Gurl she just said no u didn’t have to tell her whole family it doesn’t mean she doesn’t care she said she had courses so she could finish college so … YTA

@Ravenishish

27 күн бұрын

This is a not enough info to me. I can see her venting her feelings to her mother about being disappointed and that kicking off a gossip train (y'know, the only person that she actually told) the judgement would come in how reliably the gossip train kicks off at the hint of drama.

@Becky31389

27 күн бұрын

​@@Ravenishishbut she isn't the one who told the whole family, her mother was which she had no control over. Of course she was going to vent to her mother, but it's not her fault her mother told everyone else.

@Ravenishish

27 күн бұрын

@@Becky31389 I understand she only told her mother but if her mother had a habit of doing exactly what she did then she's stirring up drama while keeping her hands reasonably clean. It's the difference of whether knowing the gun is loaded or not. One is an accident, and the other is not.

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

@@Ravenishishyou don’t know if that’s what she did though. We don’t know all the finer details of the family dynamics so insinuating/assuming that is wrong and not fair. (In court terms) cause for speculation.

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

She never tell the entire family, it was a gossip train. Not fair to call her an ahole for her mother’s actions.

Yta she isnt forced to do anything for you.

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

when did she say that she tried to force her???

@HollyGaming994

27 күн бұрын

​@@xdarkalchxmxy9169she didn't drop it when cousin said no, called her up and said she was being immature while also being aware the cousin was taking extra classes to finish early

@Peoplecanhaveopinions

27 күн бұрын

@xdarkalchxmxy9169 The fact that you're replying to so many comments yet not understanding why she's ta is kinda crazy. PLEASE rewatch the video. She didn't drop it after her cousin said no either way nobody is forced to care for her child. It's not like she's harming the child but, who cares if the cousin dosent care enough about the child.

Your cousin said she didn’t have time to do the blanket. You said she still does her crafts. So what, I crochet, needlepoint, and I paint. I can tell you it’s a lot faster to do a needle point craft than it is to crochet a blanket. And if you’re making a quilt it can take months to find the fabric, cut out all the shapes, sew the together, place the backing, batting,then the top so you can quilt all pieces together. Two or three days spread over months doesn’t take a lot of time. But a crochet or quilted blanket requires a whole lot of time.

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

Why are you trying to my to invalidate OP’s feelings. She said that because it makes her feel like the niece doesn’t care about her or the baby and that’s fair. It’s not like OP kept asking using that “you still do crafts” as an excuse. Yes it does take time to make a blanket but that doesn’t mean OP can’t be sad that her niece won’t do it for her.

@roshanisah6241

26 күн бұрын

​@@xdarkalchxmxy9169 the niece is a student who have her school works to do. I too is into crafts and made multiple home decor in my lockdown school break. And when my aunty come to my place, she kept emotionally convince me to make a same decor for her daughter (my cousin) so she will bring that in her in laws house. (Well she was at a marriage able Age nothing else) For Context, what she wants to be made is a craft which took me more than a month in my holidays, which is the reason why I also got lot of scolding for wasting so much time instead of studying Lucky, she was famous for so many weird and selfish demand so no one blame me or guilt trip me . So I understand her niece's point of view.

Potentially controversial I don’t really think OP is TA necessarily I’d say it was more mom and uncle. While annoying it’s reasonable to be upset that you aren’t getting something you were expecting that had emotional value and there was nothing wrong with expressing her feelings to her mother, but that’s where things should have ended especially since they didn’t even know where the blanket was or how far along grandma got. The ahole move was involving the uncle and subsequently the entire family and it doesn’t seem like that was OP’s fault. Not to mention the entire family is being fair-weather about things. This entire situation sucks for OP and the cousin honestly

@Becky31389

27 күн бұрын

My thoughts too

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

yeah but she never said anything to the uncle, her mom did. She’s n out the a-hole here. Everyone else in the comments tho…👀

@Brightfire19

26 күн бұрын

It's okay to be upset but OP was being disrespectful towards the cousins no. OP thought the cousin shouldn't have said no, even though the cousin had valid reasons and OP isn't entitled to her work, she's TA for that. You can be upset you won't get the blanket and understand why your cousin won't do it at the same time.

@ShadowWolfKid

26 күн бұрын

@@Brightfire19That’s kind of a gray area for me. We know she was upset when the cousin said no and emotional reactions aren’t always reasonable, especially for pregnant people,but it doesn’t sound like she was rude to the cousin initially just upset which is valid. After a day or two she would have hopefully reevaluated and realized she needed to be more understanding of the cousins position. What makes it more gray for me is that by that point it seems like she had all these people validating her and while not a valid excuse for poor behavior, I can understand why having all these reaffirming voices might stop her from really considering her actions and feelings may be wrong. All of this took place in just a few days as well so that doesn’t help clear up any of the grayness.

@Brightfire19

26 күн бұрын

@@ShadowWolfKid She's an adult, though. She should make her own judgement calls about her actions, self-reflection shouldn't depend on other people. Her being upset is understandable, considering the context, but that doesn't make her not TA. I wouldn't be harsh on her, and I think the mom is in the wrong too for spreading it around, but she wasn't right for what she did.

YTA, a no was given and it was given for a good reason. She's just starting drama

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

she never started drama. Her mom was the one that told the uncle and it spread from there. Not OPs fault.

@user-tf8xx9dp8h

20 күн бұрын

@@xdarkalchxmxy9169 who said it was OPs fault??☠️

yeah this was posted already from the other perspective i think

Yta, if someone says no, don’t push and move on

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

She didn’t push, she was just annoyed that she didn’t get a blanket of emotional value. She expressed that grievance to her mom who then spread it to the family. She is not an ahole because someone else spread drama to the family.

I still don’t understand why the cousin said No. yes she is busy. We all are busy. But the grandmother already bought all the materials to make it. I don’t know if she cut it up or not. But I do understand that her time is her time. But it would be nice of her to finish the job that her grandmother started. Or give her all the material to the Pregnant Cousin. That she can find someone who is willing to put the baby blanket together. Now I don’t understand why didn’t OP asked for the materials. So she can find someone to do the job. Yes. She might have to pay someone to do it. But it will be nice to have it done. And know that your grandmother picked out the materials to do the blanket.

Honestly as someone who is into crafting, Id say no too. Something that was not made with love and care and forced to would just make the outcome dissatisfying.

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

that’s so true

I crochet and I make blankets sometimes I would say no to finishing a project someone else started because it would not look the same where I started working on it because everyone has different tension. That would make the stitches different sizes so the shape would be way off. Let alone having the pattern on hand. A sewed blanket would be a maybe if I had nothing else to do at the time. There are so many variables to take into account when finishing something someone else started.

Y yall so dumb. OP is not the ah. She just expressed her feelings. The mom and uncle are the true AH

@aphan7093

26 күн бұрын

Aye we hqve someone that understands the situation

Your relatives with the talent or resources have to like you to want to share that with you. Time won't matter if someone likes you because they will strive to meet it.

1:54 Aaaaaah

NTA. I don't think it was unreasonable to ask. And who doesn't complain to family??? I would at least try to see what i could do, but i wouldn't make promises. I'm constantly making blankets for new babies, but i have the time to do it.

I feel like the best course of action would be for OP to just ask for whatever blanket her grandma has started and just hire someone to finish it rather than expecting her cousin to do it for free. Crocheting a blanket is a lot of work. Even if her cousin is willing to do it, it would be out of obligation rather than out of her own free will. OP is being too pushy I feel.

Complaining about family to other family does not make you an AH. It was mother and uncle who took it too far. And frankly, I don't believe that the cousin actually found the blanket. I think she just said she did and said oh well. It wasn't even started by Grandma just to get out of it.

The cousin said no, and yes, you did start family drama over nothing. Besides, you aren't entitled to someone else's time when they aren't prepared to give it, especially when it sounds like it was limited time from the start. So yeah, YTA

YTA crafting needs to be inspired she is not required to finish this blanket. You had no right to start a big mess over her not wanting to complete a project started by someone else, if it was so important why didn't you finish it if you really wanted it you would have done what the rest of us learned years ago....Learn to do it yourself

Wow entitled people are so weird to listen to. You could've suggested to take the blanket in progress and bring it to a craftsman who does person projects instead you just went on and cause drama like an entitled person. Grow up world doesn't revolve around you and your baby.

Yta she told no in a polite manner and even gave u reasons why she couldn’t and u still pushed the issue, it’s not about her “not caring for u or ur baby” and I’m pretty sure she does care but she has her own life and goals and she is trying to focus on her education

YTA

YTA she has a life of her own and owes you nothing so what if you’re family. Saying no doesn’t mean she don’t care about you or your baby but stirring up trouble by involving the rest of the family like that you would now have better luck making the blanket yourself

@xdarkalchxmxy9169

27 күн бұрын

… All she did was express the grievance “I won’t get a grandma made baby blanket, and niece won’t do it either” to her mom. Her mom then spread it around the family (starting with the uncle). She never said that the niece didn’t care but that it made her feel that because of how badly she wanted a blanket.