“After the honeymoon, She packed all her bags and left on the 9th day “

#madamspeaker #christianity #divorce #christian #pastorzulu

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  • @momoftwins2848
    @momoftwins284811 ай бұрын

    Bravo to this sister...I did the same thing...saw red flags closer to the wedding day... found out after our wedding he had 3 kids with different women...I instantly became a mom to 3 kids...I was told by his uncle's to never question my husband...my mom yhooooo advised me to start taking prevention pills because once I have a child with him am trapped... when he found out I was being beaten up every day after that I needed to perform sex with him. Yhooooo guys my Dad and my big brother got enough of his narcissist nature...they came and removed me from this hell of a marriage...he demanded his lobola back...I told my parents I will return every cent of it...he ended up marrying 4 women after me before he died in a car accident...now his family are ashamed to look me in the eye...I was weak I admit it but my brother and Dad were strong for me. Did I say he was HIV before he died...yeah I would have been infected too. God thanks for rescuing me from this monster

  • @gracedrosie5127

    @gracedrosie5127

    11 ай бұрын

    its rare to hear of parents rescuing their kids. You dad and your brother are the Heroes we all need . blee their Heart

  • @tshegofatsothegreat

    @tshegofatsothegreat

    10 ай бұрын

    Your dad and brother are the best for removing you from that situation, and your mother was wise enough to suggest prevention pills because you would have really been trapped emotionally and physically to this person through the children.

  • @ScissorN

    @ScissorN

    10 ай бұрын

    You are so blessed , you have a a wise family that loves you

  • @Ladyle4ever

    @Ladyle4ever

    8 ай бұрын

    The things that God saves us from yoh.. I don't think we thank him enough sometimes. God deserves all the glory. God you're the greatest 🙌 🙏

  • @Kberry_
    @Kberry_10 ай бұрын

    I'm glad we are a generation that is stopping the nonsense that our mothers persevered for 😅

  • @ScissorN

    @ScissorN

    10 ай бұрын

    😂 the generation that will receive advices from us will have 1day marriages 😂

  • @Kberry_

    @Kberry_

    10 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @oldtimereligion1stlady447
    @oldtimereligion1stlady44711 ай бұрын

    A man that talk too much is such a turn off🤞

  • @gracedrosie5127
    @gracedrosie512711 ай бұрын

    The annointing in her voice couldn't let her stay with ungodly man. I respect her for leaving early

  • @ScissorN
    @ScissorN11 ай бұрын

    Growing up i always told myself i will marry at 40 fast forward to when i was 20 i started going to church i wasnt even dating and i was unbothered all i wanted was to have money.. but can i tell you that at 21years the only thing i wanted and i prayed constantly for was to get married and that desire was planted in me by the church . I kept wanting marriage but it never happened i ended up being bitter and angry at God .. i love God but i really wish i never went to church because my passion and dreams died and all i wanted was a God fearing man yoh .. churches must stop glorifying marriage

  • @SupriseMarima

    @SupriseMarima

    10 ай бұрын

    You and I both 😭

  • @UKAZI_Biblical_Womanhood

    @UKAZI_Biblical_Womanhood

    8 ай бұрын

    I think we shouldn’t allow such experiences to taint the beauty of marriage and what God intended for marriage. The problem is we people have ruined it.

  • @annahmotsa7182

    @annahmotsa7182

    8 ай бұрын

    Sorry dea....marriage is not for all. Every person has their own journey.. We may not know why some things dont happen as we wish.. but one day we will get to unnderstand why? Read Deuto.. 29:29. The bible says.. The reaveled things are for the children of God.. but the hidden misteries are only for God..This is why we can not question God.. why some things dont hepen tonus yet we are true followers of God..Let me share this sad bible story. John the baptist was put in jail by King Herod.. Jesus knew.. but bever bothered to go and check on him.. but intead told his disciples yhat they should tell him about the miracles he was performing.. Haw..how can the master say so.. Has he fogotten what Jkohn's mandate was.. No God knew. His time was over. The savior had come.. so John had to go back.. BUT note.. through a painful way.. He was beheaded....My cster who are we...So when things dont turn your way. Glorify God...❤❤❤

  • @JosephineJumokeFlourishHH

    @JosephineJumokeFlourishHH

    Ай бұрын

    You can have your biz and still be married. Matthew 6:33. Let God be the central point. May it be well in Jesus name . Psalm 138:8.

  • @thobekiletwala9824
    @thobekiletwala982411 ай бұрын

    I also left after 5 months of a very big wedding and never regretted my move

  • @ScissorN

    @ScissorN

    10 ай бұрын

    Please share what did you see so we can also run🥹

  • @jjproman7621

    @jjproman7621

    9 ай бұрын

    I believe earlier is better than later. there is no need to wait for more damage run while you can

  • @marisadanielle
    @marisadanielle11 ай бұрын

    Good for her. She was smart. Man I wish I would've left 9 days in. It would've saved me 15 years of being called a b. I always thought things would get better but things actually got worse. Now I'm waiting for my divorce to be finalized.... hallelujah!😊

  • @Letmetalknow

    @Letmetalknow

    11 ай бұрын

    Hallelujah gal, happy for you ❤

  • @hlengiwemasondo2858

    @hlengiwemasondo2858

    11 ай бұрын

    Girl I wish we can speak privately because I would appreciate your advice

  • @xoliswangobese5743

    @xoliswangobese5743

    11 ай бұрын

    I am so sorry sister

  • @dumazilesithole521

    @dumazilesithole521

    11 ай бұрын

  • @ExplorersSA

    @ExplorersSA

    11 ай бұрын

    😭😭😭😭😭

  • @Prism446
    @Prism44611 ай бұрын

    I cut off the relationship 4weeks before our big day .I honestly saw a lot of red flags & I knew family wouldn't allow me so I decided m leaving will come back after the set date.I don't regret that decision at all .16yrs later I don't regret a thing .

  • @Hannah-jk3dk

    @Hannah-jk3dk

    11 ай бұрын

    Are you married now. Just asking but if you feel it's confidential it's okey

  • @victoriasomtyato4400

    @victoriasomtyato4400

    10 ай бұрын

    Big up to you sis!

  • @ntomboxolongxwashula548
    @ntomboxolongxwashula54811 ай бұрын

    This guy!!!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩 glad this lady left!! She’s our president I wish to hear her speak one day! Yimbokotho

  • @GodsFavourite2024
    @GodsFavourite202411 ай бұрын

    As I keep saying, I love this generation of women. They are not repainting any red flags anymore

  • @beautyineverything7273
    @beautyineverything727310 ай бұрын

    He's a narcissist, he still can't believe that she left him. He thinks hes a king. We are 100 percent behind Nomthi❤

  • @Ngunikaz

    @Ngunikaz

    10 ай бұрын

    And he had the cars…other businesses…but it’s house to let. Narcissist of note…materialistic

  • @robbylebotha

    @robbylebotha

    Ай бұрын

    So women who think they are queens are also narcissist? 😂 Thank you for this tip, I'm dating for marriage and all I meet is women who say they are queens and want princess treatment. I always feel like it's a red flag, now you've shown me that it is

  • @nonkululekosibeko3646
    @nonkululekosibeko364610 ай бұрын

    "by December I want twins" this is a demand by someone who "bought" a woman for R60000, not a conversation between lovers. Nomthandazo even if you left 9hours into the marriage, I'd still support you my sister. I don't know why this man is not in a mental institution

  • @user-fi7lp4sc7i
    @user-fi7lp4sc7i11 ай бұрын

    On a wedding day nothing came out of this man expressing his love for Nomthandazo. We are hearing him priding himself on favours he is doing for Nomthandazo by marrying her. Telling her to kneel down as a sign of submission it's also a red flag. You are a Shero gal. Multiply wherever you are. We love you❤

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    She was already a Queen. She didn’t need to be crowned 🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @zikhomkalipi8315

    @zikhomkalipi8315

    10 ай бұрын

    “Let us kneel before the Lord our Maker” not before humans, the way he was doing it it’s as if he is her God. Yhuu this guy uyazitshela shame

  • @makelanakhanyisa427

    @makelanakhanyisa427

    4 ай бұрын

    I have him on my Facebook and I have always suspected that he is the problem. It's unfortunate that he's now victim is a 2k, I wonder how far they are going to go. He apparently met her last year September and December he married her....I really feel sorry for that poor girl. He gives me bad vibes, he makes live videos with the little girl saying that he wants 7 kids name twins aba fana blah blah🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

  • @leezmom1795
    @leezmom179511 ай бұрын

    Good girl thina we stayed sabekezela and waisted all our youth days.

  • @disebomatakalatse3845
    @disebomatakalatse384511 ай бұрын

    There's a trend of pastors, marrying girls who they call "the face of the church" they sleep around with the one they love, but choose the beautiful to boost their statuses and they can't give them appropriate love attention.

  • @xolisilebuthelezi554
    @xolisilebuthelezi55411 ай бұрын

    I'm making you a Queen 👸 = Red Flag 🚩 narcissistic tendency

  • @mapitsimonyela1416
    @mapitsimonyela141611 ай бұрын

    I respect her for loving herself!

  • @shalomthembydonga1748
    @shalomthembydonga174811 ай бұрын

    It's the vows for me😭😭😭😭 I would have walked out the moment he said in front of the people who wanted me.... Kneel as a sign of humbleness 🙆🏾‍♀️ my goodness... Gloat and narcissistic

  • @siyabongamahaye3946

    @siyabongamahaye3946

    9 ай бұрын

    those vows are creepy...then he says he paid for her 😂...he is mental bandla. There could be some truth in her being shady but he is also too aggressive.

  • @kefilwebonokoane7682
    @kefilwebonokoane768211 ай бұрын

    He's a walking red flag😅

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    He’s red everywhere 🤣🤣😩😩

  • @mabelmadoka7848
    @mabelmadoka784811 ай бұрын

    For him to even demand not just a baby,but to even specify ukhuti I want twins!,haiboo! God is the one who blesses people with children haaiii!

  • @robbylebotha

    @robbylebotha

    Ай бұрын

    Haaibo, my wife says she wants a baby now and she wants girl twins.. The audacity. Thank you for showing me this isba red flag

  • @Prophetmalachi.LMmessenger2412
    @Prophetmalachi.LMmessenger241211 ай бұрын

    I see arrogance,I see unbeliever speaking,I see hypocrite,I see someone deep in men's tradition,He can be PK, BUT honestly he is not save, the world still is in him. The mess is just too much in the body of Christ from the so called Christians but they are not

  • @muppmu9980
    @muppmu998011 ай бұрын

    Simply put. This man is extremely imature. I doubt there's a drop of wisdom within this guy. She left because she realised she married a child. Even his conversations are childish.

  • @tiisetsomoagi2682

    @tiisetsomoagi2682

    11 ай бұрын

    💯

  • @MaNcube3
    @MaNcube311 ай бұрын

    He can talk openly about everything his ex-wife did except the concerns that she raised at the family meeting. This speaks volumes. He is hiding the real reason Nomthandazo left him. I salute Nomthandazo for leaving early before she got cut deep by this man

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    I just saw a comment on tiktok that allegedly she found him with another man 😮😮

  • @PhindieVicky

    @PhindieVicky

    11 ай бұрын

    ​@@madams___speakerhaiboooo😮, bathong. Dats so sad 🤔

  • @sheilladovle4969

    @sheilladovle4969

    11 ай бұрын

    @@madams___speaker HAIBO!!!!!

  • @KemoMedupe-yj1yi

    @KemoMedupe-yj1yi

    11 ай бұрын

    ​@@madams___speakerbut he speaks like he is the victim and the wife is the worst person ever.

  • @kingpk4429

    @kingpk4429

    11 ай бұрын

    She could be making a story, she knows it will raise eyebrows. Lets not be emotional please.

  • @beautyineverything7273
    @beautyineverything727310 ай бұрын

    When she starts singing, the husband is not impressed. He wanted her to stop😢I stan a queen ❤

  • @pulanemkosana4463
    @pulanemkosana446311 ай бұрын

    There's an interview that he did where he was saying they got to the reception and were offered drinks and his wife got angry that he drank alcohol, he said he drank a little bit he didn't want to be rude,but apparently he used to drink and his wife told him that she didn't like that,yey ziningi izitory zalombhem,but uyabona maethi he lost it and they fought 🚩🚩🚩even the fact that the wife had to be escorted by the police,ai kuningi okwabonwa uNomthandazo in just 9days,she's still traumatized hence kunzima to even talk about her experience

  • @anitatumeka1466
    @anitatumeka146611 ай бұрын

    Bravo to that woman who chose herself no matter what caused her leave. I salute her❤

  • @sibulelenqwelo8324

    @sibulelenqwelo8324

    10 ай бұрын

    Very brave ,I tell you .

  • @lineomoso3300

    @lineomoso3300

    10 ай бұрын

    Madam speaker plz share your email..i would like to have one on one with you.

  • @ThobekaMhlongo6270
    @ThobekaMhlongo627011 ай бұрын

    These men of god are very well spoken but ohhh my god!!!! the works!

  • @moshopyadiphahlamohlaka2587
    @moshopyadiphahlamohlaka258711 ай бұрын

    The lady needs to tell her side because i get the feeling that there is way more with this whole thing.

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    When dealing with a narcissist it’s not even worth it

  • @robbylebotha

    @robbylebotha

    Ай бұрын

    So Madam Speakers husband also need to tell his side of the story because there's way more to this thing 😂. Or maybe he's quite because "when dealing with a narcissist, it's not even worth it"

  • @zinzijabavu401
    @zinzijabavu40111 ай бұрын

    I went to his page. That man is a narcissist. He did something to her and now he's trying to manipulate us😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @peterthige4297
    @peterthige429711 ай бұрын

    Wedding was grand.. a lot of planning, effort and work went to making wedding successful.. it's like , there were no effort, work or even discussion went to marriage.. you would rather have a simple wedding and a grand marriage..

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Facts

  • @leigh4326

    @leigh4326

    10 ай бұрын

    Amen 🙏🏽 It’s so hard to protect yourself from these demons but once the mask falls off please leave.

  • @nwakhubayi
    @nwakhubayi11 ай бұрын

    I love her 🤍🤍 she’s my favourite woman .

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Mine too

  • @leigh4326
    @leigh432610 ай бұрын

    Narcissists always show themselves on the honeymoon! I’m glad she left. They also trap you with kids so you are stuck 😢

  • @naledimatlou2041
    @naledimatlou204111 ай бұрын

    The lady should have left him at the altar. This guy was disrespectful just at the wedding. Those were not vows but demeaning the way he addressed the lady to kneel down. He didn’t go for counselling before marriage. He is a law unto himself. Secondly how do you tell her you want twins or a baby in 9 months. I don’t even think he is a good preacher. He must be heretic and doing false teachings in his church. He is just arrogant and foolish.

  • @_molebogeng6281
    @_molebogeng628111 ай бұрын

    You said it perfectly that was a top achiever moment, women from church don't back down easily😂 bona she could have asked the church to fast and pray for them but for the mere fact that she didn't have time for that it means bekunyiwa!

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Facts 🙌🙌🙌

  • @mangwediditjoe

    @mangwediditjoe

    11 ай бұрын

    It's my first time watching the channel and I don't know if it's a Christian channel or vulgar words are allowed like I read a comment from molebogeng. Another thing is that why are you saying marriage is glorified in church because I can only call it an encouragement to marry instead of fornications up to having children out of wedlock as Christians. I still didn't hear why did the wife left except for what I heard to be a life sentence crown she was supposed to wear. It's ok that she escaped the worst but red flags are there long before but are ignored especially by women. The nonsense of men expecting perfection and purity they don't have from women is being selfish. I was disturbed to hear this pastor saying that men must be respected at a work place. The question is by who and how. If I am your boss in my company, where and how still. Let your no to nonsense be said from the word go cause you might not be the lucky one to escape. Women must mature themselves to fight desperation because it's another course of jailing yourself.

  • @princeafrika2918
    @princeafrika291810 ай бұрын

    Balls of steel indeed. She did what many women fear

  • @shaznewa752
    @shaznewa75211 ай бұрын

    During dating stage people are not asking relevant questions, 😅😅😭

  • @thembelihlehlatshwayo2761
    @thembelihlehlatshwayo276111 ай бұрын

    Thanks for the analysis. I regard Nomthandazo as one of the most intelligent women on this planet. She has wisdom and intelligence all in one. She could see the narcissist and acted appropriately. Pastor Zulu's behavior leaves a lot to be desired. Pity, narcissists are at the most born which makes it difficult to outgrow or cure the condition. I wish we can have more Nomthandazos. Bravo girl.

  • @faithtshabalala203
    @faithtshabalala20311 ай бұрын

    Ayyy something has been off ngoGuy. Something is not make sure bathong. I watched his story 2021/2 followed him on tiktok and watched on KZread. Bravo to the lady for being brave to face "abantu bazothini"

  • @thandekamagagula6493
    @thandekamagagula649311 ай бұрын

    He sounds like my ex 🤔... that's why he's an ex 🎉🎉. You are a blessed woman Nomthandazo 🤞🏽

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    She really is

  • @KayNaude
    @KayNaude11 ай бұрын

    Imagine having to explain to a grown man that a woman can be a virgin and still be on birth control. Yoh nami I’d leave.

  • @sibongilemaseko8799

    @sibongilemaseko8799

    10 ай бұрын

    Exactly to control hormones. This guy does not have knowledge.

  • @nomangesimacie6006
    @nomangesimacie600611 ай бұрын

    There were many red flags what Crown ,which kingdom,this lady was initiated I salute her for walking out

  • @HLGMD
    @HLGMD11 ай бұрын

    Nomthandazo, we are with you! I hope you are well and good.

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Yes we are❤❤❤

  • @SheKing_
    @SheKing_11 ай бұрын

    She is better than me too... I left after 1yr 5m. Should have left a day after the wedding

  • @xolisankonki8006
    @xolisankonki80068 ай бұрын

    Brave girl ? Thank you for knowing what you deserve ! Run Even if it was after one day..never please people, it"s your life.

  • @pwilliams7303
    @pwilliams730311 ай бұрын

    She should have leave him at the altar instead of the honeymoon.

  • @preciouschikomo5413

    @preciouschikomo5413

    11 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂

  • @nothandomyeni1359
    @nothandomyeni135910 ай бұрын

    I've been reading these comments, but no one has said anything about ukuthwala. Inhliziyo yam ingitshela ukuthi uthwele lo "pastor" . This poor girl saw something or experienced something that is beyond comprehension, I suspect that's why she hasn't said anything publicly

  • @yaneliswakhoza5901

    @yaneliswakhoza5901

    10 ай бұрын

    Me n you thinking the same thing

  • @tlotlangofetotseraphuti2432
    @tlotlangofetotseraphuti243211 ай бұрын

    But how do you get mad that someone is not a virgin while you are not a virgin yourself. Fought?? He fought his wife. You know what that woman did well.

  • @mandisatiti27

    @mandisatiti27

    11 ай бұрын

    Crazy😮

  • @sandilemvundla5227

    @sandilemvundla5227

    9 ай бұрын

    She was support to tell him before d wedding

  • @unitylahmah8924

    @unitylahmah8924

    7 ай бұрын

    she should have told him that before marriage. Cendric is wrong for pressurising her but she is also wrong for not telling him.

  • @nozukojoseph2214

    @nozukojoseph2214

    2 ай бұрын

    ​@@unitylahmah8924Did that topic even come up?? Did they even discuss anything before the wedding. He appears as someone who likes listening to his voice, I doubt there was any discussion

  • @dorcassibanda9805
    @dorcassibanda980511 ай бұрын

    The key is the ‘ you will be the head of the kingdom’. What kingdom 😳😳😳 He wanted to initiate her, into some cult perhaps

  • @ms.liszz.9206
    @ms.liszz.920611 ай бұрын

    Everybody is focusing on the fact that the marriage lasted for 9 days; but nobody focused on the fact that this marriage wasn't ordained by God. That means nobody sought God for the right decision. I am 100% sure of my statement. Otherwise, this wouldn't fail so quickly because God will protect us at any cost. Even if He needs to say in advance to do not make that choice. Both pastor and wife need to stop blaming each other and start to blame themselves for not seeking the right counsel and direction of the Lord. It's nobody's fault, but you choose to be disobedient.

  • @CzakeleM
    @CzakeleM11 ай бұрын

    This man has many red flags. The other day he did a live talking about this woman. Haii something is wrong. The more he talks about this. the more i see that this lady made the right decision.. Run while you still can

  • @LindokuhleJeaneth
    @LindokuhleJeaneth10 ай бұрын

    I know nomthandazo we attend the same church❤ she's a very strong woman and has never talked about her marriage since she came back after that 9 days, we respect her wish since she's respectful, she stays at Siyabuswa(watervaal b), Mpumalanga

  • @christanyathi893

    @christanyathi893

    10 ай бұрын

    Tell her she is blessed and she must not come out to say anything at all about it . She must let this devil of her ex husband buck like a dog until he is tired. She must pray for her next husband and ignore the noises of this world. God loves you my dear treasure that don’t let any man take that away from you .

  • @thando_t1723

    @thando_t1723

    10 ай бұрын

    Ama ntombazane wase siyabuswa 😭🤣💔 nase Kwaga hayii

  • @aphiwemagaya3279

    @aphiwemagaya3279

    10 ай бұрын

    I was close to buying a plot at Siyabuswa C

  • @SlindileMlindy

    @SlindileMlindy

    10 ай бұрын

    Wayikhipha 🏡 address yomunye

  • @sandilemvundla5227

    @sandilemvundla5227

    9 ай бұрын

    Corruption kushada nomuntu uthi akaze adliwe kani akusekho lutho

  • @KgosiKing777
    @KgosiKing77711 ай бұрын

    Beautifully explained... uou even highlighted the danger in his vows yooo 😢

  • @mphohappiness1736
    @mphohappiness173611 ай бұрын

    I sense physical abuse. Why the hell would the police be involved ?

  • @kefilwe

    @kefilwe

    11 ай бұрын

    I suspect violent grape too, what did he do to her to ensure that twins will come. Also, police won't come just because someone has packed their bags and is leaving their husband.

  • @lebogangmaphopha8934

    @lebogangmaphopha8934

    11 ай бұрын

    No. There was court because Cedric wanted all his money...which he is still fighting for. Cedric is not violent at all.

  • @mphohappiness1736

    @mphohappiness1736

    11 ай бұрын

    @lebogangmaphopha8934 why was the police involved even before the lady left? I'm not talking about court.

  • @yollotreats

    @yollotreats

    11 ай бұрын

    Money for what. Was he held at gunpoint while spending @@lebogangmaphopha8934

  • @makhosimchunu9166

    @makhosimchunu9166

    11 ай бұрын

    At one vid uZulu said the lady accused him of having sex with her without her consent and was boasting beating his chest that he likes sex too much🤮🤮🤮

  • @ntsoakinkoe3869
    @ntsoakinkoe386911 ай бұрын

    Many single Christians do not pray for their future spouses.... they pray for a particular brother or sister, because they have interest in that particular one. God designed marriage for a lifetime. But many have to leave their marriages because they shouldn't have been in those unions in the first place. This man is mad! The woman was not a property for purchase! The dowry has its purpose but the woman was not property to be bought! The communication from this man is very immature...

  • @duncantsolo3273
    @duncantsolo327311 ай бұрын

    Nomthandazo must multiply 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @xoliswangobese5743
    @xoliswangobese574311 ай бұрын

    No ayi! Judging from the way he speaks no man bravo girl for not taking any nonsense from umtwana womunye umama.

  • @sybillamula
    @sybillamula11 ай бұрын

    Her voice us everything😊❤❤

  • @phelphel6157
    @phelphel615711 ай бұрын

    Perhaps She didn't want to get married but was coerced to marry the Pastor. And the Pastor was too busy bragging that He is getting married and forgot to make time to know each other. Nevertheless its good for her to leave. She knew what she wanted

  • @dozar03
    @dozar0311 ай бұрын

    Uthi “I fought with her” it’s obvious that he assaulted her within 9days of “marriage”

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Right??

  • @tsakaninkuna49

    @tsakaninkuna49

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank u, I picked that up too.

  • @pulanemkosana4463

    @pulanemkosana4463

    11 ай бұрын

    Thank you,he even said I lost it,the nerve

  • @lesley_lezley
    @lesley_lezley11 ай бұрын

    He has no filter, all those comments about bedroom and making babies in front of friends and family are so inappropriate. Love her strength and ability to not tell him details about herself, the whole South African would now know when and where she lost her virginity. This man talks toooo much.

  • @Maria-yp6le

    @Maria-yp6le

    11 ай бұрын

    You are right sister. God gave her wisdom. In my opinion she was not really quiet, the guy was always talking. The relationship was about him.

  • @Letmetalknow

    @Letmetalknow

    11 ай бұрын

    Yup he overdid it with the bedroom comments, sounds like a scapegoat for a gay man who's trying too hard to prove that he's attracted to women and his muscularnity Kanti Nah he's attracted to men

  • @yollotreats

    @yollotreats

    11 ай бұрын

    For real! More power to that woman indeed!

  • @keolebogilesylviamene142

    @keolebogilesylviamene142

    11 ай бұрын

    😂

  • @nomathembancube291

    @nomathembancube291

    11 ай бұрын

    You earn respect demanding it is another level

  • @Beex848
    @Beex84811 ай бұрын

    I want twins by end of December 😢 this man is toxic and not aware.

  • @oldtimereligion1stlady447
    @oldtimereligion1stlady44711 ай бұрын

    I thank God for her God loves her

  • @tshegofatsothegreat
    @tshegofatsothegreat10 ай бұрын

    I have been married for 15 years and I still don't know the amount my husband paid for my lobola. My parent say it is none of my business to know the value but to trust that he has shown them that he can take care of you. In my tradition we do not discuss how much a bride was worth, instead we talk about how your husband treats you, and whether you are safe in his hands and if you are respecting him too.

  • @marientalphysiotherapy3325
    @marientalphysiotherapy33254 ай бұрын

    Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏 Powerful, inspiring and very inspiring Thank you Gentle Giant From Namibia 🇳🇦

  • @mphomphafe-fish9209
    @mphomphafe-fish920911 ай бұрын

    Oh wow! I really like this channel..lady keep bringing more to our attention.i hope the younger ones are joining it to learn from other pple's experiences..this must stop..really!!!

  • @tumi881
    @tumi88111 ай бұрын

    The fact that she took BC before honeymoon is clear she was being careful not to get pregnant and be trapped. She saw red flags before the wedding. Glad she left, talking about twins before the end of the year???Haibo

  • @tlotlangofetotseraphuti2432
    @tlotlangofetotseraphuti243211 ай бұрын

    There was something off with the vows.😢

  • @lydiamoleleki6694
    @lydiamoleleki66946 ай бұрын

    That woman is blessed 🙌🏾

  • @busisiwemfusi7914
    @busisiwemfusi791410 ай бұрын

    The fact that men think they're "buying" someone when they pay lobola is the first problem nje with marriages. This Cedric was telling his wife as his property he bought and own, what he expected of his property. He expects his machine property to produce him twins by end of the year, he bought it phela for R60 000. That is usually problem number 1.

  • @sibongilemaseko8799

    @sibongilemaseko8799

    10 ай бұрын

    60K imali encane kangaka

  • @thembacengani4211
    @thembacengani421111 ай бұрын

    Whether a man or a woman is God fearing they must go for premarital counseling first. That's where most things are discussed so as for one to see where they are heading. At the same time the decision has to be taken there.

  • @kagisomanota8762

    @kagisomanota8762

    11 ай бұрын

    But the premarital counseling is positioned wrongly coz by then the lobola has long been paid, wedding date has been set already and by then most of the things have been paid in preparation for the wedding. We should actually be prepared for marriage in mid youth days, not after paying the lobola.

  • @triciakekana

    @triciakekana

    11 ай бұрын

    In my church we have premarital counseling and it really helps you decide right there and there if this is for you because our pastors tell it all during the counseling they don't leave any stone unturned so u go in knowing what you are putting yourself in lol. I thank God for Lighthouse Chapel International New name Strong Christian church. 😊

  • @triciakekana

    @triciakekana

    11 ай бұрын

    ​@@kagisomanota8762in my church we do the 6months counseling before lobola.

  • @gracembedzi8936
    @gracembedzi89369 ай бұрын

    Bravo to the lady for walking out early. As for being shamed, just keep it in mind that people will always talk nomatter what. Doing what's best for you & save yourself from the worse

  • @ElengosCreations
    @ElengosCreations11 ай бұрын

    I'm just admiring your natural beauty

  • @user-le2gy8sw8b
    @user-le2gy8sw8b11 ай бұрын

    You’re right, she’s definitely much better than me too. Speaking of red flags, it’s sad how you only realise much later what their impact actually is. I shake my head when I think of small red flags which had I known what I know now I would have not gone into that marriage. And with that I’m teaching my kids how to behave and judge character with the small things.

  • @beewest5704

    @beewest5704

    11 ай бұрын

    Thats why its so important to have a good support structure & friends who you really trust. When we are in things we do not see the writing on the wall but our support system can point out our blindspots. We just have to have the humility & wisdom to listen & take a step back to also read the walls.

  • @justanmpowereddude5021
    @justanmpowereddude502111 ай бұрын

    Most marriages end in divorce, it puzzles me how people keep getting married despite this general knowledge.

  • @leigh4326
    @leigh432610 ай бұрын

    Go girl. We aren’t staying. Nomthandzo is us, she is our sister, friend and daughter. ❤

  • @user-ob3eo3pj3c
    @user-ob3eo3pj3c9 ай бұрын

    😂i left after 4 yrs of marriage i thought I was the only one who ran out early😅

  • @nomsatorcida9612
    @nomsatorcida961211 ай бұрын

    I know the guy who married this lady, his name is Cedric Zulu. He is a PK from a church I grew up attending at Witbank phase 4.

  • @mamphethepetuniamashapa1868
    @mamphethepetuniamashapa186810 ай бұрын

    Thank Percy you are really smart

  • @Magdeline_Buhlungu
    @Magdeline_Buhlungu11 ай бұрын

    Love you for choosing yourself 🫶🏼

  • @valeriedevilliers9675
    @valeriedevilliers967511 ай бұрын

    Speak up lady.. Well done 🎉🎉🎉

  • @CynthiJola
    @CynthiJola11 ай бұрын

    I pray some day he'd realize what he is doing to her is not ok. He should come clean about his sexuality and stop tarnishing the lady's image like that 💔💔 He comes from a very respectable family, angaz why bangamukhuzi!

  • @beautyineverything7273

    @beautyineverything7273

    10 ай бұрын

    is he the alphabet gang? 😂

  • @elphusbendzane7873
    @elphusbendzane787310 ай бұрын

    Why agree to marry him in the first place .... cos his behavior says it all

  • @Queendollar83
    @Queendollar8311 ай бұрын

    He was just doing everything for show. No authenticity whatsoever. Scary guy this one!

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Absolutely 💯

  • @NdlovukaziFab

    @NdlovukaziFab

    11 ай бұрын

    Real scary 💯

  • @nthabelengkubeka5073
    @nthabelengkubeka507311 ай бұрын

    He humiliated her for marrying her.

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Imagine

  • @dineosabeka2792
    @dineosabeka27927 ай бұрын

    Bravo 🙌 to the sister ❤

  • @PammyObusayo
    @PammyObusayo11 ай бұрын

    Yohhh Ai Sedrick sekhaya Bora manje....Kudos to the lady!!

  • @prec.ralinala
    @prec.ralinala11 ай бұрын

    Not just a baby, he wanted twins. Kuningi guys

  • @madams___speaker

    @madams___speaker

    11 ай бұрын

    Isssaaaalottttt 😮😮😮😮

  • @sinehope_

    @sinehope_

    11 ай бұрын

    🤣🤣🤣

  • @nwabisasuthu8537

    @nwabisasuthu8537

    11 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂😂😂 its a lot yhooo

  • @yollotreats

    @yollotreats

    11 ай бұрын

    by the end of the year 🤣! This man no!

  • @user-wo3cm2ef1r
    @user-wo3cm2ef1r11 ай бұрын

    Just looking at the crowning act that he pulled at the wedding, it speaks volumes about how he sees marriage and the power dynamics between him and his wife. Then when you hear the demands he was making and how he was making them, you get a sense that this marriage was all about him and the wife just had to comply to meet his demands. Unfortunately, that’s now how healthy marriages work

  • @yollotreats

    @yollotreats

    11 ай бұрын

    Can you imagine. I hear he wants twins by the end of the year. And the way he keeps mentioning how much he spent on her like he was forced to. Nkt!

  • @Joybabedi-lu1uv
    @Joybabedi-lu1uv11 ай бұрын

    proud of her..

  • @margaretengendi1385
    @margaretengendi138511 ай бұрын

    If the first thing you tell a woman i want twins by December,what happens if she cant?If you complain on social media about paying so much and she was not a virgin,then you must have told her too much.And the fact that they had a meeting barely a week into the marriage means things were tough.Only God knows the truth.Or maybe this guy had weird fantacies😂😂😂

  • @tendanipelaelo6293

    @tendanipelaelo6293

    10 ай бұрын

    I don't know who told men that if a couple can't fall pregnant, it's the woman's fault

  • @danielntisa1255
    @danielntisa125511 ай бұрын

    Eish yah neh, the truth is we still do not know the reasons why the marriage ended so soon. This story for me is a sad one. Sad in the sense that the man could not assure the lady of his love for her and the lady could not accept the husband. What I gather is something must have happened in those 9 days that freaked the lady or made her to be very concerned. It is sad that what appeared to be a wonderful union had to end this way.

  • @joginahlesetja3550

    @joginahlesetja3550

    11 ай бұрын

    It is very sad indeed, how beautiful was their marriage! May God restore marriages of our generation in Jesus.

  • @wueehke

    @wueehke

    9 ай бұрын

    😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @lesedikhoaripe8072
    @lesedikhoaripe807210 ай бұрын

    It’s simple. He’s used to being in control and her leaving him makes him feel like a failure and bruised his ego.

  • @beautyineverything7273

    @beautyineverything7273

    10 ай бұрын

    exactly what I was thinking 😂😂

  • @thandokazimfubesi3801
    @thandokazimfubesi380111 ай бұрын

    It's my first time in this Channel and I love you already 😊❤ unenyani cc,and these things are not shared in our Christian world kuthwa nyamezela😢 that's all! Enkosi Mam

  • @Spiritwave22
    @Spiritwave225 ай бұрын

    i love you when you say nomthandazo must multiply 😂😂😂😂

  • @mapitsimonyela1416
    @mapitsimonyela141611 ай бұрын

    This guy was a time bomb waiting to explode!

  • @beeyoutiful4086
    @beeyoutiful408611 ай бұрын

    This man is crazy. Things he's saying in 1 video are too much to be believe😢 poor woman

  • @OnlyRandi
    @OnlyRandi11 ай бұрын

    Very true 🎉🎉🎉🎉Amen ❤.

  • @sinehope_
    @sinehope_11 ай бұрын

    True 👸. True self love

  • @ObiduMashallah-bq7xn
    @ObiduMashallah-bq7xn11 ай бұрын

    "I won't say why the police got involved for the safety of you and me" why? Kukhona ushaya amanzi

  • @pulanemkosana4463

    @pulanemkosana4463

    11 ай бұрын

    Obviously umshayile,kukhona la athi I lost it,mayeeeee

  • @theeoneroom8454
    @theeoneroom845411 ай бұрын

    You just gained a subscriber nkosazane 👌

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