as his liver is too inflamed to see the damage just yet. He’s done so well with withdrawal and now he’s getting physical rehab therapy to get stronger after 8 days in ICU and another week in general medical. He’s doing so well and he’s committed to abstaining from alcohol. I’m committed to abstinence as well. I wasn’t a big drinker to begin with since hangovers kill me. But I will do anything to help him. To everyone out there reading this, please be advised about how dangerous alcohol can be. It’s too easily available and it’s one of the most fatal drugs on this planet. Please be careful and learn to recognize the signs of someone with potential alcoholic liver disease so you can ask them if they need help. One of the signs I learned about (a bit too late) were my husband’s bright red palms! He tried to tell me it was from typing on his keyboard for work (he works in IT). I believed him, but I later found out it’s a sign of liver disease. Now that he’s getting medical care, his palms are no longer red. He’s 15 days without alcohol and he’s got a new outlook on life. He’s been drinking way too much for 20+ years. He’s 40 years old, but this whole crisis might’ve actually saved his life if we can get his liver to heal by removing alcohol permanently and changing our diets/increasing our activity. My condolences to anyone who’s lost a family member to alcohol. ♥️

@stevesonnier5146

Жыл бұрын

Goodness. My condolences and respect, too.

@AbbyS.Pumpkins

Жыл бұрын

@@stevesonnier5146 Thanks Steve. My hubs is 2 months without alcohol today! 🎉🥳

@David-qk7lc

Жыл бұрын

Reading this made me tear up because my Sister has been in icu for weeks and its just up to hur now to fight feel so helpless horrible disease 😢

@gabriellakelly_

Жыл бұрын

This makes me sob reading this, I know how hard this is as a daughter of an alcoholic and also an alcoholic herself. Bless his heart & body, I pray that his body strengthens and he recovers with ease and grace. Hugs n love ♥️

@AbbyS.Pumpkins

Жыл бұрын

@@David-qk7lc I’m sorry to hear about your sister. I hope she can turn it around. It really is a horrific disease. Just like someone with cancer, an alcoholic needs help. But once they’ve been treated for physical withdrawal, they’ve got to be able to stay away from it. There are a lot of good souls out there struggling with alcoholism and other addictions. The last 5 years have been extremely hard on a lot of people. I wish your sister all the best. 🙏🏼♥️

I am an alcoholic, and I'm figthing to be sober. Still haven't figured out yet. But thanks for this amazing video, it made me feel understand for a moment

I know its killing me, i can feel it, every night with randomness, every morning with a sickness. And how my body is responding to it in my mid 30's. Its not fun i can tell you that. But its such a flip side of a coin. It numbs the pain of the day during the night before but in the morning you are sick and have to re live it again. An endless cycle of sickness, suffering, anf misery.

@Kelly-fo1rj

4 ай бұрын

You're not alone. Your comment hit me hard....never ending cycle 😢

I've been sober for almost 10 years. What you said is absolutely 100% true. I wish everyone knew this.

"Have you ever stereotyped an alcoholic- me:"yes" and just now admitting I'm an alcoholic. Speaks strong.

Im drinking a beer while watching this… i know i need to change and it’s why I’m here.

@soberwasted9506

2 ай бұрын

Change for the better

I'm an alcoholic and I decided this month that I am done with it. I want to be around in the future for my kids.

@ssgtrom9739

11 ай бұрын

The hard part is after you “recover” … stay strong Steve

I am only 23 years old and I suffer with alcoholism. I swear every morning I tell myself I want to stop but at night I feel that I need it. I want to stop but it so hard because at the same time it’s the only thing that brings me happiness and relief from the outside world. I don’t understand why I need it tbh but my body demands it. It’s a constant cycle and I really wish it would stop I just don’t know how to stop it when it’s the only thing that gives me a reason to stay alive everyday as horrible as that sounds it’s true.

@Julie-ji3nj

Күн бұрын

You’re my son’s age. As a mother my heart aches for you… whatever underlying issues drive you to numb them. Please, I beg you, reach out for professional support. It’s everywhere and it probably will save your precious life. You don’t want to continue this another 20 years. I know of what I speak. From Ashburn, VA (USA), with love!

Great talk. I am an alcoholic in the UK and I am currently getting treatment. Because I don't fit the profile of a stereotypical alcoholic my partner did not believe I was addicted and thought I can just stop. I decided I needed treatment and done it anyway, I am so pleased I did. Bless your father. X

I discovered how mentally messed up I am after my relapse a year ago, I had 8 years of sobriety prior, I’m doing my best everyday

44 years of my life, my dad is slowly killing himself. I'm in tears that video I just heard, is exactly how things are, it's to the T, we have spoken to my dad given him support, he has 5 grandchildren, hopefully he'll see them grow up. But his alcohol has got the best of him. We preparing ourselves for that unexpected , not waking up in the future morning, it's breaking me down, we can't tell anyone that the cause is alcohol, we pray everyday that he will stop, his only 68 years old.

I relate to this so much, May God give us the grace to keep fighting and start Living. Amen.

I’m an alcoholic, a dad, has a family who loves me and my name is Steve. The only difference here is that I stopped *just* before I died. I was a severe drinker - 24/7, vodka straight from the bottle, food was of no interest. I love sobriety these years and one good reason I finally quit for good is that I came to understand, after my last encounter with acute alcohol withdrawals, delirium tremendous and hallucinations, that if I am ever to drink again I will die. There is no doubt in my mind. None. I touched death, I was so close to it the last time. So I continue to live a sober life. Thank you for this talk, it so easily could have been me. I’m very moved by what you said.

I needed this...thank you, I have felt alone in my struggle with alcohol. Much of society brushes it off. I have always been felt I am just too weak and insignificant to care about. I have separated myself from relationships for too long because I never wanted anyone to see my weaknesses. I need help, and need to be strong enough to take it. I think being honest with yourself is the 1st step

@Gigachadbateman104

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong

I appreciate this talk so much. I needed to hear this as an encouragement to continue advocating for my own father who is an alcoholic. I have the same story and this has renewed my commitment to keep encouraging him to seek professional/clinical help to beat this. He has so much to live for.

Amazing well done Sarah! So many are blind and quick to judge thank you for speaking out.

I watched this today which happened to be the 4 year mark of your fathers passing. RIP. Thank you for sharing.

I have a gift for writing and that talent keeps me away from trouble. It keeps my spirit high. Both my father and stepfather were drunks that didnt give two shits about their family. People dismiss alcoholism like its something harmless but it destroys everything.

Sober alcoholic here, going to write about this video for a class. For a lot of my drinking career I knew there was a problem but was far too ashamed to discuss it. Thanks for the talk!

I started drinking when I was 12, tried to quit around age 22 and couldn't. I battled the urges and giving in for 10 years until I gave my life to Jesus. Been sober ever since with not one craving. About 7 years now. All glory to God.

After 25+ years, I sought help for the 'New Year'. An online program with 12 hours a week of group and individual therapy. The women in the group are bright, talented, warm and engaging...caring souls. They come from a trauma background, family violence & abuse as children. At 57, I am the oldest in the group and I'm so glad for these ladies that they are seeking help earlier than I did. Sad that this gentleman felt he could not get help.

@NDGGUY

2 жыл бұрын

I got sober at 58. Now 2+ years. I applaud your courage. I’m rooting for you !

@jimburke3664

Жыл бұрын

Do you mind providing the name of this program? I work in a treatment facility and maybe I could refer a client to these ladies.

@stargazer1359

Жыл бұрын

@@jimburke3664 Hi Jim....Lionrock Recovery is open to all. I'm still sober ....next month it's one year. I really could only do an online recovery and this really worked out well for me. I know it has worked for others when other programs have failed. It takes several months but well worth the time.

Such a beautiful story that explains stigma in such a sad but eye opening way! I’m 1 year sober. And my journey is to stop the stigma towards alcoholism and help more people suffering survive.

I got the courage to share about my story regarding the alcoholic family who caused terrible damage in my family. It's time to speak UP!!!

Great video. 👍 I am dependent, I did 7 months sober, then drank for a month then seeked help again and am now over 1 month sober again. Sorry for your loss x

Answering your question: Yes! I have stereotyped alcoholics. And because of that, it took me some time to seek help. I'm sober since 9th of August, 2021 ♥️ Never been homeless, never fit any stereotype. Being a Brazilian woman partying was my excuse.

I couldn't get two minutes into rhis without tearing up prayer for you dad

For me, AA was absolutely useless, what worked was meditation and learning to quiet my mind, along with running and working out.

@victoroliveira2279

2 жыл бұрын

You were a problem drinker not an alcoholic, real alcoholics don't even have the strength to clean their house let alone run and work out

@sugashakeshakeshake852

2 жыл бұрын

@@victoroliveira2279 I’m a heavy drinker…my worst was 4 litres of vodka in 2 days but most binges are like 7 to 11 days drinking at least a litre of vodka each day but then I won’t drink for 6 weeks and live super healthy, exercising every day and cooking fresh balanced meals. I’ve had shocking withdrawals the days after I’ve stopped binging. Keep relapsing and cost me a lot, friendships, relationships, jobs, flats. It’s bloody depressing.

@Artman1

2 жыл бұрын

@@victoroliveira2279 You only have to drink one drink a day to start a psychological addiction. You're just playing word games.

@victoroliveira2279

2 жыл бұрын

@@sugashakeshakeshake852 It's a progressive disease don't play with it. Alcohol is a hardcore drug and withdrawing from it can kill you.

@Benyikoko

Жыл бұрын

@@sugashakeshakeshake852 yup.. that's me. I've been to rehab many times and it just doesn't work

I sought help from doctors and psychiatrists, I took medication, I went to anyone medically inclined to help. It didn’t work. It’s not a medical problem. It’s a spiritual problem. Medicine can help. But the medical community doesn’t know how to fix us. AA saved my life. It’s a spiritual disease as much as a medical one. I appreciate what she is saying.

I'm adopted by a wonderful family who drinks quite a bit but always control themselves and have never struggled with addiction. I've struggled with alcohol addiction for 16 years. A few months ago I learned of my biological father and siblings, and it turns out they all struggle with alcoholism also. There has to be a genetic aspect to alcoholism.

Both you and your dad are helping to erase the stigma of alcoholism with this talk. Know that it lands and will continue to do so.

It's hard to have compassion for the man who was abusive to my family for years. He chose alcohol over his family. I have compassion for others struggling with alcoholism but not my father. He used it as a tool to abuse us and refused treatment

I’ve been an alcoholic since I was 12. Over 23 years now. My dad died slowly over 4 years of lymphoma and the night of his funeral I drank a half a bottle of scotch that was in his liquor cabinet. I’m not saying that my dads death was solely responsible for where I am now. I’m simply saying that life can get in the way. I’m lucky I’ve got a wife who loves me and can see past my addiction.

To your question...yes. And, I am an alcoholic myself...only 24 days sober. I am now faced with treatment, DCF, etc...My dependency on alcohol was slow. Don't think it won't happen to you. I have been lucky enough to not have withdraw symptoms. My husband is a heavy drinking alcoholic with liver issues and type 1 diabetes. I know he won't get help. Even though we might lose our kids if he doesn't stop.

Thank you for sharing your story Sarah, extremely brave and I am so sorry to hear you lost your dad. I identified with so much you spoke about I sadly lost my dad August 2011 to alcohol addiction and only now am I learning to speak about it as like you it wasn’t spoken about and not to tell anyone it was a secret for years. I was also worried if I told people it was alcohol that killed him that he would be judged and stereotyped and as you say they are so much more than the disease. There needs to be so much more help for those suffering and also less judgement from society towards those suffering so they feel able to seek help. X

This is a horrible disease destroying many. These videos help me tremendously when I am at the end of my rope with my alcoholic husband. It never gets better

My mother and myself were in the fellowship thank you for your friendship and example.. I was a high functioning until I couldn’t function this disease kills ❤

So clear message. Today was the last day at a detox camp. Still I fear what if I relapse. Please pray for me.

@joannelarose8198

Жыл бұрын

👍

Condolences to you Sarah on the loss of your father. Your talk was very astute and insightful and will help many, many countless people around the world who hear it. Thank you.

The worst thing I ever heard was that "if you had any shame you'd just stop drinking". I am filled with shame, wracked with it. The lack of understanding, the idea that i somehow deserved it. That i deserved to be near death and in such a miserable state. That hurt, that wound, was worse than anything that drove me to drink in the first place.

My grand dad died to alcoholism and I know I'm going down the same path. I drink every day and I'm only 20 years old. I always wake up saying to myself I'm not gona drink today but the more awake I get its like the more I want it. And I always end up finally giving in. I wouldn't wish this on anyone and I pray that everyone here can get the help they need

@michad9286

8 ай бұрын

Try drink less in the beginning i know it may be hard for u , how much do u drink and what kind?

absolutely the most accurate presentation on alcohol that I've ever heard. I've been trying to say this my whole whole life. I'm sure to lose my life soon from drinking andI don't know a single person to share my learned knowledge with. 1) alcohol is far far more addictive than non-alcohol abusive people think 2) you are far from the person you were before after you drink. It doesn't magnify your personality. (That may be the most ridiculous assumption about alcohol). 3) you don't come come back usually... Unfortunately the alcohol tends to get you before your brain is ready to accept death. My takeaways but chances are you'll leave it rather than take it unfortunately. Truth hurts but alcohol does more.

Thank you for sharing. A really well delivered talk.

Im a recovering alcoholic at 20 and im really struggling today. My family drink wine around me at night and still get blamed for the families problems. I need to get out My family home they just love to push my buttons i can be suicidal around them i try to tell them how i feel and think but they just give out when im trying to tell them how i think and feel. Its drives me nuts. I cant change them and they cant change me and im really struggling today

@SinisterMud

Жыл бұрын

Manipulation and psychological abuse is horrible mate. Although, not easy, get out of there.... get yourself a decent living!

@Actingthemaggot69

Жыл бұрын

@@SinisterMud thanks bro yeah I’m hoping for it at the right time. As im progressing in my recovery i look at them as very sick people now. Just accepting them as flawed humans just like me and moving on with my days. Easier said than done I do love them but it could just be some type of attachment trauma from when I was a kid. Still doing alot of therapy about it and trying to work on my own demons rather than seeing someone elses

I’m the same daughter… but for (I now know) the same reasons followed his steps… I’m drunk as I write this and still don’t know how to help myself… my apologies for dropping this. I don’t dare commit myself in fear of what people will say… I don’t even know why I write this. I suffer immensely and try to hide it. FYI I’m a functioning alcoholic. But the functioning is becoming less and less… that’s all from me.

@paulking9479

Жыл бұрын

Well written 👍

An alcoholic is not seeking for acceptance but living a life that was predetermined by childhood. I love to indulge in alcohol because it eases the hardship of life itself. Maybe I forgot how to live a sober life or whether alcohol cleanses my emotions, either way we all have coping mechanisms that define how we navigate through it. My dad was an alcoholic and smoker for most of his life and he managed to clean himself up. Having a structured life does not mean the tendency to succumb to alcohol is less likely a factor. On the contrary, the more your push way the need for alcohol, the greater force it comes back. What you need is a REPLACEMENT for alcohol. Something that distracts you and puts your focus on something more productive and rewarding. I hope all the best for you!

@vw5056

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Pick up a sport or hobby. It's not that hard. People are just lazy with little will power.

Very powerful and moving.I so agree with you. Keep going.Let’s all get better at undoing alcohol harm.

I really do appreciate this video and I am very sorry for your loss. I also lost my Dad who died due to car accident by implementing his own suicide. My Dad was an amazing man and a father, son and uncle. People do drink for various reasons and in my Dad's case was a narc abuse from my mother. I saw him suffering and in pain and feeling hopeless about her personality disorder. He would drink himself to numb the pain. The words can not describe what I was experiencing as a child. The point that I would like to make is that we as a society are responsible for this stigma and needs to be fight against it. My heart goes to everyone who experienced this disorder.

I was drinking for 40 years. Still struggling to stop. But this speach opened up a new pathway, to stop this Alcoholism. New realized the its stigma and how it changed my personality from normal to a kings personality, which I never had. The malfunction of my brain functioning. Hope to stop drinking with this realization after hearing this talk. I felt, this is my story, she is talking about. I don't want to end my story, as Sarah's fathers. Thanks Sarah. God bless your mission.

@donovanvaz3289

8 ай бұрын

How have things progressed 4 months later?

Quite informative and powerful. Thanks for sharing this.

This was beautiful my dad was an alcoholic whose beat the disease and I’m currently struggling from it thank you for helping my situation feel normal ❤️

@gregorycarnielutube

11 ай бұрын

Jessica, there is no normal. I hope you’re having a good sober day. :)

Beautifully said. Thank you.

Thank you for this talk & spreading awareness.Sorry for your loss.xx

Such an amazing talk, well done Sarah x

My partner had been hiding it from me and I didn’t find out till well into our relationship that it was a problem.. I’m trying to be supportive and understand his journey a little more.. At the same time, he had all this support from his groups and both of our family’s. Yet I have nobody to helping/supporting me through this.. I needed to hear this Ted talk.

Very moving Sarah, thank you - my dad was one too, but no one ever spoke about it xx

really good way of going against the stigma, great talk

Very powerful talk about the truth. I want to help change that in my area and will. Thanks and very sorry for your loss.

Beautiful homage to Steve, Sarah. Thank you for posting.

Thankyou. What a wonderful thoughtful insightful talk. ❤

I stereotyped up until I became one. I'll never do it again.

Wonderful talk, thank you so much! The stigma is still as strong and I too find myself avoiding health care because of fears of being seen as a weak nuisance. Most people still hold this belief, myself included at times. I wonder if future generations will be able to handle this better and I am unsure how it all will end for me, a person with alcohol use disorder. I am much opener and more outspoken than your father was, all my friends and family know, but I still do not truly get my needs met or any meaningful way of help. At best, I get accepted for being broken, which is definitely more than your dad received, so the awareness is increasing, however slow and reluctant it may be. I also have enablers around me and they refuse to accept having any part in my condition, they are also not interested in family therapy, just a wall of non-help, really. So I wonder: how am I supposed to achieve sobriety this way? I really cannot, I feel.

You are the most amazing person and got so much out of this.

It's Okay to Cry...You Are a Brave Beautiful Sweet Woman. Thank You for Sharing.

Thank you. This was amazing.

My boyfriend is suffering from AUD… It’s gotten worse, and it’s harder because we’re long distance. I’ve been more easily agitated- and I haven’t been able to talk to him because he’s too drunk to text me back a lot of the time. I want to help him. I want to be a comfort to him. Thank you for this. I don’t think I’ve been the best girlfriend- I’ve been misinformed on alcoholism severely. Thank you.

@tb.bandzz5246

Жыл бұрын

as a boyfriend who was in the same situation as yours, please give it time and dont give up, he will only be able to quit when HE wants to. you cant force him. dont give up on him

@fruitgummi9084

Жыл бұрын

@@tb.bandzz5246 I was asking for a sign today because It’s been hard and I’m trying to find every reason to keep going still, and then you replied. Im gonna take this as a sign to keep going. Stranger, is there any way I can help him from here? What did you need whenever you were drunk? Do you have any advice on what I can say to him or do?

Thank you.

You are amazing this talk may have saved me x

Thank you for your story

Thank you. I needed this video.

Love this. Really spoke to me.

Hello and Thank You Sarah Drage. You are my hero. To be able to see thru the addiction and understand the shame and guilt we recovering alcoholics carry around. Your excellent comparisons to other additions which lead to illness such as smoking, overeating, controlling narcisstic behavior, mental illnesses and the list goes on. Please do add to this list! No one chooses to be an alcoholic. The question is often asked Nature or Nuture? I would like to hear others opinion. In my world most people give lip serve to"oh, its an illness" Really!!! I've never known a illness to carry such a stigma ( maybe AIDS). I am looking for understanding not forgiveness. I'm so sorry about your Father and I agree the stigma of alcoholism was the killer. How many more decades will alcoholics die from being stigmatized? Sarah, you would make a wonderful advocate for a campaign to educate the public and dissolve the discrimination and stigma related to alcoholism. I for one would gladly join you and Im sure there would be many others. Thank you for speaking out.

Thank you

I'm struggling with depression alcoholism and diabetes sucks..

Still a very beautiful and relevant ted talk Sarah. Well done ❤

I SO RELATE, I AM ONE AND I STRUGGLE DAY BY DAY.

Thank you for this thoughtful speech. God Bless and rest your Dad. My Father was an alcoholic. He was also a World War II vet. After my Sister and I saw the movie, "Saving Private Ryan, " my Sister said, "No wonder Dad drank!" He saw horrors I will never witness. He died 5 days before his 68th birthday. He had quit drinking 11 years before he died, but by that time his organs were shot. I love him immensely and miss him to this day. By the way, he also refused to get help. Why wouldn't he go to AA? He said, "I'm not like those people." I'm sure AA has people from all walks of life. Nonetheless, he couldn't bring himself to go.

I was a heavy drinker in my 30s so I suppose you could say I was an alcoholic. Then my 40s got here and I met a true alcoholic that needed a hospital to detox who was rock bottom and who is insane thinks everyone should cater to her. It's because of meeting her its very rare I drink at all. A 12 pack of beer will last me an entire month

I don’t like admitting my sister was an alcoholic I want her to be remembered as the lovely kind clean and organised person she really was.

It is informative from the affected point of view. You saw your Dad go through real stigma

Wonderful video and i thank you

I am an alcoholic Thanks for letting me feel I'm not alone

Alcohol is a a f*****g joke I’ve been been drinking since I was 16 I’m now 26 and can’t stop

I'm so sorry God rest his soul but I took away alot from your words and I thank you ❤

Also an alcoholic has a different reaction to other heavy drinkers. Some people who drink heavy are still not alcoholics and that's why they can function and carry on with their drinking. An alcoholic has an urge and a reaction to alcohol that goes way beyond the norm of much of society. So it's not the same thing for others. As it is for the alcoholic. You are a beautiful person and daughter for this btw. So gracefully and intelligently spoken. Your dad would be proud. Thanks for trying to educate people because you're spot on. It needs to be treated as a disease. Not punished as a moral judgement. Fact is that I am not a functional alcoholic. I'm a very non functional alcoholic. That's why I'm homeless too now. Still I can't seem to stop. Lost my wife. Access to my son. Well, because of the sheer distance between us. 15,000 miles. Lost my job. Everything. All gone. Yet just now I'm trying to get into rehab. I get that there are different types of alcoholics. But yeah, I did control it once. For quite a fair few years. I just lost control of it and how it affects me and yeah, I definitely cannot function when I'm drinking. So even other alcoholics judge me. Coz it sends me crazy. You'd think I could stop because of how I become when I drink more easily in fact. But it's still a huge struggle and seems impossible. I didn't always drink like this. But I do now. Fact is, it stops me feeling anxiety. Even though it always goes too far and becomes too much for me. It still helps in some way. And yet I have no other alternative to treat that anxiety. Because I can't get anti anxiety medication and even the anti depressants I found that help my anxiety they are trying to prevent me having because I also take anti psychotic medication which can cause long term negative side affects mixed with SSRIs. So yeah, I just gotta face this anxiety now. No other choice. The alcohol will be the death of me if I don't. There's stigma for all sorts of reasons in society. Stigma is a problem for many different reasons. It isn't helping. It is making things worse, that is right. It prevents people getting better. And all the while, we are told we must but denied treatment because of stigma by the very same people treating it, even. It's absurd.

The day I stopped drinking was the day I broke the spirit of alcoholism in the name of Jesus the Son of God, the King of the Universe and commanded it to be GONE. I tried literally EVERYTHING else, including AA, which I still attend. But without the power of the Son of God, I was never, ever able to heal. I feel like someone needs to hear this.

I've been saying for years that alcohol is a dangerous drug.

being alcoholic is a disease but this needs to be understood well by complete family. Family support is most needed to come out of it.But in most of the cases family plays blame games and they loose the person

I'm crying.. this is me