You deserve to be loved, cherished, and protected ❤️ Get your copy of "How To Get A Man To Cherish You" here 👉 www.becherishedbyhim.com 👈 It is absolutely worth it!

@maryanndunne1594

2 жыл бұрын

I love your laugh it makes me laugh 🤣❤️

@sharonwillis-devose1963

2 жыл бұрын

Ordered a book in June never received it.

@carmel77

2 жыл бұрын

I want one can I have one please

@kdperry591

2 жыл бұрын

Please don't take this question negatively: Why aren't you married/ engaged? You seem to have yourself together. You're intelligent and clearly understand relationship goals.

@hnfedge1

2 жыл бұрын

Pppppp pop power up 🔝 and I hope 🤞🏾 get to the next few hours soon 🔜 we are in good 😌

Turn off when a man look and lust at other woman's in front of the lady he's in a date with even if it's not serious yet it's disrespectful.expecially when he knows she loves and care for him and she's a good women.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@melluques8475

2 жыл бұрын

My ex husband was like that, one day I told him I recommended my stile, look from distant and with sunglasses on, this way was more elegant🤣🤣 after that he was more looking at me to see if I was checking another men🤣🤣🙏🏻

@miatoyniaramzy629

2 жыл бұрын

True Story 😢

@PREACHYPREI

2 жыл бұрын

@@melluques8475 mel, you are one cold lady 😎😂 Lol I felt this comment with all my heart 😂😂😂😂❤

@macsc5497

2 жыл бұрын

@@melluques8475 your ex was disrespectful AF… have only dated 1 woman with the audacity to do that in front of me, obviously that shit didn’t last and she’s still single and for the streets

1. Being a tease 2. Focusing too much on accomplishments and money 3. Playing hard to get 4. Having a entitled mindset and not appreciative 5. Holding him to standards you won’t hold yourself to 6. Wearing TOO MUCH makeup 7. Being too hard/ “masculine” 8. Making it ALL about God 9. Being too damn independent Ok got it, thanks Steph!

@southerncharm1533

Жыл бұрын

All of these tips are bad. 1 thru 9. If you're interested in attracting insecure, undereducated, broke men follow them but don't be disappointed with what you end up with.

@cwalker6911

Жыл бұрын

@@southerncharm1533 😂 agreed!!

@linbee9461

Жыл бұрын

@@southerncharm1533 😂😂😂😂😂

@shebrownsuga

Жыл бұрын

@@southerncharm1533 I know right. My thoughts exactly.

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Ladies, do whatever pleases YOU. You set the standards for what you want in a man. He has a choice as to whether or not he will meet those standards. Don't settle. It's not worth it, trust me. Most men in the dating pool today have nothing to offer women. They're looking for a woman to take care of them and do all of the "heavy lifting" in the relationship. SELF LOVE is where it's at. If a man can't love, and accept me for who I am and appreciate all that I've got to offer, he can go kick rocks. I'm good on my own. Yeah, I'm independent because I've had to be! I'm in my masculine because I've had to be! Men are in their feminine and that's a turn off! I wear a lot of makeup because I love it... and let's face it, most men that say that they don't like "too much makeup" are insecure and don't want other men looking at us... At least that's been my experience.

Everyday, Be Yourself. Don't change your personality, aesthetics, wardrobe, or adjust your outlook on life or hide the skeletons in your closet for another person. Be genuine. That uniqueness is a gift many can't master. Let your energy do the talking. Invest in yourself and do the internal work to be confident in your own skin. You Are Enough!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right, thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!!! Exactly That!!! Thank You!!!

@pmo7780

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you don't use that mindset as an excuse to not try to make him happy and to not grow

@JJ121333

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you😪. Excellent messaging

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

@@pmo7780 Amen. Both should always grow and bring healthy compromise, but there are core beliefs/attitudes/behaviors that should NEVER be dropped for anyone

I agree that women shouldn’t be a tease, but just because you want to kiss a man is not an invitation or assumption that you want to have sex. Unfortunately, many men feel that they’re entitled to sex because they treated you to a date or two. Mature adults should be able to enjoy one another’s company in the comfort of their own homes (especially in this climate of remaining safe in the pandemic) without viewing it as an invitation to have sex.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@gwendolynpierce6304

2 жыл бұрын

You're so right!!

@IAmMonicaDenise

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you for sharing insight from the male perspective.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

@@IAmMonicaDenise Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

@@gwendolynpierce6304 ❤ 🙂 thank you!

She wasn’t being a tease, she wanted intimacy Not sex, there’s a difference. Learn the difference and if you still don’t know just ask her. Never assume fellas, always ask to make sure you’re both on the same page.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤

@monicafranc6966

2 жыл бұрын

@Lovie Bello, then she could have kissed him by the car. Don't invite him to your house and kis him on a couch. Come on let's be real here.

@m.danielmills7091

2 жыл бұрын

@@monicafranc6966 Exactly.

@LoveQuestWithLisaConcepcion

2 жыл бұрын

It's up to the woman to set the pace. Having a man over? Tell him that you're only having sex once in love.

@MaryMary-sn7hh

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you! I was cringing hard at Stephan basically hinting that just because I allowed you to come back home with me, it automatically means we’re gonna have sex….

I have 1 more to add: Giving too much too soon. Doing so when he is not reciprocating in the dating portion before a committed relationship has been established can make him lose respect for you and possibly take advantage of you. Sometimes this is done for fear of losing him. Don’t invest too much before you know you will receive a return on that investment. 🙏🏽

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

@phoenixrising8007

2 жыл бұрын

Unless you give freely without any expectation

@NoNipHamp

2 жыл бұрын

Message!

@shondathomas7825

2 жыл бұрын

Agree, also this should go for men as well. I've been in that situation of a guy giving too much too soon and it killed my interest.

@SanctifiedLady

2 жыл бұрын

I like this add... and it is a slippery slope. I have a guy that is showing some genuine interest (online) and I am definitely keeping the pace, reciprocating but not doing more or asking him more questions....right now it’s like a chess game and it’s his move to gain more information about me and he is stalled a bit not asking important questions so if he doesn’t progress he’s not interested enough to get to the next level. I’m not going to entertain this after this week. If he can’t set up a date then I’m Done. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m not setting up a date.

A woman that really is waiting to have sex doesn't put herself in situations where sex can happen.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

True

@Mohammedalamidi10

2 жыл бұрын

So if I ask a girl to come over, and she does, does that mean she’s willing yo have sex even if she says she isn’t?

@tonettanhelms794

2 жыл бұрын

That part

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

@@RashaundaYeoman You wasnt necessarily giving that vibe. Thats just what it is. Don't mean they are bad men...just they wanted to get physical with you...like most ppl. It is what it is. I think Stephan or Kev or somebody made a vid on this maybe like a few weeks ago too.

My aunt told me years ago to never go over a man’s house if you’re not comfortable enough to have sex with him yet regardless if something happens or not

Mixed messages. Don’t invite a date back to your place “ for coffee” or ANYTHING until a lot of time has passed and both of you understand what “ coffee” actually means.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@shutit4024

2 жыл бұрын

He’s going to pound town

@crystalcobette3357

2 жыл бұрын

Coffee should mean Coffee!

@kaceygriffin7612

2 жыл бұрын

@@crystalcobette3357 right I love coffee lol

@SanctifiedLady

2 жыл бұрын

Dang! Coffee isn’t just coffee anymore?! I won’t be having coffee out of the public ever! Lol!

Sooo...I just recently got into a relationship after being single for a while! I admit I made several if these mistakes. And he had the decency to tell me how he felt...basically exactly what is being said here. It's been 5 months and I've had to really shed some baggage and FULLY show up in the relationship. The relationship feels like less of a push/pull and more like two people getting to know each other! He's a good man...and I almost messed it up.

@rosemariecampbell7205

Жыл бұрын

Happy for you 😊

I am an extremely late bloomer with very little dating experience so videos like this and the way you convey your points are genuinely helpful.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad it has been helpful to you and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤

@keciabrown8321

2 жыл бұрын

You are not the only late bloomer. So am I. I am really embarrassed by my lack of experience with men. I am learning as well and hope to get it right one day, with the right guy. Good luck too you Abria Angel.

@etcwhatever

10 ай бұрын

I had 0 until I was 24. Youre not the only one 😅

@etcwhatever

10 ай бұрын

​@@keciabrown8321you dont need a lot of experiences, just the right one. And yes its very good you see these videos and build good bondaries. Men try to push them a lot.

Every time you post a video, im ready to listen and take mental notes! I appreciate the way you deliver the messages because it’s clear that you want us to grow and understand without putting women down! Your delivery is always done in love and I appreciate that

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Glad to hear that and thank you very much I appreciate your feedback!

@ccrobinson545

2 жыл бұрын

Much agreed! His genuine interest to assist in the improvement and upliftment of others is in itself addictive!!!

@nakeishahenry9261

2 жыл бұрын

In other words, thanks for not being like Kevin S. 💯❤

@thisismystone9658

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed. He communicates so well

@FieldTrippers

2 жыл бұрын

💯

Amen to #2! This goes for both men and women. I tell men who lead with money and accomplishments is that I date people & not professions. I want to get to know how do you have a relationship. It's not meant to be devaluing, it’s meant to not to talk about work day in and out.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

@karenwilliams2068

2 жыл бұрын

Correct...we want to know who they are at heart the secret person of heart not later if they confide they have money at an appropriate timing I the relationship it's shared for different reason other then leading with that

I think we actually behave with the right one. and we often behave awkward whenever we're into the wrong one because the right person will make us great unknowingly.

🤷🏾‍♀️ Can I be honest? If I turn him off, he is not the man for me. He can keep moving to find who is... I will continue to be my beautiful self... And I say this with the same awareness of him being who he is presenting to me. If I can't accept it, I keep it moving. No love lost on either end... I'm sure this is another great video, but what I hope to do is to focus on tips that will help me attract the right man for me.... Thank you for your work.

@pmo7780

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you don't use that mindset as an excuse to not try to make him happy and to not grow

@sharondawilliams624

2 жыл бұрын

@@pmo7780 No. I have another thought on happiness. It is not my responsibility to make him happy, but I can add to it. That is something I think is personal to him. He defines that for himself. As far as growth, that's not my job either. I am a vessel that can nurture and water him, but, like a plant, his ultimate growth is by God and himself.

@pmo7780

2 жыл бұрын

@Sharonda Williams I meant your own growth, not his. A lot of people just say "love yourself" to justify not bettering their bad traits and not growing as a person. And your answers are correct and I don't know you to be sure of what you mean but the words you use implies that you're looking for logical loopholes that say it's not your job to put effort into the relationship so you wouldn't have to do anything for him. On the other hand you said that you want to add to him and nurture him so it's most probably because we could only give little context and details in youtube comments.

@sharondawilliams624

2 жыл бұрын

@@pmo7780 oh. Thanks for asking about my growth.... I am watered daily by God's love and I am growing.... My thought is from a place of understanding that you get the results you focus on... At this moment, I am choosing not to focus on mistakes, but rather positive actions.

@BM-wf8jj

2 жыл бұрын

So you commented without watching the video and listening to what he was actually saying? He dropped some straight jewels in this one and he kept it very respectful the entire time. And any man that's being honest is going to agree with everything he said in this video. Any woman that has trouble finding or keeping healthy and happy relationships would do well to listen to what he has to say in this video. This is about identifying and correcting toxic and problematic behaviors that keep women from being taken seriously by high quality men that they meet and not about nitpicking little petty, superficial stuff.

You have to be yourself and stop being someone that you are not trying to impress them.... You are speaking truth and helping a lot of us out... Be Blessed...

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 thank you very much I appreciate your feedback and may you blessed as well!

@andreacaldwell8719

2 жыл бұрын

"So, so true"!!! Being our "authentic self" is key!!! We have to look in the mirror at ourselves at the end of the day and stop being in "theater" for the world!!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

That's right, the bottom line is people want to know that they're really wanted, not an option.

This was shocking. I've been in this situation many times. It was not teasing. It was displaying genuine affection.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

@orlaw.8213

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. If a man is going to see me as a tease because I show affection but not give sex, why would I want to be with him anyway and if obviously doesn't genuinely like me so he is in the wrong for even being in that situation with me.

@JohnsonLee59

Жыл бұрын

All these man want is quit f. Than their gone to the next sum woman who let's them

I love Stephan laughing.when we says something straight up. Got me smiling!

Thank you for #3 ...now I know when I tactfully show a guy that I like him and he can’t handle it or maturely step up, I need to move on.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad this has been helpful to you be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!

@rashawntaylor4316

2 жыл бұрын

Good morning real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals . A real good man will put god first in his life n also make you properity , send your roses , help with the bills , keep gas in your car n car repairs , take you work on your off days , communcations is the key n trust . A real good man will work too bones make should everything is going well at home !

Number one 1) she didn’t have to blow off on him and get mad. I agree. But as someone who is 21 this happened to me. Kissing is fun. That doesn’t necessarily means she or I wanted or was ready to have sex. Of course communication is key. But not every women who does this, is trying to be a tease or be mean to the guy. Sometimes we are just figuring life out just like you. Women don’t always do this to be a jerk.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your feedback and I'm sorry about what you went through, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏

@TAJATee

2 жыл бұрын

Agree a lot of us enjoy kissing.

@lmg4293

2 жыл бұрын

Katy T - exactly

@RunninChic620

2 жыл бұрын

Kissing is fun, but not at your house or his. If you not ready for sex, don’t play with that kind of fire. Seriously, it’s understandable that you are trying to figure life out-but come on, an invitation to your house or his, 95% of the time is an open invite for more and that is how it’s perceived by 95% of adults. Perhaps it’s naivety-but deep down inside you know. The environment is prime for sex, if you don’t want to go there…then don’t go in that direction. Just sayin. The remaining 5% is when y’all have talked openly and plainly and have agreed to these environments (along with establishing some other safe guards) without engaging in sex. That’s different.

@katyt1904

2 жыл бұрын

@@RunninChic620 does not make any sense. So we’re not allowed to go over to anybody’s house until we’re ready to have sex? Couples are allowed to be alone together and not be ready to have sex. Like I said she didn’t have to get mad. Just explain herself like an adult. But just because I want to kiss or spend quality time with a guy doesn’t mean I’m ready for sex. You should be allowed to be alone with somebody without sex coming first to their mind.

I love to hear a strong man explaining how men think. My husband once told me we, as women, give men way too much credit. They don't think like we do. They don't analyze everything. They don't pick up on clues, etc. You basically say the same thing every day. That helped/s me so much.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help!

I feel lovingly checked. I learned about some of my mistakes. This was very well delivered and received. Thank you 🙏🏾

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure ❤

I totally agree with the sex part. Just like women don't like relationship-ish signals when the guy doesn't want commitment; men don't like vibes that sex is going to happen when women aren't ready for that step yet. I've definitely had to learn to exhibit willpower and avoid situations where there can be a gray area. So many valid points! I'd like to do a reaction video to this.

@albartpromise5427

2 жыл бұрын

Never knew this was a bad move!! I get this now.. Thanks so much Sir.

@orlaw.8213

2 жыл бұрын

Women want a man who can control themselves and realise that they are human and not going to be perfect lil angelic beings just cos they are not ready to have sex. Why do we treat men like they are animals and thick af?

@lindapowell4091

2 жыл бұрын

@@orlaw.8213 o

@sarahrobertson634

Жыл бұрын

Men need to just calm down. We can send sexual signals if we want, as we work up to actual intercourse, and they can just wait.

@etcwhatever

10 ай бұрын

​@@sarahrobertson634maybe.. but i wouldnt push it. I understand how difficult how it is for men as im too hot as well. But sex before commitment is a big mistake...its difficult for them to control. We need to set the boundaries.

We need God in the center of our daily decision-making processes and we are made in His image and likeness. We are married to Him in the highest sense and married to a person He created in the secondary sense. While it is excellent to know more about God and keep exploring God together, we are His creation, united, yet distinct from God and we also desire to be known in a delightful variety of ways and lovingly explored

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

@TERRI SPOKEN Thank you. I appreciate it. Praise God!

@micheleprice9771

2 жыл бұрын

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING ENLIGHTENING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY!BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS!PEACE and HARMONY to EVERYONE IN the WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021

@wakeshamcgauley5721

2 жыл бұрын

G gg. G g

@lydiasmith5739

2 жыл бұрын

Llll

Thank you Stephan ☺️, you came into my life about a year ago, when I mostly need your advice 👍. Only today I was explaining to my therapist everything you are saying tonight! Most of it referred the person I was : I really needed time to heal 😉😊 and I very pleased to be the person I am today. Best regards and continue this great job : you are helping people worldwide Lots of love coming from France 🇫🇷

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Healing is definitely key thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤

This is so informative for me because I have been out of the “dating scene” for several years.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy this has been helpful to you be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!

@renee167

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I’m definitely taking mental notes!

@leahjohn7175

2 жыл бұрын

We need to form a group and encourage each other 😂😂😂

@miacarter5328

2 жыл бұрын

I have been out of the dating scene since 2005 & I'm starting to think I should stay out!! It's too much BS. It wasn't this hard in the 90s-early 2000s 🤦‍♀️

@nella116

2 жыл бұрын

Dating sucks right now.

I am starting to have more faith in men again since listening to you, Stephan. And therefore, being more vulnerable. I believe you when you say there are good men out here and most of all increasing my faith that God will grant me my hearts desire of marriage. You are the GOAT🙏🏾🥰

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you ❤

@adriannepaul9224

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes, He will and is already making a way!! Location is key in being found and the way is being made for me to relocate real soon. I will have more opportunities to be more active in the community and hence not be so focused on being found. Thanks for being a breathe of fresh air in my time of need😄

@eettsd

2 жыл бұрын

Please do it's so fun Just get off social media and look each day even post ads without seeing how the guy looks. I'm texting someone on and off and I'm an Aries this guy is addicted to me. I'm also enjoying him. We're just playing around having fun conversation no commitment. It makes your single life feel good that your in control of it. I'm a homeless mom been getting some great sex but it losens my worries a bit while I continue working to get established.

@eettsd

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks 1 question. I have a strong faith in God and also speak to the universe. I asked the universe that I needed a stress reliever. I told God if the guy I cared for come back around I'm going to rip off his windshield wiper. I felt emotionally angry. Then met a guy who favored him and had awesome sex. Stress where? Lol i feel bad that I feel good that this happened to me. I want more but don't think it's a good idea. It was 1 time

I really appreciate the time, sweat and energy that goes into creating these videos. QUALITY material! Thank you Stephan. I’m open and listening to what you’re teaching and have been putting your advice into practice!🙏🏽🌟

@walkaminutewithme4787

10 ай бұрын

💯 ❤❤❤😊

I share the same sentiment as everyone else that’s posted and agree your insight is invaluable. I’m in a season of self discovery to why relationships haven’t spanned out the way I wanted and stumbled across your videos. I appreciate this and finding it very helpful in my future relationship. Thank you!

I hate dating. I live in South Florida and it’s a different type of terrible here.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Before you give up on dating try changing your focus from dating to learning and you will start to see positive results in your dating experiences!

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

Damn!

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

@@MeetStephanSpeaks True

@shayj04

2 жыл бұрын

I haven’t given up. I believe in love wholeheartedly. But at almost 36 years old, I’ve had enough experiences to write a best-selling novel lol. And I’ve learned from them. I just want the real thing.

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

@@shayj04 Lol. Same age and yeah. Lol. I feel you Shay. Haven't been that active dating these last few years...more focused on my goals and stuff...although I did talk to a few though. But it is what it is.

Aside from the awesome substance of these videos are the time when Stephan bursts out into contagious laughter. It makes the learning fun and doesn't take anything away from it.

My suggestion is that if you are dating and looking for commitment and marriage make it clear in the beginning the process you would like to take towards a sexual relationship. My personal rule is that I don’t allow anyone I’m dating over to my home or vice versa until the relationship is serious and there has been a commitment established first. This has been a great way to weed out the wrong type of people and forcing a real conversation about the progress of the relationship beforehand. I practice this rule with dating because I need commitment and trust before a sexual relationship.

OMG! IT IS ALMOST FALL WEATHER! Football games have started, hay rides are coming and pumpkin spice is approaching fast! I hope you have had a wonderful holiday today! Stay blessed!!! ✌ 😇😊💯🙏

You never know what to do. Either you say too much or you don’t say enough. This is so crazy.

I just found your channel. I’m so blown away , you truly are the best relationship coach for women. Please keep up the great content . Can you please make a video dedicated to being too independent as a woman . I fall in this category and really need help with it . Keep up the great content .

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

That's a great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done! Welcome aboard and be sure to subscribe and click the notification bell so that you can be notified whenever I upload a new video!

For the girl who is fine with kissing, had she clearly communicated her needs by expressing a firm boundary, that she enjoys kissing but sex is not an option for whatever her reasons, then asking what he thinks/feels about that opens the dialogue preventing the bait & switch mentality/resentment/confusion. Setting clear intentions /boundaries prevents most misunderstandings from occurring especially pre conceived notions of expectations before things get hot n heavy 😉 Men that push the boundaries are self revealing

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that, thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤

@LoveQuestWithLisaConcepcion

2 жыл бұрын

She never should have had him over her place until it was clear that she's not having sex until she's in love.

Stephen thank you 🙏🏽 so much! I’m currently in counseling for some healing from a marriage many, many years ago. I knew I needed it after a man I was interested in said that I had a lot of layers like an onion. Going forward, I said I didn’t want men to feel that way. Once they got to know me it was already too late. This touched me with your analogy to the financially stable man and his appearance 🤗

I just recently came across your channel. I am truly absorbing the information you have to share. Thank you for putting in the time effort and work to acquire this knowledge to share.

Thank you for the reminder. Been a widow for 13 yrs after being married for 20 years. Haven't been in a committed relationship since. I've become so disillusioned with whole dating scene. Must be and allowed to be myself and I want the someone who needs the same.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you 🙏

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

Thank you for the topics you cover and how you dive into issues and questions. You have a gift for presenting.

I just love your energy! Always make me smile or laugh ☺.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you very much, I appreciate your feedback!

You smile or lough out loud and the world becomes brighter!!! You made my day!!! Thank you! And thank you for the great advice!

I like to kiss and not want sex. I told this guy that and we kissed but he got on top of me, I asked him to stop and he didn't. I learned to never put myself in a situation where someone can over step my boundaries. I don't want to kiss someone in private again unless I'm in a relationship and I am open for sex and we talked.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

@maryhudson8531

Жыл бұрын

That's scary. Sorry that happened.

Being a tease is fun! I like teasing and being teased, however that’s nuts how that girl responded with anger in your example. Just have fun, play

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!

@annporter1472

2 жыл бұрын

Games are for kids! "Just have fun, play!?" What are you twelve?

@Sarasarah3

2 жыл бұрын

@@annporter1472 you need to read about the Art of Seduction. Different strokes for different folks my lady

@annporter1472

2 жыл бұрын

@@Sarasarah3 Perhaps you just need to grow up! Seduction is what it is. And playing and teasing isn't it! Good day!

@Sarasarah3

2 жыл бұрын

@@annporter1472 I can just imagine you clutching your pearls against your chest. The subtle art of teasing is what many Americans don’t understand and Europeans learn early on in life. Americans are disadvantaged because of our puritanical background, you barely understand romance and seduction and therefore culturally there is a deep shame around sex, even our culture always sexualizes nudity and we never discuss sex in a romantic manner with teenagers, their only insight is porn which is FAKE - where women are objectified and there is no focus on our pleasure. You do not know me and I do not know you, however I think you should have an open mind and quit making assumptions.

You are so down to earth..I love the way you deliver your messages

I needed this video and advice. I’m currently in the dating stages and realized a lot of things lol.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help!

As a mom to men, mentor to others....you speaking the truth up in here! .......periodt. Keep being a blessing!

@kimlaura8663

Жыл бұрын

Two perspectives are at play

Great information. I like the new subtitles or text boxes on the videos 👍

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback ❤

I will tell you the truth! I got that book "How to Get a Man to Cherish You " a couple of years ago. Funny enough I am usually extremely bubbly etc in general. I was in a long distance relationship for a year and a half and I promise you! He unfortunately revealed a secret he had been lying about and I broke up with him. He begged me back and listed many of the things that I did and was and it was things in that book! And it really opened my eyes to understand that these are real things that will make a man adore you! Just the right man to give it to.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!

I love your advice and I absolutely love your t-shirt! Thank you for all you do ❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

You and Rainie Howard speak truth and teach me. I’m one of the many that was never taught about self esteem/self love, or received love in a healthy manner. Kids today need your knowledge before they leave high school.🙏🏽❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help!

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

Yeaaaa they need this counsel!

@RhondaR4

2 жыл бұрын

@@zeal4god402 AMEN!

@RhondaR4

2 жыл бұрын

@@zeal4god402 Keep up the GREAT work Brother! Blessings coming your way! THANK JESUS IN ADVANCE!🙌🏽❤️

I love the sense of humor you bring with your advice very refreshing and insightful

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

I needed to hear all this

Excellent and educational video Stephan! I learned alot. Smile. Thanks so much. Keep these videos coming! Lol. 😁😁😁💯

I stumbled across this site and truly appreciate Mr. Stephan authenticity, transparency and funny real talk. Relationships requires genuine work. It's a business if you want success hard trust worthy work must be a priority. So many individuals fail due to pursuing a treadmill relationship. If you don't make the necessary change nothing will change.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback and don't forget to subscribe and click the notification bell so that you will be notified each time I upload a new video!

I really enjoy your lessons no joke about that.i have learn alot from your lessons and I've made alot of mistakes which is so highlighted to me know .thanks stephan your doing a great job.im a way better person know with your guidance and prayers im seeing way better results now.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you for sharing. I'm happy to have been helpful to you, I appreciate your feedback!

I love this I'm always tuning in or trying to catch up keep dropping these gems!!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate your feedback, and don't forget to click the notification bell so that you will be notified each time I upload a new video!

Notification gang 🥳🥳...you speak with so much clarity and wisdom...thank you for sharing this with us for free!!!!! Really appreciate.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure ❤ thank you for watching I appreciate your support!

@jayc5756

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, he's speaking facts here

@juleskamene5015

2 жыл бұрын

@jayC he really is... Giving us so much guidance and counsel to improve our relationships in such an articulate manner..

Another awesome video Stephan! You really make me think about things I never thought of about us women before!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad I could help, thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤

I'm just amazed at how much time you take to respond to the comments section. This is truly the epitome of a masculine man working in his healthy feminine energy which is about being receptive to authentically connecting with others. Your channel gives me hope about bringing together all the polarity I see within the "men vs. women" movement that is currently causing so much division in our consciousness. Thank you for the wonderful content!

This is soo good! 🙌🏽

it seems like a big competition in the dating world.. these tips will come in handy for when i start to date again, gracias. you're a great coach!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching I appreciate your feedback!

I agree with Stephan. He mentioned that you should focus more on who you are as a person. Yes materialistic things and being accomplished are great to have but being a person who has good character qualities is very important as well.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right!

@ellebee9864

2 жыл бұрын

But telling someone about your good qualities just seems futile to me. It’s much better to let them see it in action consistently over time. Every man that tells me “I was raised right” has turned out to be a scoundrel. 😂😂 I think a man asking a woman what she offers then telling her it doesn’t matter is just pompous, invalidating, rude and cruel.

Great information!! I will definitely keep in mind when I start dating again ❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing

Awww! I'm so blessed to hear your words of wisdom. Thanks alot @StephanSpeaks . Love from Nigeria.

Amen Stephan!!! I love the way you stay real with your counsels. God bless you.

I appreciate the time and perspective you share! In all honesty this video is applicable to male or female. I can name examples in which a male has acted in the same ways. May we all learn and grow!! It is a hard time to be dating!! So many of us are broken and trying to just move on bc that is what we are used to. Let us break the cycle ❣

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that, thank you for sharing ❤

This is so terrible because women are conditioned to control their appetite. We don't always know when we are sending men an invitation to have sex because we expect men to control themselves too. A friend of mine was invited to a party. She showed up alone and was raped. Those men felt justified because she had the confidence to go by herself. Why are some men so fragile and self-centered?

@ellebee9864

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry about your friend. I agree with your views on the “tease” topic. The way it is presented, it sounds to me like it promotes the message “if a woman is raped, it’s her fault.” I know that is kind of extreme but men need to understand just because they always think about sex, does not mean they get to presume women want it.

I appreciate you! I am of mature age trying to get back into dating. Don’t want to make same mistakes.

Stephan you have it all? Even ur sense of humor is adorable and makes you so approachable.

I love love love every video i watch... i have a book that i write everything down in. I take notes in my phone and i practice what you say. I listen every morning whatever video pops up on my feed... i have your books and currently going thru love after heartbreak because i recently went thru a very bad breakup with a narcissist and it was draining and tiring 😫. I was overwhelmed and my mind was in a complicated place. I felt devalued and confused because of how things happened and exactly what happened . I was left with questions and uncertainty. I was left feeling like i poured my entire life into this man and he discarded me. And it has now been about 4 months and i have recently been feeling better and uplifting. I am doing my proper healing with God and not another man... i dont talk much to my girlfriends about it because ive just always been that way and i am doing the self reflection, the growing,, the listening to my intuition and strengthen my patience, peace, embrace what happened and making my necessary changes to make myself better for the man God has for me.... 🥰🥰😍😍

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

I'm happy that I have been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you 🙏

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! Constantly stay constant Constance

I've been on several dates and I will Never invite anyone to my home.......

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

Accusing others of what you’re guilty of is a double standard You teach ppl how to treat you by what you choose and refuse to tolerate. Keep your standards high and your tolerance low ✊❤️🙏

@linbee9461

Жыл бұрын

I agree!

Great video Stephen!😊😊

You are my brother in my head 😂 I appreciate you so much and those text I get be right on point 💗

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 Thank you very much, I appreciate your feedback!

Stephan Speaking All Facts here! Thank You brother. If women understand all of this and adjust a little...I believe this dating scene will improve dramatically. Too much game playing out here. So it can get kinda difficult in this dating scene for a good solid guy. FR

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it would really help when they embrace that.

Thank you for sharing all this good information and speaking your truth. I appreciate it very much. 👍😀

I love when the man picks the restaurant and it's super far and were driving in his car for a long time, music playing💗💗💗

I've noticed though...a lot of guys will make an assumption about you before actually getting to know you.that is a huge turn off for me.yet once they get to know me, they're shock to learn certain things...because they never tried to generally learn and that takes time.

I really respect your ability to make women your main audience without pandering to them. Other dating coaches need to take your approach.

So many good point you brought out… Thanks Stephan.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

Hey Stephan for dropping this video. You was so on point. I really needed to hear this because i haven't been in the dating world for awhile. I forgot how to date. Your videos have really helped me out a lot. I can admit that i have a wall up. I really need to work on that. I just love your sense of humor. I am feeling your shirt. You are looking real good in that shirt😍🥰 Where did you get it from?

Honestly one of the things that i’m super insecure is being too hard and too independent 😢 idk how to be vulnerable and soft I’m very sensitive and I fear getting hurt so much

@lw4294

Жыл бұрын

Me too 🥹😞

Seems like we have to walk on egg shells to keep a man interested

@SM-cg5uy

2 жыл бұрын

All games. 😕

@ellebee9864

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!! If you are feminine, you are too docile. If you take care of yourself, you’re too independent. If you are successful, you’re too masculine or arrogant. If you let him lead with contact and dating, you are not showing interest. If you show interest, you’re too thirsty. CHILE!!!! I do not have the time or energy to be doing all these mental gymnastics when most of them expect us to accept them with all of their flaws and baggage.

@jo8n97

2 жыл бұрын

Seems draining…

@nuray9077

11 ай бұрын

😂

I love your energy and humor :) and of course all the knowledge

I have so much respect for you, Stephan. I don't miss a video!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate that ❤ 🙌

Great video! Thank you for sharing ❤️

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure ❤

Very informative. You hit the nail on the head. Thank you 😊

@TheSimplethings007

2 жыл бұрын

More like enlightening.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

❤ 🙂 I'm happy this has been helpful to you, I appreciate your feedback and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

Cracking up from the very beginning. So true! 🎨 🖌

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it. I appreciate your feedback!

Great advice Stephan! I agree that you have to make your intentions CLEAR in the beginning. If you’re celibate make it clear on day one. You definitely don’t want to send mixed signals. I’d rather be honest then lead someone on.

@zeal4god402

2 жыл бұрын

AMEEEEEEN 🔥 🔥 🔥 Being alone, ya'll think playing monopoly and watching TV and playing patty cake will be the only things done/considered

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤

@vanesak8356

2 жыл бұрын

It helps get rid of jokers

I'm sorry. I do appreciate you taking this time out from your busy schedule to help women like me find true genuine love. You're great!!!!!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure ❤

Thank you for this video.

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure ❤

Boiiiii, this a whole sermon!! I’m gon have to put some bills in the collection plate because you fasho speaking truth to power. Thank you!

I really appreciate the realistic way you break things down. Because you stay authentic to what men want and don’t want, but you also acknowledge some of the concerns women have about those preferences and clarify the nuances. Like with the makeup for example. Because I can’t stand when a man says he likes a natural woman. Because no that’s not necessarily the case. Makeup is supposed to enhance so of course if she looks better with makeup or is not that cute without it, a man is going to respond accordingly. So thank you for emphasizing that there’s levels of makeup and emphasizing the functionality of makeup and where it becomes problematic. That’s much more realistic than “I hate makeup, I like natural women” 🙄 irks me lol

When dating just be upfront and honest from the get go. Put all the details on the table like a contract from the start. Explain why you're doing what you're doing. Explain in detail. At least both or more parties know what to expect, they can choose to move on or stay. Common sense. It's not difficult! Blessing and love to you all 🥰

@LoveQuestWithLisaConcepcion

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯

@SkyePhoenix

Жыл бұрын

Dating today is a sh** show. In a perfect world people would be upfront and honest about their intentions and desires.

I feel like I have gone through a significant amount of work (reflection, therapy, counseling, prayer, etc.)…I’ve always been open & honest and show genuine interest when I meet a young man…i state what is acceptable & not….. I am learning how to walk in my femininity when appropriate (the dating scene)….and I appreciate anything anyone does for me. It still seems that I have not met anyone who doesn’t have a large amount of baggage that I just can’t accept and I believe we should accept people for who they are. Or him and I just aren’t going the same way or walking the same path. I’m kinda over it, but I appreciate your videos and information. I enjoy them. Thank you!

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you like the videos ❤ don't forget to share them so that others can receive love and healing!

@ellebee9864

2 жыл бұрын

Sadly, a woman can never make or even remedy all 9 of these alleged “mistakes” and still end up attracting the absolute worst men or no one at all. I am speaking from experience. I hope you find love dear! ❤️ Stay optimistic!

BRO, I agree with every last 9 of these & I TRIPLE Agree on #6. Thank you✊🏾💯💯

@MeetStephanSpeaks

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

I keep wanting to comment about how valuable the work you’re doing is after I finish a video…but then I find more of your content and get distracted.😅