as a young trans man, i’ve actually used my love of rap & hip hop to make cis guy friends at school, including lately the j. cole & kendrick beef, so when i read the lyrics j. cole used it really hurt me. it’s sad how something i love and use to make friends could end up distancing me from them because of transphobia. but others will say “it’s just a song lyric, who’s it hurting?”

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

I am so, so, so sorry. I deeply struggled with school, and, besides liking English courses, my friendships were the only highlights and the friendships I was able to maintain a bit back then were mainly based off my love of Hip-Hop and R&B. It made me feel so seen and valued and also just enjoyed those conversations and people. I cannot imagine what you are feeling, and I am sending so much love and support to you. I am hoping so much your friends do not treat you any differently, or try to invalidate your feelings because they are 100 percent valid always. If they do, I promise you that you will find better people and actual friends. You are amazing just the way you are, please always remember that as hard it can be sometimes. 💜.

Auntie diaries meant a lot to me too as a trans man, for the same reasons you list, and for seeing that kendrick looks up to his uncle and cousin in that wholesome way. Im pretty disappointed in j.cole and me being offended over his transphobia keeps getting brushed off as just riding for kendrick.

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

I am so, so glad it had that impact on you. It was such an overwhelming but beautiful moment when I had my first-listen to the album. And I am so sorry people are trying to invalidate your feelings about the lyrics. Kendrick is one of my very favorite artists ever, but, like you, my feelings have nothing to do with that, the lyrics are just so horrible. Thank you so, so much for taking the time to watch the video. 💜.

you don’t have to preface every statement by framing your perspective. It’s totally 100% fine to make this about you. I’m here to hear your perspective, that’s why i’m here never apologize for that.

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

I am really sorry. I did not mean to have that be distracting or bothersome. Thank you for the advice, and I will work on it. : ). Thank you also for taking the time to watch the video and valuing my perspective. It genuinely means a lot to me. 🖤.

@NithinJune

3 ай бұрын

@@LonelyStar747 you’re still apologizing 😅 you’re so real lol

As a trans man even tho Kendrick did make some decisions I don’t 100% ride with on Auntie Diaries (the f slur), his heart was absolutely in the right place and I think the good of him giving that message to his audience outweighs the route he took to get there. Cole on the other hand just used trans people as fodder for a stupid attempt at an insult that his fans keep trying to justify as a bar even though it doesn’t even make sense

Toxic masculinity in the black community is a real complex intersectional issue. We’re aware it exists, what’s the solution?

@loganisnotawake

3 ай бұрын

I think people like Kendrick are taking it a step in the right direction. Mainstream and respected lyricists like him will continue to exist and as long as songs like Father Time, Auntie Diaries and Mother I Sober can exist and find praise in the community, there will be a point where other conscious hip-hop artists will see that it’s okay to acknowledge the issue of toxic masculinity

@user-xr1pk4xo5y

3 ай бұрын

what do u mean with that

@user-asa187

3 ай бұрын

@@user-xr1pk4xo5y Don’t worry about it bro bro, it’s not meant for you.

We dont do transphobia ever

@kagetori7913

3 ай бұрын

It it’s based

@_Spider4

3 ай бұрын

whos we

When I thought J Cole couldn’t get any worse he pulls this. It’s insane how in 2024 Transphobia can be put in a major piece of media completely unchecked. Really shows how Comfortable the world is targeting them.

@namespaced4437

3 ай бұрын

wdym cant get any worse? jcole is usually a pretty aware rapper especially on songs like High for Hours or Brackets. Also reaching, there is plenty of racism, homophobia, xenophobia, and other types of hate everywhere? Transphobia is actually going down as people become more tolerant to something that in effect is pretty new (full gender replacement surgery wasnt possible until recently). People hate on new things all the time, but when was the last time you heard a news story about a transgender person being attacked? Istg some people are chronically online to a point where they just believe anything. there has been more violence from police brutality and prison systems that either institutionalize or keep fasley accused people in them for a while, why not discuss that instead?

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

@namespaced4437 look up the story of a person named Nex Benedict.

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

I will put this in a second comment, and done replying to this after this. There will always be more stories about police brutality and prison issues worldwide towards other minorities because we do not make up that much of the population compared to them. I am not trying to compare any of the issues other communities face vs us because just as equally as horrible stuff happens all around. But of course you will hear less about trans hate attacks and other stories as we are statistically a smaller minority. Look up some of these issues trans people are facing in places like Ohio, Tennessee, Michigan and especially Florida with bathroom, ID bans and unfair and discriminatory requirements in places like Tennessee for even getting on HRT. In some places they want to and sometimes can prosecute people for some of this stuff and they are getting away with it because legally they literally just can right now, and it will only get worse depending on how the upcoming election goes. I am not going to sit here and try to change your mind past this comment because I doubt I will. But everything I said here are statements I can back up with actual facts.

Appreciate you talking about this 🙏🏼 as a fellow trans woman and kendrick fan I've lost any respect I had for j cole, I hadn't listened to too much of his music before but I def won't be going forward. no tolerance for transphobia 🏳️‍⚧️

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

This means so, so much to me. Thank you so, so much for taking the time to watch this. It has been a hard topic for me to talk so publicly about, so it means a lot having the support from someone who is also a trans woman. 💜 🏳️‍⚧️. Thank you : ).

I know this comment is late but I appreciate you covering this. J Cole has bern fake woke for a long time

I too have expressed my disdain for these lyrics by J. Cole. It was such a disappointing discovery because prior to this, I considered J. Cole to be one of the more mature progressed rap artists.

Agree, one of the worst lines ever, especially coming from someone who claims to be socially conscious.

Was everyone ok with the misogyny in his lyrics before?

@LonelyStar747

3 ай бұрын

That is a fair point, but it does not make this any less worth talking about. But I do understand what you are pointing out because he has had poor lyrics in the past.

@terryknight5869

3 ай бұрын

@@LonelyStar747 But he didn't apologize for his misogyny! He didn't lose sleep over that!

Kinda glad that I was never into J. Cole to begin with lol

It's j Cole, he doesn't care anymore about cancel culture. Dude literally said it in one of the songs, I can see his side and a person of the trans community side; I guess that's just rap culture.

It didn’t bug me, it was distasteful but a lot worse things are said in rap all the time. Shouldn’t let words hurt you, just keep doing you. I’m just glad we live in a country where we can all be ourselves, people have the rite to have an opinion on that and that’s okay but it’s our responsibility to not focus on the negativity.

@sofiantz2142

3 ай бұрын

well its their opinion to focus on the negativity and want positive change..

@F3RR3LL

3 ай бұрын

@@sofiantz2142 yeah you can’t focus on the negativity though because it will always be there, you gotta be the change you want to see in the world.

@PDASEX

3 ай бұрын

L comment. There is negativity that causes regression in the world and we can’t advance the human experience by just not paying attention to it.

@F3RR3LL

3 ай бұрын

@@PDASEX L comment by saying be the change you want to see? Theres people you just can’t change, just like you wouldn’t allow someone to change you. Some people feed off of the attention they get also feeding their negativity, do you though. We’re individuals and unique in our own ways with our own minds and perspectives and that’s what makes life so beautiful.

I knew someone would complain about this lyric. It’s a bar. A play on words. It doesn’t say anything transphobic or against trans people, it’s simply a play on words

I am a Cole fan and I am in the LGBT+ identity. I really feel bad for my trans people. You go through a lot. I hope it wasn't transphobic. It seems to be him being honest that a trans man was born with a V. What seems to be my personal issue is that he wasn't actively trying to be transphobic but he was being insensitive.

Lol awesome.

Apparently everything is "transphobia". LOL

you ngas find anything to cry over 💀🙏🏾

@chaseatlanticfan6553

3 ай бұрын

but it he was saying anything anti christian yall would be spamming him with hate , noone is crying its blantaly transphobic and if ur apart of that crowd leave we dont gaf about u

@_Spider4

3 ай бұрын

​​@@chaseatlanticfan6553 nah i woudnt be mad over some lyrics, nice assuming tho , nothing wrong with transphobia 🤷🏾

@Timothy58

3 ай бұрын

@@_Spider4YOU DID NOT JUST FUCKING SAY NOTHING IS WRONG WITH TRANSPHOBIA??? What the actual fuck

I rebuke any spiritual attacks of confusion in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen 🙏

@Timothy58

3 ай бұрын

The hell does this have to do with anything?

@cynical_chai8922

3 ай бұрын

Lol you clicked on the vid, an took the time to write this out. Make it make sense ☠️🤦‍♂️

@Stitchgamer863

3 ай бұрын

huh

@crd7887

3 ай бұрын

@@cynical_chai8922 I don’t believe I spelled anything wrong. So I’m sure it makes sense. Maybe you must be confusing the meaning of one of the words, with another word.

@kiarce3

3 ай бұрын

@@cynical_chai8922 and the message got to u lmao