Al-Anon Speaker Diane S. - "Opposites Attract"

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Diane S. shares the experience, strength, and hope that she's gained through working a solid Al-Anon program. Hopefully this one will help you too!

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  • @RavingDaveOne
    @RavingDaveOne2 жыл бұрын

    Diane S. Thank you, thank you for your powerful, inspirational testimony. I'm a 70 year-old married man still wrestling with issues from a childhood with an alcoholic parent. Your gentle, heartfelt, courageous words have meant so very much today. Keep coming back... God Bless You.

  • @user-zs1eu7de9j
    @user-zs1eu7de9j4 ай бұрын

    Very strong woman. Very sad too. Loved the words that she does not want to live and feel miserable. Wow🙏

  • @JaneDoe-cl8qq
    @JaneDoe-cl8qq4 жыл бұрын

    I started listening to you and liked that you were not "asking for laughs funny" like so many speakers are. Well, you have a powerful story! Oh my God. Thank you.

  • @gilliani.4328

    @gilliani.4328

    2 жыл бұрын

    Diane S’s share made me see that at this point in life my problems aren’t so big. She’s carried herself with grace and dignity through some really tough times. I too, like that she wasn’t asking for laughs. This is the kind of shares I appreciate. Many of us don’t find our situations funny. And to outsiders (not dealing with addicts) , they wouldn’t find it funny what kinds of hell we are living in with addicts.

  • @MrNcgy
    @MrNcgy2 ай бұрын

    Thank you Diane! Very well done; honest, humble, and from the heart. After over 30 years in both AA & Al-anon, I can definitely attest to the Power of the program to change lives for the better. I was broken and bankrupt in every way when I first came in; full of all types of fear - angry, and beaten down. Emotionally immature but not knowing it. Self-centered in the extreme, but not knowing that either. I was an ego-maniac with an inferiority complex. I had tried the program many times before, always with what I thought was an open mind, but hadn't been able to let go of managing and controlling my life, others lives, and situations. I didn't know I was attempting to do this in order to feel safe. I also didn't understand that in trying to manage and control, I was only making myself more miserable. I only THOUGHT I was helping. My sponsor later quipped, "The average bus driver on main street could've done a better job at running your life!" I recall being hurt at first when he said that, but would come to see the wisdom in it. Like most people, I had to experience a lot of pain before I could commence to get well. This program requires real willingness and desperation in order to make a solid beginning. Without that, most of us won't do what it asks. Personally, I had to get to a place where I knew I was out of answers. That's a scary place to be. That fear motivated me to go back to the program with the necessary humility. I became willing to do whatever was suggested; I even became willing to ask a Higher Power for help - and although I had no idea who or what that Power was, I got it. I began to notice evidence that something was helping me. I felt more willingness to carry on with the suggestions my sponsor was giving me. I saw that I had a better outlook, and more optimism. As my sponsor and I worked through the process, I became aware of new Power flowing through me. It was explained to me that these steps are designed to do just that; help me to allow a Power greater than myself to enter in and restore me to sanity. That's exactly what was happening for me. Suddenly I began to see how fault my thinking had been. I was given the Power to forgive myself, which in turn made it much easier to forgive others. I began to actually like the person I saw in the mirror. As new Power flowed through, so did the willingness to continue through the remaining steps, and ultimately work to maintain my new relationship through service to others, spiritual growth, and honest self-appraisal. All because I was willing to take suggestions and ask a Power I didn't understand for guidance. The relationship has evolved over time, and has brought me to places I never knew existed. I'm completely convinced today that as long as I stay close to this Power, and perform It's work well, I'll continue to grow, and my life will be enriched in ways I have yet to experience.

  • @ala4235
    @ala42354 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I am experiencing letting go letting God. In Christ is the ultimate act of Grace. I am grateful for different way to think. God bless!

  • @kathyhansen6597
    @kathyhansen65973 жыл бұрын

    Also married to a alcoholic for 20 years, it is a roller coaster way of life. He is now in inpatient treatment. Hoping things will be different. It is very difficult. All we can do is take one day at a time.

  • @margieesparza3801

    @margieesparza3801

    3 жыл бұрын

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  • @tammyjensen8481

    @tammyjensen8481

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@margieesparza3801 oh h. I noon poop o

  • @helenakelly2254
    @helenakelly22542 жыл бұрын

    Your family and Al-Anon are so blessed beyond measure to have a such a wise, steadfast, and caring person in their lives, and that person is YOU. Your choice to stay married and to care for your Mom is so touching. Thank you for sharing your powerful story of how God and Al-anon has given you the lifeskills to do life. It's not easy which was so evident to me as you paused momentarily at several spots throughout your story to hold back the flood of emotion from some of the pain and suffering you've endured. I am very sorry for the losses of your daughter and Father. May God continue to grant you EACH day, as you say, to live one-DAY-at-a-time. Hang in there, Friend!!

  • @ShalishaAlston
    @ShalishaAlston2 жыл бұрын

    OMG. I'm so touched by her share.

  • @TubeZenMindfulnesschannel
    @TubeZenMindfulnesschannelАй бұрын

    Sending everyone lotsa love, health, wealth, abundance, miracle, safety, security and healing lights💖💖💖

  • @OnlyGodCanJudgeMe421
    @OnlyGodCanJudgeMe4213 ай бұрын

    Thanks for Sharing so Courageous and God Fearing❤ God will do for us what we cant do for ourselves, especially losing a child. I have been there. I lost my first born son. May God continue to Bless You and Your Family! 💞

  • @TeamNBSUnlimited
    @TeamNBSUnlimited2 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for posting this

  • @jimmyribble6332
    @jimmyribble6332 Жыл бұрын

    That was so good. So touching. I knew I was hooked till the end.. "he was Catholic!" Dad, his brother, his other brother.. all of us..Baptist! N sober!!

  • @MsChic73
    @MsChic7311 ай бұрын

    God Bless you and so glad I listened!

  • @jamiejay7633
    @jamiejay76332 жыл бұрын

    That is a powerful story. This story will stick with me for a long time.

  • @kashesan
    @kashesan4 жыл бұрын

    God bless you-I am so sorry to hear this.

  • @julesybethmedlini
    @julesybethmedlini3 жыл бұрын

    God Bless you my friend. I’m on a tough road- I’ve only been in Al-anon for three months.

  • @sarahswisher7993
    @sarahswisher79932 жыл бұрын

    I am happy to hear story tonight,

  • @pamelagrey8436
    @pamelagrey84364 ай бұрын

    Diane S., you handled serious issues with faith and grace. I'm so sorry for your losses.

  • @AliciaMarkoe
    @AliciaMarkoe Жыл бұрын

    Thank you 🦋

  • @Karenkmc1
    @Karenkmc14 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this ❤️🙏

  • @barbarag.5521
    @barbarag.5521 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you.

  • @iloveapplepie2317
    @iloveapplepie23172 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ! May your story resonates in all the right hearts. It sure resonates in mines and your strength I admire.

  • @ThePosserman
    @ThePosserman8 ай бұрын

    The message I heard was: Go to meetings Do service Keep busy. 🤷🏼‍♂️

  • @xrrrismickey
    @xrrrismickey2 жыл бұрын

    Tradition Eleven, "Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with special care the anonymity of all AA members." Oh well.

  • @victimofharassment7435
    @victimofharassment74352 жыл бұрын

    Thanks

  • @andreavasquez-german2664
    @andreavasquez-german26642 жыл бұрын

    Great talk. How do I get contact info for upcoming conference.

  • @barbklassen5835
    @barbklassen58353 жыл бұрын

    Married to acholic. I got myself and the kids away. I go to my first meeting Monday.

  • @littled3738

    @littled3738

    3 жыл бұрын

    You can do this Barb.

  • @barbklassen5835

    @barbklassen5835

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @ashleybutler86

    @ashleybutler86

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hope it went well-theres literature-the daily reading-courage to change I think it’s called-and from survival to recovery xxx the big book helps to understand where the 12 steps come...follow where your heart feels right tho...open AA meetings on yt can be very healing xxxx 🧡🧡🧡

  • @shawnandlisamason9533

    @shawnandlisamason9533

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ashleybutler86 what are open AS meeting on youtube?

  • @stewartsquires8882

    @stewartsquires8882

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@shawnandlisamason9533 AA shares are on yt-but when a friend/partner goes to a meeting it’s called an ‘open’ meeting -open to friends and family/partner x listening to AA has loads of info and inspiration for healing x (there’s slaa too open to anyone from other fellowships)xx

  • @krissynow2024
    @krissynow2024 Жыл бұрын

    So do you get a sponsor in Al-anon too?

  • @1-800-WILLIAM
    @1-800-WILLIAM Жыл бұрын

    Warning: if you have misophonia and the sound of people smacking bothers you, do not watch.

  • @anja4869
    @anja48692 жыл бұрын

    We are looking for a speakers who would like to share their recovery path on Zoom Polish meeting ( with interpreter) 🙏❤️ we do it every Sunday for a last year and we hope to go on for another year ( or more😁) any help finding speakers would be much appreciated🤗

  • @dianeibsen5994
    @dianeibsen59942 жыл бұрын

    Wow. Amazing. Really wonderful person. I was a bit confused by her reaction after her daughter passed away. I mean is this the stiff-upper-lip thing?..doesn't one need to grieve?.. not that one needs to be in sorrow for the rest of their life. I felt so sad for that devastating loss.

  • @shawnandlisamason9533
    @shawnandlisamason95333 жыл бұрын

    How do you start going to Alanon meetings when your terrified to go in person?

  • @darbygrangers8566

    @darbygrangers8566

    3 жыл бұрын

    There are online and phone speaker meetings. I also go to the subreddit sometimes.

  • @shawnandlisamason9533

    @shawnandlisamason9533

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@darbygrangers8566 what is reddit? Thank you for helping me

  • @youareindenial4413
    @youareindenial441310 ай бұрын

    ?? .. ??.. i have literally removed every alcaholic from my life. And have nothing to do with any alcaholic now. Whether it be life long relationship, or a new acquaintence.. that scenaro is over a year old now.. so my question is?? Would alanon be helpful for me?

  • @comeon_man

    @comeon_man

    9 ай бұрын

    Feel same way I’ve dropped my wife off for last time for treatment I just can’t do it anymore Feel like I’m slowly bleeding to death. Her drinking smoking staring into distance Doesn’t acknowledge she needs help… Should of left her where I found her. I’m a sucker

  • @youareindenial4413

    @youareindenial4413

    9 ай бұрын

    @@comeon_man ya. Gotta save yourself. You cant save her. Fyi.

  • @sarahswisher7993
    @sarahswisher79932 жыл бұрын

    Hi

  • @massimilianomarotta982
    @massimilianomarotta9823 жыл бұрын

    If I find them tulhis is the question goce

  • @sarahswisher7993
    @sarahswisher79932 жыл бұрын

    Need a sponsor I need a sponsor

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT Жыл бұрын

    Not kid's fault ever. Child molest ion is rampant in alcoholic families

  • @massimilianomarotta982
    @massimilianomarotta9823 жыл бұрын

    Plane wl I o

  • @nanastamales4971
    @nanastamales49712 жыл бұрын

    What did your husband do to your daughter that landed him back in prison 8 more years. You said HE DID SOMETHING TO HER? What?

  • @xrrrismickey

    @xrrrismickey

    2 жыл бұрын

    This story was the worst I've ever heard in recovery. There were holes all over the place and denial and vagueness were it's central themes.

  • @aurorah4203
    @aurorah42034 жыл бұрын

    You sound like you need some water

  • @IIIIIIIIIIIx

    @IIIIIIIIIIIx

    4 жыл бұрын

    I had to stop listening the mouth 👄 smacking was to distracting

  • @kennyking4980

    @kennyking4980

    3 жыл бұрын

    She is nervous. Get over it

  • @aurorah4203

    @aurorah4203

    3 жыл бұрын

    I'm listening to this speaker again ❤

  • @adamgrieco

    @adamgrieco

    3 жыл бұрын

    I would think you would have a thicker skin after dealing with a piss drunk alcoholic that lip-smacking is nothing the message is the precious gold

  • @tofujelly

    @tofujelly

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@adamgrieco amen

  • @EigenARtich
    @EigenARtich4 жыл бұрын

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