It was deemed "Rage Bait" on the official reddit post

@thelettera582

25 күн бұрын

Explains a lot, the post doesn't make any f*cking sense what so ever

@eloisesekikawa9952

22 күн бұрын

Makes senes. OP seems stupid 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yta your bio parents did what they thought was right they were trying to protect you not hurt you.

@Ahem-nc2nt

21 күн бұрын

They thought they were best for you Correct it by that was the best for you

yta tfff🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ the bio parents did that for OP to have a good life so why is bro mad🙄

@jdavis7613

14 күн бұрын

YES. You TA , TA, TA.....They gave you up so that you could have a good life without drug addicted parents who might neglect you. And the adoptive parents loved you as their own, even though they were not blood related. OP is AH IDIOT !!! Shame.

As someone who was actually given away to a non family member without a legal adoption, yes you are the AH. Drug addicts are sick and just like a normal illness doesn't always get better, addiction doesn't always get better either. You are lucky that your bio parents loved you enough to know that you deserved better. They could have abandoned you, hurt you or sold you. Your adoptive parents showed you nothing but the love and attention you needed and you turned your back on them for helping you? Yes, you surely needed therapy to realize how lucky you are to have had people put your best interests first.

YTA. Your bio parents thought you should have been raised in a good environment. Your adoptive parents gave you that environment.

YTA Your bio parente realized they weren't able to give you a happy childhood and decided to think at what was best for you, and your adopted parents (at least from what you wrote) were good parents. You had a good childhood thanks to your parents' sacrifices. Your bio parents did not abandoned you. They gave you to good people they felt they could trust. There are so many stories of kids whose parents abuse them, both phisically and emotionally. You are angry for no reason, and you wrote that to a site that you KNOW is anti-adoption because you want someone to validate your anger and tell you you're right. I grew up in a house with piles of trash halfway to the ceiling, bugs, and the air inside my house stank so much even clean clothes smelled. I grew up worried about money and using my first paychecks for groceries and bills. During quarantine my mom left me alone in the house, with no money, and she did it again 2 years later. Your bio parents made a hard choice, but the right one, and they are now clean. All of you parents did their best

Yta , how is exactly did the adoptive parents “let the bio parents give Op up”, were they supposed to threaten them at gun point till changed their minds

Im sorry. You have 2 people who knew that they couldnt take care of you while dealing with addiction to drugs, didnt want you to grow up that way, gave you to a couple who probably couldnt have kids, took you in, raised you and loved you unconditionally, and youre mad they kept that info from you. Im sorry, but there's a problem here with you. Yta.

They weren't selfish they were selfless

Bro they adopted you when they didn’t have to, so you are kinda Your bio parents just wanted to give you a good life

YTA my dad was both a substance and alcohol abuser. Thankfully my mom wasn't but I don't want to think of how I turned out if she was.

He's saying id rather be with abuser that are my parents than good people that aren't

@gaylenewood7707

21 күн бұрын

She wants the reason to boo hoo herself if she stayed with her addict bio parents.

Yta you have no idea how hard it is to grow up with parents who are addicted and to say you would prefer to omg shows you still have a lot of work to do ❤

"I'd rather live with substance abusing parents than adoptive parents" just shows perfectly what type of person OP is. The adoptive parents raised you in a good happy household where you'd be safe and away from danger, taking care of you, feeding you, and treating you like their own, and THIS is how you repay them? By saying a drug filled household with unfit parents who are both drug addicts is better than that?? I'm glad you cut contact with them just so they don't have to deal with that, geez.

@zoebrenowitz9108

20 күн бұрын

OP is so obviously out of touch

YTA you had two sets of parents who loved and valued you, and who were both able and willing to put your physical and emotional needs first. People with substance abuse problems can’t raise kids until they are clean it is unsafe for the kids and makes it even closer to impossible for the parents to get clean. If your parents had kept it could have ruined their psyche until they were abusive and neglecting parents, you would have ended up in and out of foster care until you had no one who loved you and put you first

yta your bio parents did what they thought was right they were trying to protect you not hurt you but what the the non bio parnets do they did nothing and how would they stop ur bio parents so u are in the wrong

YTA , you’re both set of parents are too good Your bio parents knew that they weren’t the parent and keeping you will do you disservice , just because they seem nice and kept up now doesn’t mean they were back then , They removed you out of dysfunctional environment at best and toxic or abusive at worst , not to mention they didn’t just put you into Foster care and called it a day but made an effort to find good adoptive parents for u to keep contact - Your adoptive parents as you said we’re good and caring never lied to you or demonized your bio parents See how people with addict parents live and say that you wanted a childhood like that I dare you

Yta. No one can win with you. Your birth parents gave you up to give you a chance at a better life. You don’t like that. Your adoptive parents gave you a good life. You don’t like that either. You need to rethink your position.

I have absolutely no idea what it’s like to be adopted or to live with parents who are drug addicts so I won’t act like I do but I have a friend who I was super close with who was in the foster system cus her mom was an addict and from what she has told me it was super awful for her, saying that you would WANT to live in that environment is honestly so insensitive to people who have and still do live in that environment, from what you said your adoptive parents gave you a happy and healthy life that your bio parents wouldn’t have been able to give you at that point

You are

So you’re telling me you’d rather have grown up with parents who were constantly on drugs? I don’t know what it’s like to grow up and that environment but people on substances like that are not responsible individuals. I’m going to help this is fake or you are making a very rash decision.

Ok why did I think it was going to be like the parents did something absolutely awful and that the adoptive parents were in on it I mean this was just both people looking out for a innocent baby trying to make sure it kept its happiness and it’s innocence like they were thinking about him and it hurt them that they had to do all that and he’s mad because they wanted him happy like what

Lmfao this HAS to be rage bait

So what your saying is that y rather live on the streets and possibly get addicted like them then live a happy life with a family that loves y and have a nice home to live in and as a person who's been adopted I can't wish for anything else i don't understand why y are so upset so yes y are the AH.

I think it is just teenagers being teenagers therapy doesn’t mean you are weaned give hir some time she will change teens

The parents who decided to give you up knew they were giving you a better life! Substance abusers are some of the sickest people out there! Part of their illness included not being able to hold a job meaning they couldn’t feed you or put a roof over your head, nor pay for diapers etc. They knew that because they were so into their substance abuse they could have killed you neglect! Any of their associates might have harmed you! Instead of you being forced to live like that they knew they wanted the best for you and it wasn’t them! YTA big time! Ask kids who’ve slept in abandoned buildings eating from the trash being sold for their parents’s addiction to even worse abusers! Being moved place to place with nothing to call yours! Your parents loved you so much they didn’t think about their feelings! They thought about giving you a chance at better than what they had! They refused to let you live in the depths of hell they were in! That’s true love not abandonment! They loved you so much they gave you hope and a future which they didn’t get!

What a brat

yta, you bio parents wanted what was best for your and its not helthy to grow with substance abuse parents, even if you do not realize your adoptive parents did their best racing you and protecting you

TA they did what they tought would give you the best life and your mad that they tried to give you a good life wtf

Yta your bio parents made a hard choice . They waited for you to be an adult and mature so you could understand . Clearly your just a child who is in an adult body .

yes your the ahh here your parents wanted to give you a good life

YTA

Umm yeah you are. I've never heard a story where OP was more of one. Your biological parents did what they thought was best for you which objectively was the best thing for you. Then you got mad at them and your adoptive parents? Why? They never threw you away. They gave you up so that you could have a better life. Your adoptive parents always loved you and treated you well so why in the world would you be mad at them for taking care of you?

I think your anger feels justified to you but listen to this they did it for a better you. That was the best decision they could have ever made You wanted to have stayed with them You would not have been alive right now so they saved your life by putting you out of harm's way. There are certain things that we don't look at: You could have been there somebody could have wanted you as repayment for drugs that they owed. They could have wanted to sell you when they wanted a fix and could not get it. They could have just been drugged up and pushed the needle in you and it punctured a wrong place or vital organ; and all of that, there's a myriad of things that could have happened; and, they made sure to put you clear out of harm's way; and, you're telling me you've got the nerve to be angry with your adoptive parents? Girl wake up that's being overly ungrateful, seriously ungrateful if you ask me. You're a kid that's how children act but now be grateful that your life was spared. Be grateful that you were put in a loving family. God has been watching over you so you need to go apologize to your adoptive mother. All she did was love you like you were her own child; so, yes you are very, very wrong! Go apologize to them and make up that gratitude by loving and respecting them for the rest of your life.

YTA, you would rather live with substance abusers than a loving family, and you think that they should have let a young child make important decisions, that IS unusual, go to therapy

Yta!

yth

Yta

So stupid but it’s def rage bait

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You arent an AH but I think you are acting like communication, forgiveness and reconciliation isnt a valid solution, you cant just shut people out of your life because the situation is hard.

YTA