8 Ways Emotional Abuse Traumatizes You
Emotional abuse is defined as the continued and deliberate mistreatment of another person by means of psychological aggression, intimidation, coercion, control, and emotional manipulation. Physical abuse is a very pressing social issue being dealt with all over the world today, but very little attention is given to understanding and helping those who suffer from emotional abuse. Verbal abuse/ emotional abuse is one of the most rampant but also most overlooked forms of abuse. It’s elusive, misunderstood, and much more difficult to recognize, but the negative impact it can have on a person’s mental health and emotional well-being shouldn’t be taken lightly. So, in this video, we decided to talk about how emotional abuse can traumatize you to spread awareness on how any form of abuse is never okay and it’s something no one should ever have to go through.
If you can relate to this list but you're not sure what you've experienced is emotional abuse, we've created a video in the past about the signs of emotional abuse: • 7 Warning Signs of Emo...
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The most frustrating thing is when you confront someone who had emotionally abused you ,they deny it and then manipulate you into thinking it was your fault 😔 Edit: Just wanted to say thank you for all the likes and most of all the replies and kind words ,I hope everyone is doing well, please look after yourselves :)
@a.cnugget0323
3 жыл бұрын
True
@namjoonsjigglytiddies5334
3 жыл бұрын
Mine told me that I imagined it and even if they did say something like that, I should've just forget about it like they did..
@mitcherosemamingbugtay8842
3 жыл бұрын
Yahhh😪
@Neurodivergent_Nat
3 жыл бұрын
True!
@pcyforlife882
3 жыл бұрын
True
If You're reading this, I'm beyond sorry.
@vocaberri
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you It's really hard to cope but I'm really trying my hardest.
@rembee341
3 жыл бұрын
please give me a hug
@thenachomagic8034
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@universgal6306
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@yokeobro
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
When she said “It’s not your fault” i just bursted into tears. I’ve never actually heard someone say those words to me and it just really helped me
@angelacavon7305
2 жыл бұрын
same...😭
@Currentlyhere7
2 жыл бұрын
Same man
@cactdye
2 жыл бұрын
same lol
@nfbwill174
2 жыл бұрын
Yea that really helped”however it’s hard being emotional and physically abused…did I mention I’m a guy “she knows I don’t hit women.
@Rose-gy1cc
2 жыл бұрын
Same.
I think the hardest thing is to convince someone that they’re being emotionally abused when they’ve gotten so used to it since childhood
@Killua_Zoldyck3407
Жыл бұрын
"I was born unlucky it's just the way it is. I've lived with it so long now... I'm just used to it." - Killua Zoldyck
@takeoats
Жыл бұрын
@@Killua_Zoldyck3407 He is my favorite hxh character for a reason I suppose. Lol.
@Killua_Zoldyck3407
Жыл бұрын
@@takeoats he's my favorite to
@takeoats
Жыл бұрын
@@Killua_Zoldyck3407 I can tell
@Killua_Zoldyck3407
Жыл бұрын
@@takeoats lol
"You had it so good your whole life!" "I never hit you!" "Your generation is so sensitive!!"
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
My mom: You're in a healthy environment, don't say such a thing! My mom: I NEVER HIT YOU THAT"S RIDICULOUS!
@zebaa4277
3 жыл бұрын
(Trigger warning) The third one is so common lol. Someone I know said, "This generations' kids sui**de over little things."
@medallionvaliance5349
3 жыл бұрын
@@zebaa4277 I’m not entirely sure how to put how fucked up a thing to say that is
@zebaa4277
3 жыл бұрын
@@medallionvaliance5349 😔😔
@Marshiethemarshmallow
3 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry. May all of you get help and a better life. Remember it isn’t your fault and you should not let them bring you down. Your a good person who deserves so much more.
I’m terrified of having a child because I don’t want to treat them the way my family treated me. : I
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, just think about how your parents were thinking. Maybe they were scared to have a child because they didn't want to treat you the same way there parents treated them. They couldn't control there emotions and feelings they just forced there anger out towards you. I just think of it this way and, it makes me feel a little bit better.
@morelazystuff7733
3 жыл бұрын
Same here... And whenever I say that I don't want to have a child because of that fear, my mother always respond: "That's because you are immature. Grow, you are already an adult!".
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
@Maria Isabelle Villacorte YAS THEY ARE SCARY!
@MrRizwaldo
3 жыл бұрын
I so understand that same here i don't want kids for the same reason
@emmad.176
3 жыл бұрын
♡
As someone who is being (Possibly?) Gaslighted, the one and only thing I am genuinely scared of, to the point it brings me to tears is how I have a possibility of becoming a mental abuser myself, and I don't want that to happen, no one deserves to be abused.
@devikaputti8723
2 жыл бұрын
You wont be. trust me just heal ur self when u treat your self with love and care you treat others the same way I hope u have beautiful days ahead of you .💚 strength to u
@Currentlyhere7
2 жыл бұрын
If you properly heal from it and work on yourself you won’t I promise you won’t. If you ever need someone to talk to just reply to this comment and I’ll give you my snap:)
@alysononoahu8702
2 жыл бұрын
You only get one life, get outta there
@1kingdomcome276
2 жыл бұрын
I’m also now being accused of this after 10 years of going through it with the same person. Seeking divorce, finally.
@elisasmith3766
2 жыл бұрын
Same
Words can really beat you down until you feel like nothing.
@clarebritton8245
3 ай бұрын
True x
It’s so sad when you try to explain why you feel sad about the way someone treated you and people don’t believe you or think you’ve exaggerated...
@isabelescobar912
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I broke up with my bf yesterday and my mom basically told me not to break up because he shows he really cares and that he loves me and all he wants is me to be happy. I don't understand how my mom said that and did not support me because she saw me cry MULTIPLE TIMES because of this and now she tells me to not break up and give him a second chance
@ChocoParfaitFra
3 жыл бұрын
Isabel Escobar how... just how??? Sorry but is she blind?? If you think that breaking up is better for you then go for it It’s always better than remaining in a place where you feel not loved and not seen... even if your mum tells you not to leave him
@isabelescobar912
3 жыл бұрын
@@ChocoParfaitFra yes exactly! She really confused me but now that we're broken up I feel much better!
@montacap
3 жыл бұрын
Yes because you keep just really seeking acknowledgment .A simple I'm sorry.
@montacap
3 жыл бұрын
@@isabelescobar912 I supported and back to my daughter and rescued her numerous times throughout numerous abusive relationships and it did no good. So I don't think there's a winning direction no matter which way you go.
The one who emotionally abused me is being adored by others on social media. She played it really nice. Nice world we are living in
@jqnnyb2676
2 жыл бұрын
Know that there is probably a cozy place in hell for her.
@cheryllai1399
2 жыл бұрын
be more successful than her. excel in what you are interested in. i’m here with u 💗
@Bluwolf-ib3qb
2 жыл бұрын
Everybody does eventually. That thought brings me warmth when I think about my abusers
@TungNguyen-jr3yz
2 жыл бұрын
You're not alone! Probably the others are toxic as hell too. In my experience, just walk away and stop seeking any kinds of validation from those ppl. Understanding that you are free and have every right to control your life and to do what's best for you is also important. I've been there before, and I know it's easier say than do. But once you've found the courage to do that, it'll be a whole new world for you. Good luck and stay strong 🔥❤
@emmanuelgaillard8778
2 жыл бұрын
Same here: avoid her on social media. Focus on YOUR life. Social media is not real life and people tend to press the like button for anything. Trust yourself, listen to yourself, be proud of yourself.
It hurts so much when it's ur parents
@buttercup86900
2 ай бұрын
Yes but please don't believe their cruel words because they aren't true and it's not your fault 💗 love yourself and remember u are worthy of respect, kindness and love
@strider3438
Ай бұрын
😢
@Crow_Lover07
Ай бұрын
Someones who’s never experienced it wont understand the kind of pain
@Xenoverse2goku
5 күн бұрын
I go through this every day i try to ignore it but it just makes it worse for me i lost hope in everything at this point
I thought I was alone in my pain. I pray for everyone in the chat to break free from this trauma and live life to the fullest. I’ve been through all of the signs in the video. Sometimes I wonder when will I be able to break the chains and fly away free.
intro 0:20 what is emotional abuse. 1. 1:12 it takes a long time to recover from 2. 1:50 most people don't understand what you've been through 3. 2:24 it gives you a negative outlook on life 4. 2:56 it gives you a negative view of yourself 5. 3:28 it has long term psychological effects 6. 4:00 emotional abuse can also have physical side effects 7. 4:32 it puts you at risk for mental illness 8. 5:03 it puts you at risk of becoming an abuser yourself
@hutao9661
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the list and time stamps! Did you relate to any of these points?
@melcol
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go yes , thank you so much for your videos! helped a lot!
@charmaine7781
3 жыл бұрын
I am actually scared of becoming an abuser now
@heraturcoaz5131
3 жыл бұрын
First I don't have friends second I can't ask for help because my mom is translating my words to strangers and vice versa and my grandma and my mom said I should avoid telling people what my family did to me because if I tell someone then that someone will try harm me cause they are liars and they don't actually care of me
when you’ve been emotionally abused in almost all your past relationships, you really start to doubt the idea of love and trusting anyone again.
@Kayscastle
3 жыл бұрын
That's where I'm at rn 💔
@wakeup6778
3 жыл бұрын
Yes to me it came to a point that im unable to feel the feeling of love anymore
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
YEAHHHHHHHHHHHH, it's even worse than getting bullied by a kid your age! LIKE even worse!
@abbeyjane5014
3 жыл бұрын
It's gotten to the point where i don't trust anyone anymore
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
@@abbeyjane5014 YEAHHHHHHH
I was emotionally abused by my narcissistic sister growing up, and became the family scapegoat. Left me with little to no self esteem. Made me an easy target for crappy friends and partners. You can’t blame yourself for the way people treated you, You owe it to yourself to find peace and happiness. You deserve it. ❤️❤️
@Thankyou_world
10 ай бұрын
So true shitty friends and relationships and we can't even lie about our life to them
@laurenfaith4800
9 ай бұрын
I believe I’m going through something similar but i’m questioning because i don’t want to falsely blame my sister. She has talked badly about me, especially when i set boundaries. She has asked me for favors and acted like i was the worst when I didn’t have the time or didn’t want to - bullying me into doing it. And she has extremely fragile self esteem, and has become very emotionally aggressive. I’m curious if these are similar things you fought with. Thank you so much.
@muskanmanocha8365
7 ай бұрын
I can relate
@jacobyearout9654
7 ай бұрын
Same, but fortunately, I have an amazing girlfriend and the best BFF a guy could ask for
@bethany08able
2 ай бұрын
@@laurenfaith4800my sister was like this. I cut her off and she had nowhere to put that negativity so she found other people to bully. It was really eye opening for me and my family to watch her turn it on other people.
Emotionally abused throughout all of my childhood. Have never recovered. Have constantly had to battle low self-esteem, anxiety, depression and suicidality for my entire adult life.
@Beauty88895
Ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that ❤
@MonsieurZemuya
25 күн бұрын
I’m still Emotionally abused and mistreated constantly. 😢 I just turned 31 and parents still have more control than me, however; My older sister is the lucky one. IDC if it’s a sexist culture thing, But I do plan to file a Permanent restraining order amongst them. This has been going on since 1996 since I was 3 years old until today, that’s literally 28 years of torture. Of course they won’t admit this, kind of like a rapist or a murderer, yet the Police Officers believes them which is why I want an attorney. I have a video proof
That's why I lost my communication abilities, I really can't have a healthy relationship
@mjrussell414
3 жыл бұрын
Mei .w You can. You just need to get away from the wrong people. Not everyone is a friend. Caring, loving people don’t behave this way. Those are the kind of relationships you deserve. And you will find.
@riverwalkerproductions4891
3 жыл бұрын
You can have a good relationship. It may take some searching or leavening the bad people in your life but I believe you can do it. I believe in you!!!
@missrelaxed3872
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly !!! I feel the same way too ! I feel like can’t communicate & that everyone is judging me
@jhsemoxitha3821
3 жыл бұрын
It's gonna get better you can heal you will feel better you are not alone *hugs*
@butterfly-sky
3 жыл бұрын
@@missrelaxed3872 same it’s exhausting !!!
I’ve been in both physical and emotional abusive relationships. Emotional is 1000 times worse.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Yes.. emotional is so much more worse.. whereas physical can heal with time and rest.
@tocachicken8434
3 жыл бұрын
How did you comment a week ago-
@omarguevara6781
3 жыл бұрын
GLITCH-
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
It is all horrible. Emotional, mental, and verbal abuse is more sneaky and subtle.
@blakedout
3 жыл бұрын
@𓅓 •glιtchy animatez•𓅓 Because this video was unlisted on KZread and actually existed before this day
When she said it’s not your fault and no one deserves to be treated like this made me burst out into tears
"You're difficult to love. You're a disaster waiting to happen." Since he never actually laid a finger on me to physically hurt me, no one will ever see him as the type of abuser i knew him as. Everybody praises him for being a "nice looking guy", and believes me to be this image of a bitter and resented hag that could never get over him. It's hard to forget the damage that broke your confidence, your self-love...
"stupid" "there's something wrong with you" I'll always remember
@Ive_got_a_big_dick
2 жыл бұрын
Hey..I may not know you but I love you and you are enough,I love you and there's a reason you are here!! Stay strong don't show those people right, don't show weakness to those people you will just show them they're right..and they're not you show them how strong you are !! You got this!
@kerrellegall3530
2 жыл бұрын
Same for me as well like for example when my mom tell me to do something and I made a mistake she would tell me you can't do anything good once in your life or is something wrong with you? I don't know how to you will make it in the real world etc it's so sad and I'm so fed up.
@danielrierson6683
2 жыл бұрын
My stepmom called me a pos and I didn’t deserve my father. As a teenager I could handle it. But the fact that my parents divorced and this is what I’m dealing with. Mind you this happened in my parents old matrimony home
@nickjamesb2051
2 жыл бұрын
For me it was "Im not saying your stupid, you're just ACTING stupid" Step father also used to mock me for having been unhappy in my childhood.
@misteryudonnome
2 жыл бұрын
me?!... see I feel you're saying this to me. That's how it fuksup your mind!
My parents used corporal punishment to “discipline” me as a child. I never knew or remember the lessons, but I do remember the shame, guilt, and loneliness that I felt. Physically hurting your child never helps.
@pcyforlife882
3 жыл бұрын
My heart breaks reading these kind of comments..l hope you will heal n find true happiness some day..
@notnoobyatgames3285
3 жыл бұрын
Also don’t forget the skills of hearing foot steps faking tasks not crying after being whooped so you don’t get more and hiding all accounts you have with your friends so you don’t lose contact with your friends
@montacap
3 жыл бұрын
Our kids grew up in a military family and hated the fact that calisthenics was the discipline. But at that point the state wanted to say no to all forms of discipline but then wouldn't tell you what was okay. I feel there is no way to really succeed as a parent No matter what some little moment will come along and damage the psyche. Just some people have more of it than others. I had a pretty bad myself as a kid so my only goal was to potentially have children that weren't in prison that their parents actually cared about them and that their parents were there for them and that we only wanted them to be happy but that all didn't turn out either. So I don't know I think no matter what it's always going to be a mess. It's all about levels.
@Choshako
3 жыл бұрын
@Lily zzstu Lowhorn Your mom’s bf has no right to “discipline” you, he’s not your father or even your stepfather. If there actually is any behavioral issues, it’s your mom’s job to handle that, not whatever schmuck she happens to be dating. He’s really overstepping his boundaries by saying/ doing things like that, it’s not his place at all.
@IsabeIIa.
3 жыл бұрын
@Lily zzstu Lowhorn to u or the mom 😏
If you’re reading this. Be strong, don’t listen to them haters. I go through the haters everyday too. You can get through this.
My ex was emotionally abused and he was emotionally abusive to me. I hate it because I know he didn’t realize what he was doing.. but I have to remember that does not negate what I went through and his past isn’t an excuse.
I was emotionally, verbally and physically abused by my parents for years, I didn't want to see my little brother go through the same thing so once I left and started living alone I seeked help and turned my parents in. Years and years I was planning for it so I had a lot of video proof of the abuse. Now my brother lives with my aunt. Call that success. (This is the short version btw.) Edit: thank you all for the love and support, and to whoever is going through anything I hope that you may find the strenght to fight through it! It takes absolutely nothing to say something good to another person and if you know someone who is going through some shit then support them, if you can't do anything then a few good words and listening to them really helps! My aunt was the one listening to me and even though she was helpless (since she lived in a different country before I helped her to come to where I lived) she still listened to me and gave me strenght to fight through it! May god help whoever is trying to overcome whatever it might be! Stay safe.
@heideburge5602
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! That is amazing. Touches my heart. Thank you
@Sabrina-su8du
3 жыл бұрын
I wish i was you 😥 my parents does the same but i cant arrest them cuz its not illegal in our country 🥺
@niqmare69
3 жыл бұрын
Wow..Atleast your brother won't feel that pain
@owocrature7579
3 жыл бұрын
@Selflovexstudy: Sakshi In my country,they will be arrest. But only for a few years...Then the suffering start again.Hope you guys will move to a better place.Are you living in India?Cuz I heard that theres a tons of child abuse and rape cases there.Sorry if you live there...Hope I can help you in some way.
@juniorlewiskythatnigga7448
3 жыл бұрын
My parents also emotionally abuse me but indirectly so calling them out is really hard
The scars never heal. Emotionally, physically, or mentally.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear :( How many of these points did you relate to?
@jupiter2609
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go Uhhhhh- 7 of them. I didn't expect you to reply 0-0'
@generalhorse493
3 жыл бұрын
"What do scars do, they fade I guess" -Po Kung Fu Panda 2
@rolmodel12.
3 жыл бұрын
Scars are proof that you survived. The trick is to be proud of them, don't wish them away.
@jupiter2609
3 жыл бұрын
@@rolmodel12. But what if you need to wish them away. What if you're ashamed of surviving, because I don't *want* to survive, when my sister didn't come out of that house with her happiness.
This is probably why I always feel like I'm never enough for anybody.
@JayBugi
3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly one side effect that is me. If i never discovered this channel along with comments, like ir comment, i wouldn't have been able to see my psychological/emotional profile. Ur comment made me feel like i am finally understood! Thank you friend! I hope that we can achieve getting passed this. We all are equally worthwhile! Even the assholes. Good luck and God bless!
@TabithaLeann
3 жыл бұрын
@@JayBugi your welcome
I’ve been told “It’s your fault” before. I’ve been through emotional abuse and it still traumatizes me to this day.
@bevstrong3651
3 жыл бұрын
Same. I was emotionally abused as a kid as well as bullied and my emotional abuser said that it was my fault that I was bullied among other things. It still hurts me today. I’m sorry that you’re going that.
@acpiglet9059
3 жыл бұрын
My ex would say that to me all the time
@LoRo_Moon_Stars
3 жыл бұрын
I still get told, "It's your fault."....then after I'm completely shattered then am told it's not all my fault, they're at fault too. Then give it a day or two, or a week...the same thing all over again.
@sandrajdavis1236
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve Been Right & Currently Going Through Right Now 😢
@ellebee6712
3 жыл бұрын
And me and I am 74 now
Oh wow, I just realized my life is so messed up after some of these videos.
@theswiftvet7107
3 жыл бұрын
1 week ago??
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
How many points did you resonate with?
@crismoncloud1157
3 жыл бұрын
I know right?
@nandarani4002
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go all😅 Edit: except the one that said u become an abuser urself I mean i do lose my fucking senses when i well lose my senses (btw cuz of insecurities i mean i guess i have never went to a counselor its just that i think that its it) *dont wanna self diagonose althought but how the hell am i supposed to explain the shit that i do to myself by calling it black magic or something which btw happens in our country and yeah u feel pity af on that but what can u do* but yeah i think so i am not an abuser Does screaming violently on your brain cuz of the constant annoyance and irritation of the person that triggered u without knowing the aftermath of u crying without breathing count as an abuse towards em? I do feel bad but i just couldn't say it (i am sorry for doin that plz dont hate me for this) Uk its very fucking shitty in our coutry(india) Its like u have a full fledged war of mean words and then dont even say sorry not bcuz u dont feel sorry i mean i feel it and i think my sister felt that too but u just dont say it And if u r bout to say communication issues well yeah it is thg and well more complicated cuz u dont say sorry u just start talking again and assume that if the person is talking again they r fine i mean what u did was wrong and maybe u realize it but u just dont say it and its basically judging that if they r sorry or not sorry so ur brain just goes all, " yeah u basically predicted that and she hates u". So its hard to deal with shit sometimes(actually most of the times)
@carenboston2996
3 жыл бұрын
Me too
The worse part about this is that I had a "friend" who I had to walk around eggshells for because of her mental health issues yet she never gave a damn when it came to emotionally abuse me in front of others to make herself feel better. I never felt so hurt and betrayed. The sad reality is that we can never build a time machine and change shit. And you have to always be quiet about it because then you become a burden to people who expect you to get over your emotional trauma, and not talk about it. And make you feel shit about yourself because it is always on your mind...but some shit hurts you deeply and triggers you so it plays on your mind...the world is such a miserable lonely place.
So great to listen to this, it validates my experience entirely, thru the chronic fatigue, confusion about why my body gave up on me, when I was super-fit! Thru to CPTSD, isolation, no-one listening to my thoughts, being expected to get over it (with a snap of fingers!), when the lingering voice keeps telling you you aren't good enough no matter how many trophies/successes you achieve... used up & neglected... It takes a long time to get a bit of a bounce back... It takes work to love yourself, & be alone with yourself, to heal those wounds. Mindfulness, silence the self-critic & replace with loving kind thoughts about yourself, build self-confidence up by setting small & larger goals & achieving them, exercise, be in nature frequently, breathe, be grateful for all you have, everyday you are alive be thankful.
Honestly, I deny my abuse sometimes. It's because everyone I know thinks it's not serious. It's so hard to let myself be heard when no one's going to believe me anyway.
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
That is why you get counseling. Most people in your inner circle will not hear you.
@willowthewisp2725
3 жыл бұрын
I reckon it’s best to get therapy and counseling then. Most people who haven’t gone through what you have or haven’t studied it won’t understand it. But that doesn’t mean your issues aren’t valid! You just aren’t looking for help in the right places!
@gnarthdarkanen7464
3 жыл бұрын
The WORST is when these same people come and ask "What's the matter?" as if they care... BUT as soon as you tell them about it, they're all, "Awh... that's not true. That's not abusive. It's just a joke." etc... "S/He was only teasing..." and dismiss you completely. I got to a point where someone tried acting like a friend, and they'd done this exact thing before... BUT they asked me "What's wrong?" AND I retorted with a snarl, "What the F*** do you care?! You just want something else to laugh about?! You want some more salt to rub into the wound?! GO F*** YOURSELF!!! OKAY? B**** ! THAT'S WHAT'S WRONG!!!" At least, they didn't keep bothering me anymore. At the time, I was completely content with that. I would work it out as I could on my own, and I could finally figure it out when I was ready, and reach out to a better resource (like a guidance counselor) when I actually needed help. ;o)
@a.cnugget0323
3 жыл бұрын
Same,no one believes me cause my parents act so kind and shit infrint of everyone so nobody believes its abuse and that im lying and that there just diciplimary parents wich is bullshit
@papasscooperiaworker3649
3 жыл бұрын
Ladenna Young Yeah, I'm planning to talk about it with a counselor but I'm not okay with the repercussions I may have to face. I'm not necessarily scared of being separated from my abuser, I'm more so afraid of being separated from my cousin who just so happens to be on my abuser's side of the family (if I were to get my abuser in trouble or something and everyone in the family would distance themselves from me, out of spite). I know it's not easy getting people to believe your story... and while I'm going to have to live with that, I don't want to live without my cousin.
The most frustrating thing is when you confront someone who had emotionally abused you ,they deny it and then manipulate you into thinking it was your fault 😔
@ainz2000
3 жыл бұрын
Abusers will rarely take accountability for the abuse, please keep that in mind for your own mental health!!!!
@user-up1ku4qz5h
3 жыл бұрын
I’m abusing myself by eating chips and salsa then having burning hot diarrhea
@fireguy4588
2 жыл бұрын
The most frustrating thing here is to see that you didn’t even bother deleting the emoji from the comment you stole
@fliemark3158
2 жыл бұрын
Like my father
@ljj2779
2 жыл бұрын
@Frieda Neal I’ve learned that you may not get the closure you want from some ppl who abused. Sometimes moving on is the only choice but its hard.
Due to the manipulation, it still feels like my fault. I can’t get the person’s voice out of my head.
i have been trying to forget about my abuser and the pain he caused. I just ran into him driving and he was chasing me and trying to get my attention so here I am reliving the pain. we got this guys❤️
@piyushsrivastava5581
5 ай бұрын
Is there any legal action against mental abuse?
I'm 12 I've been constantly told "why can't you be like them?" "You've had it good your whole life" "I'm not the reason your miserable" " I try to help but you won't let me" I'm sick of it
@kitthefrickinkat9549
3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry, but try to hang in there. It will slowly get better, trust me. Also, if it's hurting your mental health, couldn't you maybe involve your school counselor in this? It's worse to suffer in silence than to gather the courage to say something, I'm learning this the hard way right now because I now feel way too much shame and guilt to talk about how my mom used to emotionally abuse me. Stay strong, you're an incredible person and never forget that! 💕
@dxisyxo6518
3 жыл бұрын
feeling like this right now.
@Ive_got_a_big_dick
2 жыл бұрын
I've gotten told im the cause of depression.. Lmao
@chrissi975
2 жыл бұрын
My father was exactly like that. Please remember that you don't have to be anyone else but you. You're not alone.
@nonamezgamez4041
2 жыл бұрын
PLEASE, as a person who has also been told these things, I'd rather you reach out and talk to me instead of bottling it up and letting yourself suffer. If, for any reason, they try to put their hands on you like my foster parents did to me, I want you to respond to this comment, type as much as you want, and make sure I hear about it aight/ (Btw I'm a 19 yr old guy, Kamryn's the name. I know what it feels like, so I gotchu)
I’m 26 years old. I’ve been fighting on daily basis, ever since I’m 16 years old due to a traumatic episode, to not relapse back to my impulsive suicidal thoughts. I tried to reach out but my friends thinks it’s a phrase and I’m overthinking. Watching videos from you, Psych2Go. Makes me feel that I’m not alone.
@noone-bc5lq
3 жыл бұрын
Man your not alone I have been thinking about committing suicide since I was really young .
@JinxRin
3 жыл бұрын
dont talk to me im awkward we will get this through, right? Gotta fight on!
@siyanigavekar7776
3 жыл бұрын
I've had the same experience as u 2
@JinxRin
3 жыл бұрын
Selflovexstudy: Sakshi Thank you for the supportive words
@mjrussell414
3 жыл бұрын
Rin Stark Would you please check out videos by The Crappy Childhood Fairy? You are probably suffering from Complex PTSD. There are people who know and understand what you are experiencing. I know. And I know it’s hard to get out of that cycle of thinking. She calls it disregulation. There are ways to combat it. Another tool I use now that helps is positive affirmation videos. It’s uncomfortable at first to say things out loud you don’t really feel in your heart, but then later, it’s hard not to get into it and start believing. No, you are not alone. You are not your trauma, and you are loved.
The most wonderful part is when they try to "fix" you and your symptoms with more emotional abuse. Human logic.
Thank you for this nice and helpful video. I am going through a lot because the guy I've been dating almost 3 years has recently become very verbally abusive towards me, saying I make him angry, calling me names and saying very hurtful things. I developed a lot of depression and anxiety and struggling to be okay every day. We are not talking at the moment, but it's hard because he used to be nicer and we have a lot of good memories and loved each other.....but he is not apologizing anymore or seeing this behavior as wrong.😞
The fact that being emotionally abused by my mom is the main reason I don't want to have kids, because I'm scared of treating them the same
@alexxw1697
2 жыл бұрын
good parents don't think they're perfect, do-no-wrong parents. they worry and think about if they are raising and helping their children well
@onyxdraven
2 жыл бұрын
one of several reasons I don't want kids
@Phoebe5448
Жыл бұрын
Me too. Also I just know I'd be a bad mum because I'd inadvertently emotionally neglect them. Plus I don't trust relationships with anyone since I don't understand love, always had a weird aversion to sex and I don't want to be like my parents. The thought of getting pregnant terrifies me and biologically it grosses me out. Plus I've never experienced love or felt close to anyone so I'd be a neglectful partner.
@syretaboothe4543
Жыл бұрын
Same
@mrinmoyeebanerjee2007
Жыл бұрын
Same like me too..😔😪
1. It takes a long time to recover from 2. Most people don't understand what you've been through 3. It gives you a negative outlook in life 4. It gives you a negative view of yourself 5. It has long-term psychological effects 6. Emotional trauma can also have physical effects 7. It puts you at risk for mental illness 8. It puts you at risk in becoming the abuser yourself
@simoneroyston9306
3 жыл бұрын
空白 every single point has effected me. Sadly I was always under the radar, so no one noticed and now when I try and tell my experiences to people, no one believes me.
@Kana-tq2jz
3 жыл бұрын
@@simoneroyston9306 I'm sorry to hear that.. I would give you hugs if I could.
@user-el5kq1je4s
3 жыл бұрын
@@simoneroyston9306 for me it's the same. But we have to make it through. For ourselves and no one else, because in the end we're all alone. I hope you'll get better, and just know that I understand you and I'm in the same situation with a lot of mental health problems. In the country where I live there's a stigma on mental health and all this stuff, like it's all bullshit and you're weak, but then a lot of people kill themselves and no one cares. Send you virtual hugs from Russia!
@emuriddle9364
3 жыл бұрын
#2 and #6 especially. When other people haven't gone through that: It's easy for them to dismiss it. Which hurts your sense of trust in others. Got to the point where I would get sudden Heart Palpitations, whenever I was scared of something. Turns out I had 3 diagnosis: 1. Anxiety 2. PTSD 3. Uncontrolled panic I walked away from the world. And in a way: My condition improved.
@user-el5kq1je4s
3 жыл бұрын
@@emuriddle9364 I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Just know that you're not alone fighting with your demons. Much love to you!
I haven't been able to stop crying after the end of this video. Because it shows, how many years I endured this pain. Thinking that there was something wrong with me. When in reality, it's my father who's been making me feel this way. I never been abused physically (unless you count whoopins as one, usually get it for behavioral problems like lying, stealing, or getting an attitude) it's hard to ever talk to my mom about this though, because she doesn't think he's a bad person. I don't think he is either. It's just the way he raised me. He made me think that the world is never going to care about you. And I felt that way for a very long time. I've even started to harm myself because I was so miserable with my life. But my mom talked me out of self harm and I thank and love her everyday for that. Despite not knowing much about mental health because in her generation there was no such thing. Which is sad really. I just want my dad to realize that emotions play a big role apart of our lives. I can't function. I'm now going to therapy, I just started. But I haven't told the therapist much about how my dad treats me at home. Thinking she'll just think the same way as my mom. I'm so stuck on this mindset but I'm slowly getting help for this. I'm willing to work myself out of this rut, so I can start looking forward to better things in life
I was emotionally abused, not from my family but from people that were my friends, so I basically chose to be around the source of my abuse. I didn’t realize this until later when I started having nightmares and anxiety attacks when my memories would bring up all the times they belittled or humiliated me.
I know that I've probably been emotionally abused but I can't help to doubt..
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
If you feel you have, chances are you probably were. Have you talked to anyone else about this?
@Ruuma11
3 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@vanisharma3216
3 жыл бұрын
why does this comment say "one week ago"
@blakedout
3 жыл бұрын
@@vanisharma3216 Because this video was unlisted in one of Psych2go's playlists and I watched it a week ago
@badgerbadger-badger-Poppy
3 жыл бұрын
If you doubt that you were emotionally abused, you might want to ask some one who knows a little about it. Your abuser can make you doubt that they're abusing you. It's good to talk to some one you trust (though both talking and trusting can be hard) to help you clarify what you've been through. I hope things get better for you.
At a young age, I knew my mother was and still is emotionally abusing me, masking it as "love". Borderline gaslighting.
@theveryplumdarcey
3 жыл бұрын
It is gaslighting
@buyerbware25
3 жыл бұрын
She might think that saying "I love you" means she is not responsible for her actions or accountable for the consequences.
Here because I'm still healing after a year and a half out of an emotionally/severely mentally aggressive relationship. Once he started the physical threats, I dipped. It was easy to leave, but extremely difficult to forget. That's not always the case for all people in abusive relationships though, it's not always easy to leave. When I started thinking to myself, "Wow! He didn't scream 2 inches away from my face today! We're doing so well", that's when I realized something was very wrong and loving relationships aren't aggressive, threatening, demeaning, deliberately manipulating or physically threatening. When I told people, nobody believed me, they still don't. That's the hardest part, it's so painful to this day. I hope everyone here heals.
"Refuse to inherit dysfunction. Learn new ways of living instead of repeating what you lived through" -Thema Davis
@talithaleah6563
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I started in high school, and while I am not perfect, my children benefited from the work I did on myself.
@quatrsalmuttotabreabbitlec2417
3 жыл бұрын
it's easy when you're not hsp
The feeling of loneliness was the most profound for me. It felt like my heart was screaming in mute.
@sally4214
2 жыл бұрын
That’s how I feel today, don’t want to tell anyone because I’m not sure what’s happening to me
@delaney5721
2 жыл бұрын
Accurate
@Fairy412
Жыл бұрын
Very true
@Brandon-vv5jc
Жыл бұрын
@@sally4214 I really hope things have gotten better for you 🙏🏾 Please be there for yourself first. It’s so hard to be your own best friend, your own best love, but once you get through the slow stages of loving yourself respectfully life can start to turn around. 🫶🏾
@PatienceWithAnimals-be6uc
9 ай бұрын
Yes. Kaelan told me I was his everything yet the truth was that I was literally his nothing. Absolutely a covert narcissist and I feel so sorry for anyone who ever falls for him in the future. In retrospect, my other past relationships look like KINGS in comparison now.
It’s really hard living a life full of negativity and hardship. I’m a 15 yr old with ADHD (soon to get meds) and OCD (haven’t been tested yet) and dealing with a dad who has ADHD and OCD (he exerts many of the symptoms and signs of both) is very hard. I’ve always had a hard time fitting in and now looking back it has been due to the way I’ve been constantly criticised and this need for change I’ve come to believe would solve all my problems. To those out there struggling with emotional abuse, I wish you find your way out of it ❤
I was diagnosed with Mixed Anxiety and Depressive Disorder. Thank you for everyone who have emotionally abused me through out the years 🙃
My dad emotionally abuses me and I tried to open up to one of my best friends and she hit me with the “well my dad left me before I was even born”. Like I get it that that’s hard but he’s not there telling you something every single say for the past 11 years I’m 16 but my dad was in prison for 3-4 years. She made me feel worse like I had no right to feel bad about what was going on and made me feel like her problems are above mine.
@mariamendez6741
3 жыл бұрын
Has it stopped? Are you doing ok?
@emmav4579
2 жыл бұрын
I hope you do not see this friend anymore !
@goji5052
2 жыл бұрын
@@emmav4579 you made the mistake of calling that person OP's friend
@nerdygirlsavage2574
2 жыл бұрын
That’s what my husband does to me
@alysononoahu8702
2 жыл бұрын
Talk to more gentle friends, and not all dads are mean
I've heard the saying: Some of us spend our entire adult lives recovering from childhood. True in my case. Thanks for talking about this issue!
@jasminesanchez800
2 жыл бұрын
So sad:(
@shlominaamat4787
2 жыл бұрын
was there a childhood?
@elvenleaf5589
2 жыл бұрын
Teenage years also
#2 is so relatable. I'm amazed that there are so many people in this world who are not willing to show others that their feelings are valid. When others get upset at something that we wouldn't get upset about, it's so easy to downplay their feelings as overdramatic or too sensitive. When in reality, everyone's feelings matter. Regardless of whether it's technically abuse or not, if someone was hurt by someone else, that person has the right to be heard and loved in their pain. It's a basic human need to feel loved and respected by others and it is powerful when we choose to love people in their pain rather than judge them for it. Can I get an amen?
Remember you are never alone GOD is with you! I Know I Respect Myself and feel sorry for others. Please don't think of this as my weakness. It is my strength. I am patient and content.
@kv-2467
2 жыл бұрын
bruh, God is not real. i am so tired like I want to quit and just give up on life y'know? but since that I still want to have a good time, like hell it will happen, I am putting on my last hopes.
I have been emotionally abused by so many now I'm just a big emotionally scarred mess. I cant see myself as worthy or important anymore. Emotional abuse is just as serious as physical abuse.
@AerisSkyla
3 жыл бұрын
*gives you Godly Powers*
@jessi9605
2 жыл бұрын
Same and yes it is 🥺
@jessi9605
2 жыл бұрын
@@AerisSkyla ?
@nopcshere6097
2 жыл бұрын
Amen to this! And it can be even worse than physical abuse, because the invisible wounds from emotional abuse DO NOT heal the way physical injuries do. They stay for a LONG time. I'm a man who was emotionally, verbally and financially abused by my former wife and her mother. By the time I escaped it I was ready to kill myself. Now, 4 years - and a LOT of counseling later - I am with the love of my life and living life again (as opposed to just existing). Know that you ARE worth something. You can have a better life. You sure deserve one. I know because I was there.
@mariahmartinez1962
2 жыл бұрын
More important idgaf honestly
"You're more likely to become an abuser yourself" Guess i'm not gonna keep any kind of close relationship then. Never. Ever. Nobody need an abuser in their life if i can spare a few i am willing to make this sacrifice.
@belairmp3130
3 жыл бұрын
Bro I'm a duchbag like the girl that left me two years ago. This year i met the sweetest person in the world which loved me and cared about me and i just ruined her life by controlling her and putting pressure on her. You can't imagine how it makes you feel seeing that you bacame the same shit that destroyed you and seeing that you emotionally destroyed someone so perfect to the point the leave and still feel sad. I hope she grows to be okey but for the record i hate myself. I don't want any relationships if it's to hurt another person that truly loves me
@katierenee5699
3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that both of you can see this in yourselves and know that you don't want to hurt others, but just becoming isolated isn't going to help anyone. If you're really worried about this, try to see a psychiatrist. You've already done the hardest part, admitting you have flaws. If you can admit that, then you can and absolutely should seek help. Because despite any flaws, you deserve to be happy too. Please don't forget that.
@DivingHawker
3 жыл бұрын
I think you overlook one crucial thing : you can change, you can heal your traumas, your wounds. It will take time and effort, but trust me when I say it's worth it as you end up feeling so much better about yourself and about the world. Don't be afraid to reach out for professional help, it can be a literal life changer.
@DivingHawker
3 жыл бұрын
@@katierenee5699 Very wise words!
@mr.unlucky2675
3 жыл бұрын
You don't have to, you just need to train your mind, trust me, I try and it helps, at least a bit xD
'You should be grateful I even kept you.' 'I made you the success you are today. You'd be nothing without me.' 'There are other unluckier kids than you who wish they had me as a parent.' The shittiest part of emotional abuse is that it takes a long time to understand that you do have a right to be angry or hurt over what happened.
I don't even know where to start. Nowadays, I feel like listening to a kind song can even break me down into pieces. All those years of manipulation and gaslighting convince me that I do not deserve any kind of affection,attention. Now, abuse doesn't effect me but the kindness does. Kindness makes me wanna cry.
I have some advice I would like to give for people who only now realize that they are victims of emotional abuse. When you realize what was done to you, you may experience a wave of emotions. Sadness, fear, anger, all of the emotions you downplayed during the abuse will come to you. It may be in small bursts, or it may come in a large wave that is almost too hard to control. The best thing to do is acknowledge these emotions, allow yourself to feel them, cry if you need to. Most importantly, show yourself some compassion. What was done to you was not your fault. It will be hard, but that's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt.
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
art lets my emotions out, I wanna write a book or a some music.
@americafirst1282
3 жыл бұрын
That is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard. Thank you Ghost
@anandibreen2819
2 жыл бұрын
omg thank you so much for stating this, I realized this has been happening to me. I almost starting repressing my emotions again and almost made myself sick. Thank you!
@okay5488
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
@oulani
2 жыл бұрын
I really, really needed that. Thank you!
I have no more tears left to cry
As a survivor of physical and emotional abuse my safety blanket is the empowerment of retraining my brain through these much worth while audios thank you I could never be an agresser or try to take down any one's life by such horrific unstable personalities God bless those of us who just want human equality and to breathe walk in nature and keep a heart beating .
I believe I was emotionally and mentally abused by a close "friend" about 2 years ago. Every time I see them in school, every time they try to talk to me, I just get reminded of what they had done to me. This video helped me realize that I was being emotionally abused by them. Thank you.
youtube knows me WAY to well.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
KZread knows us better than we know ourselves.
@ventimulattolatte9091
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go You have helped me more than my therapist. i don't know if you are going to reply again, but i thank you guys for helping me, and millions of other people.
@brothertn708
3 жыл бұрын
Me too 😿
@rainbowgoddessasmr6071
3 жыл бұрын
you mean the government listens to over what you actually want to watch making you believe its KZread knowing you well nah man we just all being watched lmao
@nealobryan
3 жыл бұрын
FACTS
i just wish my parents would love me the same way they did when i was little again
@siyanigavekar7776
3 жыл бұрын
Same here
@RosyRecluse
3 жыл бұрын
They do, but you just know that what their love was like isn't good anymore
@shrutipriya3176
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@niqmare69
3 жыл бұрын
Same .like the way of loving us changes while we grow which kinda sucks cause then you feel like not important as you used to..
@animefreaknalu4497
3 жыл бұрын
This hit hard because its so true
I miss being a clue less child without problems or having to worry about the way you speak to people
@thebigbrain99
2 жыл бұрын
Why say that?
@cashew785
2 жыл бұрын
@@thebigbrain99 I have to know how to speak without cluelessly insulting them or being rude bcs sometimes I find it hard to read people, now I try my best to be more observant of peoples actions
@thebigbrain99
2 жыл бұрын
@@cashew785 I understand. It's hard to know how people will react.
*“Abuse in any form is never okay”* This made me burst out in tears (Abused in the past)
This video hits me hard.. I've been emotionally abused when I was young and until now I had this strange baggage which ruminates my past. And everytime I think of it, I hate myself and cause me to have sudden anger. I also felt that I was misunderstood by the people around me. The effects of emotional abuse are being agreeable all the time even if you don't like it and there's no room to refuse. Because it feels like you are manipulated and controlled. Another one is being apologetic even if it's not your fault. I am feeling that way. I'm traumatized emotionally because I've been bullied, controlled, and manipulated. Emotional abuse is somewhat hidden than physical abuse.
@user-el5kq1je4s
3 жыл бұрын
Hope you'll get better! It really breaks me to know there's so many broken people. I always thought I was the only one, because I live in the country where no one gives a shit about you, and there's stigma on mental health. But through years, I found so many amazing, but broken people. It's really sad, but we have to make it through. For ourselves! Send you virtual hugs and much love from Russia!
@beaulieuc8910
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for opening up and talking about your experiences. I feel the same, no wonder I prefer animals. People just mess us up. It takes time to realise it is them not us.
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with you, emotional abuse is hidden TO MUCH! When I'm at someone's house, I feel so broken, I literally wanna cry. I've been bullied, and emotionally abused. I feel like I can't own my own self. Sometimes if I try telling my mom how I feel, or tell her why it's wrong that she's doing this to me she says, *YOU SHOULD BE GREATFUL TO HAVE A MOTHER LIKE ME WHO TAKES CARE OF YOU AND FEEDS YOU AND DOES ALL THE LAUNDRY FOR YOU!* me: I'm trying to be, you're not making it very easy. My dad scares me when he yells at me because sometimes I think he's gonna hit me (at least he doesn't I can see it in his eyes).
@loreall.2461
3 жыл бұрын
The more you learn about yourself and from where it comes, you’ll come to understand it’s not your fault. This was so empowering for me on my journey of self discovery. I began to reclaim my identity after years of emotional abuse and depression and have never felt better having a better understanding the causes of emotional abuse. Now I just move forward and remind myself that I am the woman I want to be and no one is going to define me. You can also be that person.
@LeapFrog_Radio
2 жыл бұрын
"Assertiveness Training"
To whoever's reading this: you DESERVE BETTER. Find help, love, support and empathy. Treat yourself well.
@cockatootledo
2 жыл бұрын
I probably do...
@KillerQueenforblood
Жыл бұрын
I hope so
@KillerQueenforblood
Жыл бұрын
Idk, I feel hurted
@xrenegade87xchannel88
Жыл бұрын
Go away
@Killua_Zoldyck3407
Жыл бұрын
Im a worthless piece of shit 💀
As someone who’s been emotionally abused since 10 by narcissistic “mother”, I broke down at the “It was not your fault” part. I’ve had supporting people in my life say that and yet, I don’t believe them. I’ve always believe I am the result of my mother’s unhappiness and she always expresses it, which unfortunately fuels my mentality more. My mom always favored my 1st oldest sister who’s also an narcissist and leaves me in the dust. I tried nearly everything to win her approval like getting A’s but I realized that she never will love nor give me the appreciation I yearn for. In some twisted way, I still love her but hate her at the same time.
@BiRainbow29
Жыл бұрын
I never thought I could relate to anyone. But your story is extremely similar to mine. My older sister is loved by my mother, and whenever she does anything wrong, she never gets punished. But when I stand up for myself, my mom tends to be the victim and shift the blame on me. I have tried pleasing her by staying quiet, doing chores, and going to college, but she's never been proud of me. Ever. She's never told she loved me, never said she was sorry, and I'm done. I really hope you can heal. You seem like an amazing human being. If I can't heal fully, I hope that you can at least do so. Live your life how you wanted.
@Killua_Zoldyck3407
Жыл бұрын
I know what you mean my mom used to be that way with my oldest brother when he was still living with us. I think things started to change when he moved out we got along a little more than usual but my expectations were a lot higher. They praised my brother more than me at the time but when he moved they started dumping all the shit on me as usual and then the next they start praising me and doing nice things that they would never do in the past when he was still around
@HomeFrendsten
Жыл бұрын
Living with toxic people othrs become toxic , and some empathic, or have both charactrs in dysfunctionl familis some are Npd and othrs are ptsd
it's nice to see that in this world there are some people able to understand
when I was little, I thought that people in my family would be the people I would know I could trust, and that they could keep me safe. now, I know that they’re the people that make me feel the most unsafe. now I know it will never be the same again. now I know that I can’t trust anyone again. even if I want to and believe that I can
My first girlfriend used to understiamte my feeligns. She would do nothing to make me feel better. Then she started saying that it wasn't the right moment to talk about my feelings so I postponed it for the following time we'd meet. The last day before I left her, she slapped my face several times to make me shut up, not letting me talk about how I felt. Before that, she even faked being pregnant. The result of this: I didn't eat for days, I barely spoke to my family, I failed exams, I got seriously ill and I thought It was my fault and I wasn't enough. Boys and girls out there, stay away from people like this, I specially say this to those who tend to give a lot in relationships. No matter what they say, pay attention to their actions. Because even "I love you" means nothing when they keep acting like that. Thx for reading and I hope you are doing great ❤️
@Sergio-yv5uo
3 жыл бұрын
@@rebeccadalton7956 thank you! I'm finally going to therapy :) Have a nice day!
@Selsmittenxo
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad that you're away from toxicity like that! Good on you for recognizing it. You deserved better. How you feel better /safer❤️
@herrada8872
2 жыл бұрын
I feel bad for u...i went through similar situation
@elle-vv7bw
2 жыл бұрын
hope you’re doing okay
@Sergio-yv5uo
2 жыл бұрын
@@elle-vv7bw There are ups and downs, but I am better than ever, thank u :)
Emotional abuse is a very serious problem. We should protect ourselves and others from emotional abusers. There are many people who are emotional abusers.
@julieornelas3787
2 жыл бұрын
My dad is a emotional abuser! Mom and I had to leave him! She didn’t want me growing up in that environment but it’s taken a toll on me. I shove away anyone from getting too close to me. That’s why I don’t make friends or relationships. It’s just better to be alone. No one can hurt you and you can’t hurt anyone else.
@palomalopez8179
2 жыл бұрын
Lots
"You don't have a real reason to feel that way" "You've always been so perfect with so many friends" "I bet you just want attention" 1. You don't wanna know 2. Most of them were the ones that emotionally abused me but I'm too scared of judgement from them and my family to break contact 3. I'm literally always that one quiet kid whAT DO YOU MEANNN
I can so relate to all of these because I have lived all my life in a highly dysfunctional and abusive family - both physically and emotionally.
This really helps because I just went through a break up
@deatheater1204
3 жыл бұрын
kodiak yes
@zeevhaskelavshalomstefanus7469
3 жыл бұрын
@@kodiak9079 Yez i think
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
I see! Hope this video helped you in some way and hope you're doing okay! How many of these points did you relate to?
@deatheater1204
3 жыл бұрын
Psych2Go like 4
@DrLizListens
3 жыл бұрын
Sending you all the kindness, strength, and resiliency during this time. You are loved. You are worthy. You are whole. 💗 Dr. Liz
I hope these victims will be ok.
@swearitjustajuice63
3 жыл бұрын
Thx
@angelacavon7305
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you......
@iiCounted2134
3 жыл бұрын
@@babi_gurl life is always hell for me man I just wanna hang myself
@mandylevi2177
3 жыл бұрын
@@iiCounted2134 are you okay?
I grew up hearing “the only person you have to be angry at is yourself” in response to everything, including bullying. Now as an adult my parents dont seem to grasp why i internalize all my anger and harm myself and think its me trying to gain pity.
@lowbudgetadvice95
2 жыл бұрын
When they ask, you could try to throw that phrase at them. Sometimes the best way to make someone realize the pain they cause you is to echo it back at them.
I haven't spoken to my mother in over 2 years because the last contact I had with her was me confronting her about all the abuse and bs she put me through as a child. She straight up denied most of it happening and just kept staring off into space shaking her head saying "no" over and over. So I told her I hated her and left, only to go try and unalive myself in a Walmart parking lot ten minutes later. My husband emailed her and told her what happened and she said absolutely nothing in return. She can rot for all I care.
@weobeyjesus4565
Жыл бұрын
It's not uncommon for parents and offspring to split like that. You gotta do what you gotta do.
Im always in denial of my emotional abuse but i also know it affects how i behave in trying to make friends
@a.cnugget0323
3 жыл бұрын
Im glad i found someone who'se going through the same as i am I really cant take it anymore and nobody will listen
@MalkiaPenelopeN
3 жыл бұрын
@@a.cnugget0323 aaawww we can talk if you want to. Nobody even seems to understand or think its serious. It can be really damaging.
I've been emotionally abused, along with my siblings, for years. We have tried to get help, but nothing ever comes from it. It has destroyed my family. There are so many hurtful things that have been said of me... and I will never forget them. I can forgive, but forgetting is impossible. It hurts. Deeper than any physical wound. I wish more people could understand that instead of just judge us. If other people felt what emotionally abused people felt... they wouldn't be so quick to judge.
@user-el5kq1je4s
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with you. It's been really same for me. I really hope you'll get better my dear friend! Just be yourself and be proud of who you are, because you're not like those people you're better.
@hopesoto4048
3 жыл бұрын
@@user-el5kq1je4s Thank you. I've been needing to hear that. I wish the same for you too.
@katiejo6066
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve struggled with my emotional problems for years. A lot of it was the roots of my sister. I felt like on some days she cared about my feelings and then on others was the total opposite. She’s pretty much bipolar. And she knows it but she’s letting her stubbornness get in the way of the problem itself. In arguments, I’ll never forget this. It was a time at our moms old apartment. Me and my sister was arguing about I don’t even remember what it was. But there is one thing that I’ll never forget...my sister told me “I wish mama and Daddy never even had you.” Those...those words cut me soooo deep. I remember I cried in the room that me and my sister were sharing at the time. At that moment, I felt so fucking worthless. For years I thought to myself if I was dead, everything would be less complicated. I felt like a burden on my family. I can’t even remember how many times I’ve cried myself to sleep. I still do...unfortunately. I’m jus now opening myself up about this shit because I feel secure. I feel like nobody’s going to look at me like I’m stupid. So therefore, I feel...idk what I really feel. But I do see a light at the end of the tunnel. It gives me hope that I’m not alone. Talking about this shit feels as if it’s reopening the wounds for me. It’s not exactly the best feeling to have...that’s probably why I caged myself in for years from childhood to now. I’m talking to my friends about my past. But It’s going to take me years to move forward with my family.
As a victim of emotional abuse myself, Thank you for telling me its not my fault. My uncle was a very very bad man who demanded high amount of respect from me when he didn't deserve any of it for his cruel ways towards me. Right now, I'm slowly healing because I talked about it and my family and friends and myself warned him to stay the hell away from my property and from me for I don't want to see him again. Funny I was gonna forgive him too but it turns out he's denying everything and is saying I'M THE ONE THATS TELLING LIES and I'M THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM and refuses to take accounting for it. THIS IS THE MAN WHO CONSIDERS ME HIS "FAVORITE" BY THE WAY...He only favoured me because I was an easy target that he can hurt whenever he wanted, but no more. I will never allow anyone to hurt me again or show any weakness. All I want to do is move forward, not backwards. I want to be happy. I'm going to art college. I got an apartment, a loving girlfriend and a peoples choice award for my contribution to music and art. So I have it sorted now. Thanks for the love.
If you're reading this. You're taking steps to heal and be a better person. I'm proud of you (and proud of me) for just trying to understand. X
I would say my mother is emotionally abusive, but she's really clueless about what she does
@privatepage4670
3 жыл бұрын
What is her star sign?
@jazmineblankenship5792
3 жыл бұрын
@@privatepage4670 ik it's not a question for me but I wanted to see what u would say if I told u my moms an aries
@Crowswhat
3 жыл бұрын
@@privatepage4670 Why does it matter?
@gimmekromer1151
3 жыл бұрын
@@privatepage4670 uh signs are not a real thing yk
@wwexstans8183
2 жыл бұрын
My mom is the same exact wayyyy. She has no idea how she treats me and my sisters and worse she treats my dad this way too. And she swears up and down that she’s not abusive. She once hit me on my left shoulder(my bad shoulder) and told me “I’m not abusive.” And she said I lied on her…. -_- Me and my mom alone have been going at it for months until I decided to avoid her by working overnight and not seeing her through the day. She told me a few nights ago that we haven’t seen each other in forever…. Yeah it’s because of you🖤🖤 I’ve been avoiding your narcissistic abuse Mom!🖤
Hearing that 'it wasn't your fault' really hit me hard. God, I spent years thinking the problem was me, that because I was weird everyone hated me and I deserved what they said to me. Thank you
@rednblack301
2 жыл бұрын
'know how that feels,
@Unknownuser-mw8td
Жыл бұрын
Omg same!!!
I cant handle how all these videos I have watched thus and so far, i have so much in here inside of me that's screaming for how accurate this lady has been so far. And so I thank you
I still suffer from what was said by them and by what they did, my body tremors and my voice shaking, and I begin the cry when talking about it to this day, it's been 9 years and it's messed me up for life
Growing up, I was physically and emotionally abused. I'm 24 now and still dealing with the consequences.
@Atria636
2 жыл бұрын
29 and still suffering from trauma, anxiety, depression and self loathing. Even moving out didn't help. I've been scared for life. Seriously considering suicide before I hit 30..
@arielm1374
2 жыл бұрын
@Atria hey, I posted this a year ago and I just wanna say don't lose hope 🤍 things have gotten a bit better since I posted this. If it's available to you, please seek out some trauma-informed therapy or someone you can confide in. If therapy is not really your jam, look into what brings you peace and be gentle with yourself. Maybe even look into alternative therapies. I'll be getting the SGB injection in April for PTSD and I'm hoping to get some relief with that. Please hang on, you are not alone, life is truly always surprising me so you never know what could happen and by ending it, you lose the chance to see what could've been. You are worthy. 💗
@Atria636
2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad things got better for you. Unfortunately, therapy or seeking help isn't possible for me. One, I'm male and male mental health is shunned in my country, you're supposed to deal with everything yourself and never complain. And two, I had too many bad experiences with people abusing me for my disability and doctors trying to downplay or disregard my health problems, so I don't trust anyone to ask for help. I've got my long distance boyfriend to talk to and get support and love from at least.
@heather4089
2 жыл бұрын
Is a life healing, I was abused by my ex for 9 years verbally, emotionally, physical. Seven years after I still struggling with it, I can’t ever hear males yelling on the street, I walk away from places if I see a lot of males in there talking loud, is a trigger for me and u start shaking.
Do you remember the kitten we posted dancing to KPOP a few week ago? Well, here's an update of it just licking itself.
@Psych2go
3 жыл бұрын
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@shazzzz
3 жыл бұрын
omg
@satanswife2546
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for trying... to be make us feel better after such heavy video but it's not making me feel uplifted... :|
@seungmongi
3 жыл бұрын
@@Psych2go that just made my day better so sweet
@0Iive
3 жыл бұрын
Lmao 😂 ty
I been the Scapegoat for almost all of my life. They have their moments but the abuse is still there.
Anyone reading this, there is a path to recovery, I’m living proof. I was severely emotionally and psychologically abused in a relationship for a year and a half. There is only one cure. Copious amounts of learning to love yourself. I achieved this through exercise, therapy, meditation, and learning to process my emotions. By no means am I “healed”, but I can at least control those feelings of misery. My heart hurts for anyone that had to endure this hell, but there is a way back. You don’t have to be a victim. You are worth it.
@ljj2779
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I needed this. 💙
@maureenbanks3702
2 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right! Add walking to your great list of recovery ideas! Self care is of utmost importance. I'm 55 years old & 29 years later all my hard work is finally starting to pay off. It took that long to finally see some big rewards for all the self help I've done. I was severely abused as a child. I've spent my whole adult life recovering from it. Had to. I'm a truth seeker. Thank God.
@shrutisingh4316
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t know how to do this at all cuz currently I feel helpless and lonely. I have no control over myself now in those situations and it makes me go crazy. I am weak and a mess now
My parents are emotionally abusive, but I don’t blame them for it. They were raised with it, especially my dads family. So I know they are trying their best. Everyone has more to them then meets the eye. But the scars are with me forever.
@Star77760
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear this. I see really deep what you mean
@palomalopez8179
2 жыл бұрын
I used to think the same about my mother, to justify her, till I realized she has not the PTSD I have, so she has not being abused the way and intensity she did to me. No panic attacks, no need for validation, no ppl pleaser symdrom, no imsomia, no nightmares, no depresión, no social anxity.
this is the best way i have seen this explained. my boyfriend gets so frustrated with the symptoms but he always trys to help sometimes its just hard to let him.
I was with a misogynist on and off for 10 years. Today, I take no sh@@ from no one. Especially in a relationship. I am still sweet, kind, and compassionate. I trust me. And since, I left him I’ve educated myself on such matters. I’m now thriving in a loving, respectful, peaceful relationship.
My emotional abuse started when I was just a small child from my narcissistic mother. I'm 58yo now, and still carry the scars. Its caused me to choose poorly in many aspects of my life, especially relationships. I seem to attract the same type of person that my mother is. So new hurts become piled on to very old ones. Sometimes I can manage alright. Other times I wish the earth would just open up and swallow me whole. I think its finally time for a therapist, as I don't wish to go thru the remaining years of my life feeling this way.
I’m a victim of past emotional abuse, but I very often doubt myself and just brush it off as exaggerating. My main problem with coming to terms with my abuse is the fact that everyone seems to talk about how they’ll never forget the things they were told, but I can’t really remember it at all, just extremely vague ideas. I had the same issue when it came to bullying and why I could never seem to get any help.
The most hurtful thing is when you confront your mother who abused you emotionally and physically can't deny what they did but make you feel like they were the traumatised one.
One example: Treating you badly then when you have the courage to leave, destroying your reputation and telling everyone else that you’re the abuser. Telling also many lies about you. All common friends siding with the person and judging you harshly. You actually believe that you are the abuser and the monster. Very few side with you and mostly family. Believing that, you sabotage your own life. You feel shame, guilt and make wrong decisions. Many years after, when you get the chance (when you are finally mentally ready) to sit and process everything, you realise that you had only been the victim. For a year or so, you feel rage. You want to go back in time to slap the person. But you can’t because it will only reveal your weakness. After a while, you feel peace. In this case, karma exists, although you don’t believe such things. 10 years and you find out the abuser’s life is a mess, and all those who sided with them, now are gone. Surprisingly, they try to get in touch with you. Not surprisingly, you block them straight away. It all starts at home. Spoil your children to the extent that all their reservoirs are full and they won’t fall in a narcissistic’s trap, confusing manipulation and fake attention with love.
My mom constantly yells at me about any and every little thing I don’t/do wrong. Especially in public when there are large crowds of people. It makes me cry but I don’t feel comfortable letting strangers see me upset so I sit there and take it.
@shenko-612
2 жыл бұрын
Same and it makes me cry easily and makes me triggered...
We all have experienced trauma at one point or another. Let's be kind to each other. You never know who's struggling. 💗 Dr. Liz
@HHHH-kb8je
3 жыл бұрын
I want to learn English, if you can help me, I will be happy
@HHHH-kb8je
3 жыл бұрын
If you know English well, can you help me? ، I want to learn English
@Lily-zu1ln
3 жыл бұрын
You should get the Duolingo app. It can help you start learning more English.
@HHHH-kb8je
3 жыл бұрын
I have an app, I want to communicate with someone who is fluent in English, so that I can practice well
@HHHH-kb8je
3 жыл бұрын
@ぐ〈ツ ベーー ー ー ー ー I am from Algeria, I am learning English for about a month now, I love cats, and I hate negative people in society 😓, I love a lot of progress and challenge, the biggest crime committed by a person is not feeling a person’s gender and what he is going through