I am working in Switzerland. Without a serious illness and diagnostic you can't get assisted suicide in Switzerland. There must be a lot he hasn't told his family.

@kathrin5721

15 күн бұрын

Is Depression counted as serious illness? I know that J.L. Godard had an assisted suicide without having been terminally ill.

@sandraguidemann8924

14 күн бұрын

@@kathrin5721 it is possible to get assisted suicide if you are suffering from depression but it is very complicated. Your psychiatrist has to confirm that there are no more options of treatment, that you are unbearable suffering and your wish to die is NOT a symptom of your depression. It is very rare for a depressed person to be granted assisted suicide in Switzerland.

@lemaxx2638

11 күн бұрын

So if I'm healthy but just don't want live anymore, I won't be granted this ? So disappointing, I thought is for everyone older than 18 years old

@sandraguidemann8924

10 күн бұрын

@@lemaxx2638 no in Switzerland it would not be possible. Perhaps in Belgium it would. As I know in Belgium not only assisted suicide but even euthanasia is a constitutional right - also for patients with depression or dementia and even for children.

@ireneshilling1849

10 күн бұрын

This is not the first case, a lot slip through the Swedish system

As a mother who has lost a son to suicide myself, I think that there are potential benefits to this way of ending one's life. Almost all suicide methods are violent, traumatic ways to go, leaving the family with a harrowing ordeal regarding identification. One of the biggest questions that haunts me is "Did he suffer before he died?". Another thing that hurts me every day is that my boy had to die alone. Done in the right way, euthanasia could alleviate all of these issues, and whilst the family would still have to come to terms with a terrible loss, the traumatic element of the bereavement would be greatly reduced. With the benefit of hindsight, and knowing the complexities of suicide grief , I would suggest that this way would be the lesser of two very sad and awful options.

@stevenbaker7696

29 күн бұрын

Sorry for your loss and thanks for your informed reasoned and level response.

@fionabattrum7395

27 күн бұрын

We should be able to say if we want to end our lives . No one absolutely no one has the right to tell some one else how much they have to endure. My son has been suicidal I have said to him that it is his choice in the end. Please don’t do it in a messy way where you may suffer further. I have told him if it ever got to that point it would be better to plan it via an assisted death organisation. Obviously my hope and prayers would be this process where he cd be open would provide a window of opportunity of support to avoid ending life. I am so very sorry that you went through the loss of your son but I so agree with your comments sadly borne from the wisdom that comes from experience

@ginam4387

25 күн бұрын

I am very sorry. And I agree with you as when we love someone we don't want them to suffer and need, as difficult it is, to respect their choices or lack of choices, sometimes.

@whitneyanders5945

24 күн бұрын

I agree. I almost think that those opposing assisted dying are advocating for painful, lonely deaths of people that have no hope. It is better to die with dignity than in secret and in pain and leaving a scene that is shocking and traumatic to those who find it.

@carolhogg6516

24 күн бұрын

@@whitneyanders5945well said. I agree with you 100%.

I think he was in deep emotional pain. He sounds like a lovely man. Ending your life isn't an easy thing. Sad but I hope he's at peace now.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

That is just an assumption. He was a lovely man who had a loving family. Regardless of what people may think of them, he was very loved and they are affected by him going missing and finding out he was dead. They didn't have a chance to say goodbye before he was cremated. In fact they don't know the ashes they cremated are his. How can that be peaceful? I tend to think that if he was wanting to spare them pain, then he obviously wasn't thinking rationally because he would have left his family information to find him.

@Granny53

21 күн бұрын

I was an extreme deep despair in the 70s with a cute chronic panic and anxiety and severe depression suicidal also I worked through it but back then they helped you work through it and gave you medicine to take while you were working through it and I thank God he gave me my life back

@Granny53

21 күн бұрын

That's why I know it can be worked through

@Granny53

21 күн бұрын

I'm so very sorry for your loss

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

@@Granny53 What a powerful story you have. It's so important people hear stories like yours. Hope is the most powerful medicine. If a person doesn't have it themselves, its so important we carry it for them until they can find it for themselves. It doesn't mean we minimise their pain or minimise how difficult it is to live with that suffering. Its horrible and painful and sometimes people need to lean on us to get through it. I am happy to do that for people because others did it for me and I am still here. Sometimes I still have my moments however its nothing like it was. There really is help out there. Sometimes the hardest part is asking for it.

I've known three close people who took their own lives here in America. I can definitely relate to them. You "healthy" people have no clue just how awful mental suffering really is, and there really isn't help globally as far as I'm concerned.

@arnicepernice8656

24 күн бұрын

I agree. Her saying don’t talk like that to her son. He did not know how to tell her he was so distressed

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

@arnicepernice8656

19 күн бұрын

@@Sam___Smith we are also not infallible and satan is powerful.

@pamelajanewade938

14 күн бұрын

​@@Sam___Smith AMEN and AMEN 🙏🏻✝️♥️

@Sam___Smith

14 күн бұрын

@@arnicepernice8656 To whoever overcomes I will give him a crown of life -Jesus

He talked but nobody listened and some people can still eat when they are deeply depressed

@akpokemon

18 күн бұрын

the mention of eating well was more about the stomach issues and his mysterious weight loss...

@natalielongarini229

17 күн бұрын

@@akpokemon this isn't directed at you as I know you're simply pointing out the context of what she said but I have many issues with digestion and pain due to crohn's disease and severe endometriosis but just so others know, you can be in severe pain and experience debilitating stomach issues and still eat. Especially someone who is depressed and lonely and fighting a daily battle, sometimes food is a form of escape. It isn't uncommon for those who are struggling to even become emotional eaters and binge eat, even if it causes them physical pain

@sophiajordan7118

10 күн бұрын

don't judge, as a parent you always want to believe your kids are doing ok...

This is ridiculous and because he probably knew how the family would react - he kept them in the dark. That should be the point of this reporting: family ghosted due to lack of their acceptance and support. I do understand that he was loved and now missed - but this scaremongering isn’t helping anyone.

@christee9590

29 күн бұрын

Would you be so tolerant if a close member of your family took this path? Somehow I doubt it.

@ketgirl34ify

29 күн бұрын

I agree with you I really feel for the mum but as she said at least she didn't have to identify his body. It's sounds like he had already made his mind up. Unfortunately people will always commit suicide but at least this is the best option out of an impossible situation.

@puclopuclik4108

28 күн бұрын

​@@christee9590 Suicides do happened regardless the clinics. Would you rather the men to hung himself in a forest? Or jump under a train? At least he died in dignity and didn't cause any traumatic experience to random people who'll be unfortunate to find his body. Mental health is real problem and people do suffer.

@ssuwandi3240

28 күн бұрын

Not that case. The family was left in the dark by the clinic. If the staff really think they helped his dignity they should have just come forward in email or call. His mom is criticizing the clinic protocols but pls understand the rest was her grieving since she wanted to see his body. Not the ashes two months later.

@puclopuclik4108

28 күн бұрын

@@ssuwandi3240 The problem with inforing his family is, he has to agree to it. Although I agree that his death should have been reported straight to British authorities and they would inform the family.

I am in a wheel chair with MS I will die from it. I have spoken and signed the papers in NZ you have to have two Doctors to agree…. Why would I want to live when I can do nothing feel nothing and lay in a day bed all day. No thank you I want to die… all my family know, my son took a while but is on board now. I will be dying when I no longer use my hands and can not do anything I hope it will not be for a couple of years…… it’s my right to end it when I can not live my life with dignity… Sorry Mum but he organised it all. Take it from some one who knows about😢 depression he made his choice as how I would do it I love my family… but I have made my choice…

@carolhogg6516

24 күн бұрын

@lindaclifton2460. Hi there Linda, I fully agree and support your decision. I am also facing the same , although not MS (mine being a rare form of cancer diagnosed three years ago) I didn’t wish to undergo surgery and have just come to terms with the fact that I’ll just take each day as it comes. I also made enquires with the organisation and my doctor (and family) are fully aware of the choice I have made and will support me. To date I have not signed any paper work. Sending wishes your way. 🤗🇳🇿

@crocadoodle7101

23 күн бұрын

🌷❤️

@marisamartin3664

23 күн бұрын

It was not at all the same situation.

@Emma-Rose

23 күн бұрын

I totally appreciate and respect your decision. We will put our pets to sleep when they are seriously poorly to relieve their pain so why can’t we have the choice in our own countries for our own lives.

@lisabeaver2919

22 күн бұрын

​@@shannoncole6415 How long should I wait for God to heal me ?

People deserve MERCY.

@shannoncole6415

22 күн бұрын

God gives U Mercy

@makingtoast

17 күн бұрын

Amen 🙏

This is so sad. When his mom said that he wasn't at this stage....he was. That's why he did this. It's heartbreaking when our loved one feels this destitute. We want them to hang on but they just can't.

@sallyyeomans3456

24 күн бұрын

I don't actually know but one would guess if the clinic thought it was more of a depression they wouldn't have let him go through it.

@samjohns3227

22 күн бұрын

No one knows what he was going through except him and he made that decision with love for himself.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

@@samjohns3227 You do not know that at all. He could have believed her deserved to die which is very common with depression. He may well have believed he was a burden and it was better for everyone if he just went away and died. Depression is also like that. People can have an overwhelming amount of shame for existing. So he likely died from that. Not in the romantic way you are suggesting it happened. Surely you can see that there is no way of knowing except for what seems like a very secretive situation involving a lot of profit for a company who didn't have the decency to let anyone know in Britain.

When someone does something extreme without communicating, there's a reason they stopped communicating. Sorry for your loss, but this was what he wanted.

@mariamoments478

26 күн бұрын

There's never a good reason for suicide....jesus is the hope for the hopeless

@BeaIEngio

26 күн бұрын

There are often good reasons. You lack empathy and don't seem to realise that not many people in the UK believe in gods anymore. The crux of this debate is each to their own, his life, his choice, so wind it back in.

@mariamoments478

26 күн бұрын

@@BeaIEngio triggered by jesus 😇

@gelbsucht947

23 күн бұрын

@@mariamoments478Jesus won’t pay the rent or ease your unbearable suffering when you have a terminal illness.

@mariamoments478

23 күн бұрын

@@gelbsucht947 I'm sorry it can be a horrible pain to bare....suffering is inevitable in life and can be terrible cross to carry when you feel alone.

5:54 Mother says "And we had every hope that eventually the "problem" would be solved and his life would pick up again" Clearly the family had no idea what depression is, calling it a "low mood" is sooo far from the reality of it, they were ignoring his illness. This likely made him feel alone and unsupported.

@bereal6590

Ай бұрын

I would agree. A massive disconnect going on here

@sharonsnider9452

29 күн бұрын

I agree as well. Mental illness and depression are so misunderstood by people other than the person who is suffering. He believed his life on earth was unbearable and he was going somewhere that there would be peace and no more suffering. Someone dropped the ball here and didn’t get him the help he needed

@tashaax1993xanimalloverx

29 күн бұрын

The point is depression is a "state of mind" which can change...and mental health can make u do things u wouldn't normally hence why it's wrong...he may have changed his mind ffs

@white_clover767

29 күн бұрын

@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx he wouldn't have ended his life after 6 weeks of depression. This was likely a decades long issue. As it is for most people. He had the right to end that. If a person with depression is depressed for 75% of their life, its a valid choice to give up that 25% of normalcy to end the 75% of pain.

@christee9590

29 күн бұрын

​@@white_clover767How do you know this? How are you rationalising these bold statements? Are you speaking from experience or not? Either way you are in no position to judge if a particular depressed person's life is worth living. You don't know what was going on in this man's mind, none of us do. My guess is that he had more than depression, as his actions were extreme (and selfish), but sadly he did not get the psychological, psychiatric help that he needed. Shame that there is still a huge stigma with mental illness. No mother wants to see their child sectioned but it would have saved his life and his treatment would have been reviewed.

My uncle went from shoveling snow in December to being unable to go to the washroom on his own within 3 months. He didn't want to be a drain on his daughter's lives that, had moved home to take care of him. He had his favourite key lime pie and went to sleep in his own bed and that was it. He chose assisted because the alternative was dying in a hospital pumped full of narcotics surrounded by strangers and continuing to be a drain on his daughters. He didn't want their memories of him to be of his remaining days suffering in some hospice. The feeling at the funeral, that he had all planned, wasn't the usual sadness because he was the one who had decided. Seeing people dying with dementia and no longer having the ability to choose to die with any shred of dignity is heartbreaking. Their final days are monetized.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

Do you not have palliative care where people can die at home in your country?

@organicwest

21 күн бұрын

@@lulunz6809 Yes and no. depends on your living situation. Some pain will not always be relieved with drugs.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

@@organicwest Well we can't guarantee that euthanasia is painless for the person either. It does appear to be painless however. There are so many options when it comes to anxiety relief and pain relief. Pain isn't a given when it comes to dying naturally from illness or age. I have seen many deaths now. Some of those conditions were considered the most painful to experience. One person in particular refused any opiates up until the time that he had hours left and even then he wasn't in pain. He was scared so I reassured him. It isn't all love and light when someone is imminently dying however neither is childbirth. The perception of pain by onlookers is what needs to be educated more.

@organicwest

21 күн бұрын

@@lulunz6809 When my aunt is telling me that she is in pain, it is not my lack of perception of pain. My uncle just fell asleep. I do not need to be educated about pain.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

@@organicwest Yes that is good she can tell you. Were you able to give her something for that? I am so pleased you were able to be there for her. I can 100% say that some people cannot cope with knowing their loved one is dying and seeing the process happening. Its why its so important we teach people about the final stages of dying and the ways they can help their loved one including in home pain medications which can be given by patches, slow release pump, subcutaneous injections which are easy to give and how to wet their mouths. Hospice will have nurses and support people pop in especially for giving medication. I have seen one side of my family absolutely not cope with seeing my uncle dying. He was in no pain but they struggled because they thought he was and thought he would be embarrassed to see himself like that. They also got frustrated at how long it took. I ended up taking over supporting him because they wanted to go back to work etc. What he needed was their reassurance and love. He did tell me he was scared. So I reassured him and we did give him something to help him relax. He wasn't in any pain. I felt so sad that the people he loved the most, couldn't be there. So I was. I am sure people choose euthanasia because they are scared of dying in pain or without dignity. It doesn't have to be that way at all. They are scared because there hasn't been good education about dying and the process. They also don't want to be an inconvenience. That is horrendous that people are ending their lives prematurely when they don't have to.

Many mothers are clueless about how their sons are lonely and depressed.

@melodymacken9788

24 күн бұрын

Yeah that's right. I don't think the family had any idea of his emotional and mental pain.

@SandraGarcia-lj3bd

21 күн бұрын

Some know It and don't care.

@sensimania

20 күн бұрын

Those closest to us in general, are sometimes less likely to immediately notice anything wrong. Even if we're exhibiting all the signs under the sun. Sometimes they're more likely to react with frustration, or dismiss the signs as "a phase".

@steelearmstrong9616

9 күн бұрын

Most. They are useless

The mother's narrative seems to deliberately omit key details about her son's diagnosis and mental state. It's misleading to focus solely on the cost and ignore Switzerland's stringent requirements for assisted suicide, which includes a thorough assessment by multiple doctors and a confirmed terminal illness. His visible decline and repeated mentions of suicide suggest a depth of suffering that's being downplayed. It's important to respect his autonomy and decision, even if it's difficult to understand, especially as Swiss law allows for assisted suicide in cases of unbearable suffering, whether physical or psychological...

@Mili-bo6vu

10 күн бұрын

It’s very sad but there are none so blind as those who will not see. My ex husband took his own life and I was the only person who wasn’t shocked.

@ChrisNP87

10 күн бұрын

@@Mili-bo6vu I agree with you. I'm so sorry for your loss.

He probably couldn't get through to his GP surgery or get any mental health support. That's where we're at in the UK now. He was suffering with no chance of meaningful support & treatment other than "text SHOUT or call the Samaritans" neither of which you can get through to or who can offer the real help he needed. It's shameful. Deepest sympathy for him & his loved ones.

This is extremely weird. I live in Switzerland and I know the system. One can not be accepted for a médicalised scheduled suicide just like that. There is more to the story but it remains private..

@goldenrain87

17 күн бұрын

Exactly!!!

This poor man should not be vilified. His mother is just thinking of herself. He has every right to take his own life. I understand his reasons and hope that should the time come, I will be able to take my own life. He didn’t tell his family because he knew he would face opposition. How does his mother know what her son was feeling inside.

@shomshomni2314

21 күн бұрын

The man just thinking about himself also. He decided that his suffering was more important than his mother's and family.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

@barbarajimenez6312

18 күн бұрын

​@shomshomni2314 it's not a freaking competition of who is suffering the most, it's about a human being"s right to die with dignity. No one living in excruciating pain should be forced to live that way just to please their family.

@shomshomni2314

18 күн бұрын

@@barbarajimenez6312 It's still a very selfish thing to do. His family were not suffering before but now they are. He caused that. I often hear stories of the other family member committing suicide as a result.

@Luxx411

5 күн бұрын

@@shomshomni2314 He didn't cause that, his illness did. The widely held belief that a person can hold on to life no matter how unbearable their life is only creates more pain in the end as families are left completely bewildered as to why their relative did what they did. I think he should have phoned them before he died, though.

whats just as tragic is how clueless the whole family is

This mother obviously had no real understanding of her son. He chose to die alone and didn't want any of his family with him. The mother might well have been rather controlling and interfering.

@shannoncole6415

22 күн бұрын

That's a bit harsh. It is not the mother's fault that the son did not speak out. Don't blame anyone for the sin of another. You have clearly not been a mother. It is devastating and absolutely spiteful to leave people in hurting agony and pain because of your selfishness because you did or have God the Almighty in your life. You let the devil prevail. Instead we choose tablets, alcohol, drugs and anti depressants to fix us. Dr's are always prescribing meds that have side effects and dire consequences. God is love. Seek God First in everything.

@josephang9927

16 күн бұрын

Or maybe he did not want to hurt her in life.

@PunkDogCreations

16 күн бұрын

It sounds like you are projecting.

When a person wants to take their life, it’s to end his suffering as the suffering is too severe to endure. The suffering isn’t low mood, it’s a feeling of utter terror, and a sense of failure because the person feels that they must control it and make it stop, but they can’t stop it. The person may have been told its mind over matter so they believe their character is weak and they feel vulnerable because they can’t stop the feeling or terror, the terror is like an adrenaline rush to run,run, run, anywhere to escape but they know they can’t escape as it stems from themselves. Even little things, trivial things can trigger the terror, because it’s depression. Weight loss is usually caused by continuous diarrhoea as the emotions cause that upset. It’s a horrible condition, so horrific that to stop feeling that way as it’s hellish, the person decides to submit to death.

@Zurealz

22 күн бұрын

Very good description of depression ♥

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

@joem7799

19 күн бұрын

@@Sam___Smith of course we are not promised a perfect life, as this world is not Heaven!

The family didn’t really count his pain. He didn’t feel heard.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

I think its tempting to romanticize how he took his life. He had a history of mental health problems and was clearly ashamed of how his life had turned out so far. Is that a reason to help someone to end their life? Poor him, not having a wife and family or a home, so lets help him die?

@thelittlewitch253

21 күн бұрын

@@lulunz6809 Having been involved with mental health issues, this society is blind. The family stated he felt “low”. To me, that statement describes a culture of “oh you will get better”. “Buck up.” “You’ll get through this” This is an attitude that does not help a person nor validate what he is feeling. Hence my statement, he didn’t feel heard. We don’t know what avenues he took to find help, only his family’s viewpoint.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

@@thelittlewitch253 Well I definitely didn't say that. I have lived experience and have worked with many many other survivors who also have lost loved ones to suicide and I can say that through my experience and their's that we all were grateful we survived. It did take time however it did happen. Many of us got support through mental health services and counselling etc. That was despite there not being a great understanding until more recent years. I think its important not to place blame on the family or the people who tried to help him. He did what he did and they couldn't stop him. I think its important not to romanticize what he did by justifying his choice. And suggesting he did it to save them pain is very wrong. He caused them so much pain because he didn't tell them where he was going. He was missing and that was very unfair. He obviously wasn't thinking clearly or he wouldn't have chosen that decision.

He was 47 and it was his choice. Until you've lived with pain, you can not tell how it affects people. It was better that he went this way and not by violent methods. Most people when they are dying, wait until the family have left the room, then they just slip away. So sorry the family are having to go through this heartbreak and I hope they come to some kind of peace.

@whitneyanders5945

24 күн бұрын

My dad died like that. Was holding on whilst we were in the room. We told him it was ok to let go and left the room and when we came back he was gone.

@mummylilbear6088

22 күн бұрын

Been their worse depression thank God for helping me get help

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

A violent death wasn't inevitable in his case. People who are suicidal do change their minds and often survivors of suicide attempts are relieved it didn't work. His living situation could have changed and he could have fallen in love. While people seem to be supportive of his choice to end it all by getting help in Switzerland, they need to remember that there is suicide contagion that can happen so mental health services and public health put a lot of effort into making sure family and friends get a lot of support because it can lead to more deaths. Nobody lives completely alone. Our life and death affect other people. So while this may have been a "tidier" option, his family are traumatised. The adults can describe it and support each other. Maybe even reach out for help however does he have nephews, nieces, his pupils? His work colleagues. His death would have affected others. People need to recognise the choices we make can ruin someone else's life or our life can contribute to others enjoyment of life. His poor family. At least they are being supported.

While I do understand the pain that his mother is experiencing, he probably did not want to cause pain for the family and took off as quietly as possible. Her own words express a story that shows that he wasn’t okay, whether or not she wants to accept it or not. It’s also obvious he couldn’t or didn’t feel like he could talk to her about his mental health tanking etc. idk if he was in counseling. So he might not have felt he had anyone. No wife no kids and then not able to talk to his family was probably lonely. And she speaks a lot of “we as a family thinks” and it’s not up to them. Just because her perception of him was that he would get better, doesn’t mean he would and doesn’t mean that’s how he felt. If he was really mentally ill, and really struggling with some mystery illness, and he wanted to die with dignity, I feel that’s his right. I know people think it’s selfish, but it isnt. We do not go off on a cancer patient who is terminal if they stop chemo and decides to die. We should look at this the same way. I do hope the family finds peace, but I feel that he did what he felt was necessary and best for him.

" lets hope he was happy" of course he wasn't or he wouldn't have gone down that route.

this is too bizarre. Switzerland does not agree to do that just like that. They would ask for a psychoanalysis for a good year before as well as prove of terminal illness. This did not happened how the family says. There is something missing there.

@carolwilder2289

22 күн бұрын

Sadly, true. But they are not at Liberty to disclose this information.

@angelamadas-um6wr

20 күн бұрын

Yes there's something about this story that doesn't make sense.

@ange3550

20 күн бұрын

Sorry but that's incorrect you do not have to have a terminal illness to end your life by euthanasia in Switzerland. Many ppl who suffered from depression go there to end their lives.

The key to this is that it was his choice. None of us know how bad he felt. Better this way than having to find a way to do it himself.

maybe he had a diagnosis and didn’t tell his family weight loss and stomach issues maybe he knew what was wrong he was trying to spare his family of the grief but this is such a shame, he seemed depressed that’s different to low mood more people education on depression ❤

@mummylilbear6088

22 күн бұрын

Would been pick up in autopsy

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

He caused them suffering and grief by going missing and not telling them where he was. That was incredibly self focused. In saying that he was mentally unwell obviously and most likely could only think that way which is why they should never have done it.

@thepalettewhispererasmr1227

17 күн бұрын

@@mummylilbear6088was there one performed?

My mom had terrible stomach problems that plagued her for decades. They couldn’t ever diagnose the issue but she lost 50 pounds and looked so frail. They said it was like Crohns or colitis but not exactly. I can sympathize with his pain. It really played on my mother’s emotional and mental well being. She finally just gave up the will to live because she couldn’t barely eat without such pain. I’m so sorry this happened to this mother and her son.

@lisaadams42

28 күн бұрын

I’m sorry for your loss.

@ssuwandi3240

28 күн бұрын

Colon cancer likely.

@princess-pumpkin

28 күн бұрын

I'm really sorry for your loss firstly. Your poor mum! Secondly I do understand this man. It's awful, but I understand how hopeless it can be. I'm currently going through a similar thing. I have been in misery for about 7 years. I'm a lady, who can't work, has to live with my family, and cannot get a diagnosis, or find anything to help. It's frustrating going to appointments, being told what it isn't, but not being able to find an answer as to what's causing your misery. It can be a very dark place, when you truly feel like there's no way out :(

@Blenduu

26 күн бұрын

Sincere thoughts and sympathy for your mom's journey. I pray you have peace as this is never easy ❤

@gladiatrx3

24 күн бұрын

@@ssuwandi3240 "Colon cancer likely." Cancer, even the most indolent (non-aggressive) colon cancer, doesn't plague you for decades, so I'd have to disagree with you there.

If a 47-year-old man is living as he was with nothing to look forward to, don't condemn him or the organization that helped him exit on his own terms. There seems to be a lot of hubris and judgement in this piece.

@ssuwandi3240

27 күн бұрын

So two brains, two working legs, arms and eyes and ears and straight back were nothing? I once met a set up date without half of the above senses functioning, but he still came out. He worked as a comedian on stage.. He fell while ducking the basketball then went into coma but made a comeback.. He still looked as worthy as a human being. It's called Being Alive! This lad could visit Ukraine and see the real handicapped folks

@Litigator-4-life

27 күн бұрын

@@ssuwandi3240 Please don't diminish Alister Hamilton's feelings. Telling a depressed person he's so much better off than someone with a prosthetic or terminal cancer is not going to change his mind or mood, but he will recognize that you, too, are not going to validate his feelings or offer any meaningful support.

@mariamoments478

26 күн бұрын

U don't believe a sick man when he says he has nothing to look forward to. He took that thought seriously. He was vulnerable and clearly wasn't in his right mind....

@Herbie-Went-Bananas-Then-Split

25 күн бұрын

@@Litigator-4-life Apparently he was also in a lot of pain. I've reached the stage of my life (60s) where my osteoarthritis continues to worsen, I cannot take medication for it due to their propensity to cause stomach ulcers, I also cannot take pain killers as I am extremely allergic. Seeing my quality of life reducing significantly, plus the extensive knowledge gleaned from decades of having worked in the health care sector (senior practitioner), is enough for me to know how I do NOT want my life to end. I want to go when I decide, with dignity, peace of mind. Not writhing in agony in a hospital bed or nursing home bed stewing in my own body fluids. No one deserves to tell/dictate to another how they should live, or end, their life.

@whitneyanders5945

24 күн бұрын

Insulting for you to assume you know more about how this man was feeling than the man himself. He wanted to die and did it with dignity. You have no right to assume that he could just get over it and that he ‘wasn’t in his right mind’.

The mom seems to be making this about her - like she's the victim. He had apparently been suffering for years. He was the victim. He wanted to end his suffering. The problem isnt that the service is being offered. The problem is society doesnt prioritize mental health care & mental illness like depression is stigmatized.

@PunkDogCreations

16 күн бұрын

She is a victim as well.

@jacquelinewakefield2394

7 күн бұрын

That was a cruel thing to say about a mother who loved her son dearly.

It's common for people who choose to end their lives to have good time just before taking that step. They made their peace. And one can see the mother mistaken that calm period for recovery... while i feel sorry for her for loosing her son, it was his decision and his struggle.

I do not agree that this man’s choices is a danger to others. The family should NOT be grieving in public. He was a man who died with dignity but his mother is telling the world. Have respect for his choices, grieve in private.

@amandamorgan2802

2 күн бұрын

There is truth in that.

The loved ones left behind of course will have questions… however, his choice MUST be respected. No one but Alistair can know… so STOP interfering with taking away other peoples options.

@whitneyanders5945

24 күн бұрын

Maybe if he felt more comfortable around them he could have expressed his feelings easier and they could have joined him for his final journey. It’s selfish to expect loved ones to keep living when they are in pain and ready to go.

@shiningstar5919

19 күн бұрын

And choices

@PunkDogCreations

16 күн бұрын

That is selfish. Now his loved ones sit with the pain and loss.

His choice. He would have suffered more if he'd suicided all alone. It sounds like he was suffering far more than his family were aware. Unfortunately many people will play down things when another is suffering. He was unexplainably loosing weight so also may have had something very seriously wrong too.

In Switzerland you don't need to be terminal to have access to euthanasia. Depression or other chronic mental health conditions are also in the inclusion criteria. I've spend 10+ years in the swiss healthcare system so I know enough to say that this channel is not telling the whole truth about this case. Screenings to access these services are very ethical and thorough. There's a reason why this guy didn't tell anything to his parents. You never know how the pain will be so unbearable that it's your only exit option. Thank you Dignitas for assisting these people to pass with dignity

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

Shame on them. Mental illness can cause people to think irrationally. I know so many survivors who are so pleased their attempts didn't work and they went on to live good lives. Many furthered their education and got great jobs as well as had children. The recovery rate for mental health disorders is good. While it doesn't feel like it at the time, people recover.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

So if he went there and said he didn't feel physically well and was sick of it, would that be a good enough reason to assist someone to die? If someone said they are embarrassed because they are 47 and weren't married and didn't have children, would that be enough of a reason? If someone said they were back home living with their parents and they felt disappointed and wanted to die, is that enough of a reason? Many of those things are disappointments in life however can be overcome. I fail to see how there was an ethical decision there.

Feel for her and her family but like she says about a railway track, he went out on his own terms in a dignified way, ofc I wish he had the help he obviously needed but I know how I’d rather go out

@mariamoments478

27 күн бұрын

He obviously wasn't in a sound mind and was vulnerable.....its not just one person that dies its now multiple people that have loved him have to suffer mental health problems as well.

@Herbie-Went-Bananas-Then-Split

27 күн бұрын

@@mariamoments478 Give it a rest. You'd rather that person remain and suffer physically, psychologically and emotionally so that others can feel more comfortable.. speaks volumes.

@rosemarymonty5399

25 күн бұрын

His illness had not been diagnosed and he had been dealing with pain, etc with apparently no end in site.

I am sorry for your loss. He was however old enough to make his own decision . I believe Assisted dying is up to the individual.

@wintercame

23 күн бұрын

🎯 They did not walk in his shoes. Nor did he need the permission of his family, however saddened they may be. He gave plenty of clues as to his reasons.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

@@wintercame Having low mood, living at home with his parents, being physically unwell and being in the process of finding the cause. Not having a wife and family. He needed therapy not an assisted death. It sounded more like he felt so ashamed that he decided to go away and die alone. Depression alters your thinking. That was not a dignified death.

@wintercame

21 күн бұрын

@@lulunz6809You are not walking in his shoes. You are walking in your shoes. Therapy does not always change what afflicts. Death does.

@lulunz6809

20 күн бұрын

@@wintercame Its a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

@wintercame

20 күн бұрын

@@lulunz6809That's just a trope. For him it was as long as his life went on. He put a period on it.

Handsome dude. Best jawline ever. Sad he was so without any hope. Never know what others go through/suffer.

It is a terrible tragedy for the family. On the other hand there should be an option of assisted dying in every country so people would not have to travel to Switzerland and pay for it. I live in Canada and I'm very grateful that option exists here. People who never experienced mental illness have no way of understanding what it does to a person. Some are lucky they can be helped with medication. Unfortunately the antidepressants don't work for everybody.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

@user-fz9ny4rk3h

13 күн бұрын

If God exists why it happens

So brave and admirable of you to talk about your tragic loss and experience.

I'm sorry for the anguish that the family has gone through. However, I'm not sure they really understood the extent of his pain and suffering. People often do not share (especially with family) the degree of their suffering, preferring instead to protect them from the harsh realities of their condition. Bottom line is, no one could understand what he was going through and why he chose to end his life this way. As a Death Doula, I believe very strongly in a person’s right to choose when it is appropriate to end their life. For all those suffering from either physical or mental anguish, they should have the autonomy to make this deeply personal decision, and no one should have the right to stop them. Hoping one day that Medical Aid in Dying is available for all who wish to use it.

@whitneyanders5945

24 күн бұрын

Thank you for what you do and the care and respect you give to those during their final journey.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

So now this woman has made it her business to make it harder for everyone else to obtain an assisted suicide! Her son was clearly of sound mind and made his own choice. His life had become unacceptable to him. That’s sad for her but he obviously had his reasons for not telling her of his intentions. It’s a personal tragedy but why should other people be denied the facility he enjoyed?

@samjohns3227

22 күн бұрын

I think he knew if he discussed it with his family his mother would certainly lay a huge guilt trip on him.

@jessicaolson490

19 күн бұрын

Actually if you're suicidal you're not in a sound mind. There's a difference in somebody who's terminally ill and facing a terrible death versus one that's quicker and cleaner and somebody who's depressed wanting to end their life. Psychologically if you're suicidal you are not of sound mind. Typically depression wants treated erases the suicidal impulses. And even the rare cases where it's intractable doesn't make it automatically sound thinking.

@lemon-yi6yh

14 күн бұрын

@@jessicaolson490 "Actually if you're suicidal you're not in a sound mind" Who's to say and on what grounds? The audacity on you people.

He had every right to do what he did and he wasn't obligated to tell anyone. This doesn't need to be a "warning" to anyone. You shouldn't be headlining this like he was murdered.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

@joanrankin2827

19 күн бұрын

You go ahead and believe what you want but those beliefs don't to apply others. If you believe this then don't go for health care, don't get treatment for terminal disease because clearly your disease has been given to you by God. Pass your life to God if you want while other people can make other choices.

@earthrooster1969

13 күн бұрын

You sound like God..rather the God that humans have created to use to judge others​@@joanrankin2827

@amandamorgan2802

2 күн бұрын

​@@joanrankin2827Some must always preach, must they not?

his life, he decided to commit suicide. sad but this doesn't change my mind on assisted death.

@natnat8393

Ай бұрын

Same

@maryeconomou6573

29 күн бұрын

This was and is evil.

@winstonjen5360

29 күн бұрын

@@maryeconomou6573 Opposing compassion is genuine evil.

@romycerratti3716

29 күн бұрын

Evil.

@winstonjen5360

29 күн бұрын

@@romycerratti3716 Anyone who opposes end of life choice is evil.

It is absolutely the individual's choice - people who don't experience the physical pain of depression just don't know the relentless dreariness of it and the idea that there's a chance of permanent relief, I can totally understand why some choose to go this route. Of course it's painful for the loved ones, but it would have been worse to come home from shopping and find him hanging in the hallway.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

Its a clean and dignified way to opt out. In my case, opt out of excruiating nerve pain. I don't want to involve anyone else in a traumatic way, be that a train driver, or my family finding me, trying to 'save' me. The world is over populated, I can't work, can't afford care.

@jennifermarlow.

26 күн бұрын

Yes, the breakdown of our health care systems, followed by easily-acquired assistance in being "un alive" ... is ... interesting, to say the least. Canada

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

Sadly his mother was in denial of his pain. And mental health services are woefully lacking.

My Heart aches for his mum but honestly i can also feel his need and pain he's at peace now bless him ❤ 😢❤😢

The main problem I see with this is that he just went missing and left his family guessing if he’d been in an accident or foul play had taken place. And perhaps that people have made money from this.

@tiggyt2261

Ай бұрын

Ah just heard that they’re not for profit.

@lulunz6809

21 күн бұрын

What he did was cruel to his family and friends. The worry it would have caused would have been hideous. People seem to be romanticizing what happened in this case.

Really appreciate all the comments I'm reading. Mom seems to be in serious denial about what its like to be chronically ill.

@Miracles57

6 күн бұрын

I live it too, and appreciate your comment. ❤

I can't imagine that Mother's pain.

It was his choice to die. Perhaps he didn't tell his mother because she seems in denial about his mental pain. It's nobody's business but the person who wants to die.

Im soo sorry for the loss of your son. It’s devastating, unfortunately when you’re depressed it seems the only way. We need better mental care.

The mother cannot respect her son's wishes. She says he was not of a sound mind to do such a thing, which says it all.

@natnat8393

Ай бұрын

This is why I think he didn't tell them about his plans

@elaineread15

Ай бұрын

@@natnat8393 Yes, it really is a tragedy. But you can see his mother could never agree to it and would have tried to get him sectioned.

@christee9590

29 күн бұрын

Yes because he was clearly mentally ill. We try to get mentally ill people help to recover, we don't write them off, give up on them. We try to get them help, we don't usually help them travel to a DEATH CLINIC and give them our blessings - not normal behaviour. Anyone normal, any mother or father, would try to stop a child of theirs going to a death 'suicide' clinic.

@elaineread15

29 күн бұрын

@christee9590 You clearly don't know anything about how people are treated who enter the mental health system. To be sectioned is worse than a prison sentence and this mother would rather have seen that. They are not places where "recovery" has any possibility. Even after everything, she is still putting her needs first. Instead of being happy that he is at peace.

@atis9061

27 күн бұрын

@@christee9590you’re lucky you don’t see the truth about the mental health epidemic

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@DamsonIdris-rh6sx

19 күн бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@ToniMonteroroman

19 күн бұрын

Yes, dr.poras. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Nicoleniccypal

19 күн бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@DamsonIdris-rh6sx

19 күн бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@ToniMonteroroman

19 күн бұрын

Yes he is dr.poras.

My condolences to Judith Hamilton and her family. Good for you to speak out about this subject. As someone who has suffered off and on from depression for 49 years, I know how hard it can be to go through dark episodes. But, in time, the depression lifts and I can function again. I can laugh and find things of interest until the next episode hits. The episodes of depression are farther apart now than when I was younger. I am physically ill now. I have learned to manage and pace myself. Just like in any profession, there are good and not so good therapists out there. I urge anyone to reach out and try to talking to a therapist or another therapist. Learn to become your own best friend. God has a plan for each of us and so hold on.

@mariamoments478

26 күн бұрын

If he actually got emotional support and found jesus he would have got through his most difficult moments with an element of peace in amongst the suffering he had been enduring

@ruthbarnes9999

24 күн бұрын

Im sorry to tell u, but unfortunately, God does not have a plan or purpose for everyone. U may be lucky that your life turned out that way. But it's not like that for others no matter how much they believe in God. But there's also many who don't believe in God too

@lisalaurent8697

20 күн бұрын

​@mariamoments478 Absolutely with God, all things are possible.

@Magazinelady

20 күн бұрын

@@ruthbarnes9999 There are non-believers and believers. God has a plan for each one of us regardless of one's positon.

@angelamadas-um6wr

17 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your common sense! I totally agree with you

People who want to die,will NOT tell you,that they are going to go through with it.They DONT want you getting in the way!!!! I hope he has found peace finally. Its our selfish nature that wants them to stick around for us.

THAT WAS JUST HEART BREAKING & SAD RIP❤

Sad but it was his choice, maybe they should have more like counselling see if there is anything they can do to make them want to live again first

He clearly was at that stage or he wouldn't had gone through it I know it's sad and heart breaking for his mum family but at least his now out of pain and I hope at peace who are we to judge at least he didn't step in front of a train and ruin more people's lives 😔

It also shows what people are going through with the DWP and NHS with undiagnosed conditions.

In Canada citizens are being encouraged to end their lives with the MAID program. Guilting seniors, homeless, mentally ill. This conversation is out of control in Canada. About 16K requests were made in 2022 and about 14K approved. I feel for this family and feel it's important they're speaking up.

RIP young man 🙏😇

It is only him who can say wheater or not life is worth living. You should never let family influence your decision.

Don’t blame the people who are trying to make a depressed person see a reason to live for. It’s very sad but understandable when people take a pessimistic view of life due to health challenges. It’s also sad for family members who feel powerless to help them. I agree that some people who might want to end their lives from severe depression might not be in the best frame of mind to others but it makes sense to them. I feel that with the worsening trend of depression and loneliness that is a problem that is here to stay. A 28 year old from Norway has been granted the right to end her life due to mental illness. Sad but for her, it’s obviously what she wants.

I wonder how much of medical testing did he get to do before this- vitamin mineral deficiency- genetic testing for bio markers My condolences to this family

This is sad but itll never change my mind on assisted suicide, i myself have discussed it many times with my family, with having so many chronic illnesses and being in constant pain on a daily basis, stop scaremongering, its not fair on the people that need that service

@jujutrini8412

Ай бұрын

I think it’s good that they are telling people about this because it should never be allowed in this country unless people have a terminal illness.

@shennel7304

Ай бұрын

@@jujutrini8412 what about chronic pain patients that are never going to get better?? Who are they wanting to live for, it's not fair that people have to wake up every day in agony

@gc3847

Ай бұрын

@@shennel7304 Your right ,its NOT fair on people that need the service these companies offer ,and Swiss law does allow this type of Assisted suicide . However .....every case is individual Im all for assisted suicide ,personally I hope its a choice I never have to make ,but there ARE concerns in this mans case . Quite honestly ,we are not given enough information here ,and the information given from the family, through no fault of their own ,is one sided. Perhaps he hid his true mental health issues from them. That wouldnt be uncommon . I dont believe either ,he was just feeling low. But I do believe ,that someone with severe mental health issues ,can reach a point where they CANT make a rational choice for themselves. We dont know if this poor man fell into that category. Im tempted to say I hope so ,but only to make this ....sadness ,better for him . Terminal illness and chronic pain are NOT the issues this guy faced . He may or may not have been seriously mentally ill. The sheer torment of someone who wants to end their life ,though nothing terminal or in pain is wrong with them .Thats actually the question here ,but by reading the comments ,you really wouldnt think so

@Harry-fk5of

29 күн бұрын

@@shennel7304 I think chronic debilitating pain should be included if there's literally no hope or way to cure it

@fionabattrum7395

27 күн бұрын

Agree . It’s other peoples deep seated fear of facing up to the fact sometimes suffering in life is not endurable for some people .. usually intractable progressive illness and or mental health conditions . Physically disabled people who are otherwise fit and well often don’t get this ! it seems as they are not living with long term progressive medical conditions they think they are being attacked if euthanasia is legal. So they try to stop those who are suffering beyond what they can endure from having control and an exit plan . Just my personal opinion not formed lightly.

This is what is happening in Canada...assisted dying for terminal patients is now being offered to people with depression ..to vets who are not being properly cared for with disabilities..they just offer medical assistance to die rather than to actually help them. ITS ABSOLUTELY DISGRACEFUL

@maxmanx1294

23 күн бұрын

It takes a lot of money to help them. Where would it come from?

@michellemarshall5806

22 күн бұрын

​@@maxmanx1294I can't believe you actually said that.

@maxmanx1294

22 күн бұрын

@@michellemarshall5806 Why?

@angelamadas-um6wr

17 күн бұрын

Totally agree lexip9225

The drive to keep someone alive for your own benefit is as cruel in my opinion. He might have smiled and seemed happy but they never know how deeply hurting that individual is. If the individual no longer wants to live or has the will to live anymore, no matter if assisted suicide is brought in or not, that does not stop them from taking their lives. The difference is one way that keeps being refused and people not wanting to be brought in because its inhumane or whatever reason, its against their beliefs etc, is just as selfish as when the individual does take their life through other methods. Everyone else would call the person selfish because of the heartache to the ones left behind, but in turn its selfish in those people to keep forcing someone who has lost their will to live and no longer can continue in life that have made a sound mind decision they want to end it but are forced to live for others. Thats selfish. It’s time everyone get their own choice and not down to what other peoples beliefs are. You don’t let a dog suffer so why is it okay to let humans suffer. Each individual life is that individuals alone, no one else has the right to tell them their decision.

Why so expensive and why so easy to take your own life

It was probably anxiety and stress that was making him lose weight and have pain in his stomach.I've been there..he REALLY needed counselling service and support not to end his life...and I know bc I've attempted it and am glad I survived..if I'd done this I'd be gone and I'm glad that I'm not... as hard as it can be emotionally to live

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

I don't think anyone can know what it's like for an individual apart from them. We all deal with things differently. I believe we should all have the choice as heartbreaking as it is for loved ones.

@lilithlevaykjeldahl5257

28 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your view. I agree wholeheartedly. There is such a societal focus on keeping people alive at any cost - the individual really has no say in the matter. They should have.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

Still think it should be allowed for those who choose it in the uk.

@BruceDanton-xw6eg

Ай бұрын

Yes indeed so too I feel of. Course albeit alas too.

@Starsnotdiamonds

29 күн бұрын

Absolutely not! There is always a way out.

@mariewalmsley6143

29 күн бұрын

Not when it's terminal ,silly comment.

@simplysheagoodness9878

29 күн бұрын

Definitely not, people would take their lives with something as little as a headache. Just as no one determined their time of birth, or the family they were born into, no one should end their life or be assisted to end it. Life is precious and problems are inevitable but temporary!

@ssuwandi3240

28 күн бұрын

Of course not. There are always more worthy choices than playing God. It took 6 days to create humanity. Meaning that Life is never about a race with his siblings or anyone's made up belief opinion / standard. Period.

Poor guy he was single.I don't blame him for doing it, he did not see any point in continuing to live. I feel very sorry for his mother and family. Life is too bad and cruel for some.

It must have broke Alistairs heart when he said Goodbye to his Mum, knowing it was the last time. I believe he chose to end his life to ensure that his family or friends would not attempt to dissuade him. I would like to share this poem with you THE END Anguish, Sadness Sorrow, Pain Unable to live without you Unable to face this World again The heartache I feel A burden too much to bare No escape, No sanctuary Alone filled with despair Grief is overwhelming I am drowning, unable to breathe No one can help me No one can salvage me from this grief So often we do not choose the path We surrender as we fall When the lights go out The darkness descends We truly feel we had no choice at all

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

We are told by God to endure to the end. He is over life and death. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own, it's on loan. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much. If you are not faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

Unless you have walked in his shoes try and understand his bravery. Great respect for this young man his living nightmare is over ❤

@mariannehavisham8323

29 күн бұрын

Let's not romanticise suicide. People shouldn't be judged for ending their suffering but they shouldn't be praised either -can we use more neutral less loaded language?

@ssuwandi3240

28 күн бұрын

None of this was about bravery. It was rather a crying for help that nobody cared harder just don't tell it to mum. I always write this kind of thought since 7 yo or so and leave the note somewhere. My mum found one of these, said nothing but since that day she' becomes kinder. She knew my little secrets. When I was older I left the notes inside the temple or churches. Well am still here living thru the rhythm. It would have been good if he knew some techniques to try

@thegracetofollow4194

28 күн бұрын

Bravery? No darlin coward is the word quiting and giving up notan enough unfortunately

@Litigator-4-life

28 күн бұрын

❤❤❤

@MarkStevens8899

28 күн бұрын

​@@mariannehavisham8323Well put.

£11,000... Genuinely makes me take a loan out, travel over and do the same. I've made several attempts over the years, and the times I had actually died, theyve brought me back to life, everytime I wake up I feel crushed that I failed agaaain.. At least with assisted suicide, there's no chance it would fail, it would definitely work... Oh how I want that so bad.. I'm 29. I do not want to be here anymore

@Ragglesnap

26 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry that you are going through so much mental pain. I assume you are depressed. My daughter has suffered from depression for over 10 years and she has found it hard as well. She said the best thing she ever did was to have EMDR therapy as it helped more than just going for councelling. Please look it up and give it a try. You could contribute so much to the world and death is so final.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

Please reconsider. We are not promised a perfect or fair life. In this life you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world -Jesus. In the Word, God warns us out of love, not willing that any should perish. He says whoever destroys his temple, him also, I will destroy!- God Your life and your body is not your own, it's given to you on loan. If you can not be faithful over little, how can I set you over much?- God

I am sure he thought long and hard about doing this. He must have been in unbearable pain physically and emotionally.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

Stop BLAMING Switzerland the man was dead a long time ago!!!

When a family member is suffering from depression and the family are aware of it through observation or because they have been informed by their relative, they should ensure that they don’t argue with the person over politics, religion, anything, because the depressed person may seem okay that day but they are not okay, just a little better, but later when they think of the argument, it triggers their depression to worsen. We may not agree with each others opinions about certain things, but try to be diplomatic, don’t argue with someone who’s brain works fine intellectually but emotionally they are not resilient, they are depressives, or going through a hard time that’s making them depressed, be careful, you don’t need to win an argument.

He was an adult who made the decision that suited his wants/needs. He is not a child, mom lost her boy but cannot seem to let go. She wants to blame someone, anyone for his decision.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

@Dobviews

19 күн бұрын

@@Sam___Smith Keep your ideology to yourself, not everyone shares in the nonsense.

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

@@Dobviews you could keep your ideologies to yourself as well, not everyone shares in the nonsense either, but you said what you said and I said what I said!

@oyamawapiti

19 күн бұрын

@@Dobviews Please keep your opinion to yourself. Not everyone appreciates your naive perspective.

@Dobviews

18 күн бұрын

@@oyamawapiti Is that supposed to silence me or something. As for your opinion, I would have to value it first... *I don't.*

Nope, my body my choice. This won't change my mind

@flowerpowerocks3283

Ай бұрын

Don't let your ego define you

@thankstocalebchung1556

29 күн бұрын

@@flowerpowerocks3283 Huh?

@atis9061

27 күн бұрын

@@flowerpowerocks3283don’t let yours either. You are being used by your own projection

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

Your body is not your own, your life is not your own, it's on loan to you to see if you can be faithful over a small matter. If you cannot be faithful over little, how can I set you over much. If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own.?-God

@thankstocalebchung1556

19 күн бұрын

@@Sam___Smith It’s your choice if you want to have a religious belief. Have some respect for others that don’t necessarily have the same beliefs.

I’m working with two specialists to be on the list when it becomes available in Canada. November 27. Having a mental illness is like trying to live a normal life with your proverbial hands tied behind your back. Not sure if I will tell everyone in advance.

@arnicepernice8656

24 күн бұрын

Could you consider leaving letters to those who you love with an explanation. The whys will be unbearable for those left behind. Having said this I am deeply sorry you are in a place where you cannot face the future.

@susanyeadon6657

24 күн бұрын

@@arnicepernice8656 I plan to tell them. Closer to 2027

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

Mum You don't know what stage your son was at He was at that stage that's why he ended his life with help!!!

Years of undending depression is a long drawn out painful life. Im sorry for the pain the mother is feeling but he was his own person. I hate it when people say suicide is selfish. Its one thing if someone is experiencing a temporary bout of depression, but if an adult has experienced decades of feeling that way, and they've tried to heal to no avail, we need to respect and honor their decision. Him going to this Swiss place to do it this way, rather than a violent messy way with a family member finding him actually was very thoughful and unselfish.

@mariamoments478

26 күн бұрын

Antidepressants are fantastic for clinical depression.........u wd be amazed how positive people feel and balanced from taking them

@JuneRowe-ny2ze

23 күн бұрын

Well said ❤

@bodang158

18 күн бұрын

@mariamoments478 they definitely helped me. They took away my giddy highs which I miss, but no longer feeling paralyzingly depressed is a life saver.

@JuneRowe-ny2ze

18 күн бұрын

ABSOLUTELY AGREE ❤❤❤❤

As someone who is currently going through what Alister experienced, I can understand why he decided to terminate his life. I am suffering with an incurable stomach problem with ongoing investigations which have yielded no results. When you have the constant fear and worry of your stomach problems, it’s no wonder it can affect your mood. I don’t have a life anymore, I’m just existing. It also hurts to watch everyone else have their lives and be happy.

He must have been so very tired of suffering without any hope of medical relief.

This is sad and I can't imagine the heartbreak for his mum. But it was his planned choice. I think in life people want everyone to see the sunshine and not all do, alone with the lack of mental health and physical help here, benefits causing more stress for people etc some just don't want to go on. I wish he'd had help to go on who wouldn't but he made the choice for himself.

So what? people shpuld have to stay alive and suffer to keep selfish people happy?

@jayocaine2946

17 күн бұрын

It's just not fun watching Darwin awards happening right in front of your eyes. Suicide is 100% darwinism in action.

@Wendy.J-fo3iw

14 күн бұрын

My thoughts too

@heliotropezzz333

2 күн бұрын

I would not call her selfish. She would count as a loved one. There's no doubt that parents and siblings suffer when a son or daughter takes their life. They live on with the grief. That doesn't mean that people should have to suffer horrendously to keep loved ones happy. It's a no win situation in some ways.

@Mike-mt7vu

2 күн бұрын

@@heliotropezzz333 Yeah you're right

The key words are THEIR OWN LIFE. It’s sad he felt he couldn’t tell his family but it was his life and it must have been unbearable to him.

At least he was respectful and kept his family away from it all. They need to accept that it was his decision, be proud of him for handling it in such a classy manner.

His Life His Choise

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

@marvolom787

18 күн бұрын

Yes absolutely. We didn't sit in his head to know

I hope his mom can come to accept his decision and his autonomy. Living life without your own family, alone as a grown man in your parents house isn't the life for everyone. His love for children shows that he most likely wanted his own children. Even his mom speculates that so it was no secret, he wanted a family. As a woman who cannot have children due to medical reasons, I can empathize with how difficult it is when you love and want children but can't have any. It takes a LOT of the meaning out of life and when you add on the loss of ability to work and having to move in with parents it's a really terrible situation to be in. He made his choice, and it should be respected. I thank God I live in Canada where medically assisted dying is available to many people who are suffering. I may use it myself one day when my own medical issues inevitably become worse and more painful. May Alister rest in peace.

I’m so sorry

EVERYONE should have this choice. I live in Australia, the most BACKWARD thinking country for this subject. If I CHOOSE to pass away, its my choice, NOBODY elses !!!....I don't believe that you should have to have a terminal illness either...... Just imagine if the lad shot himself, or tried to hang himself and he DIDN'T DIE and ended up in a wheelchair or with brain damage, then he has the rest of his life in hell........I am sorry for your loss, but know that your son is happy and this is what he wanted to do.............xo

@ksc9954

29 күн бұрын

So true, when I want to die, 😢his is my choice no one else’s

@Sam___Smith

19 күн бұрын

He didn't have right over life and death. He isn't God. Your life is not your own, your body is not your own. It's on loan from God. To see if you will be faithful in small matters. If you cannot be faithful over little how can I set you over much? If you cannot be faithful over what is not your own, how can I set you over what is your own? -God

This is what awaits most of us who are without retirement or partner or children.

@ishtarturunen1164

Күн бұрын

My generation basically. No support, no nothing to hang on to. It is what it is.

Perhaps you should know that mental health professionals also help people by saying we cannot stop you. Great . They make you feel guilty , that doesn’t stop you. There is NO support despite what people say. Many many will fall through the gaps and will have tragic suicides. The emergency line is an answer phone between the hours of 5/pm and 9 am. I live with this daily . Who is to decide what qualifies as quality of life.

I can relate to many of the sources of suffering he experienced. I'm chronically ill and suffer from chronic migraines, crohn's disease, stage 4 endometriosis, arthritis, etc. I couldn't have children and am single. I work as an educator but my wage is far from a living wage and my landlady wants to sell my current house and I can't afford even a studio apartment but don't have family I can move in with. Life is about survival only at this point. Every day is a battle just to keep my head above water. I wouldn't end my life but this sure doesn't feel like living. Im highly empathetic and care deeply about humans and animals yet I see so much indifference towards the suffering of others in society. I'm 42 and just see years of more struggle ahead of me. I'm saddened he felt the need to end his life but I know that his mind was torturing him and he was enduring physical, mental, and emotional pain that others simply wouldn't be able to understand unless they've experienced it themselves.

@Miracles57

6 күн бұрын

Unless others are in our boat, they'll never understand what it's like. There's many of us like this still fighting to stay alive, ppl don't realize it's about severe emotional and or physical chronic pain. It's not for anyone to judge, one day I will have to answer to God too for my attempt. My kids are the only reason I didn't succeed, and my faith. Do take care, and know there are others who suffer with you ❤

He's was a grown man. Period.

He didn't even tell anyone? He must have hated his family.