Here's to being a hot mess, and doing it anyway.

@Lovergirlstudiio

2 жыл бұрын

Owning it! 🙋🏽‍♀️

@GorgonsAlter

Жыл бұрын

"And doing it anyway" Hell yeah. Own that mess.

@lookingupwithwonder

Жыл бұрын

Shit yeah

Honestly so glad this channel is around.

@rashedkhzai373

4 жыл бұрын

facts me too

@Silentwinter3

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@Mushakis21

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Idk how I found it, but God loves me for showing me this 😅

@alilawati269

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it's good to know ur not alone

@tylersoto7465

3 жыл бұрын

I just found it out last night and It just clicked to me really fast and helps ease my mind thank God and bless him

I just told my family a couple days ago that I have ADHD Inattentive Type and was laughed at. Then after saying "No. I'm serious", was told..."At least it's not life threatening." I don't want SYMPATHY. I just want them to understand why I' am the way I' am but I don't really see that happening.

2:24 "The only difference between me and anybody is I just have a harder time being consistent." That is so validating to hear another person say: in my best moments I can be 100% on and do things perfectly, but it's always a toss-up on whether or not I will be able to harness the potential I know I have.

I had tears run from eyes watching this. I can relate this. Thank you for posting this. Never had a video touch me like this. We struggle but never quit

As a healthcare provider, I must say, you do such an impeccable job describing and breaking down ADHD ; I can not add to what you clearly and perfectly have stated. Impressive.

@lookingupwithwonder

Жыл бұрын

I'm a health professional and even though I had a big win at work today, I've been offered 12 months more work, I am still shaming out about my adhd symptoms coming out today. They says CBT is really effective for us and I am going to start it! 😊

"stop playing down your abilities" man that hits hard.

Imposter Syndrome... oh my lord, yes. Every single time I try to accomplish anything significant.

Sending unconditional acceptance to all my fellow ADHDers

Thank GOD for this video. I really thought I was the only one who dealt with this and always wondered what was wrong with me.

@kana5640

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I recently discovered that I have ADHD. I initially thought I was the only one as my within my class no one seem to have these kind of problems.

@logann-mackenziefroste563

3 жыл бұрын

I also have just realised that I have ADHD and I am learning that everything that I am feeling has all been a part of my ADHD.

Holy shit. I've never heard anyone talk about this before. I've done the exact same things before where I impulsively share and delete my "content". Thanks!

Just letting you know that you have changed my life. You've made me realize that I probably have ADHD, too. That's so huge I feel like I finally have a solid understanding of myself.

I've searched for Adhd vids and Imposter Syndrome vids separately. Glad I came across this vid coz I have both

I'm just about to start a new job and so scared of messing it up, meeting new people isn't an issue it's that I dont want to let anyone down. I'm forcing myself to make a change as I to cant live my life not making a difference. Thank you for sharing this, really needed to hear it at this time.

@pas_du_tout

4 жыл бұрын

Be proud of the decision you've made. Best of luck at your new job!

@CherryBlossomFlower

3 жыл бұрын

I’m also scared to go to work because I think I’ll mess up, and I also have social anxiety which makes it harder >.

"Assume the feeling of the wish fufilled" really helped me during my imposter syndrome time.

Had adhd all my life, consistently sucked at school. Being treated, returned to school now I'm getting A's when I would have gotten a C at best. I'm fighting to believe that I've earned them. I never got A's in a difficult subject before.

My mum has a saying roughly translated ,"sometimes you have to jump over your shadow"which is like saying , move past or overcome your fear .

@Chizuru94

2 жыл бұрын

Ah, sounds like you mean the German saying, yay :D

God I feel this all the time. Especially with uni, I can't seem to ever pass exams or assessments. Definitely hits the self esteem.

@konsti1482

4 жыл бұрын

Same here,i get anxiety when I think about studying and the exam itself. I procrastinate because of that...

@27Zangle

2 жыл бұрын

Yep. I had the same issues. Thankfully, I am finished with college for now. I have two degrees and both were completed with good grades. With that, it was a real struggle, not because the subjects were difficult, but rather it was difficult to find motivation, memory, procrastination, etc. What helps but does not fix is to have goals and give yourself a deadline. ADHD typically thrives under pressure with deadlines for many and then when complete, reward yourself with something that you enjoy, whether it be food, a drink, a favorite tv show, etc. I also learned to befriend others in the class/program and don't say no to study groups. That one is difficult but it really does help to have a foundation or a group to fall back on when you have a question or struggling with a concept.

I really struggle with this. ADHD Psychology doctoral student here... Still thinking I'm not going to pass. I'm 2 years in still going, still struggling. I intensely fear failure so much I work really hard to prove I'm not a failure. But then shame myself when I can't work. I'm working on self compassion ☺️

@UniMatrix_1

2 жыл бұрын

Inspirational.

@severinelee5746

Жыл бұрын

How are you getting in these days?

Thank you so much for all the effort you put into your videos, don’t ever be ashamed of it. Having your videos truly does have an impact on people. I feel as though some people within my adhd journey truly don’t understand me and what I go through but having your videos as a reminder that I’m not alone helps me each day! You’re amazing and influential! Don’t ever forget it!

Exactly! I don’t want anyone to treat me differently.

so many videos of yours have made me cry because of how relatable they are. I have never had someone describe exactly how I felt down to a T to me before

Thanks for sharing and your encouragement. It’s nice to know we aren’t alone.

Awesome to hear refreshing honesty and owning ADHD especially from a guy, we need more men owning the challenges of ADHD.

I had my eureka moment few hours back and I’m so glad I found your channel, everything makes perfect sense now. Failed relationships, outbursts, imposter syndrome and fear.

Your channel is great. I showed my Mum the video about sluggish tempo as you explained it so well. You're right about RSD, I have it aswell.

@pieceluvinharmiee

4 жыл бұрын

Merlin what is the name of the sluggish tempo video? I'd love to watch it!

@Chizuru94

2 жыл бұрын

@@pieceluvinharmiee Maybe you can find it by looking for this on his channel: Sluggish Cognitive Tempo. I think that's the official term.

Thank you for your videos. I was diagnosed (as an adult) about a year ago with adhd. As much of a relief it was, it also wasn’t but I’m learning. Your channel has really helped me understand adhd and me better.

@ADHDMastery

Жыл бұрын

Glad to hear it!

Thanks so much for your videos. Even without an ADHD diagnosis I find the things that you say very relatable for me. You have good insights.

I started posting my philosophy, thoughts, and photography (art) on Instagram. I kinda jumped into something similar as you and it scared me. I panicked because I was scared of what people thought of my posts. But at the end of the day it’s helping me feel better even though I know I’m doing it for the attention on some level, and it is going to suck sometimes.

I delete things all the time!!!! I’m so grateful for you.

I feel so alone. I'm 27 and I feel anxious almost every day, I struggle to manage my hobbies. I have a ton and they sometimes make me speak badly of myself, like why arent i better at this or this if I like doing it? I struggle a lot with dissociation as well and I feel it often when im alone, I feel like tine is flying by so fast and I dont see clear. I dont feel like I validitet my part of being human , its like I am not alone to do staff and feel stuff because im 27. And as I white it it sounds horrible. I just want to live myself more and in the riiiight way. That's the difficult part

Thank you so much, I needed this. Been lying in bed, afraid of working my craft. Hearing this made me want to do things cause someone finally understands me. Again, thank you so much sir!

yep over share.yes .yes yes.. 33 starting to get harder later in life?cant stop thinking abt my life/ work rn .hiting hrd

I learned to disguise the imposter in me with pride... I was so afraid that everyone would see my insecurity and judge me that I put up a front all my life as if I had pride in my success. Which is actually the opposite of how I truly felt about myself (and still do a lot of times). It's taken years just to let that part of me go and be okay with being vulnerable. Now I'm working on my imposter syndrome the right way instead of avoiding it and putting up a front. I dont know if any of that made sense but it does to me 🤣

This Channel is going to help ALOT of people.......

I am definitely a hot mess. I get really excited just about everything and then I regret getting involved in those things because I really don't have time for them. I can drop out of classes but I get stressed out if it's something more difficult to drop out of. But I am afraid of somethings and I am proud of myself because yesterday I signed on BJJ class. I have wanted to do it for some years but I have been rather afraid of getting in close physical contact with strange men. I thought that I don't want my insecurities to limit myself and BJJ really sounds fun.

I've felt that way all my life.

That was the best, most effective pep talk I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much. I have a book to write! :)

To hear you voice my internal feelings is powerful. Thank you. I too...overshare, afraid of failure and success, haven't worked in months and yes I need too. Raised in negativity and experienced more in 13 year marriage. 31 years. Diagnosis at age 62 so in overwhelm. That was last year.

Can relate 100% on what you're saying mate. It's very brave of you to come out clean with that stuff. Keep it up!

This is so True, you sound like me, I thought I was the only one like this

So relatable. I graduated uni and had some pretty cool jobs in the film and tv industry but when I stopped working, I turned into a recluse, drinking non stop, scared to meet people or do anything because I imagined myself as a failure. Only just crawled my way out and I realise I dont have to start again, I have to keep going.

Wayne Gretsky said, you miss 100% of the shots you dont take, I am driven by that in my frequent moments of feeling just as you described in your video. Thank you for sharing about your Master's program! Please know the difference you make in sharing everything for us to help us have a common ground and place to learn and grow. Imposter syndrome can impede so much progress but definitely not letting that Jekyll consume Hyde, that is challenging but then the doors and windows all sort of begin to open up and the light shines in again when we do. Thank you so much for breaking barriers and reaching out and it's a great thing you left your post up! The hardest thing is to make ourselves vulnerable to others!

@lovingod4ever33

4 жыл бұрын

Yes TRUE!

aw, I wish I found this channel sooner. love the bit at 5.36 that made me smile like truly smile today :) thank you I needed to hear that from someone. I'm still learning about myself, baby steps I go...

I appreciate your channel I'm 32 and only less than a month ago was diagnosed

Absolutely the same, I deleted facebook because of so many stupid posts, I don't do social media for this very reason. imposter syndrome is also huge! With friends and family, I reach out to them because I know that is 'what I'm supposed to do' though deep down I feel they don't really care and yet deeper down I sort of secretly know they do, so I do it. even if I end up deleting it later when they don't reply in time to their frustration. sensitivity, imposter, doubt... ups and downs, back and forth it goes..... and I'm old, its like I should know better right..

Thank you so much - if I was better at crying I would probably be in tears by now. For a long time I've thought I was the only one having these issues and I certaintly do feel like a hot mess. I recently shared a long post about my recent discovery of ADD (by the age of 28) on facebook and took it down (I think about) the next day - there were just too many things I was unsure about - how people would react and if I even knew what I was talking about. I started medication about one and a half week ago - and so many things seem to be changing. I still can't help but worry that I've done something wrong by bringing up to people that I have ADD. At the same time I think I've reached a point where I deffinetly need some change in my life - and I am hopeful that this will bring me somewhere better. I don't usually write comments either - I feel like I'm starting to take those baby steps - and starting to show people the person who has always been there - but has been kept for myself only for so long.

I downloaded this video to mp3. It's my new ring tone. That I use as an alarm ringer. I need help "doing" because of that fear, yet I would never ask for help. This is the help I'm using for now. Thank you.

You are bloody amazing, you know our condition inside out.

I love your voice it's so soothing 🥺🌸

I just found this channel today. You have put into words what I feel every day. Thank you.

Wise words, I instantly relate. Thanks for sharing.

I haven’t been tested but watching these videos have made me realise I’m pretty dam sure I have adhd and uv always wondered why I’ve been different at managing myself and with everything

You are truly amazing! Thanks for being so vulnerable amd open 🙏🌠😁🤗

You are so likeable and relatable. Thank you for the great videos 🙌👊😊

Thank you for being you and encouraging us to be us 💓

Gosh, this is so relatable. Even tweets are a struggle... I sometimes post them and delete them after a few seconds. Either that or I just spend more than enough time writing them so I don’t make a fool of myself.

Wow! I can’t believe how well you articulated the thoughts in my head.

you deserve way more subscribers

The timelines of this video is uncanny. You have no idea how approaches this is to my life right now. Thanks for all you do and keep it up!

Thank you for this channel,it's the best one I found

Really appreciate you taking the time out to create and explain your experiences with ADHD. Definitely will be viewing and sharing more. Was diagnosed about a year and a half ago. To the people here, do you guys ever feel like your a child trapped in an adult body?

@oykuutku5253

3 жыл бұрын

Yes thats me. I have always feel like a child and think like child. Even some of my reactions and behaviors are like a child does. My father always says ı'm not mature enough for my age. I think people around me see this immaturity as well. Because of this they can't trust me and want to get away from me. This is a really uncomfortable situation.

U remind me of Hue Jackson lol. Very handsome an your videos have helped me tons and helped me bring up things to my doctor that I wouldn't have thought of. I had to write it down to remember it but it has helped watching your video and so thankful for your channel!

WOW Ive seen your channel before but, I havent actually heard what you had to say and understood it. Funny, how now that I lowered my medications that I can finally be open enough to hear what you have to say. Im SO grateful that I did today because what you have to say makes so much sense to me. I need to NOT be Afraid, To FACE MY FEARS! I REFUSE to live a life of regret, fear, and mediocracy! Embrace being a HOT mess! Embrace imperfection! Thank you!

A good example would be when you start a new job. That hit me recently and was a bit crimping for nearly two weeks. Pesky impostor syndrome!

@ADHDMastery

4 жыл бұрын

Yes! Starting my new job recently has unearthed a lot of my old insecurities.

I am so thankful for your videos. I'm 53 years old and have always suspected I had ADHD but when I was young, they didn't test for it and when they started, the common belief was that people grew out of it. As a result, I was never tested and have just bumbled through life, never feeling like I was living up to my potential, struggling to concentrate, struggling to learn, immediately forgetting what someone just said to me, or what I just read, always feeling like an imposter, always feeling like a failure. I am finally going for it and getting tested. I know treatment won't magically fix everything but I want to at least give myself a chance.

Thank for these videos. I really needed this right now....

Feels like you made this video just for me. Thank you!

I’m a happy person around others. I love being by myself but once I’m out doing things, I can be a friendly person. I also have a fear of letting people down, failing at something, just plainly messing up. And yes, I’m also very sensitive if someone says no to me or tell me something in a rude way. I don’t do well with that. It crushes my spirit. My Attention deficiency makes me messy in my home and wasteful with time. Does anyone feel mental tiredness or lightheadedness when actually facing some task you don’t want to do? I’m thinking it’s anxiety and feeling it’s effects because of felling overwhelmed by whatever it is I don’t want to do but must do. Physical effects of attention deficiency disorder!

You're a god send mate

Personally, I love being different.

@araimisal2244

3 жыл бұрын

The other side of the coin of being different is being judged and looked down on

This is probably the truest thing I've ever heard. Thank you. It brought tears

I’ve only recently come across your channel and its already been life changing for me. I’m in the middle of falling behind & nearly failing (yet another) course, and your videos are giving me the motivation and tools to catch up. I love your earlier videos. Your later ones are more polished & professional but the raw vulnerability you show in your earlier ones is so relatable. I’m glad you kept them up. You’re helping a lot of people.

This is something I really needed to hear today! I'm also trying to write a Master's Thesis with ADHD and I feel like it will be the death of me! I've delayed it a year longer than I was supposed to already and I need to get it done. I'm too scared to take meds so trying cope in other ways. Your tips/tricks and discussions have been so helpful. Thank you!

@quickgirl80

2 жыл бұрын

What tips & tricks have helped you? Btw good luck on your thesis.

You know what’s the worst about coming out about it? Well meaning, highly productive friends will listen to you pour your heart out and then respond with “Me too!” At first I was really confused and did not want to negate or minimize their experiences, but after a while, I realized it was because they didn’t and couldn’t understand what I was going through. It actually made me feel even more alone. So, I am very grateful for your videos!

I really needed to hear this today. I’ve been on the self-improvement road for a couple years now and diagnosed with ADHD beginning of March 2022 and have been treating ADHD with medication since diagnosis. I’ve learned a lot of emotional skills and it’s getting easier to ignore that negative voice inside of me.

Another great video! Defo felt like this but getting older and getting on meds has helped this sooo much!

I’ve just been diagnosed with ADHD, turning 45. I’ve been enjoying your videos and never once thought anything negative about you. In fact I think what a brave and successful guy putting awareness out there with his own channel. I believe in getting by in life with good health and relationships. I think people are too focused on being $$ well off and it gives them poor mental health. As long as you’re happy and get by fine, the wealth in doing so is endless. Great work man #Kudos

Bro your intro sound is like the same sound of the intro to the CIA gateway tapes.

This channel is so helpful thank you.

Honestly I’ve got to the point where I’m seriously considering psilocybin mushrooms even though it’s illegal where I live I’ve became so desperate that I’m willing to risk pretty much everything just to get some improvement.

the imposter syndrome speaks volumes so much. I'm always told how good I am at my job and even see the results financially at times but still doubt myself, can't do it, don't want to do it, could do better, could have a mortgage, could have saved more money when I was younger. It's torture sometimes but yes definitely shows growth and funnily enough has sometimes made me think "screw it" to make a much better decision in my life. I'm not diagnosed but have recently contacted my GP just to find some hope with coping mechanisms and see if I do get a diagnosis as I've always been curious. thanks for the video

Ugh...this got me in the feels right when you explained imposter syndrome. I didn't consciously realize this about myself. I constantly doubt myself or avoid situations where I'm in the spotlight. I always have grand ideas and plans but never follow through because I'm afraid that I will fail. I regularly feel like, even though I've been successful in my career, I have achieved what I have by dumb luck or by masking my own incompetence well. I know I'm smart and have a lot of skills in my field but I constantly criticize myself and point out my failures or inadequacies. Even though I enjoy praise for my accomplishments, I internally think about how I could have done better or focus on the parts that I didn't do well. I also don't seem to get motivated by people praising my work because of this. I feel like they are missing all the negative things about it. I've even been told I don't take praise well. Of course I don't take criticism well either. I also avoid applying for jobs that I probably could do just fine, but I criticize my skills when reviewing the requirements in the job posting. I feel like I could never measure up to other people and don't want to put myself out there.

Thank you for everything keep uploading please

I feel like a fraud at work (have for years) cause I'm so used to struggling... I've found a job I'm naturally good at I feel like I haven't deserved the praise I receive...cause I don't struggle daily... I find doing housework is more difficult cause it's boring...

I’m not afraid to do things or fear of failure. It’s just that my ADD often slows me down a lot.

I have recently joined the ADHD community after my therapist suggested I demonstrate some of the main signs in my life and have a long history of doing so. I've watched tons of videos and have learned so much... but i have connected to you and your coaching style. Thanks so much for your tips and life stories... its like a mirror to me! Keep it up!

How do you deal with putting yourself out there and then still failing? It confirms the belief that you are failure and prevents you from trying again.

@ADHDMastery

Жыл бұрын

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Thank you for making these videos. I just recently come across them and they've been really helpful. It's also great to find another guy who has more of the attention deficit variety and less hyperactivity.

Even if you don't believe this, you are such a strong man you have no idea. I'm a 21 yo male (straight, idk why that matters but it does). My whole life I've had ADHD but my dad couldn't stand the idea. Thankfully he didn't put me under medication. I had trouble in school but after I got into college I learned some study skills and basically taught myself how to learn. ADHD for me isn't a crutch anymore but it's still apart of my life I have not delved into. I think I found this channel for a reason so I subbed to be part of this community to learn more. You're honestly and vulnerability is greatly appreciated, brother!

Thank you for your videos! Also I am happy that I now know that I have ADHD! 😊

Feel so related with all the themes you present. You do a great work it's good to have someone explaining so much about ADHD. Your videos as helped me to understand that I'm not alone and how to see some things clearly. Thank you so much.

Great video, makes a lot of sense 👏

Great, Great video my friend! Yes you are completely right in all the points you made. "Get comfortable with being uncomfortable" is my Motto! It has also helped me to laugh at myself when I'm a hot mess instead of guilting myself into depression. Sometimes obviously that is easier said than done but again I have a motto for that- I repeat to myself "It's not that serious" Us ADHDers tend to make things more than what they really are when in reality.... it's not that serious. Again great content in this video! Newly subbed to your channel and speaking on the topic of your videos, I think it's safe to say that MOST of us come to hear the message and the content, not to judge the way you look, sound, articulate yourself or how high or low end quality your video is. When want to educate ourselves to be the best version of ourselves that we can be and we want to all be a part of the whole family of ADHDers, ESPECIALLY because unfortunately this diagnosis comes with the heavy burden of loneliness and feeling misunderstood by the masses. I have a great family and friends support system but it always still feels lonely because how we view things emotionally is so vastly different than neurotypical brains...... sorry for writing a novel 🙄😆 Again Thank you for your work here on KZread!!

@punk4rockorz

3 жыл бұрын

lovingod4ever33 Well written. Changing your thoughts and their patterns is really hard and often we get so comfortable in them. Even when they are self destructive. For me it’s nice to know (I feel kinda guilty saying it) there are so many others struggling with the same problems and being a hot mess is sometimes part of it. The loneliness part and comparing myself to others is still one of my bigger issues.

Oh my goodness I dont want people to feel sorry for me. I hate that feeling and yet it also gives some comfort. Weird.

Thank you! hope to meet you someday

Amazing video!! Seriously, thank you

6:28 I agree, and thats where I am at now! I rather try do to do something and fail rather than to never try at all. The fear of failure is real ,in that it might make you never want to try again . But its best to face fear and try to do the best we can! We won't always win all our battle, some will say that we learn more from failure than success! SO don't fear failure, embrace it ,

Your videos are on point! Well done. I was thinking of starting an ADHD channel as I have lots of useful knowledge to share, but I was scared of my friends seeing it. Someone suggested doing podcasts instead, but I will need to get past the fear. On facebook, I have posted lots of stuff during the awareness month in October, but never explicitly said that I have it. Keep up the good work mate.

Love these vids!