I keep thinking about Lydia and the amazing marriage she will have I hope she will bring us along in that because I just love to see her go through life's seasons and I know she will be an excellent wife and mom

Petition to have more TMI episodes per week. Coz what will I do after finishing this episode😢

@kc_Dorcus

10 ай бұрын

Me too...i have been waiting for what seems like forever

@EuniterMumbua

10 ай бұрын

I support

@sashanjeri1575

10 ай бұрын

I 👍 agree

@pearlowen5130

10 ай бұрын

Radical acceptance 😂

@EuniterMumbua

10 ай бұрын

Nancy listens please pass our plea

Murugi is a wonderful mom,,everytime she talks about how she parents,,I feel lucky for her kids,,you are doing amazing dear

@thatobaloyi6194

10 ай бұрын

The best

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🙂 ❤️

@glowriacheru4114

10 ай бұрын

Truee

What a beautiful episode. As a counselor in the making, this episode hits home. The 1st time I heard about "people pleasing" was in therapy 4yrs ago. I just thought I was a nice person 🤣🤣. People pleasers started off as parent pleasers. We don't just happen, we are made by our experiences.

🤣🤣🤣when Lydia said the Quote" Those who dont trust control" 🤣🤣🤣Murugi's facial expression is hilarious...

@jasminejefwa1237

10 ай бұрын

Stop it 🤣🤣

I was writing notes as I watched lol 😂 People pleasers started out as parent pleasers: a fact esp growing up with a parent who expected perfection and for you to be everybody's good example except yourself. I used to say I wouldn't want a christian therapist. Sometimes I just can't reconcile going to therapy and being christian. But at this point in my journey I feel like I would actually want one just to hear their perspective and how to reconcile those two. Hmm... Being an overfunctioning woman and it being generational trauma is true especially for African women. Remember those memes of never being idle in an African home cause your mum expects you to be doing something all the time? Resting is seen as laziness. You can't even sleep in cause why are you not up at 5.30am🙆🏽‍♀️

Murugi proud of you for starting and staying in therapy. And Lydia for working on yourself enough to influence us. 🎉

Lyd's dress is giving ❤❤❤

Loved today's episode. I started therapy consistently and I love the journey heeh! It's the unpacking for me, something I have learned in therapy is "My therapist told me that, therapy is like rehab, you have to be more aware, sacrifice, accountability, and be ready to embrace the change", also I love how deep you get into the sessions and do a deep dive into your childhood and discover a lot that probably might have contributed to the way you are behaving now. Also, another thing I learned and I'm still learning in therapy is losses, losing ourselves in relationships, friendships, toxic work environments, situation-ships, jobs, etc etc you name it. Therapy is eye-opening and I'm really loving the journey. Also the confidence that you gain,heeh! wacha tuu!

Whew! Such gems dropped on this episode, thank you ❤️

You guys have really spoken to my soul here. Thanks so much

Wow! I love you both. I have learned a lot. So inspiring, therapy it is!

The eloquency and articularcy is top tier 👌

This was such a great episode. It literally felt like a therapy session

Can't wait for part 2 of this episode. All that has been discussed is relatable.

Thank you ladies for enlightening us with this ❤️❤️ therapy episode waiting for part 2 loading.....

beautiful and thoroughly informative ... thank you lovely ladies.

This episode is so timely , thanks girls! The self awareness that comes with therapy is so refreshing 😌 You look stunning 😍

This episode needs a part 2

This conversation is so serious and timely❤❤

This needs a part two wehhh!! This is an episode I'll relisten to.i was listen whilst doing other things .but this needs a pen a notebook.

Murugi, here's to remind you that you are doing amazing as a mum,wife, business lady literally everything and all the sacrifices.This episode was deep ♥️ sending you hugs🤗

Both you ladies are really excellent speakers on the podcast. It’s my first time watching one of your episodes - really impressed!

Wueh...this was just too wholesome. I needed this. Thank you ❤

If you see the way I "therapize" everything these days because of you people 😂❤️❤️ I'm loving the growth in me

@Lavvvvvyyyyy

10 ай бұрын

Same sis same🥺🥺🥺

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

We love this for you🥺🤎

This episode resonated w me so much bc starting therapy saved my life fr. I'm glad I get to work on my trauma and break generational curses as early as my 20s because I am investing in a lifetime of a healthy mind. Kwanza when Lydia said you can set boundaries from pain, I paused as well. We don't grow up watching many women choose themselves and create boundaries that serve them. Sometimes I like to take a nap even when I haven't worked at all because I can just rest, just because! Unlearning hypervigilance and being in the moment is definitely taking some time but I love the idea of enjoying the bus stop because I am here, now. Can't wait for part 2!!!! Also, loving seeing y'all getting that Betterhelp bag!!!!!!!

Wow this is an amazing conversation right there. You guys are doing an amazing job.The day I met a therapist from Wema Infinite my life is never the same. If they get to see this I appreciate them.

Better help is huge congratulations babes 🎉❤ Massive love from UAE

Loved this episode ❤. Resonated with a lot of points. It's definitely TMI❤.

My therapist taught me to trust my instincts. I've often been scared of getting it wrong and hurting people, but that thing has been right all the time. I also love how therapy is more about guiding you to find the path that feels best for you, rather than handing you a solution on a silver platter. I remember asking my therapist if I should break up with someone because of the "petty" reasons I listed (I didn't want to be around them, their existence annoyed me,...) and she just kept asking me how I feel and what I really want😭. It was so frustrating, like woman, I'm paying you to help me make a choice😢. (She was right though.)

An amazing episode...I love it here..therapy all day everywhere

Such a worthwhile conversation!

Such an enriching conversation on therapy!!

I love how reassuring Lydia is❤

This episode has been amaizing!!!! Can’t wait for part 2… I might actually go back to therapy after this episode…I thought I was done but, aperently NOT after watching this episode … something normal to me might be just a societal belief/custom or something I picked up from my family or maybe my husband !!!! Literally evaluating how I think/ believe ! I need to unpack a lot ! I can watch 100 of this episodes! Mentally stimulated! Good job guys❤❤

It's how much I related with Murugi's hypervigilance! Can't wait for part two!!

Waiting for the part 2... Thanks girls❤

Love that it's okay to have a standard for the type of therapist you want.

What a timely episode! I have reached out to therapists here in Melbourne for my first ever consultation. Will let you know how it goes🙂

My goodness. I honestly need therapy. It has been a really informative and eye opening episode. I love being here. Thank you #TMI

Wow this episode felt refreshing. GOOD JOB

I am feeling a lot of things about today's episode. Well i guess cant put it to words but Thank you.

☺ many lessons here, thank you. What if resting feels like no purpose. Doing tasks gives us purpose and validates our existence.

I am to work and always at work when they drop the episode i am so used and comfortable listening to the podcast on spotify but i had to switch to youtube to listen and watch this this has me holding in my tears cant wait to get my car and pour them just because of how powerful and at the same time emotional this podcast is ❤️ i have always been a sister of tmi since episode 5 and this women are it you are getting to places !! This info needs not to be free IF YOU HAVE NOT SUBSCRIBED PLS DO!!!!

I totally feels like tharapy itself 😅. Lydia's radical acceptance, Murugi's not living in the moment just hits home. Hope theres a part two 🤞.

Overthinking and being all around like a clock.....and now the enlightenment about therapy.....it an episode on the right time.

“Question every SHOULD”Lydia KM.I love it!

Very nice episode.. Can't wait for part 2

This episode is it!!! I have always thought i'm a selfless person kumbe i'm a great people pleaser and therapy made me realise how i have been saying no to myself while saying yes to everything and everyone. I'm glad Lyd made me realise going to therapy is a form of self love and i'm on that healing and self love journey and i love it guys!

We tried therapy as a family when i was younger n i remembered my mum walking out after that never thought too much therapy. But listening to this i think i van relate to so much now i think i need therapy

Been to therapy and one thing is for sure It's the best gift you can give yourself. Therapy is a self-investment.

The hypervigilance/ over functioning may mostly come from the way we were raised. We have been taught that sitting still is wrong, that to be productive/ efficient you always have to be moving and thinking of the next thing etc. So eventually sitting still becomes sin! 😂

@mitchellmaina83

10 ай бұрын

The way our parents get sooooo irritated to see us resting even for a second

@dyliabella

10 ай бұрын

i find that i can only fully relax when ive done everything i planned out, especially around the house. when we were kids it was an abomination to watch telly or play outside when chores had not been done

People pleasers start off as parent pleasers. So insightful!

I loved this episode 🎉🎉🎉... This year i took a step of courage and visited a therapist for the first time. When i entered the first thing i saw was a glass of water and a tissue and told my self i don't think im gonna neeed that but let mee tell you maina i opened up and cried. Cant wait for my second session. Ive seen my life changing and you guys have also been an impact.

Much needed episode. Girls!!!!!!!!!

I wanna comment but I've lost words that explain my thoughts right now ❤ d episode ladies❤

I thoroughly enjoy TMI content. 💛💛💛💛

Thank you ladies this is an eye opener. Gosh the way ladies are self aware these days I wish men too take this path. I'm definitely starting therapy soon. Its funny how us ladies feel it's all about us, even on our men's special days instead of them we flip it n turn it about us. Sigh! An episode we all needed❤

loved this episode... and the episode is 1:11:11 long, alignment. I've been to therapy. twas enlightening. ... but she didn't know that there are types of attachment styles, so we couldn't delve into how i thought it affected a sizeable part of my interactions both at work and outside work.

Loved this episode so much ♥️

Finally am plunging on therapy come 2024.I think it's time to deal with childhood trauma,s and break generational curses.I love Lydia KM dress❤

I love all your episodes, but this one🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

You are both the perfect combo!. Lydia and Joan

I wish you would share your therapist Murugi🤩,we have soo many similarities. But definitely will check the betterhelp. Can't miss any TMI podcast since i discovered you a few months ago.I even started watching from the beginning just to make sure i don't miss anything. You two are a perfect duo and i often find myself laughing at your jokes. Keep up the good work.

Love this episode so much

Oh what a wholesome episode!!

Murugi I'm with you there by the hiring myself... Im intentional on releasing and firing myself, and letting go of the people pleaser in me.

I love it here and this is going to be one of my favorite episodes yet. Healthy self aware people are my kind of people.Lets heal.❤

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Sharing the same feeling for sure🤗

Hey guys u look refreshing 😍 n love the therapy session

It's like I'm in therapy already omg 👁️👄👁️ the people pleasing is definitely true and it's something I'm really working on right. Thanks babe's for this, I will start therapy and update y'all. Much love ❤

There's a lot of gems here, cant wait to unpack

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Take your notebook out 🌼

Wednesday is probably now my favorite day as well. I started podcasting earlier this year and after struggling to figure out my life balance, I decided I’d be putting out episodes on Wednesday as well. It’s so rewarding to watch a fresh episode of TMI when I know i have an episode up as well Great episode as always loves

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Congratulations on your new podcast🎉, we both have our episodes up on Wednesday 😍🤩. Thank you 🤎

My mom is EXACTLY LIKE JO.SHE MICROMANAGES EVERYTHING N LORD! IM SO SCARED I'VE PICKED IT UP .ANYWAY Working on it in therapy.

People pleasers started off as parent pleasers..ding ding ding😣..So true and it’s exhausting 😓

Also struggling with 'living in the moment ' .... working to change this cause you constantly miss out on the present 🤗 I'll hop on that assignment too Murugi 😊

Being in the moment can be challenging, but my perspective shifted when I understood that I don't move through time. I am constantly in the present, and time has an obligation to find me here. Instead of getting lost in the past or the future, acknowledging this fact and having faith that time will naturally unfold, I am able to fulfill my purpose using the time that comes my way. This understanding has helped me a lot with things like imaginary suffering and anxiety. It has brought clarity, focus, and contentment into my life. I have found internal rest, and let me tell you, resting within is synonymous with heaven.

@catherinepnyambura5999

10 ай бұрын

This is a beautiful comment. I am reminded of the joy of enjoying the present moment.

Tell me why I'm 2hrs late😫 anyway it's definitely TMI guys and our hosts are back❤ murugi n the family are back from vacation and Lydia is back to the gym after the chipmunk situation ❤we love and missed you guys..Thank you for another episode 🎉🎉🎉

Wueh! I feel like this episode was for me. Yes mimi Murugi😌, I've been thinking of going to therapy since I first heard Lyd mention it. This was wholesome warembo👌🏾🔥. Asante❤

Murugi is soooo beautiful omg Your eyes are just gorgeous 🥰..I love both of y'all so much ❤️

I loved this episode. This is what i want people to hear when i speak😂😌

Always grasping a thing from all your episodes, lydia that dress looks good on you 😍, Murugi's dress is cute too, the pattern 😍

Very enlightening episode. The point about not enjoying things in the moment is relatable , as I often find myself focused on overanalyzing current problems and creating scenarios for future problems. It made me pause and realise that I am living at least one of the wishes of my 2022 self. Keep it up with the vulnerable conversations About the point on women and rest. I think at least in Africa, with how culture and religion is structured, we are conditioned to attach it to value and showing love. We have been conditioned to "love" the hard life and struggle, even to the point of fighting measures that can make our lives easier and more efficient. About the point of christian based therapists and advice. I think the problem arises from two things: 1. The fact that mental illnesses arent given the importance they deserve. The old school mentality of its an evil spirit and pray for it to go away is still there. Reason 2. that some christians see going for therapy as a sign that they are admitting they dont believe in God's strength. The realization that prayer isnt a magical pill that fixes problems and that practical real life solutions also known as taking action or seeking help is needed( for whatever issue) is a hard fact for many to accept.

Lydia the dress is giving 😍. Beautiful ladies and episode

Loved this, first comment. This makes my Wednesday. it's now a thing. I love the discussions.

Amazing episode❤

We need a part two😭😭

I have actually been looking for a therapy plug..A lot has been happening in my life and it gets so overwhelming sometimes. It feels like am strong to hold on and then other times,it hits you like a hurricane and you just want someone to talk to..Thanks for this

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Now you have BetterHelp,and it will get better babe hung in there 🤎

Just realised that this guy I'm talking to is going for therapy. I'm in love already😂❤

Wednesssssdays!!! Thank you for ever existing.

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Oooh yasss #tmiwednesday

More of this please

1 hour 11 minutes 11 seconds 😂, gotta go get a snack, a couple actually, cause imma about to enjoy this one 😂😂🎉.

Omg we need more episodes like these😘

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

We gatchu babe🥺

This is my favourite episode so far. 🎉🎉 Thank you for sharing your experiences. Love from Malawi🇲🇼

@miriamshaba5004

10 ай бұрын

Malawi nzanga ndakuona it is definitely TMI🔥🔥💯💯

@JustMissKalea

10 ай бұрын

Hallo hallo asisi

This episode is therapy ❤

First and foremost y'all look so beautiful in those dresses, Lydia is right about that pink.big up ladies

Murugi you are doing amazing with Ethan❤

Therapy is crucial i have a relative abroad each time she feels low or stuck about something she like i need to schedule a session with my therapist... sounds so easy .. we need to normalize it

A big pause on « radical acceptance » coz why is my brain frozen and I have missed my bus stop?? I need therapy ASAP😂

Always on time!🎉❤

@tmipodcastke

10 ай бұрын

Always! ✨️✨️

Heh!wow!!this has been therapy for me!love you ladies