I think the bit about biasing the room is so true! More junior people might be scared to speak up if you've already said what you think and if their opinion differs. This way you're getting in much more diverse input and it makes your life easier as well because you can hear a wider range of opinions to then consolidate a solution from.

I would like to ask everyone here to pray for our home and our people here in South Africa. A revolution is starting and mass looting and destruction of malls and shopping centers, all for a fight to release a criminal with 700+ cases against his name from prison. We fear for what will happen next and we need the prayers from everyone around the world to ask God to save this once beautiful country. I thank you all kindly. God bless!

@antoinettafisher5390

2 жыл бұрын

Praying for you and your country! So sorry for this trying time that you fellow peoples!! Father in Heaven, send your angels to help bring the true deliverance from this tyranny. Help the warriors of this nation take back their country. Protection for the innocent...release you holy power in all areas of this tragedy.

@razorX_09

2 жыл бұрын

​@@antoinettafisher5390 I believe this shall find its end soon but it will be hard until then. Every prayer gives us more strength thank you very much :)

The last to speak but not the one who always needs the last word.

@joemitchell6581

3 жыл бұрын

what's the difference? I am generally interested in why "someone who needs to get the last word in" is seen as something negative. I don't see it as a positive either, it just is. In any conversation someone has to speak last. I am never consciously aware of who gets the last word in, in any conversation I have. But I have been told this a few times in my life and I have asked why does it matter who gets the last word in but no one has articulated why that is? Please help me understand

@mycrowsoffed

3 жыл бұрын

@@joemitchell6581 I've had that too - in my younger years it felt thrown at me as an insult or something by certain family members who I just couldn't see eye to eye with; something to shut me down with, who knows why - their reasons were their own and remain forever mysterious to me.

@joemitchell6581

3 жыл бұрын

@@mycrowsoffed thanks for the reply. Yeah I noticed it usually happens when I am having a disagreement as well. And to take it a step further, it appears that it only happens when I am "winning" the arguement. Haha

@melbeth79

3 жыл бұрын

I think it can be used at times out of insecurity (though not always). Some feel they have to be seen as right all the time and if everyone does not agree with them they cannot be happy. The last word can be used as a way of shutting anything further down in that context. Like I'm right, you're not. End of story. Getting the last word in these situations makes up for their insecurities, whether conscious or unconsious sometimes. This is different than waiting to speak last because that is not coming from that place but one of curiosity to hear other ideas first and wanting to make others feel heard.

*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”* *―C. S. Lewis* I may not know you personally, but I believe in you my friend! 🙏

@JayYangInspires

3 жыл бұрын

Bro ur here too

@JayYangInspires

3 жыл бұрын

And damn U grew a lot. Guess all the comments and good content are paying off

@alihussain6432

2 жыл бұрын

@@JayYangInspires but his growth isn't sustainable. He's a kid but a fraud as well.

Great advice. This last-to-speak approach will also make more room up front for the less vocal team members to get into the conversation. It gives the leader the opportunity to say, "Dale, what do you think?" or more subtle nonverbal invitations to get quiet people talking like welcoming eye contact.

@nabeelhakeem3593

2 жыл бұрын

What would u suggest to new employees?

@freshlifecounseling

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Alex! You are an awesome communication coach! I started taking your online course. They are wonderful! I hope you create some more. Look forward to learning more from your teaching!

This is really great feedback... As a leader, I always feel obligated to set the tone or frame the situation, but by doing so I never realized that I'm creating a bias. Thanks!

@RaZeyLWindBladE

3 жыл бұрын

There is a difference in a briefing and a meeting though. It's good to be last to speak in a meeting but you setting the tone and direction is what is needed in a briefing. Just my two cents. A directionless leader is worse than having a bad leader imo.

@thepsychologist8159

3 жыл бұрын

Well it all depends on what you're trying to achieve, which is unique to the specific situation. But regardless, as a leader you still need to set the tone and introduce the subject matter. If not, then you'll all be sitting there in complete silence.

@cipioo7

3 жыл бұрын

It's great that you admit you can improve ! Keep up with that employees will respect you more !

Only Simon can make my introversion feel so much better and positive! 😂❤️

This dude's a gem. I remember first watching a video of him a few years ago talking passionately about something with another fellow in a chair opposite. Seems like a very bright dude, Simon

It is truly amazing that most of us walk this planet Earth, being a fraction of what we are capable of being.

The last to speak will have the last word as well. Which is nice.

You literally have the best advice always !

This is so true Simon. It takes a lot of humility to be the last to speak... As a leader, It brings more respect on the table, for both you and your followers.

So many things Simon Sinek says have deep & resounding meaning for me. Be careful how you bias the room, and practice being the last to speak.

Yes, great advice. PLUS as the leader use Pass to the Right: everyone in turn gets 60 seconds to speak uninterrupted, starting with the person on leader’s right. A powerful little technique: elicits everyone’s opinion / ideas, fosters sense of inclusion AND promotes psychological safety through ‘equal voice’.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I totally agree!! Two ears, one mouth… use in that proportion! ☮️💖😁SSS

Thank you Simon. You are an inspiration. I love listening than speaking. Take care. God bless.

This is so difficult to do. I have been more aware of this over last year or so. But also, speak with people less now working from home over last year or so. Very important advice. Thanks for the reminder.

This is great insight! Listening is so much harder than speaking. We should all practise this habit

That's very true when leading a team I always ask so what do you all think. Just to get a feel or a vibe for where their mindset is. Most of the time I have better idea's. But I do take parts from others and thank them for their input. And they feel appreciated which makes them work harder.

Sounds great, to let people speak up.

SIMON you are such a great leader as well... and i love your HUMILITY by the way. Best advice I've heard in a long time and that i try to replicate on a daily basis for a few years 🙏🏻 There is also the underlying idea to tame the EGO... isn't it ?

Feel like you have to be in a position to speak last than just speaking last. This is good advice for people who are mid to higher in their careers.

Rightly said

A powerful man has big ears. ~ Japanese Proverb 😉

Wow Simon, I need to learn to shut up and speak last. The perspective changes when it's your time to speak. 🙏

Yes.. You Absolutely Right... You Are So Inspiring To Me.. Thank You So Much 🙏🙏🙏

Great advice. Some people also make a nasty habit of interrupting others, depriving others in the room of the great ideas of the original speaker.

Thank you

*Most people sit around and wait for inspiration, just some rare people get up and get to work.* *I may not know you personally, but I believe in you that you will succeed!* 🙏

Active listening helps.

Ive read that great Ceo’s of Japanese comapanies do the exact same thing. Most junior persons are asked to be first in voicing their opinion and the last is CEO.

to be the last but the most important person to speak in a meeting or some other conversations.

Thanks for sharing Simon. Really good stuff.

Thank you.

Great! In my birthday I had a dream about you,and this is a present to me. Thanks! God bless you. :)

Thanks ♥️

We have two ears and one mouth. We should always listen more than we talk

love your work , love your stuff. did the veil slip just a tad when it was " for folks like me" @25-29 seconds The point was for folks like us....

no doubt this skill is vitally important for all *****

Thankyou

great point

Great Advice ❤️👍🏻

Most people listening to this are not currently leaders. Is this advise the same when you are not the leader in the room. The dilemma I have is you need to share your ideas to show that you are adding value but then at what point in your leadership journey do you start to speak last ?

He was not a tribal chief but part of the chief council.....am from the same village i know..but great advice

does anyone know what kind of glasses he is wearing? I absolutely love them and would like to buy them. Thanks in advance

@22Platypus

2 жыл бұрын

Ugly ones

Heard the same about King faisal of Saudi Arabia.

Like the video, and a great concept. What is the hazard or risk when someone insists on talking after the leader, even when the group’s hierarchy makes it clear who the leader is, and even when the leader has used conclusory remarks? In my experience, at best, this can set a poor tone or at worst, undermine whatever messaging the leader has just synchronized with the group. These last minute contributions are often casually regarded as harmless “oh by the ways,” but are they sometimes abused by those who just want to be heard speaking? “…Oh yeah, whatever they said is important - but remember, put your garbage bins out on Tuesdays.” [ie, trivial remark] 🤔

The hardest thing is sometimes if someone doesn’t allow you to speak last- it can be a power struggle with new leaders vs ex leaders.

what is the 2nd recommendation? (I was listening)

Character In the video It's great, I like it a lot $$

Now I feel guilty :) but just a bit...thanks for this

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What was the second thing he remembered?

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Hi Simon. Thank you for all you do for us. How do you handle rejection of an employee is not valuable anymore? I work at Trauma hospital. We are in front line. It’s hard to stay in that positive bubble when everyone is angry. My concern with all this anger creates negative patient care in process.

@KlaudiaGanancial

3 жыл бұрын

All of us who are in health care feel bunred out already when faced with entitled angry ones everyday. I get you bro.

@suwan1986

3 жыл бұрын

Be the leader you wish you had.. when you can't change the situation, you can change you.

How Some People Win Everything Like Some People Are Successful , Rich , Healthy , Good Relationship Good Businessman, And Good Leader, And Best Decision Maker... Please Make A Video

@LittleDC23

3 жыл бұрын

What are you even saying....

@Rakesh-nn1ox

3 жыл бұрын

@@LittleDC23 I Dont Know. Because I am Not Achieve Everything.

@LittleDC23

2 жыл бұрын

@@Rakesh-nn1ox lol whut

I'm the best listener.

Please add English subtitles... It's autogenerared that's why Its go wrong sometimes... And you speak fast too... So plss add...

If you need to control someone, you aren’t a leader. A true leader inspires others to follow them of their own free will.

That is true. However 90-99% head want to speak first. Thier is completion to who speak first

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Last to comment !

How can I contact you directly because I would love to have a video chat with you or to send you some messages.

@mikeg5486

2 жыл бұрын

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@shift5534

3 жыл бұрын

Confidence.

@Rakesh-nn1ox

3 жыл бұрын

@@shift5534But What Is The Exact Reason .... I Think Successful People Only Know This

@Simon Sinek: The video still looks like you were using a webcam to shoot it. Maybe consider using a second camera next to it that has a higher video quality. That way you can keep the webcam for the talks and upload the video with the good quality to KZread.

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Sir What You Learn From Your Life Lessons

@thepsychologist8159

3 жыл бұрын

Sir, why do you start your sentences with 'Sir'?

@Rakesh-nn1ox

3 жыл бұрын

Because I Will Respect

@JerGol

3 жыл бұрын

@@thepsychologist8159 English is clearly not their first language and it's pretty likely that their own language includes formal address which English doesn't have. We have no structure for differentiation between informal address and formal address.

@thepsychologist8159

3 жыл бұрын

@@JerGol "it's pretty likely that their own language includes formal address which English doesn't have - That's because English people don't typically have a class-culture or expectation. Like the mechanic who came out to my house the other day. He had migrated from Africa 10 years ago. Every time he spoke to me he'd call me "boss". I had to respectfully ask him not to call me boss because a) I'm not his boss, b) I'm not above him and, c) I don't want him to perpetuate the class-culture that's typically inherent in his native land. When a person uses the words "sir" or "boss", it's often associated with the person feeling inferior. We're all equal, we all put our pants on the same way.

Tribal Cheif that is interesting!

What if your starting a team? Do you still speak last?

Do u meditate?

I’m so late at speaking I’m literally the only person left in the room

the 11 dislikes were finger slips 👇🏻

what about going into a meeting with a problem and a terrible solution? Lift up the people there by letting them show that they are needed, as you clearely did not have a clue :D

People can see or better... feel transparency, if you are the last to speak it better be for the right reasons and that is if you really value your teams opinion. Anything else would be considered manipulation...

Fastest 2 minutes.

Now, if only proximity-to-the-camera skills made the cut.

A great leader is a good listener, right?

My bosses are the first, middle and last to speak, and don't ask for opinions. I hate it.

Ahhh...advice for organizations with rationale and reasonable people. In a highly bureaucratic organization, this technique would fail more than succeed.

Oru poodekyu pattila kunnol... Dailogue...

I think you should do something bigger than just speak, you should try and than speak... And give us advise

Interesting fact. What was the first country Nelson Mandela visited after released? …Cuba because of their unwavering support for his cause. Americans missing in action of course

Selfish dog tricks, you know.

Wow I'm so happy😅 I have been earning $14,000 returns from my $5,000 investment every 13 days.

Simon says "He's an important case for (hesitates) ... for folks like me" (as he dismissively turns his head to the side away from the camera). Hmm, what does the body language say about that last statement and action? 'I'm saying it's for folks like me, but I don't actually believe it'. When a person is being (truly) sincere when describing something, they continue to look at the audience and show that sincerity while speaking.

@ronaldolzheim363

3 жыл бұрын

I think simon would want to make a split with toxic last word or leader last word. I think leaders don´t call themself leaders, they just act like leaders. It´s not shouting, a big personality or being very intelligent in some area it´s more a uniq combination and confimation of who to turn to when things go down.

@suwan1986

3 жыл бұрын

I think he is just trying to have a universal figure as case study.. Nelson is a political figure, that's the fact, political leaders is not always the best example, but Nelson Mandela is exceptional one.

@thepsychologist8159

3 жыл бұрын

@@ronaldolzheim363 I completely agree. The analogy I use is "if a plane crashed and we were all stuck on a deserted island". A lot of people who are 'appointed' leaders would have no respect given in that situation because they were never true leaders, they never gave respect, they never sought to inspire others. A true leader is a leader in any situation, because it's who they are.

@ronaldolzheim363

3 жыл бұрын

@@thepsychologist8159 yes that's true

@VegetaPrinceOfSaiyans

3 жыл бұрын

Have you ever spoken to an introvert? Or someone with ASD? You would think they're always lying if you follow those body language rules.

is this stand-up comedy???

In practice, this is a giant problem, and in my experience, terrible advice. Imagine the leader fails to raise a topic that you know needs to be discussed, something super obvious that surely they'll mention, but somehow they don't. And they spoke last, so the meeting is over, and you're sitting there frustrated. How would you feel? Bad, unwanted, disrespected. In other words, speaking last is a way to cut off feedback, especially critical feedback, and one effect of this is that people who are upset or troubled don't get their voices heard, and trust is shattered. You could have suggested speaking "almost last", and then I'd be with you, but to suggest speaking last, wow, I've seen it fail for years.

@JasonManners

3 жыл бұрын

After speaking you ask if there are any more concerns or questions.

Evadra ivi kanipettindi antha sollu ivani waste vini visigipiya thammulu edo cheptaru😭

Simon is so HOT. Its insane. But he needs to shut his mouth sometimes. Blah blah blah all the time 🙄

How hilarious, another dude who emerged from school/ university a fully fledged guru....without a day's life experience, let alone leadership experience.